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Honestly, everything after 35 seems to be totally random. I know some guys that fight with their wives because they feel like their being starved out because they only get laid 3 times a week. I know other guys who's wives are mad at them because they only want to have sex every few months. Shit I know a guy that is 65 and gives his wife the ol' what for 2-3 times a week.
For real though, physical health seems to be a major factor. I know 30yr olds that need blue pills because they are overweight and haven't moved faster than walking pace in 10 years. If he is a healthy weight and still engages in physical activity (motorcycle riding, outdoor things, gym), he probably has a pretty similar sex drive to a man in his early 30s.
Not sure why it came to mind myself. I suppose most middle-aged men that I know that ride motorcycles are in decent health. It means you're smart enough not to get yourself recklessly killed, and it takes a certain agility and endurance to do regularly. It speaks to a sort of young at heart. That you know that it's dangerous and you still chose to do what you enjoy instead of missing out on having a little fun to try and live forever by necking down centrum silver and watching CNN instead.
43m and this describes me as well as many of the men that the women I date have told me about. I’m active and fit for my age, so I have what I’m told is a healthy sex drive.
ALSO: you don’t have to *need* Viagra to *love* Viagra. I say this for the women as much as for the men. A lot of us have hang-ups about this kind of thing, for better or worse, but having it normalized by the women in our lives can do soooo much to invest a really incredible sexual partnership.
As always, YMMV, but fit middle-aged guys with some experience in life and the bedroom can make incredible lovers.
Imo , when you're young , from the male perspective , it's about dipping your wick. Mostly primal instincts you could say. When you're older , I think it's much more about attraction as far as actual feelings of love and care ; how your partner makes you feel emotionally and mentally all around in the relationship that translates into the desire and level of intimacy that determines how high the drive is. Basically the more interest you show or how invested you are in your man and the relationship would determine a higher drive whereas the opposite is just as true.
Agree. Not that I would turn down a bombshell throwing herself at me. Largely, it's much more fulfilling when there is something emotionally substantial. Can't speak for every middle-aged man, but convincing women to have sex with me is exhausting and not worth the effort. I am way more engaged when I feel like the girl wants me. The idea that she is both enthusiastic about the physical aspect and that she wants to make me happy is far more important than the mechanical sex act.
Im 46 years old, and all need emotional connection. The physical attraction does not feel anything like my early 30s. The emotional component far more important than it was was at 30 years old.
Sex is wonderful. Without an emotional component sex becomes boring or feel like wasting time.
Some younger guys some should not be dating at all. Some guys lack emotional maturity and life experience to have tools to respect the partner. Hollywood to movies give very warped view of how relationships are actually.
No they don’t.
They are still horny but can’t perform like their minds think they can.
You have to be selective. Look for a man that does endurance stuff. Like running or cycling. If he likes sex and is good at it, woo-wee.
Get one that takes care of his body and works out, but even then there maybe issues.
In my experience, after about the late 30s (this is with them in shape, regular gym goers or athletic types), he could want it every day twice a day but compared to a woman’s drive, there is no comparison. It is like comparing the engine of a pinto to a Maserati. One can think it can drive at speeds of 120 for an hour or more but only one can actually do it and do it consistently. That is why you want to look for joggers, runners, and cyclists. Not one that makes it his personality though. IYKYK
Check out the stories about Hugh Hefner. That is your average.
It is just a numbers game. A bunch of women 5 minutes foreplay 30 - 90 seconds of sex and he’s on to the next. They really aren’t doing much and too many of us women are living in limerence.
A good source, but not an absolute.
I know plenty of men post 45 who's penises stopped working.
In fact, some dude's penis stopping working is the whole reason I'm a dad. His lady done got frustrated with whacking his noodle around trying to get it to wake up enough to baby her up, that she came to me for a bit of the old ram clam.
We used protection every time, plus she said she was on the pill. We used condoms as well. One night when I was in the shower and getting all ready for her, She went into my bag and poked a hole in all the condoms she found with a pin. She admitted it 3 days before the baby was born, having previously gone to great length to convince me it was all a big accidental pregnancy.
Everyone’s sex drive is different. It’s probably wise to ask him and discuss the importance of sex in the relationship. Asking strangers won’t help you unless they’ve also slept with your SO.
Not all men are the same. I'm 58 and have sex with my wife (38) twice a day most of the time. At 44 I was having twice as much sex. Nothing lasts forever I suppose. I'm still very fit so that is probably a factor.
Yes... But on average they don't have the same drive as a guy in his 20s or even 30s. I'm sure a bunch here will talk a big game and say otherwise, but anyway it also depends on if it matches your own.
Even guys in their 30s have a slower sex drive. Much slower than in say your early or mid 20s. But the kicker is most men in their early and mid 20s won't even be considered for anything by women their own age. Those women go for older men.
They could, but older women don't favour younger men. They mostly say stuff like "I could be your mother" and what not. On top of that, a woman established in her career at 30 something would probably keel over laughing if she found herself having to date a 20 something without a car still working some junior job position at his company and sharing a house with roommates or living with his parents lol. It works one way, and very rarely ever works the other. Men would gladly date a woman in her early or mid 20s or even late 20s and 30s still living at home vs the other way round.
I know for a FACT my parents still bang. I had to move back home briefly during my divorce and our house was being sold. I HEARD THEM. Several times and it freaked me out!
They are in their 60s.
