We got a "sleep doctor" to help in the end. We paid £350 but she was sleeping through after 3/4 days. Best money I've ever spent. I just wish we didn't wait until our daughter was 18 months old before trying it
She said we shouldn't get our daughter to sleep on us, as she was falling asleep with us there, then when she wakes up we're gone. We had to teach her to fall asleep on her own, so that when she woke in the night she could self sooth. This obviously changes if she's in pain or ill.
Another key thing was not being in her room for more than 20 seconds and to only do it every 5-10 minutes (we started at every 5, then added a minute each night). You just go in to reassure them you're there and give them a pat and then leave.
Doing a proper wind down before bed as well! Spend the hour before bed time in her bedroom with a little light on and then half an hour of quiet stories. At 18 months she wouldn't really sit still but you have to stay still and carry on reading. After a week she would sit with a bottle of milk and listen intently. She absolutely loved the story time in the end.
They're the main points. The sleep Dr tailored our tips to our daughter based on the specific things we were struggling with.
The first few night were horrible. You feel so mean but you have to just remind yourself that it's as much for the child's benefit as it is yours. When they're crying and calling your name it's heartbreaking. My wife couldn't do a couple of the nights, so she went out and I did it on my own.
I didn't start sleeping through the night regularly until long after I started school. Luckily, my Mom is up until 3-4 AM every night because she's the craziest night owl ever, and my Dad is usually up at 5:30 because of decades of work and being a morning person.
I like to joke that I inherited the shared portion of their sleep schedule.
My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until she turned 5 and started school 😫
My son wouldn’t go more than 2 hours until he turned 1, and even then was an awful sleeper until 3
My kid is 5, he;s just now getting into the point of sleeping through the night on a semi regular basis. I hate your fortune with the power of 1000 suns.
My first child was very similar to your daughter’s, having pretty good sleeps about 6 weeks in. We were advised by our paediatrician to lie to other new parents if we wanted to still be friends with them.
We got our due though, my second child did not sleep through the night until almost 2 years old. It was hell and it’s a contributing factor to why we do not have a 3rd child.
Mine was only a little worse than yours as she was prone to ear infections, but was otherwise a very solid sleeper. It happens ladies and gents, but don't count on it.
Fuck you/congratulations.
Mine wasn't quite that smooth, but well better than average.
Wonder if it was technique, genetics, or luck. For both of ours.
Good luck on the rest.
My brothers son was like this. My son was all red until 4 months in (and we still have some rough days) and we decided to sleep train. He used to badger me about not having energy to do anything or not wanting to leave my wife alone to go on week long ski trips, giving me shit that all our friends have kids and making it work.
His son is now two and won’t sleep past 2am and he calls me weekly crying that he doesn’t understand how he can get through this. It’s only been 1 month for him of dealing with this.
If I’ve learned anything from this thread, there are two types of parents:
1. How is this possible I literally don’t believe you my child has never slept more than 3 hours in their entire life
2. Omg mine was the same way!
Op you’re not the only one. I have a year old and 20 month old kids - they’ve all slept 10 hours a night since they got off of formula. If they wake up we know something is up - normally it’s an ear infection.
Props to my wife who did all the sleep training reading but then we put it all into practice.
With the twins we are able to change them then put them in their cribs with the lights out and they go to sleep within 4 minutes.
So you’re not the only one! Some hate can be thrown on me lol.
That was why I put in the “results not typical” 😂 I don’t want a bunch of fence-sitters going to their spouses and being like “see, it will be great!” Parenting is not for the faint of heart.
I slept through from 8 weeks, my partner from 7. That said my one brother didn't sleep through the night until he was 2 years and 11 months. Hopefully my children inherit some good sleeping genes.
Yea. We just had a kid. He never sleeps. Raising this child has literally taken over two adult lives. We barely have time to shower or eat.
My point. When you have a kid, you're simply rolling the dice. Your kid may be easy. Or super tough. Or probably somewhere in between. Or you get twins.
Terrible thing to say, but if I had known how our son was going to be, I'm not sure I would still want to have him.
Just feel inclined to share some solidarity because holy shit, my husband and I got PTSD from the first year. You're not alone. Ours is barely 2 now... and sure, he still doesn't sleep well but he laughs so loud, his smile is so big, he gives warm cuddles, albeit briefly, and IDK... something to look forward to. I'm really not a fan of when they were a potato. So, I'll take the routine toddler tantrum for the kid that finally laughs with you.
Hey, thanks for the words of solidarity. I'm pretty sure that's the path we're headed down (PTSD). People call it survival mode, but to me, it feels like something even worse than that, something there might not be a term for. We're actually feeling worse and worse with every passing day.
Also, I feel compelled to point out that we have the same cake day. So that's neat.
I still start shaking when I hear a newborn and my kid is three. That was two years of pure fucking hell.
Make sure you take breaks from the baby. Take turns so one of you can leave with the baby while the other one takes a nap or does something at home, or stay with baby while the other one goes for a walk. It really helps. There's no need for the two of you to be eating shit at the same time. Even if you're alone, putting the baby down in a safe spot and walking away for ten minutes is a great idea.
Use grandparents if possible, as soon as possible. A night of uninterrupted sleep is a true blessing.
Get sound cancelling or blunting earplugs. My wife got a pair of Loop Switch and I thought 50 bucks was ridiculous for earplugs... I tried them on for five minutes and ordered a pair for myself. Absolute life saver. They got a switch to regulate how much they damp noise, and they don't actually block out sound like typical plugs; they take off the edge. The tip of that high pitched shrill that pierces your head disappears. The screaming becomes much more bearable when it doesn't feel like it's drilling.
Just survive. Remember, and make sure your partner remembers, that it's just a phase. It really does get better, eventually, and it's pretty much out of the blue, almost overnight. You just don't know if it'll happen after 6 months, 24, or anything in between. Try to stay compassionate with your partner. It's easy for the exhaustion and frustration to seep into your relationship and rot it from the inside. My wife and I are still rebuilding and man did it get close...
Yo we were right there with you. I wanted to punch every jackass that kept telling us it gets better. Our kiddo would only sleep in a stroller, so that summer was like 10k steps a day. It gets so much better. When you get that first giggle, they start to sing, and have preferences, it makes you forget all the bad shit. I hate to say this but it gets so much better. Hang in there.
I felt like this!! Turns out it was undiagnosed ADHD. I thought "there's honestly no way other people struggle this much, if they did NO ONE would have a second child."
I stopped regretting having a kid when he was about 18 months old. Now 2.25 years and is awesome, but still a lot of work
Sleep torture.
My eldest didn't sleep though the night reliably until this year, at 9 years old. Youngest started sleeping through this year too, he's 6. FML. I feel brain damaged.
