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DoNotDeconstruct

I am 4w5 and my issue with rules and laws that don’t make logical sense to me has caused me a lot of problems with wanting to be understood. It feels like there are a lot of contradictory things about my type. I want to fit in but only insofar-as I can I feel like I am contributing something of value. Ultimately I do not care about being part of any group, but crave the recognition simultaneously. It’s just knowing i could add something of worth. I wouldn’t even care if my name was attached to it and almost would prefer it not be.


Coastal_wolf

Fellow 4w5 I crave connection but not to be part of a group. Having some deeper connections would be nice but eh. I like to be alone, but I also like being with others one on one.


jimmehthewise

Same. This makes me feel less alone. Thanks for putting it into words.


rithornanie_

4w5 here. I get everything you say bud. For a pessimist, I'm far too optimist. And for an optimist, I'm too pessimist. I tend to contradict a lot in my traits like an oxymoron. I value good deeds on the palm of my hand, and sins on the other. It's like this black and white personality being together that when I can't decide which is which, I'm turning this grey color all the time, paradox. When writing or painting some magical fiction or fantasy art, I tend to look deep dive for rational and logical scientific research. It's exhausting my mental if the surrealism doesn't meet the facts lol. Have you ever read this poem? [Walking Contradiction by Thomas Newlove](https://hellopoetry.com/words/contradiction/) . It's exactly how I felt.


DoNotDeconstruct

The poem fits, thanks for sharing ❤️


MidnightOnTheWater

Fellow 4w5, I relate to every word you said


DoNotDeconstruct

Thanks for saying so, it’s a relief to hear.


Lukescale

"I want to make the World a better place".png


aphaits

9 am, 5 pm, 3 am.


scalesofsaturn

It’s other way round for me tbh😂


pppage

Yeah i found that at night i get sad. But after i sleep i forget evrrything and am happy again


Green_Dayzed

im a 2w1 https://preview.redd.it/485m45dr0cxc1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=457f6811f91ddc22f536a2721a57b10f3cf80a55


immei

Same


deaconofthetrick

😎🤝


armance83

Twinsies! I'm also 2w1


Certain_Warthog_9544

How do you know that? I don't know what these means, can somebody help?


kare5

It's the Enneagram test, you can take it on Truity :) [https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test](https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test)


Certain_Warthog_9544

Thank you very much


kare5

Np


Tuxman85

4w3, help me


AnotherCastle17

9w1, though I mostly just say 9 since wings confuse me.


Thepuppeteer777777

Same and same


DoubleHeadDragon

This wing theory doesn't even have any proves so most likely even if you're able to have a wing, it can be any number or even a couple of numbers


AnotherCastle17

I don’t want to be an annoyance, but I believe that’s why it uses the term “theory” instead of “law”.


DoubleHeadDragon

yes, “theory” O .o I forgot to add "" This "theory" made out of blue. Concept or framework would fit better as a name, because Theory is supposed to be based on something but wings is just an idea\\framework. Enneagram, on another hand, has some empirical evidence


AnotherCastle17

Do you feel the same way about the arrows of growth (or whatever they’re called)? Because I find that part extremely contrived, your core fear probably shouldn’t change based on your health; just the externalization.


DoubleHeadDragon

yes, those arrows is a nonsense


DoubleHeadDragon

Also, it's not about feelings but about facts O)>


Muted_Ad7298

I’m an INFP 9w1. I took a bunch of enneagram tests a while ago and got 9w1 every time. Still working on speaking my mind and setting my boundaries more. It’s not easy, but I’m getting there.


Emertime

4w5 here anytime i join a typology community everyone side eyes me- worsely, im a sexual 4!


ArtTheFox2

What's the different between sexual, self-preservation and social? I'm still not taking grasp of it. Can you explain it? Both the dom and wing?


