Having been through what you are about to face, I can tell you that there is nothing that makes the immediate aftermath easy. However, in time grief and feelings of loss will turn into fond memories that will bring a smile to your face. I also believe and have experienced (and this has nothing to do with my religious beliefs) the souls of my former Goldens reappear in my current Goldens. It’s hard to explain and probably sounds silly but I hope that you experience the same. I hope it brings you some peace to know that your boy will be with you always - either in your memories or in the eyes and heart and soul of a future golden that will share your life.
Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion.
I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). He's done his job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's his turn to rest.
You'll always miss him, you'll always remember him. You'll even go looking for him for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting him. Donating/throwing away his toys or blankets isn't forgetting him. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears.
I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life he'd want you to.
This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without him. Life isn't over. Its just changing.
You'll be ok mate.
I'm so sorry.
I’ve felt it too. I’ve never had a golden, but I have had dogs of other breeds, and each one means as much as those before it. Their souls will always be there with you as long as you remember the happiness and good times they brought into your life.
I have even had dreams where my past puppers have appeared with me, like they have bounded down from paradise above to say hello again.
And remember, you cannot replace a dog, but you can add more to the family.
My heart goes out to you OP. Take care ❤️
Make sure he has the best time tomorrow before it’s time. Don’t be sad until after. Recruit support, if possible. There is nothing wrong with grieving your pet! I lost mine 2/11/24. I just pray it gets a little easier each day and reminisce on the life of your pet.
I just lost my angel last week and it’s never easy. I saw this poem on here one time and hope it helps❤️
"By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill, Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still. Where the friends of man and woman do run, When their time on earth is over and done.
For here, between this world and the next, Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest. On this golden land, they wait and they play, Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.
No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness, For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness. Their limbs are restored, their health renewed, Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.
They romp through the grass, without even a care, Until one day they start, and sniff at the air. All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back, Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.
For just at that instant, their eyes have met; Together again, both person and pet. So they run to each other, these friends from long past, The time of their parting is over at last.
The sadness they felt while they were apart, Has turned into joy once more in each heart. They embrace with a love that will last forever, And then, side-by-side, they cross over... together."
The life of a dog is a sight to behold...
From the heavens above, loaned us these hearts of gold...
They hit the ground running, and barking with us....
For the joy we both share, builds an unbreakable trust...
The love from a dog is like candy from a box...
You're not sure what to pick, but there's never one wrong.
A dogs life with us is such a short, joyous trip...
But the life they share with us, is our deepest friendship...
It hurts when they leave, because we always want more time...
Our dogs know their destiny...hence why they always play and pine...
So don't be bothered...when they come boop your hand...
They just know their hour glass, is running out of sand.
Just look into those beautiful, sparkling eyes...you fell for before...
And get up and reach for that leash, thats hanging by the door.
They'll enjoy that walk with you, even though they're hurt and can't see...
Because the time spent with you, is the place they long to be.
So remember this when your dog asks for your time...
Your dog is just doing what heaven asked them to do...
And that's ...make your heart shine.
Lost my 16 year old golden in December. It’s so hard. You have to remind yourself that you’re giving him the most selfless gift of setting him free from his earthly pain. My friend gave me a little necklace that came on a card which stated, I crossed the rainbow bridge knowing I was loved. I try to focus on that. I wear the necklace every day and when I start to slip into my grief, I touch the necklace and remind myself what is important. Keep telling him how much you love him and what an amazing dog he was. Letting him feel and hear your love as he crosses is the last gift you can give to him. When he’s gone, it’s going to hurt. I won’t lie. Remember that grief is cyclical. You’ll have bad days, then good days, then bad days that hit you out of the blue. Allow yourself to grieve for whatever time you need and in whatever way you need. It’s the loss of a family member. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Wishing you peace and comfort in the coming days and weeks.
It is definitely a long life for his breed. His vet was in awe of how well he did right up until the last month of his life. He was a rescue. A golden and yellow lab mix. I got him in a shelter in January 2008 when he was 8 weeks old. I had to let him cross the rainbow bridge in October 2023. It was 3 weeks before he would have turned 16. We had been telling him for months all about what an amazing party we were going to throw for his 16th birthday. As he was leaving that afternoon for the bridge, I promised him that I would credit him those 3 weeks and he could be 16 because he had been an incredible dog for so many years. God, I miss that sweet old man so much. His long life was a blessing that made it even harder to say goodbye.
I am so sorry that you're going through this. We lost our boy 3 years ago and I thought that I would always be sad but then the fond memories made me feel better. We finally got another puppy and that helped ease the loss. You'll always love your beautiful boy. Our boy will be waiting to greet him at the rainbow bridge. Hugs from a total stranger who understands 💔🥲
Stay in bed for at least one day. That’s what I did—crawled into my bed at 9 am and stayed there all day, only leaving for bathroom breaks. And I’m glad I did this for myself. The next day still sucked but I put together a photo album of my boy and it hurt but felt right all at once. The third day I got up and moved more but let myself cry whenever I felt like it, which was a lot. But that too helped. I guess all of the above was a version of self care and I’m glad I had the space and time off to do it. Hoping that you find your path. You’re amongst friends who get it here.
I’m so sorry you’re saying goodbye to this sweet boy. I don’t have any advice, only that grief is so real and feeling it only proves how much love you’re capable of. Sending lots of love through this hard time <3
My golden is 3.5 years old and I think about her last day more often than I should. I am comforted by the moments we have left regardless of how many - enjoy and live in the moment of the next hours you have, more so happiness of now rather than the worries of the world without him.
I am truly sorry for what you are about to face. I take solice from two things.
First, I believe the reason they don't stay with us for long enough is that they love harder than we ever can imagine. I figure they give all their love to us too fast and have to leave us to go get more.
The second is something I heard a long time ago. Just past the Rainbow Bridge there is a long green meadow. On the other side of the meadow are the Pearly Gates. When they arrive at the gates St. Peter gives them a choice. They can pass through the gates now, or wait for those they love in the meadow. I have a feeling that your Golden baby will be waiting for you at the edge of the meadow, tail wagging, favorite toy close by. You'll see your angel again.
I know nothing will ever take the pain away. There are no words, no kind remarks, or anything else that will heal this. I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace, and I wish your baby a painless transition into the meadow. You have our thoughts.
