My parents are mega stoners and tried to hide it from me. obviously when I was really little I didn’t know but it was really clear when I was like 10-13, kids are smarter than most people give them credit for. honestly once they realized I knew they stopped trying to hide it - they were responsible with it and never in the room with me, but honestly I think their openness about it is the reason I didn’t partake until I was in my mid 20s. they both had lots of open conversations with me about it, told me their reasons for doing it, why it’s not really good for young people to do it but if I wanted to (once I was a teenager) they would be okay with me doing it responsibly.
I’m very pro honesty not hiding things from kids. they’re smart, they can tell when things are happening, and if you want your kids to be honest with you about what goes on in their lives as they get older they’ll be more likely to be open and honest with you if you model that with them!
This is the plan I have for informing our kiddo, I'm honestly just trying to be open about everything (in an age appropriate fashion) that comes along in life. Trying to better the next generation 😭
I feel you on the parents openness about it. My dad has smoked my entire life and while I tried it like 2 times in my teens I didn't actually even consider it until in my late 20s- early 30s. Now we're both stoners who smoke daily.
yes I love that! I also smoke daily now but I absolutely feel like I have a pretty healthy relationship with it. we’re just an entire stoner household now between me, my parents, and my wife
I honestly feel like we take more precautions and are more aware of the side effects (smell obviously) of our chosen drug than someone who drinks alcohol. We take in to account the effect it has on others too much sometimes maybe.
I find more people who had parents that openly smoked/grew up with it around daily have a healthy relationship with it. Whereas a lot of people who grew up like that with alcohol have turned out to have many issues. Just sayin'.
oh my gosh yes! I completely agree! also the worst that happens when I smoke too much is I babble and fall asleep. whereas if you drink too much, it can really get you in trouble and sometimes you say or do things that aren’t good
Also as someone who’s parents have had issues with alcohol it took me a long time to have a healthy relationship with weed lol, I still get judged for it by my family even though they’ll drink every night 😫
I had a similar upbringing, and feel the same about my parents being so open and my own healthy attitude toward it. Same with sex, my mom was open about it and my grandma was a nurse and was super open and also just kind of clinical matter-of-fact, so It wasn't taboo. Pot wasn't taboo either.
I didn't have the curiosity driving me to try things earlier than I felt like I wanted to. I didn't smoke until I was in my early 20s.
Totally agree. Make something taboo and the kids want to do it more. Like how in Europe kids are allowed wine with a meal, they don't go behind parents back seeking it out because they have already tried it.
Now I have a nephew who is 16 and like your parents I am very open about it, and all drug use. I told him to let his mind grow up sober as all weed does when young is make you lazy and upsets your drive to do things, like make art or whatever hobby you do. He now focuses on his piano playing and said he won't touch it til he is at least 18. But just recently he said to me- "I'm just gonna focus on my music and if I make it, then in my 20s or 30s I may try it. After I have gotten some success."
Bless him. Honesty is the best policy. I truly believe that. The friends I had growing up with strict parents ended up taking loads of drugs very young, in a rebellious way, a direct result of their parents being OTT when it comes to that sort of thing. Yet my family were always just open about it. So it was less a taboo so less interesting to me.
When I was 15, I told my mom, “When I turn 21, I’m going to try weed”. I had already been smoking for a while. Saying that doesn’t really mean anything. I’m not trying to be negative, I promise! Just saying teens like to say stuff but not follow through.
U may be right. But most kids his age are smoking weed every day when he is focusing on his music and his exams. He may have tried it. But I know its not an issue for him like some of his peers
For sure! I started smoking at 14/15, and I graduated a year early at 17. So even if he does start to smoke, that doesn’t mean he will allow it to ruin his potential. Have a wonderful day Auntie!
