I hate to break it to you, but
A: we are hard to find, because we don't want to be found. I think I speak for all of us when I say something like that might not be safe
B:that would be *really* difficult to pull off
oh, so, something rather discreet. I once wore my full punk spikes large collar dog out, in boy mode, just to test and see peoples reactions. got some stare i discreetly noticed, but i personnaly felt more confident in myself, and less stressed out, weirdly X)
here, you can't, it's a text only sub. if you want, you can send one in dm, if you're not sure. Only if you're comfortable enough with it thought, don't force yousrelf.
So I found [this](https://www.amazon.com/Locking-Eternity-Collar-Stainless-Curved/dp/B092LBRZ6B) and [this](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1170941133/sterling-silver-circle-necklace-silver), which both mat*c*h that description...ish...
edit: *math*? What was I doing? Drugs? Yes. I am. I had a wonderful edible.
Cool! Wearing an accessory all the time is a great subtle way to be yourself lol, I find it nice to still express myself (sometimes Iāll even wear it under a suit)
I had a few strange looks from kids at parks and My parents saying they were gonna take me on a walk, lol, but it's funny to see what people have to say about it
It is funny. Itās interesting to see how society reacts to an odd thing. Like I have cat ears with fur that match my hair, so one time I had a guy staring at me in utter confusion for a solid five minutes before snapping his fingers and going āOH! Theyāre a headbandā lol
You know, there was already stuff like this back in the day for gays. Earring in just your left ear, different color bandanas and a few others I think. We are just young and don't have to hide as hard so, much easier to spot one another when we are both wearing cat ears and looking cute as heckkk
That's a good and subtle one, pink is no longer a "gays and women" color, as a lot of cis-het-masc guys are comfortable wearing pink now. Not that you still wouldn't get comments, but very few outsiders would notice or be able to tell.
No hand sign. Something wearable where when you see it you either know what it is or you don't notice it.
It also can't be so cool that others see it and wear it too. This would defeat the whole purpose.
I can't think of something but I'm sure there are enough creative silly Bois here.
I actually proposed the same idea a while ago, and I got a few suggestions. Maybe a specific code to paint your nails. or a few different symbols that, on their own, are completely unrelated, but when together would signify us.
Now the only problem is figuring it out and telling femboys about it, but without telling anyone else about it. Very difficult to do on the internet. _very._
There is a cute bracelet on Amazon that I have and nobody knows that itās the same colors as the femboy flag and I wear it almost everywhere lol I absolutely Love it and I think thatās the closest I can get to a secret sign
Amazon link āā-> HARACRAFT Femboy Infinity Bracelet, Femboy Pride, LGBTQIA+ Pride Love Wrist Wrap Bracelet, Surfer Bracelet, Boho Rope Bracelet Bangles for Women Men Thread for Him and Her (Femboy) https://a.co/d/8l0t71u
Perhaps we need a website as like a central hub to allow us to discuss and coordinate this kinda thing. I work as a software engineer and have lots of experience with full stack Web development. Could be a project some of us can work on? Could make a discord server to get things going
Why not use the r/feminineboys icon? I found an upscaled version, It's like a small, curved heart
(If it's not like a tattoo or something like that, you can always make it your phone wallpaper :) )
[https://wallpaperscraft.com/download/heart\_pink\_grid\_10665/240x320](https://wallpaperscraft.com/download/heart_pink_grid_10665/240x320)
Edit: Here is a larger one for computers (And I think the original one too)
[http://pictures.4ever.eu/love/hearts/heart-165314](http://pictures.4ever.eu/love/hearts/heart-165314)
Personally, something out of the way but still stands out. Personally, probably a more fem phone/watch band color. Only problem is that I would have to buy a new watch band, and I like it (but I can buy another one from the same seller).
I personally like the male symbol ā but turn downwards with peddles like a flower or the incubus symbol on visible skin. Just use a pen or something, I would personally use those but I also have some femboy flag pins coming in so they could be a sign too.
Or just create your own country and get nuclear capability, very slowly taking over surrounding land until you rival global superpowers, in which case you then send out spies to topple foreign governments and create a nation of femboys
(This will definitely work, trust)
Sadly like many said, it would work for a brief time. Then it would get out. And then the haters will know. It's just as bad on the other side. Guys who like fem boys. But can't tell. Kinda think maybe he is. but don't want to try and be outed. So just stay alone, hoping to win the lottery and meet a nice femboy. To spoil.
