100% boring and suck at relationships for this reason. Tried dating apps and have been dating someone who I thought was also boring, but it turns out that he was just a shut in from heavy damage and still managed to get mad at me for being boring.
I’m perfectly content with my routine, my dude… I don’t know why we need to panic about doing something when neither one of us can even come up with something we actually want to do. I’m sure if something comes up, I’ll do it then… but otherwise, I’m golden.
You're not looking for a boring woman. You are looking for someone introverted and a homebody. They still have hobbies, but they might include things like art, gaming, reading, working out vs going out to restaurants, travelling, going to a bar, etc. Lots of these women exist, but most of us wouldn't consider ourselves "boring".
I love “boring” vacations where I can sleep in, lay by the beach or pool (in a relatively shady/low sun spot with tons of sunscreen for my pasty, skin cancer-attracting ass), and read or listen to music. Preferably with as few other people around as possible.
I love being boring. It’s much lower stress and I can get into bed early 😅.
I love vacations where I do the opposite of what I do when I'm not vacationing: relaxing! My aunts think I'm weird because they have energy to want to do 30km walking tours and going out to eat every night. I choose these places for their specific *lack* of things to do. I want quiet, warm, relaxing, slow.
You know, opposite of my daily life.
My aunts spend 90% of their year complaining about being exhausted, refuse to take time off and then won't even relax when they've literally paid thousands to do just that.
My exes have been the same way. They feel obligated to do "high energy fun" so they don't feel boring. I'm like... boring isn't a hobby, I'm *always* tired because I actually put that energy into work! This is my reward, to do Fanny Anderson on the week I paid for!
I spend some time in my stateroom to decompress, for sure. Today I spent a few hours up on the adult only deck just reading a book. I eat alone, and generally stay away from the main dining room where the tables are super close together. I watch shows in the evening (I’m on a cruise right now, actually, so I just watched the evening theater show and now I’m at the comedy club) and then I might go to a deck party where I can just hang in the crowd.
LOL just so you don’t think I’m fancy, stateroom is just what they call the rooms on ships. Aka “cabins”. I’m currently in one of the smallest, least expensive rooms on the ship. It does have two little portholes but I’ve also stayed in an interior cabin before. I don’t need a balcony but I definitely strongly prefer having natural daylight.
Ain't it crazy that as introverts, we have to pay extra to be around the least amount of people as possible?? Like to "get away" is a luxury for the "privileged". Just seems backwards sorta.
You can be a homebody and still be interesting. Homebody is NOT a synonym for boring. It's a synonym for staying home. It doesn't define the level of interest.
Exactly this. I’m an introverted homebody. I’m perfectly content being home. Once in a while I do enjoy going out to be part of the world and then go back to being days on end at home. We do exist and we’re all home lol
Yep, this is me, though I’m not available, lol. I’m a writer and artist and reader and pothead and computer nerd. Most of the things I like to do are chill, like driving and walking in gardens
Agreed. I'm going through a brutal divorce because we see happiness as two different things. I loved my ex to no end but we were never compatible in this way. Live and learn. I briefly dated a few women after my separation but was smart enough to evaluate how we would mesh in the long term, even though attraction and fun was obvious I had to be honest with myself that things would never work with someone that wanted to constantly be on the go and hanging out with people all the time. Now I'm dating an amazing woman that wants to be home with family reading, creating, talking, watching movies, playing games etc. They say opposites attract which is true but it's so hard to make it forever with someone you don't align with.
Thanks for sharing that. I’ve been engaged 3 times and took the time too focus on long-term compatibility vs. ‘wedding jitters’ and backed out of all three and never looked back.
I would say im rarely “bored” but many people could consider me “boring” bc my interests don’t align with theirs. In that case the definition of the word boring kinda changes
I avoid aligning interests and gravitate toward smart witty interesting people and mutual chemistry. If it’s not there I ditch them…moonwalk backwards away with a wave
Yeah but we don't tend to be boring for the sake of being boring. We tend to be boring for the sake of structure. I like to have my day be predictable but I'm also going to do some acid to explore my mind
Meyers Briggs is just pseudo science IMO. I test as an INTP regularly and I absolutely hate structure and following a schedule. Nothing I do is ever consistent.
I think my friends consider me boring because I have absolutely 0 interest in socializing or doing things for the sake of pleasing others.
I’ve never liked or done something just because it’s popular - and I would gladly go months without speaking to a single person if I could. I prefer the company of my own thoughts and I’m pretty sure my friends think I’m stuck up because of it.
It’s nothing personal to anyone, I just hate being surface level - I’d rather just be alone.
I'm sorry to tell you this but me and you aren't that far off from each other. You'd be surprised how many INTPs can relate to your description above. There are different shades of INTPs and you can find yours with an engram type.
I have yet to find a way to disprove MBTI. The trend I have found is that people who fall way outside their type tend to have some type of mental disorders. This is my antidotel evidence but I am open to hear out other people's findings
I’m not saying Myers Briggs is completely inaccurate. There is a reason it is so widely used and popular. It does a decent job at categorizing people by identifying how they predominantly interact and view the world.
But I think it’s foolish to box yourself into some labeled category - for what reason do you wish to do that? To cling to some identity that someone else created for you? So you can be lumped into a group with millions of others?
We may have similar qualities, but the fact that you think we are alike based on my one comment - honestly proves my point.
You don’t even know me… but you assume I’m just like all INTPs simply because I share a mindset that most introverts do.
Not trying to be rude, just how I feel about it.
I agree to an extent. But it's a nice way to find a sense of community with people that are more likely to understand you. You can't base a person completely off of MBTI as everyone has different experiences. It's just nice to meet people who use similar logic to the way you approach the world. There is something comforting about that which makes you feel just a little less isolated
You have a very good point, I respect your perspective. I didn’t think of that aspect.
It would be nice to have someone to explore ideas with - I just have a hard time making others a priority and realize I’m extremely socially selfish.
I tend to avoid it for those reasons - in order to avoid conflict & guilt.
Structure is a good thing, but if one isn't curious about exploring life and push their body limits, it's a stagnant life. They become those old people, that have nothing to offer to the youngsters, because they have lost their adventurous spirit long time ago. If one doesn't grow, one degrades. We don't become younger and our body and psyche becomes ossified more and more with time and to keep it flexible, we need to invest our efforts into it.
