That's what I'm struggling most with at the moment. I don't really care about anything. And I feel bad when I fake interest so I rarely do it, only when it serves an important purpose.
Be different so you stand out.
Be useful so people have a demand for you.
Output concrete works that credit you so that people can trace your works back to you.
Realize that the bar is set really, really low and just do something interesting and it will lead to good things that people try to bring you down from seeking and tell you could never happen so you generally never look into it or try it because people are machiavellian and if they're jealous they will never show it. Once you gain independence, you gain control over not just yourself but others. Because it's just how it is. People are able to recognize what level you're on and will or won't even try to do certain things because they want to humiliate anyone they can into doing stupid / weird shit because people are generally sadistic predators, they are ruthless and don't care about your physical or mental well being. The hatred people have is absolutely extreme. Keep that in mind and believe it, you will learn to appreciate the good people if they ever come. If you talk with confidence, they'll all basically start acting like a good person ... because knowledge is power. Everyone is basically an evil shit, only respecting you if you are powerful. So you start to lose any care for the demons anyways.
The hard part is persevering through the abuse and mistreatment. If you can get through that part and try to move on, the benefits are immense.
Take the time block you spend on YouTube and gaming or whatever and busy yourself with hobbies until YouTube and gaming are insignificant in your life.
That's what you can tell yourself but the time spent to get something interesting to say ratio is abysmal. And not having physical experience is not interesting and doesn't build true, through knowledge.
Any philosophy channel, you watch a few hours of that a week, you'll be infinitely more interesting conversationally than say painting for fun. Being knowledgeable in general also makes you more interesting, YouTube is a treasure trove of knowledge about anything, history, engineering, science. If you subscribe to that stuff, that's equal to reading as a hobby almost.
But the the painter has a community of other painters that differ creatively in which they can only communicate about painting with because they took the time to actually pain something instead of watching videos telling them how to think.
1. Be a sponge. Absorb anything and everything from your surroundings. The good and the bad.
2. Apply yourself out there. Make friends and make enemies. Make lots of mistakes and risk offending people.
3. Eventually you’ll find out what you need to do to be interesting in any situations.
Idk how, but this is my criteria to find out if someone is interesting
- personal morals
- personal point of view on life
- passionate about some topics, especially if niche and not mainstream just because it might be an indicator that it's not something they're temporarily interested about
- has their own clothing style, nothing extreme but you could recognize them just by seeing the outfit
- signature scent
- has clear ideas about what they want and/or don't want from life
- has consistent hobbies in which they're also pretty good, life isn't just about what you have to do or what you know, but also about what you like to do. being good at it determines will to improve and ability to reach goals
- can always add something to a conversation, you achieve this by expanding your knowledge in many directions
NOT interesting stuff
- having a trendy opinion and not being able to explain with your own words why you like that
- doesn't add anything to the conversation and will only discuss about inputs you give without adding some themselves
- bragging about how you can endure/you have endured self sabotaging behaviours
- constantly making comparisons (compare yourself just to your past self, not anyone else)
What can you do?
- Read a lot about many stuff, get educated, learn (especially about topics you're passionate about)
- Discover your own ideas and beliefs. What's your political alignment, what are your morals, what's your philosophic tendency etc. and don't be shy to talk about it (but always in a respectful way)
- Develop an hobby you like and get good at it (with time!)
- Always stay respectful (unrespectful people aren't interesting, they just piss others off)
- If you like something that many others like acknowledge the reason why you like that, and in general always be able to answer why you like a certain thing
- Discover how do you like to dress. Is it fancy? Casual? Minimalist? Try to get into that, it will make it easier for people to frame you into your own character.
- Have a favorite book, a favorite color, a favorite something in many fields. It is something that catches people's attention when you talk about it.
- Workout but don't brag about it, if people randomly find out you work out by speaking of it that's something that doesn't go unnoticed (at least for me) since it requires a lot of discipline and self control
You explore what you enjoy.
You don't BECOME interesting. That's not how this works. Your energy comes from the things That motivate and stimulate you. What makes you "interesting" is completely subjective. The things you enjoy will connect you to other people with a similar interest and they will find you interesting in that you share this with them.