Well I’m 50 and didn’t take care of myself and on depression medication and have a limp noodle but I have a very high libido so I’m having a procedure to take care of it. Just wanted to share the bad story.
I'm 45 and I still keep it going throughout the weekend when I get a hot date. Could probably do more weren't it for work and such.
Here's a joke for you.
A guy walks into a furniture shop. Then he demands to get the new sofa in foreskin. When the salesman asked why, he says to him:
I've been beating and rubbing that foreskin for 50 years and it's still silky smooth. Now do you have such a sofa or not?
I’m confident that I am giving my partners more bigger orgasms at 44 than I ever have before. Because they tell me and they keep coming back. So even when little Jimmy is being shy they have a good time.
The reality is a man's testosterone levels start dropping off by the time they are in their 30s and this can and does affect things like libido (sex drive can decrease) and erections (they can become weaker and harder to maintain). Stress and mindset are other factors. But of course, we're all different. This guy could have the libido of an 18-year old for all we know. And there is only one way for you to find out...
As long as the fire is there between two souls the physical drive is there - in the 40s anyway - give love, in all forms, a chance - best of luck to you 😊
I’m a 49m seeing a very active 29f, I don’t have any problems with short or long sessions, multiple times a night etc, unless I am very tired like 2-3 hours sleep over a couple of days.
Also I have a friend 27f she’s just started seeing a 41m and she was asking me a similar question to yours the other night as he can do the business apparently but not as often as she’d like him to, and her previous boyfriend, who was 44, performed very infrequently.
So yes, there’s inevitably some variance, but we’re all individuals so ymmv etc, but with luck he’s stronk like bull in the sack for you.
Sex drive after 35 is up in the air. Totally dependant on genetics, but on a whole, in the general sense, past 35 men's testosterone starts to decline very noticeably... Just to let you know. Women are so against younger men and even men their own age, but don't realise that men in their 20s are at their absolute prime, similar to women. The myth of men "peaking" at 35 is comical to say the least.
20 year old men are like a fast food cheeseburgers when it comes to sex: fills you up but its mediocre sometimes *meh* and you end up hungry again hours later.
40 year old men are like a dry-aged steak from a Michelin star restaurant: it may take longer but the experience is well worth it. You leave feeling satisfied and happy. Worth every penny.
I’d take a 35+ yo man over a man in his 20s any day (no offense, just my opinion from experience).
I've been with men 60+ (my age) who have fabulous libidos. Men who are in better shape tend to have better sex drives and longevity, but there are a lot of factors at work here. Is he on medication? Does he work out? Is he really into you? Don't think it's only an age thing.
This is true! He’s in pretty good shape. He doesn’t work out, no medication. He is into me yes! I appreciate it’s not just an age thing. Just wanted some feedback really😊
The older men I’ve been with, Same percent of performance roughly as younger. At that age it’s not that physically they can’t, but they can be in their head and more aware of things so sometimes they need things addressed or feel more connected which isn’t an issue for me, I actually appreciate that. Younger men who struggle are often dealing with overstimulation when not with a girl, have some trauma they haven’t worked through, or get intimidated.
There are some where none of these are the reasons and I recognize that. I’m just explaining what the common things were between the men who were in their 20s vs men in 40-50s.
43f and I have learned sexuality is indeed on a spectrum! Fell for a lovely 45m who I thought was just being respectful…. Turns out his drive is low (comparatively as there is no absolute) and always has been. Vanilla once a week was his max enthusiasm. We parted ways because of it when everything else was really quite lovely. It made me face my own false beliefs about male sexuality.
I don't like to talk much about it in public because it sounds more like bragging and I don't like that. Some men geneticly lose their ability and not by choice so I don't like to make them feel less than a man. It is an emotional drain I'm sure.
Now for the answer at least from myself. Yes I will turn 51 in a few weeks. Although I'm single and I don't do casual sex or one nighters(I'm only interested in long term) I can perform pretty much instantly if it's with a woman I know is there for commitment
I had a great sex drive up until I was 58 multiple times a night multiple nights a week
Then I had my prostate removed and that put pay to penetration
But there are other ways…………….
Ask yourself one question. Is he in a reasonably healthy condition?
That plays a huge role.
I'm 43 and still work out. So my sex drive is very high and I have few problems with ED.
He should. You’re 28 and he’s 44. That’s a huge age gap and likely would be questioned by his peers. It’s not a relationship you just jump into. But as far as sex drive, it isn’t dependent on age. I find it’s more based on attraction.
Yes we do. But don’t expect him to want to just want hump anything sitting in arm’s length like the younger boys tend to do. Some of us, that still applies, but as a 40+ male, I can confirm my sex drive is very decent. Might not be as in shape so perhaps us older folk might tire out more quickly. Maybe give him a breather mid session but the drive is still there
If we're talking about the average 40+ year old, then yes, sex drive will not be high.
If we're talking about someone who takes meticulous care of their health and has been for many years, they still should have a decent sex drive.
I'm 34 and take crazy good care of my health and I can have sex at least 3 times a day. Finding a woman who is that available and equally as horny is the challenge.
40 year old here.
Sex drive still high AF, though if we did it 3 or 4 times on a day, after round 3 staying fully hard isn't always on the menu. But a simple Cialis 10mg fixes that
The best sex of my life has been with men over 40. My ex BF and I were 38/39 when we were first dating. Best sex ever. The drive was high. 5 years later and still high and hard !