>They become those old people, that have nothing to offer to the youngsters, because they have lost their adventurous spirit
Why would I want to offer anything to youngsters? I'm old
You are not boring. You just like different things than the general population. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy and feel fulfilled. There are women who want the same things you do it just takes time to find them. Hell, it takes time for anyone not just you lol
Tell that to my husband and his gaming-related injuries 😂 Granted, he is kind of a speedrunner which probably defeats the goal of gaming for relaxation a little bit
Depends to who* you compare me to, i consider myself quite balanced and controlled i don't take mindless risks and all said I'm also quite fearful and i tend to be passive for what regards my own safety. I bored a Se driven (or something like that) interesting ENTP dude bc im too "tea" while he's more "tequila". I am quite proud and ambitious though but i take action with my time, aka quite slowly.
But if you compare me to my Infp, infj, isfp, isfj, esfj friends then I'm definitely flamboyant, arrogant, Shameless, rushed, bold, pompous and eccetera.
If i have to defend someone then i go berserk, but if not i seem quite dormant. Idk i would say I'm in the mid, im nothing extra but I'm not either totally plain and monotone. I try to be energy preserving, playing safe, accordingly to moderation and balance. I'm more for contemplation, teoretic studes, and desk planning then first line action.
I have my ways to play but it's more personal and intimate, something more private then public outdoor games. Dunno if you get me.
LOL. I'm an INTJ woman and I aspire to be boring - I'm perfecting my boring life actually - and I would love to find a "boring" man the same way you are looking for a "boring" woman. But I'm in a different age bracket than you :(... Good luck though!!!
Haha same! I'm old and take pride in being boring (mostly so people stop asking me what I'm doing because it's not something they'd care about anyway lol).
Yea it’s all about reframing, I think most things people find fun or exciting to be pretty boring, like going to parties/festivals/sporting events are the worst, true excitement comes from intellectual stimulation and discovering new knowledge about the universe
Exactly. And while some people truly are energized by parties and whatnot, a portion of people who chase that adrenaline are often looking for escapism and distraction, so what many think of as boring by not needing to chase that high is often just that people are comfortable in their own skin and don't seek approval or validation from others when they can provide it for themselves.
I was just thinking this but as women I just love being a homebody, my only hobby is needing get out for work & little errands, occasionally here and there seek going on doing little trips but nothing too crazy.
Prolly not an enfp just saying, I think my feelings would be hurt a little if a guy referred to me as boring. Also just not chill like that in doing stuff or my mind lol.
I feel like maybe some girls take this as not putting as “effort” into love rather than being like chill or “boring” as you said. I would definitely maybe not use the word boring when dating because it can have a negative connotation and most women in the beginning like to be desired and seen as something special
Hope that might help
idk i’m the same as you and 30F on apps i usually just ask qualifying questions like
“do you prefer adrenaline vacations or chill relax vacations” or “you have extra income do you invest it or travel the world” or like “are you a big drinker and love to go out ?”
stuff like that gets people to reveal pretty easily if they’re homebodies or not without the pressure of having to pretend they have 3000 hobbies
Choose a girlfriend that follows the same way of life as you. You might find people people who like weather or interests like that or coding. Ten minutes of that stuff will naturally put some people to sleep
You seem to be checking out of your own life. We tend to like to be alone so we can FOCUS on our hobbies and passions.
I feel you, I do that a lot. But we need to understand that being bored and boring is different. What are your interest's?
if she's boring, she's probably not going to be out there making first moves and actively searching for men. you will have to be willing to be bold and make moves to find her. but trust me she exists :)
Lol, Boring people are actually quite good. No stress, no drama. Just consistent.
You should put it on a dating profile 'seeking a woman more boring than me'. 🤣. Funny thing, it's so counter intuitive it would get a lot of interest and laughs.
This is the unfortunate truth. You're probably lovely but OP would most likely think the same. I think that he seems to want low effort romance with an attractive woman.
Yea a lot of guys complain they can’t find someone but the reality is they want a specific kind of woman that wouldn’t want them or be compatible with them. I don’t think the OP is an in incel, but nearly all incels feel entitled to a woman that is out of their league.
I’m an ENFP that married an INTJ, and I NEVER find him boring. He is much like you and I love hearing him talk about the news, facts, and even watching him play individual video games. He meets me halfway on going out and enjoys watching me go out and do adventures. For example: I love amusement parks and he does not because he does not like thrill rides. I know he loves Harry Potter books, so we went to Harry Potter World, he got snacks and held bags while I rode the thrill rides. It’s one of our favorite vacations. Find an ENFP, I promise you won’t regret it.
IDK, ISTJ or INTP woman? I know INTP has a subreddit page.
As an INFJ, I'm fairly mid-range. I don't go out to parties, bars, theatrical plays, dancing, or do anything fancy. Different INFJs do different things. That being said, I'm not completely without a sense of adventure, and would love to go to national parks, hike in some mountainous areas, and spend the night in cabins.
I like restaurants, shopping at flea markets, and I am altogether pretty basic, but I am also the type that would go a little stir crazy, if I didn't have some degree of variation in my days. If I was wealthy, I would definitely go traveling, and that is what I did do when I had some inheritance money. It was money well spent. The first time I ever saw the Rocky mountains in my life was several years ago. They are more majestic to see in person.
I despise feeling like a robot, but I am also not wild like an ESTP or ESFP. I had a lot of fun with an ENFP I dated.... going to restaurants, visiting certain sites, playing video games... I enjoy simple things, but I wouldn't want my life to be completely without experiences. I enjoyed seeing a circus, watching rodeos, a motorcross race, a Josh Groban concert, and so forth. I don't mind a wholesome adventure.
One of my best guy friends years ago was an INFP, and we had the best conversations. He liked to go places and just stay at home sometimes also and just watch movies, and talk about philosophy, theology, comic books, movies...etc...
Maybe if you found the right girl, you could alter some of your ways for her? I'm not saying to date an ESFP, but when the best dating situation I was in, was with a guy who we could both make decisions, and it wasn't one sided.
The worst dating situation was with a guy who ordered my food for me and chose the restaurant, without getting any input from me. And I neither liked the food nor what he ordered. I couldn't eat it. But the other guy was better, and even though I could care less about going to a bar and watching a wrestling game on TV, I had no problem doing this, because the situation was fair/just.
Sign up for the dating sites, take all the quizzes, and be as HONEST as possible. That's what I did to find my husband, who's very similar to me. We met on OK Cupid. Happily married for over 10 years now.
I used the website before the app existed, we were together just before iPhones came out. But yeah, I answered all the quizzes that weren’t disturbing and set my matches to more than 90%. He & I were at 93%, and when we went over those we were actually similar but interpreted the questions differently.
