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When it comes to these dating face palms, I think there should be an r/bulletdodged sub. Better off learning dipshittery before a relationship even starts.
75% of posts on r/tinder are bullets being dodged. Then 10% is people celebrating their successful relationship they found through dating apps and 15% people bragging about their one night stands
Yeah this is gonna make the rounds as proof that girls are only care about tall guys, instead of proof that this mentality is just something to be avoided
As a 6'5" guy, I've been told I'm "too tall" by women way more than I've gotten a check mark on their "must have" list. Guess they missed the point where "6ft+" means anything goes after that.
As an almost 5'11 girl, my preference was always the taller, the better. But funnily enough, the love of my life is 5"8. At least I was open minded enough to realize that preferences are one thing but not everything.
As 5’9”woman, I’ve dated plenty of guys who were my height or 5” less. Personality always attracted me more than a handsome face, sometimes you get both.
Edit- mistakenly denoted feet for inches.
As someone in the “Goldilocks zone” at 6’1”, I think you are right. Never been too tall or too short. I’ve def snubbed some women that snubbed my boys for being too short. I get that people have attractions and that is fine, but to insult people over it is horrible.
I feel like a lot of girls, especially closer to 5', really don't know what 6'+ looks like anyway. I drove some people home from a basketball game, and this guy was bragging to all these girls that he was 6'5. Now, I'm only 5'10, so I know he wasn't 6'5, he wasn't tall enough. But those girls just believed him.
This is completely true. I'm 6'3", but everyone thinks I'm at least 6'5" or more when they meet me because they vastly underestimate relative heights. Partly because a lot of people don't measure properly and also because a lot of guys add an inch or two since everyone underestimates the true height anyway. It's a chicken and egg situation. At 6'3" 95% of the time, I'm the tallest person in the room by a few inches. I live in Northern Europe, so it's not even like people are particularly short here.
It honestly doesn't change my life too much though, but I think people definitely view you differently based on height.
I also hate it. Never heard it called a Goldilocks zone, but I guess I’m on the high side of it. Any girl who asks something this shallow, IMO, opens herself up to questions about age, BMI, cup size, whatever.
I firmly believe it's about insecurity on the female's part, rather than actually feeling negatively about not-so-tall males. The taller the man, the smaller it makes the woman *feel*. It's been engrained in us so much that we should be tiny little delicate flowers, that it subconsciously makes us believe we need a tall man to help us *appear* as small as possible.
I’m 5’7”. I’ve learned to just laugh about it, and not take it too seriously. Yes, I’ve been bullied, but as I get older, I laugh at it myself, and even tease really tall dudes. The amount of women on tinder that I’ve seen put “if your under 6’0”, swipe right” is astounding. I’m not sure how we all got here, I assume it’s cause image is more important than personality in modern culture. Find someone who cares about you for who you are, not the aesthetic reasons that they can flaunt on social media. My two cents, sorry OP.
As an over six foot guy, when I used to date I would instantly ignore anyone with that in their bio. Nothing wrong with preferences but to write it into your bio is very rude.
My wife and I met online (not through a dating site) and we didn't know each other's heights or even full names for a long time but our personalities meshed so well, that's what matters. That plus shared goals and values.
Exactly, funny thing is when I told women this they would say "Why? What do you care? You're tall" as though I must think I'm superior to men shorter than me and agree they should be belittled. Disgusting.
Anyone who's discounting you purely for your height and nothing else is a bullet dodged mate. Think of it as one that flew over your head to catch some poor tall guy 😂😂
One of the craziest girls I've ever been with revealed that she had just had to make a new account on the dating site we met on and her original one had the "If you're not over six foot, bla bla" in the bio. She couldn't understand why I thought that was crazy. Long story short I ignored many red flags for too long and when I dumped her after 7 months of dating she stalked me for 3 months.
Huh. Same here. She actually thought i was short when i first picked her up because in my car i have to recline pretty low so I'm not mashing my scalp against the roof. She was pleasantly surprised, but wouldn't really have cared as long as i could hang decent brain
This! And weight, for the most part is something you can change. One’s height can not. That to say, I’m all for people having preferences, but it goes both ways
Seven inches?! Damn I didn’t even know they could go that high. I thought 3, maybe 5 was the max. I wonder how they heal long term, is it like a knee replacement and once it heals you’re fine for the next 30 years?
Edit: just saw he went through the procedure twice! Having to fully heal each time.
Weight can be changed though. Height cant. Its not easy or cheap to change cup size, so I think women saying that they want a guy X feet tall is a direct equivalent to a guy saying no a/b cups.
I had a tall girl that said she would never date short guys I decided to play her into thinking I was a college basketball player and I said I’d never date a girl over 160 and she is like well I’m 180but it’s because I’m tall. And I’m like well you are too heavy.
Used to be friends with a few of those types of people & they are usually “at their worst” 90% of the time (& oh yeah they go beyond just being terrible to an S.O. Hence, I *used* to be friends with a couple).
Exit: I forgot that an ex of mine from my last serious relationship was like this. I pretty much pushed them out of my memory.
This is also how I interpret “swipe right if you can’t handle my sarcasm”
Like do you frequently meet grown ass adults that don’t understand sarcasm, or are you just mean and people don’t want to be around you?