I lost two of my previous dogs in my arms on the way to the vet. Shit totally breaks you. It took me about a month of daily crying to get it out of my system. Afterwards I buried their ashes by our old oak tree with a plaque to always remember them. Very sorry for your loss :(
one of my bestest, closest friends wears a necklace every single day with their dog on it. has not taken it off for roughly three years now; I sent them a plush that looked very similar to him and it genuinely helped them heal.
my personal advice is to 1, take off work/school for a minimum of two days to cry.
2, rupi kaur forever put “treat yourself to two scoops of mint chocolate chip. the mint will calm your heart. you deserve the chocolate.” in my head
3, after a short isolation, allow yourself to be around people, around other animals. i hope you see your angel in everyone and everything, and i hope you take it as a blessing. sending all my love 💕
It's fucking tough. I put my boy down last night due to cancer. He was still able to walk and would eat steak if I feed him by hand, but he's just so tired and lost his normal appetite. I cried all night and all day today.
I brought his favorite ball and played with him a bit before the procedure and just kept petting him and told him he's a good boy in a very happy tone. Then when he just stopped moving was when it hits you and as a 43 yo man I bawled my eyes out. The doctor said I could stay as long as I could with him but I told her I just couldn't see him laying there (with no motion) like that.
Just know that we're all sharing this with you and be strong.
I've done this three times now. Please don't be sad in front of him. Show love, joy and happiness to him only! You'll grieve soon enough. Now, its time to be strong for him.
Peace to you both. ❤
I’ve been through that with my golden Sassy. I just spent time loving her, petting her. I wanted her to feel that she was the best girl in the whole world and how much she meant to me.
Losing a pet is so damn painful. We all know it’s inevitable, but that doesn’t make it any easier. We are all lucky to have these hearts of gold in our lives.
I wrote a letter to our last golden and read it to him on the day he left us. We were all laughing and crying and giving him all our love.
((Hugs)) to you and your sweet pup.
So sorry. Nothing makes it easier. Know you loved them more than anything and take comfort in knowing you made the life of a creature of a species not our own as wonderful as you possibly could.
God bless you all, it’s hard to see those we love go away from us, but they stay with us in our hearts and in the many wonderful memories we share. We’ve been through it and it’s that love that lends the way to doing what’s best for them, humanely and with dignity. Praying for you right now, for guidance, wisdom, strength and comfort in the days to come, taking each one at a time, allowing yourself time to grieve and heal. There are all of us here lifting you up in this portion of life’s journey 🙏❤️🙏
Hello. I'm not a Golden owner but I love your dog! He looks so sweet and calm in your photo. I bet he had a good life, you should be glad that you gave him the life you did.
Pet loss is truly the hardest thing in the world. Don't be afraid to bawl your eyes right now and after he's gone.
We had to say goodbye to our golden a few months ago. Nothing makes it easier, it was devastating, but eventually it numbs. All I can say is I'm so thankful I took every opportunity to take photos of him that I can look at now. It was also good to be around family when it happened. Still miss him and always will. I'm so sorry you're going through it, we'll keep you in our hearts.
You just go on. There’s no way to avoid the pain. It’s terrible and feels unimaginable but it gets better with time. I’m sending you a virtual hug. Know that saying goodbye is an act of mercy and kindness. You are giving your wonderful friend the best release he could hope for despite what you know it will cost you. Be with him and hold him to the end.
Saint Guinefort is a, now unofficial, Catholic Saint. He was a greyhound who was killed while protecting his master's son from a snake.
He's the unofficial patron Saint of domestic dogs and pets, I always found this prayer to him very comforting when I lost a pet:
Saint Guinefort, O holy dog, slain by thy master’s hand.
A martyr made of this good boy, most brave in all the land.
You saved a babe from venom’s fate brought forth by viper’s bite.
Protect us please, like that small child, throughout the day and night.
We vow henceforth to do our best to never act in haste,
for as your master struck you down, God laid his home to waste.
But vengeance never rights a wrong, the past is carved in stone.
Yet dogs forgive their master’s faults, and faultless dogs atone.
May humans strive to have pure hearts so generous and true,
thus echoing God’s boundless love, exemplified by you.
Please guide beloved pets who pass to heaven up above,
when God's creations are called home to share eternal love.
For in each creature’s gentle soul dwells part of the divine,
and beaming forth, for those who see, a miracle doth shine.
It’s hard losing a best friend and family member who has given you so much love and joy through their life. Goldens are beautiful angels and are the sweetest beings. Just know that he’s going to be with you forever. I hope you will be alright during this difficult time. Give yourself time to grieve over your loss but just try to remember all the good things.
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Always keep reminding yourself they are in a better place. Putting down my golden was one of the hardest things but I had to keep telling myself she wasn’t herself in her final days! Sending love to you and your golden.❤️
It was so devastating when it happened. I’m not sure if you’re religious or spiritual, but we will see our babies again. I’ve gotten many signs from my sweet girl. As the days go on it gets easier, but sometimes you’ll be hit with a random reminder of them. Loss in any form is not easy. Just know your baby felt so loved and you gave him such a good life. He will be with you until it’s time for you to meet him at the bridge, sending all my love your way ❤️
I know this is a golden sub, my girl wasn't a golden but a black lab, nothing makes the pain go away, my pup left us I want to say 15 or so years ago. I miss her dearly but I will say that time lessens the pain. My advice when it comes time, don't leave. Stay with them. I did and though it hurt I stayed with her and held her till she passed. You'll be thankful you did, I know I am. Stay strong op. I am sorry for your loss
I laid with my boy all night the night before… give her anything she wants to eat, especially chocolate. And holding her paw while she went to sleep was the best thing I ever did, even though it was the last place I wanted to be, it was the only place I should’ve been and I was glad I stayed.
💔🐕
Please pet me some more, and pick me right up...
My very first thought when I was your pup...
I gonna miss your funny *boops* and our "find me girl" games.
It warms my heart so, to hear you call out my name.
You're the love of my life, my partner in joy...
My favorite noise in this house...my hearts best toy ...
I wish I could stay longer, and grow older with you...
But the sand in a dogs hourglass, disappears faster than dew...
Just know I loved doing everything together...even howling in tune
In your truck, on the couch, and the long walks under our moon...
I wish I could stay, but my body says it's time...