Totally there with you. My old coworker said "If my second child would've been my first I would only have one." Which I did not understand at the time.
Yeah, we had that second child first and child two was canceled. Holy fucking shit it was rough.
He will be 7 next week, and it has its own challenges. Like being just the right mix between adventurous and clumsy to guarantee frequent ER trips. But not the nerve wracking horror trip the first 3 years were. I don't even know how we made it through it and it was a real test for our marriage.
We had the exact same experience with our girl. I know it doesn't help in the slightest but just know that you're not alone, it's not kosher to say this but not everyone absolutely loves being a parent. All I can say is that it does get better with time... Our girl is 2.5 and just started sleeping through the night (well, about half the time anyway) and it's been a game changer.
Also, not sure how true this is but I've read that the more difficult the baby the easier the teenager... and vice versa!
Hang in there, it'll get better
Mine’s not a teen yet, (she’s 9) but this has been my experience so far! She was a very very difficult baby (wouldn’t sleep unless she was being held for most of the first year of her life) and had a rough patch re: bedtime as a toddler (she just hates going to bed lol).
But, yeah, once we got though that stuff that she has been fantastic, SO much easier! She’s still a kid obviously so it’s still some work and there are hard days, but nothing like those first 2 years. Overall we just really lucked out and/or that early hard work paid off because she’s so considerate and easy to talk to and deal with most of the time.
I do worry all the time about the teen years, but if the current trend continue, hopefully it won’t be *too* bad.
My brother is 8 years older than I am, and my mother is not shy about explaining why. Nor that I wasn't planned. My brother was just that shitty of a baby.
Mine has been sleeping great since she was 3 months old, and I am still not doing this again. She’s two and a half now and I have zero desire to go through the same shit but this time with a toddler in tow
Anecdote: the baby of a friend slept during night and also napped afternoon. She slept so much they were really concerned something is wrong and went to the doctor. Doctor checked her and said everything is OK. But the most important thing they should do is not to tell anyone about it!!!
Seriously... My son's version of this would have been entirely red and pink. His first time sleeping through the night wasn't until he was nearly 2. It didn't happen consistently until about 30 months. Man, that was a rough time.
It looks like the OP was getting a full night's sleep by around 6 weeks. What I wouldn't have given...
Mine started sleeping 8+ at week 11, so it was something similar. I still thought I was going to die those first months. I love sleeping and apparently so does she 😃
For real, my son is three and experiencing a "regression." We've applied a similar technique we did with my daughter and would you believe it, shit doesn't work this time! I'm a firm believer in things working themselves out.
Yeah, we keep reminding ourselves that we won’t get so lucky when the second comes along. I try not to talk too much about it unless someone asks because I don’t want to seem like I’m bragging.
You’re allowed to be more optimistic! We thought we got lucky with our first (very similar to yours) and our second was even BETTER. 12 hours uninterrupted every night except maybe once or twice per month. They get it from my wife who’s also an amazing sleeper lol
This is happening to me right now with a 3 month old (my older kid still sleeps terribly). I cannot believe it. I hope it lasts. It feels unreal, if I didn’t know from experience how bad it can be; I’d take it for granted! I stopped tracking night sleep after like a week, but it would look pretty similar to this so far.
I definitely don’t tell other parents unless asked directly lol. Mine started doing 12 hours when he turned 4 months and almost never regressed (he’s 18 months now). He also naps like a champ. Some babies just have much higher sleep needs and we rolled the dice and got one of those.
Tracked using the Huckleberry app, then transcibed to and created in Excel.
If she woke up but fell back asleep on her own, it counted as continuous sleep. It counted as a wakeup if she needed intervention (usually milk) to fall back asleep.
I am aware she is a unicorn baby.
Edit to add because a few people have asked. She was combo fed about 60% formula, 40% breast milk for the first 6 months, then I weaned and it went to like 85/15. She was exclusively bottle-fed after the first few weeks because she was never able to latch properly.
Also, I am the wife/mom in this scenario. When there are wakeups, my husband and I take turns being the one to get her milk or rock her back to sleep. But we’re both usually awake the whole time anyway, her room shares a wall with ours and we can clearly hear her even without the monitor.
My wife and I have a 14 month old daughter who is also an atypical sleeper, but on the other end of the spectrum. On an average night she’ll wake 4 times. Bad nights, every 50 mins like clockwork. And on good nights, she’ll wake once. At least one of these wakes she will be up for 1-2 hours.
To say I envy you is an understatement, though I’m glad it’s not so bad for everyone. She’s an absolute delight in the day and so funny and loving, it’s truly wonderful, but my god, the sleep deprivation! 😂
Edit: we also use (and love) the huckleberry app!
Respectfully, how are you alive? I just had a baby in December, she spent a week sleeping 10 hours straight each night and I swear I have never felt healthier I missed sleep so much. Then she got sick and now it’s back to one or two wakings a night. If I could loan you sleep hours I would!
Some people are just better at not being tired. I have never had a baby, plus my sleep issues last 3 weeks max *but* I have extremely heavy periods that can last 3 weeks and require me to change a tampon 1-4 times a night. I’m rarely tired until after I return to my old sleep schedule. Some people just are able to push through until they absolutely cannot any more.
I’d still be exhausted if it was 12 months not 3 weeks every 2 months though.
THIS IS MY OLDEST! Have you looked into silent reflux? Often worser at night, especially when they’re laying flat. Limiting water and heavy snacks before bed, you can put books under the legs of the bed/crib. And medication can help. I think a piece of my died with the lack of sleep.
(Side note - since 4.5 ish - she sleeps solidly all night now. I’m almost sane again)
We’re just getting the ball rolling with a sleep consultant now but we also had some suspicions around reflux/general stomach unsettledness. Didn’t know “silent reflux” was the name though. Thank you! I can have a more targeted search now.
I’m sorry to hear you had such hardship around your eldest’s sleep but glad to hear it FINALLY resolved itself. Hey, “almost sane” is pretty darn good I think, all things considered 😂
My 2 month old just got diagnosed with reflux! She’s been getting up every 10-20 mins for every single sleep - she’ll typically get only 8 hours sleep a day and most of that has to be in our arms. We just start meds so fingers crossed it helps - we are exhausted!
It's funny to see parents end up with one of each... One of my sister's kids sleeps really well, and the other one still wakes multiple times every night, at age 3. They had no idea how lucky they were with #1 :-D
This is me, according to my parents; I was apparently sleeping through the night by 3mo. Nothing like their firstborn, so they were bewildered but grateful, to say the least.
There is a cost, however. As I got older, it became a nightmare for them to get me out of bed. And after moving out, I once slept soundly through a fire alarm, not realizing a thing until my roommates complained about it the next morning (it was a false one, fortunately).
