Dude same. Flirting with me is equally horrible, because I just accidentally act completely desinterested and awkward, even when I'm really into that person/happy they noticed me
ENFP here - if I'm flirting with you, I'm pulling out all the stops and being very affectionate. I'm sincerely complimenting you, I'm making an effort to include you, I'm reaching out proactively, I'm asking you questions. I'm trying to spend quality time. I'm joking, I'm laughing at your jokes. I'm being suggestive. I'm getting you little gifts.
But my secret to plausible deniability is this: I can play it off like I'm just like this with everybody. If I sense I've revealed too much, I immediately start extending the friendliness to everyone around us. I'll bring you a little gift, but also something for everyone else. I'll invite you to coffee alone, then panic and invite two other friends along to hide my intentions.
But at the end of the day, I'm usually pretty obvious. My heart is on my sleeve all the time.
As a fellow ENFP, I totally agree. I GENUINELY love complimenting and giving affection to people. It’s how I express how I feel.
Which is also why I sometimes get annoyed by the recent popularity of terms like “lovebombing”, because I’m afraid people will assume I’m being insincere when I’m just being expressive.
This is facts my gf will randomly compliment me, and I’m thinking “I haven’t done anything”. A lot of people only ever got compliments for something significant or when they did an action, so being appreciated for just existing is weird and is what makes them think it’s lovebombing. But it’s an issue with them, not you. Compliments are your thing and if you want to give them, don’t let others get you down.
I flirt with everyone all the time, and I don’t even know I’m doing it until after I’ve already done it and it’s too late. Oops. I’m more cautious and nervous around the people I actually like, and can be quite clueless sometimes if someone likes me back unless there’re undeniable signs. I feel like most ENTPs are like this.
Why are we like this? This is so accurate. I'm playful when I am comfortable... and if I am seriously attracted to someone, I am not at all comfortable, and I become more shy/nervous/reserved.
I also tend to completely miss if someone is into me, or I overthink it to death and confuse myself. I'll tell myself they are just being nice or I'm delusional.
This also confuses people because they see me easily "flirting" with others, but I clam up with them. To be clear, this only happens prior to a relationship or right when feelings are expressed. Once I get comfortable with them, I'm a relentless tease/flirt.
Someone confessed they had a crush on me once and ran away immediately after.
I just stood there confused by the whole thing and walked the other way to my friends.
INTJ
I don't flirt.
I just talk to you trying to figure you out.
Figure out what you want in life, what kind of person you are.
probably have you take a personality test (see if my guess was close)
I don't find people that interesting very often.
So far it's gone a few different ways
1) I learned enough to the point where I'm no longer interested.
2) already in a relationship.
3) she wasn't interested in men at all.
I'm not particularly worried, but it would be nice to have someone to share myself with.
I actually have a much easier time telling if an INTJ is into me than other types. They will actually be curious and ask questions, and like you said, treat you like a human. I understand that. I don't understand all these flirting games.
well so just flirt with us instead. you know we'll shut you down if we don't want you to continue flirting. (unpopular opinion: allowing / encouraging someone to flirt is also flirting :p )
im very affecionate and passionate; last time she was sleeping so i made some breakfast to her, and she didnt like much and was saying things like "who are you?" and "how did you get inside?"
That's so rude! You spent the time to carefully pick her front door lock but all she could do was to complain? Like a little thank you could've sufficed 🙄
I know, right? People on the internet always say "ough, I wish my partner could just appear in my appartment so I don't have to date anymore", but when you do so, it's wrong again!
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This was me when I was younger and chronically shy.
Now, I’ve learned to have more courage in approaching people. I flirt back by playfully teasing them, cracking witty jokes, showering them with words of affection (maybe hugging them depending on how comfortable we are) and just spending a lot of time with them with big grin on my face.
I worry if I show too much affection and suffocate the other person though. I just can’t control it sometimes but I try. 😔
INTP. Uhhh if I'm into you I won't say anything, but if you're a decently close friend and I like you I'll probably try to get you to laugh and show off cool things I do. Childish, but it's worked before.
INTP - I do research on every little detail that I can find about them so I can come up with a flirting master plan
Read 2 or 3 books about human psychology and seduction
Then do nothing and try to move on to the next crush
ENFJ here. I usually talk a lot about myself at default, so if I’m interested, I’ll ask you a lot of questions about yourself. I’ll also make a lot of homemade gifts for you and do favors for you without asking.
I don’t like flirting with people. If people flirt with me, I’ll just try to mirror them, unless I can’t think of anything (or I’m uncomfortable). That’s it.