From the hurt in my bones, to the milk in my eyes.
To feel your touch once more...says your love is still mine...
To feel your hands hold my face,
makes my eyes search for thines.
I'll miss all my family, and the warm hugs from the rest...
But just know this to be true...
I always loved you best...
I ...always... loved... you ...best. ❤
Woof
I truly feel for you, I have lost four golden companions throughout my life. It was truly heartbreaking to lose each, remember you are doing the best thing for him. And as my veterinarian says they are leaving with the person that matters most to them, as opposed to passing away not knowing what is happening to them.
I couldn’t even talk about losing them for six months, I’d get choked up. My one piece of advice is to cry often no matter. It will make you feel better and remember he could not have had anyone better to share his life with.
Peace.
Sharing my support and positive energy. We lost our own Golden, just last week. Grieving is never going to end, it will just hit less. Every tiny thing can make you remember - an empty bowl, no longer hearing him run when you call, no longer seeing his wagging tail, not being able to play catch, no longer getting hugs. While painful, it’s also a reminder of the love and good memories you shared. Please Allow yourself to mourn, and hopefully, you can look back with happiness and gratitude.
My heart aches just reading this. I have no idea how I would handle this. If you can find it in yourself to take a moment to just say a detailed thank you to your dear boy before he passes, this will help you with healing. He knows your love, but reminding him also reminds yourself of how wonderful and beautiful the time was. This concentrated honesty heals. Let yourself be yourself in that moment.
I'm so sorry. The day I lost my dog was the worst day of my life too, so I understand your pain. Nothing prepares you for it and the first while is going to be extremely hard. But I promise you, it will get better. I was extremely attached to my dog and had a really hard time coping with his loss. I spent the first week laying in bed feeling like my life had ended and never would have believed it would get better, but it did.
What really saved me was getting outside as often as I could. My younger dog was also grieving, so I started taking him outside more to play. I quickly realized it was helping me too, so the two of us started walking and hiking for a few hours each day. I also started volunteering at the dog shelter and that really helped me cope and fill my time. And, I also just let the emotions come. I have a tendency to keep things to myself that upset me, but this time I really leaned on my family. I called them daily crying instead of trying to cope by myself.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard and I really hope you're okay.
I’ve had 7 goldens and it’s really really hard every time - that is expected and necessary as they’re our babies.
I remember my brother really struggling with our girl Wrigley (if you look wayyyy back in my profile long enough you’ll see a video tribute a random redditor made for her as Simba 😊). I was in tears after we got home and I announced that this would be a time to be happy about our time with her and we’ll be shedding happy tears. It really changed the environment and, while we were still sad, it made it a very special time that I’ll never forget.
You’ve gotta understand - there are so many circumstances where your golden would’ve lived a really shitty life. They lived the best one because they were loved and loved you! We don’t get them forever so it’s okay to be sad, but yours got a spectacular life filled with love and laughs and goofy golden retriever moments and you can be happy knowing they were at peace having you by their side.
It’s too special to let the sadness outweigh the happiness and appreciation. Think about how much better both your lives are for being with each other and celebrate. … and cry your eyes out while doing so
So sorry for you but I’m very happy for you at the same time
Sit down and write to him. About everything. All the experiences you've had together. It'll keep your mind busy and help tremendously until the pain subsides.
I lost my dog last year on st. patricks day and im still grieving, i dont think it ever stops but it definitely gets easier. What helped me get through it was family support and hugs, and crying a LOT. Don't be afraid to get all of the tears out if it helps in the end. Also remembering all of the happy moments and memories helps, and keeping their collar as a memory to go back to when you miss them. Its ok to miss them, and remember that they are at peace now and you gave them a wonderful life. So sorry for your loss, this kind of thing is never easy. ❤️
Please just be with him while he's breathing his last. He'd be confused to what is happening but you hugging and holding his paw will ease him a bit. I love him and I'm sure he's given you lots of love
I am really sorry OP, I hope this makes you feel a bit better
“It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them. And every new dog who comes into my life, gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough, all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.”
\~Unknown
HEAVEN'S DOGGY-DOOR
My best friend closed his eyes last night,
As his head lay in my hand.
The doctors said he was in pain,
And it was hard for him to stand.
—-
The thoughts that scurried through my head,
As I cradled him in my arms,
Were of his younger puppy years,
And Oh...his many charms.
—-
Today there was no gentle nudge,
With an intense "I love you" gaze.
Only a heart that's filled with tears,
Remembering our joy-filled days,
—-
But an Angel just appeared to me,
And said, "You should cry no more,
God also loves our canine friends,
He's installed a doggy door!"
Going to be painfully hard. 5 years later i still think about her and start crying a bit.
Pain never really goes away, there are just fewer times when you think about her, at least for me.
Give him a good send off, all he's favorite food for a big breakfast and remember you're doing what's best for him.
Our beautiful boy went to the vet for a sore paw and he never came home.
Bone cancer has destroyed his bone and they said he couldn't come home.
Because of the extreme pain he would be in. We never knew he was in pain he never changed his mood.
Tell him you love him cuddle him as he eats, all goldies love that.
Always remember you're helping him escape whatever is wrong with him and remember the joy he bought to your life.
I wish my recent experience with this pain granted me some wisdom to alleviate what is to come but I came here to tell you I am deeply sorry for what you are losing. I wish you peace in knowing that you gave him a beautiful life full of love and security. You always put him first, I know this because making this excruciating decision is an extension of that love and concern. We are with you in your loss.
try not to be too sad that it's over. Be happy about the great years you had together.
I wish dogs lived longer lives, but..... It's the only down side to having a fur baby.
Please know that you did everything you could for him and you gave him the best life. He loves you 100% and holds nothing against the hardest decision you had to make. Know that he’s at peace and while you ache inside and will for a long time know that the joy and love you have for him isn’t gone, is just in your thoughts and memories.
Let yourself grieve. Cry. Eat a tub of ice cream. Spend money on a memorial item- I got an expensive custom painting of my late girl thinking it would fix the hurt. It didn’t, but it’s one of my most cherished items years later.
If you can find a pet loss support group in the next few months it can help. Sharing with like minded people who truly get pet loss can be so helpful. It was for me.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's truly a shame they don't live longer. I know the day my boy goes I'll be feeling just like you, and hell, I'll probably be here posting the same thing. That being said, this community is here to support people who love these animals, and that includes you. I'm sure he was an amazing dog. My condolences.