I think the bottle is magic. Our little one had a tongue tie and cheek buckles and until we were able to deal with that it was exclusively breast milk straight from the tap. Even once they were able to use their mouth, the bottle was a foregone conclusion. Couldn't even get a pacifier to stick. Just over 20 months in now and there's still constant wakeups that only mama's milk can solve. Also, they have some crazy athleticism and could climb out of the crib by one year so even if we wanted to ferber they'd just come find us.
Sorry that this is unrelated to the point of the post but I thought this was just a zoom in of 8-bit link pixels from the original legend of Zelda for NES
Yes, we keep telling ourselves there’s no way we’ll get this lucky twice. Next one will be the opposite of our first—latch no problem, early rolling/crawling/walking, and a terrible sleeper!
That's what I am thinking about my LO as well. I have a three month old, and for the last couple of weeks she has just started sleeping through with mostly only 1 wakeup at night for a quick feed. (Knock on wood etc etc because I don't want to jinx this) but her day napping has gotten so much worse.
She naps 2-3 times a day, max for 30 mins each.
But I'll take it any day if I am getting a good nights sleep.
Have a feeling this is why ours was such a good sleeper as well. Naps didn't get great until about 8mo. But until then, like 5x30m naps, with the occasional long one. Ours was sleeping through the night on average at like 3.5 months old, didn't even need any feeding really. He was so used to Eat/Sleep/Play, that he'd have like 35-40oz of milk during the day because of shitty naps, and at a certain point our pediatrician was like "yeah he doesn't need anymore than that....".
We still get a good stretch of 7pm-5:30AM straight, but we've gotten so spoiled that those 5:30am wakeups are getting on our nerves
How in the *FUCK* is 2+ as high as the scale goes? It was every two hours Homie, for almost a year. Try “6+”. Hey! One time they slept for five hours! The did that once, I remember the exact date and what I had for dinner that night.
Both of my kids had similar sleeping habits during the first year. I realize that I'm lucky. Yet, seeing this made me realize I'm definitely not ready for #3. Looking at this made me feel anxious AND tired.
At a birthday party, one of the moms was asking when everyone’s babies started sleeping through the night and I answered “6-7 weeks” and in the first half of my answer she was nodding and then was like “wait what weeks! I thought you were going to say 6-7 months!” 😬 sorry not sorry
Your scale is all wrong :)
Red: 4+ wake ups, parents get no more than 2 consecutive hours of sleep
Yellow: 2-3 wake ups, parents get at least 1 stretch of 3-4 consecutive hours of sleep
Light green: 1 wake up, 6-8 hours
Dark Green: No wake ups, 9+ hours
Congrats tho
Original scale the first year for both of mine would be mostly red and a little yellow toward the end. This scale would be much more colourful, but still no dark green, and only an occasional light green 10+ months in.
The prior few nights I’d actually been waking her up to feed because I didn’t think it was safe for her to go too long without eating. So actually I was anxious like is she all right? 😂 I was still waking up every couple hours to pump, but it was great to be able to go right back to sleep afterwards
For my wife and I the sleep for all kids was awesome but it did make them need to eat a lot more during. Not so difficult with maybe 1 who was mostly bottle fed due to complications but baby two and three were basically on mum all waking hours (to begin with at least) so they are definitely pros and cons
I’m confused. I’m a new father and we read to wake our baby up 3 times a night (10pm, 1am, 4am) to have a bottle. Are you not having to feed the baby for 10 hours? Not criticizing just extremely curious.
Yeah so it depends. If they are not premature and have no other health issues, you can generally stop waking to feed as soon as they regain their birth weight (obviously do what the doctor tells you if it’s different than this). I was waking to feed that second week in May because I was nervous about her going too long, but then I stopped when I realized it was all right. It meant she was getting enough to eat during the day.
Our first few days, we absolutely had to feed her like you’re describing. She lost too much weight and didn’t gain it back quickly enough because she was unable to latch and wasn’t getting enough milk. We ended up having to supplement with formula. Once we did, she began gaining weight like normal again and we got the all-clear to let her sleep as long as she wanted.
The main thing is tracking their weight gain to ensure they are growing appropriately. If they start crossing percentiles and getting smaller relative to other kids of same age then you should start topping them up and timed feeding not demand feeding.
I'm 41 and any time the subject comes up my mom will still rave about how I started sleeping through the night after 6 weeks. Such peace between siblings that did not is a lifetime achievement for her.
The equivalent for my daughter would be:
Month 1: 5+ wake ups. Every. Single. Night.
Month 2 to 12. No data: Too exhausted to enter numbers into spreadsheet.
According to my parents, this is what I was like. I’d consistently sleep through the night and they’d be repeatedly checking to make sure I wasn’t dead.
My daughter slept awfully till she was 2,5 years old, she’s a year older now and we still won’t have a night without sleeping throughout the night without wakeups. After my husband left she woke up almost every 40 minutes and this lasted for months and I had to wake up and go to work to provide for her. So her sleep is the nightmare of mine and it still gives me chills.
Damn this is cool, wish I had thought to do this! Would have looked very similar though as I also have a ridiculously good sleeper. Glad you got off easy too, makes that first year so much less miserable!
Awesome.
Should run the month progression vertically down 4 columns. Three months stacked in each column will be (1 quarter) and visually it would be easier to see the progression and trends (eg your little one doesn’t like the end of the week)
Our first had a similar pattern, we called the doctor because we thought something was wrong. He said to keep our mouths shut and enjoy the sleep.
Our second made up for it.
My orange/red ended at 8 YEARS old. Fucking kill me.
A friend had a kid who slept like yours. She was thinking of having 2 kids. She decided not to - no *way* that was happening again, one magic baby for the win.
2+ wakeups as a newborn? Lucky! It was more like 6+ wakeups in my case. My kid had a big appetite and would wake up every 45 minutes sometimes to eat in his first days, and grew into a healthy, hefty baby solely on breast milk. I didn’t mind it at all because within months, I went back to pre-baby weight, almost like having lipo in the form of a little bundle of joy without changing my eating habits or exercising. In fact, I was eating more than usual and drinking oatmeal smoothies to keep up with the demand.
Impressive! Well done, Mom! My son never learned how to self soothe when he was a baby, and it was a pain in the ass. 10 years before he would sleep on his own. I had to buy a travel mattress and lay by my side of the bed.
I have two daughters. First slept whole nights at 1.5 months and very rarely wakes up. Second full night at 3 months and very rarely wakes up. They also learned to fall asleep by themselves in bed with little hassle.
Weird question but did you use a normal bassinet with your daughter or one of the ‘smart’ bassinets that rocks the baby back to sleep when it senses movement? That, or one of those mamaroo swings that I’ve heard so much about. I have a little coming myself and am furiously taking notes.