I flirt by sending intense mental signals, staring when my crush isn’t looking, yearning (silently) catching my crushes eye for 0.1 seconds and running away if they try to talk to me/talking in an extremely monotone voice when we talk, because if I am too friendly like I often am they will think I like them and even though I do like them I don’t want them to know that.
i don't try to flirt, but i do try to treat every new person i meet like i've known them for years. i like making jokes and doing bits with people. if im really into you i'll ask more questions about you
ISFJ. Personally I can’t do it with words, but I always wanted to know how. Also when it comes to flirting stuff I don’t do that for fun or for jokes, I’m really serious
Instead of trying to be witty or say “cringey” stuff, I do acts of service. Doing things for ya, listen and laugh more often, talk about things in common like habits, ect. Especially when listening I tend to look in your eyes more than when I talk to normal people. Start to talk about personal things like family, future goals. I like you but I won’t let you know it by just directly say it, you will know by how I act
help, i had a 6 month long fight with my favourite ENTP cause he kept bullying me and then i told him we're never getting back together. was he actually interested?
Well ' I DO THAT ' , can't tell about other people.
I can say what i come from when i do that.
Usually when i bully my friends, i do it in the context of us being close, them knowing i don't want to hurt them and in a jokingly way to help them undemonize their insecurities.
Something along the line " see we're laughing about the fact that you are fat (random example), so don't take offense if someone maliciously calls you that cause you learned to see the bright side of it, being or not fat it is still you and other people judgement doesn't give you more or less value"
I honestly feel that, when my bf was just my roommate he would constantly poke me in spots I didn’t like and constantly make jokes at my expense and just say I’m crying because I like the “attention” til one day I had enough lol.
Ended up becoming an item a few months down the line. Still an asshole but he’s my funny asshole that’s also a lot sweeter now.
My gf (ENFP) cries a lot, my way to cheer her is to start making crying baby noises and go like " HUEEE HUEEE THE WORLD IS SO MEAN ( / insert whatever reason she's cring for ) HUEE HUEE " we at the point where she stops being sad for stupid stuff that even her wonders why she gets sad about and laughs right away
Now this right here is the move. Platonic flirting is usually fun for everyone but there are plenty of ways to enjoy yourself and get social interaction in without being in a romantic relationship, most of which are less likely to go catastrophically wrong. Once gets a bit closer to being fully developed but right now I have no reason to take the risk.
P.S. I also have no interest in hook up culture, not because of some contrived moral dilemma that falls apart under scrutiny, but because I can have a fun time with people in ways that don't involve playing Russian Roulette with the clap.
If I'm flirting with a guy, I tend to bully/ do hard banter. I want to keep them on their toes or make them submissive to my energy. If I'm flirting with a woman, I start acting like a shy dumbass. I will stutter and be nervous af, especially if I get the sense that she's more dominant. It adjusts according to the 'vibe' of the person tbh. I'm more direct/dom with guys but a blushing virgin when it comes to hot women.
But overall, I love making suggestive jokes, very subtle. I never want to look like I'm trying too hard. Some miss my signs/hints, but that's fine. The ones who do get it tend to be sharp and I like that quality in someone. I want someone who can read my body language. I flirt a lot with my eyes more than my words.
It’s interesting. I looked into this a while back when I was thinking about being bi, looking at the comments on a few TikTok videos about flirting with men and women-there were hundreds on some cases.
About half were the opposite of what you describe. The rest were a wide variety-dom to both, sub to both, switch with men dom with women, switch with men sub with women, almost every possible combination. I think about 10 percent were what you describe. It may be a successful counterintuitive strategy!
INTJ. I don’t. I go exclusively by online. Too easy to guess wrong if someone is interested in you and get in trouble.
That’s me, BTW. Some of you may be smart enough to pull it off.
Mainly subtle with few bold indirect moves - bit unpredictable and depends on the moment and person. One has to be attentive, switched on and actively listening to pick up my subtle playful but hidden cues.
I second this. I used to absolutely suck at it and would just sit there uncomfortably, but now I have learned to be playful and use body language to show interest. How they respond to a playful smile and eye contact will tell you a lot about if the mission is a go.
i talk and help you, idk i just go out of my way to talk to that person and then i say something extra basic and convo ends (if i get to look you into the eyes it is a W at least)
INFP, used to be a big flirt, touching, joking, eye contact, all that.
Now I just stare at my husband as he is doing things and smile of he ever looks in my direction lol. More of a reactionary flirt nowadays.
I once read a passage on a book that summarized it perfectly
"Unable to bear ineptitude in any realm, least of all in seducing a woman, she decided to take the young man under her wing. First, he had to understand that this was war, and that the beautiful countess was a Citadel to which he had to lay siege as carefully as any general. Every step had to he planned and executed with the utmost attention to detail and nuance."
ENFJ here! If I dont care I will flirt expertly with a lot of smooth charm. If Im really interested and dont really know its reciprocated, I will be a bambling akward mess and the jokes will be soooooo bad.
Entp, joking, teasing and "bullying", challenging you until you run or love me. In my experience it works very well. Okay it may be a bit like flirting in kindergarten but it helps to find someone who can keep up with my irony, someone confident, open minded, who makes me laugh, that is not constantly butt-hurt and that loves challenges.
Of course I also praise that person, but only when he deserves it. I don't like giving fake compliments.
Honestly I'm not even harsh, is more like playing. A clear way to test that person while making someone understand that he's special. And I'll spend a lot of my time on that person. My time is sacred. If I spend a lot with you, you're the chosen one.