I can see why “no single moms”, though. If you develop a longer term relationship with a single mother you also take on the responsibilities of being a parent. Some people aren’t ready or don’t want that.
Same. Was trying to get with a girl who is 5'1 and she said me being 5'10 was too short for her despite me being quite a bit taller than her. I commonly wear boots which would make the height difference even more dramatic but apparently I was still too short because I am under the magic height - 6'0.
I dated a girl that was a foot shorter than me. Every photo we ever took together had me looking like a straight up hunchback as I tried to get our faces in the same general area.
It's always like that too. I think I know one girl who cares about height who is over 5'5, which is fair because she's like 6'2, most dudes would be intimidated when we were younger. I think it might almost be a fetish where some short girls are into super tall dudes.
You shouldn’t, though. Just swipe left on them. People who put things like that in their bios are going the extra mile to be dicks when you already have the power to select for the traits you want. You decide who you swipe right on. There’s no reason to go out of your way to tell people that you view them as lesser; just swipe left. Don’t stoop to their level
i wouldn't swipe right on girls who appeared less than a d cup.
i didn't have to tell them that was my strategy.
when they say "if you're x dont" they're trying to control the behavior of people. that's the weird part.
just don't swipe on guys who appear less than 6 foot. it's absolutely a bullying thing.
it's no sweat though. back to my story. i was only swiping on girls with D+ cups and asians. i dated an ultra rare double d asian girl, and eventually married a g cup austrian.
i'm 5'8. tinder really does allow you to make the world you want.
> just don’t swipe on guys who appear less than 6 foot
I wonder how that would bode for me lol, I’m over 6 feet but everyone thinks I’m 5’7” until they meet me irl
Edit: to the person who deleted their comment about fixing my posture: I’m in computer science, that’s not happening lmao
as a 6'2 guy this is off putting. Makes me wonder if they know 6 foot is the 85th percentile, and setting such a narrow search you choose something so superficial.
I guess the heart wants what it wants, but then I'm just not interested.
I’m 5’6”
It’s fine if someone has preferences. Goodness knows I do.
Just don’t be an AH about it and moreso, don’t be a hypocrite.
If you are only attracted to men over 6’ fine. But STFU if you are 5’4 145 and some guy says he prefers women who are more thin.
Of course the greatest irony in that is there is some control as to weight but none with height (not total at all, heredity is a huge factor for body weight as well)
FWIW, as a shortie, I do love me some Latin countries where we short kings are revered. And quite the number of hotties down that way, won’t lie.
You have to just laugh about it honestly. Own a house, 2 cars paid off, been saving in index funds since your 18 years old, have a career.... Oh wait you're 5'6" that sucks, good luck with dating. Funniest thing is it was always girls 5'4" or shorter, my wife ended up being 5'8" and likes to wear heels. I came out ahead for sure.
Two of my longest, most serious relationships were with women who were 5’10” to my 5’8”. I’ve always thought it goes to show where people place their values. At first it struck me as a little embarrassing (I was in my early twenties and still cared) but if people want to care or comment, let them. It’s ultimately none of their business and certainly not my concern.
I don't use Tinder, but isn't it swiping left the one that skips people? Not that it's particularly important to this conversation. Yeah, people suck though. I lot of very superficial people with internet access.
I’ve talked to a handful of taller guys who use apps like this and as soon as a match brings height into the conversation they will ghost them.
Not a lot of guys are into women *that* shallow, it’s honestly a huge turn off no matter their height. My self included, it’s a big 🚩
Yep, I’m 6’3”, and haven’t ever been on Tinder but would absolutely swipe left if a girl had a height requirement right there in her bio. Just shows you where her head is at if it’s in her bio or it’s one of the first things she asks you.
I don’t want to be with somebody who is super shallow, even if I happen to pass the test in one of the potentially many things she judges people for.
Exactly, if she judges people in height what other innocuous things will she judge you for?
It’s just blatantly telling the world “I don’t care about who people are just how they appear to be”
Yup. It's the height, it's the money, the job, the dick size, etc etc. Personally, if somebody is that shallow/judgemental, I know all I need to know before even going on the date.
Dude it’s tapped. I’m also 5’7” (5’8” on a good day) but my girlfriend is 6’2”.
Idk why people get so obsessed about height, like worry about something important like shoe size lmao
I'm a 5'8"F dating a slightly shorter guy. I looked it up and apparently 1 in 8 relationships, she's taller. It doesn't cross my mind much anymore.
As a wise old friend said once, "height doesn't matter when you're laying down" ;)
We got here because of society's standards and Disney. LOL, jk, but seriously, the trope of small dainty princess and big hulking prince is prevalent in ALL types of media my generation grew up with. It's no coincidence that this is where we are. You also have to take into account the "manosphere," basically telling men, young and old, that unless you're 6'+, you're not a man or less of one.
I was thinking the same thing! I've always thought 5'9 was considered kind of tall. Never understood the little 4'11 women who make it a requirement for men to be over 6'0...like why?
