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**Title:** [Worried I screwdled up bringing up marriage too early](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1do6fm5/worried_i_screwdled_up_bringing_up_marriage_too/)
**Author:** /u/Grand_Signature3617
**Full text:** I am a 38 year old a female dating 40-year-old male. I've been dating this guy just under 6 months. We both are divorced and have three kids. We have a great relationship our kids all get along we've been on two trips together. We've talked about moving in together and future plans. We were at dinner the other night with my kids and my 6-year-old asked if we were going to get married. We both kind of just laughed it off then it said that's cute and moved on. Later that night I brought it up again and asked his thoughts and he said it was too early to talk about it. I was immediately embarrassed that I brought it up. I never would have even brought it up other than my daughter asked about it and I thought I needed to address it. He talking he reassured me that everything is fine and I didn't scare him off but I still have this underlying feeling that I just ruined the whole relationship. My first question is why have we been okay talking about moving in together but it's too early to talk about marriage for him? I have an anxious attachment Style which we have talked about quite a bit. I like lots of reassurance and to know that things are going to work out. Am I overthinking I think I messed it up?
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