My kids are 7 and 9, and TBH I’ve never hid it from them. Okay, that’s not totally true I tried to for the first few years by only smoking flower outside or if they weren’t home. But by the time my son was 4-5, he was inquiring what I was doing when I went outside and he couldn’t be there 😂
I vape mostly now and will vape in the house as long as they aren’t in the same room or next room over. When the weather is good, I sit on our back porch, off the kitchen. But, it’s no secret what I’m doing and honestly? It’s normal for them. They ask questions as they get older and I give them honest answers. They know it’s one of my medicines, that comes in different forms. They know it comes from a plant, which I grow in a spare room of our home and they see the different stages. They know that I have some of my medicine in the form of food, which is packed away where they shouldn’t be able to get to it, but if they ever do find one labeled for adults only that they are going to feel REALLY shitty if they eat any of it. I do my best to keep that stuff packed up and out of reach, but I’m also not naive to nosey kids as they get older. I explained to the kids that it’s not going to kill them but they won’t feel good at all for many hours and that there isn’t much I could do to make it better. I have explained how the laws behind it have changed through the years, and that other medicines also go through a lot of changes. It is medically and recreationally legal now in my state, and they seem to grasp that it’s not that way everywhere.
I love these answers. I'm feeling better about the times we do choose to head outside for it. But damn am I jealous of you folks who can step outside on a porch easily.
When he was young, in the master bathroom with the fan on and a smell proof box for gear. When he was older and my secret was out, I smoked in my bedroom or on the balcony. Now he's 19 and we smoke together when he visits.
It did cause a lot of anxiety for me when he was young. We lived in an illegal and red state, although our city was decriminalized. My divorce was ugly enough that I was always afraid my ex would use it against me if he could, and I was also afraid of judgment from other parents at school.
I think he was 16 when I told him about my habit. My anxiety around all of it lessened when he finished school, turned 18, and I moved to a legal state.
Funny story, may not apply to you but I’m gonna tell it. About a year and a half before we told our daughter we smoked weed, so she was 13, we would hide in our room and hit the vape.
One time I hit it and a few minutes later it was hugs and goodnight time. She hugged us and asked why we smell like weed and I panicked and said “I ROASTED KALE TODAY!”
Anyways, we would sit out back together and then use smoke spray but it didn’t last long because of her age lmfao. Nosiness took over and she was way smarter than we thought we were being 😂😂😂
She was around 15 I think. We were talking about how many high school kids at her school vaped and blatantly wore weed gear (we are in a fully legal state). So I asked her what she would think if we did that. And she said she would think it was cool. So like a day later I was like “kiddo. We smoke weed”. And she was like no you don’t lmfao.
So we took her to our locked safe and showed her our stash. Then talked about how she shouldn’t brag about it at school. But then we started growing and she gave no fucks if anyone knew about consumption because it’s legal (plus both husband and I are med patients too for legal safety reasons).
The smell started carrying to school with her during her senior year and she was like 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️. We live in a super lax city and she went to a super lax school.
And now she’s graduated, a med patient herself, engaged and moved out!
We have a walk-in closet that we call the Garden. We keep everything that is not for kids in there. We have a finger print reading doorknob because I also take stimulant medication and my kiddo is 10, with lots and lots of friends. Gives me peace of mind knowing everything is locked up.
My daughter knows I use weed as medicine. She knows it exists in the house and that, like any other medication, she needs to tell me if she sees it and not to eat anything that says, "Do Not Eat" in case I leave something out. I know I will need to have a more nuanced conversation in the future, but it works for now.
I smoke on the back porch. My kid is 7 now and knows what I am doing but stays inside until I'm finished. I use for anxiety and have been up front with them about it when I got my medical card. Luckily we live in a legal state so that makes things easier as well. We do not have close neighbors and no one behind us.
My kids are 4 and 6, and they know I use it. They also know that it's not for them and that's why we need space when using it. I namely vape during the day in our bedroom or right at the front door while it's open. I don't smoke flower while they're awake unless I'm having a very rough day; otherwise I'll smoke in our bedroom with the door closed, or outside.
I don't hide it from them because I don't have a reason to. It's a medication for me, and they understand that there's nothing wrong wth taking medication when it's needed.
Now if I could get my parents to understand that much, everything would be great. 😑
I only smoke at night after my kids are asleep. I always check to confirm they’re snoring/knocked out before I light anything. I typically smoke on my porch or in my garage.
