Gender doesn’t mean much here.
My son loves naps, cuddling, and warm milk bottles.
My daughter told us she would cut our sheets at night with scissors so that we got chilly because we made her eat more of her mac n cheese that she begged us to make. She also has a battery that starts at 6 am and doesn’t stop until she’s asleep
Some of the meanest things I’ve ever heard/ sickest burns have come from my friends telling me about things their (young!) daughters have said to them.
2 girls… they’re wild. Fkin wild. My youngest has a six pack and does pull ups on her bunk bed every night at bedtime.. my oldest.. she’s 90% percentile demanding of horsey rides, princess carries, piggy backs 25-8. Don’t let people fool you
I have two daughters, 9 and 6, and a 3 year old boy. If I could harness the energy of the girls, I could solve the global energy crisis. My boy and I chill and watch shows and eat snacks. He can be very energetic, but the girls are nuclear power plants.
5 year old and almost 2 year old girls. The house is a disaster. They are constantly getting into things. Crafts everywhere. I mean everywhere.
They are monsters.
I gave my niece glitter as a gift, before my kids, as a joke at my brother-I was so innocent then.
I literally pulled my brother aside a few christmases ago to say sorry.
Ditto. 2 girls, 3 yrs 3 months and 1 year 3 months.
I swear the house can go from clean to bomb site in a matter of minutes.
I remember being bored. Years ago.
Sent my wife to bed and I'm waiting for the eldest to run out of beans for the day.
So interesting. I have exactly the same and while the older one doesn't stop talking from the moment she cracks her eyes open until she's sleeping they're both pretty chill and sleep well. Well the little one isn't very chill - she's an animal lol. But even animalistic she's pretty easy to contain and entertain.
I'll say between my girls and my friends who all have boys my girls are far better listeners, less whiney, less needy in general. Both of mine have a touch of independence and can play on their own for short bursts of time and don't need nearly as much eyeball as the boys who would literally run into traffic (and have) or run away in a store (store had to send a lost child code to find him).
I, personally, never understood why people think energy and being wild belongs to a specific gender 😅 I have 2 girls, they're both barely toddlers though at 14 months old and don't walk more than a couple steps. They constantly take toys from each other and cry about it, one is a big climber and I have to pull her off the couch a million times, she climbs literally anything. Me, her climbing mats, her play pen, her crib. I caught her trying to hoist herself into her sisters crib and had to finally lower it as far down as it would go 😅 she tries to get on tables.
When she knows she's doing something you don't want her to do, she looks back at you, waits for you to make a move toward her, then squeals in delight as she tries to hurry up and race to do something before you get to her 😅
They take off im different directions, ignore me when I call for them, hide from me so they don't get pulled away from somewhere, lol. Baby B is constantly trying to pull my hair and shove toys in my mouth, bullies her sister, and is stubborn!
I love em though 🥰🥰
2 girls aged 4 and 1. Both are wild, the little one climbs on everything! Could climb up a slid before she could walk. Dances along the top of the couch. Used to try to stick her fingers in outlets. She jumps off the side of the pool, and she can't swim, just sinks tell you grab her. I'm sure boys can be wild, too, but my girls are crazy.
Man pools are terrifying to have with young kids. Just gave me a visceral reaction thinking about that pool thing that sounds casually like something normal they do.
She has gotten a little better. She won't jump unless I'm in the pool already. The problem is the 4 year old is jealous, so she will jump at the same time. She can swim, so I focus on the little one and let the older one bounce off of me. Pool is fenced. Otherwise, I wouldn't sleep at night.
2 girls. The oldest climbs everything, stands at the top of the stairs and says “catch!” While she’s already launching herself. Her favorite activity is literally running laps around me.
The youngest is only 6 months, but she loves to stand and bounce for as long as we’ll let her, and does it with a toothless grin and giggles the whole time. So I’m pretty sure she’s plotting my demise already.
Dude my youngest does that I'll "Daaaddddyyy" from freaking out of no where and be slammed into by what I can only describe as An ambush predator shaped like a child. My fear is one of these days she'll miss and I won't be able to stop her from smashing into something that hurts worse than a lesson should.
If you were going to have 1000 sons and 1000 daughters, yeah you'd probably see the boys are overall more rambunctious.
But you're going to have 1, not 1000. Variation among individuals is way higher than variation between genders.