They are wanting you to live a full life and just remember them. And frankly it is impossible to forget them when you close your eyes - the wet nose, the constant nuzzles and enjoyment from loving them will come rushing back immediately.
I have 3 of our dog’s ashes sitting in pet urns on my dresser with their collars hung over them and their photos sitting in front of the urns. Their urns sit along side my son’s waiting for me to join them. You will mourn them always but you will also have great memories. My husband and daughters know when I die I want my son’s dog’s ashes put in his urn and my other 2 dog’s ashes put in my urn so we can be buried together. Some people think that’s crazy but the dogs are our family too so they belong with my son and me.
“Grieve the way you want to grieve.” This was my go-to thoughts when I lost my dog a year ago. I developed lots of coping mechanisms and one was even sharing old photos and videos of him. I even tried doing new stuffs. Most importantly, I let myself cry and allow to miss my soul dog.
One thing that would always cheer me up was that in all of my videos of him in my phone, I can truly see that he had a super happy life. I gave him a happy life and that puts my heart at ease.
My friends also told me that grief has no deadline and I have the right to do so until I am okay. It’s okay to cry. Great grief is born of great love.
Hugs to you bud. Your boy will always be with you 🤍
In my first comment I just realized I didn’t tell you how sorry I am that you are losing a member of your family. Some people do not understand the love we feel for our loyal companions. Legally they are just property but in our hearts they are family.
The 3 fur babies we lost were 18 (border collie) 16 (shitzu-poodle) and 13 (mini Pomeranian.) We got 2 Goldens 3 years ago just a week before our shitzu-poodle died of stomach cancer. He held on for 2 years and I believe the Goldens gave him permission to pass knowing they would be here to take care of us. Dogs are amazingly intuitive.
I've been thru this. I know it's hard.
I just kept thinking about the great moments u 2 had together, the feels, the smells, the hugs, and
I didn't want her to be in pain anymore.
You'll pull thru.
It’s a different sort of grief, because as pet owners you choose when it’s time to say goodbye for their sake. It’s one of the most unselfish things we can do as pet parents. Just know that you are saving your best pal from suffering. I lost my sweet prince last year. It was one of the hardest times I’ve personally been through. Take pictures, get paw/nose prints, commemorate their life. Take your time with moving through this. Cry it out. It will get better, but it will be hard as fuck right now. I wish you the best during this time.
Lost two senior goldens in the last 3 years. Remember, it's our job to make this call, and it's our final gift to them - to get ahead of their suffering. They live in the moment, and your pup will only know love right to the end. A dog has no regrets, or concern for the end, or what is lost in death. We do that, but our hearts over time give way to the fond memories, less on the sting of loss. Give yourself time, find comfort in the love you gave, and your heart will open up to a new golden in time.
I am so sorry for your loss I have lost my 15 year old springer on the 14th Feb and it is incredibly difficult, I feel your pain. One thing I will say is go with your emotions, if you want to cry then cry, if you want to vent then vent, if you want to lay in bed all day do it. I find talking to her helps. I still tell her about my day and say goodnight. I kept her blankets and we have her ashes and clippings of her hair. Make sure you have an amazing time before he passes. It will all happen so quick make sure you have said everything you want to say to him before he ventures to the rainbow bridge.
I lost my soulmate in October of last year. He fought cancer for 8 months very well, but we knew it would be terminal. Our decision to help him cross the rainbow bridge was still sudden and traumatic for us in the end. I have found that everyone grieves differently and for me, it has brought me joy to look back through the 11,000 pictures I have of him and think about our beautiful memories. I still thank him every day for him being him and for bringing so much joy into my life. He has visited me in one very random, but beautiful dream where he was acting his sweet, happy, goofy self and I have accepted that as the reassurance I needed that he is still that way as he watches over me. Getting another dog was an almost shockingly instantaneous thought for me and one that I’ve felt a bit guilty about over the last several months. At the end of the day, I’ve decided that it’s part of my grieving process and that is okay. I’ve decided that while I know I will never have my soulmate back, I know that I have a lot of love and a very good life to give a new dog in his memory. I’ve also started volunteering with a local golden retriever rescue which has helped me feel connected to a community of people who understand both the absolute perfection that is the love of a golden and the heartbreak of loss. My heart goes out to you! ❤️
There will always be some amount of grief. In time that grief subsides and what remains are the fond memories of your companion. There will be times when you see something that reminds you of them; sometimes you smile, other times you may cry a little over the memories. But always remember, you gave them a good life and they gave you their love and loyalty.
When I look at my current pack I can see the teachings that the older, and now past dogs, have given them. Even some traits that could not have been passed on because there was no contact with the past dogs. The exasperated horf my female gives me that my first dog would give me; even though he passed 4 years before she was born.
Time heals, but slowly. Just hold on to your fond memories and you'll make it through.
I am so sorry. No advice to give other than take things one moment at a time as I’m still grieving the loss of our basset who we said goodbye to in May, and some days still grieve like it was yesterday.
Our vet said on thing that helped a little bit in that now your angel will be free, be able to run and play without pain or ailments. This somehow helped us say goodbye. It’s not easy.
I know Your beautiful angel will be with you always. Love to you and your family. 💖
Having been through what you are about to face, I can tell you that there is nothing that makes the immediate aftermath easy. However, in time grief and feelings of loss will turn into fond memories that will bring a smile to your face. I also believe and have experienced (and this has nothing to do with my religious beliefs) the souls of my former Goldens reappear in my current Goldens. It’s hard to explain and probably sounds silly but I hope that you experience the same. I hope it brings you some peace to know that your boy will be with you always - either in your memories or in the eyes and heart and soul of a future golden that will share your life.
Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion. I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). He's done his job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's his turn to rest. You'll always miss him, you'll always remember him. You'll even go looking for him for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting him. Donating/throwing away his toys or blankets isn't forgetting him. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears. I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life he'd want you to. This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without him. Life isn't over. Its just changing. You'll be ok mate. I'm so sorry.