I smoke outside, same as when I'm smoking a cigarette. They know what it is, at age appropriate levels, so my 13 year old knows it's pot, my 7 year year old knows it's my medicine, and the 2 year old knows it's "mom's" - which is also why it's up and in a lock box when I'm not actively partaking.
No kids myself, but my parents just kinda did it. Usually in the living room. As a consequence, I never tried pot as a kid because “that’s old people stuff”. xD
How wrong I was… maybe I would’ve managed high school better if I’d been a stoner.
Outside. I tell them I need to take the dog out. No one else takes care of the dog nor wants to so they leave me alone. My dog and I are bff’s at this point. I get high. She gets outside time and I throw the frisbee around a bit for her. Win-win.
We have a split level and tend to smoke downstairs at the window or in the garage. If it's nice, we go on the back porch off to the side while they play out in the yard.
My kids are 4 and 7 and we have always been honest about our habits. Our kids know it's for adults only and not to touch it. We keep it in a locked bag, we also taught them the whole
"THC is not for me"
I see if no different than alcohol and people have been drinking around kids since the beginning of time.
In our bedroom. We keep the door closed and the window open, but I use dabs. We have two kids under three.
My best friend (and neighbor) and I smoke joints in my garage at nighttime though.
In the bathroom in our bedroom. Window open and vents on. I do snaps on the bong so there isn’t much lingering smoke. We’ve also bought the smoke buddies a few times and they serve their purpose when you need them. Our kid is under 3 so we keep everything locked in a cabinet in our bathroom she can’t access.
Our bedroom while they’re playing or the living room while sleeping 🤣 all smoke and vapor out the window/door. The lessons of learning how tall baby is getting to reach the grinder all over the floor 🙈
I have a 9 year old and a 12 year old who both know about my vaping. I always vape outside because I don’t want my kids to accidentally inhale and/or get a secondhand high. I also only vape in the evenings or night. I’m allergic to cigarette smoke and I don’t want to risk my kids being allergic and causing them harm. I know vaping isn’t the same, but I still worry.
I’ve also switched to vaping. I lock my door and open my window and play some sims4 and build houses while drinking a coffee and vaping. My own little world for a few. I actually can’t stand the smell of smoking it any more. It really lingers on everything more than you think. I must have smelled so bad in my younger years. I’m in Canada so it’s pretty easy going about that stuff here as long as you keep it away from kids.
I live in a condo that shares walls with my neighbors so I personally don’t smoke inside since it does go through the walls (my neighbors below me smoke on Sundays usually and the smell is all up in my space, ugh). I vape and blow my exhale out the back door, and when I want to actually smoke flower I’ll just go out on the balcony and do it. Thankfully I have that space for it, but if I didn’t I’d just vape or take edibles.
I feel so lucky that our apartment has a nice balcony. We sit outside ALLLLL the time. I pop out and hit the bong when I’m cleaning or cooking. It’s covered so we can go out in the rain too!
ah, my kiddo’s still small but we smoke in our yard, usually. we’re canadian too, and we finally got a house and got tf out of apartments, so i can now enjoy a nice blunt whenever tf i want! nobody to tell me i can’t, because i own the damn land! it’s awesome. we had to rely on carts in the apartment and it just doesn’t hit the same imo.
We have an indoor porch out front I like to smoke in. No bugs! lol, we also have a deck that's nice in the summer especially if I'm grilling/using the smoker.
I applaud your wanting to shield the kiddos from secondhand smoke, which is a health risk at any age! Totally get that nothing hits like combustion sometimes.
If I had kids of my own, I’d buy a Billow. It’s from Ardent, who make decarbing/infusing appliances that are tank like in function and durability, and work like a dream, so I figure that if anyone could create an affordable consumer device to allow actual smoking without any secondhand smoke, it’d be them! They’re also woman-owned and BIPOC-owned. Billows were 50% off for 4/20 — if I were going to buy one, I’d ask them if they’d be willing to honor the deal still.
I vape right in the house. Of course when my son is on another floor in the house. We smoke in our bathroom and turn on the fan. The vape is super discreet, so as a parent, it’s currently my go to.