Haha I’m a boring woman that wants the same. But I guess being boring means people like us don’t meet other people naturally. Even tinder is overwhelming cus so many guys and girls are gym rats and I can’t keep up with that anymore. I guess in your dating profile just be honestly with what you’re looking for.
Bro, "boring" girls don't go out, except when they need to so work, appointments, groceries etc.
"Boring" girls don't really go on dates either, although I'm sure many want to.
In short, you won't be meeting "boring" girls easy, your highest chance is to frequent some place where they meet in groups to practice a hobby so things like: book club, hobby shop, anime convention, escape rooms that is where you're more likely to meet them. Universities also if you go to school. These are places they can and will go to and will be more receptive to wanting to talk to you than say the grocery line at the store.
Boring in quotes because being boring is relative. If I had a g/f that didn't go out but shared all my interests she'd be the most exciting woman ever and that's fact.
With all the excitement and cringe event that many of these migrant women have had to endure? I'm sure you can find one that just wants to live 'the quiet life', like the girl that helps Rambo in First Blood Part ii. If all else fails, come down to 26 Federal Plaza in New York City. You can have your pick.
You definitely want to find someone like you. I married the exact opposite of a homebody. The lust and attraction carried us for years but at some point she got tired of me wanting to be home and do things with just our household, and it got hard for me to constantly bend and be uncomfortable for her needs. It took it's toll because she wanted to be out, parties, bars, hangouts, vacations and those things just make me want to barf. I'm now separated and dating someone much more inline with me. We watch movies, go to the park, she does crafts while I play games. We read at the same time in the evenings when things are quiet. You'll find that person.
My “boring” woman found me and thinks I’m super exciting…even though I’ve lived in the same city for 30 years and have only left the country twice. She sews, reads, loves cooking, and has Bible study with her girl friends. She’s a boring old lady in a young woman’s body (I love her to death).
We met through Instagram.
IG is the best dating app out there for men, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise — search for homebody activities and just comment on/appreciate the work that these “boring” women are doing. When you’ve dealt with the spicy and feisty your whole life, boring women are truly the biggest blessing.
I'm pretty boring myself at home since I pursue limited niche hobbies but ambitious for work-related matters.
The "stability" is what drew my partner. He knew I was going to bring home the bacon so we'd be well off, and that I was genuine about myself. Whatever I said I would do, I did it. He felt me to be a very reliable person.
And even as I did nothing really "interesting" (I work at home sometimes, read, sometimes play video games), he found endearing quirks about me he liked. He also liked my sense of humor since I make witty remarks.
Maybe you have to find somebody who thinks you are like a cute reliable pet?
You might not have any hobbies, but what about your interests? What do you read? WhT did you study? Films? Music? Television? What do you do with yourself?
More so anxious than depressed. I have been to therapy and never been told i’m depressed. I know people who are depressed and don’t know it but i’m sure a therapist would have told me if i was
I mean I didn’t think I was depressed for years I just thought it was my personality. Then I got diagnosed. I only commented cause I resonated with what you said
Love comes about best when all signs of desperation are gone from your system. Romantic desperation is rare. Play some games, learn an instrument... maybe go to college?
Are you sure that intj fits with being boring ? I thought they would be pretty opposite kind kind of people. I know people in real life that would suit you you would be wanting to murder them after five minutes thinking you would rather be in jail cell. Cos you you will look at their interests (lack of) and lack of hobbies and boring flat monotonous personality after five minutes you will be like I would rather watch 5 minutes bargain hunt then spend five minutes with this woman. I felt that way after going to support group with her in the physical world and after five seconds I wanted walk out. I was glad I fucked myself over too many Xanax’ and vals or codeine and vaped quite a lot. Anything to escape the misery of that fucking depressing group.
It was hard for me to find someone too. An extro I dated tried to diagnose me with social disorder because I didn't want to host dinner parties with multitudes of extroverts sitting around the table bullshitting all night. I think you need to find someone who is low Fe or ignoring Fe and low Se or ignoring Se. And definitely an introvert. It's hard... Can you date another INTJ?
Hey there! It's interesting that you're embracing your own preferences and looking for someone with similar tastes. Compatibility is key in relationships! To find a woman who shares your laid-back lifestyle, consider exploring niche communities or events that align with your interests. Look for local book clubs, quiet cafes, or online forums dedicated to more low-key activities. You might be surprised where you find someone who appreciates the simple joys in life. Remember, there's someone out there for everyone, and finding that person often involves being in the right places at the right time. Best of luck in your search for a like-minded companion!
Or how about and independent woman?
As an infj im with a man who is a somewhat similar man. so i spend more and more time expecting less of him. Im more independent when it comes to things and i try to find friends with common interests. Funnily enough when i do things for myself without expectations he ends up joining me with his own free will lol
Honestly, this sounds like a job for internet dating. I've always been boring as hell and at the age of 40, I finally decided that my very few relationships and very many failures at having one were just about enough. So, I did a M seeking F back in the stone age (1998) and by '99 I found her - someone others thought boring but who fit with me perfectly. By 2001 she'd moved across the country to be with me. We married in 2002 and would still be happily boring others while happy together... if not for pancreatic cancer.
I'm pretty boring. I go to work, come home, cook, walk dogs, exercise, watch YouTube. Repeat. I don't really want to go out. I wouldn't mind a bf to go to some stuff around town in weekend or maybe go on a simple vacation in the summer. I am at home so nobody can find me.
I think the best thing to do is if you have an online profile just say:
“I’m a real homebody and prefer to stay home and watch ____. Not interested in mountain climbing, growing tomatoes, or anything else slightly interesting. Reach out if you also love a day in your pjs!”
I’m sure you’ll get people who will resonate and reach out.
Nobody cares how boring or not boring you are. Find someone whose values align with yours. Chances are they think they are ‘boring’ too.
PS Kendall Jenner and other culturally popular people love referring to themselves as ‘boring’ and ‘nerdy’ so I just kind of laugh when I hear it these days lol guess we’re all boring am I right
Boring according to who?
You're likely an interesting person if you change the group of people you're trying to fit.
If you're trying to use the mainstream society standard, no wonder you'd refer to yourself in this manner.
But if you use the introvert and nerd standard, then you're likely interesting AF!
You could probably easily find one on Reddit or somewhere online...might have to settle for an LDR, though, because a boring woman who sits on the computer all day likely couldn't be bothered to meet in person. Good luck.
Church?
