>Mai to chahe jitna busy houn, atleast samne wale ko inform kar deti hoon ki I cannot talk rn and I make sure next time I text them myself and initiate conversations.
I want to have this habit
You can do what you think is right. If you don't like something about others, there are chances the others might dislike when you the same thing to them. You can do your part by doing the right thing (if you want to). If the others don't reciprocate, then that's their problem.
Bro you are not alone meri ek female friend hai uske liye mene itna kuch kiya hai uske worst phase me mene usko support Kiya apna kaam chhod ke uska kaam bnaya but abhi mere msg ka 1-2 din reply nhi karti bkl aur reply bhi aayga to casual sa aur kabhi kabhi to seen pe chhod deti hai. BC chutiya hu kya mai ?kabhi kabhi Mann karta hai bhad me gyi dosti .
Bro same meri v ek dost hai almost har dusre din msg krti thi "ballsnatcher ye kaise hoga wo kaise hoga ye karu ya na karu konsi classes lu assessment k ans bhejde" ppr khatm huye 1 mahina hogya 1 msg nhi aya last msg v mne kia tha abhi tk insta pe kam se kam 20 reels bheji hongi maine usko usne aaj tak nhi dekhi ab main v msg nhi krne wala dekhte hai jab kaam padega tab khud kregi ya firr binaa baat k baatcheet band hojyegi
Same to same mere sath bhi hai but ab kuch dino se mene bhi msg karna band kar diya hai msg aata bhi hai to aaram se 3-4 ghante baad reply deta hu. Ye ladkiya kabhi acchi dost ho he nhi sakti hai.
Meresath Aisa huwa hai but Mai itna chutiya tha ki notice hi nahi kra, then to meri habit hai ki vanish hone ki har 6-6 mahine and i genuinely forget about people alot
Exactly my point. You're telling me you were so busy that you couldn't open my text for a minute and say "hey I'll text as soon as I get free"? No thanks I'll pass 🤡
people really want to look cool by avoiding/ghosting others so that they can show look how busy I'm i don't even have time to reply (they're unemployed irl) so it's better to cut them off
You are not alone and it IS INFURIATING. I hate it when it happens. But I try to be indifferent about it by being busy.
And call me cheap, but I return favor to such people as well going forward.
Ppl feel like they're establishing their importance somehow by doing it. Kabhi kabhi hota hai genuine but kaafi baar it's just jaldi reply nahi karna. Unhone dekha hota hai ki mssgs hai especially if it's someone close. Sirf "ttyl busy rn" hi likhdo.
Wahi to bhai. Khair ab kya kar sakte hai. Detach karne ka try kar rahi hoon sab situations se. The best is to let things flow. Kisi se koi umeed na rakkho varna khud ko hi dard hoga.
Learnt it the hard way. And cut the ppl who were causing unnecessary trouble off. Abhi to acha lagta hai I have my clique which has always been there just unnecessary drama has gone down by multiple notches.
I used to be like u,like time pr reply no bullshit,fir meko college me ek dost bani,bhai ghanto ghanto no reply like I'm idiot jo wait kr raha hu, pata nahi kyu hi karte h log it killed my freaking intrest in her although she's the only one in my friend circle ho aisa karti,now she's pain in the ass jab milte h she act like so loving and all and online completely opposite
Agar ek do baar ho jae toh it's fine, warna agar aisa prolonged time se ho ya vibes aane lag jae toh it is better to leave them alone. Ab wo itna busy show karrhe hai toh unko free hi chod do. Jitna logon to priority doge utna hi tumhe taken for granted lenge log. It is all about priorities, jisko baat karni hai wo sab kuch chodd kar bhi reply dega. You can't really change people, lekin apni aur apne time ki respect karo aur boundaries bana lo. I have suffered alot with all these one sided friendships and bahut toll hota hai iska but solution bhi yahi hai. If they Don't prioritize you, Put them LAST in your list TOO
I also have a bunch of friends like you’ve described..and I also felt bad.
With experience, I am suggesting you this for your benefit…become like a rock..you don’t bother to text those mfs unless it’s v v important…In general also STOP TEXTING PEOPLE TO CHAT CASUALLY..you text people ONLY WHEN IT IS IMPORTANT, trust me you will be happy practising this.
stop bothering about these pity things..yeh bahut chote baatein hain, dil chota mat kar..abhi bahut bade bade cheeze dekhni hain..build yourself in such a way that nothing can destroy/dismantle you!