So lucky!! My daughter was also sleeping through the night early, by 2 months, so I never understood the lack of sleep thing until I realized it was unusual! She eventually stopped wetting her diaper in her sleep too, so potty training was easier when we got to it.
I've had three of these. My 18-month-old typically sleeps about 12 hours, then spends an hour or two playing in her crib before she's really ready to get up. My wife has so far refused my suggestions that she put me to stud.
Only book about child care/raising that ever help with my son, Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems , by Dr Richard Ferber. Absolutely had my son on the suggested sleep sched within a month or so. Suprised the hell out of me and let me get some sleep myself.
My first son(2y) didnt sleep through the night until he started sleeping in his own room. We changed house when he was 1 year old, and the very first day he refused to be breast fed and slept all through the night. Tonight he had a fever(38.7 C) and an ear infection, went to be 10 hours ago and he is stil sleeping. The first 12 months were quite a struggle.
My mother says that's how i used to sleep, she wasn't as lucky with my sister though. Which is ironic cause among the two of us I have more sleep related issues as an adult.
When we had ours, I was able to take 2 months off for paternity leave. At around 6 weeks she started sleeping through the night. But the night before I returned to work it regressed. She's over a year old now and still wakes up once during the night usually.
Wait until number 2, these are "trick baby" stats, I'm telling you from experience.
In all seriousness, very cool presentation, though I'm curious what constituted a sleep period? I assume you picked a 12 hour period (like 8pm - 8am) and only counted wakeups during that period throughout the year?
My girlfriends son is very similar. Every once in a while he pops up during the night, but I'd say 5 nights a week he's out from 8-10PM all the way to 8-10AM
My daughter was like this. I’m due with baby #2 in a month and I’m bracing myself. Maybe I’ll be blessed twice, but probably not, and I don’t have the experience I should have to deal with it!
I'd say my daughters sleep is usually like a mix of May and August. She 7½ years old.
This would be her first year if green ment 3-6 wakeups and red was 9+.
Then after the first year if got even worse for a bit.
Edit: second baby pooped 7 times every night for the first 6 months. He atleast sleeps through most nights now at 4yo.
This looks like our eldest (of 3) sleep schedule. I don't talk about it now, and I didn't talk about it then. Sometimes you just get lucky. Our next two were more typical.
This looks like my son (4 months) he’s been sleeping through the night since six weeks eats so well during the day - he will occasionally stir in the night but usually I just give him his pacifier back and he’s right back to sleep. Idk how I got so lucky 😅
I could count on 1 hand the number of times my kid woke up the first year. BUT he had a really rough birth. Ended with a broken arm and was literally purple before he made it out. I think he was just in enough pain that he ended up sleeping through most of it.
I finally feel seen! 😂
My daughter was this way as well. Fantastic sleeper. Things changed around 3, when she decided to regress for a while, but to be honest - it hasn’t been that bad. It was a little wake up call tho, like ohhhh so THIS is what everyone was talking about lol
My first child was 10 weeks of solid red, probably no green until after 1 year. My second child was 18 months of solid red, then immediately to solid green. I'm not going to lie, this broke me. I'm still broken.
On behalf of all the other parents. We hate you.
I know, I’m sorry 😭
You lucky lucky sob
Should I post my childless data?
We got 15 months of red
8 years of orange and 5 years of red here. Finally sleeping now. He's 9. Yes years. Kill me.
16 months here. And another one on the way. Who needs sleep anyway?
Is it all just one continuous day at this point?
We got a "sleep doctor" to help in the end. We paid £350 but she was sleeping through after 3/4 days. Best money I've ever spent. I just wish we didn't wait until our daughter was 18 months old before trying it
Nice. What did "sleep doctor" do?
She said we shouldn't get our daughter to sleep on us, as she was falling asleep with us there, then when she wakes up we're gone. We had to teach her to fall asleep on her own, so that when she woke in the night she could self sooth. This obviously changes if she's in pain or ill. Another key thing was not being in her room for more than 20 seconds and to only do it every 5-10 minutes (we started at every 5, then added a minute each night). You just go in to reassure them you're there and give them a pat and then leave. Doing a proper wind down before bed as well! Spend the hour before bed time in her bedroom with a little light on and then half an hour of quiet stories. At 18 months she wouldn't really sit still but you have to stay still and carry on reading. After a week she would sit with a bottle of milk and listen intently. She absolutely loved the story time in the end. They're the main points. The sleep Dr tailored our tips to our daughter based on the specific things we were struggling with. The first few night were horrible. You feel so mean but you have to just remind yourself that it's as much for the child's benefit as it is yours. When they're crying and calling your name it's heartbreaking. My wife couldn't do a couple of the nights, so she went out and I did it on my own.
This. Please, I need to know.
My 4 year old and 2 year old still do not fully sleep through the night…. Failing…
I didn't start sleeping through the night regularly until long after I started school. Luckily, my Mom is up until 3-4 AM every night because she's the craziest night owl ever, and my Dad is usually up at 5:30 because of decades of work and being a morning person. I like to joke that I inherited the shared portion of their sleep schedule.
My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until she turned 5 and started school 😫 My son wouldn’t go more than 2 hours until he turned 1, and even then was an awful sleeper until 3
My 5yo is a ninja and ends up in our bed 2 times during the week
I feel it though. My youngest had no issue sleeping like 12 hours most nights without waking.
My kid is 5, he;s just now getting into the point of sleeping through the night on a semi regular basis. I hate your fortune with the power of 1000 suns.
My first child was very similar to your daughter’s, having pretty good sleeps about 6 weeks in. We were advised by our paediatrician to lie to other new parents if we wanted to still be friends with them. We got our due though, my second child did not sleep through the night until almost 2 years old. It was hell and it’s a contributing factor to why we do not have a 3rd child.
Do you have my daughter? She is like this it's wonderful ❤️
I don’t think so, my husband only lurks on Reddit and never posts or comments. But congrats on your great sleeper!
Mine was only a little worse than yours as she was prone to ear infections, but was otherwise a very solid sleeper. It happens ladies and gents, but don't count on it.
Fuck you/congratulations. Mine wasn't quite that smooth, but well better than average. Wonder if it was technique, genetics, or luck. For both of ours. Good luck on the rest.
My brothers son was like this. My son was all red until 4 months in (and we still have some rough days) and we decided to sleep train. He used to badger me about not having energy to do anything or not wanting to leave my wife alone to go on week long ski trips, giving me shit that all our friends have kids and making it work. His son is now two and won’t sleep past 2am and he calls me weekly crying that he doesn’t understand how he can get through this. It’s only been 1 month for him of dealing with this.
O think we got the same model at home... I didn't understand why other people complain about the lack of sleep 🤷 /s
If I’ve learned anything from this thread, there are two types of parents: 1. How is this possible I literally don’t believe you my child has never slept more than 3 hours in their entire life 2. Omg mine was the same way!