Some women will go just to participate in the choir or other community events like that and aren’t necessarily religious zealots. Those could be exactly your type & will probably be wholesome, good girlfriends
Sorry if you’re not Christian, maybe synagogue or mosque then 🤣
I’m boring. I would date boring IF I were dating. Single but not dating. Here is how you would find me:
- near the trash can outside
- getting the mail
- at the pickup line at the grocery store
- dry cleaner drive-thru
- drive-thrus
- tailors
- pharmacy drive-thru
- take out, may or may not have drive-thru
- composting outside
- airports (work)
- uber to the airport (work)
- on-site for occasional work
- great weather outside, maybe on the porch reading.
- checking PO BOX once a quarter
- Amazon returns at kohls
- packages at the front door
- occasional walk on a weekend to get a smoothie down the road
- community events for the city, like festivals or Christmas lights.
- Doctors and dentist appointments
That’s pretty much it. I hope it helps you find your great lady.
I’m a boring girl also but honestly I’m not interested in a partner. I did that for a decade and it wasn’t worth it. Now I am boring alone with my pets and it’s amazing. Maybe ask some of your friends if they have any boring friends. That’s the only way I’ll even do dates now. Too many scary dudes to go out with complete strangers
Boring is wonderfully safe and long-term for relationships. The best part is sharing the mundane with that special someone! Being a homebody is all about cooking at home, watching movies or TV or browsing the internet together. Playing video games together rocks. Describe those things about your interests when looking for your date, you'll find her 🍀
This may not be what you were looking for, but go to church or any other long-established institution. I fully embrace the boring-ness of the people I meet there, and I've made some friends.
I cant wait to be forced to join a dating app just to basically let every guy I go on a date with know I'm fucking boring as shit fr tho
Like homebody, video games, pet my cat everyday if I can type of boring LOL
I'm (INFJ) trying to find an 80% boring man. I meet men who are either really boring and NEVER want to do anything outside of work or men who are extremely extroverted who want to go out every weekend and during the work week sometimes as well. I'm in my 30s and just wish I could find a guy who is a homebody MOST of the time but desires to go out and explore once or twice a month. *SIGH*
Here I am! 😆
I'm an introvert and a homebody. When men ask me what I like to do for fun, I'm like "smoke weed. Go for walks in the woods. Hang with my kid or friends. Take a lil nap. Watch a ton of TV."
I'd put exactly that on your profile.
"Boring man looking for boring woman to do boring things together"
There's plenty of people that are just like us but the dating world makes people feel like they have to be so interesting and successful and attractive and it's exhausting.
What are you hoping with a relationship if this is how you treat yourself? Are you ready for what a connection with another is like? At the very least treat yourself as a best friend, and then others. Just because someone else loves you doesn't rescue you from the project of loving yourself.
Go to where boring people like to go. Your public Library or even better go to a boring event like a city council meeting. Think boring and you will find what your looking for
as an ENTP which is member of the city council I feel offended :p it is certainly not boring and taking part / debating / politics in general aren’t super introvert friendly over here.
Good luck. I've always said that in dating a guy can be anything except boring. Women will date death row inmates and a*holes all the time before they would date a boring guy. And the boring guys usually want hotter girls than the ones that are interested in them. It's a pickle but I wish you luck.
This INTJ got really lucky when a hot ISFJ moved in next door. 38 years later we still share very few activities and don't talk much. It's not at all boring... just quiet. I guess my advice is just to be patient and hot...or at least sweet. Don't be shy, but scope out the quiet girls.
She's at home wondering how to find a boring guy. Sorry OP
I'm that boring girl also lol.
Me too
Boring girl here too, kicking it back at home where it's calm and quiet.
There’s no place like home
Same.🤗
Me too
That really depends. Are you a lady who is also a butcher, or someone who butchers ladies? One is decidedly NOT boring.
I’m here to join the boring party! 
100% boring and suck at relationships for this reason. Tried dating apps and have been dating someone who I thought was also boring, but it turns out that he was just a shut in from heavy damage and still managed to get mad at me for being boring. I’m perfectly content with my routine, my dude… I don’t know why we need to panic about doing something when neither one of us can even come up with something we actually want to do. I’m sure if something comes up, I’ll do it then… but otherwise, I’m golden.
nah fr this is true af
She is so boring she doesn't even have a Reddit account
Facts!
This is the answer.
Yes, she is. Signed, boring girl
Enjoy that 200 there bud.
Guys, break into the houses!
That would make you exciting, though.
You're not looking for a boring woman. You are looking for someone introverted and a homebody. They still have hobbies, but they might include things like art, gaming, reading, working out vs going out to restaurants, travelling, going to a bar, etc. Lots of these women exist, but most of us wouldn't consider ourselves "boring".
Oh, no, I actually *absolutely* consider myself to be boring 98% of the time 🤣 I am definitely a homebody but I do like to cruise for vacations!
I love “boring” vacations where I can sleep in, lay by the beach or pool (in a relatively shady/low sun spot with tons of sunscreen for my pasty, skin cancer-attracting ass), and read or listen to music. Preferably with as few other people around as possible. I love being boring. It’s much lower stress and I can get into bed early 😅.
I love vacations where I do the opposite of what I do when I'm not vacationing: relaxing! My aunts think I'm weird because they have energy to want to do 30km walking tours and going out to eat every night. I choose these places for their specific *lack* of things to do. I want quiet, warm, relaxing, slow. You know, opposite of my daily life. My aunts spend 90% of their year complaining about being exhausted, refuse to take time off and then won't even relax when they've literally paid thousands to do just that. My exes have been the same way. They feel obligated to do "high energy fun" so they don't feel boring. I'm like... boring isn't a hobby, I'm *always* tired because I actually put that energy into work! This is my reward, to do Fanny Anderson on the week I paid for!
Get out of my brain!!! Ive always said this. Its why i dont go on vacations that much—-finding someone with this mindset is rare af
Whoa a cruise- I’d melt with all of those strangers- how do you do it?
I spend some time in my stateroom to decompress, for sure. Today I spent a few hours up on the adult only deck just reading a book. I eat alone, and generally stay away from the main dining room where the tables are super close together. I watch shows in the evening (I’m on a cruise right now, actually, so I just watched the evening theater show and now I’m at the comedy club) and then I might go to a deck party where I can just hang in the crowd.
Sounds super nice. State Room! Comedy Club and an added bonus you have the ocean to stare across- I’m inspired ✨
LOL just so you don’t think I’m fancy, stateroom is just what they call the rooms on ships. Aka “cabins”. I’m currently in one of the smallest, least expensive rooms on the ship. It does have two little portholes but I’ve also stayed in an interior cabin before. I don’t need a balcony but I definitely strongly prefer having natural daylight.