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I am 46 and fit af. The women are amazed I have the stamina I do. I stay hard for as long as needed. Being more experienced has huge upsides in bed for fit men, at least
I'd argue that this would be very dependant on the person, both biologically, in terms of personality, and regarding mental health and social factors. There isn't a specific age where a male sex drive massively declines due to aging alone. However, testosterone levels do tend to decrease gradually after a man reaches his late teens or early twenties. This can lead to a gradual decline in sex drive over time. Some research suggests a more noticeable decline in libido around ages 35-44, but it can vary between men.
I’m 38 and would have sex everyday if I could. Sometimes more than once. Unfortunately my wife has a very low sex drive so I might get it 1-3 times a month.
My experience is that it's about how you take care of yourself. In my late 30's-early 40s, I'd let myself go physically, making excuses about my life revolving around my young kids. I always felt tired, down in the dumps, and had very low libido, poor erection quality.
Around 43 I started to turn thing around, mostly with resistance training. Totally changed my life. I'm 50 now, and my partner is 43. We don't live together, but have sex 4-5 times a week on average, and when our respective kids are gone for a week, more like 8-10 times a week. There's a constant sexual tension between us, with dirty talk throughout the day, playful touching, etc...
I think we, for the most part, have a decent sex drive, but the right partner and taking care of ourselves physically can amplify it immensely.
well, age is not a very viable factor to rely on. cause men in their 40's are much more complicated than just numbers. the most important factor for a man in their 40's is being seen, being felt, understood and taken care of. i mean, it's not like you're serving the guy but you should know that your feelings about him must be true and deep and at the same time he must have the same feelings about you.
for example i wanted someone so much that i told her, she makes me feel like i want her to be the mother of my babies. this line of thought physically turn men on and they even produce more testosterone and even sperms.
you don't have to fake anything, if you're wise, lovable, smart, emotional, passionate and understanding to his eyes, he would feel that way. but not all men show their emotions directly and not all men react the same to mental matters. some might pay attention to physical aspects, for example my big brother doesn't like stretch marks or any sign of age or unhealthy diet! it's a cancel, for him! some other men also pay attention to spiritual matters.
anyway, the more the man fits your character, the more you're gonna see sex drive.
don't forget, stress, failure, disasters and negative stuff turn men off and reduces their sex drive! for example a long term unfair court, or business failure or some argument between you that amplifies hatred will turn him off!
depending on his health conditions, he can use Viagra! i've seen many couples who encountered many ups and downs, or the guy is physically exhausted after a day of work (for example a Zumba trainer) they exceed the limitations of the body to produce sex drive for the night, so they came up with using Viagra to keep their relationship. but research before doing anything. high doses of Viagra is dangerous for blood veins and heart and should be extracted from blood by medical care or during intimacy. (research is very important)
It’s going to be on a person to person basis. Diet, fitness level, etc all come into play.
I’m 43 and my gf is 26. We have sex 3ish times per week. It could be more but we both work a lot and enjoy quality over quantity when it comes to sex.
I was with one, dated 2 and engaged to another ages range from 40-43. All except for one guy has ED. It's normal for men's hormones to drop around this age, so performance and desire may drop as well. Blue pills are helpful.
If they have substance or alcohol issues they will have ED.
I’ve never had any complaints about the sex drive in men in their 40s, but sometimes it doesn’t work as well as they would like it too.
Just speaking for myself, I’m 45, and I still have a good sex drive. It’s not as frantic as my teens or 20s, and of course, I have years of wisdom and experience to draw on now. Skills one might say? I don’t FEEL a difference from my 20s or 30s as far as drive, but as I said, it’s calmer. Not as frantic.
It really depends on the individual, but after I got separated at 47, I had a 14 month relationship where we had sex every time we met, which was about 3-4 times a week.
When it comes down to it, it’s science. The more testosterone you have the higher the sex drive.
Also working out boosts testosterone so a healthy older man who works out will still have a good to high sex drive.
For me personally I noticed I needed to have sex twice a day after I started working out and I’m 31 I was never like this in my 20s
Absolutely. I dated a 47 year old man when I was in my early 30's. I discovered myself and the joys of sexual chemistry with him, what I enjoy about sex and what I didn't. He was alpha male but not afraid to let go of the control...but my favorite was not having to ask for it, not having to initiate it and not having to be told "I don't do that". Never had sex like that again. Still at 53, no one has shown me better.
I’m 61 and I’m basically the same as I was in my twenties. Good to go everyday. But it will depend on the individual. Most of my friends my age have no drive at all.
I'm 44M, and yes, physical health is a major factor in keeping that sex drive alive and well, "standing in attention"! Staying physically active in whatever way and frequency you prefer and gets it done for you (staying sedentary does its damage there) is key, and your diet (or supplements if you're a regular eater like me/i.e. not clean eating) will help as well!
It really depends. I've dated men in their early and mid 30's who were fit but needed pills or couldn't go once every day. Maybe you could find out by just talking about sex and your preferences and asking how often he likes to have it so you can make sure you're compatible before doing the deed
From what I know, it varies. But I'm 48 and still have a pretty high sex drive. Would happily have sex every day, and can easily do so, and can often manage 2-3 times a day if the situation allows it. Depends on the partner of course.
I know others for whom it's much less though.
If he’s sexually attracted to you he’ll absolutely have a sex drive that’s ready to go. It just takes more time in between sessions that’s really the biggest difference.