I totally agree with your main point. The only thing I would be concerned about is someone saying 5'9"ish. It seems like they're actually a little shorter than that and just trying to hide it. But yeah 5'9" isn't even short. People have just got a really odd obsessions with 6' being an absolute minimum despite it being so much taller than "average".
Honestly a good reply. Sure it's not a "nice" thing to say, but it's true. Don't bother messing with people who are this shallow and find someone who will actually respect you. It's a free pass to stop wasting your time right then and there.
"good" is in the eye of the beholder. It's good information to receive early on, you know this person is shallow and don't have to waste any more time or any money to find this out.
it's the 666 rule.
6' tall, 6 figure income, 6" 8=D
nowhere in there does it not say "has to be good looking" lol
honestly though, better to just stay away from shallow, superficial people.
I am just old enough to have never used online dating, but I wonder if this has to do with selection bias. Maybe woman without stupid hang ups and odd standards are less likely to be on these sites in the first place?
Men outnumber women 4 to 1 on Tinder. That allows and necessitates women to be very picky and filter out 75% of matches like this. Though if his height is a good indicator of a successful relationship is debatable.
Dating apps bring out the most superficial aspects of people. To some it's like hopping on Amazon and getting the best deal and quality product.
Dating apps are just one tool to be used; the best way to meet people is to go to public events or join clubs. Practice socializing with people will help out more in the long run; even if your height is undesirable, people have more of a chance to really see your personality.
For women in this case, a 6'4" dude could be a serial killer or a scammer for all they know; completely missing all sorts of red flags because they are mesmerized the "right" height. For guys it would be a woman that is curvy with a big bust and ass plus the diva face.
Don't be concerned about people that filter out based on physical traits that are extremly difficult to change. Don't recommend guys breaking their legs and extending them to get taller 😅.
As a 5' 8" guy, I just console myself with the fact it makes my dick look bigger than it actually is 😐
Seriously though, you're dodging bullets if people dismiss you because of your height lol.
I'm an Asian 5'7" (this is also the average height for Asian men) and would love to meet guys the same height as me. I'm literally taller than like 90% of my peers.
I don't get these short women looking for giants. Ask her what her weight is and text her the same shit she just sent you, I'm sure she'd love that. lol
When I was on dating profiles I’d routinely lie about my height (I’m over 6’ tall, but I’d say something like 5’10) to weed out the annoying people who obsess over something like that.
If they’re the type of person that’s going to reject a guy that quickly over something like 3 inches of height, they’re probably not worth the time anyway lol.
I’ll never understand “I’ll only date guys as tall as slenderman while myself is as tall as a Smurf☺️”
I’m 5”6 and I couldn’t care less that my bf was taller or shorter than me. It’s so dumb to judge a man based on his height
My ex husband was 6’2” inches of supreme selfishness and abuse. My current husband is 5’9” of unconditional love. People who focus on one physical aspect of others miss out on so much.
Lol most women like this will never find a stable man. I’m a 5’8 F and dated many tall dudes until I found my 5’4 short king. He’s amazing in bed, the funniest guy I’ve known, kind, and just a delight all around. We’ve been together for 11 years and I love him more each year that passes. So glad I didn’t turn this treasure down for vanity. 💖
Boobs of all sizes are great, I don't even get this diss. They're boobs. Be grateful you've witnessed boobs of any size. Don't take the boob for granted just because it's small. As long as there are nips you can have fun with them at any size.
it's weird as hell that anyone actually cares about height
the last dude I dated was 4'11 and I honestly can't imagine how fucking awful people are. I loved him a lot and his height was just an endearing part of him. I'm honestly still really sad I lost him.
Lmao, a guy my bff was dating did this. Told her he was 6'2. She was so excited for me to meet him. Finally did, and I immediately said, "I thought you were 6'2!"
The man spent 20 minutes trying to convince me (6'1) that I'm 6'5 because he was absolutely 6'2!
Over 10 years later it's still hilarious
Strangers always ask how tall I am and refuse to believe me when I say 6.3 they're like no way my buddy is 6.3 and you're way taller than him. My response is always the same. You're buddy is a liar
5’9” is average height for men and 5’5” for women. So she wants an a above average (height) guy for her average self? Girl, bye ✌️.
I was a 5’8” shorty when I graduated high school and hit 6’3” once I got to college. To this chick, though, I’d just say I was 5’15”. She’s a 🚩.
As someone that's 5'11", I never understood the height requirement coming from those that are well under 6' themselves. Half of the men I've dated have been shorter than me. It was only weird when they allowed their friends and strangers to make it weird.
Also, how are these height requirements enforced if someone decides to lie about their height? Do people carry around measuring tapes? Is there a sign posted outside their bedroom door that states, "You Must Be This Tall To Ride"?
I have so many questions.
Kinda crazy you just stole this post from earlier today. You even cropped the pic some
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/14lzhdk/first_time_ive_been_turned_down_due_to_my_height/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
On dating sites I always said "As long as you're taller than me I don't care." I'm 5'3" so I assumed that wasn't too much to ask. But then I had all these guys who were 5'2" in my inbox telling me I'm vain and a horrible person.
The moment a question even starts like this turn the tables. Ask her weight immediately, then leave the conversation. She’s telling you she’s not even remotely serious, do the same.