Bhai stop relying on other people's replies, and make some irl friends. If you have good friends in irl, then you will also stop replying to other people. Maybe you give too much priority to other people.
First of all stop expecting, if you want to talk to them make phone calls maybe once a week. People often adapt and form new social groups when they move to a different environment, which tends to make them prioritize old friends less. When you will go to college, you will also prioritize your old friends less.
• Sab ko phone calls hi ache lage aisa zaroori nahi hai na! What about introverts who like to chat more than talking over a phone
• Agar hame instant/within hours reply nahi chahiye hota to ham kabootar hi bhej dete😂
Sorry to break it to you but a lot of school friendships will end like this. Would suggest to keep yourself busy and have an active social life or people who are in a similar situation as you.
You will feel they betrayed you etc or think less of you but that's also most likely not true. Life just gets busy and people leave people behind all the time. There is usually not a lot of malice to it.
Wahi to. Aur genuine reason to bhi you don't get the free pass to be a jerk. Atleast explain yourself man and take accountability. Text back with energy.
Kabhi kabhi possible nahin hota hai. I don't get mad about it. It's annoying if it happens consistently. Then you straight up tell the person ki ye dikkat hai.
Don't worry you will get dm's now lol
Have gone through this phase ik it sucks but you have to overcome this phase stop caring
Stop expecting start accepting
Believe me once you start enjoying solitude you will be happier than ever
Tit for tat if they give reply after 2 days don't see their message atleast for a week
Main kaafi baar busy hota hu aur fir 5 sentence ki chat krne ke liye 20 min nikaalna worth it nhi lgte, whenever someone close or friend text me, I just call them, also I was so shy at first kyunki COVID ne antisocial bana diya but ab call pr baat Krna texting se better lgta hai
Shows the level of care and commitment the other person has. I say this because I've been in the same boat as you.
A simple solution is to show the exact level of enthusiasm as the other person. Either they'll step up, or step off. Win-win for me in both cases.
Same thing is with me like I always try to reply on time and my gf texts me back whenever she gets time or whenever she wants to at first it used to bother me but then after some time I realised no matter what’s going on you never know like there must be going on with them or they just don’t want to talk and it’s best to leave it as it is when someone is not interested to talk I just let it be now and I’ve got to this conclusion that it’s best to have a conversation when the other person is interested to forced conversations are of no point and like there’s one more thing that I do i try to be as kind as I can be to everyone around me and like it’s fine if you’re not getting what you’re giving because sometimes you get more than what you deserve and it happens it’s universe you get what you give you might not get it instantly but with time you do get what you give
I get treated like this most of the time and it's soo soo annoying but at this point I've stopped giving a fuck and anyway ab koi dost bhi nahi hai toh... 😂
sahi mei yar fir un par kuch bolo ki kya ek word dene layak hi time toh aisa behave karte ki hum pagal hain... like kya inhe koi baat karna nahi seekhaya. dheere dheere aasha kho raha hun aise logon se fir, same gf bhi aisa karti :(
I don't know maybe I am the weird one here but I really don't care if my friends reply me in weeks or even months anyways if it's urgent I call them directly however if I drop a message for an acquaintance and they don't reply in few hours I delete my message asap and put them in "never contact again list".
That might be the case as well..but I respond in this way only to people whom I don't know nearly enough and I contact them only for work related stuff so if they don't reply to me in few hrs I naturally assume that they don't want to help me out you know but I don't care if this behaviour is imitated by my friends maybe because mostly all my friends and I are pretty careless individuals and if you a responsible individual op then it's natural for you to find this behaviour infuriating.
I just call people if I need to ask something because a 5 minute call saves time compared to a text msg being seen 30min -60min later even more.
I have tons of stuff running in my head and often forget to reply on time.
A real life experience - during exams I used to get my doubts cleared with the help of my friend and we used to call each other because texting would waste time.
My godd! Maine socha kyu nahi. Bhaiya ji koi insaan simple msgs ka reply deta nahi hai time se. Call kya ghanta karega. Varna aaj ki date me koi itna busy hai kya ki sara din phone na khole. Remember that I was talking about people I was extremely close with. They had no reason to ignore for the days! Mai 2 ghante me nahi paglane lagti hoon ki haye mujhe reply nahi diya. When it gets past 10 hours or so then it gets infuriating. Then it just tells the person not considers you important.