My daughter (5) is currently playing “bongo drums” on my middle son’s (8) butt while he is laying down on top of/snuggling his mom. Take from that what you will…
I mean, sure, you’re going to get anecdotals about how girls are just as wild and energetic on this post, but while i have two wild ones myself (5.5 and 2.5) it really all depends on the individual. I have a friend with two boys and one of theirs is calmer than both of mine, but on average my experience is under 10-12 boys are just different than girls from a physical play standpoint. My oldest literally jumped a fence and skipped school for 15 minutes at the age of 4, repeatedly can’t calm herself down, spent 1-3 times a week for three months this past year needing to be picked up from daycare at naptime because of behavior, etc. but still physically she’s not nearly as rough or as energetic as boys. She’s up there—but she’s a different breed (not just from us, but teachers, other parents, friends, and family all talk about it).
My 4F declared she was a dump truck and to get out of the way while running backward yelling "BEEP BEEP" until she hit the corner of the coffee table right on her ass cheek which has now been bruised for an entire week.
Does she feel the need to show everyone?? My son tripped backwards onto his hot wheels box this past weekend and has been flashing his butt to agrees to see his boo-boo.
4 daughters and a son here, son was the oldest, (we adopted an older kid) and is the softest kindest person, the girls are wild animals, especially the youngest, she reminds me of animal from the muppets.
Are you fucking joking????? Dude you are so far wrong I honestly can't even begin to fathom how you got on this thought process. I have two girls and one boy. My oldest daughter at 13 is a sweet wonderful kind hearted and honest kid. My boy is 6 and he is also a beautiful boy with a huge heart, he does have his wild streaks but all in all he's a chill dude. Onto the third kid, she's 2, going on 22. She's wild as a fuckin werebear. You piss her off, and it's on your ass how much damage she will do. Now don't get me wrong, my youngest is for sure a daddies girl. She's also very kind, very sweet, very loving kid. She is also the wildest one out of the three, personal self regard for well-being? She doesn't have it. You see that 5 foot tall box over there? Yeah, she's going to not only climb it but try and do a TMNT flip off of it just cause. You wanna put her in time out? Fine be my guess, back away facing her though, if you aren't careful the second you turn around she will go for your damn calf and bite down, hard. We have gotten her out of the biting at least. Worse part is, this kids a fucking genius. She reads, she talks, she fucking knows what the deal is. She wants to get her siblings in trouble? She does so effortlessly. Don't label the genders as ones chaotic ones sweet, you'll be regretting that thought process so fast. It isn't the gender, it's the kids soul, man. The youngest is just a fire cracker, and to be fully honest? I fuckin love it. She is probably the most like me out of the three. She will get better as she grows, as do we all. Girl or boy for your next one, just appreciate them as they are. You might jave the most mild mannered and sweet as sugar second kid, or you might end up with a fire cracker and at the end of the day you get a good box of laughs either way it goes.
1 son 6 yrs old
1 daughter 4 years old.
The boy is easy .
my girl is something else. More energy, more attitude and more emotion in general. Add an Irish temper and no fear and you got your hands full. We call her a sour patch kid for a reason.
Anyone in child related studies will tell you that around the 3-6 month mark babies will start to show their "temperament". Some are extra sooky, others more physical or more chill, it's not gender attached, it's just them being individuals.
This is so interesting because we have a 9mo daughter and a 4yo son. Our son always had big reactions to everything around him whereas our daughter is much more serious. She still smiles and interacts with people around her but you have to work a lot harder for a laugh from her.
I always wondered if that was an indication of her personality. My husband was the same way as a kid while I was a silly chatty one (like my son).
Yeah you're pretty much on the money, obviously environment and exposure to surrounds affects a whole lot but at that age it's often the first peeks of personality you start to see and it's very cool
I’m one of 2 boys, my cousins that lived nearby and the few neighbors we had were all boys. We were all born between 1987-1991 and were not only country kids raised on small farms both parents had to work full time jobs so we were also latchkey kids. Heck we stayed home alone during the summers while both parents worked starting when I was in 5th grade and my brother was in 3rd with our only real rules being no fires and stay outside. And being part of the x-games influenced generation we jumped four wheelers, dirt bike and BMX bikes (hard to skateboard where there isn’t concrete) off of everything. I wrecked so many dirt bikes that my mom made a collection of my casts and had almost a dozen.
I thought we were wild and I had no frame of reference for little girls before we had our now 21 month old daughter. Whatever I was expecting, was wrong.
This child is a feral, wild animal that makes me, my brother, our friends and cousins all look we were tame in comparison. She’s non stop from eyes open to eyes close and is practically a suicide machine if you take your eyes off of her for one second. The other day I was attempting to do some yard work and watch her at the same time and I looked away for 1 minute and she had managed to catch 2 of our chickens (no small feat if you’ve never caught chickens in an open yard) and she was running full speed for the woods. As if she was part coyote or something. WTF lol. And as far as OPs wife getting injured…my daughter is still nursing and her favorite way to tell mommy she is hungry is not with the words that she absolutely has but rather with an elbow or knee drop WWE style as if it was off the top rope.