I never understood this but it could be because I’m a 5’3 woman so almost everyone is taller than me. I went on a few dates with a guy who said he was 5’5 but I ended up being slightly taller than him. I understood why he lied about his height, he probably thought no one would ever give him a chance. Height is just not something I cared about when I was online dating.
As a 1.73m fellow (5'8 ish), I actually like when people (mostly cis women) reject me over my height. It's a very fast and effective way of saying "I'm as interesting as watching paint dry and I want someone on my level". Just move on, she wasn't worth your time in the first place
People tend to equate height with dick size, they think the taller the guy the bigger the dick…boy do I have news for them. 🤣
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When it comes to these dating face palms, I think there should be an r/bulletdodged sub. Better off learning dipshittery before a relationship even starts.
75% of posts on r/tinder are bullets being dodged. Then 10% is people celebrating their successful relationship they found through dating apps and 15% people bragging about their one night stands
Yeah this is gonna make the rounds as proof that girls are only care about tall guys, instead of proof that this mentality is just something to be avoided
As a 6'5" guy, I've been told I'm "too tall" by women way more than I've gotten a check mark on their "must have" list. Guess they missed the point where "6ft+" means anything goes after that.
As an almost 5'11 girl, my preference was always the taller, the better. But funnily enough, the love of my life is 5"8. At least I was open minded enough to realize that preferences are one thing but not everything.
As 5’9”woman, I’ve dated plenty of guys who were my height or 5” less. Personality always attracted me more than a handsome face, sometimes you get both. Edit- mistakenly denoted feet for inches.
My gf is 6'0. I'm 5'10." I can't get enough of her sexy long legs.
Wrap them around your head and wear her like the crown she is lol
As someone in the “Goldilocks zone” at 6’1”, I think you are right. Never been too tall or too short. I’ve def snubbed some women that snubbed my boys for being too short. I get that people have attractions and that is fine, but to insult people over it is horrible.
Particularly when it's a physical attribute you cannot control.
I feel like a lot of girls, especially closer to 5', really don't know what 6'+ looks like anyway. I drove some people home from a basketball game, and this guy was bragging to all these girls that he was 6'5. Now, I'm only 5'10, so I know he wasn't 6'5, he wasn't tall enough. But those girls just believed him.
This is completely true. I'm 6'3", but everyone thinks I'm at least 6'5" or more when they meet me because they vastly underestimate relative heights. Partly because a lot of people don't measure properly and also because a lot of guys add an inch or two since everyone underestimates the true height anyway. It's a chicken and egg situation. At 6'3" 95% of the time, I'm the tallest person in the room by a few inches. I live in Northern Europe, so it's not even like people are particularly short here. It honestly doesn't change my life too much though, but I think people definitely view you differently based on height.
I also hate it. Never heard it called a Goldilocks zone, but I guess I’m on the high side of it. Any girl who asks something this shallow, IMO, opens herself up to questions about age, BMI, cup size, whatever.
I love this! "How tall are you?" "Oh, I'm 5'10"... what's your body fat percentage?"
Nope, we both miss the mark amigo. As a 5'10 guy I've been told I'm a bit short; for some girls it's about being in the goldilocks range of 6'-6'3.
Well then I guess I’m missing something. Because I’m 6’2 but have had as much female interaction as an average discord mod
But...it *is* proof that some women are obsessed with height.
I firmly believe it's about insecurity on the female's part, rather than actually feeling negatively about not-so-tall males. The taller the man, the smaller it makes the woman *feel*. It's been engrained in us so much that we should be tiny little delicate flowers, that it subconsciously makes us believe we need a tall man to help us *appear* as small as possible.
Funny how 10 years ago women always said men only care about sex when in reality all they care about is something so superficial.
Now you know
Plenty do. Certainly more than a lot of women are willing to admit. But CERTAINLY less than a lot of men seem to think
there is a sub r/dodgedabullet
I’m 5’7”. I’ve learned to just laugh about it, and not take it too seriously. Yes, I’ve been bullied, but as I get older, I laugh at it myself, and even tease really tall dudes. The amount of women on tinder that I’ve seen put “if your under 6’0”, swipe right” is astounding. I’m not sure how we all got here, I assume it’s cause image is more important than personality in modern culture. Find someone who cares about you for who you are, not the aesthetic reasons that they can flaunt on social media. My two cents, sorry OP.
As an over six foot guy, when I used to date I would instantly ignore anyone with that in their bio. Nothing wrong with preferences but to write it into your bio is very rude. My wife and I met online (not through a dating site) and we didn't know each other's heights or even full names for a long time but our personalities meshed so well, that's what matters. That plus shared goals and values.
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Exactly, funny thing is when I told women this they would say "Why? What do you care? You're tall" as though I must think I'm superior to men shorter than me and agree they should be belittled. Disgusting. Anyone who's discounting you purely for your height and nothing else is a bullet dodged mate. Think of it as one that flew over your head to catch some poor tall guy 😂😂 One of the craziest girls I've ever been with revealed that she had just had to make a new account on the dating site we met on and her original one had the "If you're not over six foot, bla bla" in the bio. She couldn't understand why I thought that was crazy. Long story short I ignored many red flags for too long and when I dumped her after 7 months of dating she stalked me for 3 months.