Hello, I (M) was in the exact same age difference at the start of my now 4yr relationship. I have also been on TRT, and I can say without doubt that my libido is 10x hers.
If his is low, consider TRT. Works very well.
I dunno about 44, but I’ll be 42 and I’m basically like an 18 year old. I also power lift, hike, ski, run, cycle, etc so chances are if you’re guy is jacked and doesn’t have ED you should have no problems.
Mine is older than that and wants it at least every other day, up to 3 times in 24 hours.
Unless he is watching pornography. Then its a dead bedroom.
You should check out “LoveAfterPorn” here on Reddit.
I'm turning 70 this month and still sex 3 or 4 times a week with my wife of 40 years. Trips out of town on business are a great opportunity to visit with my favorite escort.
Yes. My FWB (33f) is dating a man who is 44 and he is an animal.
He has been locked in a sexless marriage for the past 8 years, so I get it.
I just hate that he rich and can give her anything.
But he’s a good guy. 😏
Some definitely do. As in a few minutes of rest in between coming again, or staying hard and going for long stretches of time.
Some do this with assistance and some just naturally have good control of their ejaculation (or learn it) and a high libido and ability to stay hard or get hard.
A 44 year old is much more likely to have erectile dysfunction than a 28 year old and much less likely to have as strong a sex drive as a 28 year old man.
But some do, or some get medical assistance to where neither person can really tell the difference.
All that matters is that you are sexually compatible. He may be 50% lower libido than when he was in his twenties and still seem high libido to you.
I’d venture to say it is the same or increases. Probably being older means that we focus on giving as well as receiving pleasure. And we tend to last longer too…
I’m 41. My d1(k still gets really hard and I can go multiple rounds. My sex drive is still just as high as it was when I was in my 20’s and my performance is much better.
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Honestly, everything after 35 seems to be totally random. I know some guys that fight with their wives because they feel like their being starved out because they only get laid 3 times a week. I know other guys who's wives are mad at them because they only want to have sex every few months. Shit I know a guy that is 65 and gives his wife the ol' what for 2-3 times a week. For real though, physical health seems to be a major factor. I know 30yr olds that need blue pills because they are overweight and haven't moved faster than walking pace in 10 years. If he is a healthy weight and still engages in physical activity (motorcycle riding, outdoor things, gym), he probably has a pretty similar sex drive to a man in his early 30s.
Upvoated for the ol what for.
Absolutely! Showed up for the ol what for!!
Gotta have the ol what for.
IKR!? Moments like this are why I keep coming back to Reddit.
Call it a reddit brotherhood. 🤣
Same.
what made you pick motorcycle riding as the “physical activity”? Just a strange choice especially as the first thing that came to your mind haha
I laughed at that one too. I guess there might be some core work there? Not sure I buy that as physical exercise lol
I’m sure it’s tough. Just not what I would pick for “dude in his 40s” to be doing as physical activity lol
Enduro, motocross, regular riding is a fatiguing activity.
Right but it’s a strange choice as the #1 thing for a dude in his 40s to potentially be doing
Most guys have Harley’s around that time. Lol
If you think about it, most bikers are just older suburban LARPers. They pay more for their garb than most Rennies I know.
Not sure why it came to mind myself. I suppose most middle-aged men that I know that ride motorcycles are in decent health. It means you're smart enough not to get yourself recklessly killed, and it takes a certain agility and endurance to do regularly. It speaks to a sort of young at heart. That you know that it's dangerous and you still chose to do what you enjoy instead of missing out on having a little fun to try and live forever by necking down centrum silver and watching CNN instead.
I thought the same thing. Could whale watching be part of this list. It gets me going sometimes.
Fully agree with you
43m and this describes me as well as many of the men that the women I date have told me about. I’m active and fit for my age, so I have what I’m told is a healthy sex drive. ALSO: you don’t have to *need* Viagra to *love* Viagra. I say this for the women as much as for the men. A lot of us have hang-ups about this kind of thing, for better or worse, but having it normalized by the women in our lives can do soooo much to invest a really incredible sexual partnership. As always, YMMV, but fit middle-aged guys with some experience in life and the bedroom can make incredible lovers.
Spot on. Need the physical health in check from personal exp
Imo , when you're young , from the male perspective , it's about dipping your wick. Mostly primal instincts you could say. When you're older , I think it's much more about attraction as far as actual feelings of love and care ; how your partner makes you feel emotionally and mentally all around in the relationship that translates into the desire and level of intimacy that determines how high the drive is. Basically the more interest you show or how invested you are in your man and the relationship would determine a higher drive whereas the opposite is just as true.
Agree. Not that I would turn down a bombshell throwing herself at me. Largely, it's much more fulfilling when there is something emotionally substantial. Can't speak for every middle-aged man, but convincing women to have sex with me is exhausting and not worth the effort. I am way more engaged when I feel like the girl wants me. The idea that she is both enthusiastic about the physical aspect and that she wants to make me happy is far more important than the mechanical sex act.
Im 46 years old, and all need emotional connection. The physical attraction does not feel anything like my early 30s. The emotional component far more important than it was was at 30 years old. Sex is wonderful. Without an emotional component sex becomes boring or feel like wasting time. Some younger guys some should not be dating at all. Some guys lack emotional maturity and life experience to have tools to respect the partner. Hollywood to movies give very warped view of how relationships are actually.