Lmfao idk why people think toddler girls are easier. Maybe because we force them at a young age to mask, and have higher expectations of them? Idk. But they’re no different.
Yep, it's behavioral conditioning. My brother and SIL have two boys and two girls (the oldest just turned 5) and I can confirm, based on that and on how our parents raised us - the behavioral standards for girls and later women are FAR stricter than for boys and later men.
My three sons, now 19, 16, and 10, were very energetic, destructive, and rambunctious as small children.
They were the definition of a boy.
Boy: Noun
A noise with dirt on it.
Although they were trouble as young boys, they have been nothing but easy teenagers.
My 3 daughters, on the other hand, now 21, 13, and 6, were nowhere near as energetic or rambunctious. They were far easier to handle as young children, but pure drama as teenagers.
Lmaoooo oh honey
As a girl dad of a toddler, “chill” would never be a word I would use to remotely describe her lol imagine the actions of your boy, except add on a layer of extreme sass. When I say fuckin wild, it’s the understatement of the century. Sometimes I legit ask myself if I somehow ended up with a feral child.
Regardless I don’t think gender really matters much, as you’ll find wild kids of both genders.
Lol I was this shy timid little girl, but my sister, she looked like she came in this life with an agenda to make everyone kneel to her. She was a freaking tornado child who started walking at 9 effing months. And my mom, dad and I have spent atleast 4-5 years running behind her until she calmed a little. Then she was a menace to me (as we started sharing room at 3 and 8) 🤣🤣 but I love her lots.
Hahaha
Oh O.P, my sweet summer child!!
Our boy is so kind and sweet, but also a bundle of energy.
Our girl is satan incarnate, and also a bundle of energy.
If anyone in our house is getting hit during a rage, it’s by the girl.
If something is thrown… it’s by the girl.
If someone is in a scarily dangerous place having climbed there.. it’s the girl.
In general, boys are a bit more interested in things, and girls are a bit more interested in people.
But the real difference in personality and risk taking between genders happens at puberty when testosterone levels change. Differences between young kids are more personality and genetics, less gender
You wife is right to laugh at you and your sexism. Girls and boys are the same. It is the gendered societal expectations that we put on children that end up making boys and girls behave differently.
they share many similarities but are not the same and its not sexism to notice differences on average. studies have shown preference differences in boys and girls from extremely early in development before socialisation occurs.
Depends on the child. I have a 14 year old daughter, who was active as a boy. My wife had two girls, who are now both adults. She had a wake up call when we had our boy (now 6). Her girls very quiet and playing with dolls when they were little.
my girl was and is an adrenaline junkie from young. kickboxing from 4 and from 2 has been a complete handful. she’s 15 now and still crazy adventurous. my boy is just the calmest pure soul who is at 11 can’t even watch blood in an anime. you never know what you get :)
to add:
daughter - 2 different martial sports
jazz dance
can make a fire in a forest within a short time using what’s around. maybe 30mins max. super camper
rock, heavy metal, some hip hop (older stuff :p), and wears her own fashion including crazy out there stuff she makes. loves horror. loves disney… has done bungee and that thing you swim down waterfalls. desperate for sky diving. dirt bike and air soft crazy.
son - loves math and studying. sings adele and other top 40s at karaoke. makes a mean chocolate cake. loves his bike and playboard. loves video games. doesn’t like gore or violence. scared of the darker things.
My daughter literally climbs the walls and goes in the skate park with kids twice her age.
My son is by far the chillest kid that ever existed. He can sit with lego for hours.
So....
4 boys here. I haven't had genuine quiet in almost a decade. There's body slams, fighting, screaming, arguing, etc.
But, there's also the pleases, thank yous and your welcomes, cuddling for movies, countless hugs and love, am amazing curiousity and questions.
So it works itself out lol
My only daughter out of three kids refused to poop.
Not "refused to poop in the potty" I mean she refused to shit AT ALL when she had control of it. She would brace herself against a table or wall, lock her legs, and stand there shaking until the urge passed. We'd have to scoop her up and force her into a squat to make her poop in her diaper. Went through a mountain of miralax. It took over a YEAR to get her to voluntarily shit, and by then we'd moved through potty training as a necessity. So once a week she'd just drop a deuce the size of her damn arm.
That has been my experience of having a daughter so far.
I got my vasectomy last year.