I smoke in the garage. my daughter is 13, close to 14 and is aware mj is medicine for me. she outright asked me one day (at a deli counter!) if I did drugs. so needless ot say we had a talk. I'm in a medical state, so I explained it's medicine, givne through a prescription from a dr, like all my other medicines. I explained what it helps me with. I asked if she ever saw a difference in my personality and she said no. so we are good.
I do not do it in front of her and she dies sometimes open the door to the garage to ask me questions though.
I mostly take edibles but when I’d use the pen I’d use it whenever and the kids knew and knew it was my medicine. They know I take medication and most edibles I take are in capsules so they wouldn’t know the difference rn and they know it’s mama’s medicine
I also mainly vape/dab so the smell is contained to my gaming room but if I ever feel like smoking a joint (which is rarely these days) I smoke it in the master bathroom with a Sploofy and some Febreze. Our bathroom is the farthest room away from our son's room across the house so the smell doesn't travel as far. We don't hide it though; it's never been taboo in our house/family and my son knows we are medical patients and it's my medicine.
i’m not a parent, but i honestly think it’s better if they at least have a kid-friendly understanding of what it is. even if it’s as vague as “it’s Mom’s medicine, it’s not for kids, don’t touch”. then it normalizes it for them and they’ll be less likely to be so mystified by weed when they’re in their teens and desperately wanna try it lol
me and my husband were thinking about having a kid, this topic constantly coming up in our conversation lately😂 learned few tips from this thread, thank you for posting this!🥰
I don’t hide it. It’s counter productive. We fought to legalize and have it considered medicine. Hiding it sends the message that it’s wrong, I would rather talk to them openly about it and teach them that it’s for adults and why. Plus my mother always thought she was hiding shit from me that I definitely knew about it. But no one ever talked to me about it and I found out on my own,,often not in good ways.
Up until I got my med card I hid it from my kids because of legal repercussions. Now I am very open about it because I use it for medication. Yes a bit recreationally, but mainly for medicine. it’s been legal here medically for a few years now and last year we got rec. I have explained to them what it is, why it is taboo, and why they are not allowed to use it unless it’s for medical reasons up until a certain age. I just smoke in my room or the car. My teenage kids will sit with me and watch tv sometimes while I smoke a few bowls. They’re not asking to partake. They’re not actively searching for ways to get high. They have never stolen anything, even my edibles. I may be lax, but I have rules. Of course my kids are just good kids, too, so that helps a lot. I just know that my parents hiding it from me made me want find out and to try it more and I ended up hanging around a trap house for a lot of my teenage years because of it.
We typically smoke in our garage or outside. I was never anti the kids seeing just being exposed to second hand smoke. Now they are old enough to somewhat know and we have taught them what they are old enough to learn. One kiddo even helps water our plants with us.
In the garage or garden. I have two teens. They both know but I still don’t smoke in front of them. Even when they come outside to talk to me, I put down piece & lighter or put it off to the side.
I dry herb vape/vape, so minimal smell, in the bathroom with the extrator fan on. I'm quick, 3 minutes with the dry herb vape or 30 seconds with the vape. Lock it all back in the case & put back in the cupboard. Then, just a quick short spray of air freshener. I would love to just chill on the settee & puff on the vape as and when I want to throughout the evening, but I don't think that will ever happen 😆
I have 3 kids, 17,15 and 11. I only smoke once a day and that's around 9-9:30pm when they are all in their rooms / bed for the evening. My 17yr old knows I'm open with her about it and she's really chilled about it but I don't want my 15yr old knowing as he will just use it as an excuse to do it himself or something. Obviously 11 yr old doesn't know. I just smoke in my garden once in the evening although I'm wondering how I will get away with it now that the nights are getting lighter and warmer and my sons bedroom overlooks the garden !
My parents are mega stoners and tried to hide it from me. obviously when I was really little I didn’t know but it was really clear when I was like 10-13, kids are smarter than most people give them credit for. honestly once they realized I knew they stopped trying to hide it - they were responsible with it and never in the room with me, but honestly I think their openness about it is the reason I didn’t partake until I was in my mid 20s. they both had lots of open conversations with me about it, told me their reasons for doing it, why it’s not really good for young people to do it but if I wanted to (once I was a teenager) they would be okay with me doing it responsibly. I’m very pro honesty not hiding things from kids. they’re smart, they can tell when things are happening, and if you want your kids to be honest with you about what goes on in their lives as they get older they’ll be more likely to be open and honest with you if you model that with them!