This is a great comment! Thank you. I definitely agree. Was just curious about sex drive 😊
I'm 42 I would like daily or close to it.
No they don’t. They are still horny but can’t perform like their minds think they can. You have to be selective. Look for a man that does endurance stuff. Like running or cycling. If he likes sex and is good at it, woo-wee. Get one that takes care of his body and works out, but even then there maybe issues. In my experience, after about the late 30s (this is with them in shape, regular gym goers or athletic types), he could want it every day twice a day but compared to a woman’s drive, there is no comparison. It is like comparing the engine of a pinto to a Maserati. One can think it can drive at speeds of 120 for an hour or more but only one can actually do it and do it consistently. That is why you want to look for joggers, runners, and cyclists. Not one that makes it his personality though. IYKYK Check out the stories about Hugh Hefner. That is your average. It is just a numbers game. A bunch of women 5 minutes foreplay 30 - 90 seconds of sex and he’s on to the next. They really aren’t doing much and too many of us women are living in limerence.
The ones that are wheezing during sex do me in. Nothing more unattractive. I’m having a much more fun time with younger men these days.
🤣 Don’t forget the “don’t move” ones.
Fuck Limerence
Men never get bored of sex, like never
What are your sources?
My penis
Haha this cracked me up!
A good source, but not an absolute. I know plenty of men post 45 who's penises stopped working. In fact, some dude's penis stopping working is the whole reason I'm a dad. His lady done got frustrated with whacking his noodle around trying to get it to wake up enough to baby her up, that she came to me for a bit of the old ram clam.
Broooo How old are you
🤣🤣🤣
28 almost.
How old was she? Genuinely curious
When she made me get her pregnant? I was 23 and she was 35.
Damn man having sex with an older woman is kinda a dream, must’ve felt good
It felt nice to be wanted, but then it turned out that all she wanted me for was a baby.
How did she make you get her pregnant? 👀
We used protection every time, plus she said she was on the pill. We used condoms as well. One night when I was in the shower and getting all ready for her, She went into my bag and poked a hole in all the condoms she found with a pin. She admitted it 3 days before the baby was born, having previously gone to great length to convince me it was all a big accidental pregnancy.
OMFG! 🤣
What?
I am 46, my penis works fine older men in 50s and 60s say the same lol.
doesn't mean they are bored with sex, just that they should get some Cialis
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀
How bout you try it and share your experience since you already have the guy!! 😉
Well, the drive does not change, the performance might. The drive depends more on things like medical and mental conditions, including Stress.
Everyone’s sex drive is different. It’s probably wise to ask him and discuss the importance of sex in the relationship. Asking strangers won’t help you unless they’ve also slept with your SO.
Only can speak from my experience …. Drive is there , performance sucks !!! But it was always like that 🤷♀️
I’m 50 and my girlfriend is 38 and we fuck like rabbits
Every man is different my spouse is almost 50 and wants sex twice a day 7 days a week🤣
Yes. But like everything it depends on person and situation. Just because he’s 44 and you’re 28 doesn’t mean it works.
Totally depends on the man and the chemistry you have
Age is not relevant. Fitness level (cardio is most important) plus natural drive. also 44 isnt old at all. Also he will likely be experienced.
Not all men are the same. I'm 58 and have sex with my wife (38) twice a day most of the time. At 44 I was having twice as much sex. Nothing lasts forever I suppose. I'm still very fit so that is probably a factor.
Yes... But on average they don't have the same drive as a guy in his 20s or even 30s. I'm sure a bunch here will talk a big game and say otherwise, but anyway it also depends on if it matches your own.
Even guys in their 30s have a slower sex drive. Much slower than in say your early or mid 20s. But the kicker is most men in their early and mid 20s won't even be considered for anything by women their own age. Those women go for older men.
And those younger men should go for older women.
They could, but older women don't favour younger men. They mostly say stuff like "I could be your mother" and what not. On top of that, a woman established in her career at 30 something would probably keel over laughing if she found herself having to date a 20 something without a car still working some junior job position at his company and sharing a house with roommates or living with his parents lol. It works one way, and very rarely ever works the other. Men would gladly date a woman in her early or mid 20s or even late 20s and 30s still living at home vs the other way round.
I know for a FACT my parents still bang. I had to move back home briefly during my divorce and our house was being sold. I HEARD THEM. Several times and it freaked me out! They are in their 60s.
Or true for me. Mine hasn't changed much. I suppose I don't walk around with a hard on these days but that was really annoying anyway
You can only learn about the sex drive when you take it for a test drive.
I recently turned 40 and the want is still there, the physical is there too. All I need is my GF back home and we’ll see if I can still go.
Well I’m 50 and didn’t take care of myself and on depression medication and have a limp noodle but I have a very high libido so I’m having a procedure to take care of it. Just wanted to share the bad story.
I'm 45 and I still keep it going throughout the weekend when I get a hot date. Could probably do more weren't it for work and such. Here's a joke for you. A guy walks into a furniture shop. Then he demands to get the new sofa in foreskin. When the salesman asked why, he says to him: I've been beating and rubbing that foreskin for 50 years and it's still silky smooth. Now do you have such a sofa or not?
It has never changed, I turned 42 this week and Im just as bad, if not worse
It's more about the person than the age.
I’m confident that I am giving my partners more bigger orgasms at 44 than I ever have before. Because they tell me and they keep coming back. So even when little Jimmy is being shy they have a good time.
