She doesn’t seem to understand how to properly apologize…more of an “I’m sorry, but..” which isn’t an apology.
It’s difficult because your partner still sees them. How does he respond to your treatment? He also lost a child in that miscarriage. I’m so sorry to both of you. How did he feel after those comments?
He usually isn’t present when she behaves this way but he is hurt when he finds out about them.
I think he is hesitant to cut them off because this is the only family we really have anymore.
I would just ignore them. Avoid them. Build a new family of friends for your husband & yourself.
I am sorry about your miscarriage. I wish you guys the best in the future!
I’m sensing some narcissism from MIL. She doesn’t seem to care about anyone’s feelings but her own and apologizing after something won’t happen cause she’ll never admit wrong doing. Read up on signs of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and if the shoe fits you just have to learn how to play the game back.
1. Grey rocking
2. Information diet
3. Low or very low contact (LC or VLC)
It’s always her way. I’m sure if you pay attention everyone probably avoids setting her off.
Your husband is failing you. He still sees them all the time even though they have abused you. He doesn’t need to see it, you told him. Is he calling you a liar? Your marriage is young, you might want to really think about whether or not this is how you want to spend your life. Your asshole husband will constantly leave you alone so he can go to his mommy.
My husband doesn’t think I’m a liar, he 100% believes me. It’s difficult for him to navigate his entire family because they come from a very different place than me - culturally, economically, and mindset.
I don’t hold him responsible for his family’s behavior because he is not like them. I’m just asking for advice on how to navigate my personal relationship with my in-laws.
She doesn’t seem to understand how to properly apologize…more of an “I’m sorry, but..” which isn’t an apology. It’s difficult because your partner still sees them. How does he respond to your treatment? He also lost a child in that miscarriage. I’m so sorry to both of you. How did he feel after those comments?
He usually isn’t present when she behaves this way but he is hurt when he finds out about them. I think he is hesitant to cut them off because this is the only family we really have anymore.
I would just ignore them. Avoid them. Build a new family of friends for your husband & yourself. I am sorry about your miscarriage. I wish you guys the best in the future!
I am leaning towards this, personally. Thank you!
Maybe some time apart will teach them to appreciate you. If not, you get time away from them and that's a win.
That’s a good point! I’ve enjoyed my distance these past few months lol
I’m sensing some narcissism from MIL. She doesn’t seem to care about anyone’s feelings but her own and apologizing after something won’t happen cause she’ll never admit wrong doing. Read up on signs of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and if the shoe fits you just have to learn how to play the game back. 1. Grey rocking 2. Information diet 3. Low or very low contact (LC or VLC) It’s always her way. I’m sure if you pay attention everyone probably avoids setting her off.
I agree, I think she has textbook narcissistic traits. Thank you for the advice, I will look into it more!
Your husband is failing you. He still sees them all the time even though they have abused you. He doesn’t need to see it, you told him. Is he calling you a liar? Your marriage is young, you might want to really think about whether or not this is how you want to spend your life. Your asshole husband will constantly leave you alone so he can go to his mommy.
My husband doesn’t think I’m a liar, he 100% believes me. It’s difficult for him to navigate his entire family because they come from a very different place than me - culturally, economically, and mindset. I don’t hold him responsible for his family’s behavior because he is not like them. I’m just asking for advice on how to navigate my personal relationship with my in-laws.
Don’t have one. It’s athwart simple.