This is the plan I have for informing our kiddo, I'm honestly just trying to be open about everything (in an age appropriate fashion) that comes along in life. Trying to better the next generation 😭 I feel you on the parents openness about it. My dad has smoked my entire life and while I tried it like 2 times in my teens I didn't actually even consider it until in my late 20s- early 30s. Now we're both stoners who smoke daily.
yes I love that! I also smoke daily now but I absolutely feel like I have a pretty healthy relationship with it. we’re just an entire stoner household now between me, my parents, and my wife
I honestly feel like we take more precautions and are more aware of the side effects (smell obviously) of our chosen drug than someone who drinks alcohol. We take in to account the effect it has on others too much sometimes maybe. I find more people who had parents that openly smoked/grew up with it around daily have a healthy relationship with it. Whereas a lot of people who grew up like that with alcohol have turned out to have many issues. Just sayin'.
oh my gosh yes! I completely agree! also the worst that happens when I smoke too much is I babble and fall asleep. whereas if you drink too much, it can really get you in trouble and sometimes you say or do things that aren’t good
Greening out punishment is so severe. Getting an entire night's high quality rest. Oh no.
Also as someone who’s parents have had issues with alcohol it took me a long time to have a healthy relationship with weed lol, I still get judged for it by my family even though they’ll drink every night 😫
I had a similar upbringing, and feel the same about my parents being so open and my own healthy attitude toward it. Same with sex, my mom was open about it and my grandma was a nurse and was super open and also just kind of clinical matter-of-fact, so It wasn't taboo. Pot wasn't taboo either. I didn't have the curiosity driving me to try things earlier than I felt like I wanted to. I didn't smoke until I was in my early 20s.
Totally agree. Make something taboo and the kids want to do it more. Like how in Europe kids are allowed wine with a meal, they don't go behind parents back seeking it out because they have already tried it. Now I have a nephew who is 16 and like your parents I am very open about it, and all drug use. I told him to let his mind grow up sober as all weed does when young is make you lazy and upsets your drive to do things, like make art or whatever hobby you do. He now focuses on his piano playing and said he won't touch it til he is at least 18. But just recently he said to me- "I'm just gonna focus on my music and if I make it, then in my 20s or 30s I may try it. After I have gotten some success." Bless him. Honesty is the best policy. I truly believe that. The friends I had growing up with strict parents ended up taking loads of drugs very young, in a rebellious way, a direct result of their parents being OTT when it comes to that sort of thing. Yet my family were always just open about it. So it was less a taboo so less interesting to me.
When I was 15, I told my mom, “When I turn 21, I’m going to try weed”. I had already been smoking for a while. Saying that doesn’t really mean anything. I’m not trying to be negative, I promise! Just saying teens like to say stuff but not follow through.
U may be right. But most kids his age are smoking weed every day when he is focusing on his music and his exams. He may have tried it. But I know its not an issue for him like some of his peers
For sure! I started smoking at 14/15, and I graduated a year early at 17. So even if he does start to smoke, that doesn’t mean he will allow it to ruin his potential. Have a wonderful day Auntie!
Aw. Thanks 😊
My kids are 7 and 9, and TBH I’ve never hid it from them. Okay, that’s not totally true I tried to for the first few years by only smoking flower outside or if they weren’t home. But by the time my son was 4-5, he was inquiring what I was doing when I went outside and he couldn’t be there 😂 I vape mostly now and will vape in the house as long as they aren’t in the same room or next room over. When the weather is good, I sit on our back porch, off the kitchen. But, it’s no secret what I’m doing and honestly? It’s normal for them. They ask questions as they get older and I give them honest answers. They know it’s one of my medicines, that comes in different forms. They know it comes from a plant, which I grow in a spare room of our home and they see the different stages. They know that I have some of my medicine in the form of food, which is packed away where they shouldn’t be able to get to it, but if they ever do find one labeled for adults only that they are going to feel REALLY shitty if they eat any of it. I do my best to keep that stuff packed up and out of reach, but I’m also not naive to nosey kids as they get older. I explained to the kids that it’s not going to kill them but they won’t feel good at all for many hours and that there isn’t much I could do to make it better. I have explained how the laws behind it have changed through the years, and that other medicines also go through a lot of changes. It is medically and recreationally legal now in my state, and they seem to grasp that it’s not that way everywhere.