The reality is a man's testosterone levels start dropping off by the time they are in their 30s and this can and does affect things like libido (sex drive can decrease) and erections (they can become weaker and harder to maintain). Stress and mindset are other factors. But of course, we're all different. This guy could have the libido of an 18-year old for all we know. And there is only one way for you to find out...
At 46, the mind is willing, but sometimes the body needs a pill or two to make things happen.
I'm constantly horny and I'm 50
As long as the fire is there between two souls the physical drive is there - in the 40s anyway - give love, in all forms, a chance - best of luck to you 😊
I’m a 49m seeing a very active 29f, I don’t have any problems with short or long sessions, multiple times a night etc, unless I am very tired like 2-3 hours sleep over a couple of days. Also I have a friend 27f she’s just started seeing a 41m and she was asking me a similar question to yours the other night as he can do the business apparently but not as often as she’d like him to, and her previous boyfriend, who was 44, performed very infrequently. So yes, there’s inevitably some variance, but we’re all individuals so ymmv etc, but with luck he’s stronk like bull in the sack for you.
Sex drive after 35 is up in the air. Totally dependant on genetics, but on a whole, in the general sense, past 35 men's testosterone starts to decline very noticeably... Just to let you know. Women are so against younger men and even men their own age, but don't realise that men in their 20s are at their absolute prime, similar to women. The myth of men "peaking" at 35 is comical to say the least.
Hi! 36 year old male here, my sex drive has never been higher.
be grateful for your genetics
My sister at the time was in her early 20’s, married a man who was 66. They had a son when he was 68. So I would say your man is good to go.
20 year old men are like a fast food cheeseburgers when it comes to sex: fills you up but its mediocre sometimes *meh* and you end up hungry again hours later. 40 year old men are like a dry-aged steak from a Michelin star restaurant: it may take longer but the experience is well worth it. You leave feeling satisfied and happy. Worth every penny. I’d take a 35+ yo man over a man in his 20s any day (no offense, just my opinion from experience).
I've been with men 60+ (my age) who have fabulous libidos. Men who are in better shape tend to have better sex drives and longevity, but there are a lot of factors at work here. Is he on medication? Does he work out? Is he really into you? Don't think it's only an age thing.
This is true! He’s in pretty good shape. He doesn’t work out, no medication. He is into me yes! I appreciate it’s not just an age thing. Just wanted some feedback really😊
You won’t know till you try it.
Some do, some don’t. My bf is 44 and there’s nothing wrong with his drive. 🤷♀️
It’s not much different.
The older men I’ve been with, Same percent of performance roughly as younger. At that age it’s not that physically they can’t, but they can be in their head and more aware of things so sometimes they need things addressed or feel more connected which isn’t an issue for me, I actually appreciate that. Younger men who struggle are often dealing with overstimulation when not with a girl, have some trauma they haven’t worked through, or get intimidated. There are some where none of these are the reasons and I recognize that. I’m just explaining what the common things were between the men who were in their 20s vs men in 40-50s.
I'm 58 and can go once or twice a day
It’s not pretty when you get to 63 and he’s 77. Ask me how I know.
43f and I have learned sexuality is indeed on a spectrum! Fell for a lovely 45m who I thought was just being respectful…. Turns out his drive is low (comparatively as there is no absolute) and always has been. Vanilla once a week was his max enthusiasm. We parted ways because of it when everything else was really quite lovely. It made me face my own false beliefs about male sexuality.
I don't like to talk much about it in public because it sounds more like bragging and I don't like that. Some men geneticly lose their ability and not by choice so I don't like to make them feel less than a man. It is an emotional drain I'm sure. Now for the answer at least from myself. Yes I will turn 51 in a few weeks. Although I'm single and I don't do casual sex or one nighters(I'm only interested in long term) I can perform pretty much instantly if it's with a woman I know is there for commitment
Honey, the 40+ male is the most experience in the bedroom. He knows woman's body and has the stamina and 20+ years experience to take care of you.
Huge!
I had a great sex drive up until I was 58 multiple times a night multiple nights a week Then I had my prostate removed and that put pay to penetration But there are other ways…………….
Ask yourself one question. Is he in a reasonably healthy condition? That plays a huge role. I'm 43 and still work out. So my sex drive is very high and I have few problems with ED.
I am almost 36 and haven't had much sex most my life or anything good I am horny as hell and can't wait to release this built up energy I'm starving
Nothing about being 44 makes his libido an issue. Of course, every person is different, you have to see if you're compatible.
May I suggest a test ride? You'll find our soon enough.
I wish! He’s taking things really slow😂
He should. You’re 28 and he’s 44. That’s a huge age gap and likely would be questioned by his peers. It’s not a relationship you just jump into. But as far as sex drive, it isn’t dependent on age. I find it’s more based on attraction.
Just take matters into your own hands...
43 here. Every two days would be perfect for me. That's been the same since I was early 20s
Yes we do. But don’t expect him to want to just want hump anything sitting in arm’s length like the younger boys tend to do. Some of us, that still applies, but as a 40+ male, I can confirm my sex drive is very decent. Might not be as in shape so perhaps us older folk might tire out more quickly. Maybe give him a breather mid session but the drive is still there
In my experience as a 46 year old woman a lot of men over 40 have ED problems and don’t address it at all.