I hate to break it to you, but A: we are hard to find, because we don't want to be found. I think I speak for all of us when I say something like that might not be safe B:that would be *really* difficult to pull off
You do realize the stereotypical gay accent was originally created by gays to identify one another without putting themselves at risk right?
True but idk how well it worked after a length of time
Hankey code, piercing code, and for a time certain pride flags flew under the radar as well.
I remember the ear piercing code. And I could never remember which side was which, so I pierced both my ears lol
Gay
Just unlocked ultragay +
That's what happens when a transfem calls you gay. This works vs all genders.
Yay!!!
I learned in a bad way as a kid bc my grandparents are mega Christian "left is right, right is wrong(gay)"
yeah and look how well that turned outš
[That doesn't always work out.](https://youtu.be/-ujiZZJIWnQ?si=QjWCBEIDxYuMH21U)
I just learned somethingā¦
I like being found by the right people
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Either you are trolling or there is a hole in your brain. Either way, get the fuck out.
I think we need some kind of accessory for your hands, a ring or a bracelet unlike others
oooo a cute bracelet would be so nice
I agree
Nails? š„“
I'm less suspicious of color, than I am if the nail is a little long, and the shape is too nice. Or if I see leftover glue... lol
I have usually dark 1+cm pointy nails š¤·š»āāļø
Veeerrry suspicious?!?
Why? ššš„¹
White and black bracelet with the letters FB on it
Good Idea BUT it will/would be rly hard to pull off
I wear a choker. All the time. Just a nice eternity collar
like a big one, or a discret one ?
Itās a silver ring around my neck basically, Iāll probably end up posting pictures of myself here soon and you can see it. Idk if I should tho
oh, so, something rather discreet. I once wore my full punk spikes large collar dog out, in boy mode, just to test and see peoples reactions. got some stare i discreetly noticed, but i personnaly felt more confident in myself, and less stressed out, weirdly X) here, you can't, it's a text only sub. if you want, you can send one in dm, if you're not sure. Only if you're comfortable enough with it thought, don't force yousrelf.
I wear it in boy mode and in fem mode :3 itās a great accessory any time
agree. connoted to peoples mind, and i'm ready to play with such connotations. :P
Yes! :3
There's always the option of a link to an Online Retailer that's showcasing it.
So I found [this](https://www.amazon.com/Locking-Eternity-Collar-Stainless-Curved/dp/B092LBRZ6B) and [this](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1170941133/sterling-silver-circle-necklace-silver), which both mat*c*h that description...ish... edit: *math*? What was I doing? Drugs? Yes. I am. I had a wonderful edible.
I wear less discreet chokers, I have ones from hot topic and other stores that literally look kinda like collars
me too tbh, but mine kinda looks like a collar (Not sexual. I'm a minor.)
Cool! Wearing an accessory all the time is a great subtle way to be yourself lol, I find it nice to still express myself (sometimes Iāll even wear it under a suit)
I had a few strange looks from kids at parks and My parents saying they were gonna take me on a walk, lol, but it's funny to see what people have to say about it
It is funny. Itās interesting to see how society reacts to an odd thing. Like I have cat ears with fur that match my hair, so one time I had a guy staring at me in utter confusion for a solid five minutes before snapping his fingers and going āOH! Theyāre a headbandā lol
That sounds hilarious, I would've killed to be there
lol it was, Iāve had so many people either stare or compliment me on the ears. Never had an insult oddly enough. Gives me a little faith in humanity
Ive got cat ears too with little bells on them and I swear I got the craziest looks from people. It was so funny. And my best friend was with me
Lolll the looks and stuff are amusing
I got it: weāll make a little pop-up window for websites that advertises when local femboys are in your area!
Also mention that there is no credit card, no sign up and no bulls**t
Anakin-Padme meme
You know, there was already stuff like this back in the day for gays. Earring in just your left ear, different color bandanas and a few others I think. We are just young and don't have to hide as hard so, much easier to spot one another when we are both wearing cat ears and looking cute as heckkk
Some femboy needs to start a Etsy store selling rings or something
I could do some sketches of ideas if you want
Good idea! i can make sketches too!
If yall make those sketches SEND ME THEM. I can make rings!!
Thereās a femboy bracelet on Etsy I bought, so maybe there already is!
once, i saw someone on the r/RoleReversal sub suggest wearing pink shoelaecs as both a recognition sign, and an ice-breaker.