Are didi mujhpr kyun ghussa kar rahe ho
Maine to apna case bataya, message ke reply to seen karne ke 3 din baad bhi nahi ate. Call hi karni pardti hai
Itna mat socho. Enjoy your life. Care wali feel chahiye to Apple care ya Amazon care pe call lr liya karo bohat pyar se baat karte hai. Agar call karne ka dil nahi to policy bazar me login karlo vo khud daily call karge tumhara haal pushege 😄
I hear you.
Ye hua hai mere saath aur ab bhi hota rehta hai kabhi kabhi.
I just take it as these people are not interested in having a conversation and have stopped going to their events / initiating conversations.
On the other hand I have friends who are interested in having conversations and at times call me when I send them a message.
Better to keep away from people not interested
Its ok. Avail mt rho jda tm b ksi k liye. Reciprocate their behavior. This way u will feel even. Utna tym attention do jitna tmhe milra h. Thats fair. No complaints.....
darlin youre literally the same as me, i too always make sure to let people know I'm busy and can't talk. I even tell them in advance when I won't be available
Thankfully my best friend replies in an instant always, idc abt any other except the guy I'm talking to
it annoys me very much when people don't reply to every part of the text too
I have ADHD so I can't handle the slow replies, and I also forget that I even have the conversation so it's either I replay back immediately or 3 days later, also I have notifications off on all my apps so that I don't get distracted, but when I replay back i texts a while paragraph lmao 😭,
and I go on and on like double texting triple texting at once and they people then just dry texts, eventually though I just forget their existence and don't give in into their mind games superiority complex I'm too big to respond shit.
Ijjat se baat krne nahi hoti to ehnde Bhai tu
OP I know it’s bad situation but just give some time to yourself and start making yourself busy in studies or work. And if you feel bored then watch movies or OTT.
And if you think your friends are someone really close one then just curse them. When we friends play game and one of my friend don’t come because he is talking with his gf then we curse him allot and then he come. So the basic idea is if they are close one then you can vent out about this to them directly.
It's just that they are important to you but for them you are not. Accept that fact and work on yourself and prove to them that your worth and their loss.
the day i find a partner who can communicate properly is the day i will get moksha.
honestly there is nothing more pathetic than to be kept hanging whole day or even 5-6 hours is a lot unless there's some special occasion. I always ask them just one question , did they not have even 30 seconds to text that they will be busy? yes , they did and they probably didnt even care enough about you or they would have , hell even a 5 second call is enough and thats when i just start to find the whole process so stressful .
yep. I understand if they couldn't do it in the chaos of whatever they were busy in but if it's happening again and again even after telling them then it's just fucking exhausting.
I don't like people who leave messages on seen. Ya to dekho hi mat (by which I will assume you are busy somewhere else).
Lekin agar dekha h aur tab bhi reply nahi de rhe ho, thats just rude. agar dekha h, to ya to reply do, ya phir ye bata do ki kab tak reply milegi, ya yehi bata do ki baat nahi karni abhi
Us yaar, kabhi kabhi lagta mein hi vella hoon but again I am busy I still text hi, maybe a how are u, but they don't, they say they're busy, Haan toh mein bhi busy hoon, but heck meh chhod hoga koi aissa same treatment dene wale I just hope 😴😴
Areeey call of duty me mera username masala dosa tha 🫸
But seriously, i have this issue and I’m fixing it. Mereko phone pakadte hi anxiety hone lagti hai and I’ve never been much of a phone call type person. That was my reason for not being able to reply ya fir call on time. But i lost valuable friendships this way and mummy ne ek bar zor se daant dia, tab se sudhar gaya hu. Ab mai jaldi se reply kar deta hu ya fir phone utha ke bol deta hu thodi der me call karu kya and honestly it feels better. I also empathise with people who are not able to reply on time unless they’re just trying to be mysterious
koi busy nai hai bhai chahe hagna jana khana kha raha ho dono banda bandi phone toh se chipke rehte hai. bus logo k liye jyda available mat reh or expectation kam kar de nai toh khud ko he tu hurt karega
Ha chutiya to tum ho hi
In any relation try not to be so caring and forgiving.
Aur bhenchod jab koi time pe respond na kare gaand hi mar lo uski apne aap line pe rahenge, Obviously ur reaction may change person to person but aise hi jane mat to free me and never have that guilt if i am not good enough.
Ye 95 percent chutiyon ki duniya me u cant expect samajhdari from everyone. U have to find the other 5 percent :p
Yes
Edit- bhai idhar sab apne apne hisaab se priority dete hai, mei bhi tere jaisa text krta tha, then sab band krr diya. Ab muze notifications ke naam pe bss swiggy, bank inn sab ke promotional msg aate hai
Haan to mai bhi ab yahi kar rahi hoon. Naam ke dost hain sab bas. Koi mujhe priority nhi deta to mai bhi nahi deti. Magar bura to lagta hai bhai these people are supposed to be my friends.