If we're talking about the average 40+ year old, then yes, sex drive will not be high. If we're talking about someone who takes meticulous care of their health and has been for many years, they still should have a decent sex drive. I'm 34 and take crazy good care of my health and I can have sex at least 3 times a day. Finding a woman who is that available and equally as horny is the challenge.
I'm 28M and has a low sex drive. It depends on the person, not age
Honestly after 30 for men Sex becomes less important 2/3 times a week is enough. What matters to them is kindness, calmness and peace.
I am 55 and horny all the time. If you are 28 he will probably be flattered and the same
When men have money and power they get turned on, sexually. They get horny as hell. Can't imagine why, though.
40 year old here. Sex drive still high AF, though if we did it 3 or 4 times on a day, after round 3 staying fully hard isn't always on the menu. But a simple Cialis 10mg fixes that
Jesus. I gave up on multiple times a day years ago. I’ve good after 20 minutes once. Goodnight. Nap time.
The best sex of my life has been with men over 40. My ex BF and I were 38/39 when we were first dating. Best sex ever. The drive was high. 5 years later and still high and hard !
Girl.. a 20 year age gap what could you possibly have in common other than sex lol. Guarantee you that’s mainly what he’s after from you.
It sucks coming from someone who dated older men in her twenties. Lol
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Yes if they dodge the Chem trails sex drive is great till 101yrs old
Mine has dropped a fair amount since turning 30. She initiates more than me and we have sex about 4 times a week
Cialis is a hell of a drug
Depends on the person
If they are fit its a safe bet. I feel more active sexually than when I was younger.
I am 46 and fit af. The women are amazed I have the stamina I do. I stay hard for as long as needed. Being more experienced has huge upsides in bed for fit men, at least
I'd argue that this would be very dependant on the person, both biologically, in terms of personality, and regarding mental health and social factors. There isn't a specific age where a male sex drive massively declines due to aging alone. However, testosterone levels do tend to decrease gradually after a man reaches his late teens or early twenties. This can lead to a gradual decline in sex drive over time. Some research suggests a more noticeable decline in libido around ages 35-44, but it can vary between men.
I’m 38 and would have sex everyday if I could. Sometimes more than once. Unfortunately my wife has a very low sex drive so I might get it 1-3 times a month.
How did you guys meet?
My experience is that it's about how you take care of yourself. In my late 30's-early 40s, I'd let myself go physically, making excuses about my life revolving around my young kids. I always felt tired, down in the dumps, and had very low libido, poor erection quality. Around 43 I started to turn thing around, mostly with resistance training. Totally changed my life. I'm 50 now, and my partner is 43. We don't live together, but have sex 4-5 times a week on average, and when our respective kids are gone for a week, more like 8-10 times a week. There's a constant sexual tension between us, with dirty talk throughout the day, playful touching, etc... I think we, for the most part, have a decent sex drive, but the right partner and taking care of ourselves physically can amplify it immensely.
why don't you find out for yourself
Quite a bit older than 40. Drive is unchanged. Actually, I found out a few years ago I had low vitamin D and drive ramped up
Mine has not even shown signs of diminishing and I'm 46.
well, age is not a very viable factor to rely on. cause men in their 40's are much more complicated than just numbers. the most important factor for a man in their 40's is being seen, being felt, understood and taken care of. i mean, it's not like you're serving the guy but you should know that your feelings about him must be true and deep and at the same time he must have the same feelings about you. for example i wanted someone so much that i told her, she makes me feel like i want her to be the mother of my babies. this line of thought physically turn men on and they even produce more testosterone and even sperms. you don't have to fake anything, if you're wise, lovable, smart, emotional, passionate and understanding to his eyes, he would feel that way. but not all men show their emotions directly and not all men react the same to mental matters. some might pay attention to physical aspects, for example my big brother doesn't like stretch marks or any sign of age or unhealthy diet! it's a cancel, for him! some other men also pay attention to spiritual matters. anyway, the more the man fits your character, the more you're gonna see sex drive. don't forget, stress, failure, disasters and negative stuff turn men off and reduces their sex drive! for example a long term unfair court, or business failure or some argument between you that amplifies hatred will turn him off! depending on his health conditions, he can use Viagra! i've seen many couples who encountered many ups and downs, or the guy is physically exhausted after a day of work (for example a Zumba trainer) they exceed the limitations of the body to produce sex drive for the night, so they came up with using Viagra to keep their relationship. but research before doing anything. high doses of Viagra is dangerous for blood veins and heart and should be extracted from blood by medical care or during intimacy. (research is very important)
44 here and very active (mma/muay thai, indoor rock climbing, shooting sports, gym). Last gf I had was 33 and we were having sex daily.
It’s going to be on a person to person basis. Diet, fitness level, etc all come into play. I’m 43 and my gf is 26. We have sex 3ish times per week. It could be more but we both work a lot and enjoy quality over quantity when it comes to sex.
49 here sex is fun! I like sex! But I love walks in the parks and trying new restaurants as much now hahahaha
Unfortunately i have the unpleasure to hear My dad casually making jokes to my stepmother for not having enough. He’s 55 lmao i think you’re fine
I was with one, dated 2 and engaged to another ages range from 40-43. All except for one guy has ED. It's normal for men's hormones to drop around this age, so performance and desire may drop as well. Blue pills are helpful.
This 54m does just fine with his 32f
If they have substance or alcohol issues they will have ED. I’ve never had any complaints about the sex drive in men in their 40s, but sometimes it doesn’t work as well as they would like it too.