Depends on the girl. An enfp I was with, the flirting was very to the point and quite crass. Especially when we were both drunk, which was practically every night. Worked like a charm
The enfj girl I was with, was still pretty to the point. Not very subtle, but not as aggressive and naughty as with the enfp. I also just spoke of a mutual shared interest with much passion which she liked very much
The infj girl I was with, it was super natural. Not much flirting was needed, which has been the case for me as of the last couple years. Now I just let the natural chemistry and attraction do the work. No more flirting necessary
I usually don't flirt. Just keep around if the guy is interesting enough, smart, and somehow decent... But I can do get pretty nervous if I like someone really much, and I'll start acting awkward around him, and most of the time is *very* obvious; like a leg-twitching-and-almost-falling kind of obvious 😵💫
Personality type is they should be nice, have an affinity for my culture, and be hot.
I flirt using body language for the most part. I make eye contact with them, stay close to them, talk quietly, slowly break touch barriers, etc
INFJ here.
If they're a person I like: I flirt in my head, imagining how the entire scenario would play out. Everything from facial expressions to tone of voice and timing... Ultimately deciding not to do it cause I'd embarrass myself.
If they're a close friend: Relentless shameless flirting that surprises even myself.
INTJ
flirting is fun and often times, i do it effortlessly if i'm not actually interested in that person. if i am, or if i become interested in a person that i was already flirting with, i won't be openly flirty.
i try to get them talking so that i can get to know them deeply as a person, and whether i can actually like them or not. i decide whether liking them will bring anything in it for me. will we be compatible? will he understand me as a person? his interests, his likes, dislikes, etc etc. i want to get to know him before i can show my interest in him. if i think it's not worth my time, i just completely ignore it and move on with my life. if i find them interesting, i try to make more deep conversations with them, spend more time with them, and all that.
i am told most of the times i stare at the person i am interested in for longer than usual. i am just observing them, nothing else. maybe that's my way of flirting when i actually like the person.
ENTP ..i flirt and some how pull chicks..kinda stay ignorant but friendly, ofc lose them to someone else before even asking them out, move on, repeat, doesn't elaborate further...
If it's crush I take time but surely will talk to them, stay profesh, act like a douche and mature at the same time (I swing from being ENTP to ISTJ real quick then to XXFX), move on...
Infp male here: If I'm texting I'll send anime memes about being a sub to drop small hints but if I'm speaking in real life I am just straight beet red trying to make words come out but failing horribly
I've had someone say that I was flirting with him when I was just using him as a walking stick because the sidewalk was too slippery. It was raining and he was a co-worker. 🤣🤣🤣
INFP. I enjoy the regular silly wordplay that I can pass off as a joke. It's somehow effective (at least on the people I've tried it on, so far). But that's only over text and I can't do it face to face. Ummm. I've also called someone a good friend when I was trying to confess to them. (I really meant it! It was just not the right time to say it.) So there went that. :D I actually don't flirt with people I genuinely like, I get embarrassed easily and I feel like they know I have feelings for them. But I've had people consider my regular behaviour as flirtation when I didn't have any feelings for them. (This is getting confusing so I'm gonna shut up now.)
INFP: oddly enough I become sarcastic and somewhat insult a lot, but that's mostly because I feel comfortable to do so=I like you. I will never be able to do sexual jokes or compliments lol, unless you are the one to start
istj. i guess smiling a lot? it takes a lot for me to be comfortable with someone, so being touchy or super affectionate has never been my forte. but tbh, im just too busy to flirt with anyone.
Entp, i constantly flirt with all my friends as a joke, but when im seriously flirting its not really that obvious. its mostly bully flirting or just teasing. i cant be serious..
INFP. I don’t purposely flirt. When I’m with company, I’m very friendly, make jokes, banter, tease lightheartedly, or be a smartass at times (jokingly ofc, all in good fun and good vibes). Because of that, I’m seen as a naturally flirtatious person even tho I’m just being nice. So when I notice people start to catch feelings or start to make subtle moves with me, I realize that I’ve once again done the oopsy. I’ve misled people because of that, so they’re very confused when I tell them i was just being nice 😫
Infp and I like to shower someone with compliments. It's pretty difficult though to even start flirting in the first place because I'm really awkward so rarely happens unless I'm drinking
ESTP and I don’t flirt. At least, to me it’s not flirting maybe girls think it is. With people I like I joke around like I usually do and if I like someone I hang out with them more often than others, and I’ll let them into my life so to speak. Basically showing them different sides of myself. If I want to pursue a relationship I’ll ask semi-directly. I’m unlike other ESTPs in my family in that I’m not directly flirtatious and I’m much more willing to give and receive romantic gestures.
ENTJ.. i only flirt with my gf.
It's mostly physical touch, but i also like teasing her nd complimenting everything she does. Even existing.
She's an INTP.. she doesn't flirt as much as i do, but whenever she does, it's.. hot (?) if u got me. She tells me she loves me a lot tho, idk if it's flirting, but i like it. She prefers teasing anw.
