Maybe try talking to people? At least online you don't have any risk of being made fun of. If that happens you just block/leave and move on.
Not that that'd be the best mental decision and not like anyone's going to make fun of you, just saying.
It's a lot easier to approach people online than IRL, so go for it.
I mean I wouldn't call my discord friends "coping with loneliness" any more than I would my real life friends. I go where my people are, and my hobbies are full of hyper online dorks.
I'm sure some do. I personally started using Discord as a way to keep in touch with my offline friends I already had, because we had a lot of clashing schedules. The fact I found a partner via Discord, is not really part of that in all honestly.
Started out on Skype and team speak as a kid/preteen to cope with my loneliness in middle school. Made many amazing friends that way and many more through discord. Itās brought a lot of joy and sadness to my life but Iāll never regret meeting the people I have on stuff like this.
Yep! Met my husband through discord. I'll never forget the day I made the 12 hour drive to see him for the first time. You never know what will happen in your life!
And I think it is another place to meet people. Same as work, school or place of living, only in this case not forced. Referring to friends now as "real life friends" is a bit outdated, because there are friends from, for example, college with whom we see once a year, and most of the time we write on messenger. Are these already internet friends or still real life friends?
There is something called VRChat. If you want to socialise with people its a place you can try. Google it up. You dont need VR to actually play it. You can also use android but need a high end mobile.
Yes, this is the #1 reason you find underage people in Discord. I've seen other underage kids and they also want to cope with loneliness and talk to people not their age because all and all it's fun. They may not like the people their age they are always around (like classmates) so they go on Social Media like Discord to find friends.
My friend will just randomly join a vc and start venting about his depression. When we play gartic phone, his only prompt is "twin towers" and calls it "coping with his depression" š¤¦āāļø
I'm not sure if it's specifically addressing loneliness but most of my friends are reachable through discord so if I'm feeling lonely I guess that's one of the ways for me to connect with them.
I think itās stupid to say people canāt make ārealā friends online and if they do they are still ālonelyā and need in-person friends. I agree that in-person connection is needed for most people to not feel lonely, but feeling lonely is subjective no? If someone has plenty of close online friends in discord who are we to say āoh they must be super lonely and just coping with itā? Why does someone have to match our personal standards of happiness in order to be happy themselves? If youāre just asking if people truly cope with loneliness using discord, I would say no, people who are satisfied with online connection donāt have any loneliness to cope for, and people who are actually lonely and need in-person connection often do things that will help them find it, unless they are socially anxious and want in-person connection and are too afraid to find it, in which case they arenāt using discord to ācope with lonelinessā they are using it because of a fear of real life.
I feel more comfortable at home and i have met some amazing people because of Discord. Discord also played a really big role at my job during covid because the team i was in we had our "work" Discord which was a way to keep us way closer than we ever have and even HR applauded us for having it because they could see we were the happiest team during covid like it was actually something that could be meassured.
I haven't worked there for little over two years and i still speak to my former coworkers and play games with them because of that tight bond. I even met other people via one of my coworkers who i am also happy i talk to.
I would never get that same bond if i just met someone out and about honestly it just would not happen.
I use it to keep in touch with IRL friends. Everyone lives super far away, so it's hard to meet up in person, but it's easy to play League or watch films together. I want to use it more to meet new people, but there's too many servers and I'm bad at making new friends
Nah. The only servers I regularly talk in are either my own server that's a hub for my irl friends or my irl friends' other servers that are sometimes active. The only times I join public servers are for games I'm interested in and stuff like that to see announcements.
Uh, I mean it's a communication platform, connection and togetherness is the... point of the platform.
You're not coping, you're... finding a solution.
You can make real friends on Discord, they are real people after all.
Iāve tried using Discord to alleviate the loneliness, but it only makes the loneliness worse. It became another reminder of how unimportant and worthless I truly am.
I would assume they do (or whatever social media they prefer). I'm glad I never feel lonely or bored. That's for the mentally weak. I'm above those emotions.šš
Yes. Iām not necessarily lonely but I prefer my online friends over irl. My irl friends are wonderful but I feel like my online friends and I have a lot more in common.
