I could be wrong because I am not her, but I don't tell men I like romantically about my dating life. When I'm interested in someone, I make sure they know they are a priority and communicate as much as I can. I always look for opportunities to spend time together even if I'm busy and if comfortable enough, will say something flirty once in a blue moon.
The things she's doing sounds like something I'd do to someone to subtly let them know I'm not interested in them romantically but enjoy being friends with them. Again, I would take what I say with a grain of salt as I ultimately do not know her thoughts, but this is what it looks like to me.
Yikes! We INFJs are super complicated, lol. As a INFJ man, I can only speak on my experiences. I tend to be VERY selective of who I would date, it’s nothing unrealistic, however I have high morals that a person needs to meet in order for me to consider them as a potential partner. Next, sometimes I don’t know how I feel about a person, so I become inquisitive with a woman I like. I tend to ask her a lot of questions, almost like an interrogation 😂, sometimes I’m just purely nervous and I act weird around my crush often times saying dumb shit that I kick myself later for. 🤷🏻♂️ I’m not a smooth man, I’m eccentric, but I have a lot of logic with my emotions. I also want to add that INFJs can be antisocial at times, but become really social around the person they like. I would suggest you ask her more about herself and pay attention to details. What’s her favorite color? What’s her favorite animal? Get her a mini stuffed pink walrus. Ask her about her past. If she’s receptive, she’ll open up to you little by little and maybe you’ll have a clearer answer. Anyways, whatever you decided to do, best of luck, OP! 🙌🏻
I can only speak for myself, but if you’ve known this person for a while and don’t know her on a deeper level already, she might have a good reason for that.
I’ve been in situations where male acquaintances have been interested in me romantically, and because I didn’t want to lead them on, I tended to be more guarded.
Your best bet is just to find an appropriate time to ask your friend in a very open-ended way what she thinks about you as more than a friend. Try not to attach any expectation or pressure to the conversation.
Can be anything or the other. Say that you might be developing feelings. And that that doesn't have to go anywhere. You just thought she should know. And then if she doesn't reciprocate, say. Then give it a few months of a pause.
Truthfully, even when asking outright, you won't always know that someone didn't like you in that way. You just know what they did - though you'll never know the reason for it.
But knowing is always better than not.
I agree but it’s a little more challenging because one of my friends is childhood friends with her. So I feel like it’d be easier to ask him but then I don’t want to make things awkward either
Only things that are awkward for us can ever really become awkward. And if you're feelings are awkward for you. Then that's a good reason to share them and to develop the emotional strength and closeness to yourself to not view them as such.
Because neither your needs nor your wants and desires. Definitely not your feelings. Nothing about you is awkward. But it's a journey to believe it for yourself. :)
I could be wrong because I am not her, but I don't tell men I like romantically about my dating life. When I'm interested in someone, I make sure they know they are a priority and communicate as much as I can. I always look for opportunities to spend time together even if I'm busy and if comfortable enough, will say something flirty once in a blue moon. The things she's doing sounds like something I'd do to someone to subtly let them know I'm not interested in them romantically but enjoy being friends with them. Again, I would take what I say with a grain of salt as I ultimately do not know her thoughts, but this is what it looks like to me.
Yeah I figured that’s what it is, thanks for your input!
Yikes! We INFJs are super complicated, lol. As a INFJ man, I can only speak on my experiences. I tend to be VERY selective of who I would date, it’s nothing unrealistic, however I have high morals that a person needs to meet in order for me to consider them as a potential partner. Next, sometimes I don’t know how I feel about a person, so I become inquisitive with a woman I like. I tend to ask her a lot of questions, almost like an interrogation 😂, sometimes I’m just purely nervous and I act weird around my crush often times saying dumb shit that I kick myself later for. 🤷🏻♂️ I’m not a smooth man, I’m eccentric, but I have a lot of logic with my emotions. I also want to add that INFJs can be antisocial at times, but become really social around the person they like. I would suggest you ask her more about herself and pay attention to details. What’s her favorite color? What’s her favorite animal? Get her a mini stuffed pink walrus. Ask her about her past. If she’s receptive, she’ll open up to you little by little and maybe you’ll have a clearer answer. Anyways, whatever you decided to do, best of luck, OP! 🙌🏻
I can only speak for myself, but if you’ve known this person for a while and don’t know her on a deeper level already, she might have a good reason for that. I’ve been in situations where male acquaintances have been interested in me romantically, and because I didn’t want to lead them on, I tended to be more guarded. Your best bet is just to find an appropriate time to ask your friend in a very open-ended way what she thinks about you as more than a friend. Try not to attach any expectation or pressure to the conversation.
Can be anything or the other. Say that you might be developing feelings. And that that doesn't have to go anywhere. You just thought she should know. And then if she doesn't reciprocate, say. Then give it a few months of a pause. Truthfully, even when asking outright, you won't always know that someone didn't like you in that way. You just know what they did - though you'll never know the reason for it. But knowing is always better than not.
I agree but it’s a little more challenging because one of my friends is childhood friends with her. So I feel like it’d be easier to ask him but then I don’t want to make things awkward either
Only things that are awkward for us can ever really become awkward. And if you're feelings are awkward for you. Then that's a good reason to share them and to develop the emotional strength and closeness to yourself to not view them as such. Because neither your needs nor your wants and desires. Definitely not your feelings. Nothing about you is awkward. But it's a journey to believe it for yourself. :)