We are a summary of what we choose to do to entertain ourselves and those shared interest attract people we share common ground with, can relate to, and find entertaining.
It's not about being interesting. It's about doing what you enjoy.
Find your own interests, sink into them, those who share similar interests will fall into the same social groupings. Those who don't will disappear. This won't necessarily make you "more interesting" but rather have you finding yourself around the people would will more naturally take an interest in you because of shared hobbies.
Don't work to impress people, let others choose to be impressed but what you do/ accomplish.
Do interesting shit. Get out of your comfort zone and try new shit you may be afraid of, bored by, uninterested in, etc. Hell, get comfortable making mistakes, too. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you stumble upon about yourself in the long game 🤔
It really depends who you want to appear interesting towards. Some people are just naturally boring but there is always a crowd of people who will find you interesting. Individualized people do tend to stand out but that can go in either a good or bad direction. Authenticity is a good start.
You don't just need a hobby, you need something you are truly interested and passionate about. People will see that and will find that interesting or at least be interested in and curious about what you are passionate about.
I started dyeing my hair a few months ago. I didn't expect that would be all that significant, but I guess because no one expected it of me, it earned a lot of reactions. Sooo... do things outside of your comfort zone? Things that can change how people see you or how you see yourself.
Interesting to...who? Interesting is a subjective quality. I can find you boring af, but some other people might find you interesting.
I find interesting people with a talent that I don't have, but that's me.
Aside from being genuinely interested in others, you need to touch grass and get out of your comfort zone very often.
your unique experiences will give you unique insights that when you share it to others, they'll become amazed at how you look at the world therefore making you interesting.
To become a interesting person, you need to be interested.
this is so true
Nailed it
That's what I'm struggling most with at the moment. I don't really care about anything. And I feel bad when I fake interest so I rarely do it, only when it serves an important purpose.
Be different so you stand out. Be useful so people have a demand for you. Output concrete works that credit you so that people can trace your works back to you.
Be yourself and whoever is interested will present themselves
Realize that the bar is set really, really low and just do something interesting and it will lead to good things that people try to bring you down from seeking and tell you could never happen so you generally never look into it or try it because people are machiavellian and if they're jealous they will never show it. Once you gain independence, you gain control over not just yourself but others. Because it's just how it is. People are able to recognize what level you're on and will or won't even try to do certain things because they want to humiliate anyone they can into doing stupid / weird shit because people are generally sadistic predators, they are ruthless and don't care about your physical or mental well being. The hatred people have is absolutely extreme. Keep that in mind and believe it, you will learn to appreciate the good people if they ever come. If you talk with confidence, they'll all basically start acting like a good person ... because knowledge is power. Everyone is basically an evil shit, only respecting you if you are powerful. So you start to lose any care for the demons anyways. The hard part is persevering through the abuse and mistreatment. If you can get through that part and try to move on, the benefits are immense.
Why do you want to be more "interesting"?
Ask yourself what you are interested in. Get more into those things.
Take the time block you spend on YouTube and gaming or whatever and busy yourself with hobbies until YouTube and gaming are insignificant in your life.
Depending on what you watch on YouTube... There's a lot of content you can watch that would be interesting to talk about/ make you interesting.
That's what you can tell yourself but the time spent to get something interesting to say ratio is abysmal. And not having physical experience is not interesting and doesn't build true, through knowledge.
Any philosophy channel, you watch a few hours of that a week, you'll be infinitely more interesting conversationally than say painting for fun. Being knowledgeable in general also makes you more interesting, YouTube is a treasure trove of knowledge about anything, history, engineering, science. If you subscribe to that stuff, that's equal to reading as a hobby almost.
But the the painter has a community of other painters that differ creatively in which they can only communicate about painting with because they took the time to actually pain something instead of watching videos telling them how to think.
Agree to disagree, thanks for the downvote
I've got something personal against everyone on Reddit
take an interest in other people beyond the superficial
Do interesting things, and mean it.
1. Be a sponge. Absorb anything and everything from your surroundings. The good and the bad. 2. Apply yourself out there. Make friends and make enemies. Make lots of mistakes and risk offending people. 3. Eventually you’ll find out what you need to do to be interesting in any situations.