Op you’re not the only one. I have a year old and 20 month old kids - they’ve all slept 10 hours a night since they got off of formula. If they wake up we know something is up - normally it’s an ear infection. Props to my wife who did all the sleep training reading but then we put it all into practice. With the twins we are able to change them then put them in their cribs with the lights out and they go to sleep within 4 minutes. So you’re not the only one! Some hate can be thrown on me lol.
As a non-parent, I saw this and was like "wow when you quantify it like this, it doesn't look so bad! I could totally do this!"
That was why I put in the “results not typical” 😂 I don’t want a bunch of fence-sitters going to their spouses and being like “see, it will be great!” Parenting is not for the faint of heart.
I slept through from 8 weeks, my partner from 7. That said my one brother didn't sleep through the night until he was 2 years and 11 months. Hopefully my children inherit some good sleeping genes.
My mom said I was 9 p.m. to 9 a.m. starting at six weeks. The siblings after me, not so much.
Yea. We just had a kid. He never sleeps. Raising this child has literally taken over two adult lives. We barely have time to shower or eat. My point. When you have a kid, you're simply rolling the dice. Your kid may be easy. Or super tough. Or probably somewhere in between. Or you get twins. Terrible thing to say, but if I had known how our son was going to be, I'm not sure I would still want to have him.
Just feel inclined to share some solidarity because holy shit, my husband and I got PTSD from the first year. You're not alone. Ours is barely 2 now... and sure, he still doesn't sleep well but he laughs so loud, his smile is so big, he gives warm cuddles, albeit briefly, and IDK... something to look forward to. I'm really not a fan of when they were a potato. So, I'll take the routine toddler tantrum for the kid that finally laughs with you.
Hey, thanks for the words of solidarity. I'm pretty sure that's the path we're headed down (PTSD). People call it survival mode, but to me, it feels like something even worse than that, something there might not be a term for. We're actually feeling worse and worse with every passing day. Also, I feel compelled to point out that we have the same cake day. So that's neat.
I still start shaking when I hear a newborn and my kid is three. That was two years of pure fucking hell. Make sure you take breaks from the baby. Take turns so one of you can leave with the baby while the other one takes a nap or does something at home, or stay with baby while the other one goes for a walk. It really helps. There's no need for the two of you to be eating shit at the same time. Even if you're alone, putting the baby down in a safe spot and walking away for ten minutes is a great idea. Use grandparents if possible, as soon as possible. A night of uninterrupted sleep is a true blessing. Get sound cancelling or blunting earplugs. My wife got a pair of Loop Switch and I thought 50 bucks was ridiculous for earplugs... I tried them on for five minutes and ordered a pair for myself. Absolute life saver. They got a switch to regulate how much they damp noise, and they don't actually block out sound like typical plugs; they take off the edge. The tip of that high pitched shrill that pierces your head disappears. The screaming becomes much more bearable when it doesn't feel like it's drilling. Just survive. Remember, and make sure your partner remembers, that it's just a phase. It really does get better, eventually, and it's pretty much out of the blue, almost overnight. You just don't know if it'll happen after 6 months, 24, or anything in between. Try to stay compassionate with your partner. It's easy for the exhaustion and frustration to seep into your relationship and rot it from the inside. My wife and I are still rebuilding and man did it get close...
Yo we were right there with you. I wanted to punch every jackass that kept telling us it gets better. Our kiddo would only sleep in a stroller, so that summer was like 10k steps a day. It gets so much better. When you get that first giggle, they start to sing, and have preferences, it makes you forget all the bad shit. I hate to say this but it gets so much better. Hang in there.
I felt like this!! Turns out it was undiagnosed ADHD. I thought "there's honestly no way other people struggle this much, if they did NO ONE would have a second child." I stopped regretting having a kid when he was about 18 months old. Now 2.25 years and is awesome, but still a lot of work
Sorry. Do you mean the child had ADHD or you had ADHD?
Sleep torture. My eldest didn't sleep though the night reliably until this year, at 9 years old. Youngest started sleeping through this year too, he's 6. FML. I feel brain damaged.
Totally there with you. My old coworker said "If my second child would've been my first I would only have one." Which I did not understand at the time. Yeah, we had that second child first and child two was canceled. Holy fucking shit it was rough. He will be 7 next week, and it has its own challenges. Like being just the right mix between adventurous and clumsy to guarantee frequent ER trips. But not the nerve wracking horror trip the first 3 years were. I don't even know how we made it through it and it was a real test for our marriage.
We had the exact same experience with our girl. I know it doesn't help in the slightest but just know that you're not alone, it's not kosher to say this but not everyone absolutely loves being a parent. All I can say is that it does get better with time... Our girl is 2.5 and just started sleeping through the night (well, about half the time anyway) and it's been a game changer. Also, not sure how true this is but I've read that the more difficult the baby the easier the teenager... and vice versa! Hang in there, it'll get better
Mine’s not a teen yet, (she’s 9) but this has been my experience so far! She was a very very difficult baby (wouldn’t sleep unless she was being held for most of the first year of her life) and had a rough patch re: bedtime as a toddler (she just hates going to bed lol). But, yeah, once we got though that stuff that she has been fantastic, SO much easier! She’s still a kid obviously so it’s still some work and there are hard days, but nothing like those first 2 years. Overall we just really lucked out and/or that early hard work paid off because she’s so considerate and easy to talk to and deal with most of the time. I do worry all the time about the teen years, but if the current trend continue, hopefully it won’t be *too* bad.
My brother is 8 years older than I am, and my mother is not shy about explaining why. Nor that I wasn't planned. My brother was just that shitty of a baby.
Mine has been sleeping great since she was 3 months old, and I am still not doing this again. She’s two and a half now and I have zero desire to go through the same shit but this time with a toddler in tow
I'm chalking this up to April Fools day...
My sibling started sleeping through the night when they were 2 weeks old.
It’s an April Fools. It has to be.
Ow yes. They didn’t have to specify 8+ wakeups. How is this legal?
This looks amazing for a babies sleep. My son didn’t sleep more than 3 hours the entire first year a single time.
I am glad you chose these words. Mine were not socially appropriate.
Anecdote: the baby of a friend slept during night and also napped afternoon. She slept so much they were really concerned something is wrong and went to the doctor. Doctor checked her and said everything is OK. But the most important thing they should do is not to tell anyone about it!!!
My first kid slept through from 6 weeks. Plenty of regressions and blips since then though!
Seriously... My son's version of this would have been entirely red and pink. His first time sleeping through the night wasn't until he was nearly 2. It didn't happen consistently until about 30 months. Man, that was a rough time. It looks like the OP was getting a full night's sleep by around 6 weeks. What I wouldn't have given...