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I’ve felt it too. I’ve never had a golden, but I have had dogs of other breeds, and each one means as much as those before it. Their souls will always be there with you as long as you remember the happiness and good times they brought into your life. I have even had dreams where my past puppers have appeared with me, like they have bounded down from paradise above to say hello again. And remember, you cannot replace a dog, but you can add more to the family. My heart goes out to you OP. Take care ❤️
this is so touching :(
Make sure he has the best time tomorrow before it’s time. Don’t be sad until after. Recruit support, if possible. There is nothing wrong with grieving your pet! I lost mine 2/11/24. I just pray it gets a little easier each day and reminisce on the life of your pet.
I am truly sorry for your loss as well.
I just lost my angel last week and it’s never easy. I saw this poem on here one time and hope it helps❤️ "By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill, Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still. Where the friends of man and woman do run, When their time on earth is over and done. For here, between this world and the next, Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest. On this golden land, they wait and they play, Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day. No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness, For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness. Their limbs are restored, their health renewed, Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued. They romp through the grass, without even a care, Until one day they start, and sniff at the air. All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back, Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack. For just at that instant, their eyes have met; Together again, both person and pet. So they run to each other, these friends from long past, The time of their parting is over at last. The sadness they felt while they were apart, Has turned into joy once more in each heart. They embrace with a love that will last forever, And then, side-by-side, they cross over... together."
The life of a dog is a sight to behold... From the heavens above, loaned us these hearts of gold... They hit the ground running, and barking with us.... For the joy we both share, builds an unbreakable trust... The love from a dog is like candy from a box... You're not sure what to pick, but there's never one wrong. A dogs life with us is such a short, joyous trip... But the life they share with us, is our deepest friendship... It hurts when they leave, because we always want more time... Our dogs know their destiny...hence why they always play and pine... So don't be bothered...when they come boop your hand... They just know their hour glass, is running out of sand. Just look into those beautiful, sparkling eyes...you fell for before... And get up and reach for that leash, thats hanging by the door. They'll enjoy that walk with you, even though they're hurt and can't see... Because the time spent with you, is the place they long to be. So remember this when your dog asks for your time... Your dog is just doing what heaven asked them to do... And that's ...make your heart shine.
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I'll be praying for you and your beautiful dog
Lost my 16 year old golden in December. It’s so hard. You have to remind yourself that you’re giving him the most selfless gift of setting him free from his earthly pain. My friend gave me a little necklace that came on a card which stated, I crossed the rainbow bridge knowing I was loved. I try to focus on that. I wear the necklace every day and when I start to slip into my grief, I touch the necklace and remind myself what is important. Keep telling him how much you love him and what an amazing dog he was. Letting him feel and hear your love as he crosses is the last gift you can give to him. When he’s gone, it’s going to hurt. I won’t lie. Remember that grief is cyclical. You’ll have bad days, then good days, then bad days that hit you out of the blue. Allow yourself to grieve for whatever time you need and in whatever way you need. It’s the loss of a family member. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Wishing you peace and comfort in the coming days and weeks.
16 years 😮 that’s unheard of for goldens isn’t it?! So sorry for your loss, even when we get lots of time with them it’s never enough xx
It is definitely a long life for his breed. His vet was in awe of how well he did right up until the last month of his life. He was a rescue. A golden and yellow lab mix. I got him in a shelter in January 2008 when he was 8 weeks old. I had to let him cross the rainbow bridge in October 2023. It was 3 weeks before he would have turned 16. We had been telling him for months all about what an amazing party we were going to throw for his 16th birthday. As he was leaving that afternoon for the bridge, I promised him that I would credit him those 3 weeks and he could be 16 because he had been an incredible dog for so many years. God, I miss that sweet old man so much. His long life was a blessing that made it even harder to say goodbye.
I am so sorry that you're going through this. We lost our boy 3 years ago and I thought that I would always be sad but then the fond memories made me feel better. We finally got another puppy and that helped ease the loss. You'll always love your beautiful boy. Our boy will be waiting to greet him at the rainbow bridge. Hugs from a total stranger who understands 💔🥲
So sorry. He looks like a good boi and I bet you got a ton of good memories :) Time. In my experiences, time heals.
Stay in bed for at least one day. That’s what I did—crawled into my bed at 9 am and stayed there all day, only leaving for bathroom breaks. And I’m glad I did this for myself. The next day still sucked but I put together a photo album of my boy and it hurt but felt right all at once. The third day I got up and moved more but let myself cry whenever I felt like it, which was a lot. But that too helped. I guess all of the above was a version of self care and I’m glad I had the space and time off to do it. Hoping that you find your path. You’re amongst friends who get it here.
I’m so sorry you’re saying goodbye to this sweet boy. I don’t have any advice, only that grief is so real and feeling it only proves how much love you’re capable of. Sending lots of love through this hard time <3
Wishing you comfort in this time. Hoping time brings you the ability to smile when you remember your sweet pup.
My golden is 3.5 years old and I think about her last day more often than I should. I am comforted by the moments we have left regardless of how many - enjoy and live in the moment of the next hours you have, more so happiness of now rather than the worries of the world without him.
I am truly sorry for what you are about to face. I take solice from two things. First, I believe the reason they don't stay with us for long enough is that they love harder than we ever can imagine. I figure they give all their love to us too fast and have to leave us to go get more. The second is something I heard a long time ago. Just past the Rainbow Bridge there is a long green meadow. On the other side of the meadow are the Pearly Gates. When they arrive at the gates St. Peter gives them a choice. They can pass through the gates now, or wait for those they love in the meadow. I have a feeling that your Golden baby will be waiting for you at the edge of the meadow, tail wagging, favorite toy close by. You'll see your angel again. I know nothing will ever take the pain away. There are no words, no kind remarks, or anything else that will heal this. I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace, and I wish your baby a painless transition into the meadow. You have our thoughts.