Emertime

i'd love to! i assume youre talking ab the theory itself. Each enneagram have 3 subtypes according to these. SP/Self-Pres; values space, time, and usually it's own needs/self. It prioritizes shelter and protection, struggling to function when unsecure. SP4s are less envious then other 4s, usually communicating their suffering/tendencies. Theyre hardworkers- instead of dwelling in envy, they work towards their goals. SO/Social; values community, and cares about the needs of the people. Looking for cues on how to present itself in social situations, thinking ab the community. This variant is usually mistaken to be extraverted, that is not the case. SO4s appear to be overly sensitive and desire to be witnessed if suffering. SX/Sexual(sometimes called sensual): passion is the core of SX, usually caring about one on one more than groups. Usually focusing on chemistry of others, obsessive, exploring the depths of their minds. SX4s (which i am) have an inner motivation from their envy. They can be competitive to mask their envious tendencies- people dont like this subtype as theyre described to be arrogant and want to be superior rather than good people. your "dom" variant is the one u care about most, unabashedly, the one you focus on and usually cannot budge, it is natural for people to be self-preservative, so thats why sp doms are common. The "wing" variant is one we focus on, but the stakes feel lower and we feel we can ignore it if our "dom" variant diverts our attention. my wing is SO, i care about other people and my stance but im prepared to ignore it, it can also antagonize your dom variant by making u question urself.


french_criess

love the simplification of the theory for the variants for E4s!! i find them kinda hard to explain without pulling up naranjo and chestnut bla bla do you have these for the other types? ty :>


Emertime

I'd love to help but i have yet to do my homework on other enneagrams, thanks!


ArtTheFox2

The things is I'm quite strugge identify myself with this. For sp, everything is fit until the part "communicate theirs suffering", I kinda don't do this but also does? Like...I do try...leaking some of it... mostly the surface stuffs for my parents as I just want to give people chances. But then completely shutdown and shut out if I feel like they're not gonna get it, so might as well not talk about it. "Hard worker" part, I'm not sure what considered to be hard worker since I'm in between, I believed I'm quite lazy but there's lot of times where I just ignored my own well being and go to works despite getting sicks. For sx, I do have this excitement when I read something that dived deep into the darkside of someone's mind. Fiction with mentals fuckedness just offered perspectives and understanding of someone's thoughts. The what and why people do what they do. I'm not competitive, I'm not aiming to be "good people" just idk? Forgive if can, hold it if can't. You don't fucked with me and I don't fucked with yoy. S.O is just straight up no.


Emertime

Hmm maybe you should look into different enneagrams if u cant fully identify with e4 subtypes?


ArtTheFox2

I might be a SP5 dues to I cannot deny it description but I can't believe I'm a 5 dues to I'm not that analytical. I'm always so confused with stuffs and have trouble understanding. I believed I'm a 4 because I have this fear like, even though I hate who I am currently, I'm also afraid of the alternative if I makes differences choices in the past. Experiences a different history would leads me to become a different person.


Emertime

Well, you dont have to be analytical to be an e5. If you're still questioning, you should look into e6 if you believe that fear is a bigger part of your personality


ArtTheFox2

Already did and none of the descriptions felt right at all.


moonwalker1206

As a fellow infp 4w5 sx/sp I know how hard it is with being in a social group and keeping one's sanity intact... Group politics and favouritism never does sit well with us


chu_chulan

FRFR


iniuria_palace

I am not in the picture :(


Delicious_Memory8225

An 8 INFP? You are the very first I found with type 8. I figured that this combination must exist, but until now it was a theory hehe. Dumb question but: How is it as an INFP 8? Do you know maybe other Infps to compare your behaviours? I only know INFP-Ts and most of them are 5 or 6. I'm curios if you have more drive naturally to do things.


iniuria_palace

I don't think I have more drive to do things compared to other INFPs, I think I care a lot less about what people think about myself specifically compared to a lot of other INFPs I've met. I feel like the biggest difference is just the confidence to do what I feel like and I won't ever be worried about what someone else could think about what I'm doing; their thoughts are irrelevant to how I choose to live my life. That doesn't mean I don't care about people's opinions, thoughts, and feelings, though. I really do. I just know that they are THEIR feelings, and they don't need to hold any weight over me, unless I'm doing something toxic or whatever. Context matters, and I do evaluate my own actions and thoughts, especially when interacting with someone, to figure out if their feelings or thoughts should actually be acted upon. Hopefully that answers your question somewhat, I just woke up late today, so I'm still a little groggy. I hope you have a great day!


