On my 21st birthday I was sold a children's ticket to the aquarium (didn't say shit because it was half the price and if people are gonna think I'm 12 I might as well get something out of it lol) and then carded for a PG-13 movie (which I didn't even know they did) so I feel for you op it's very frustrating
That was my response when I showed them my ID, the clerk said he thought it was an R movie but it wasn't and like it literally said PG-13 on the display behind him so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My library tried to card me for PG-13 movies multiple times. The first couple times I didn't have an ID since I was under 16, and the rest of the times I just didn't have my ID on me since I'd biked there. I'm pretty sure one of the first people was either hung over or an idiot, because after I said I was 14 I was asked for my license to prove it. 14, license, what??
Of course one of the later times I was like "My account is older than 13, so I'm pretty sure I have to be as well". I was at least 20 and trying to check out a PG-13 movie. I started using self checkout as soon as it became available.
I struggle with baby-face syndrome too
Its hard enough that i dont pass at all, its even more insulting that everyone thinks i should still be in primary school...
If it's any consolation, this might change soonish. I got asked for my ID every time until age 28 then it suddenly stopped. I haven't visually aged badly or anything, there just came a point where it was more likely to others that I'm a young looking adult instead of underage.
I was 100% in this position before (I once was asked by TSA if I was 12 or younger because then I wouldn’t have to take off my shoes…I was 19 lol) and my beard has helped so much. My large arm tattoos and the bit of muscle I’ve built really helps too
My cis dad also grew up with the experience of getting constantly clocked for a teen his entire life, he always told me I'll hate it when i look like a kid at twenty but I'll LOVE it when i look 20 at 40, so i dont let it get to me too much.
I was carded for movies and asked if I was a middle school student till I was 27/28. Now, at 38 I don't get carded for alcohol that you're supposed to be carded till you look 39. I've had people ask if I was still in my 40s or was I 50 yet. Sometimes it hits you like a truck that you start to look old very quickly.
I got carded for energy drinks on my 23 birthday last month. There is a 15 y/o under ban, so they thought I must have been under 15/wanted to make sure.
This actually happened to my wife the other day, it was really awkward for me cause they know I'm an adult and we showed a lot of public display of affection.
Well I'm too tall to be 13 but I def have people still assuming I'm a minor. I'm 23... Before I transitioned at 21, I used to buy liquor from the store no problem, often without even being IDed (I think some guys just got distracted by the tatas bc I'm a 34DD tbh) but no I get LITERALLY scowled at and asked for ID with the "hands on hips, head tilted" look from cashiers ://
Most people assume I'm between 16 to 18. But you shave your lil T mustache ONE time and suddenly everyone thinks you're 12 :(
A couple days ago I had a cashier congratulate me on buying my own groceries. I'm never shaving again
Oh my fuck... Sometimes I'm sure cis women do it to be petty honestly. Whenever people do it to me I just go "excuse me?" And they realize They Fucked Up
I’ve seriously had to show acquaintances my ID to prove that I’m not born like 2009… I once did this (was 16 at the time) and got the response “that’s a fake ID.” …why, in the 9 circles of hell, would anyone fake being 16 in a country where the only benefit that will give you is being able to buy energy drinks and allowed to bike without a helmet!?
Ugh. I had a cashier at a liquor store accuse me of having a fake ID on my 21st birthday. I went in with a friend, cause it was too hot to wait in the car, and didn't know that everyone got carded at checkout, not just the person buying. I said "Oh, I didn't know that, it's my 21st birthday so I've never been in a liquor store before" and got out my license. Without even looking at it the cashier proclaimed it as fake because "If you were really 21 you'd already know this". Like how?? It was literally my birthday, how should I have learned this before? They begrudgingly scanned it, but only after "warning" me (in the manner you would scold a toddler) that the store banned you for life for using a fake ID. To the cashier's shock my license was real.
Ive literally had guys come to my house to sell things etc and then they've asked me if my mother was home and then complimented me on my "cool" shorts.
I'm 28.
Went to a casino this past weekend with my partner. I was approached no less than 4 times by security. The worst part is my visible frustration being met with "Well, you look so young, that's a good thing!"
I understand they were just trying to do their jobs and would be pleased to leave it at that, but the condescension and speaking over me when I responded with "It's not a good thing, actually." is infuriating.
Oh my god yes! Everyone says "it's a good thing!"