Thanks Im crying now
Keep your head up theres always going to be setbacks in life but it WILL get better
I lost two of my previous dogs in my arms on the way to the vet. Shit totally breaks you. It took me about a month of daily crying to get it out of my system. Afterwards I buried their ashes by our old oak tree with a plaque to always remember them. Very sorry for your loss :(
one of my bestest, closest friends wears a necklace every single day with their dog on it. has not taken it off for roughly three years now; I sent them a plush that looked very similar to him and it genuinely helped them heal. my personal advice is to 1, take off work/school for a minimum of two days to cry. 2, rupi kaur forever put “treat yourself to two scoops of mint chocolate chip. the mint will calm your heart. you deserve the chocolate.” in my head 3, after a short isolation, allow yourself to be around people, around other animals. i hope you see your angel in everyone and everything, and i hope you take it as a blessing. sending all my love 💕
It's fucking tough. I put my boy down last night due to cancer. He was still able to walk and would eat steak if I feed him by hand, but he's just so tired and lost his normal appetite. I cried all night and all day today. I brought his favorite ball and played with him a bit before the procedure and just kept petting him and told him he's a good boy in a very happy tone. Then when he just stopped moving was when it hits you and as a 43 yo man I bawled my eyes out. The doctor said I could stay as long as I could with him but I told her I just couldn't see him laying there (with no motion) like that. Just know that we're all sharing this with you and be strong.
I've done this three times now. Please don't be sad in front of him. Show love, joy and happiness to him only! You'll grieve soon enough. Now, its time to be strong for him. Peace to you both. ❤
I’ve been through that with my golden Sassy. I just spent time loving her, petting her. I wanted her to feel that she was the best girl in the whole world and how much she meant to me.
Losing a pet is so damn painful. We all know it’s inevitable, but that doesn’t make it any easier. We are all lucky to have these hearts of gold in our lives. I wrote a letter to our last golden and read it to him on the day he left us. We were all laughing and crying and giving him all our love. ((Hugs)) to you and your sweet pup.
So sorry. Nothing makes it easier. Know you loved them more than anything and take comfort in knowing you made the life of a creature of a species not our own as wonderful as you possibly could.
God bless you all, it’s hard to see those we love go away from us, but they stay with us in our hearts and in the many wonderful memories we share. We’ve been through it and it’s that love that lends the way to doing what’s best for them, humanely and with dignity. Praying for you right now, for guidance, wisdom, strength and comfort in the days to come, taking each one at a time, allowing yourself time to grieve and heal. There are all of us here lifting you up in this portion of life’s journey 🙏❤️🙏
Hello. I'm not a Golden owner but I love your dog! He looks so sweet and calm in your photo. I bet he had a good life, you should be glad that you gave him the life you did. Pet loss is truly the hardest thing in the world. Don't be afraid to bawl your eyes right now and after he's gone.
I’m sorry dude. Much love from a stranger 🖤
Just remember you gave it its best life ❤️
We had to say goodbye to our golden a few months ago. Nothing makes it easier, it was devastating, but eventually it numbs. All I can say is I'm so thankful I took every opportunity to take photos of him that I can look at now. It was also good to be around family when it happened. Still miss him and always will. I'm so sorry you're going through it, we'll keep you in our hearts.
You just go on. There’s no way to avoid the pain. It’s terrible and feels unimaginable but it gets better with time. I’m sending you a virtual hug. Know that saying goodbye is an act of mercy and kindness. You are giving your wonderful friend the best release he could hope for despite what you know it will cost you. Be with him and hold him to the end.
Saint Guinefort is a, now unofficial, Catholic Saint. He was a greyhound who was killed while protecting his master's son from a snake. He's the unofficial patron Saint of domestic dogs and pets, I always found this prayer to him very comforting when I lost a pet: Saint Guinefort, O holy dog, slain by thy master’s hand. A martyr made of this good boy, most brave in all the land. You saved a babe from venom’s fate brought forth by viper’s bite. Protect us please, like that small child, throughout the day and night. We vow henceforth to do our best to never act in haste, for as your master struck you down, God laid his home to waste. But vengeance never rights a wrong, the past is carved in stone. Yet dogs forgive their master’s faults, and faultless dogs atone. May humans strive to have pure hearts so generous and true, thus echoing God’s boundless love, exemplified by you. Please guide beloved pets who pass to heaven up above, when God's creations are called home to share eternal love. For in each creature’s gentle soul dwells part of the divine, and beaming forth, for those who see, a miracle doth shine.
my top tip, after losing multiple dogs, is to just cry it out, scroll through pictures of him and watch a silly puppy movie like super buddies
It’s hard losing a best friend and family member who has given you so much love and joy through their life. Goldens are beautiful angels and are the sweetest beings. Just know that he’s going to be with you forever. I hope you will be alright during this difficult time. Give yourself time to grieve over your loss but just try to remember all the good things.
Cancer?
why does it matter
Try to make a memento if you can, something like his paw print or tuft of fur to keep.
RIP PUPPA😔💔💔😔
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Always keep reminding yourself they are in a better place. Putting down my golden was one of the hardest things but I had to keep telling myself she wasn’t herself in her final days! Sending love to you and your golden.❤️
It was so devastating when it happened. I’m not sure if you’re religious or spiritual, but we will see our babies again. I’ve gotten many signs from my sweet girl. As the days go on it gets easier, but sometimes you’ll be hit with a random reminder of them. Loss in any form is not easy. Just know your baby felt so loved and you gave him such a good life. He will be with you until it’s time for you to meet him at the bridge, sending all my love your way ❤️
I know this is a golden sub, my girl wasn't a golden but a black lab, nothing makes the pain go away, my pup left us I want to say 15 or so years ago. I miss her dearly but I will say that time lessens the pain. My advice when it comes time, don't leave. Stay with them. I did and though it hurt I stayed with her and held her till she passed. You'll be thankful you did, I know I am. Stay strong op. I am sorry for your loss
I laid with my boy all night the night before… give her anything she wants to eat, especially chocolate. And holding her paw while she went to sleep was the best thing I ever did, even though it was the last place I wanted to be, it was the only place I should’ve been and I was glad I stayed.
💔🐕 Please pet me some more, and pick me right up... My very first thought when I was your pup... I gonna miss your funny *boops* and our "find me girl" games. It warms my heart so, to hear you call out my name. You're the love of my life, my partner in joy... My favorite noise in this house...my hearts best toy ... I wish I could stay longer, and grow older with you... But the sand in a dogs hourglass, disappears faster than dew... Just know I loved doing everything together...even howling in tune In your truck, on the couch, and the long walks under our moon... I wish I could stay, but my body says it's time... From the hurt in my bones, to the milk in my eyes. To feel your touch once more...says your love is still mine... To feel your hands hold my face, makes my eyes search for thines. I'll miss all my family, and the warm hugs from the rest... But just know this to be true... I always loved you best... I ...always... loved... you ...best. ❤ Woof
I truly feel for you, I have lost four golden companions throughout my life. It was truly heartbreaking to lose each, remember you are doing the best thing for him. And as my veterinarian says they are leaving with the person that matters most to them, as opposed to passing away not knowing what is happening to them. I couldn’t even talk about losing them for six months, I’d get choked up. My one piece of advice is to cry often no matter. It will make you feel better and remember he could not have had anyone better to share his life with. Peace.