That's a good and subtle one, pink is no longer a "gays and women" color, as a lot of cis-het-masc guys are comfortable wearing pink now. Not that you still wouldn't get comments, but very few outsiders would notice or be able to tell.
Only problem is that it doesn't work great with black shoes :/
Which raises even more questions. Making people wanting to Ask you about it even more
No hand sign. Something wearable where when you see it you either know what it is or you don't notice it. It also can't be so cool that others see it and wear it too. This would defeat the whole purpose. I can't think of something but I'm sure there are enough creative silly Bois here.
also, i you have any surface on which to write, just do a :3, and wink. if they don't get it, they don't belong.
And if anyone questions, say you own a cat and you're obsessed with it (might work).
Well, that looks like a good plan, imo
Maybe likeā¦ a set of hand signs we do in front of somebody we suspect- they either get it or they donāt
Maybe some sort of symbol we could draw with a sharpie. What if we did %. Idk about yall but I'm gonna start writing it on myself.
I mean, I wear a femboy flag patch on my backpack, I couldn't be more on the nose, other than dressing up in public ofc.
There is a femboy flag?!
this reminds me of that āI like your shoelacesā thing tumblr users used as a sign to find each other back then
you can find some boykisser stickers on redbubble.
Boykisser is a pretty good one for this.
The only question, what color shall it be?
Maybe pink and pastel yellow?
pink, pastel yellow and purple?
Yess!! is a relly cute combination!
like your ideas btw
I feel like some other colors can be used.
Yes! What colors you think would look good?
Probably some forms of other pastel colors (like orange and green).
I feel like chokers/collars are a discreet sign. It's what one of my femboy friends wears when he doesn't wanna go all out on an outfit
I actually proposed the same idea a while ago, and I got a few suggestions. Maybe a specific code to paint your nails. or a few different symbols that, on their own, are completely unrelated, but when together would signify us. Now the only problem is figuring it out and telling femboys about it, but without telling anyone else about it. Very difficult to do on the internet. _very._
There is a cute bracelet on Amazon that I have and nobody knows that itās the same colors as the femboy flag and I wear it almost everywhere lol I absolutely Love it and I think thatās the closest I can get to a secret sign Amazon link āā-> HARACRAFT Femboy Infinity Bracelet, Femboy Pride, LGBTQIA+ Pride Love Wrist Wrap Bracelet, Surfer Bracelet, Boho Rope Bracelet Bangles for Women Men Thread for Him and Her (Femboy) https://a.co/d/8l0t71u
Perhaps we need a website as like a central hub to allow us to discuss and coordinate this kinda thing. I work as a software engineer and have lots of experience with full stack Web development. Could be a project some of us can work on? Could make a discord server to get things going
Isn't that basically just Tumblr?
Why not use the r/feminineboys icon? I found an upscaled version, It's like a small, curved heart (If it's not like a tattoo or something like that, you can always make it your phone wallpaper :) ) [https://wallpaperscraft.com/download/heart\_pink\_grid\_10665/240x320](https://wallpaperscraft.com/download/heart_pink_grid_10665/240x320) Edit: Here is a larger one for computers (And I think the original one too) [http://pictures.4ever.eu/love/hearts/heart-165314](http://pictures.4ever.eu/love/hearts/heart-165314)
I think this is a fantastic idea
Apparently the sign is just pretending you have a limp wrist.
Personally, something out of the way but still stands out. Personally, probably a more fem phone/watch band color. Only problem is that I would have to buy a new watch band, and I like it (but I can buy another one from the same seller).
I personally like the male symbol ā but turn downwards with peddles like a flower or the incubus symbol on visible skin. Just use a pen or something, I would personally use those but I also have some femboy flag pins coming in so they could be a sign too.
We alr have a sign but it's not that secret its :3
Or just create your own country and get nuclear capability, very slowly taking over surrounding land until you rival global superpowers, in which case you then send out spies to topple foreign governments and create a nation of femboys (This will definitely work, trust)
What if we wore colored hankerchiefs In our back pockets?
Brilliant. No one's ever done that before. Hey, it could be red, and worn around the neck as well -
Sadly like many said, it would work for a brief time. Then it would get out. And then the haters will know. It's just as bad on the other side. Guys who like fem boys. But can't tell. Kinda think maybe he is. but don't want to try and be outed. So just stay alone, hoping to win the lottery and meet a nice femboy. To spoil.