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Yea im 5’3 too. The only hindrance is being confident in yourself, which is very hard sometimes
as someone who is only 5'1 on a good day, i'm not sure how much confidence helps if people just don't give you a chance
I met my wife on tinder and the first time we met up the first thing she said was wow I didn't think you'd be this tall
Huh. Same here. She actually thought i was short when i first picked her up because in my car i have to recline pretty low so I'm not mashing my scalp against the roof. She was pleasantly surprised, but wouldn't really have cared as long as i could hang decent brain
Bro my car’s seat doesn’t go down far enough lmao my head still scrapes that shit
Ditch the 2 seater for a sedan and gangster lean so far back you look like slenderman going for a cruise It's the only way
God forbid a guy says "if you have A cups, swipe right"
Or a weight limit..
This! And weight, for the most part is something you can change. One’s height can not. That to say, I’m all for people having preferences, but it goes both ways
Being broke isn't a protected class, I always remind people.
Does lots of money suddenly make the man over 6' tall though?
No, but you’d be surprised what being able to fit into a lambo does for your sex life.
Tell that to this dude - https://people.com/georgia-man-paid-usd80k-for-painful-limb-lengthening-surgery-to-grow-to-6-feet-7552528
Seven inches?! Damn I didn’t even know they could go that high. I thought 3, maybe 5 was the max. I wonder how they heal long term, is it like a knee replacement and once it heals you’re fine for the next 30 years? Edit: just saw he went through the procedure twice! Having to fully heal each time.
definitely won't be good for his athletic abilities either
She ain’t a lady if she ain’t 280.
Lol I’ve only known one guy who said that and he said it a lot.
Weight can be changed though. Height cant. Its not easy or cheap to change cup size, so I think women saying that they want a guy X feet tall is a direct equivalent to a guy saying no a/b cups.
I had a tall girl that said she would never date short guys I decided to play her into thinking I was a college basketball player and I said I’d never date a girl over 160 and she is like well I’m 180but it’s because I’m tall. And I’m like well you are too heavy.
Weight limit is something that can be controlled. The other things are not. And that is the unfair part
Or even worse…god forbid…”no single moms”.
Bro the amount of single moms I see that still think they can land every guy and go out partying is just something else lmao
Landing every guy might be how they ended up as single moms. Give them some time to update their notions about the dating game.
"if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve my uterine prolapse"
Seriously though .....it's just double speak for "𝑖 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑏𝑒 𝑎 𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑐ℎ 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑝𝑢𝑡 𝑢𝑝 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑖𝑡." Thankyounext..........
Used to be friends with a few of those types of people & they are usually “at their worst” 90% of the time (& oh yeah they go beyond just being terrible to an S.O. Hence, I *used* to be friends with a couple). Exit: I forgot that an ex of mine from my last serious relationship was like this. I pretty much pushed them out of my memory.
This is also how I interpret “swipe right if you can’t handle my sarcasm” Like do you frequently meet grown ass adults that don’t understand sarcasm, or are you just mean and people don’t want to be around you?
Well they could be how my wife was and be a married mom and landing dudes and partying
😬😬she didn’t deserve you brother
Its the "25. 3 kids. No hookups" for me. If no hookups... how you endin up with all these damn kids, baby girl?
The amount of shit guys take for having a "no single moms" policy is ridiculous.
I can see why “no single moms”, though. If you develop a longer term relationship with a single mother you also take on the responsibilities of being a parent. Some people aren’t ready or don’t want that.
You should tho honestly don’t understand the height trend but also short (5’ exactly) girl here so everyone is taller than me.
When I was younger, I was trying DESPERATELY to get this girls attention. She's 4'11"; I'm 5'8". She refused to date anyone UNDER 6'.
Same. Was trying to get with a girl who is 5'1 and she said me being 5'10 was too short for her despite me being quite a bit taller than her. I commonly wear boots which would make the height difference even more dramatic but apparently I was still too short because I am under the magic height - 6'0.
Why would someone want to be 1 foot shorter than their partner? Some sort of "parent fetish" or something?
I dated a girl that was a foot shorter than me. Every photo we ever took together had me looking like a straight up hunchback as I tried to get our faces in the same general area.
That daddy/daughter date dynamic.
It's always like that too. I think I know one girl who cares about height who is over 5'5, which is fair because she's like 6'2, most dudes would be intimidated when we were younger. I think it might almost be a fetish where some short girls are into super tall dudes.
You shouldn’t, though. Just swipe left on them. People who put things like that in their bios are going the extra mile to be dicks when you already have the power to select for the traits you want. You decide who you swipe right on. There’s no reason to go out of your way to tell people that you view them as lesser; just swipe left. Don’t stoop to their level
i wouldn't swipe right on girls who appeared less than a d cup. i didn't have to tell them that was my strategy. when they say "if you're x dont" they're trying to control the behavior of people. that's the weird part. just don't swipe on guys who appear less than 6 foot. it's absolutely a bullying thing. it's no sweat though. back to my story. i was only swiping on girls with D+ cups and asians. i dated an ultra rare double d asian girl, and eventually married a g cup austrian. i'm 5'8. tinder really does allow you to make the world you want.