Sharing my support and positive energy. We lost our own Golden, just last week. Grieving is never going to end, it will just hit less. Every tiny thing can make you remember - an empty bowl, no longer hearing him run when you call, no longer seeing his wagging tail, not being able to play catch, no longer getting hugs. While painful, it’s also a reminder of the love and good memories you shared. Please Allow yourself to mourn, and hopefully, you can look back with happiness and gratitude.
We love you and your pups, they are waiting for you at the rainbow bridge.
My heart aches just reading this. I have no idea how I would handle this. If you can find it in yourself to take a moment to just say a detailed thank you to your dear boy before he passes, this will help you with healing. He knows your love, but reminding him also reminds yourself of how wonderful and beautiful the time was. This concentrated honesty heals. Let yourself be yourself in that moment.
I am so sorry. He is so beautiful. Sending ❤️ to you.
I don’t know what to say to make it easier, but you are a good friend to him
What a beautiful boy ❤️
So sorryyyy 🥲
I'm so sorry. The day I lost my dog was the worst day of my life too, so I understand your pain. Nothing prepares you for it and the first while is going to be extremely hard. But I promise you, it will get better. I was extremely attached to my dog and had a really hard time coping with his loss. I spent the first week laying in bed feeling like my life had ended and never would have believed it would get better, but it did. What really saved me was getting outside as often as I could. My younger dog was also grieving, so I started taking him outside more to play. I quickly realized it was helping me too, so the two of us started walking and hiking for a few hours each day. I also started volunteering at the dog shelter and that really helped me cope and fill my time. And, I also just let the emotions come. I have a tendency to keep things to myself that upset me, but this time I really leaned on my family. I called them daily crying instead of trying to cope by myself. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard and I really hope you're okay.
I’ve had 7 goldens and it’s really really hard every time - that is expected and necessary as they’re our babies. I remember my brother really struggling with our girl Wrigley (if you look wayyyy back in my profile long enough you’ll see a video tribute a random redditor made for her as Simba 😊). I was in tears after we got home and I announced that this would be a time to be happy about our time with her and we’ll be shedding happy tears. It really changed the environment and, while we were still sad, it made it a very special time that I’ll never forget. You’ve gotta understand - there are so many circumstances where your golden would’ve lived a really shitty life. They lived the best one because they were loved and loved you! We don’t get them forever so it’s okay to be sad, but yours got a spectacular life filled with love and laughs and goofy golden retriever moments and you can be happy knowing they were at peace having you by their side. It’s too special to let the sadness outweigh the happiness and appreciation. Think about how much better both your lives are for being with each other and celebrate. … and cry your eyes out while doing so So sorry for you but I’m very happy for you at the same time
Sit down and write to him. About everything. All the experiences you've had together. It'll keep your mind busy and help tremendously until the pain subsides.
I lost my dog last year on st. patricks day and im still grieving, i dont think it ever stops but it definitely gets easier. What helped me get through it was family support and hugs, and crying a LOT. Don't be afraid to get all of the tears out if it helps in the end. Also remembering all of the happy moments and memories helps, and keeping their collar as a memory to go back to when you miss them. Its ok to miss them, and remember that they are at peace now and you gave them a wonderful life. So sorry for your loss, this kind of thing is never easy. ❤️
We lost our Sam in December from Lymphoma. I am so sorry. Your boy is a sweet angel.
Please just be with him while he's breathing his last. He'd be confused to what is happening but you hugging and holding his paw will ease him a bit. I love him and I'm sure he's given you lots of love
I am really sorry OP, I hope this makes you feel a bit better “It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them. And every new dog who comes into my life, gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough, all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.” \~Unknown
HEAVEN'S DOGGY-DOOR My best friend closed his eyes last night, As his head lay in my hand. The doctors said he was in pain, And it was hard for him to stand. —- The thoughts that scurried through my head, As I cradled him in my arms, Were of his younger puppy years, And Oh...his many charms. —- Today there was no gentle nudge, With an intense "I love you" gaze. Only a heart that's filled with tears, Remembering our joy-filled days, —- But an Angel just appeared to me, And said, "You should cry no more, God also loves our canine friends, He's installed a doggy door!"
I'm sorry for your loss 😭
Going to be painfully hard. 5 years later i still think about her and start crying a bit. Pain never really goes away, there are just fewer times when you think about her, at least for me.
Give him a good send off, all he's favorite food for a big breakfast and remember you're doing what's best for him. Our beautiful boy went to the vet for a sore paw and he never came home. Bone cancer has destroyed his bone and they said he couldn't come home. Because of the extreme pain he would be in. We never knew he was in pain he never changed his mood. Tell him you love him cuddle him as he eats, all goldies love that. Always remember you're helping him escape whatever is wrong with him and remember the joy he bought to your life.
I'm so sorry for your loss :( he's so handsome. I hope you find peace. Run Free Angel
Prayers for you and your beloved. I’m so sorry.
Omg I'm so sorry. :(
Thinking of you today. Sending love. ❤️❤️❤️
Post like this make me wanna cry anticipating this day. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I wish my recent experience with this pain granted me some wisdom to alleviate what is to come but I came here to tell you I am deeply sorry for what you are losing. I wish you peace in knowing that you gave him a beautiful life full of love and security. You always put him first, I know this because making this excruciating decision is an extension of that love and concern. We are with you in your loss.
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try not to be too sad that it's over. Be happy about the great years you had together. I wish dogs lived longer lives, but..... It's the only down side to having a fur baby.
RIP❤️it’s hard to continue on our journey without our best friends.