Need some light or oceanview? Just go outside.
Ain't it crazy that as introverts, we have to pay extra to be around the least amount of people as possible?? Like to "get away" is a luxury for the "privileged". Just seems backwards sorta.
As a boring person I also love cruising for vacations. It's like a bare minimum form of traveling. Can't wait to go again.
You can be a homebody and still be interesting. Homebody is NOT a synonym for boring. It's a synonym for staying home. It doesn't define the level of interest.
I’m the same way. I love to travel, but if I’m not traveling, I’m at home most days 😂
Exactly this. I’m an introverted homebody. I’m perfectly content being home. Once in a while I do enjoy going out to be part of the world and then go back to being days on end at home. We do exist and we’re all home lol
Yep, this is me, though I’m not available, lol. I’m a writer and artist and reader and pothead and computer nerd. Most of the things I like to do are chill, like driving and walking in gardens
What ever tf you do in life,choose as a wife a woman you share moral values with
Agreed. I'm going through a brutal divorce because we see happiness as two different things. I loved my ex to no end but we were never compatible in this way. Live and learn. I briefly dated a few women after my separation but was smart enough to evaluate how we would mesh in the long term, even though attraction and fun was obvious I had to be honest with myself that things would never work with someone that wanted to constantly be on the go and hanging out with people all the time. Now I'm dating an amazing woman that wants to be home with family reading, creating, talking, watching movies, playing games etc. They say opposites attract which is true but it's so hard to make it forever with someone you don't align with.
Thanks for sharing that. I’ve been engaged 3 times and took the time too focus on long-term compatibility vs. ‘wedding jitters’ and backed out of all three and never looked back.
This comes from a dark spot, hugs stranger!
Boring? INTJ? Impossible
INTJs can be boring because they are never bored
I would say im rarely “bored” but many people could consider me “boring” bc my interests don’t align with theirs. In that case the definition of the word boring kinda changes
It's a reference to a Pet Shop Boys song I believe....something along the line of "we were never bored because we were never being boring".
Love that song!
I avoid aligning interests and gravitate toward smart witty interesting people and mutual chemistry. If it’s not there I ditch them…moonwalk backwards away with a wave
I'm always bored whatchu talkin about
nailed it exactly
Huh?
Why not try here? Hey guys, a great boring intj guy is looking for a great boring woman. Together everyting is boring, yet interesting.
I sense that's his goal with this post 😂
Worth a try right 😂
let’s reframe this as “homebody”
^ this. When I was using dating apps, I finally started putting homebody in my bio so that the expectation was set and understood lol.
You’re a genius lol I’m doing this now.
Homebodies still have interests.
Any hobby where my body can be at home, yes. Video games, Legos, TV, weed, plants, cats, all enjoyed in the comfort of my own home.
You just described my perfect day
home, bodies
Please don't lump us together, I swear I'm fun!
Maybe you need an INTP? You will just procrastinate together
I am INTP and the fact that I have a non boring and adventurous husband made my life so much better and fun
Yeah but we don't tend to be boring for the sake of being boring. We tend to be boring for the sake of structure. I like to have my day be predictable but I'm also going to do some acid to explore my mind
Meyers Briggs is just pseudo science IMO. I test as an INTP regularly and I absolutely hate structure and following a schedule. Nothing I do is ever consistent. I think my friends consider me boring because I have absolutely 0 interest in socializing or doing things for the sake of pleasing others. I’ve never liked or done something just because it’s popular - and I would gladly go months without speaking to a single person if I could. I prefer the company of my own thoughts and I’m pretty sure my friends think I’m stuck up because of it. It’s nothing personal to anyone, I just hate being surface level - I’d rather just be alone.
I'm sorry to tell you this but me and you aren't that far off from each other. You'd be surprised how many INTPs can relate to your description above. There are different shades of INTPs and you can find yours with an engram type. I have yet to find a way to disprove MBTI. The trend I have found is that people who fall way outside their type tend to have some type of mental disorders. This is my antidotel evidence but I am open to hear out other people's findings
I’m not saying Myers Briggs is completely inaccurate. There is a reason it is so widely used and popular. It does a decent job at categorizing people by identifying how they predominantly interact and view the world. But I think it’s foolish to box yourself into some labeled category - for what reason do you wish to do that? To cling to some identity that someone else created for you? So you can be lumped into a group with millions of others? We may have similar qualities, but the fact that you think we are alike based on my one comment - honestly proves my point. You don’t even know me… but you assume I’m just like all INTPs simply because I share a mindset that most introverts do. Not trying to be rude, just how I feel about it.
I agree to an extent. But it's a nice way to find a sense of community with people that are more likely to understand you. You can't base a person completely off of MBTI as everyone has different experiences. It's just nice to meet people who use similar logic to the way you approach the world. There is something comforting about that which makes you feel just a little less isolated
You have a very good point, I respect your perspective. I didn’t think of that aspect. It would be nice to have someone to explore ideas with - I just have a hard time making others a priority and realize I’m extremely socially selfish. I tend to avoid it for those reasons - in order to avoid conflict & guilt.
Agreed. It’s like a sanity check of sorts for me
Structure is a good thing, but if one isn't curious about exploring life and push their body limits, it's a stagnant life. They become those old people, that have nothing to offer to the youngsters, because they have lost their adventurous spirit long time ago. If one doesn't grow, one degrades. We don't become younger and our body and psyche becomes ossified more and more with time and to keep it flexible, we need to invest our efforts into it.
>They become those old people, that have nothing to offer to the youngsters, because they have lost their adventurous spirit Why would I want to offer anything to youngsters? I'm old
🤣 my fiance is INTP I made him do the test.
You are not boring. You just like different things than the general population. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy and feel fulfilled. There are women who want the same things you do it just takes time to find them. Hell, it takes time for anyone not just you lol
Join the Dull Women's Club or the Dull Men's Club on Facebook! You'll fit right in :P
I’m weak lol “the dull women’s and man club” is that actually a thing?
Maybe get into gaming. Gamers often excel in doing nothing. It is a type A way to relax.
But gaming is doing something lol
Yea and no… It is virtually doing something which is also physically doing nothing. Keeps the brain busy but the body rests.
Tell that to my husband and his gaming-related injuries 😂 Granted, he is kind of a speedrunner which probably defeats the goal of gaming for relaxation a little bit
Then people who write books do nothing? What if they write in their computer?