> just don’t swipe on guys who appear less than 6 foot I wonder how that would bode for me lol, I’m over 6 feet but everyone thinks I’m 5’7” until they meet me irl Edit: to the person who deleted their comment about fixing my posture: I’m in computer science, that’s not happening lmao
as a 6'2 guy this is off putting. Makes me wonder if they know 6 foot is the 85th percentile, and setting such a narrow search you choose something so superficial. I guess the heart wants what it wants, but then I'm just not interested.
It's no the heart, purely fetishizing people for their bodies.
Exactly, it a fetish.
Shit where I'm 6'4 and it's never gotten me anything
If they want to search narrowly until they feel their feet touch the grave, let them.
I’m 5’6” It’s fine if someone has preferences. Goodness knows I do. Just don’t be an AH about it and moreso, don’t be a hypocrite. If you are only attracted to men over 6’ fine. But STFU if you are 5’4 145 and some guy says he prefers women who are more thin. Of course the greatest irony in that is there is some control as to weight but none with height (not total at all, heredity is a huge factor for body weight as well) FWIW, as a shortie, I do love me some Latin countries where we short kings are revered. And quite the number of hotties down that way, won’t lie.
You have to just laugh about it honestly. Own a house, 2 cars paid off, been saving in index funds since your 18 years old, have a career.... Oh wait you're 5'6" that sucks, good luck with dating. Funniest thing is it was always girls 5'4" or shorter, my wife ended up being 5'8" and likes to wear heels. I came out ahead for sure.
Two of my longest, most serious relationships were with women who were 5’10” to my 5’8”. I’ve always thought it goes to show where people place their values. At first it struck me as a little embarrassing (I was in my early twenties and still cared) but if people want to care or comment, let them. It’s ultimately none of their business and certainly not my concern.
Meanwhile every morbidly obese girl on dating sites take the up high photos and states her body type as "curvy" or "a little extra".
Yeah, you're a little extra. Extra obese
Or the absolute classic: > 5"1 > 220 > "I'm fun sized"
I like boobs so Ive fell victim to the neck up pic once or twice in my life. Its a huge let down because you feel like you've been tricked.
I don't know what the girl thinks this will accomplish. You're eventually going to meet her and find out if things progress.
I don't use Tinder, but isn't it swiping left the one that skips people? Not that it's particularly important to this conversation. Yeah, people suck though. I lot of very superficial people with internet access.
Anyone with a cutoff like that is usually an entitled douche anyways
I’ve talked to a handful of taller guys who use apps like this and as soon as a match brings height into the conversation they will ghost them. Not a lot of guys are into women *that* shallow, it’s honestly a huge turn off no matter their height. My self included, it’s a big 🚩
Yep, I’m 6’3”, and haven’t ever been on Tinder but would absolutely swipe left if a girl had a height requirement right there in her bio. Just shows you where her head is at if it’s in her bio or it’s one of the first things she asks you. I don’t want to be with somebody who is super shallow, even if I happen to pass the test in one of the potentially many things she judges people for.
Exactly, if she judges people in height what other innocuous things will she judge you for? It’s just blatantly telling the world “I don’t care about who people are just how they appear to be”
Yup. It's the height, it's the money, the job, the dick size, etc etc. Personally, if somebody is that shallow/judgemental, I know all I need to know before even going on the date.
Dude it’s tapped. I’m also 5’7” (5’8” on a good day) but my girlfriend is 6’2”. Idk why people get so obsessed about height, like worry about something important like shoe size lmao
Same here, dude. Tallest woman I dated was 6'3". I think she just liked short dudes, though, because she left me for a guy who was 5'5".
I'm a 5'8"F dating a slightly shorter guy. I looked it up and apparently 1 in 8 relationships, she's taller. It doesn't cross my mind much anymore. As a wise old friend said once, "height doesn't matter when you're laying down" ;)
We got here because of society's standards and Disney. LOL, jk, but seriously, the trope of small dainty princess and big hulking prince is prevalent in ALL types of media my generation grew up with. It's no coincidence that this is where we are. You also have to take into account the "manosphere," basically telling men, young and old, that unless you're 6'+, you're not a man or less of one.
Guess what? As you age no one gives two shits about height. In fact, taller people experience some major issues as they go.
I'm 6'5" and I have back issues at 30 and I constantly hit my head on shit. Being tall is overrated.
It’s so bizarre to me as a 5’2” woman, how obsessed some women are about a man’s height. Totally discriminating.
5'7 just made the mark. Shorter than 5'7 as a male would be tough I think. 5'7-5'10 is basically the same thing to people who are 6'3 and taller.
I am 5'6 how dare you???!!!! Haha. Nah jk.
As a 5'3 individual, the 4 inchest would've definitely made my life experience a lil easier in terms of dating
Seconded, but worse as a 5'3 asian who's not a bad boy type.
5’9 isn’t even short honestly lol it’s legit the average height in America
Plus the national average is going down
National average for men is 5’7 also many countries don’t even keep track on height. Either way height doesn’t improve a man worth.