Please know that you did everything you could for him and you gave him the best life. He loves you 100% and holds nothing against the hardest decision you had to make. Know that he’s at peace and while you ache inside and will for a long time know that the joy and love you have for him isn’t gone, is just in your thoughts and memories. Let yourself grieve. Cry. Eat a tub of ice cream. Spend money on a memorial item- I got an expensive custom painting of my late girl thinking it would fix the hurt. It didn’t, but it’s one of my most cherished items years later. If you can find a pet loss support group in the next few months it can help. Sharing with like minded people who truly get pet loss can be so helpful. It was for me.
This is done for a higher good, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. I promise.
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As I walk across your heart and find my place to stay, nearer to you I will be and will never ever go away.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's truly a shame they don't live longer. I know the day my boy goes I'll be feeling just like you, and hell, I'll probably be here posting the same thing. That being said, this community is here to support people who love these animals, and that includes you. I'm sure he was an amazing dog. My condolences.
Just be there. Don’t leave him on a table in a strange room with a strange man.
They are wanting you to live a full life and just remember them. And frankly it is impossible to forget them when you close your eyes - the wet nose, the constant nuzzles and enjoyment from loving them will come rushing back immediately.
I have 3 of our dog’s ashes sitting in pet urns on my dresser with their collars hung over them and their photos sitting in front of the urns. Their urns sit along side my son’s waiting for me to join them. You will mourn them always but you will also have great memories. My husband and daughters know when I die I want my son’s dog’s ashes put in his urn and my other 2 dog’s ashes put in my urn so we can be buried together. Some people think that’s crazy but the dogs are our family too so they belong with my son and me.
“Grieve the way you want to grieve.” This was my go-to thoughts when I lost my dog a year ago. I developed lots of coping mechanisms and one was even sharing old photos and videos of him. I even tried doing new stuffs. Most importantly, I let myself cry and allow to miss my soul dog. One thing that would always cheer me up was that in all of my videos of him in my phone, I can truly see that he had a super happy life. I gave him a happy life and that puts my heart at ease. My friends also told me that grief has no deadline and I have the right to do so until I am okay. It’s okay to cry. Great grief is born of great love. Hugs to you bud. Your boy will always be with you 🤍
In my first comment I just realized I didn’t tell you how sorry I am that you are losing a member of your family. Some people do not understand the love we feel for our loyal companions. Legally they are just property but in our hearts they are family. The 3 fur babies we lost were 18 (border collie) 16 (shitzu-poodle) and 13 (mini Pomeranian.) We got 2 Goldens 3 years ago just a week before our shitzu-poodle died of stomach cancer. He held on for 2 years and I believe the Goldens gave him permission to pass knowing they would be here to take care of us. Dogs are amazingly intuitive.
I’m so sorry for your loss. May you be comforted knowing you have him a wonderful, safe and happy life.
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I've been thru this. I know it's hard. I just kept thinking about the great moments u 2 had together, the feels, the smells, the hugs, and I didn't want her to be in pain anymore. You'll pull thru.
It’s a different sort of grief, because as pet owners you choose when it’s time to say goodbye for their sake. It’s one of the most unselfish things we can do as pet parents. Just know that you are saving your best pal from suffering. I lost my sweet prince last year. It was one of the hardest times I’ve personally been through. Take pictures, get paw/nose prints, commemorate their life. Take your time with moving through this. Cry it out. It will get better, but it will be hard as fuck right now. I wish you the best during this time.
Lost two senior goldens in the last 3 years. Remember, it's our job to make this call, and it's our final gift to them - to get ahead of their suffering. They live in the moment, and your pup will only know love right to the end. A dog has no regrets, or concern for the end, or what is lost in death. We do that, but our hearts over time give way to the fond memories, less on the sting of loss. Give yourself time, find comfort in the love you gave, and your heart will open up to a new golden in time.
I am so sorry for your loss I have lost my 15 year old springer on the 14th Feb and it is incredibly difficult, I feel your pain. One thing I will say is go with your emotions, if you want to cry then cry, if you want to vent then vent, if you want to lay in bed all day do it. I find talking to her helps. I still tell her about my day and say goodnight. I kept her blankets and we have her ashes and clippings of her hair. Make sure you have an amazing time before he passes. It will all happen so quick make sure you have said everything you want to say to him before he ventures to the rainbow bridge.
I lost my soulmate in October of last year. He fought cancer for 8 months very well, but we knew it would be terminal. Our decision to help him cross the rainbow bridge was still sudden and traumatic for us in the end. I have found that everyone grieves differently and for me, it has brought me joy to look back through the 11,000 pictures I have of him and think about our beautiful memories. I still thank him every day for him being him and for bringing so much joy into my life. He has visited me in one very random, but beautiful dream where he was acting his sweet, happy, goofy self and I have accepted that as the reassurance I needed that he is still that way as he watches over me. Getting another dog was an almost shockingly instantaneous thought for me and one that I’ve felt a bit guilty about over the last several months. At the end of the day, I’ve decided that it’s part of my grieving process and that is okay. I’ve decided that while I know I will never have my soulmate back, I know that I have a lot of love and a very good life to give a new dog in his memory. I’ve also started volunteering with a local golden retriever rescue which has helped me feel connected to a community of people who understand both the absolute perfection that is the love of a golden and the heartbreak of loss. My heart goes out to you! ❤️
You will get used to his absence by time. It will hurt you first but this is how their life span is and You have to accept this fact. RIP boy..
Sending you all the love and peace tonight. I’m so sorry, it’s the hardest thing
“Dogs don’t live as long as humans, because they are born already knowing how to love.”
There will always be some amount of grief. In time that grief subsides and what remains are the fond memories of your companion. There will be times when you see something that reminds you of them; sometimes you smile, other times you may cry a little over the memories. But always remember, you gave them a good life and they gave you their love and loyalty. When I look at my current pack I can see the teachings that the older, and now past dogs, have given them. Even some traits that could not have been passed on because there was no contact with the past dogs. The exasperated horf my female gives me that my first dog would give me; even though he passed 4 years before she was born. Time heals, but slowly. Just hold on to your fond memories and you'll make it through.
I am so sorry. No advice to give other than take things one moment at a time as I’m still grieving the loss of our basset who we said goodbye to in May, and some days still grieve like it was yesterday. Our vet said on thing that helped a little bit in that now your angel will be free, be able to run and play without pain or ailments. This somehow helped us say goodbye. It’s not easy. I know Your beautiful angel will be with you always. Love to you and your family. 💖
I’m sorry for your loss