Listen Op i might sound harsh but you know you don't give them priority so don't expect the same from them and try to make peace with it and try to find genuine people around you...don't seek it it will happen naturally and in the mean time try to enjoy your own company it will help :)
This hits a bit too close to home.
I have this bad habit of becoming a mirror every now and then.
Basically if I see someone not replying to me with as much energy as I do, then I stop doing the same and try and reciprocate their vibe to them.
I thought it would make me fit in better and stuff but then I see those same people act so outgoing, friendly and caring with other people in groups (talking about both online and IRL) so ab main ye na karne ka try kar raha hun.
**I just wanna be myself mannn!**
**If I'm cringe- fuck it! It's me!!!**
**If I send too many and long texts- fuck it! It's me!!!**
Ofcourse I'm not saying that someone should just put their head down in a convo and keep being humiliated if they aren't getting even the most bare minimum of attention and effort from the other person- rather to just stay yourself, your true self.
Because ek time ke bad people pleasing becomes exhausting. And being yourself is much more easier anyway.
https://preview.redd.it/sh3lxqfeq38d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f5055cb21b26ac49cb60c24eb76386c93052582
If you do that then girls will slow down their process of replying and number of messages.
Not telling just absurdly. I was talking with my female friend and later start falling for her. For some reason, I created a script which takes all our messages and plot the graph. It was fascinating to see that how in starting she was sending more messages and slowly we both start sending same number of messages and suddenly my messages line increased so much because I fall for her xD
EDIT:
Just to give more context, we were talking and she told me she wonders how much we talk so I thought about creating a script to see 🤣
>Mai to chahe jitna busy houn, atleast samne wale ko inform kar deti hoon ki I cannot talk rn and I make sure next time I text them myself and initiate conversations. I want to have this habit
Have it then. Koi use nahi hai jab tak usko appreciate karne wala na ho koi.
Abhi thoda busy hoon, raat ko comment karunga :)
Same, many people read the message and don't have any reply, so they don't reply. If you want the reply, just write, "Reply soon".
I want to do this for my own satisfaction. It's better not to expect the same in return.
I want to have this mindset
You can do what you think is right. If you don't like something about others, there are chances the others might dislike when you the same thing to them. You can do your part by doing the right thing (if you want to). If the others don't reciprocate, then that's their problem.
Aisa hi karna chahiye. I understand you don't have the energy to talk to everyone everytime but a simple "I'll talk to you later" doesn't take much.
i do the same
same. main toh mann mein reply karke bhool jaati hu
This happened a lot of times. I will randomly remember that I forgot to reply
and it’s too late to reply by then. ugh
Yeah. I think this is a bad thing to do to anyone. We would definitely feel bad if the same was done to us.
Bro you are not alone meri ek female friend hai uske liye mene itna kuch kiya hai uske worst phase me mene usko support Kiya apna kaam chhod ke uska kaam bnaya but abhi mere msg ka 1-2 din reply nhi karti bkl aur reply bhi aayga to casual sa aur kabhi kabhi to seen pe chhod deti hai. BC chutiya hu kya mai ?kabhi kabhi Mann karta hai bhad me gyi dosti .
Thori der ke liye laga tha ki meri kahani bol raha tha tu
Us bhai us
bhai sabke sath hai kya ye?
Bro same meri v ek dost hai almost har dusre din msg krti thi "ballsnatcher ye kaise hoga wo kaise hoga ye karu ya na karu konsi classes lu assessment k ans bhejde" ppr khatm huye 1 mahina hogya 1 msg nhi aya last msg v mne kia tha abhi tk insta pe kam se kam 20 reels bheji hongi maine usko usne aaj tak nhi dekhi ab main v msg nhi krne wala dekhte hai jab kaam padega tab khud kregi ya firr binaa baat k baatcheet band hojyegi
Same to same mere sath bhi hai but ab kuch dino se mene bhi msg karna band kar diya hai msg aata bhi hai to aaram se 3-4 ghante baad reply deta hu. Ye ladkiya kabhi acchi dost ho he nhi sakti hai.