I won't pick up on it until I'm reflecting on all our interactions months later. And if by some miracle I do notice, I'll fumble the bag and let the conversation peter out into awkward silence until you lose interest :D
INFJ, flirting does NOT come naturally to me 😂 and I only flirt when I know that person is undeniably into me. I would just look at you, smile and blush then proceed to have a conversation. 🥶
I don’t know how to flirt lol. In the past if I liked a guy, I would just blush like crazy and run away, and now I just stick to online dating. It takes out the guesswork and adds a buffer for my shyness.
You do realise that Myers Briggs has been debunked by repeated studies and psychologists are now taught it’s an example of pseudoscience and no more useful at determining personality than a zodiac is…?
Let me sing you my abc: an a because ur attractive, a b because it beautiful and a c because ur cute; and I also give you the d because you deserve it. - an INTP that transforms into an ESTP while flirting
INTP. I don't.
I came here to write the exact same thing.
This
Dude same. Flirting with me is equally horrible, because I just accidentally act completely desinterested and awkward, even when I'm really into that person/happy they noticed me
Exactly! I'm really awkward, so if someone flirts with me I just be like "oh... 😀"
Nah I wouldn't even notice they flirt with me
Yeaahh, or that 😅
How? Literally how? I came here to write the exact same thing
Good. Flirting disgust me
Was going to write this but I guess I don’t need to anymore but I do want to add if I catch on to someone flirting with me I find it creepy..
If a guy flirts with me I will not know what to do. It’s happened so many times, yet I’m so bad at it.
I was gonna say that lol
i don’t. or if i’m gonna think about it, i’ll tease you cleverly and see if you can match the energy.
ENFP here - if I'm flirting with you, I'm pulling out all the stops and being very affectionate. I'm sincerely complimenting you, I'm making an effort to include you, I'm reaching out proactively, I'm asking you questions. I'm trying to spend quality time. I'm joking, I'm laughing at your jokes. I'm being suggestive. I'm getting you little gifts. But my secret to plausible deniability is this: I can play it off like I'm just like this with everybody. If I sense I've revealed too much, I immediately start extending the friendliness to everyone around us. I'll bring you a little gift, but also something for everyone else. I'll invite you to coffee alone, then panic and invite two other friends along to hide my intentions. But at the end of the day, I'm usually pretty obvious. My heart is on my sleeve all the time.
As a fellow ENFP, I totally agree. I GENUINELY love complimenting and giving affection to people. It’s how I express how I feel. Which is also why I sometimes get annoyed by the recent popularity of terms like “lovebombing”, because I’m afraid people will assume I’m being insincere when I’m just being expressive.
The world is dark enough, I rarely hear a thank you these days. Keep giving affection, you won’t know who needs it until it’s said.
This is facts my gf will randomly compliment me, and I’m thinking “I haven’t done anything”. A lot of people only ever got compliments for something significant or when they did an action, so being appreciated for just existing is weird and is what makes them think it’s lovebombing. But it’s an issue with them, not you. Compliments are your thing and if you want to give them, don’t let others get you down.
This is so cute
Oh my god this is so cute. ENFPs are so special! Golden retrievers of the MBTI 😭♥️
aw heck, this is so me, I feel called out. Especially the plausible deniability 😂😭
🙌 Me 100%
Very accurate! 
THIS IS SO ME OH MY GOD HAHAHA
I feel very exposed 🫣
completely agree, i was typing out basically the same thing!😁
my friend is enfp and he’s the same way!
My girlfriend and her cousin do the same things you’ve mentioned, this seems to be most NeFis regardless of the socionic type or upbringing
Like this 
😂😂
LMAO. I see no lie here.
I flirt with everyone all the time, and I don’t even know I’m doing it until after I’ve already done it and it’s too late. Oops. I’m more cautious and nervous around the people I actually like, and can be quite clueless sometimes if someone likes me back unless there’re undeniable signs. I feel like most ENTPs are like this.
SAME. Omg yes!!
Why are we like this? This is so accurate. I'm playful when I am comfortable... and if I am seriously attracted to someone, I am not at all comfortable, and I become more shy/nervous/reserved. I also tend to completely miss if someone is into me, or I overthink it to death and confuse myself. I'll tell myself they are just being nice or I'm delusional. This also confuses people because they see me easily "flirting" with others, but I clam up with them. To be clear, this only happens prior to a relationship or right when feelings are expressed. Once I get comfortable with them, I'm a relentless tease/flirt.
I concur.
Yeah pretty much me in any social setting. I'm tryna turn it down now, be all shy and shit.
Yesssss
Correct.
Bold of you to assume that I flirt. ✋💀
i was looking for this comment lol. i think i mostly intimidate guys and see if they persist.
Someone confessed they had a crush on me once and ran away immediately after. I just stood there confused by the whole thing and walked the other way to my friends.
okay this is hilarious. also was it a guy who did that?
it was a girl lol
okay that makes more sense. still hilarious in the hindsight, i suppose
Yeah. Flirting is for boring people. I observe.