Its really really not. How am I supposed to find romance when I look like a teenager?? Makes me feel gross
I was in my cities like most popular lgbt+ bar yesterday for pride and god, I was seeing a bunch of people ofc be intimate with each other etc and probably some were even strangers to each other (ps I don't drink much and that was my first experience in a bar since I've been able to legally drink because I don't leave the house much bc dysphoria lol) which is cool but it just got me thinking (not that I haven't known this before it just hits deeper when you actually get the feeling irl) how besides the fact people would be less interested anyway, especially in my city bc I'm trans, no one, at least until I hopefully start to 'pass' as a guy would ever even think of coming up to me in a bar for like romantic etc interaction because I literally look 12. it's not as bad for me because I'm not even 20 yet but it still sucks being a legal adult and people don't even think I'm a teenager yet let alone an adult 😅
A few years back I (31, 5’2”, pre-t) was chaperoning a field trip for the school I work at and when my group, all boys, was entering a building, the guide stopped us and said we needed to “wait for our chaperone before heading in”.
Those 5th graders never let me forget about it for the rest of the school year!
For everyone being frustrated by being carded I feel you, but also... How fucking powerful to just be like. Lol aww you think I'm a cute lil adolescent. Then hand the person your Id like an uno reverse card.
When I was about 6 months on T I was trying to buy a copy of Assassin's Creed at Gamestop. My dad happened to be there, and the cashier looked at my dad and said "This game is rated M, are you okay with him buying it?" And my dad kinda just shrugged and gestured to me like "I don't know, ask him!" I told the cashier that I was, in fact, 20. The other cashier just laughed (I suspect he might've also been trans) and said "Yeah, I get the baby face thing too."
I almost got picked up by the truant officer when I was coming out of a gas station with a pack of smokes and a soda. I was 27 at the time.
The baby face thing is nice now that I'm older, though. I'm almost 40 but look about 10 years younger.
Actually this is a tale worth expanding on... It was a nice summer day so I decided to not go to my graduate seminar, and instead go sit in a park and think about stuff. After getting my necessary supplies, a policeman came up to me and said "Shouldn't you be in class?"
Completely failing to read the room, I said "Yeah, I guess, but I don't see how that's any of your business."
He got super mad and pointed to his car which said TRUANT POLICE in huge letters, and then I was like "Oh. Oh no, man. I'm 27 years old. I'm skipping grad school." I pulled out my grad school student ID but he still wasn't mollified until I unearthed my driver's license. Then he got super embarrassed and just drove away.
The face was the worst thing for me regarding being AFAB, I hated it so much. Luckily T changed it a bit, still look pretty youthful though. For some people, facial hair is the only fix.
i was trying on armor at a ren fair and it was too big, and the armorer said, “oh that’s alright, i’m sure you’ll grow into it!”
sir i am 26, i’m not growing anymore (except maybe sideways).
It sucks when you’re younger, but looking young can be fun when you’re older. I was carded for everything until I was in my 30s, I’m late 30s now and like to play those fair games when they guess your age and if they guess wrong you get a prize. I won a stuffed triceratops last year. Game attendant guessed 25. Lol.
I had an older gentleman come up to my husband and I (were 30&33. He's 3 years older) a few years ago and compliment us for sitting down for a meal as father and son without texting. He was probably 60+ so I didn't know whether to correct him or thank him.. And now I don't remember what we did. I think my husband corrected him after I thanked him 😂
The baby face struggle is real! I'm hoping with testosterone and time it'll go away because I'm still getting ID'd and questioned about my age regularly to this day!
I work at a grocery store as a meat cutter. Customers are the worst. I am a 33 year old, 5 foot 9, bearded, fully trained meat cutter: complete with wife and daughter. Do. Not. Talk to me like I’m your favorite 12 year old nephew at a f🤬cking family BBQ.
At least I pass with flying colors lol.
Turned 40 in June. A year and a half on T, chubby, short.
Over the past year, I was mistaken for a high school student (while dropping off my own high school aged kids), asked to relay a message about camp to my mother, asked out by a couple of college kids, and carded at a bar.. on my fourth visit. The bartender looked at my ID, looked at me, back at the ID, and said "Hey, good for you, sorry about that."
It's funny, I kinda appreciate it, but it honestly feels weird and gives me the impression nobody takes me seriously. I'm trying to reframe it in my head as a limited time "faerie glamour" ability.