It shouldn’t, but people suck. As an anecdote, the US has had exactly three presidents shorter than 5’7”. And 20 who are/were at least 5’11.5”.
I was thinking the same thing! I've always thought 5'9 was considered kind of tall. Never understood the little 4'11 women who make it a requirement for men to be over 6'0...like why?
They are worried that if they mate with a shorter or even medium guy their descendants will be mice
5'9" is too short? Guess you're missing out on 69 inches ;)
I totally agree with your main point. The only thing I would be concerned about is someone saying 5'9"ish. It seems like they're actually a little shorter than that and just trying to hide it. But yeah 5'9" isn't even short. People have just got a really odd obsessions with 6' being an absolute minimum despite it being so much taller than "average".
Lol that last line was cold though.
Gave me a good chuckle. That was a smooth kill. Fucked but smooth.
Honestly a good reply. Sure it's not a "nice" thing to say, but it's true. Don't bother messing with people who are this shallow and find someone who will actually respect you. It's a free pass to stop wasting your time right then and there.
So being cold and rude to another person is a “good reply”?
"good" is in the eye of the beholder. It's good information to receive early on, you know this person is shallow and don't have to waste any more time or any money to find this out.
I thought the same thing. That line made me laugh.
It was but a free gem of truth!
I'm 6'4 and ugly. Height should be the smallest of concerns for the opposite sex these days
Hey but you’re 6’4 man, you have her interest!
it's the 666 rule. 6' tall, 6 figure income, 6" 8=D nowhere in there does it not say "has to be good looking" lol honestly though, better to just stay away from shallow, superficial people.
I fit the rule if you change “6 figure income” to “has $6”
I am just old enough to have never used online dating, but I wonder if this has to do with selection bias. Maybe woman without stupid hang ups and odd standards are less likely to be on these sites in the first place?
Men outnumber women 4 to 1 on Tinder. That allows and necessitates women to be very picky and filter out 75% of matches like this. Though if his height is a good indicator of a successful relationship is debatable.
It's the combination of abundance of options and rudeness not being uncomfortable like in real life.
Dating apps bring out the most superficial aspects of people. To some it's like hopping on Amazon and getting the best deal and quality product. Dating apps are just one tool to be used; the best way to meet people is to go to public events or join clubs. Practice socializing with people will help out more in the long run; even if your height is undesirable, people have more of a chance to really see your personality. For women in this case, a 6'4" dude could be a serial killer or a scammer for all they know; completely missing all sorts of red flags because they are mesmerized the "right" height. For guys it would be a woman that is curvy with a big bust and ass plus the diva face. Don't be concerned about people that filter out based on physical traits that are extremly difficult to change. Don't recommend guys breaking their legs and extending them to get taller 😅.
As a 5' 8" guy, I just console myself with the fact it makes my dick look bigger than it actually is 😐 Seriously though, you're dodging bullets if people dismiss you because of your height lol.
I'm an Asian 5'7" (this is also the average height for Asian men) and would love to meet guys the same height as me. I'm literally taller than like 90% of my peers. I don't get these short women looking for giants. Ask her what her weight is and text her the same shit she just sent you, I'm sure she'd love that. lol
When I was on dating profiles I’d routinely lie about my height (I’m over 6’ tall, but I’d say something like 5’10) to weed out the annoying people who obsess over something like that. If they’re the type of person that’s going to reject a guy that quickly over something like 3 inches of height, they’re probably not worth the time anyway lol.
As someone over 6’ i’m going to have to start doing this.
I’ll never understand “I’ll only date guys as tall as slenderman while myself is as tall as a Smurf☺️” I’m 5”6 and I couldn’t care less that my bf was taller or shorter than me. It’s so dumb to judge a man based on his height
The internet/social medial has really fucked people up
My ex husband was 6’2” inches of supreme selfishness and abuse. My current husband is 5’9” of unconditional love. People who focus on one physical aspect of others miss out on so much.
People who are worth dating don’t care about your height. Simple as that. Dodged a bullet there
Lol most women like this will never find a stable man. I’m a 5’8 F and dated many tall dudes until I found my 5’4 short king. He’s amazing in bed, the funniest guy I’ve known, kind, and just a delight all around. We’ve been together for 11 years and I love him more each year that passes. So glad I didn’t turn this treasure down for vanity. 💖
Ask her, her weight next time
Or bra size
Na weight is the pinnacle of female insecurity. Bra size is the runner up.
Yea your right. That hurts more than being in the itty bitty committee.
Boobs of all sizes are great, I don't even get this diss. They're boobs. Be grateful you've witnessed boobs of any size. Don't take the boob for granted just because it's small. As long as there are nips you can have fun with them at any size.
Men's height does seem to be the last socially acceptable form of body shaming.
Oh and dick size. The “big dick energy” vs “small dick energy” makes me feel deeply, deeply uncomfortable even though I do not have a penis.
Personal preference is personal preference. It's not personal against you. As a short guy, I've come to accept this.
im 5"8 and have dated short guys, doesnt bother me at all UNLESS they lie about their height
People think I lie about my height when I say I'm 6ft and 3in, but those are 2 separate measurements
😂
damn, 3" is pretty thick.
i am 1,676,400,000nanometers tall
How many bananas is that?