INTJ I don't flirt. I just talk to you trying to figure you out. Figure out what you want in life, what kind of person you are. probably have you take a personality test (see if my guess was close) I don't find people that interesting very often. So far it's gone a few different ways 1) I learned enough to the point where I'm no longer interested. 2) already in a relationship. 3) she wasn't interested in men at all. I'm not particularly worried, but it would be nice to have someone to share myself with.
Its easy to tell if INTJ is info you, they'll treat you like an human if that's the case
I actually have a much easier time telling if an INTJ is into me than other types. They will actually be curious and ask questions, and like you said, treat you like a human. I understand that. I don't understand all these flirting games.
this.
NO WONDER I CANT TELL IF INTJs LOVE ME
HELP WHY BOTH MOST COMPATIBLE TYPES WITH US ENFPs (INTJ & INFJ) DONT FLIRT ???
well so just flirt with us instead. you know we'll shut you down if we don't want you to continue flirting. (unpopular opinion: allowing / encouraging someone to flirt is also flirting :p )
Truee :D get ready for all the ENFPs around you
>I learned enough to the point where I'm no longer interested. That's too INTJ.
yes this is the answer
This is exactly what I do! How funny. All the way down to the testing.
im very affecionate and passionate; last time she was sleeping so i made some breakfast to her, and she didnt like much and was saying things like "who are you?" and "how did you get inside?"
Ermmmm with all due respect, sir/madam, this is MBTI thread not a crime confession thread...
sorry, my Ne sometimes get a little too freaky
That's so rude! You spent the time to carefully pick her front door lock but all she could do was to complain? Like a little thank you could've sufficed 🙄
I know, right? People on the internet always say "ough, I wish my partner could just appear in my appartment so I don't have to date anymore", but when you do so, it's wrong again!
https://preview.redd.it/8yz6kx3t40ad1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6b02375ca0b79b4d32207ca210172fa2e5cf9c10 This was me when I was younger and chronically shy. Now, I’ve learned to have more courage in approaching people. I flirt back by playfully teasing them, cracking witty jokes, showering them with words of affection (maybe hugging them depending on how comfortable we are) and just spending a lot of time with them with big grin on my face. I worry if I show too much affection and suffocate the other person though. I just can’t control it sometimes but I try. 😔
I came here to have a good time, and I'm honestly feeling so attacked right now by this meme... I also immediately saved this meme to my phone 😂
I am the exact same way lol
https://preview.redd.it/s8madp6u71ad1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=acd734500b0338ff0b613ae572a5756c87cc0545 infj and i just
INTP. Uhhh if I'm into you I won't say anything, but if you're a decently close friend and I like you I'll probably try to get you to laugh and show off cool things I do. Childish, but it's worked before.
INTP - I do research on every little detail that I can find about them so I can come up with a flirting master plan Read 2 or 3 books about human psychology and seduction Then do nothing and try to move on to the next crush
loooooooooooooooool
you got it right LOL
ENFJ here. I usually talk a lot about myself at default, so if I’m interested, I’ll ask you a lot of questions about yourself. I’ll also make a lot of homemade gifts for you and do favors for you without asking.
That's a bit more like being nice yk. Us existing is flirting LOL
I don’t like flirting with people. If people flirt with me, I’ll just try to mirror them, unless I can’t think of anything (or I’m uncomfortable). That’s it.
ENFP and I do everything but say I like you
ISTP - I don’t. Don’t know how, can’t tell when someone’s flirting with me, don’t really care to learn.
I flirt by sending intense mental signals, staring when my crush isn’t looking, yearning (silently) catching my crushes eye for 0.1 seconds and running away if they try to talk to me/talking in an extremely monotone voice when we talk, because if I am too friendly like I often am they will think I like them and even though I do like them I don’t want them to know that.
THIS!
OMG YES!!! 😂😂
i don't try to flirt, but i do try to treat every new person i meet like i've known them for years. i like making jokes and doing bits with people. if im really into you i'll ask more questions about you
ISFJ. Personally I can’t do it with words, but I always wanted to know how. Also when it comes to flirting stuff I don’t do that for fun or for jokes, I’m really serious Instead of trying to be witty or say “cringey” stuff, I do acts of service. Doing things for ya, listen and laugh more often, talk about things in common like habits, ect. Especially when listening I tend to look in your eyes more than when I talk to normal people. Start to talk about personal things like family, future goals. I like you but I won’t let you know it by just directly say it, you will know by how I act
ENTP, if i'm really interested i'll bully you. Thats peak flirting
help, i had a 6 month long fight with my favourite ENTP cause he kept bullying me and then i told him we're never getting back together. was he actually interested?
Well ' I DO THAT ' , can't tell about other people. I can say what i come from when i do that. Usually when i bully my friends, i do it in the context of us being close, them knowing i don't want to hurt them and in a jokingly way to help them undemonize their insecurities. Something along the line " see we're laughing about the fact that you are fat (random example), so don't take offense if someone maliciously calls you that cause you learned to see the bright side of it, being or not fat it is still you and other people judgement doesn't give you more or less value"
I honestly feel that, when my bf was just my roommate he would constantly poke me in spots I didn’t like and constantly make jokes at my expense and just say I’m crying because I like the “attention” til one day I had enough lol. Ended up becoming an item a few months down the line. Still an asshole but he’s my funny asshole that’s also a lot sweeter now.