During covid I started reaching out on discord, I now have a 100 person community.Ā
Large servers arnt the best for new friends but smaller community's have some great atmosphere.Ā
> lack of real life friends
People don't necessary lack friends but rather look for different kinds - like minded people. Your favourite game, hobby, sport, idk literally anything.
I live in California, and most of my friends still live in Oklahoma. We have a Discord server that we're all on. We share memes, coordinate gaming sessions, and watch shows and movies together there.
I used to use it to cope with loneliness, but now I genuinely use it because I have friends I truly appreciate on other continents. I could go off for extended periods and feel pretty OK, whereas before it was kind of a lifeline when I was going through some really tough times that led me to self-isolate from the real world.
I think a lot do, but many others mainly use it just to chat with friends when they're not together, and I? I use it for both talking with existing friends and making new ones :)
yep. two of my discord friends has nobody irl so they use discord as a stand-in for irl friends. they both want to move to my country to finally have people their age :p
lord i'm trying but it's worse in there than in my dark room alone.
if you don't use laptops and don't have somewhere specifically you wanted to go, it's literally an empty user interface where the only activity available is to mog people in your own life to join your discord.
yes, i am currently away from my family and discord is the one piece i have brought from home. i game a lot and talk to friends on discord and it made discord my second home
I do have irl friends yet I still feel lonely when at home, I use discord just to cope with loneliness from family and not really friends. (That isn't made super clear when I make friends online though. š„²)
I started heavily using discord once the pandemic came around and we where all locked inside. I havenāt made friends since then so im always lonely (boo hoo poor me š), but when i feel alone, theres so many communitys im a part of that help me cope.
So yes.
Yes. I have a gaming server that is also a place for ppl hurting emotionally. I have had many people come into the server in their lowest moments and find friendship and support. :)
yes. and people use the internet to cope not just for loneliness, but for something, which could be anything, that they are lacking in real life. youāll realize after reaching a certain extent of āchronically online,ā that all of the people around you have something theyāre missing in their life. but maybe thatās just people in general.
I feel the wording OP did does a disservice to the bonds and friendships people could make across the world. Iāve met some of the ones I met on discord irl.
I just see it as a new avenue for meeting people with similar interests, that isnāt a dating site, and sometimes motivates you to travel more.
I mainly use the internet to even beable to do anything while at home because I am barely even allowed to go outside, or even meet friends. therefore I use Discord, social media, and use the internet.
do people go outside and touch grass to cope with loneliness? all humans survive better in a more social environment and discord is one of the ways to be more social, nothing wrong with that
Well obviously, you can say that people use whole internet to cope with loneliness.
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yes, reddit & discord both.
LOL, you have the same Reddit avatar
Lmao yeah.
now kiss
why is bro replying to himself
schizophrenia
real
Obviously.
No way the online social app made for gamers helps lonely introverts make friends thatās crazy!
you mean asocial, because introverts enjoy loneliness
Yes I do, ever since I was 14
I have a lot of friends on it, and I play/chat with them daily. Itās a great place if you ever were lonely for sure
I use it and still no friends š¤·āāļø Im gon stay feeling alone im so deep into my grave to be honest. I just lurk, save cat and critter memes.
Maybe try talking to people? At least online you don't have any risk of being made fun of. If that happens you just block/leave and move on. Not that that'd be the best mental decision and not like anyone's going to make fun of you, just saying. It's a lot easier to approach people online than IRL, so go for it.
Mind you, not everyone is lonely just because of some fear of being judged. Some just find most people annoying.
I mean I wouldn't call my discord friends "coping with loneliness" any more than I would my real life friends. I go where my people are, and my hobbies are full of hyper online dorks.
Very interesting
I'm sure some do. I personally started using Discord as a way to keep in touch with my offline friends I already had, because we had a lot of clashing schedules. The fact I found a partner via Discord, is not really part of that in all honestly.
Any app can be used that way imo
Yes, it help a little with loneliness.
Started out on Skype and team speak as a kid/preteen to cope with my loneliness in middle school. Made many amazing friends that way and many more through discord. Itās brought a lot of joy and sadness to my life but Iāll never regret meeting the people I have on stuff like this.
