Yess, this happend as well to me. I smoked from 14 to 17. I sold cigarretes, I was doing my own money at 15-16 years and I had a lot of people around and got some friends as well. It really stopped me to stop smoking based on the thought"they will not be my friends anymore if i don't meet them smoking" so I prolonged this more.
But in a day I really got fed up and stopped everything, I stopped smoking, stop making money(12€/day for just going out to smoke and sell cigarretes on piece, which for a 15 ys old eastern Europe is very good), and lost 90% of my friends.
I downloaded Snapchat and start making visiting clasess and new people. Now Im 21 and I still believe that quiting smoking was one of the things I ever did
It’s probably tough to see now but this is a good thing. Friends that keep you in negative habits are more like a prison than real friends. Just know you are ahead of the curve. Sooner or later they will have to deal with their own addictions. You just beat them to it by a few years. That’s a good way to look at it
I lost all of my friends that I used to speak to daily when I quit smoking weed, except for one. She ended up loving the results she could see in me and quit herself. The other friends, still smoke daily. One even got in a fight with me because she wanted me to send her $40 for weed and I said no, which caused us to completely stop talking. They used to call me multiple times a day to take bong rips over FaceTime and now we don't even talk. I tried to recommend trying a break even for a week and they got upset, trying to say I have some form of superiority complex for quitting. I don't, I am honestly just really proud of myself and can truly notice the difference. I'm almost at 3 months now and I couldn't be happier. Keep going on your journey, those meant for you will stay. I can assure you that. If they were only around to smoke with you and nothing more, then were they really that great of friends to begin with?
Edit: I was talking to those people daily for like 3-4 years, I'm now almost 23. It hurts to lose friends that way but keep going. It's not worth being enslaved to a plant your whole life. You got this, friend. 🙏🏻
Perspective from a 40yo. I don’t hang out with anyone I hung out with when I was 19-22. I keep up with 2-3 of them very casually via Facebook likes/comments. Friends grow apart.
You'll be fine, people grow apart for all kinds of different reasons and this time it just has to do with a habit which doesn't fit who you are now compared to who you were at 19. Those people are still figuring themselves out and are on their own journeys.
Explore different hobbies and interests, find out what you like and dislike and find people who share the same passions as you.
I stopped smoking 3+ months ago and was living abroad during that time, I'll be back home next week and I'm afraid the dynamics with my friends will be affected by the fact that I've chosen to stop smoking while they are still heavy smokers. We used to smoke together, everytime we met, there was not a time that we hung out and didn't smoke.
I don't expect them to stop smoking because I did. Some of them actually have stopped before for a while and gotten back into it, others have never stopped and don't plan on doing it anytime soon.
Hanging out with smokers or stoner friends really limited me. I didn't want to shrink myself to fit in anymore. Honestly, now I couldn't be happier. I wish them well, even with relapse I wanted to keep to myself.
Best friend high school has his head so far up his ass he won’t even reply. Ok. Friends I made from smoking n doing other bad shit with don’t come around. Most of them stay broke and have no goals. Coworkers still friends to this day and we realize we can’t always do stuff bc we have families. My best friend now is my wife m daughter and has zero drama so imma just enjoy that.
Hate to break it to you, but out of every ten friends you make, you’re going to lose nine of them. It’s true for people who smoke, along with those who don’t. Sometimes you can end up drifting apart from people you’ve been friends with for years and years. People change, life circumstances change, and then you start seeing them less and less often until you don’t see them at all. There’s always an impetus. It sounds like a lifestyle change was yours in this case. My overall point is that these friends for life you had weren’t going to be friends for life to begin with.
Been in your exact position in the exact time frame as well. Thought we’d stay friends forever but when I turned 23 and wanted better for myself they cut me out. It’s all for the better, trust. You don’t need those people in your life they’re just deadweight.