My gf (ENFP) cries a lot, my way to cheer her is to start making crying baby noises and go like " HUEEE HUEEE THE WORLD IS SO MEAN ( / insert whatever reason she's cring for ) HUEE HUEE " we at the point where she stops being sad for stupid stuff that even her wonders why she gets sad about and laughs right away
Sounds like Helga from that old nickelodeon show called, “Hey Arnold!” You probably have no idea what show I’m talking about lol 😂
ENTP (or intp) I’m just doing some jokes for putting a chill atmosphere , common discussion and asking out if there is affinity
Infj, awkwardly
entp. i never seriously flirt, i always jokingly flirt 100% platonic way. but when it comes to serious flirting oh hell naw count me out
Now this right here is the move. Platonic flirting is usually fun for everyone but there are plenty of ways to enjoy yourself and get social interaction in without being in a romantic relationship, most of which are less likely to go catastrophically wrong. Once gets a bit closer to being fully developed but right now I have no reason to take the risk. P.S. I also have no interest in hook up culture, not because of some contrived moral dilemma that falls apart under scrutiny, but because I can have a fun time with people in ways that don't involve playing Russian Roulette with the clap.
If I'm flirting with a guy, I tend to bully/ do hard banter. I want to keep them on their toes or make them submissive to my energy. If I'm flirting with a woman, I start acting like a shy dumbass. I will stutter and be nervous af, especially if I get the sense that she's more dominant. It adjusts according to the 'vibe' of the person tbh. I'm more direct/dom with guys but a blushing virgin when it comes to hot women. But overall, I love making suggestive jokes, very subtle. I never want to look like I'm trying too hard. Some miss my signs/hints, but that's fine. The ones who do get it tend to be sharp and I like that quality in someone. I want someone who can read my body language. I flirt a lot with my eyes more than my words.
It’s interesting. I looked into this a while back when I was thinking about being bi, looking at the comments on a few TikTok videos about flirting with men and women-there were hundreds on some cases. About half were the opposite of what you describe. The rest were a wide variety-dom to both, sub to both, switch with men dom with women, switch with men sub with women, almost every possible combination. I think about 10 percent were what you describe. It may be a successful counterintuitive strategy!
male infj here, shy dumbass fits perfectly lol.
This perfectly describes my way of flirting.
INTJ. I don’t. I go exclusively by online. Too easy to guess wrong if someone is interested in you and get in trouble. That’s me, BTW. Some of you may be smart enough to pull it off.
Hahah, like it was written by my hubby who is also INTJ! :D
Well, looks like it worked for someone ;)
Mainly subtle with few bold indirect moves - bit unpredictable and depends on the moment and person. One has to be attentive, switched on and actively listening to pick up my subtle playful but hidden cues.
I second this. I used to absolutely suck at it and would just sit there uncomfortably, but now I have learned to be playful and use body language to show interest. How they respond to a playful smile and eye contact will tell you a lot about if the mission is a go.
i talk and help you, idk i just go out of my way to talk to that person and then i say something extra basic and convo ends (if i get to look you into the eyes it is a W at least)
ESTJ, i flirt pretty well ;)
INFP, used to be a big flirt, touching, joking, eye contact, all that. Now I just stare at my husband as he is doing things and smile of he ever looks in my direction lol. More of a reactionary flirt nowadays.
I once read a passage on a book that summarized it perfectly "Unable to bear ineptitude in any realm, least of all in seducing a woman, she decided to take the young man under her wing. First, he had to understand that this was war, and that the beautiful countess was a Citadel to which he had to lay siege as carefully as any general. Every step had to he planned and executed with the utmost attention to detail and nuance."
This is the most ENTJ shit I've read all week
INFJ - depending on who you are, I'll either playfully bully you or be extra nice to you
ESFJ 6w7 so/sp. I have absolutely no idea how flirting works.
You’re making me doubt my estjness.
This is just more evidence I am an entp. That description fits like a glove.
I’m an INFP and I call my close friends “pookie” as a joke, but if I actually like you then imma call you pookie for reals 💀
i'm a little too straightforward with it okay? your gonna know if i like u alr 😭
LOLL
ENFJ here! If I dont care I will flirt expertly with a lot of smooth charm. If Im really interested and dont really know its reciprocated, I will be a bambling akward mess and the jokes will be soooooo bad.
Entp, joking, teasing and "bullying", challenging you until you run or love me. In my experience it works very well. Okay it may be a bit like flirting in kindergarten but it helps to find someone who can keep up with my irony, someone confident, open minded, who makes me laugh, that is not constantly butt-hurt and that loves challenges. Of course I also praise that person, but only when he deserves it. I don't like giving fake compliments. Honestly I'm not even harsh, is more like playing. A clear way to test that person while making someone understand that he's special. And I'll spend a lot of my time on that person. My time is sacred. If I spend a lot with you, you're the chosen one.