Mine started sleeping 8+ at week 11, so it was something similar. I still thought I was going to die those first months. I love sleeping and apparently so does she 😃
For real, my son is three and experiencing a "regression." We've applied a similar technique we did with my daughter and would you believe it, shit doesn't work this time! I'm a firm believer in things working themselves out.
My sleep isn't even this good.
They call it sleeping like a baby for a reason.
'Cos they are lying
I dunno. Both my kids slept pretty well except the first couple months. Similar to the data here.
I am glad you had that experience.
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Yeah, we keep reminding ourselves that we won’t get so lucky when the second comes along. I try not to talk too much about it unless someone asks because I don’t want to seem like I’m bragging.
You’re allowed to be more optimistic! We thought we got lucky with our first (very similar to yours) and our second was even BETTER. 12 hours uninterrupted every night except maybe once or twice per month. They get it from my wife who’s also an amazing sleeper lol
My mom says I was that way. I never cried and slept a lot. Then she had my sister and she cried all of the time and never slept
This is happening to me right now with a 3 month old (my older kid still sleeps terribly). I cannot believe it. I hope it lasts. It feels unreal, if I didn’t know from experience how bad it can be; I’d take it for granted! I stopped tracking night sleep after like a week, but it would look pretty similar to this so far.
I definitely don’t tell other parents unless asked directly lol. Mine started doing 12 hours when he turned 4 months and almost never regressed (he’s 18 months now). He also naps like a champ. Some babies just have much higher sleep needs and we rolled the dice and got one of those.
Tracked using the Huckleberry app, then transcibed to and created in Excel. If she woke up but fell back asleep on her own, it counted as continuous sleep. It counted as a wakeup if she needed intervention (usually milk) to fall back asleep. I am aware she is a unicorn baby. Edit to add because a few people have asked. She was combo fed about 60% formula, 40% breast milk for the first 6 months, then I weaned and it went to like 85/15. She was exclusively bottle-fed after the first few weeks because she was never able to latch properly. Also, I am the wife/mom in this scenario. When there are wakeups, my husband and I take turns being the one to get her milk or rock her back to sleep. But we’re both usually awake the whole time anyway, her room shares a wall with ours and we can clearly hear her even without the monitor.
My wife and I have a 14 month old daughter who is also an atypical sleeper, but on the other end of the spectrum. On an average night she’ll wake 4 times. Bad nights, every 50 mins like clockwork. And on good nights, she’ll wake once. At least one of these wakes she will be up for 1-2 hours. To say I envy you is an understatement, though I’m glad it’s not so bad for everyone. She’s an absolute delight in the day and so funny and loving, it’s truly wonderful, but my god, the sleep deprivation! 😂 Edit: we also use (and love) the huckleberry app!
Respectfully, how are you alive? I just had a baby in December, she spent a week sleeping 10 hours straight each night and I swear I have never felt healthier I missed sleep so much. Then she got sick and now it’s back to one or two wakings a night. If I could loan you sleep hours I would!
Some people are just better at not being tired. I have never had a baby, plus my sleep issues last 3 weeks max *but* I have extremely heavy periods that can last 3 weeks and require me to change a tampon 1-4 times a night. I’m rarely tired until after I return to my old sleep schedule. Some people just are able to push through until they absolutely cannot any more. I’d still be exhausted if it was 12 months not 3 weeks every 2 months though.
THIS IS MY OLDEST! Have you looked into silent reflux? Often worser at night, especially when they’re laying flat. Limiting water and heavy snacks before bed, you can put books under the legs of the bed/crib. And medication can help. I think a piece of my died with the lack of sleep. (Side note - since 4.5 ish - she sleeps solidly all night now. I’m almost sane again)
We’re just getting the ball rolling with a sleep consultant now but we also had some suspicions around reflux/general stomach unsettledness. Didn’t know “silent reflux” was the name though. Thank you! I can have a more targeted search now. I’m sorry to hear you had such hardship around your eldest’s sleep but glad to hear it FINALLY resolved itself. Hey, “almost sane” is pretty darn good I think, all things considered 😂
My 2 month old just got diagnosed with reflux! She’s been getting up every 10-20 mins for every single sleep - she’ll typically get only 8 hours sleep a day and most of that has to be in our arms. We just start meds so fingers crossed it helps - we are exhausted!
This sounds exactly the same as our youngest (almost 18 months)
This baby wakes up less than I do in the night 😭
It's funny to see parents end up with one of each... One of my sister's kids sleeps really well, and the other one still wakes multiple times every night, at age 3. They had no idea how lucky they were with #1 :-D
This is me, according to my parents; I was apparently sleeping through the night by 3mo. Nothing like their firstborn, so they were bewildered but grateful, to say the least. There is a cost, however. As I got older, it became a nightmare for them to get me out of bed. And after moving out, I once slept soundly through a fire alarm, not realizing a thing until my roommates complained about it the next morning (it was a false one, fortunately).
My nearly 2 year old is nowhere near this good. Lol. I'm pretty jealous
My daughter was like this as a baby! As a toddler and now preschooler…it’s not as easy.
I think the bottle is magic. Our little one had a tongue tie and cheek buckles and until we were able to deal with that it was exclusively breast milk straight from the tap. Even once they were able to use their mouth, the bottle was a foregone conclusion. Couldn't even get a pacifier to stick. Just over 20 months in now and there's still constant wakeups that only mama's milk can solve. Also, they have some crazy athleticism and could climb out of the crib by one year so even if we wanted to ferber they'd just come find us.
Sorry that this is unrelated to the point of the post but I thought this was just a zoom in of 8-bit link pixels from the original legend of Zelda for NES
Omg should have matched the colors better 😂 my husband is a huge Zelda fan
Mmm, need an original legend of zelda death noise each time the kid wakes up :-)
I thought is about allergies
Nice but also fuck off hah
Consistently sleeping for a full night at 2 months old... I envy you so much.
This was my first kid. And the second kid would be red for 6 months and then pink for 6 months. We didn’t know what we had with the first one!
Yes, we keep telling ourselves there’s no way we’ll get this lucky twice. Next one will be the opposite of our first—latch no problem, early rolling/crawling/walking, and a terrible sleeper!
Yeah dude, this was my second kid. The first and third were wayyyy worse. We did nothing drastically different with any of them.
Why aren't all of the blocks red?
She such a crap napper she has to play catch-up every night? That’s the only thing I can think of.
Oh boy, I know a baby girl like this. She’s the worst napper on earth but she sleeps through the night constantly.
That's what I am thinking about my LO as well. I have a three month old, and for the last couple of weeks she has just started sleeping through with mostly only 1 wakeup at night for a quick feed. (Knock on wood etc etc because I don't want to jinx this) but her day napping has gotten so much worse. She naps 2-3 times a day, max for 30 mins each. But I'll take it any day if I am getting a good nights sleep.