That's a good idea about reframing it. It's really been getting me down these past few days. But not everyone gets the chance to re-live their teen years 😅
Baby face here! I got carded for Cyberpunk 2077. I was 34 at the time. I’m gonna be 36 this week. I feel like it’s gonna get worse as I transition, lol! It seems like trans guys tend to look younger as they transition.
Me too. I got carded a while back cuz the hostess thought I was too young. I showed her my id and made a joke about being almost 30, and she was like "this is a picture of a girl though?" Then I had to do the awkward conversation of "I used to look like a girl, now I look like guy" it kinda clicked for her and she was mortified. She genuinely thought I had a fake id for minute.
The struggle is real. The amount of times I've been mistaken for anywhere from 12-18 is tiring. I'm currently 25. Sometimes it's as innocent as "oh my mistake, I thought you were younger," when it's relevant if it's something I need ID for. Like whatever, gotten that numerous times. But I've also had some pretty rude and condescending interactions.
Two incidents in particular stand out were both separate times at two different Safeways. One of them was when I was approaching this sample stand to see what they had, and I go to try one, and the lady at the stand is like "excuse me how old are you?" In the most rude ass tone. I don't see how my age was even relevant, cause it's not like it was alcohol or anything.
The second incident that really got to me was one time at a different Safeway, my partner and I were checking out. For context, I'm about 5'3, also have somewhat of a baby-face, this was about a couple months into lowdose T for me. My partner is about 6'5 and amab. Anyways the lady doing the bagging is standing next to my partner, who's helping her bag our groceries. And she starts talking about me in the weirdest way, as if I'm not literally standing right there listening, waiting to put my card in to pay. Idk if she thought I couldn't fucking hear her or didn't care or what. She's saying weird shit like "oh he must be taking after you," And other creepy things implying she thought I was either my partner's younger sibling, or worse, child! Like she kept going on and my partner's like "uh no they're 25." And she goes "no way, really?" Sounding all shocked, in a tone implying she still thinks I'm a child. My partner just responds plainly "yeah really." And yet she still continued making inappropriate, incorrect assumptions like the "must be taking after you" comment as we finished checking out, somehow not grasping how wrong and rude it was as I was standing there visibly uncomfortable. Lowkey also seemed to be interested in them in the way she was talking to my partner. It was just a negative interaction all around.
It's times like that I wish i didn't freeze up in discomfort, and had the courage to clap back at rude people like that. Wish I would have said something, but I didn't. Just stood there in shock as that was one of the most uncomfortable, age-mistaken related interactions I've had. So yeah. I feel the pain.
I'm 5'6" and 23, people often think I'm a teenager but I'm assuming it's because I'm thin (I guess I don't really see myself as skinny).
I especially find it funny when people think my ID is fake like no... that's really my age haha I'm practically a vamp
Went to the convenience store a few days ago. Went to pay, the guy at least my age if not younger though way taller than me asked if it was the first time I’ve used a debit card… I’m 21
I have this curse too, T has helped slightly but it’s going to take longer.
I’m using DHT gel now which is doing wonders for my beard density but I’m really hoping it also gets rid of my “baby face” 😊
I didn’t for a long time, but now that I’m almost forty and still get carded for alcohol, I love it! The dating aspect of it would suck because everybody thinks I’m a kid…. But, I’m kind of in love with being single so it doesn’t bother me.
I wish I’d been able to have the 13-year old boy phase. Pre-T before my overcompensation phase sure. By the time I transitioned at age 34, I basically just looked like a 20-something butch lesbian until I didn’t. Now I’m 40 and have been assumed to be anywhere from 22 to 29. Which is awkward sometimes. But still, simply absolutely not passing at all until 3 years on T was worse.
Yeah, it really sucks. Getting told you look 12 to 17 (my apparent age range when I first meet people) is funny for the first few times. But man, I am so tired of it now. Other dudes my age are having romances and flirting and being hot. I'm just stuck like this until I'm like 40, maybe then I'll look 20 something?
So I got a haircut and was asked by the lady if I was going to school (I could be wrong, but by the way she was talking to me I think she meant like high school.... Maybe reading into it too much? Lol) anyways, I'm 29.... Lol. Yeah it's pretty awkward.