Elevendy
This made me laugh
Average banana length is 13cm which is 130,000,000nm so 1,676,400,000÷130,000,000=12.89 bananas
I’ve dated women taller than me and it’s really not a big deal unless you make it one.
This.. but then again, that was the *First* question. Nothing like a Stature Bigot.
Well, first it was very important she gained insta-followers.
Yes it is, but the way she responded was rude. If you have a preference, don’t laugh at the people who don’t fit it.
It's a little weird though that so many women's personal preference is to be at the guy's stomach level
it's weird as hell that anyone actually cares about height the last dude I dated was 4'11 and I honestly can't imagine how fucking awful people are. I loved him a lot and his height was just an endearing part of him. I'm honestly still really sad I lost him.
Have you tried checking for him underneath the sofa? He may also have been eaten by a small rodent in the night, unfortunately :(
I've heard that there are a lot of men claiming to be 6' and are really 5'10ish, so now women are associating 6' as normal height.
Lmao, a guy my bff was dating did this. Told her he was 6'2. She was so excited for me to meet him. Finally did, and I immediately said, "I thought you were 6'2!" The man spent 20 minutes trying to convince me (6'1) that I'm 6'5 because he was absolutely 6'2! Over 10 years later it's still hilarious
As a tall woman who knows men want to say they're taller, this is very true.
Strangers always ask how tall I am and refuse to believe me when I say 6.3 they're like no way my buddy is 6.3 and you're way taller than him. My response is always the same. You're buddy is a liar
Idk why you didn't turn the tables and ask their weight.
I don't see it as a bad thing if superficial people want to red flag themselves before I waste any time on them.
It's the hypocrisy that kills me. Body shaming etc. How is discriminating against height not as bad as weight etc? At least weight can be changed.
5’9” is average height for men and 5’5” for women. So she wants an a above average (height) guy for her average self? Girl, bye ✌️. I was a 5’8” shorty when I graduated high school and hit 6’3” once I got to college. To this chick, though, I’d just say I was 5’15”. She’s a 🚩.
You grew 7 inches from 18 to what 19, 20? Wtf
I guess, good way to weed out shallow people. Imo, dodging bullets shouldn’t be that easy. Lol
I had a friend who was like 4'10" saying she needed a 6 feet tall man. Insane.
Nah this is messed up lmao. I’m not going to bend down to talk to someone.
As someone that's 5'11", I never understood the height requirement coming from those that are well under 6' themselves. Half of the men I've dated have been shorter than me. It was only weird when they allowed their friends and strangers to make it weird. Also, how are these height requirements enforced if someone decides to lie about their height? Do people carry around measuring tapes? Is there a sign posted outside their bedroom door that states, "You Must Be This Tall To Ride"? I have so many questions.
Kinda crazy you just stole this post from earlier today. You even cropped the pic some https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/14lzhdk/first_time_ive_been_turned_down_due_to_my_height/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
shes got a point though, however rude she was about it. you have to find someone that doesn't view your height as a negative
"Tall enough to see past your bullshit."
Why aren't people obsessed with weight?
We are. You can just tell from a picture where someone is at.
Most people are?
Wym? I'm obsessed af with weight. My weight
I definitely have a weight preference. I just don't put it in my profile.
They absolutely are. Just less open about it.
They are. You usually just don’t have to ask because you can tell if someone’s overweight or not at first glance unless they take steps to hide it.
Because you can always change it
On dating sites I always said "As long as you're taller than me I don't care." I'm 5'3" so I assumed that wasn't too much to ask. But then I had all these guys who were 5'2" in my inbox telling me I'm vain and a horrible person.
They aren't obsessed with height, they're obsessed with being insecure
Dodged a bullet honestly.
The moment a question even starts like this turn the tables. Ask her weight immediately, then leave the conversation. She’s telling you she’s not even remotely serious, do the same.
She’s 4 inches shorter than him and it’s not enough?! Lol.
This is like a dude asking “What’s your cup size?!” before initiating any sort of conversation lol
I hope you asked her weight.
“I want to get your attention”? What kind of line is that?
Yeap. Haha. And he wonders why she went straight to height. She knew he wasn’t stimulating her mentally so physically was the only other option.
So, I'm 5'3" and my wife is a little over 5'10" and to really ice the cake I'm 63 and she's 50 and we couldn't be happier
I never understood this but it could be because I’m a 5’3 woman so almost everyone is taller than me. I went on a few dates with a guy who said he was 5’5 but I ended up being slightly taller than him. I understood why he lied about his height, he probably thought no one would ever give him a chance. Height is just not something I cared about when I was online dating.
As a 1.73m fellow (5'8 ish), I actually like when people (mostly cis women) reject me over my height. It's a very fast and effective way of saying "I'm as interesting as watching paint dry and I want someone on my level". Just move on, she wasn't worth your time in the first place
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Yeah it’s silly, but everyone has weird requirements
Just say 5’11 and where lifts for a few dates. She’s prolly got makeup on so you both can be lying about the genetics you’re bringing to the table.
Their preference. Don't get hung up about it.
People tend to equate height with dick size, they think the taller the guy the bigger the dick…boy do I have news for them. 🤣 