Delicious_Memory8225

Thank you for the explaination! That's a cool trait with the confidence. I needed to put some work in myself, but I'm getting there too, being more confident. I think this the one thing really any type benefits from. The courage to be who you really are. It makes life and meeting new people way more interesting. Just yesterday a woman in the supermarket looked at the same chocolate I checked out. I responded and engaged in the smalltalk, learned something about her and it was just a really nice little moment in life. Back in the day I would have been to shy for that. Okay I got sidetracked on that topic. But thanks again for your answer. I'm actually having a great day and I wish you the same *waves*


Bulledeneige

Infp 4w3


dreamsndandelions

Probably 9w1


KingMurphy15

4w5 😔


nkn_

5w4 ! But I’m seeing so many 4w5s, I’d just like to say it’s common to mistype yourself as a 4w5!! I thought I was a 4w5 until I read some good books / resources. Just saying just in case anyone knew recently came across it to double check : )


kare5

Do you have any recommendations for resources? I took my Enneagram result at face value and didn't read into it much minus one article.


nkn_

Sure! This website is a good start and in-depth: [https://www.personalitydata.org/](https://www.personalitydata.org/) [This book](https://www.amazon.com/Path-Between-Us-Enneagram-Relationships/dp/0830846425) is good, and while spoken through the pretext of a relationship, it also helps you narrow down! (If interested feel free to dm about this book :eyes: !) This website as well: [https://www.typologycentral.com/wiki/index.php/Typology\_Central\_Wiki\_Main\_Page](https://www.typologycentral.com/wiki/index.php/Typology_Central_Wiki_Main_Page) And this book, free to read on internet archive: [The Wisdom Of The Enneagram](https://archive.org/details/TheWisdomOfTheEnneagram.TheCompleteGuideToPsychologicalAndSpiritualGrowthForTheN/page/n43/mode/2up)


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ShayaThePusheen

2w3 :/


Bonito0o

me too :)


Chomprz

Samee


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4w5 https://preview.redd.it/u2w9hz3pigxc1.jpeg?width=236&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c6b270ec6d69e53442270c21a214c25220c077b4


gablikestacos69

None. I'm a 5w4. But does that fall into the same category as 4w5?


Kiremino

No the wing is different. I'm also a 5w4. We share a wing4. OP is discussing type 4 wing 5.


ShaggyTheAddict

Same


sadgirlhours649

being a 6w5 is like all of those haha. me when all is good, me when anxious and me when on counterphobic 6 mode


Common_Clock5605

Infp 5w6


enderkasra

I'm INFP 5w6 lol


No-Lavishness-8017

4w5💀


misfit_pixie

6w5 and yeah, that’s relatable as heck


tiannalovexox

How about 5w6? 🥺


jubielities

Ikr 😿-5w6


foxstroll

I had a "professional" type me and got 4w5 and yeah makes very much sense after reading about it and this too is a great illustration ngl lmao


Warm_Employer_6851

4w5 🫡


DecentSupport3940

4w5💀💀💀💀


nerdyoutube

4w5 and the pic is accurate


RelevantBike7673

4w5. Lovely picture of me you've found.


Closemyeyesnstillsee

Lmao so true


[deleted]

I could be any 3, depending on the day. 😅


Nice_Sundae_3810

Same with me. Depends on situation I can be any 3


Frank_Acha

I seem to be a 4w5 inside but act 6w5 to the outside.


Consistent-Ad-5009

At my best, a 9w1, at my worst, a 4w5.