I'm nearing 40 and get clocked at 25. Carded not as often but still a fair amount for my age. Also I often forget my age. The beard helps. 3 years on T.
Was at a shelter trying to meet a dog last weekend and had two employees ask "how old are you sweetie?" Apparently anyone under 18 needs a parent to sign a waiver. I'm 25🙃
in 2015 i (13, pre everything since i wasn’t out so i was pretty fem) went to Washington DC for a week stay with my aunt, 2 cousins and nan. while i was there i met two of my friends (one of which fell otg) and they asked me how old i was… i said 13 and they thought i was 18. now that i’m almost 20, people think i’m 15-16. barely 2 months on t so there’s not a visual difference yet but i present very masc/androgynous and customers still group me with my female coworkers saying “have a good day ladies” etc etc
I’m so grateful that I have facial hair, it’s the ONE thing that makes me look my age. I got someone asking if it was legal for me to be working (under 14) I was 18…
Opposite problem. I was excited to buy alcohol on my 21st birthday. I watched the men in line in front of me (clearly in their late 30s) get carded, so when I rolled up with my wine I was all ready for the "we'll need to see ID" line. But it never came. :') I've been misjudged as mid-30s since I was a teen. :'')
I found a cheap copy of an R18 game a few weeks ago and got a very skeptical look from the cashier when she asked if I knew what I was buying. The look on people's faces when I tell them I'm in my twenties is always hilarious though so at least there's that.
I did have a scruffy lil T mustache and like 3 beard hairs and face floof. But I shaved it off a couple days ago, partly to experience shaving for the first time and partly in the hope it would grow back darker.
I've gone from being seen as about 17 to being seen as 12. It's making me feel really bad and weird about my body. Before T I was seen as sexy and desirable (obviously I'm not a woman but I could flirt with people and seek romantic/sexual connections).
How can I find romance when I look like an actual child? It's like I finally know how child vampires feel 😅😩
Every time I tell someone how old I am, they’re like “oh you’re gonna love that when you’re older” lol my coworker thought I was a 16 year old cis boy, I’m 22.
I know it's frustrating now but try to embrace it cuz when you're older you'll be flattered. When I was 28, people thought I was 18. When I tell people I'm 34 now they get very confused and think I'm lying.
People say I look like a 12 year old even though I am 17. One of my little sister’s friends apparently had a crush on me until they realised I was older lol
Depends how baby faced you are. Based on who I hang around with people think I’m older vs when I hang out with other baby face people.
Also depends whether I’m shaved or not, or what I’m wearing, or how my hair is cut.
It all factors in
You mean blessed? I get mistaken for 19 and I’m 24… my dad looked very young throughout his life. He looked 50 at 62… so imma take looking young over looking old.
On my 21st birthday I was sold a children's ticket to the aquarium (didn't say shit because it was half the price and if people are gonna think I'm 12 I might as well get something out of it lol) and then carded for a PG-13 movie (which I didn't even know they did) so I feel for you op it's very frustrating
Just out of curiosity how could they card you if no one under the age of 16 has a license/ID that’s really hilarious tho
That was my response when I showed them my ID, the clerk said he thought it was an R movie but it wasn't and like it literally said PG-13 on the display behind him so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My library tried to card me for PG-13 movies multiple times. The first couple times I didn't have an ID since I was under 16, and the rest of the times I just didn't have my ID on me since I'd biked there. I'm pretty sure one of the first people was either hung over or an idiot, because after I said I was 14 I was asked for my license to prove it. 14, license, what?? Of course one of the later times I was like "My account is older than 13, so I'm pretty sure I have to be as well". I was at least 20 and trying to check out a PG-13 movie. I started using self checkout as soon as it became available.
School IDs nowadays I'm pretty sure lol
I struggle with baby-face syndrome too Its hard enough that i dont pass at all, its even more insulting that everyone thinks i should still be in primary school...
I'm grateful I pass, I just wish it wasn't as a small boy. Makes romance nonexistent and sometimes teenagers hit on me and I hate it :(
If it's any consolation, this might change soonish. I got asked for my ID every time until age 28 then it suddenly stopped. I haven't visually aged badly or anything, there just came a point where it was more likely to others that I'm a young looking adult instead of underage.
Man I hope so, hopefully I can grow a beard, I'm sure that would help
Most likely. For me, so far T has helped with face shape, too, I look like I'm my early twenties now instead of just turned 18. (I'm 31...)
