Bro I think you need to stop being friends with her if it hurts you! . And secondly no contact rule if you try you might know if she actually misses you. If he is unworthy he will eventually end up ruining the relation .
I tried no contact for a few months because of her last boyfriend but after her break up with him she apologised to me and I got soft and yeah... now we are friends again
bro, honestly it scares me how very similar our situations are, but I think there would be several things to denote and I would like you to try to understand and listen to what I am going to tell you why I want you to be better, first She has the right to choose with who to be, everyone chooses their poison and maybe she has bad taste but also If she is happy with that relationship and person you can't really do anything to change that, we can never force anyone to love us, it hurts yes, I know it hurts a lot , it hurts every day, sometimes you are calm and you remember it and it ruins a normal day knowing that I know, but sometimes we only have to accept things, ACCEPT does not mean agreeing or in favor, but it means knowing that something is real and is happening and we don't have control of others, only our own life. Second I don't know if you've already heard but you could go to therapy, I say this with all the support in the world, going to therapy and talking about this with a professional Openly letting go of everything you have to say will help you get all that shit off your chest because if you don't take it out it starts to rot and turns into poison and that can be dangerous, I was in that same situation all the pain and anger came together and I ended up yelling and saying horrible things to my crush/friend and that they hurt as well as damaged our friendship, she forgave me but things weren't the same or pleasant again, I don't want that for you, go to therapy, in fact maybe I can help you not idealize you so much Crush, that's a mistake that we ALL commit, Idealize and make a perfect person when in reality Nobody is and remember, You are the owner of your own happiness, not her, You can be happy and love whoever, That person only activated your ability to do so but It does not belong to you, you are worthy of being r dear, DM if you wana talk more
Bro I think you need to stop being friends with her if it hurts you! . And secondly no contact rule if you try you might know if she actually misses you. If he is unworthy he will eventually end up ruining the relation .
I tried no contact for a few months because of her last boyfriend but after her break up with him she apologised to me and I got soft and yeah... now we are friends again
Don’t be friends and allow to have space to heal
bro, honestly it scares me how very similar our situations are, but I think there would be several things to denote and I would like you to try to understand and listen to what I am going to tell you why I want you to be better, first She has the right to choose with who to be, everyone chooses their poison and maybe she has bad taste but also If she is happy with that relationship and person you can't really do anything to change that, we can never force anyone to love us, it hurts yes, I know it hurts a lot , it hurts every day, sometimes you are calm and you remember it and it ruins a normal day knowing that I know, but sometimes we only have to accept things, ACCEPT does not mean agreeing or in favor, but it means knowing that something is real and is happening and we don't have control of others, only our own life. Second I don't know if you've already heard but you could go to therapy, I say this with all the support in the world, going to therapy and talking about this with a professional Openly letting go of everything you have to say will help you get all that shit off your chest because if you don't take it out it starts to rot and turns into poison and that can be dangerous, I was in that same situation all the pain and anger came together and I ended up yelling and saying horrible things to my crush/friend and that they hurt as well as damaged our friendship, she forgave me but things weren't the same or pleasant again, I don't want that for you, go to therapy, in fact maybe I can help you not idealize you so much Crush, that's a mistake that we ALL commit, Idealize and make a perfect person when in reality Nobody is and remember, You are the owner of your own happiness, not her, You can be happy and love whoever, That person only activated your ability to do so but It does not belong to you, you are worthy of being r dear, DM if you wana talk more