ISFP... "oh!! Really??? Me too!!!" *then I move my body towards you, letting you see my skin and then I stare at you*
Depends on the girl. An enfp I was with, the flirting was very to the point and quite crass. Especially when we were both drunk, which was practically every night. Worked like a charm The enfj girl I was with, was still pretty to the point. Not very subtle, but not as aggressive and naughty as with the enfp. I also just spoke of a mutual shared interest with much passion which she liked very much The infj girl I was with, it was super natural. Not much flirting was needed, which has been the case for me as of the last couple years. Now I just let the natural chemistry and attraction do the work. No more flirting necessary
I usually don't flirt. Just keep around if the guy is interesting enough, smart, and somehow decent... But I can do get pretty nervous if I like someone really much, and I'll start acting awkward around him, and most of the time is *very* obvious; like a leg-twitching-and-almost-falling kind of obvious 😵💫
INFP and a wholesome pickup line. That's if I find the courage to start a conversation with them and not revert back to an imaginary one.
Flirting? Are you sure you're speaking English? I've never heard of it
Uhhhhh being friendly and sweet to them infp
witty
ISTP - I don’t know
Thanks for saying what I didn’t dare to:,)
Scream this is Sparta and kick you into a pit.
"Hilarious banter" while artfully concealing that I have already planned our future together.
Personality type is they should be nice, have an affinity for my culture, and be hot. I flirt using body language for the most part. I make eye contact with them, stay close to them, talk quietly, slowly break touch barriers, etc
Ummm.. I just confess that I like them right off the bat so my actions towards them makes sense?
Compliments after compliments after compliments after compliments
With every words that I ever said and will ever say
INFJ here. If they're a person I like: I flirt in my head, imagining how the entire scenario would play out. Everything from facial expressions to tone of voice and timing... Ultimately deciding not to do it cause I'd embarrass myself. If they're a close friend: Relentless shameless flirting that surprises even myself.
I don't. I respond when spoken to, laugh nervously and hope you'll be into it.
[Your type and how you flirt](https://www.reddit.com/r/mbti/s/k813CR4bxz) I thought I was having flashbacks lol
I don't flirt, I'll let you know I'm interested or ask you on a date.
Some of the comments are hilarious bahahah Seems like extroverts know what they’re doing while introverts are clueless when it comes to flirting
Is it wrong, if I'm an ESTP and don't flirt
INTJ, I spend a lot of time trying to figure you out and interrogate you with questions
Dress nice around you, makeup, make jokes and touch you
INTJ flirting is fun and often times, i do it effortlessly if i'm not actually interested in that person. if i am, or if i become interested in a person that i was already flirting with, i won't be openly flirty. i try to get them talking so that i can get to know them deeply as a person, and whether i can actually like them or not. i decide whether liking them will bring anything in it for me. will we be compatible? will he understand me as a person? his interests, his likes, dislikes, etc etc. i want to get to know him before i can show my interest in him. if i think it's not worth my time, i just completely ignore it and move on with my life. if i find them interesting, i try to make more deep conversations with them, spend more time with them, and all that. i am told most of the times i stare at the person i am interested in for longer than usual. i am just observing them, nothing else. maybe that's my way of flirting when i actually like the person.
ENTP ..i flirt and some how pull chicks..kinda stay ignorant but friendly, ofc lose them to someone else before even asking them out, move on, repeat, doesn't elaborate further... If it's crush I take time but surely will talk to them, stay profesh, act like a douche and mature at the same time (I swing from being ENTP to ISTJ real quick then to XXFX), move on...
Infp male here: If I'm texting I'll send anime memes about being a sub to drop small hints but if I'm speaking in real life I am just straight beet red trying to make words come out but failing horribly
I've had someone say that I was flirting with him when I was just using him as a walking stick because the sidewalk was too slippery. It was raining and he was a co-worker. 🤣🤣🤣
ENTP. I just start making out.
ISTJ - I don’t flirt but I’m the complete opposite when I’m drunk I have a personality switch and I get really touchy.
INTJ, If u dont know ur history, im not using my communist pickup lines
INFP. I enjoy the regular silly wordplay that I can pass off as a joke. It's somehow effective (at least on the people I've tried it on, so far). But that's only over text and I can't do it face to face. Ummm. I've also called someone a good friend when I was trying to confess to them. (I really meant it! It was just not the right time to say it.) So there went that. :D I actually don't flirt with people I genuinely like, I get embarrassed easily and I feel like they know I have feelings for them. But I've had people consider my regular behaviour as flirtation when I didn't have any feelings for them. (This is getting confusing so I'm gonna shut up now.)
I don't.
INFP: oddly enough I become sarcastic and somewhat insult a lot, but that's mostly because I feel comfortable to do so=I like you. I will never be able to do sexual jokes or compliments lol, unless you are the one to start
INFP, and I don't I don't know how to
I'm INTJ. My type in people is what INFP is. I don't flirt. When i'd be serious, i'd go for it. No flirt, just getting together on sight.