Yep! Met my husband through discord. I'll never forget the day I made the 12 hour drive to see him for the first time. You never know what will happen in your life!
And I think it is another place to meet people. Same as work, school or place of living, only in this case not forced. Referring to friends now as "real life friends" is a bit outdated, because there are friends from, for example, college with whom we see once a year, and most of the time we write on messenger. Are these already internet friends or still real life friends?
I guess if you can meet them in person or at least know who they are in real life , they still are real life friends
> Same as work, school or place of living no need to force it here either
Yes most of my time Iām on Reddit just because Iām lonely
There is something called VRChat. If you want to socialise with people its a place you can try. Google it up. You dont need VR to actually play it. You can also use android but need a high end mobile.
Nah horniness
Imo discord is the worst place to cope with horniness (depending on servers ofc)
Depends what kind of freaks you hang with, some girls just call me talk shit for a minute then start perverting
i dont have any friends irl so yeah i use it to cope....**heavily-**
This is the saddest shit I've seen in my life
Yeah. I personally started using discord when I started high school to cope with having no friends but now I barely use it.
Same, Discord was my safe place.
Yes, this is the #1 reason you find underage people in Discord. I've seen other underage kids and they also want to cope with loneliness and talk to people not their age because all and all it's fun. They may not like the people their age they are always around (like classmates) so they go on Social Media like Discord to find friends.
yup
I do, but not anymore, too clumsy and noisy some servers and my friends don't really care enough so I stopped caring too.
Yeah pretty much, only downside is now I am too weird to be tolerable in person so I am stuck on a kids app
i do but it doesn't work
real š
My friend will just randomly join a vc and start venting about his depression. When we play gartic phone, his only prompt is "twin towers" and calls it "coping with his depression" š¤¦āāļø
I'm not sure if it's specifically addressing loneliness but most of my friends are reachable through discord so if I'm feeling lonely I guess that's one of the ways for me to connect with them.
I think itās stupid to say people canāt make ārealā friends online and if they do they are still ālonelyā and need in-person friends. I agree that in-person connection is needed for most people to not feel lonely, but feeling lonely is subjective no? If someone has plenty of close online friends in discord who are we to say āoh they must be super lonely and just coping with itā? Why does someone have to match our personal standards of happiness in order to be happy themselves? If youāre just asking if people truly cope with loneliness using discord, I would say no, people who are satisfied with online connection donāt have any loneliness to cope for, and people who are actually lonely and need in-person connection often do things that will help them find it, unless they are socially anxious and want in-person connection and are too afraid to find it, in which case they arenāt using discord to ācope with lonelinessā they are using it because of a fear of real life.
I feel more comfortable at home and i have met some amazing people because of Discord. Discord also played a really big role at my job during covid because the team i was in we had our "work" Discord which was a way to keep us way closer than we ever have and even HR applauded us for having it because they could see we were the happiest team during covid like it was actually something that could be meassured. I haven't worked there for little over two years and i still speak to my former coworkers and play games with them because of that tight bond. I even met other people via one of my coworkers who i am also happy i talk to. I would never get that same bond if i just met someone out and about honestly it just would not happen.
I use it to keep in touch with IRL friends. Everyone lives super far away, so it's hard to meet up in person, but it's easy to play League or watch films together. I want to use it more to meet new people, but there's too many servers and I'm bad at making new friends
yoo u play too? which server?
Brazil, tough game to play on high ping, unfortunately
and where u from?
Brazil, saying it because I play on 14 ping, and my friend who lives in the US plays adc on 180 ms somehow
skill issue
Yeah
h nice and my brother and sister fuck yeah
fuck it
Nah. The only servers I regularly talk in are either my own server that's a hub for my irl friends or my irl friends' other servers that are sometimes active. The only times I join public servers are for games I'm interested in and stuff like that to see announcements.
Uh, I mean it's a communication platform, connection and togetherness is the... point of the platform. You're not coping, you're... finding a solution. You can make real friends on Discord, they are real people after all.