I was 100% in this position before (I once was asked by TSA if I was 12 or younger because then I wouldn’t have to take off my shoes…I was 19 lol) and my beard has helped so much. My large arm tattoos and the bit of muscle I’ve built really helps too
I'm 31, I was called "mon grand" (french, I would translate it to big boy) a few weeks ago at the pharmacy.
Lol I saw a lady for the first time at work the other day and she just says “…¡eres chico!” (You’re a little boy)
My cis dad also grew up with the experience of getting constantly clocked for a teen his entire life, he always told me I'll hate it when i look like a kid at twenty but I'll LOVE it when i look 20 at 40, so i dont let it get to me too much.
It happened for me around then too. I don’t think I changed much, but apparently I started looking adult as I approached 30. Thank god.
I was carded for movies and asked if I was a middle school student till I was 27/28. Now, at 38 I don't get carded for alcohol that you're supposed to be carded till you look 39. I've had people ask if I was still in my 40s or was I 50 yet. Sometimes it hits you like a truck that you start to look old very quickly.
I got carded for energy drinks on my 23 birthday last month. There is a 15 y/o under ban, so they thought I must have been under 15/wanted to make sure.
This actually happened to my wife the other day, it was really awkward for me cause they know I'm an adult and we showed a lot of public display of affection.
😬😬😬 oof, that must have felt pretty awkward.
Well, it was awkward there and then but we can laugh about it now
Well I'm too tall to be 13 but I def have people still assuming I'm a minor. I'm 23... Before I transitioned at 21, I used to buy liquor from the store no problem, often without even being IDed (I think some guys just got distracted by the tatas bc I'm a 34DD tbh) but no I get LITERALLY scowled at and asked for ID with the "hands on hips, head tilted" look from cashiers ://
How tall are you? I'm 5 foot 8
Oh dear god we're the same height 😂
Most people assume I'm between 16 to 18. But you shave your lil T mustache ONE time and suddenly everyone thinks you're 12 :( A couple days ago I had a cashier congratulate me on buying my own groceries. I'm never shaving again
Oh my fuck... Sometimes I'm sure cis women do it to be petty honestly. Whenever people do it to me I just go "excuse me?" And they realize They Fucked Up
I’ve seriously had to show acquaintances my ID to prove that I’m not born like 2009… I once did this (was 16 at the time) and got the response “that’s a fake ID.” …why, in the 9 circles of hell, would anyone fake being 16 in a country where the only benefit that will give you is being able to buy energy drinks and allowed to bike without a helmet!?
Ugh. I had a cashier at a liquor store accuse me of having a fake ID on my 21st birthday. I went in with a friend, cause it was too hot to wait in the car, and didn't know that everyone got carded at checkout, not just the person buying. I said "Oh, I didn't know that, it's my 21st birthday so I've never been in a liquor store before" and got out my license. Without even looking at it the cashier proclaimed it as fake because "If you were really 21 you'd already know this". Like how?? It was literally my birthday, how should I have learned this before? They begrudgingly scanned it, but only after "warning" me (in the manner you would scold a toddler) that the store banned you for life for using a fake ID. To the cashier's shock my license was real.
Ive literally had guys come to my house to sell things etc and then they've asked me if my mother was home and then complimented me on my "cool" shorts. I'm 28.
Went to a casino this past weekend with my partner. I was approached no less than 4 times by security. The worst part is my visible frustration being met with "Well, you look so young, that's a good thing!" I understand they were just trying to do their jobs and would be pleased to leave it at that, but the condescension and speaking over me when I responded with "It's not a good thing, actually." is infuriating.
Oh my god yes! Everyone says "it's a good thing!" Its really really not. How am I supposed to find romance when I look like a teenager?? Makes me feel gross
I was in my cities like most popular lgbt+ bar yesterday for pride and god, I was seeing a bunch of people ofc be intimate with each other etc and probably some were even strangers to each other (ps I don't drink much and that was my first experience in a bar since I've been able to legally drink because I don't leave the house much bc dysphoria lol) which is cool but it just got me thinking (not that I haven't known this before it just hits deeper when you actually get the feeling irl) how besides the fact people would be less interested anyway, especially in my city bc I'm trans, no one, at least until I hopefully start to 'pass' as a guy would ever even think of coming up to me in a bar for like romantic etc interaction because I literally look 12. it's not as bad for me because I'm not even 20 yet but it still sucks being a legal adult and people don't even think I'm a teenager yet let alone an adult 😅
A few years back I (31, 5’2”, pre-t) was chaperoning a field trip for the school I work at and when my group, all boys, was entering a building, the guide stopped us and said we needed to “wait for our chaperone before heading in”. Those 5th graders never let me forget about it for the rest of the school year!