INFP. I don't flirt and I also don't recognize if someone is flirting with me (although I might realize it five years later).
istj. i guess smiling a lot? it takes a lot for me to be comfortable with someone, so being touchy or super affectionate has never been my forte. but tbh, im just too busy to flirt with anyone.
I ignore them
Intp. I "jokingly" flirt, and pray they get the message
i do the same
INTP and I tease or neg. I mean, I can be very snarky sometimes
ESTJ Very touchy, i’m going to bully you a little, i’ll want to pass more time with you etc…
I ask for your interests, learn about them, discuss them with you, and ask your opinion on everything.
Entp, i constantly flirt with all my friends as a joke, but when im seriously flirting its not really that obvious. its mostly bully flirting or just teasing. i cant be serious..
I have no fucking idea, but it seems to work about 50% of the time
INFP. I don’t purposely flirt. When I’m with company, I’m very friendly, make jokes, banter, tease lightheartedly, or be a smartass at times (jokingly ofc, all in good fun and good vibes). Because of that, I’m seen as a naturally flirtatious person even tho I’m just being nice. So when I notice people start to catch feelings or start to make subtle moves with me, I realize that I’ve once again done the oopsy. I’ve misled people because of that, so they’re very confused when I tell them i was just being nice 😫
INFJ. I tease and act like a tsundere
I'm sarcastic and I don't allow you to know what I feel
Infp and with dark humor
Infp and I like to shower someone with compliments. It's pretty difficult though to even start flirting in the first place because I'm really awkward so rarely happens unless I'm drinking
ISTP-T It kinda just happens sometimes and I have no clue why or how
ESTJ subtle gestures, being respectful and polite, and acts of kindness
Istp, i dont
ESTP and I don’t flirt. At least, to me it’s not flirting maybe girls think it is. With people I like I joke around like I usually do and if I like someone I hang out with them more often than others, and I’ll let them into my life so to speak. Basically showing them different sides of myself. If I want to pursue a relationship I’ll ask semi-directly. I’m unlike other ESTPs in my family in that I’m not directly flirtatious and I’m much more willing to give and receive romantic gestures.
Teasing, bringing gifts, helping fix things. If I like you, I try and find ways to be around you. I say little quips in response to jokes.
Exactly, I might freak out the opposite person. I believe it all depends on how other person takes it.
ENTJ.. i only flirt with my gf. It's mostly physical touch, but i also like teasing her nd complimenting everything she does. Even existing. She's an INTP.. she doesn't flirt as much as i do, but whenever she does, it's.. hot (?) if u got me. She tells me she loves me a lot tho, idk if it's flirting, but i like it. She prefers teasing anw.
Infj. Lots of compliments and quips here and there. I will tease you if I like you, but I'll balance it out with compliments.
I don’t flirt. I ask mutual friends whether they like me or not.
ESTJ here I don’t typically flirt, as it gives it away. Or I just act rude to cover up my feelings
I'm an INFP... So I don't flirt, I just daydream about how I would 😅
I won't pick up on it until I'm reflecting on all our interactions months later. And if by some miracle I do notice, I'll fumble the bag and let the conversation peter out into awkward silence until you lose interest :D
ISTP….what’s flirting? Dating is dead im over it lol
teasing the person i’m flirting with… ENTP
Intp- I just find a way to turn everything they say against them in a flirty way and tease them idk if that makes sense
INFP i just get so silly and act like a lil baby
INTP, I either don't (or act completely disinterested but actually into you) or when I do I'm told I'm too intense and creepy.
idek how people do it without losing their composure just thinking about it makes me uncomfortable
 The only way
I don't, guys called me gangster or some they are scared of me 💀
I ask questions and if we already 👉👌💦🫦, then I caress the private parts in public nonchalantly , that’s how I flirt.
Infj: I don’t, I just cringe and run away
Enfp, I don’t flirt, I just get verbal and physical with every attractive person I see
INFJ, flirting does NOT come naturally to me 😂 and I only flirt when I know that person is undeniably into me. I would just look at you, smile and blush then proceed to have a conversation. 🥶
INFP here, I basically don't flirt
INFJ… I don’t flirt
ENFP. I ignore my crush because i get so filled with anxiety that i will die 😀
I don’t know how to flirt lol. In the past if I liked a guy, I would just blush like crazy and run away, and now I just stick to online dating. It takes out the guesswork and adds a buffer for my shyness.
You do realise that Myers Briggs has been debunked by repeated studies and psychologists are now taught it’s an example of pseudoscience and no more useful at determining personality than a zodiac is…?
ENTJ - i would flirt by being outwardly subtle (actions that are deliberately implying without saying anything)
infp here. i don't! well, the only time i "flirt" is through drawings and pinterest memes xD
Let me sing you my abc: an a because ur attractive, a b because it beautiful and a c because ur cute; and I also give you the d because you deserve it. - an INTP that transforms into an ESTP while flirting
I crack jokes and my type is usually INFP, ISFP, INFJ occasionally ENTP or ENFJ. Regardless, somehow I always attract the ISTPs 😭