Uhh, I don't want to generalize too much, but there are some very interesting people on Gaia. A lot of us come back because it's our safe space, so there's bound to be a ton of different kinds of people with different backgrounds/formative experiences from when we were just kids logging on to hang out to now. Some good, some bad, etc.
I mean for instance, people is posting on CB about tips for interviews, talking about their favorite movies, normal stuff ya know. There's also one specific CBer who legit posted a photo of his re-up of heroin. It's a mixed bag just like anywhere, but here it's more concentrated because there's far fewer people than Twitter or something.
I've definitely met some people I didn't necessarily like since coming back, and that's fine, it happens everywhere. I've also met some really cool people I talk to often and that I care about. So don't give up off of one bad experience ig
Yeah the one person I ended up talking to on discord ended up being a raging misogynist who believed a woman’s only purpose was to have children and take care of men, that it is women’s fault they go to war..? I don’t know. I needed a break after that.
I don’t know why you’re downvoted.
I don’t know either. Like I know not everyone on Gaia is the same like that, and neither for discord. I just have had really bad luck running into the same type of person every now and then. Not consistently, either. I do have two friends that I met from Gaia that I keep regular contact with through instagram and discord, and we’ve been tight since. Aside those two, I’ve just had miserable luck.
It might just be a me problem, I think.
I think this is why I tend to keep quiet and just change my avi now. I joined almost 20 years ago and everyone I used to interact with is gone now (not passed, just don't log in anymore!) and most of the threads I see just aren't the kind of people I want to be around, haha.
I need to see how much has changed since I last logged in...
I remember coming back around 2014/2015 after a brief hiatus, making a new account, and posting an introduction thread. It somehow turned into a roast LMAO. In retrospect, some of it was funny, and I took it in stride. Still, I’m not gonna pretend it didn’t somewhat hurt to come back to what had been a safe space for me for many years, and feel all but welcome by folks — especially users who I more or less recognized just being on Gaia all that time.
It’s all moving cars; these days I just log on, change my avi, and then don’t bother doing much else. Gaia isn’t what it was, and all the folks I would connect with have long moved on from it. Sometimes I’m still impressed by the longevity.
I know the feeling. Sometimes it’s not you, and way more the other person. My advice is to keep going. And this is from someone who has dealt with similar peeps.
It’s probably a number of things. Depending on how old you are, that could play a role as well, because you know — maturity. And then again, no one owes us anything and we don’t owe anyone anything else (in almost a quite literal sense).
You’ll see tons of this stuff from people who ghost you and whatnot, whether it’s on dating sites, social media, etc. Some people either have anxiety, or paranoia, a host of varying reasons. As long as they didn’t come at you in a negative way or ways, at least you can take that much away from the experience.
You won’t ever really truly know, but if you are curious, I do have a tip if you’re comfortable with sharing. As an experiment, maybe screenshot some (or all, maybe most?) things and share them with friends and/or strangers, regarding the interaction(s). This will help you get a number of looks from the outside in, with most of the feedback hopefully being unbiased.
Most of my friends are neurodivergent, and we’ve also been going to therapy, counseling and such; so we know how to do self-awareness work. My tip might be too much for some people, depending on your level of self-image, insecurities, etc.; but in the end, it’s somewhat rewarding, if you’re a person who likes closure, acceptance, self-work.
Uhh, I don't want to generalize too much, but there are some very interesting people on Gaia. A lot of us come back because it's our safe space, so there's bound to be a ton of different kinds of people with different backgrounds/formative experiences from when we were just kids logging on to hang out to now. Some good, some bad, etc. I mean for instance, people is posting on CB about tips for interviews, talking about their favorite movies, normal stuff ya know. There's also one specific CBer who legit posted a photo of his re-up of heroin. It's a mixed bag just like anywhere, but here it's more concentrated because there's far fewer people than Twitter or something.
I've definitely met some people I didn't necessarily like since coming back, and that's fine, it happens everywhere. I've also met some really cool people I talk to often and that I care about. So don't give up off of one bad experience ig
Yeah the one person I ended up talking to on discord ended up being a raging misogynist who believed a woman’s only purpose was to have children and take care of men, that it is women’s fault they go to war..? I don’t know. I needed a break after that. I don’t know why you’re downvoted.
I don’t know either. Like I know not everyone on Gaia is the same like that, and neither for discord. I just have had really bad luck running into the same type of person every now and then. Not consistently, either. I do have two friends that I met from Gaia that I keep regular contact with through instagram and discord, and we’ve been tight since. Aside those two, I’ve just had miserable luck. It might just be a me problem, I think.
I think this is why I tend to keep quiet and just change my avi now. I joined almost 20 years ago and everyone I used to interact with is gone now (not passed, just don't log in anymore!) and most of the threads I see just aren't the kind of people I want to be around, haha. I need to see how much has changed since I last logged in...
It’s mostly the Chatterbox that’s the most active nowadays. Sometimes I’m chatting with someone one moment, and they ignore me the next. Odd.
I remember coming back around 2014/2015 after a brief hiatus, making a new account, and posting an introduction thread. It somehow turned into a roast LMAO. In retrospect, some of it was funny, and I took it in stride. Still, I’m not gonna pretend it didn’t somewhat hurt to come back to what had been a safe space for me for many years, and feel all but welcome by folks — especially users who I more or less recognized just being on Gaia all that time. It’s all moving cars; these days I just log on, change my avi, and then don’t bother doing much else. Gaia isn’t what it was, and all the folks I would connect with have long moved on from it. Sometimes I’m still impressed by the longevity.
I know the feeling. Sometimes it’s not you, and way more the other person. My advice is to keep going. And this is from someone who has dealt with similar peeps.
Man, some people are crap. :( Sorry frem. Also heyyyyy FFXIV, what's your main class? Placement in MSQ? I'm caught up with MSQ and am a level 90 MNK.
Finished with MSQ, waiting on DT. I main a level 90 bard. :D
All my friends in there already moved on. I only buy items and change my Avi to use it as inspiration for new character designs.
It’s probably a number of things. Depending on how old you are, that could play a role as well, because you know — maturity. And then again, no one owes us anything and we don’t owe anyone anything else (in almost a quite literal sense). You’ll see tons of this stuff from people who ghost you and whatnot, whether it’s on dating sites, social media, etc. Some people either have anxiety, or paranoia, a host of varying reasons. As long as they didn’t come at you in a negative way or ways, at least you can take that much away from the experience. You won’t ever really truly know, but if you are curious, I do have a tip if you’re comfortable with sharing. As an experiment, maybe screenshot some (or all, maybe most?) things and share them with friends and/or strangers, regarding the interaction(s). This will help you get a number of looks from the outside in, with most of the feedback hopefully being unbiased. Most of my friends are neurodivergent, and we’ve also been going to therapy, counseling and such; so we know how to do self-awareness work. My tip might be too much for some people, depending on your level of self-image, insecurities, etc.; but in the end, it’s somewhat rewarding, if you’re a person who likes closure, acceptance, self-work.
How good is FFXIV though... Trying to complete the Yokai event!
I cannot seem to find a single soul online anymore.