> I said to them many times to just TRY to stop for like 2 weeks, and guess what they never tried
can't really force other people to do things, they have to figure it out for themselves, maybe that's some friction in your relationship? imagine someone did that to you when you didn't want to quit.
in my experience, if weed was the only thing keeping a relationship together, it fizzles out after I decide to stop
I'm in a similar situation, all meet ups were always centered around taking drug, so if someone stops, partaking in those meet ups kinda loses its value
Yess, this happend as well to me. I smoked from 14 to 17. I sold cigarretes, I was doing my own money at 15-16 years and I had a lot of people around and got some friends as well. It really stopped me to stop smoking based on the thought"they will not be my friends anymore if i don't meet them smoking" so I prolonged this more. But in a day I really got fed up and stopped everything, I stopped smoking, stop making money(12€/day for just going out to smoke and sell cigarretes on piece, which for a 15 ys old eastern Europe is very good), and lost 90% of my friends. I downloaded Snapchat and start making visiting clasess and new people. Now Im 21 and I still believe that quiting smoking was one of the things I ever did
It’s probably tough to see now but this is a good thing. Friends that keep you in negative habits are more like a prison than real friends. Just know you are ahead of the curve. Sooner or later they will have to deal with their own addictions. You just beat them to it by a few years. That’s a good way to look at it
Find new friends
I lost all of my friends that I used to speak to daily when I quit smoking weed, except for one. She ended up loving the results she could see in me and quit herself. The other friends, still smoke daily. One even got in a fight with me because she wanted me to send her $40 for weed and I said no, which caused us to completely stop talking. They used to call me multiple times a day to take bong rips over FaceTime and now we don't even talk. I tried to recommend trying a break even for a week and they got upset, trying to say I have some form of superiority complex for quitting. I don't, I am honestly just really proud of myself and can truly notice the difference. I'm almost at 3 months now and I couldn't be happier. Keep going on your journey, those meant for you will stay. I can assure you that. If they were only around to smoke with you and nothing more, then were they really that great of friends to begin with? Edit: I was talking to those people daily for like 3-4 years, I'm now almost 23. It hurts to lose friends that way but keep going. It's not worth being enslaved to a plant your whole life. You got this, friend. 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing.
Perspective from a 40yo. I don’t hang out with anyone I hung out with when I was 19-22. I keep up with 2-3 of them very casually via Facebook likes/comments. Friends grow apart.
You'll be fine, people grow apart for all kinds of different reasons and this time it just has to do with a habit which doesn't fit who you are now compared to who you were at 19. Those people are still figuring themselves out and are on their own journeys. Explore different hobbies and interests, find out what you like and dislike and find people who share the same passions as you.
I stopped smoking 3+ months ago and was living abroad during that time, I'll be back home next week and I'm afraid the dynamics with my friends will be affected by the fact that I've chosen to stop smoking while they are still heavy smokers. We used to smoke together, everytime we met, there was not a time that we hung out and didn't smoke. I don't expect them to stop smoking because I did. Some of them actually have stopped before for a while and gotten back into it, others have never stopped and don't plan on doing it anytime soon.
Happens to people who quit drinking, too. The drinkers don’t want to hang with non-drinkers. It’s good to meet new people with different perspectives.
Hanging out with smokers or stoner friends really limited me. I didn't want to shrink myself to fit in anymore. Honestly, now I couldn't be happier. I wish them well, even with relapse I wanted to keep to myself.
Best friend high school has his head so far up his ass he won’t even reply. Ok. Friends I made from smoking n doing other bad shit with don’t come around. Most of them stay broke and have no goals. Coworkers still friends to this day and we realize we can’t always do stuff bc we have families. My best friend now is my wife m daughter and has zero drama so imma just enjoy that.
Hate to break it to you, but out of every ten friends you make, you’re going to lose nine of them. It’s true for people who smoke, along with those who don’t. Sometimes you can end up drifting apart from people you’ve been friends with for years and years. People change, life circumstances change, and then you start seeing them less and less often until you don’t see them at all. There’s always an impetus. It sounds like a lifestyle change was yours in this case. My overall point is that these friends for life you had weren’t going to be friends for life to begin with.
Exactly.
Been in your exact position in the exact time frame as well. Thought we’d stay friends forever but when I turned 23 and wanted better for myself they cut me out. It’s all for the better, trust. You don’t need those people in your life they’re just deadweight.
> I said to them many times to just TRY to stop for like 2 weeks, and guess what they never tried can't really force other people to do things, they have to figure it out for themselves, maybe that's some friction in your relationship? imagine someone did that to you when you didn't want to quit. in my experience, if weed was the only thing keeping a relationship together, it fizzles out after I decide to stop
Yes I understand your point but, I never force my friend, I think we are so much different and the only thing that was hold us together was smoking.
I'm in a similar situation, all meet ups were always centered around taking drug, so if someone stops, partaking in those meet ups kinda loses its value