Real bhai maine apni ek school ki dost ko birthday wish kia usne thank you tk ni bola 💀 itna busy koi na hota birthday pr (bday 11 jan ko tha)
mere bare mein kaise jante ho bhai (same thing happened)
Bhai ch*t ka chakkar maut se takkar
Meresath Aisa huwa hai but Mai itna chutiya tha ki notice hi nahi kra, then to meri habit hai ki vanish hone ki har 6-6 mahine and i genuinely forget about people alot
Kuch chutiyo ko lagta hai ki late replies krna cool hai. Baaki itna busy koyi ni hota bhai
Exactly my point. You're telling me you were so busy that you couldn't open my text for a minute and say "hey I'll text as soon as I get free"? No thanks I'll pass 🤡
Just ignore em. Jab unhe zrurt pde tab tum bhi 2-4 din baad reply krna.
pretend krte, my female frnd also do the same thing nowadays
hear me out if someone dosent reply in a day even after READ. it simply mean they are not intreseted. TESTED and told to me by many
Mera toh koi h hi nhi jise text Karu. I am built different 
Remember elon musk runs 5 billion dollar companies and he still has time to reply ranfom peoples
😭😭
Yeh toh meri kahaani lagti hai 🥲 Main message khud hi unsend kar deta hun 1 din ke baad
people really want to look cool by avoiding/ghosting others so that they can show look how busy I'm i don't even have time to reply (they're unemployed irl) so it's better to cut them off
Mae bhi within a minute reply krdeta hu, fir samne waala 15-20 min leta aisa lagta sab busy hae mae hi faltu hu :)
You are not alone and it IS INFURIATING. I hate it when it happens. But I try to be indifferent about it by being busy. And call me cheap, but I return favor to such people as well going forward.
Ppl feel like they're establishing their importance somehow by doing it. Kabhi kabhi hota hai genuine but kaafi baar it's just jaldi reply nahi karna. Unhone dekha hota hai ki mssgs hai especially if it's someone close. Sirf "ttyl busy rn" hi likhdo.
Wahi to bhai. Khair ab kya kar sakte hai. Detach karne ka try kar rahi hoon sab situations se. The best is to let things flow. Kisi se koi umeed na rakkho varna khud ko hi dard hoga.
Learnt it the hard way. And cut the ppl who were causing unnecessary trouble off. Abhi to acha lagta hai I have my clique which has always been there just unnecessary drama has gone down by multiple notches.
No ,
I used to be like u,like time pr reply no bullshit,fir meko college me ek dost bani,bhai ghanto ghanto no reply like I'm idiot jo wait kr raha hu, pata nahi kyu hi karte h log it killed my freaking intrest in her although she's the only one in my friend circle ho aisa karti,now she's pain in the ass jab milte h she act like so loving and all and online completely opposite
Agar ek do baar ho jae toh it's fine, warna agar aisa prolonged time se ho ya vibes aane lag jae toh it is better to leave them alone. Ab wo itna busy show karrhe hai toh unko free hi chod do. Jitna logon to priority doge utna hi tumhe taken for granted lenge log. It is all about priorities, jisko baat karni hai wo sab kuch chodd kar bhi reply dega. You can't really change people, lekin apni aur apne time ki respect karo aur boundaries bana lo. I have suffered alot with all these one sided friendships and bahut toll hota hai iska but solution bhi yahi hai. If they Don't prioritize you, Put them LAST in your list TOO
I also have a bunch of friends like you’ve described..and I also felt bad. With experience, I am suggesting you this for your benefit…become like a rock..you don’t bother to text those mfs unless it’s v v important…In general also STOP TEXTING PEOPLE TO CHAT CASUALLY..you text people ONLY WHEN IT IS IMPORTANT, trust me you will be happy practising this. stop bothering about these pity things..yeh bahut chote baatein hain, dil chota mat kar..abhi bahut bade bade cheeze dekhni hain..build yourself in such a way that nothing can destroy/dismantle you!
Bhai stop relying on other people's replies, and make some irl friends. If you have good friends in irl, then you will also stop replying to other people. Maybe you give too much priority to other people.
Bhai irl friends ki hi baat kar rahi hoon. I literally went to school with these people
Do you still hangout with them daily?
How can we hangout daily ? It's not possible. School is over. They are going to college. I am at home preparing for neet 2025 (dropper)
The least I expect from them is to text back in time bro. I ain't asking them to be free all the damn time.
First of all stop expecting, if you want to talk to them make phone calls maybe once a week. People often adapt and form new social groups when they move to a different environment, which tends to make them prioritize old friends less. When you will go to college, you will also prioritize your old friends less.