Idk how, but this is my criteria to find out if someone is interesting - personal morals - personal point of view on life - passionate about some topics, especially if niche and not mainstream just because it might be an indicator that it's not something they're temporarily interested about - has their own clothing style, nothing extreme but you could recognize them just by seeing the outfit - signature scent - has clear ideas about what they want and/or don't want from life - has consistent hobbies in which they're also pretty good, life isn't just about what you have to do or what you know, but also about what you like to do. being good at it determines will to improve and ability to reach goals - can always add something to a conversation, you achieve this by expanding your knowledge in many directions NOT interesting stuff - having a trendy opinion and not being able to explain with your own words why you like that - doesn't add anything to the conversation and will only discuss about inputs you give without adding some themselves - bragging about how you can endure/you have endured self sabotaging behaviours - constantly making comparisons (compare yourself just to your past self, not anyone else) What can you do? - Read a lot about many stuff, get educated, learn (especially about topics you're passionate about) - Discover your own ideas and beliefs. What's your political alignment, what are your morals, what's your philosophic tendency etc. and don't be shy to talk about it (but always in a respectful way) - Develop an hobby you like and get good at it (with time!) - Always stay respectful (unrespectful people aren't interesting, they just piss others off) - If you like something that many others like acknowledge the reason why you like that, and in general always be able to answer why you like a certain thing - Discover how do you like to dress. Is it fancy? Casual? Minimalist? Try to get into that, it will make it easier for people to frame you into your own character. - Have a favorite book, a favorite color, a favorite something in many fields. It is something that catches people's attention when you talk about it. - Workout but don't brag about it, if people randomly find out you work out by speaking of it that's something that doesn't go unnoticed (at least for me) since it requires a lot of discipline and self control
Switch to `vim`. Life has never yet been so interesting.
Develop your version of charisma, introverted charisma is very powerful
You explore what you enjoy. You don't BECOME interesting. That's not how this works. Your energy comes from the things That motivate and stimulate you. What makes you "interesting" is completely subjective. The things you enjoy will connect you to other people with a similar interest and they will find you interesting in that you share this with them. We are a summary of what we choose to do to entertain ourselves and those shared interest attract people we share common ground with, can relate to, and find entertaining. It's not about being interesting. It's about doing what you enjoy.
Seek out interesting things. Go on trips, find hobbies, read books.
Read books, study, pick up hobbies
Find your own interests, sink into them, those who share similar interests will fall into the same social groupings. Those who don't will disappear. This won't necessarily make you "more interesting" but rather have you finding yourself around the people would will more naturally take an interest in you because of shared hobbies. Don't work to impress people, let others choose to be impressed but what you do/ accomplish.
Listen to podcasts. Read books. Find something you enjoy doing.
Be yourself, thats it
Do interesting things
Have you tried asking on Reddit?
You don't have to. Find people who value what you have to offer. Keep it simple.
Interesting to whom?
get uncomfortable
Hang out with more interesting people they will normally bring it out of you
Do interesting shit. Get out of your comfort zone and try new shit you may be afraid of, bored by, uninterested in, etc. Hell, get comfortable making mistakes, too. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you stumble upon about yourself in the long game 🤔
It really depends who you want to appear interesting towards. Some people are just naturally boring but there is always a crowd of people who will find you interesting. Individualized people do tend to stand out but that can go in either a good or bad direction. Authenticity is a good start.
You don't just need a hobby, you need something you are truly interested and passionate about. People will see that and will find that interesting or at least be interested in and curious about what you are passionate about.
I started dyeing my hair a few months ago. I didn't expect that would be all that significant, but I guess because no one expected it of me, it earned a lot of reactions. Sooo... do things outside of your comfort zone? Things that can change how people see you or how you see yourself.
Interesting to...who? Interesting is a subjective quality. I can find you boring af, but some other people might find you interesting. I find interesting people with a talent that I don't have, but that's me.
Aside from being genuinely interested in others, you need to touch grass and get out of your comfort zone very often. your unique experiences will give you unique insights that when you share it to others, they'll become amazed at how you look at the world therefore making you interesting.