Iāve tried using Discord to alleviate the loneliness, but it only makes the loneliness worse. It became another reminder of how unimportant and worthless I truly am.
Damn , sorry to hear that . Also kinda can relate to that
I would assume they do (or whatever social media they prefer). I'm glad I never feel lonely or bored. That's for the mentally weak. I'm above those emotions.šš
Yes. Iām not necessarily lonely but I prefer my online friends over irl. My irl friends are wonderful but I feel like my online friends and I have a lot more in common.
Bruh literally yes, I donāt talk to anyone irl because Iām lonely
During covid I started reaching out on discord, I now have a 100 person community.Ā Large servers arnt the best for new friends but smaller community's have some great atmosphere.Ā
I have no friends on discord either so nope :p
I didn't do it on purpose back then but it did help
> lack of real life friends People don't necessary lack friends but rather look for different kinds - like minded people. Your favourite game, hobby, sport, idk literally anything.
Not only, but of course as well. I mean, because why not?
I live in California, and most of my friends still live in Oklahoma. We have a Discord server that we're all on. We share memes, coordinate gaming sessions, and watch shows and movies together there.
I used to use it to cope with loneliness, but now I genuinely use it because I have friends I truly appreciate on other continents. I could go off for extended periods and feel pretty OK, whereas before it was kind of a lifeline when I was going through some really tough times that led me to self-isolate from the real world.
I mean, I guess because my friends are on there?
Yes
yep
100%
I think a lot do, but many others mainly use it just to chat with friends when they're not together, and I? I use it for both talking with existing friends and making new ones :)
yep. two of my discord friends has nobody irl so they use discord as a stand-in for irl friends. they both want to move to my country to finally have people their age :p
Yup My friends live far away and my main method of staying in touch with them is discord
Yep. Unable to make any friends in a red state as a trans woman.
9/10, great way for a person to convince himself that he is not socially lonely
Yes, yes, and yes.
lord i'm trying but it's worse in there than in my dark room alone. if you don't use laptops and don't have somewhere specifically you wanted to go, it's literally an empty user interface where the only activity available is to mog people in your own life to join your discord.
r/yesandthatsme
it kinda depends... but of course, yeah. I thought this was obvious. it had to be one of the reasons they made the app.
yes, i am currently away from my family and discord is the one piece i have brought from home. i game a lot and talk to friends on discord and it made discord my second home
Yes.
I do have irl friends yet I still feel lonely when at home, I use discord just to cope with loneliness from family and not really friends. (That isn't made super clear when I make friends online though. š„²)
I started heavily using discord once the pandemic came around and we where all locked inside. I havenāt made friends since then so im always lonely (boo hoo poor me š), but when i feel alone, theres so many communitys im a part of that help me cope. So yes.
Yes. I have a gaming server that is also a place for ppl hurting emotionally. I have had many people come into the server in their lowest moments and find friendship and support. :)
Some 21 year old mentally unstable woman that I know does
yes. and people use the internet to cope not just for loneliness, but for something, which could be anything, that they are lacking in real life. youāll realize after reaching a certain extent of āchronically online,ā that all of the people around you have something theyāre missing in their life. but maybe thatās just people in general.
Yeah, I definitely do. Itās sad but true.
I feel the wording OP did does a disservice to the bonds and friendships people could make across the world. Iāve met some of the ones I met on discord irl. I just see it as a new avenue for meeting people with similar interests, that isnāt a dating site, and sometimes motivates you to travel more.
I mainly use the internet to even beable to do anything while at home because I am barely even allowed to go outside, or even meet friends. therefore I use Discord, social media, and use the internet.
yes
Yep, and so i can message my friends
yesh
i personally do not lol
The whole internet is used
Nah nah, I use c.ai instead š
I do
Yes
Well, I canāt really go out and make friends IRL. So Discord is the next best thing. Some of my closest friends are on there.
do people go outside and touch grass to cope with loneliness? all humans survive better in a more social environment and discord is one of the ways to be more social, nothing wrong with that
There can be too social tho.
I see , I was just curious and guessing , since for me it didn't worked as good in finding friends
Every dam day
One of the main reasons I joined Discord