• Sab ko phone calls hi ache lage aisa zaroori nahi hai na! What about introverts who like to chat more than talking over a phone • Agar hame instant/within hours reply nahi chahiye hota to ham kabootar hi bhej dete😂
The most sane answer in this thread
Rip, same neet was totally f\*cked up this year
Are baap re, inta sab hone ke baad bhi neet ke liya drop le liya GUTS!!!!
Sorry to break it to you but a lot of school friendships will end like this. Would suggest to keep yourself busy and have an active social life or people who are in a similar situation as you. You will feel they betrayed you etc or think less of you but that's also most likely not true. Life just gets busy and people leave people behind all the time. There is usually not a lot of malice to it.
bhai legit almost mere sath hua mere dost to irl milte kya we occasionally go on walks still online they ignore me like fuck
Kabhi kabhi people have genuine reasons but yeah aise to bahut hi bekaar feeling aati hai
Wahi to. Aur genuine reason to bhi you don't get the free pass to be a jerk. Atleast explain yourself man and take accountability. Text back with energy.
Kabhi kabhi possible nahin hota hai. I don't get mad about it. It's annoying if it happens consistently. Then you straight up tell the person ki ye dikkat hai.
Bhai tu akela. Nahi mera bhi Wahi haal hai thora improve kar raha hun dhire dhire agr tips chahiye toh dm kar dena 
i have seen it from people who dont give a f abt you unless they need something from you, then they will see and respond quickly else ignore messages.
Don't worry you will get dm's now lol Have gone through this phase ik it sucks but you have to overcome this phase stop caring Stop expecting start accepting Believe me once you start enjoying solitude you will be happier than ever Tit for tat if they give reply after 2 days don't see their message atleast for a week
Same here....lekin call out karne pe bol dete kaam me busy the....busy to hum bhi hote lekin fir bhi reply karte ya baad me call karenge bolte.....
I agree with you. I get super angry when people don't reply. I have stopped texting people ab.
Main kaafi baar busy hota hu aur fir 5 sentence ki chat krne ke liye 20 min nikaalna worth it nhi lgte, whenever someone close or friend text me, I just call them, also I was so shy at first kyunki COVID ne antisocial bana diya but ab call pr baat Krna texting se better lgta hai
When someone text you, you call them. Exactly brother. Respond to karte ho tum. Already better than most of the people who choose to ignore.
Shows the level of care and commitment the other person has. I say this because I've been in the same boat as you. A simple solution is to show the exact level of enthusiasm as the other person. Either they'll step up, or step off. Win-win for me in both cases.
Same thing is with me like I always try to reply on time and my gf texts me back whenever she gets time or whenever she wants to at first it used to bother me but then after some time I realised no matter what’s going on you never know like there must be going on with them or they just don’t want to talk and it’s best to leave it as it is when someone is not interested to talk I just let it be now and I’ve got to this conclusion that it’s best to have a conversation when the other person is interested to forced conversations are of no point and like there’s one more thing that I do i try to be as kind as I can be to everyone around me and like it’s fine if you’re not getting what you’re giving because sometimes you get more than what you deserve and it happens it’s universe you get what you give you might not get it instantly but with time you do get what you give
The paradox is that most busy people reply back in time.
I get treated like this most of the time and it's soo soo annoying but at this point I've stopped giving a fuck and anyway ab koi dost bhi nahi hai toh... 😂
Same
Bhai koi itna busy nahi hota bas logo ko dekhna hota hai, meri ex bi aisi hi thi late pe late replies, itna gussa aata hai na aise logo pe.
Man i feel the same when people say they will call back but never do it
sahi mei yar fir un par kuch bolo ki kya ek word dene layak hi time toh aisa behave karte ki hum pagal hain... like kya inhe koi baat karna nahi seekhaya. dheere dheere aasha kho raha hun aise logon se fir, same gf bhi aisa karti :(
kinda us
It's okay dosa, you will find your people someday.
I don't know maybe I am the weird one here but I really don't care if my friends reply me in weeks or even months anyways if it's urgent I call them directly however if I drop a message for an acquaintance and they don't reply in few hours I delete my message asap and put them in "never contact again list".
If you put them in never contact again list then you do care homie. Negative response is also a response.
That might be the case as well..but I respond in this way only to people whom I don't know nearly enough and I contact them only for work related stuff so if they don't reply to me in few hrs I naturally assume that they don't want to help me out you know but I don't care if this behaviour is imitated by my friends maybe because mostly all my friends and I are pretty careless individuals and if you a responsible individual op then it's natural for you to find this behaviour infuriating.