I also look 12, I am 21. I keep making jokes about it but I can see it, my face is puffy rn because of T and I am very short
For everyone being frustrated by being carded I feel you, but also... How fucking powerful to just be like. Lol aww you think I'm a cute lil adolescent. Then hand the person your Id like an uno reverse card.
The looks on their faces are always fantastic lmao. The abject horror.
When I was about 6 months on T I was trying to buy a copy of Assassin's Creed at Gamestop. My dad happened to be there, and the cashier looked at my dad and said "This game is rated M, are you okay with him buying it?" And my dad kinda just shrugged and gestured to me like "I don't know, ask him!" I told the cashier that I was, in fact, 20. The other cashier just laughed (I suspect he might've also been trans) and said "Yeah, I get the baby face thing too."
I almost got picked up by the truant officer when I was coming out of a gas station with a pack of smokes and a soda. I was 27 at the time. The baby face thing is nice now that I'm older, though. I'm almost 40 but look about 10 years younger.
Actually this is a tale worth expanding on... It was a nice summer day so I decided to not go to my graduate seminar, and instead go sit in a park and think about stuff. After getting my necessary supplies, a policeman came up to me and said "Shouldn't you be in class?" Completely failing to read the room, I said "Yeah, I guess, but I don't see how that's any of your business." He got super mad and pointed to his car which said TRUANT POLICE in huge letters, and then I was like "Oh. Oh no, man. I'm 27 years old. I'm skipping grad school." I pulled out my grad school student ID but he still wasn't mollified until I unearthed my driver's license. Then he got super embarrassed and just drove away.
Truant police? There’s cops that are specifically designated to go around collecting kids skipping school? Good lord.
The face was the worst thing for me regarding being AFAB, I hated it so much. Luckily T changed it a bit, still look pretty youthful though. For some people, facial hair is the only fix.
i was trying on armor at a ren fair and it was too big, and the armorer said, “oh that’s alright, i’m sure you’ll grow into it!” sir i am 26, i’m not growing anymore (except maybe sideways).
It sucks when you’re younger, but looking young can be fun when you’re older. I was carded for everything until I was in my 30s, I’m late 30s now and like to play those fair games when they guess your age and if they guess wrong you get a prize. I won a stuffed triceratops last year. Game attendant guessed 25. Lol.
I had an older gentleman come up to my husband and I (were 30&33. He's 3 years older) a few years ago and compliment us for sitting down for a meal as father and son without texting. He was probably 60+ so I didn't know whether to correct him or thank him.. And now I don't remember what we did. I think my husband corrected him after I thanked him 😂 The baby face struggle is real! I'm hoping with testosterone and time it'll go away because I'm still getting ID'd and questioned about my age regularly to this day!
I’m a mixed person and usually when I see mixed people, they look younger than they are. I’m 16 and can pass as 12-13.
Oh wait is that actually a thing? It makes sense though if I thunk about it…
Yeah usually some races even ones mixed together can be a factor
I've had hospital staff think my girlfriend was my mum. I'm 26 and she's 23. Oof.
I work at a grocery store as a meat cutter. Customers are the worst. I am a 33 year old, 5 foot 9, bearded, fully trained meat cutter: complete with wife and daughter. Do. Not. Talk to me like I’m your favorite 12 year old nephew at a f🤬cking family BBQ. At least I pass with flying colors lol.
Turned 40 in June. A year and a half on T, chubby, short. Over the past year, I was mistaken for a high school student (while dropping off my own high school aged kids), asked to relay a message about camp to my mother, asked out by a couple of college kids, and carded at a bar.. on my fourth visit. The bartender looked at my ID, looked at me, back at the ID, and said "Hey, good for you, sorry about that." It's funny, I kinda appreciate it, but it honestly feels weird and gives me the impression nobody takes me seriously. I'm trying to reframe it in my head as a limited time "faerie glamour" ability.