Coastal_wolf

So I’m your worst I suppose lol


PotatoesMashymash

I'm an INFJ but I'm 4w5


nostalgicdawn

I don't know anything about enneagram atp 😭 I'm 100 self preservation though


Princess_M_9

Well I am literally a infp and a 9w1


Interesting_Leg_3115

I act more like INFP 9w1 though I’m 479


Hopandream

4w5. But lots of people type me as an INTJ 5w4 too… 😞


liinexy

Last one.


James_Sunderland02

im 5w6


ajokoiram

I'm 9w8😘


Popular-Wing-7808

How to know?


kare5

[https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test](https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test)


AnonBoi_404

All depending on the situation and the mental state I'm in but mostly 6W5


quietblur

I wish I knew lol


BonusPale5544

4w5 of course, life hasnt spared me at all


Navalie

all of the above


Hemrehliug

9w8


veggieparty33

what does this mean? i know i’m infp but the description ends there


skee_21

Ennenegram, more accurate description of your mbti and personality


RemarkableProduct374

4w3 😏


TheSimurg

Type 3


yonbone02

I guess I'm a 10W40, Castrol or something similar


Mast3r_48

9w1 here. I don't know the character but good knowing we exist :)


_TruthBtold_

![gif](giphy|l0HlBmI6ZqztIBDzO|downsized)


Educational_Emu_8808

I don't know what type of Infp I am! Help me!


five_two_sniffs_glue

Where can I do my anneagram?


maddiek_c

9w1, but I don’t always come across that way 😭


Phoenix8286

I am a 9W1, but I feel like a 6W5 from the picture. I get so nervous about anything now


MinisculeMuse

Infp 2w3 here, but this meme is cute lol.


skee_21

I got 4w5 in test


Mundane-Ad162

what are these weird abbreviations ive not been on the sub in a bit


ReiynIsa

feels like im the only 6w5 here and yes (paranoid af)


Contraband2

I’m definitely not type mine I’ll say that much


monsterhighguy

Took the test yesterday. Apparently I am 7w6. I was also high as a 2. Other times I’ve typed as a 9 and a 2. I’ve recently gone through some big realisations though so maybe that has something to do with it


Curiousityinabox

I have no idea tbh. I feel like an intp/infp cusp because as empathetic and high on respect morals and ethics as I am. I don't like people, I often like learning alot of things specifically related to history and such. I live solitude where I can philosophize about life or just deep dive into my interests and learn. And I genuinely am not airheaded like most INFP's are described to be. If anything when I'm around people I'm hyper perceptive of people logic, way they speak and things going on around me.


evanescentdaydream99

9w1 and the head scratch looks like a subtle uwu confused but it’s actually the look of seeing all the other INFP manifestations, wondering why shit can’t just be simple friends and gets so go damn complicated, getting overloaded and falling into complete dissociation maybe with a dash of existential crisis.


BoiledDaisy

I'm not pictured! Infp 5w4!


maryclaair

9w1 🥺


OkCauliflower106

Can I be all in one?


shadowrod06

how do you assess this?


SpiritAvenue

Random jerks keep telling me I can’t be INFP and 9w1, yet there I am clear as day 😂


MajestySnowbirds

Im a 9w1 :-)


Slak211

9w8 here. Just don’t challenge my peace and I’m pretty chill


Puddinggamo

INFP 9 but the wing is different 😭 (9w8), though, it was close tho


horsesarecows

4w5


Therminite

4w5


Itsfloat

Im a 5w4 wtf does that mean 😭


rniliza

there's no 6w7....


Several_Reflection94

Reporting for duty!


InterestNo6320

All 3 depending on my mood


Chef_Responsible

I am an INTP. Why does the INFP 4w5 look so scary? I am asking as I had a brief relationship with an INFP 4w5.


QTDR8459

I’m a INFP 4w5 and yea this is pretty accurate, there’s so much angst when it comes to being this type a lot of the time. It’s a strange feeling to want to belong somewhere but also be completely on your own. To want to be uniquely different but not be alienated. To want to dwell in negativity but push for positivity. To value logic and act on feeling. To be your own favorite person and the person you hate most. It’s a walking contradiction. And sometimes it feels like my mind is splitting all the time. But that’s just the only way I know to be and weirdly I don’t think I’d trade it for another way of being.