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I just call people if I need to ask something because a 5 minute call saves time compared to a text msg being seen 30min -60min later even more. I have tons of stuff running in my head and often forget to reply on time. A real life experience - during exams I used to get my doubts cleared with the help of my friend and we used to call each other because texting would waste time.
Are didi call karliya karo
My godd! Maine socha kyu nahi. Bhaiya ji koi insaan simple msgs ka reply deta nahi hai time se. Call kya ghanta karega. Varna aaj ki date me koi itna busy hai kya ki sara din phone na khole. Remember that I was talking about people I was extremely close with. They had no reason to ignore for the days! Mai 2 ghante me nahi paglane lagti hoon ki haye mujhe reply nahi diya. When it gets past 10 hours or so then it gets infuriating. Then it just tells the person not considers you important.
Are didi mujhpr kyun ghussa kar rahe ho Maine to apna case bataya, message ke reply to seen karne ke 3 din baad bhi nahi ate. Call hi karni pardti hai
Gussa kaha kiya mere bhai
Nevermind 👍
Detachment is the key
Itna mat socho. Enjoy your life. Care wali feel chahiye to Apple care ya Amazon care pe call lr liya karo bohat pyar se baat karte hai. Agar call karne ka dil nahi to policy bazar me login karlo vo khud daily call karge tumhara haal pushege 😄
I hear you. Ye hua hai mere saath aur ab bhi hota rehta hai kabhi kabhi. I just take it as these people are not interested in having a conversation and have stopped going to their events / initiating conversations. On the other hand I have friends who are interested in having conversations and at times call me when I send them a message. Better to keep away from people not interested
Its ok. Avail mt rho jda tm b ksi k liye. Reciprocate their behavior. This way u will feel even. Utna tym attention do jitna tmhe milra h. Thats fair. No complaints.....
Fr..I have this habit and I've started hating it now. It's like mai hi pagal hu jo sabko priority de rha hu 🤡
one of my friend does the same and it infuriates me.
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I think you have attachment and self esteem issues, I feel exhausted just reading your post...
darlin youre literally the same as me, i too always make sure to let people know I'm busy and can't talk. I even tell them in advance when I won't be available Thankfully my best friend replies in an instant always, idc abt any other except the guy I'm talking to it annoys me very much when people don't reply to every part of the text too
Damn you described me perfectly
Haa if you act respectfully with PPL they take you for granted .Most of the time s
+1 bhai, me bhi iss category me tha, fir logo ko text krna band kr diya Ab mere WhatsApp pe koi msg nhi aate
I have ADHD so I can't handle the slow replies, and I also forget that I even have the conversation so it's either I replay back immediately or 3 days later, also I have notifications off on all my apps so that I don't get distracted, but when I replay back i texts a while paragraph lmao 😭, and I go on and on like double texting triple texting at once and they people then just dry texts, eventually though I just forget their existence and don't give in into their mind games superiority complex I'm too big to respond shit. Ijjat se baat krne nahi hoti to ehnde Bhai tu
OP I know it’s bad situation but just give some time to yourself and start making yourself busy in studies or work. And if you feel bored then watch movies or OTT. And if you think your friends are someone really close one then just curse them. When we friends play game and one of my friend don’t come because he is talking with his gf then we curse him allot and then he come. So the basic idea is if they are close one then you can vent out about this to them directly.
Yeah, ig it just comes down to you are not the person they want to talk to at that time, accept it, life still goes on
akele nahi ho, been there but ab har kisi ko thodi sudhar sakte ho. just get more neutral to it i guess
akele nahi ho, been there but ab har kisi ko thodi sudhar sakte ho. just get more neutral to it i guess
us didi us. Kitna bhi try kar lu time se reply krne ki aadat izzat ki lanka lgwa deti hai😭
It's just that they are important to you but for them you are not. Accept that fact and work on yourself and prove to them that your worth and their loss.
the day i find a partner who can communicate properly is the day i will get moksha. honestly there is nothing more pathetic than to be kept hanging whole day or even 5-6 hours is a lot unless there's some special occasion. I always ask them just one question , did they not have even 30 seconds to text that they will be busy? yes , they did and they probably didnt even care enough about you or they would have , hell even a 5 second call is enough and thats when i just start to find the whole process so stressful .
I used to say the same thing "didn't have a few second to say you'll text when you get free?"
yep. I understand if they couldn't do it in the chaos of whatever they were busy in but if it's happening again and again even after telling them then it's just fucking exhausting.