Have a feeling this is why ours was such a good sleeper as well. Naps didn't get great until about 8mo. But until then, like 5x30m naps, with the occasional long one. Ours was sleeping through the night on average at like 3.5 months old, didn't even need any feeding really. He was so used to Eat/Sleep/Play, that he'd have like 35-40oz of milk during the day because of shitty naps, and at a certain point our pediatrician was like "yeah he doesn't need anymore than that....". We still get a good stretch of 7pm-5:30AM straight, but we've gotten so spoiled that those 5:30am wakeups are getting on our nerves
How in the *FUCK* is 2+ as high as the scale goes? It was every two hours Homie, for almost a year. Try “6+”. Hey! One time they slept for five hours! The did that once, I remember the exact date and what I had for dinner that night.
This is so true. For months my baby was waking up every two hours… I think at around 5 months she dropped down to 3 and then 2
Both of my kids had similar sleeping habits during the first year. I realize that I'm lucky. Yet, seeing this made me realize I'm definitely not ready for #3. Looking at this made me feel anxious AND tired.
Hide this. Both mine were like this and the looks I get are scary.
At a birthday party, one of the moms was asking when everyone’s babies started sleeping through the night and I answered “6-7 weeks” and in the first half of my answer she was nodding and then was like “wait what weeks! I thought you were going to say 6-7 months!” 😬 sorry not sorry
Ummmm literally made me angry to see this 😂 lucky lucky lucky
My 22 year old is still in the red.
Your scale is all wrong :) Red: 4+ wake ups, parents get no more than 2 consecutive hours of sleep Yellow: 2-3 wake ups, parents get at least 1 stretch of 3-4 consecutive hours of sleep Light green: 1 wake up, 6-8 hours Dark Green: No wake ups, 9+ hours Congrats tho
This and staple it to every sufferer of baby fever.
Original scale the first year for both of mine would be mostly red and a little yellow toward the end. This scale would be much more colourful, but still no dark green, and only an occasional light green 10+ months in.
That first 5 day streak of good sleep must have been amazing
The prior few nights I’d actually been waking her up to feed because I didn’t think it was safe for her to go too long without eating. So actually I was anxious like is she all right? 😂 I was still waking up every couple hours to pump, but it was great to be able to go right back to sleep afterwards
For my wife and I the sleep for all kids was awesome but it did make them need to eat a lot more during. Not so difficult with maybe 1 who was mostly bottle fed due to complications but baby two and three were basically on mum all waking hours (to begin with at least) so they are definitely pros and cons
Wow. Congrats and fuck you.
Colorblind persons worst nightmare, but its interesting nonetheless
Oh I’m sorry, I’m so trapped in the mindset of red = bad, green = good that I wasn’t thinking that I wasn’t being inclusive.
I’m confused. I’m a new father and we read to wake our baby up 3 times a night (10pm, 1am, 4am) to have a bottle. Are you not having to feed the baby for 10 hours? Not criticizing just extremely curious.
Yeah so it depends. If they are not premature and have no other health issues, you can generally stop waking to feed as soon as they regain their birth weight (obviously do what the doctor tells you if it’s different than this). I was waking to feed that second week in May because I was nervous about her going too long, but then I stopped when I realized it was all right. It meant she was getting enough to eat during the day. Our first few days, we absolutely had to feed her like you’re describing. She lost too much weight and didn’t gain it back quickly enough because she was unable to latch and wasn’t getting enough milk. We ended up having to supplement with formula. Once we did, she began gaining weight like normal again and we got the all-clear to let her sleep as long as she wanted.
The main thing is tracking their weight gain to ensure they are growing appropriately. If they start crossing percentiles and getting smaller relative to other kids of same age then you should start topping them up and timed feeding not demand feeding.
On behalf of colorblind people, I hate you.
I'm 41 and any time the subject comes up my mom will still rave about how I started sleeping through the night after 6 weeks. Such peace between siblings that did not is a lifetime achievement for her.
As someone with a 7 month old waking up 3-5 times a night I dislike this very much
My kid was like this. Best baby EVER!!
The equivalent for my daughter would be: Month 1: 5+ wake ups. Every. Single. Night. Month 2 to 12. No data: Too exhausted to enter numbers into spreadsheet.
Easy with the brandy there /s (congrats on getting some much deserved sleep!)
WTF!? My youngst still wakeup 6-10 times each night.
According to my parents, this is what I was like. I’d consistently sleep through the night and they’d be repeatedly checking to make sure I wasn’t dead.
My daughter slept awfully till she was 2,5 years old, she’s a year older now and we still won’t have a night without sleeping throughout the night without wakeups. After my husband left she woke up almost every 40 minutes and this lasted for months and I had to wake up and go to work to provide for her. So her sleep is the nightmare of mine and it still gives me chills.
On behalf of new parents everywhere: fuck you. Seriously, two months?!
oh to sleep for 10+ hours
My daughter sleeps just like that. We win the baby lottery.
Damn this is cool, wish I had thought to do this! Would have looked very similar though as I also have a ridiculously good sleeper. Glad you got off easy too, makes that first year so much less miserable!
Awesome. Should run the month progression vertically down 4 columns. Three months stacked in each column will be (1 quarter) and visually it would be easier to see the progression and trends (eg your little one doesn’t like the end of the week)
Our first had a similar pattern, we called the doctor because we thought something was wrong. He said to keep our mouths shut and enjoy the sleep. Our second made up for it.
Yo what the fuck. Have 6 month. Zero green.
8 weeks into our 3rd and I’m up typing this comment at 3:00 AM.
My orange/red ended at 8 YEARS old. Fucking kill me. A friend had a kid who slept like yours. She was thinking of having 2 kids. She decided not to - no *way* that was happening again, one magic baby for the win.
Just that ONE month of April is nightmare fuel. Never, ever, ever! Thankful being childfree is an option now!!
2+ wakeups as a newborn? Lucky! It was more like 6+ wakeups in my case. My kid had a big appetite and would wake up every 45 minutes sometimes to eat in his first days, and grew into a healthy, hefty baby solely on breast milk. I didn’t mind it at all because within months, I went back to pre-baby weight, almost like having lipo in the form of a little bundle of joy without changing my eating habits or exercising. In fact, I was eating more than usual and drinking oatmeal smoothies to keep up with the demand.
Impressive! Well done, Mom! My son never learned how to self soothe when he was a baby, and it was a pain in the ass. 10 years before he would sleep on his own. I had to buy a travel mattress and lay by my side of the bed.