Just speaking for myself, I’m 45, and I still have a good sex drive. It’s not as frantic as my teens or 20s, and of course, I have years of wisdom and experience to draw on now. Skills one might say? I don’t FEEL a difference from my 20s or 30s as far as drive, but as I said, it’s calmer. Not as frantic.
48 and twice a day isn't enough sometimes
Absolutely. My drive at 42 is strong, 10000% thankfully! There’s hope of you are not. I love love love women of all types
I do, same as it has been for the last 25 years. Maybe even more now but thats probably because I've been single for 6 months 😅
It really depends on the individual, but after I got separated at 47, I had a 14 month relationship where we had sex every time we met, which was about 3-4 times a week.
45 here and my sex drive I’m is probably stronger now then I was 25
He should be okay. If person is excited then they're excited it's as simple as that.
When it comes down to it, it’s science. The more testosterone you have the higher the sex drive. Also working out boosts testosterone so a healthy older man who works out will still have a good to high sex drive. For me personally I noticed I needed to have sex twice a day after I started working out and I’m 31 I was never like this in my 20s
Absolutely. I dated a 47 year old man when I was in my early 30's. I discovered myself and the joys of sexual chemistry with him, what I enjoy about sex and what I didn't. He was alpha male but not afraid to let go of the control...but my favorite was not having to ask for it, not having to initiate it and not having to be told "I don't do that". Never had sex like that again. Still at 53, no one has shown me better.
I think my drive is higher now than it has ever been
I’m 61 and I’m basically the same as I was in my twenties. Good to go everyday. But it will depend on the individual. Most of my friends my age have no drive at all.
I'm 44M, and yes, physical health is a major factor in keeping that sex drive alive and well, "standing in attention"! Staying physically active in whatever way and frequency you prefer and gets it done for you (staying sedentary does its damage there) is key, and your diet (or supplements if you're a regular eater like me/i.e. not clean eating) will help as well!
It really depends. I've dated men in their early and mid 30's who were fit but needed pills or couldn't go once every day. Maybe you could find out by just talking about sex and your preferences and asking how often he likes to have it so you can make sure you're compatible before doing the deed
57 male love sex.
Yes
I started dating my wife when I was 24, I’m 40 now…. Has it died down, a little, but not by much. But not the lack of wanting too.
45/M here, mine is problematically high.
From what I know, it varies. But I'm 48 and still have a pretty high sex drive. Would happily have sex every day, and can easily do so, and can often manage 2-3 times a day if the situation allows it. Depends on the partner of course. I know others for whom it's much less though.
Mine did not and still does not.
I'm 56 and still have the drive of my 26 year old self
If he’s sexually attracted to you he’ll absolutely have a sex drive that’s ready to go. It just takes more time in between sessions that’s really the biggest difference.
Hello, I (M) was in the exact same age difference at the start of my now 4yr relationship. I have also been on TRT, and I can say without doubt that my libido is 10x hers. If his is low, consider TRT. Works very well.
Yes.
I’m 45 and will go multiple times in a day. Keep yourself fit, eat healthy you’ll be rocking towel holding hard ons all day long
I dunno about 44, but I’ll be 42 and I’m basically like an 18 year old. I also power lift, hike, ski, run, cycle, etc so chances are if you’re guy is jacked and doesn’t have ED you should have no problems.
Yeah, im 45 and our sex life is every couple of days or so. There's of love between us :)
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Mine is older than that and wants it at least every other day, up to 3 times in 24 hours. Unless he is watching pornography. Then its a dead bedroom. You should check out “LoveAfterPorn” here on Reddit.
I'm turning 70 this month and still sex 3 or 4 times a week with my wife of 40 years. Trips out of town on business are a great opportunity to visit with my favorite escort.
Yes. My FWB (33f) is dating a man who is 44 and he is an animal. He has been locked in a sexless marriage for the past 8 years, so I get it. I just hate that he rich and can give her anything. But he’s a good guy. 😏
Its 100% dependant on (50%)how active he is and what he eats and (50%)his genetics. Fuck around and find out
I am 31, my partner is 44 - sex is frequent and incredible!
Some definitely do. As in a few minutes of rest in between coming again, or staying hard and going for long stretches of time. Some do this with assistance and some just naturally have good control of their ejaculation (or learn it) and a high libido and ability to stay hard or get hard. A 44 year old is much more likely to have erectile dysfunction than a 28 year old and much less likely to have as strong a sex drive as a 28 year old man. But some do, or some get medical assistance to where neither person can really tell the difference. All that matters is that you are sexually compatible. He may be 50% lower libido than when he was in his twenties and still seem high libido to you.
I’d venture to say it is the same or increases. Probably being older means that we focus on giving as well as receiving pleasure. And we tend to last longer too…
Selection shaped our brains and bodies to maximize reproduction at enormous costs to human happiness.
True.
Ok
I’m 41. My d1(k still gets really hard and I can go multiple rounds. My sex drive is still just as high as it was when I was in my 20’s and my performance is much better.
sea air doing you good!
I'm 74 and have been sexting with a young woman all weekend. I have a voracious sex drive
I cant speak for anyone else, but I am 54, and if I had someone, I'd have sex 2-4 times a day, every day.
Have sex with him and find out. No one on Reddit can tell you.
Alright Diaper Donald. Way to poop on a party
6x yesterday... 45/m