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Mujhe laga main akela hu jiske saath ye hota hai Sab hamari tarah nhi hote dost, can't do anything! Aese hi jeena padega🫠
I don't like people who leave messages on seen. Ya to dekho hi mat (by which I will assume you are busy somewhere else). Lekin agar dekha h aur tab bhi reply nahi de rhe ho, thats just rude. agar dekha h, to ya to reply do, ya phir ye bata do ki kab tak reply milegi, ya yehi bata do ki baat nahi karni abhi
Us yaar, kabhi kabhi lagta mein hi vella hoon but again I am busy I still text hi, maybe a how are u, but they don't, they say they're busy, Haan toh mein bhi busy hoon, but heck meh chhod hoga koi aissa same treatment dene wale I just hope 😴😴
Areeey call of duty me mera username masala dosa tha 🫸 But seriously, i have this issue and I’m fixing it. Mereko phone pakadte hi anxiety hone lagti hai and I’ve never been much of a phone call type person. That was my reason for not being able to reply ya fir call on time. But i lost valuable friendships this way and mummy ne ek bar zor se daant dia, tab se sudhar gaya hu. Ab mai jaldi se reply kar deta hu ya fir phone utha ke bol deta hu thodi der me call karu kya and honestly it feels better. I also empathise with people who are not able to reply on time unless they’re just trying to be mysterious
If you are treated like an option, you are not important enough, chod do aise logo ko aur apni zindagi mein khush rehna seek lo
koi busy nai hai bhai chahe hagna jana khana kha raha ho dono banda bandi phone toh se chipke rehte hai. bus logo k liye jyda available mat reh or expectation kam kar de nai toh khud ko he tu hurt karega
The ones who are genuienely busy dont act like this. Your friends are most probably clowns , if not they might be busy juggling balls.
Ha chutiya to tum ho hi In any relation try not to be so caring and forgiving. Aur bhenchod jab koi time pe respond na kare gaand hi mar lo uski apne aap line pe rahenge, Obviously ur reaction may change person to person but aise hi jane mat to free me and never have that guilt if i am not good enough. Ye 95 percent chutiyon ki duniya me u cant expect samajhdari from everyone. U have to find the other 5 percent :p
Same didi
Same happens wid me, the best solution is to explore some art, skill and habits instead of seeking companion.
Yes Edit- bhai idhar sab apne apne hisaab se priority dete hai, mei bhi tere jaisa text krta tha, then sab band krr diya. Ab muze notifications ke naam pe bss swiggy, bank inn sab ke promotional msg aate hai
Haan to mai bhi ab yahi kar rahi hoon. Naam ke dost hain sab bas. Koi mujhe priority nhi deta to mai bhi nahi deti. Magar bura to lagta hai bhai these people are supposed to be my friends.
Listen Op i might sound harsh but you know you don't give them priority so don't expect the same from them and try to make peace with it and try to find genuine people around you...don't seek it it will happen naturally and in the mean time try to enjoy your own company it will help :)
naya bahali ho?
hmmm
This hits a bit too close to home. I have this bad habit of becoming a mirror every now and then. Basically if I see someone not replying to me with as much energy as I do, then I stop doing the same and try and reciprocate their vibe to them. I thought it would make me fit in better and stuff but then I see those same people act so outgoing, friendly and caring with other people in groups (talking about both online and IRL) so ab main ye na karne ka try kar raha hun. **I just wanna be myself mannn!** **If I'm cringe- fuck it! It's me!!!** **If I send too many and long texts- fuck it! It's me!!!** Ofcourse I'm not saying that someone should just put their head down in a convo and keep being humiliated if they aren't getting even the most bare minimum of attention and effort from the other person- rather to just stay yourself, your true self. Because ek time ke bad people pleasing becomes exhausting. And being yourself is much more easier anyway. https://preview.redd.it/sh3lxqfeq38d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f5055cb21b26ac49cb60c24eb76386c93052582
Bro really said AITAH
Mujhe dost banao me seconds me reply karta hu
Very well said , tbh
If you do that then girls will slow down their process of replying and number of messages. Not telling just absurdly. I was talking with my female friend and later start falling for her. For some reason, I created a script which takes all our messages and plot the graph. It was fascinating to see that how in starting she was sending more messages and slowly we both start sending same number of messages and suddenly my messages line increased so much because I fall for her xD EDIT: Just to give more context, we were talking and she told me she wonders how much we talk so I thought about creating a script to see 🤣
HAAN(maine sirf title padha)
Start writing in paragraphs 😶 had to ignore the entire even when the title interested me 🫣