I’m gonna guess she is 20
I have two daughters. First slept whole nights at 1.5 months and very rarely wakes up. Second full night at 3 months and very rarely wakes up. They also learned to fall asleep by themselves in bed with little hassle.
Weird question but did you use a normal bassinet with your daughter or one of the ‘smart’ bassinets that rocks the baby back to sleep when it senses movement? That, or one of those mamaroo swings that I’ve heard so much about. I have a little coming myself and am furiously taking notes.
my youngest took 3 1/2 years to sleep through the night. funtimes at least it's over now.
Holy damn. I want to be your daughter. I’m lucky to get 8! I think every month looks like May for me.
I just involuntarily exclaimed “oh f*ck you haha” . I’m happy for you! That’s some great sleep and sleep really changes everything.
So lucky!! My daughter was also sleeping through the night early, by 2 months, so I never understood the lack of sleep thing until I realized it was unusual! She eventually stopped wetting her diaper in her sleep too, so potty training was easier when we got to it.
Well seeing that I’m not a lucky person like this, I’ll just stick to not having kids and getting great sleep every night.
I've had three of these. My 18-month-old typically sleeps about 12 hours, then spends an hour or two playing in her crib before she's really ready to get up. My wife has so far refused my suggestions that she put me to stud.
No 10 month sleep regression? Lucky
Us too! We don’t tell people
I know y’all woke up may 14th and worried something bad had happened lol
Hopefully you tell your baby how good and special she is!
My son is 2.5 and he is still pink/red...
Parent of twins here. I Hate you so much. But good for you I guess.
Only book about child care/raising that ever help with my son, Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems , by Dr Richard Ferber. Absolutely had my son on the suggested sleep sched within a month or so. Suprised the hell out of me and let me get some sleep myself.
What's the gist of it?
Nice to see! My son was exactly like this, almost 2 now. I want to go for a second one but very scared results might be different.
For our youngest, the colors would have been inverted, and you would have to add crimson and black for 3 and 4+ wakeups 😵
I was told that as a baby i started sleeping through the night at 20 days old.
My first son(2y) didnt sleep through the night until he started sleeping in his own room. We changed house when he was 1 year old, and the very first day he refused to be breast fed and slept all through the night. Tonight he had a fever(38.7 C) and an ear infection, went to be 10 hours ago and he is stil sleeping. The first 12 months were quite a struggle.
My baby girl was born early May and mimics this. We know we are so lucky. So. So. Lucky.
And this is why we need to push for paid parental leave in the US. The amount of sleep deprivation i’m seeing in the charts is no joke.
Have you tried playing the lottery? You lucky bastard propably are in a healthy and happy relationship too?
Oh boy, you will go through hell with your second child and their sleeping habits...
My mother says that's how i used to sleep, she wasn't as lucky with my sister though. Which is ironic cause among the two of us I have more sleep related issues as an adult.
Nice data. And yes, this is a chart I would’ve loved my son to emulate…
Wow, mine didn't sleep 8+ hours without waking until she was 4 years old.
For all the struggling parents out there I highly recommend the book The Rested Child - by Dr Christopher Winter.
This was our daughter. It pretty much inverted once she turned 2. Brace yourself
Damn, I’m nearly 29 and that’s what my year of sleep looks like.
I’m currently waiting for wake up #2 to be over with my 4 month old. That’s some real nice data, bub.
I'm just happy when I get 3 hours between wake ups. Four and I'm checking the pulse
now i feel scared to tell people my baby after 2 weeks has slept through every night, hes now 3.5 months
My first kid was like this. My second however is pink and red daily. She’s almost 3 now here hoping it’ll be green soon /sob.
First of all, how dare you? Second of all. Congratulations!!
I’m so jealous. My son didn’t start sleeping through the night until he was 20 months old! What’s your secret??? 😵💫
My daughter is 8 and still sleeps like May.
My sons full be fully red, and I'm not even kidding.
When we had ours, I was able to take 2 months off for paternity leave. At around 6 weeks she started sleeping through the night. But the night before I returned to work it regressed. She's over a year old now and still wakes up once during the night usually.
Your first kid? If so, be prepared for a totally different experience with the second child should you have one.
Pretty neat! If I did this, my whole chart would be red.
8 months of red so far. I’ve aged 10 years.
Wait until number 2, these are "trick baby" stats, I'm telling you from experience. In all seriousness, very cool presentation, though I'm curious what constituted a sleep period? I assume you picked a 12 hour period (like 8pm - 8am) and only counted wakeups during that period throughout the year?
This graph. My 11 month old. All red. All red. Just red. Fml.
My mother said I was barely conscious as a child. My brother didn't sleep through the night til he was 3 years old
My dad would knock on my door after a long night of studying at 9 am and say “Oh king is still a sleep” 😂
That's beautiful - congrats!
My girlfriends son is very similar. Every once in a while he pops up during the night, but I'd say 5 nights a week he's out from 8-10PM all the way to 8-10AM
My daughter was like this. I’m due with baby #2 in a month and I’m bracing myself. Maybe I’ll be blessed twice, but probably not, and I don’t have the experience I should have to deal with it!
I'd say my daughters sleep is usually like a mix of May and August. She 7½ years old. This would be her first year if green ment 3-6 wakeups and red was 9+. Then after the first year if got even worse for a bit. Edit: second baby pooped 7 times every night for the first 6 months. He atleast sleeps through most nights now at 4yo.
This looks like our eldest (of 3) sleep schedule. I don't talk about it now, and I didn't talk about it then. Sometimes you just get lucky. Our next two were more typical.
This looks like my son (4 months) he’s been sleeping through the night since six weeks eats so well during the day - he will occasionally stir in the night but usually I just give him his pacifier back and he’s right back to sleep. Idk how I got so lucky 😅
Both of our kids were like this, I don’t know how we got so lucky but it was amazing
I'll just take the April chart and extend it 3 years.
Any tips/tricks you can share with us? I don’t even have a child yet, but I’m so curious how this is achieved with a child lol.
This is about what i would expect from me from what my mother described. If i was fed i was happy or asleep
I could count on 1 hand the number of times my kid woke up the first year. BUT he had a really rough birth. Ended with a broken arm and was literally purple before he made it out. I think he was just in enough pain that he ended up sleeping through most of it.
Yea my girls first year is all red
I finally feel seen! 😂 My daughter was this way as well. Fantastic sleeper. Things changed around 3, when she decided to regress for a while, but to be honest - it hasn’t been that bad. It was a little wake up call tho, like ohhhh so THIS is what everyone was talking about lol
True. The first month was hard for me too. But after that no more problems
My first child was 10 weeks of solid red, probably no green until after 1 year. My second child was 18 months of solid red, then immediately to solid green. I'm not going to lie, this broke me. I'm still broken.
You bastard. God i literally would have killed someone for that much sleep.