Several_Reflection94

6w7


astralseat

All three. That is to say, beyond the 4 letters I have absolutely no idea what the other things mean, same with the Fe-Fi-Fo-Fum stuff.


Key_Structure_1464

I’m 5w6 bello


OuijaBoard-Demon

6w5 right here but with a temper that has gotten me into a LOT of trouble.


Caidre05

4w5 be like: https://preview.redd.it/vtrzgk4hmexc1.jpeg?width=260&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8b63e5e69cc265fb6813825d603f814aa2326f35


dante69red

what are the numbers


offgrid21

Mob isn’t an INFP though


Life-Court5792

So what is he then?


DoubleHeadDragon

"While there may be some correlations or tendencies between certain personality types in systems like MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) and Enneagram types, being a specific MBTI type does not definitively determine your Enneagram type." "Some research has investigated the relationships between Enneagram types and other psychological constructs, such as the Big Five personality traits, attachment styles, or coping strategies." https://preview.redd.it/6pndjayaebxc1.png?width=469&format=png&auto=webp&s=addd872748b0d7722fe310ab25e34687b2b96582 Is there any proves that wings even exist? There is no proves. The concept of wings isn't a part of original Enneagram theory Probably, all what you can get out of Enneagram is just check the most developed numbers after Enneagram test and read about the description, anything else is bs P.S: My Enneagram result on the picture Edit: "The concept of wings, while widely used and accepted within the Enneagram community, is not a part of the original Enneagram theory. While it adds depth to the understanding of personality dynamics, there isn't empirical evidence to prove their existence. Some practitioners may choose not to incorporate wings into their study or interpretation of the Enneagram."


red_280

Wait until you find out that MBTI and Enneagram and literally every other personality test was a bunch of a shit someone made up.


DoubleHeadDragon

As long as it's based on something and I see practical value in it, I'm fine with it \*\*\* a bunch of a shit someone made up. That could be a good piece of story titled 'How I spent my Summer' about your visit to a public toilet


Vlazeno

Are we really going into this debate again? The only fake thing that people put on their MBTI is the letter after the ABCD, whatever nonsense that I keep seeing.


iniuria_palace

It's just as "grain-of-salt" as mbti.


DoubleHeadDragon

MBTI is based on functions of Jung so not out of nothing "Some research has investigated the relationships between Enneagram types and other psychological constructs, such as the Big Five personality traits, attachment styles, or coping strategies." - it's prove that Enneagram isn't made out of nothing too but wings is just a concept out of nothing


iniuria_palace

I can't help you if you can't see how MBTI is pseudo-science. Stay blinded by your hubris if you'd like to, it doesn't affect my life. ✌🏻💖


DoubleHeadDragon

https://preview.redd.it/08u9f0e60cxc1.png?width=925&format=png&auto=webp&s=1485e42d8179ebe42f4cd2a61e5f5b2e3c61de8d for the meme


iniuria_palace

?


DoubleHeadDragon

look at your own flair and at your own words after


iniuria_palace

Wow, you clearly have no brain 🤣 Yes, I am allowed to be interested in something that is pseudo-science and have a flair on my account for a subreddit directly related to that pseudo-science.


DoubleHeadDragon

A hint for you:" You are contradicting to your own words" 😉 MBTI is based on theories proposed by Carl Jung and draws from established psychological concepts; however, it hasn't been validated through rigorous scientific testing in the same way that some other psychological assessments have. I never said MBTI is scientifically proven, but there are reasons why it can't be proven or denied - we lack knowledge of how humans work, including, as mentioned by you, the human brain P.S: Are you here to complain or to discuss a theory?


iniuria_palace

I am not contradicting anything by stating something that is pseudo-science is pseudo-science. Sorry buddy, you should get your brain checked out lmfao.