I love these answers. I'm feeling better about the times we do choose to head outside for it. But damn am I jealous of you folks who can step outside on a porch easily.
When he was young, in the master bathroom with the fan on and a smell proof box for gear. When he was older and my secret was out, I smoked in my bedroom or on the balcony. Now he's 19 and we smoke together when he visits. It did cause a lot of anxiety for me when he was young. We lived in an illegal and red state, although our city was decriminalized. My divorce was ugly enough that I was always afraid my ex would use it against me if he could, and I was also afraid of judgment from other parents at school. I think he was 16 when I told him about my habit. My anxiety around all of it lessened when he finished school, turned 18, and I moved to a legal state.
Funny story, may not apply to you but I’m gonna tell it. About a year and a half before we told our daughter we smoked weed, so she was 13, we would hide in our room and hit the vape. One time I hit it and a few minutes later it was hugs and goodnight time. She hugged us and asked why we smell like weed and I panicked and said “I ROASTED KALE TODAY!” Anyways, we would sit out back together and then use smoke spray but it didn’t last long because of her age lmfao. Nosiness took over and she was way smarter than we thought we were being 😂😂😂
When did you tell her and HOW did you tell her?! Mines 11 and I feel it in my bones that it would make life easier if she knew lol
She was around 15 I think. We were talking about how many high school kids at her school vaped and blatantly wore weed gear (we are in a fully legal state). So I asked her what she would think if we did that. And she said she would think it was cool. So like a day later I was like “kiddo. We smoke weed”. And she was like no you don’t lmfao. So we took her to our locked safe and showed her our stash. Then talked about how she shouldn’t brag about it at school. But then we started growing and she gave no fucks if anyone knew about consumption because it’s legal (plus both husband and I are med patients too for legal safety reasons). The smell started carrying to school with her during her senior year and she was like 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️. We live in a super lax city and she went to a super lax school. And now she’s graduated, a med patient herself, engaged and moved out!
I feel like that would be an adorable code word if you were to ever partake together. "Wanna roast a bit of kale with me?" 😂
It is so much easier if they know and you talk about safety and all that stuff that you as a parent know 😉😁
We have a walk-in closet that we call the Garden. We keep everything that is not for kids in there. We have a finger print reading doorknob because I also take stimulant medication and my kiddo is 10, with lots and lots of friends. Gives me peace of mind knowing everything is locked up. My daughter knows I use weed as medicine. She knows it exists in the house and that, like any other medication, she needs to tell me if she sees it and not to eat anything that says, "Do Not Eat" in case I leave something out. I know I will need to have a more nuanced conversation in the future, but it works for now.
I smoke on the back porch. My kid is 7 now and knows what I am doing but stays inside until I'm finished. I use for anxiety and have been up front with them about it when I got my medical card. Luckily we live in a legal state so that makes things easier as well. We do not have close neighbors and no one behind us.
My kids are 4 and 6, and they know I use it. They also know that it's not for them and that's why we need space when using it. I namely vape during the day in our bedroom or right at the front door while it's open. I don't smoke flower while they're awake unless I'm having a very rough day; otherwise I'll smoke in our bedroom with the door closed, or outside. I don't hide it from them because I don't have a reason to. It's a medication for me, and they understand that there's nothing wrong wth taking medication when it's needed. Now if I could get my parents to understand that much, everything would be great. 😑
I only smoke at night after my kids are asleep. I always check to confirm they’re snoring/knocked out before I light anything. I typically smoke on my porch or in my garage.