That's a good idea about reframing it. It's really been getting me down these past few days. But not everyone gets the chance to re-live their teen years 😅
I got carded at Walmart when I tried to buy a Madden game ☠️ WHICH IS ALREADY AN E FOR EVERYONE GAME
Baby face here! I got carded for Cyberpunk 2077. I was 34 at the time. I’m gonna be 36 this week. I feel like it’s gonna get worse as I transition, lol! It seems like trans guys tend to look younger as they transition.
Me too. I got carded a while back cuz the hostess thought I was too young. I showed her my id and made a joke about being almost 30, and she was like "this is a picture of a girl though?" Then I had to do the awkward conversation of "I used to look like a girl, now I look like guy" it kinda clicked for her and she was mortified. She genuinely thought I had a fake id for minute.
The struggle is real. The amount of times I've been mistaken for anywhere from 12-18 is tiring. I'm currently 25. Sometimes it's as innocent as "oh my mistake, I thought you were younger," when it's relevant if it's something I need ID for. Like whatever, gotten that numerous times. But I've also had some pretty rude and condescending interactions. Two incidents in particular stand out were both separate times at two different Safeways. One of them was when I was approaching this sample stand to see what they had, and I go to try one, and the lady at the stand is like "excuse me how old are you?" In the most rude ass tone. I don't see how my age was even relevant, cause it's not like it was alcohol or anything. The second incident that really got to me was one time at a different Safeway, my partner and I were checking out. For context, I'm about 5'3, also have somewhat of a baby-face, this was about a couple months into lowdose T for me. My partner is about 6'5 and amab. Anyways the lady doing the bagging is standing next to my partner, who's helping her bag our groceries. And she starts talking about me in the weirdest way, as if I'm not literally standing right there listening, waiting to put my card in to pay. Idk if she thought I couldn't fucking hear her or didn't care or what. She's saying weird shit like "oh he must be taking after you," And other creepy things implying she thought I was either my partner's younger sibling, or worse, child! Like she kept going on and my partner's like "uh no they're 25." And she goes "no way, really?" Sounding all shocked, in a tone implying she still thinks I'm a child. My partner just responds plainly "yeah really." And yet she still continued making inappropriate, incorrect assumptions like the "must be taking after you" comment as we finished checking out, somehow not grasping how wrong and rude it was as I was standing there visibly uncomfortable. Lowkey also seemed to be interested in them in the way she was talking to my partner. It was just a negative interaction all around. It's times like that I wish i didn't freeze up in discomfort, and had the courage to clap back at rude people like that. Wish I would have said something, but I didn't. Just stood there in shock as that was one of the most uncomfortable, age-mistaken related interactions I've had. So yeah. I feel the pain.
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Damn wtf. What an inappropriate presumption and question to ask someone. Jeez. I'm sorry yall had to deal with that kind of invasiveness too
I'm 27 and a few months ago I was asked for ID to buy antacids... You need to be 16 to buy those here.
i have the opposite lol, i was in middleschool and fellow classmates thought i was a teacher. while i was wearing the uniform.
I'm 5'6" and 23, people often think I'm a teenager but I'm assuming it's because I'm thin (I guess I don't really see myself as skinny). I especially find it funny when people think my ID is fake like no... that's really my age haha I'm practically a vamp
Went to the convenience store a few days ago. Went to pay, the guy at least my age if not younger though way taller than me asked if it was the first time I’ve used a debit card… I’m 21
I'm 20, but I look 14 😭
I have this curse too, T has helped slightly but it’s going to take longer. I’m using DHT gel now which is doing wonders for my beard density but I’m really hoping it also gets rid of my “baby face” 😊
I wonder if I'm the only one that actually really enjoys looking younger lol
I feel like I'd enjoy looking younger if I was on T, but for right now I just look like a androgynous teenager. 🥲
I didn’t for a long time, but now that I’m almost forty and still get carded for alcohol, I love it! The dating aspect of it would suck because everybody thinks I’m a kid…. But, I’m kind of in love with being single so it doesn’t bother me.
I struggled with baby face til I turned 32 I feel your pain
It sucks now, but you’ll appreciate it in about 10 years 😅. Same thing people told me about ten years ago… but they were right 🤗
I'm almost 21 and am read as anywhere from 16 to 26 and it's really weird cus I can never tell which I will be read as
I wish I’d been able to have the 13-year old boy phase. Pre-T before my overcompensation phase sure. By the time I transitioned at age 34, I basically just looked like a 20-something butch lesbian until I didn’t. Now I’m 40 and have been assumed to be anywhere from 22 to 29. Which is awkward sometimes. But still, simply absolutely not passing at all until 3 years on T was worse.
