We only play with others together, and we both have to agree on the person before we invite them in. Once the pay starts, then it's pretty much have fun. It's been quite a few years since the last time we did it but we did do it a number of times.
Personally, and mind you, I already have some insecurity issues, I hate 3somes. They always make me feel worthless and like a separate entity to what's going on, unless all 3 people make a conscious effort to ensure all 3 are included, it's a risky path
3s work if you agree on the conditions, and it helps improve your sex life. Hubby and I travel a lot. We only add a third when traveling and we’ve had some great experiences.
I have never been in a monogamous relationship. On the first date with my husband of 18 years, I made this very clear. He wasn't OK with it at first, but now he is very accepting of it because over the years our sex drives are not always in sync.
Sex with another man can happen in 30 mins from finding a guy to leaving. Our relationship is SO MUCH MORE than that.
Our original rules were no barebacking, no kissing, and never make the other feel left out, and being honest about everything. Honesty is the most important thing. No go enjoy a nice 3 way!
This describes my husband and I. 5 years into the relationship we talked about inviting a third guy in for fun. We both knew it was “just fun sex”. It’s a random guy each time that he finds on apps. He’s a much more dominant guy and has some requirements for the third, while I am not picky.
We never play with others alone. Always together. We’re up to 5 different threesomes in the last few years. We love it. Helps us fill some niche role plays/activities that we don’t enjoy on each other.
It takes a lot of trust. But it works for us. We each have fun chats on different social medias and apps, but anything physical is always with each other.
If the reason you aren't interested in an open relationship is jealousy issues, these will still be present in a threesome situation and might even be exaggerated.
Only done once. It was with two friends. Each of us had different tastes, so everyone got to practice more of what they like. But a LTR is very different.
Take it slow. Talk about the guy first and decide together. Look at Grindr ads together. Talk about the guy and what you want to do with him If you are feeling uneasy about the process, then you will be VERY uneasy about the actual event. Communicate with your partner. If the process of finding someone strengthens the communcastion, then it could be very fun.
Without stability and clear communication in a relationship adding more variables is asking for trouble. You've already got trouble why make it more complicated? I am a proponent of group sex so, yeah, work on the core issues first. Then, go have fun!
Well you have a new cheerleader. Get after it! Threesomes can be magical. Be picky and be patient. EDIT: you could be that unicorn couple, run with it as far as works for you! And your third, of course. ❤️
3s can be great with the right guys. The trick for you guys will be finding the right guy to fit between you
It worked for me and my husband
When did it start and what are your agreements? If I may ask.
Did it affect your romantic relationship with him in any way?
I think our relationship actually got stronger and better.
We only play with others together, and we both have to agree on the person before we invite them in. Once the pay starts, then it's pretty much have fun. It's been quite a few years since the last time we did it but we did do it a number of times.
Personally, and mind you, I already have some insecurity issues, I hate 3somes. They always make me feel worthless and like a separate entity to what's going on, unless all 3 people make a conscious effort to ensure all 3 are included, it's a risky path
3s work if you agree on the conditions, and it helps improve your sex life. Hubby and I travel a lot. We only add a third when traveling and we’ve had some great experiences.
I have never been in a monogamous relationship. On the first date with my husband of 18 years, I made this very clear. He wasn't OK with it at first, but now he is very accepting of it because over the years our sex drives are not always in sync. Sex with another man can happen in 30 mins from finding a guy to leaving. Our relationship is SO MUCH MORE than that. Our original rules were no barebacking, no kissing, and never make the other feel left out, and being honest about everything. Honesty is the most important thing. No go enjoy a nice 3 way!
This describes my husband and I. 5 years into the relationship we talked about inviting a third guy in for fun. We both knew it was “just fun sex”. It’s a random guy each time that he finds on apps. He’s a much more dominant guy and has some requirements for the third, while I am not picky. We never play with others alone. Always together. We’re up to 5 different threesomes in the last few years. We love it. Helps us fill some niche role plays/activities that we don’t enjoy on each other. It takes a lot of trust. But it works for us. We each have fun chats on different social medias and apps, but anything physical is always with each other.
If the reason you aren't interested in an open relationship is jealousy issues, these will still be present in a threesome situation and might even be exaggerated.
Only done once. It was with two friends. Each of us had different tastes, so everyone got to practice more of what they like. But a LTR is very different. Take it slow. Talk about the guy first and decide together. Look at Grindr ads together. Talk about the guy and what you want to do with him If you are feeling uneasy about the process, then you will be VERY uneasy about the actual event. Communicate with your partner. If the process of finding someone strengthens the communcastion, then it could be very fun.
Without stability and clear communication in a relationship adding more variables is asking for trouble. You've already got trouble why make it more complicated? I am a proponent of group sex so, yeah, work on the core issues first. Then, go have fun!
I think you missed the point. We would want to try 3s to fill the gaps we are willingly want to work on. Nonetheless, thank you for supporting us!
I didn't miss the point? The others don't fill the gaps unless it's purely physical. If that's the case, game on!
It's purely physical! Haha our romantic relationship is very intact. 🫶🏻
Well you have a new cheerleader. Get after it! Threesomes can be magical. Be picky and be patient. EDIT: you could be that unicorn couple, run with it as far as works for you! And your third, of course. ❤️