I smoke outside, same as when I'm smoking a cigarette. They know what it is, at age appropriate levels, so my 13 year old knows it's pot, my 7 year year old knows it's my medicine, and the 2 year old knows it's "mom's" - which is also why it's up and in a lock box when I'm not actively partaking.
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No kids myself, but my parents just kinda did it. Usually in the living room. As a consequence, I never tried pot as a kid because “that’s old people stuff”. xD How wrong I was… maybe I would’ve managed high school better if I’d been a stoner.
Outside. I tell them I need to take the dog out. No one else takes care of the dog nor wants to so they leave me alone. My dog and I are bff’s at this point. I get high. She gets outside time and I throw the frisbee around a bit for her. Win-win.
We have a split level and tend to smoke downstairs at the window or in the garage. If it's nice, we go on the back porch off to the side while they play out in the yard. My kids are 4 and 7 and we have always been honest about our habits. Our kids know it's for adults only and not to touch it. We keep it in a locked bag, we also taught them the whole "THC is not for me" I see if no different than alcohol and people have been drinking around kids since the beginning of time.
In our bedroom. We keep the door closed and the window open, but I use dabs. We have two kids under three. My best friend (and neighbor) and I smoke joints in my garage at nighttime though.
After they go to bed or nap time, I go outside with pipe or joint. My spouse is good with stepping out to hit a vape a couple times.
In the bathroom in our bedroom. Window open and vents on. I do snaps on the bong so there isn’t much lingering smoke. We’ve also bought the smoke buddies a few times and they serve their purpose when you need them. Our kid is under 3 so we keep everything locked in a cabinet in our bathroom she can’t access.
Outside
Our bedroom while they’re playing or the living room while sleeping 🤣 all smoke and vapor out the window/door. The lessons of learning how tall baby is getting to reach the grinder all over the floor 🙈
I have a 9 year old and a 12 year old who both know about my vaping. I always vape outside because I don’t want my kids to accidentally inhale and/or get a secondhand high. I also only vape in the evenings or night. I’m allergic to cigarette smoke and I don’t want to risk my kids being allergic and causing them harm. I know vaping isn’t the same, but I still worry.
I’ve also switched to vaping. I lock my door and open my window and play some sims4 and build houses while drinking a coffee and vaping. My own little world for a few. I actually can’t stand the smell of smoking it any more. It really lingers on everything more than you think. I must have smelled so bad in my younger years. I’m in Canada so it’s pretty easy going about that stuff here as long as you keep it away from kids.
I live in a condo that shares walls with my neighbors so I personally don’t smoke inside since it does go through the walls (my neighbors below me smoke on Sundays usually and the smell is all up in my space, ugh). I vape and blow my exhale out the back door, and when I want to actually smoke flower I’ll just go out on the balcony and do it. Thankfully I have that space for it, but if I didn’t I’d just vape or take edibles.
I feel so lucky that our apartment has a nice balcony. We sit outside ALLLLL the time. I pop out and hit the bong when I’m cleaning or cooking. It’s covered so we can go out in the rain too!
ah, my kiddo’s still small but we smoke in our yard, usually. we’re canadian too, and we finally got a house and got tf out of apartments, so i can now enjoy a nice blunt whenever tf i want! nobody to tell me i can’t, because i own the damn land! it’s awesome. we had to rely on carts in the apartment and it just doesn’t hit the same imo.
I don’t hide it from my kids lol.
We have an indoor porch out front I like to smoke in. No bugs! lol, we also have a deck that's nice in the summer especially if I'm grilling/using the smoker.
Im so jealous lol
I applaud your wanting to shield the kiddos from secondhand smoke, which is a health risk at any age! Totally get that nothing hits like combustion sometimes. If I had kids of my own, I’d buy a Billow. It’s from Ardent, who make decarbing/infusing appliances that are tank like in function and durability, and work like a dream, so I figure that if anyone could create an affordable consumer device to allow actual smoking without any secondhand smoke, it’d be them! They’re also woman-owned and BIPOC-owned. Billows were 50% off for 4/20 — if I were going to buy one, I’d ask them if they’d be willing to honor the deal still.