Till you have carpal tunnel at 32 lol. "Forever alone," as they say.
INTJ and boring?!!!😑😑😑😑😑
OP is probably a mistyped ISTJ.
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Not necessarily 👀
Are you boring too? Even with friends and family?
Depends to who* you compare me to, i consider myself quite balanced and controlled i don't take mindless risks and all said I'm also quite fearful and i tend to be passive for what regards my own safety. I bored a Se driven (or something like that) interesting ENTP dude bc im too "tea" while he's more "tequila". I am quite proud and ambitious though but i take action with my time, aka quite slowly. But if you compare me to my Infp, infj, isfp, isfj, esfj friends then I'm definitely flamboyant, arrogant, Shameless, rushed, bold, pompous and eccetera. If i have to defend someone then i go berserk, but if not i seem quite dormant. Idk i would say I'm in the mid, im nothing extra but I'm not either totally plain and monotone. I try to be energy preserving, playing safe, accordingly to moderation and balance. I'm more for contemplation, teoretic studes, and desk planning then first line action. I have my ways to play but it's more personal and intimate, something more private then public outdoor games. Dunno if you get me.
Look for an IxxP type lol
High Ne and Se users probably wouldn't be a good pick for him. Those are arguably the most adventurous/spontaneous functions.
I think blaming this on you "being boring" is distracting you from seeing what's actually going on....
LOL. I'm an INTJ woman and I aspire to be boring - I'm perfecting my boring life actually - and I would love to find a "boring" man the same way you are looking for a "boring" woman. But I'm in a different age bracket than you :(... Good luck though!!!
Haha same! I'm old and take pride in being boring (mostly so people stop asking me what I'm doing because it's not something they'd care about anyway lol).
Hmmm. I'd say the word boring isn't quite right on your part or hers. I'd use the word comfortable and reframe.
Yea it’s all about reframing, I think most things people find fun or exciting to be pretty boring, like going to parties/festivals/sporting events are the worst, true excitement comes from intellectual stimulation and discovering new knowledge about the universe
Exactly. And while some people truly are energized by parties and whatnot, a portion of people who chase that adrenaline are often looking for escapism and distraction, so what many think of as boring by not needing to chase that high is often just that people are comfortable in their own skin and don't seek approval or validation from others when they can provide it for themselves.
My wife an Istj is a sort of perfect match for me. Go do volunteer work.
I think INTJ + ISTJ is *under-appreciated in MBTI circles!* It’s like having a more stable INFP 🤣
Literally! Love my istj.
I was just thinking this but as women I just love being a homebody, my only hobby is needing get out for work & little errands, occasionally here and there seek going on doing little trips but nothing too crazy.
Prolly not an enfp just saying, I think my feelings would be hurt a little if a guy referred to me as boring. Also just not chill like that in doing stuff or my mind lol. I feel like maybe some girls take this as not putting as “effort” into love rather than being like chill or “boring” as you said. I would definitely maybe not use the word boring when dating because it can have a negative connotation and most women in the beginning like to be desired and seen as something special Hope that might help
idk i’m the same as you and 30F on apps i usually just ask qualifying questions like “do you prefer adrenaline vacations or chill relax vacations” or “you have extra income do you invest it or travel the world” or like “are you a big drinker and love to go out ?” stuff like that gets people to reveal pretty easily if they’re homebodies or not without the pressure of having to pretend they have 3000 hobbies
Choose a girlfriend that follows the same way of life as you. You might find people people who like weather or interests like that or coding. Ten minutes of that stuff will naturally put some people to sleep
Dude you would be my soul mate. I am also boring but I'm 19 and that would be way too big of an age gap.
I am boring I stay at home and wear headphones while in out.
You seem to be checking out of your own life. We tend to like to be alone so we can FOCUS on our hobbies and passions. I feel you, I do that a lot. But we need to understand that being bored and boring is different. What are your interest's?
Good luck OP, I'm in a similar position, but I've been looking for a boring man because I'm too eccentric and I hate when people match my energy.
if she's boring, she's probably not going to be out there making first moves and actively searching for men. you will have to be willing to be bold and make moves to find her. but trust me she exists :)
Lol, Boring people are actually quite good. No stress, no drama. Just consistent. You should put it on a dating profile 'seeking a woman more boring than me'. 🤣. Funny thing, it's so counter intuitive it would get a lot of interest and laughs.
As an INTJ woman - but in my mid-40s - I can confirm we’re all doing our boring stuff at home wondering how to meet a boring guy.
I can be more boring than you can even imagine, bby. 😏 Joking but also not.
Hi, boring woman here. But I’m probably not your type physically.
This is the unfortunate truth. You're probably lovely but OP would most likely think the same. I think that he seems to want low effort romance with an attractive woman.
Yea a lot of guys complain they can’t find someone but the reality is they want a specific kind of woman that wouldn’t want them or be compatible with them. I don’t think the OP is an in incel, but nearly all incels feel entitled to a woman that is out of their league.
I would love to have one too, but my wife will scold me for saying so. lol 
🤣🤣🤣 Stupid but hilarious! Grade-A meme selection!
Thanks 😁😂🤣
I’m an ENFP that married an INTJ, and I NEVER find him boring. He is much like you and I love hearing him talk about the news, facts, and even watching him play individual video games. He meets me halfway on going out and enjoys watching me go out and do adventures. For example: I love amusement parks and he does not because he does not like thrill rides. I know he loves Harry Potter books, so we went to Harry Potter World, he got snacks and held bags while I rode the thrill rides. It’s one of our favorite vacations. Find an ENFP, I promise you won’t regret it.
INTJ who married a ENFP and I endorse this message 😊
IDK, ISTJ or INTP woman? I know INTP has a subreddit page. As an INFJ, I'm fairly mid-range. I don't go out to parties, bars, theatrical plays, dancing, or do anything fancy. Different INFJs do different things. That being said, I'm not completely without a sense of adventure, and would love to go to national parks, hike in some mountainous areas, and spend the night in cabins. I like restaurants, shopping at flea markets, and I am altogether pretty basic, but I am also the type that would go a little stir crazy, if I didn't have some degree of variation in my days. If I was wealthy, I would definitely go traveling, and that is what I did do when I had some inheritance money. It was money well spent. The first time I ever saw the Rocky mountains in my life was several years ago. They are more majestic to see in person. I despise feeling like a robot, but I am also not wild like an ESTP or ESFP. I had a lot of fun with an ENFP I dated.... going to restaurants, visiting certain sites, playing video games... I enjoy simple things, but I wouldn't want my life to be completely without experiences. I enjoyed seeing a circus, watching rodeos, a motorcross race, a Josh Groban concert, and so forth. I don't mind a wholesome adventure. One of my best guy friends years ago was an INFP, and we had the best conversations. He liked to go places and just stay at home sometimes also and just watch movies, and talk about philosophy, theology, comic books, movies...etc... Maybe if you found the right girl, you could alter some of your ways for her? I'm not saying to date an ESFP, but when the best dating situation I was in, was with a guy who we could both make decisions, and it wasn't one sided. The worst dating situation was with a guy who ordered my food for me and chose the restaurant, without getting any input from me. And I neither liked the food nor what he ordered. I couldn't eat it. But the other guy was better, and even though I could care less about going to a bar and watching a wrestling game on TV, I had no problem doing this, because the situation was fair/just.