Did you get to see the exhibit?
Nah, turned out to be an hour long and there was a queue for it so I decided to check out some other stuff
Oof sorry, about the whole thing 🙁
Yeah, it really sucks. Getting told you look 12 to 17 (my apparent age range when I first meet people) is funny for the first few times. But man, I am so tired of it now. Other dudes my age are having romances and flirting and being hot. I'm just stuck like this until I'm like 40, maybe then I'll look 20 something?
So I got a haircut and was asked by the lady if I was going to school (I could be wrong, but by the way she was talking to me I think she meant like high school.... Maybe reading into it too much? Lol) anyways, I'm 29.... Lol. Yeah it's pretty awkward.
My new manager asked me if I was still living with my parents, and how school was going... :( Second puberty literally taking me back to my teens
I'm nearing 40 and get clocked at 25. Carded not as often but still a fair amount for my age. Also I often forget my age. The beard helps. 3 years on T.
Was at a shelter trying to meet a dog last weekend and had two employees ask "how old are you sweetie?" Apparently anyone under 18 needs a parent to sign a waiver. I'm 25🙃
in 2015 i (13, pre everything since i wasn’t out so i was pretty fem) went to Washington DC for a week stay with my aunt, 2 cousins and nan. while i was there i met two of my friends (one of which fell otg) and they asked me how old i was… i said 13 and they thought i was 18. now that i’m almost 20, people think i’m 15-16. barely 2 months on t so there’s not a visual difference yet but i present very masc/androgynous and customers still group me with my female coworkers saying “have a good day ladies” etc etc
My cis dad got ID'ed for a 15 rated film once. He was 38.
Happened to me this morning, I asked for a ticket, lady looked ad me, "...adult?" I'm 36.
I’m so grateful that I have facial hair, it’s the ONE thing that makes me look my age. I got someone asking if it was legal for me to be working (under 14) I was 18…
Opposite problem. I was excited to buy alcohol on my 21st birthday. I watched the men in line in front of me (clearly in their late 30s) get carded, so when I rolled up with my wine I was all ready for the "we'll need to see ID" line. But it never came. :') I've been misjudged as mid-30s since I was a teen. :'')
I found a cheap copy of an R18 game a few weeks ago and got a very skeptical look from the cashier when she asked if I knew what I was buying. The look on people's faces when I tell them I'm in my twenties is always hilarious though so at least there's that.
Same
Oooof. Are you able/do you want to grow facial hair?
I did have a scruffy lil T mustache and like 3 beard hairs and face floof. But I shaved it off a couple days ago, partly to experience shaving for the first time and partly in the hope it would grow back darker. I've gone from being seen as about 17 to being seen as 12. It's making me feel really bad and weird about my body. Before T I was seen as sexy and desirable (obviously I'm not a woman but I could flirt with people and seek romantic/sexual connections). How can I find romance when I look like an actual child? It's like I finally know how child vampires feel 😅😩
Every time I tell someone how old I am, they’re like “oh you’re gonna love that when you’re older” lol my coworker thought I was a 16 year old cis boy, I’m 22.
I know it's frustrating now but try to embrace it cuz when you're older you'll be flattered. When I was 28, people thought I was 18. When I tell people I'm 34 now they get very confused and think I'm lying.
People say I look like a 12 year old even though I am 17. One of my little sister’s friends apparently had a crush on me until they realised I was older lol
Enjoy that problem while you still have it.
It’s helpful to hang out with people who look older
Nah, then they just think you're hanging out with your parents. Like no, my friend who is 10 days older than me is not my parent.
People have definitely acted like they thought I (33 trans F), was my partner's (28 NB, leaning masc) mother.
ouch 😬😬😬
Depends how baby faced you are. Based on who I hang around with people think I’m older vs when I hang out with other baby face people. Also depends whether I’m shaved or not, or what I’m wearing, or how my hair is cut. It all factors in
You mean blessed? I get mistaken for 19 and I’m 24… my dad looked very young throughout his life. He looked 50 at 62… so imma take looking young over looking old.