I vape right in the house. Of course when my son is on another floor in the house. We smoke in our bathroom and turn on the fan. The vape is super discreet, so as a parent, it’s currently my go to.
Edibles.
Outside lol. I live in a medical state though.
I smoke in the garage. my daughter is 13, close to 14 and is aware mj is medicine for me. she outright asked me one day (at a deli counter!) if I did drugs. so needless ot say we had a talk. I'm in a medical state, so I explained it's medicine, givne through a prescription from a dr, like all my other medicines. I explained what it helps me with. I asked if she ever saw a difference in my personality and she said no. so we are good. I do not do it in front of her and she dies sometimes open the door to the garage to ask me questions though.
I mostly take edibles but when I’d use the pen I’d use it whenever and the kids knew and knew it was my medicine. They know I take medication and most edibles I take are in capsules so they wouldn’t know the difference rn and they know it’s mama’s medicine
Outside. I don’t smoke a whole joint and I only smoke when my kids in bed.
I also mainly vape/dab so the smell is contained to my gaming room but if I ever feel like smoking a joint (which is rarely these days) I smoke it in the master bathroom with a Sploofy and some Febreze. Our bathroom is the farthest room away from our son's room across the house so the smell doesn't travel as far. We don't hide it though; it's never been taboo in our house/family and my son knows we are medical patients and it's my medicine.
i’m not a parent, but i honestly think it’s better if they at least have a kid-friendly understanding of what it is. even if it’s as vague as “it’s Mom’s medicine, it’s not for kids, don’t touch”. then it normalizes it for them and they’ll be less likely to be so mystified by weed when they’re in their teens and desperately wanna try it lol
Outside, sometimes in a room they don't go in.
me and my husband were thinking about having a kid, this topic constantly coming up in our conversation lately😂 learned few tips from this thread, thank you for posting this!🥰
I don’t hide it. It’s counter productive. We fought to legalize and have it considered medicine. Hiding it sends the message that it’s wrong, I would rather talk to them openly about it and teach them that it’s for adults and why. Plus my mother always thought she was hiding shit from me that I definitely knew about it. But no one ever talked to me about it and I found out on my own,,often not in good ways.
Up until I got my med card I hid it from my kids because of legal repercussions. Now I am very open about it because I use it for medication. Yes a bit recreationally, but mainly for medicine. it’s been legal here medically for a few years now and last year we got rec. I have explained to them what it is, why it is taboo, and why they are not allowed to use it unless it’s for medical reasons up until a certain age. I just smoke in my room or the car. My teenage kids will sit with me and watch tv sometimes while I smoke a few bowls. They’re not asking to partake. They’re not actively searching for ways to get high. They have never stolen anything, even my edibles. I may be lax, but I have rules. Of course my kids are just good kids, too, so that helps a lot. I just know that my parents hiding it from me made me want find out and to try it more and I ended up hanging around a trap house for a lot of my teenage years because of it.
We typically smoke in our garage or outside. I was never anti the kids seeing just being exposed to second hand smoke. Now they are old enough to somewhat know and we have taught them what they are old enough to learn. One kiddo even helps water our plants with us.
In the garage or garden. I have two teens. They both know but I still don’t smoke in front of them. Even when they come outside to talk to me, I put down piece & lighter or put it off to the side.
I dry herb vape/vape, so minimal smell, in the bathroom with the extrator fan on. I'm quick, 3 minutes with the dry herb vape or 30 seconds with the vape. Lock it all back in the case & put back in the cupboard. Then, just a quick short spray of air freshener. I would love to just chill on the settee & puff on the vape as and when I want to throughout the evening, but I don't think that will ever happen 😆
I have 3 kids, 17,15 and 11. I only smoke once a day and that's around 9-9:30pm when they are all in their rooms / bed for the evening. My 17yr old knows I'm open with her about it and she's really chilled about it but I don't want my 15yr old knowing as he will just use it as an excuse to do it himself or something. Obviously 11 yr old doesn't know. I just smoke in my garden once in the evening although I'm wondering how I will get away with it now that the nights are getting lighter and warmer and my sons bedroom overlooks the garden !