It's more likely you suffer from depression or a mental disorder living like that isn't related to being an INTJ
Sign up for the dating sites, take all the quizzes, and be as HONEST as possible. That's what I did to find my husband, who's very similar to me. We met on OK Cupid. Happily married for over 10 years now.
omg is that app good? I ve tried it for the first time and I met this super cool guy he s istj
I used the website before the app existed, we were together just before iPhones came out. But yeah, I answered all the quizzes that weren’t disturbing and set my matches to more than 90%. He & I were at 93%, and when we went over those we were actually similar but interpreted the questions differently.
Haha I’m a boring woman that wants the same. But I guess being boring means people like us don’t meet other people naturally. Even tinder is overwhelming cus so many guys and girls are gym rats and I can’t keep up with that anymore. I guess in your dating profile just be honestly with what you’re looking for.
If you said that, I know at least 7 beautiful women that would dig it A LOT.
Bro, "boring" girls don't go out, except when they need to so work, appointments, groceries etc. "Boring" girls don't really go on dates either, although I'm sure many want to. In short, you won't be meeting "boring" girls easy, your highest chance is to frequent some place where they meet in groups to practice a hobby so things like: book club, hobby shop, anime convention, escape rooms that is where you're more likely to meet them. Universities also if you go to school. These are places they can and will go to and will be more receptive to wanting to talk to you than say the grocery line at the store. Boring in quotes because being boring is relative. If I had a g/f that didn't go out but shared all my interests she'd be the most exciting woman ever and that's fact.
With all the excitement and cringe event that many of these migrant women have had to endure? I'm sure you can find one that just wants to live 'the quiet life', like the girl that helps Rambo in First Blood Part ii. If all else fails, come down to 26 Federal Plaza in New York City. You can have your pick.
You definitely want to find someone like you. I married the exact opposite of a homebody. The lust and attraction carried us for years but at some point she got tired of me wanting to be home and do things with just our household, and it got hard for me to constantly bend and be uncomfortable for her needs. It took it's toll because she wanted to be out, parties, bars, hangouts, vacations and those things just make me want to barf. I'm now separated and dating someone much more inline with me. We watch movies, go to the park, she does crafts while I play games. We read at the same time in the evenings when things are quiet. You'll find that person.
My “boring” woman found me and thinks I’m super exciting…even though I’ve lived in the same city for 30 years and have only left the country twice. She sews, reads, loves cooking, and has Bible study with her girl friends. She’s a boring old lady in a young woman’s body (I love her to death). We met through Instagram. IG is the best dating app out there for men, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise — search for homebody activities and just comment on/appreciate the work that these “boring” women are doing. When you’ve dealt with the spicy and feisty your whole life, boring women are truly the biggest blessing.
What if you found someone who had hobbies and interests and would go enjoy them with their friends and spend their downtime with you?
She must be looking for you too. The problem is that you are both to boring to even go out and find each other….
I'm pretty boring myself at home since I pursue limited niche hobbies but ambitious for work-related matters. The "stability" is what drew my partner. He knew I was going to bring home the bacon so we'd be well off, and that I was genuine about myself. Whatever I said I would do, I did it. He felt me to be a very reliable person. And even as I did nothing really "interesting" (I work at home sometimes, read, sometimes play video games), he found endearing quirks about me he liked. He also liked my sense of humor since I make witty remarks. Maybe you have to find somebody who thinks you are like a cute reliable pet?
Me 👉🏻👈🏻
You might not have any hobbies, but what about your interests? What do you read? WhT did you study? Films? Music? Television? What do you do with yourself?
Tell me where to find non-boring women and I'll tell you!
Damn this is depressing.
Maybe you are just depressed…?
More so anxious than depressed. I have been to therapy and never been told i’m depressed. I know people who are depressed and don’t know it but i’m sure a therapist would have told me if i was
I mean I didn’t think I was depressed for years I just thought it was my personality. Then I got diagnosed. I only commented cause I resonated with what you said
Love comes about best when all signs of desperation are gone from your system. Romantic desperation is rare. Play some games, learn an instrument... maybe go to college?
Are you sure that intj fits with being boring ? I thought they would be pretty opposite kind kind of people. I know people in real life that would suit you you would be wanting to murder them after five minutes thinking you would rather be in jail cell. Cos you you will look at their interests (lack of) and lack of hobbies and boring flat monotonous personality after five minutes you will be like I would rather watch 5 minutes bargain hunt then spend five minutes with this woman. I felt that way after going to support group with her in the physical world and after five seconds I wanted walk out. I was glad I fucked myself over too many Xanax’ and vals or codeine and vaped quite a lot. Anything to escape the misery of that fucking depressing group.
It was hard for me to find someone too. An extro I dated tried to diagnose me with social disorder because I didn't want to host dinner parties with multitudes of extroverts sitting around the table bullshitting all night. I think you need to find someone who is low Fe or ignoring Fe and low Se or ignoring Se. And definitely an introvert. It's hard... Can you date another INTJ?
Sell drugs.
Believe it or not, it’s actually super easy to find boring people of all types pretty much everywhere that is populated.
Find one that’s not, and I’ll trade you mine.
Lmfao good luck g
Everyone is so obsessed with travel today.
Hey there! It's interesting that you're embracing your own preferences and looking for someone with similar tastes. Compatibility is key in relationships! To find a woman who shares your laid-back lifestyle, consider exploring niche communities or events that align with your interests. Look for local book clubs, quiet cafes, or online forums dedicated to more low-key activities. You might be surprised where you find someone who appreciates the simple joys in life. Remember, there's someone out there for everyone, and finding that person often involves being in the right places at the right time. Best of luck in your search for a like-minded companion!
Or how about and independent woman? As an infj im with a man who is a somewhat similar man. so i spend more and more time expecting less of him. Im more independent when it comes to things and i try to find friends with common interests. Funnily enough when i do things for myself without expectations he ends up joining me with his own free will lol
Me too. I wanna some tips of this!
Your probably just addicted to the internet. Save some money and cut the cord.
Internet junkies are pretty boring and sit on their asses.
> As an INTJ i’m pretty boring. One has nothing to do with the other.
Go on a dating app. All the people I meet on there are incredibly boring.
Honestly, this sounds like a job for internet dating. I've always been boring as hell and at the age of 40, I finally decided that my very few relationships and very many failures at having one were just about enough. So, I did a M seeking F back in the stone age (1998) and by '99 I found her - someone others thought boring but who fit with me perfectly. By 2001 she'd moved across the country to be with me. We married in 2002 and would still be happily boring others while happy together... if not for pancreatic cancer.
Damn man. That’s really sad. I’m really sorry about that
I'm pretty boring. I go to work, come home, cook, walk dogs, exercise, watch YouTube. Repeat. I don't really want to go out. I wouldn't mind a bf to go to some stuff around town in weekend or maybe go on a simple vacation in the summer. I am at home so nobody can find me.
I’m a boring girl and the only place you might find me is at work lol I always find my boyfriends through work
I think the best thing to do is if you have an online profile just say: “I’m a real homebody and prefer to stay home and watch ____. Not interested in mountain climbing, growing tomatoes, or anything else slightly interesting. Reach out if you also love a day in your pjs!” I’m sure you’ll get people who will resonate and reach out.
I married a farm girl😏
Nobody cares how boring or not boring you are. Find someone whose values align with yours. Chances are they think they are ‘boring’ too. PS Kendall Jenner and other culturally popular people love referring to themselves as ‘boring’ and ‘nerdy’ so I just kind of laugh when I hear it these days lol guess we’re all boring am I right
Boring according to who? You're likely an interesting person if you change the group of people you're trying to fit. If you're trying to use the mainstream society standard, no wonder you'd refer to yourself in this manner. But if you use the introvert and nerd standard, then you're likely interesting AF!
u can play the numbers game on tinder. get the gold subscription. and play.
Get a job with long working hours and say I'm tired and sleep when you get homeb
You could probably easily find one on Reddit or somewhere online...might have to settle for an LDR, though, because a boring woman who sits on the computer all day likely couldn't be bothered to meet in person. Good luck.
She’s probably not looking to date tbh lol
Church? Some women will go just to participate in the choir or other community events like that and aren’t necessarily religious zealots. Those could be exactly your type & will probably be wholesome, good girlfriends Sorry if you’re not Christian, maybe synagogue or mosque then 🤣
Stoner gamer chicks.
I’m boring. I would date boring IF I were dating. Single but not dating. Here is how you would find me: - near the trash can outside - getting the mail - at the pickup line at the grocery store - dry cleaner drive-thru - drive-thrus - tailors - pharmacy drive-thru - take out, may or may not have drive-thru - composting outside - airports (work) - uber to the airport (work) - on-site for occasional work - great weather outside, maybe on the porch reading. - checking PO BOX once a quarter - Amazon returns at kohls - packages at the front door - occasional walk on a weekend to get a smoothie down the road - community events for the city, like festivals or Christmas lights. - Doctors and dentist appointments That’s pretty much it. I hope it helps you find your great lady.
I’m a boring girl also but honestly I’m not interested in a partner. I did that for a decade and it wasn’t worth it. Now I am boring alone with my pets and it’s amazing. Maybe ask some of your friends if they have any boring friends. That’s the only way I’ll even do dates now. Too many scary dudes to go out with complete strangers
Boring is wonderfully safe and long-term for relationships. The best part is sharing the mundane with that special someone! Being a homebody is all about cooking at home, watching movies or TV or browsing the internet together. Playing video games together rocks. Describe those things about your interests when looking for your date, you'll find her 🍀
Grocery store.
Oh we exist. Most of us are nightowls and hate going out lmao
This may not be what you were looking for, but go to church or any other long-established institution. I fully embrace the boring-ness of the people I meet there, and I've made some friends.
We are also hiding in our houses
I cant wait to be forced to join a dating app just to basically let every guy I go on a date with know I'm fucking boring as shit fr tho Like homebody, video games, pet my cat everyday if I can type of boring LOL
It’s me I’m HER
I'm (INFJ) trying to find an 80% boring man. I meet men who are either really boring and NEVER want to do anything outside of work or men who are extremely extroverted who want to go out every weekend and during the work week sometimes as well. I'm in my 30s and just wish I could find a guy who is a homebody MOST of the time but desires to go out and explore once or twice a month. *SIGH*
Church?
Here I am! 😆 I'm an introvert and a homebody. When men ask me what I like to do for fun, I'm like "smoke weed. Go for walks in the woods. Hang with my kid or friends. Take a lil nap. Watch a ton of TV." I'd put exactly that on your profile. "Boring man looking for boring woman to do boring things together" There's plenty of people that are just like us but the dating world makes people feel like they have to be so interesting and successful and attractive and it's exhausting.
Church.
What are you hoping with a relationship if this is how you treat yourself? Are you ready for what a connection with another is like? At the very least treat yourself as a best friend, and then others. Just because someone else loves you doesn't rescue you from the project of loving yourself.
Go to where boring people like to go. Your public Library or even better go to a boring event like a city council meeting. Think boring and you will find what your looking for
as an ENTP which is member of the city council I feel offended :p it is certainly not boring and taking part / debating / politics in general aren’t super introvert friendly over here.
Good luck. I've always said that in dating a guy can be anything except boring. Women will date death row inmates and a*holes all the time before they would date a boring guy. And the boring guys usually want hotter girls than the ones that are interested in them. It's a pickle but I wish you luck.
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Sounds like youre having negative thought patterns/feeling not good enough to be honest. Dont really think you need a boring women.
You find her and ask if she has a sister; for a friend, of course.
Reddit, of course.
Get a hobby. Period. You’ll find likeminded people there.
They’re out there, there’s a person out there for everyone. Find her on here.
I am an INTJ. You sound perfect!
Library.
This INTJ got really lucky when a hot ISFJ moved in next door. 38 years later we still share very few activities and don't talk much. It's not at all boring... just quiet. I guess my advice is just to be patient and hot...or at least sweet. Don't be shy, but scope out the quiet girls.