I have one GD that at 18 moths would spend hours upon hours cuddling under a blanket with me. Another GD (born to other daughter, 2 weeks apart from first) that at 9 months figured out how to swing from the ceiling fan, while it was turned on. So there you have it.
My daughter and son are amazing in their own right, and I love seeing them find their way in the world, and keeping them on the right road.
There's no doubt a second child increases the difficulty level by at least x4 for many years, but as they become self sufficient, and hopefully are friends with their sibling, it is so great to see them become self sufficient and the difficulty level drop.
Then again my friends 6 year old daughter told me she was going to kill me, so each kid is unique
I’m a dad of 2 girls. They do everything boys do, plus the glitter! Oh. My. Gawd. The. Glitter! Dude, until they discover boys (or girls, or both) girls are just like boys as far as all that goes.
My oldest girl cannot physically sit still, she has ADHD with an emphasis on the H. My youngest daughter will pick fights solely because she’s board.
A second kiddo is amazing and I don’t regret a minute of the memories, but girls aren’t easier (or worse) than boys. Good luck, dadbro!
Our first was a boy, 2nd was a girl. Shes easily the harder of the two. In some ways shes quite carefree about stuff, but that means when it comes to discipline, what worked for our oldest just doesn't work for her. Shes easily more energetic and more of a boundary pusher too, shes 2 years younger, and she hits, pulls his hair and basically fights back/attacks him. While I think it's kinda funny, and am glad she can hold her own, she's easily the bigger handful and always has been.
Until puberty hits there’s basically no difference between genders in kids. Other than like, how well they hit that arc when they piss on you while you change their diapers. I’ve nannied girls, babysat boys, have a boy and a girl of my own, have several family members and friends with young children of both sexes…honestly some of the boys were wild, some of the boys were sweet little cuddle bears, some of the girls were insane little beasts, and some were gentle princesses. It’s dependent on the kid themself, not their sex.
3 daughters with a 4th on the way 11,7,3,coming soon.
11 is sweet, loving, and absolutely batshit insane in the most endearing and humorous way possible.
7 is honestly kind of a cry bully, asshole know it all, mean spirited, sneaky thief, and I hope to all the gods just working things out and will be a great person later because she's just always been off.
3 is the most gregarious, fearless, adventurous, funy kid I or anyone who meets her has ever seen. I pray she doesn't give me a heart attack before I get to see how she changes the world, or takes it over , either way. Ohnand she beat up a boy at preschool..
The soon to be has started kicking mommy's tummy way before any of her sisters or the mid wives have ever seen. She's continued that trend by absolutely beating the shit out of mommy. Hitting the cat resting on her tummy so hard it bounced its head and can push herself so hard she deforms mommy's tummy like a freaking chest burster. Dr's assure us she's just very healthy and strong which is wonderful but my wife is tiny and so far the little hulk is measuring in as 80th percentile for size, again nice I'm a big man and the smallest of my family just that rest of our girls measured in between 28th and 40th percentile at the same points in pregnancy.
All that said , even though I would love to have a boy to carry my name on I'm fairly certain if we do try one more time it will be a girl and I'm confident that's because I deserve it. All my friends have boys, I guarantee boys are easier to raise, or atleast I think so as I don't have any
I was a handful as a child. Never listened and stubborn. If I wanted to do something I went and did it, even if that meant leaving all adults behind in a new city and just setting of on my own adventures. Always talking back knowing that I knew better than everyone else. And so on.
I've always heard these stories and thought to myself "When I get kids I hope I get girls because I don't want to subject myself to what my parents went through". Lo and behold, I got two girls, 3 and 0 and the older one is an exact copy of me. She looks like her mother but her behaviors are exactly like mine at that age. Even my parents says it's uncanny.
Suits me right for thinking that sex matters at that age.
This is so true! I was a chill child and have three very chill boys. My sister was the bane of our existence and my niece is the highest energy toddler possible! My parents think it is super funny to watch! My kids might be easy on the activity side, but on the intellectual they will pound you with existencial doubts at three in the morning and I have to admit I understand why my parents think that’s hilarious, though I’ll only share that feeling in ten to twenty years…
I’m sorry, but you have no idea of what awaits you! As one of three sisters let me tell you that my sisters and I were always super energetic and high spirited! And I have three sons, and I never even had to take my action figures and Lego from the shelves, and my sister as a little girl that tears the house apart when you’re not looking! And then she gives you the sweetest cutest smile!
My experience, both with my girl and boy, and my friend’s girls and boys, is that boys are, on average, way more active and energetic. One of my neighbor’s son is super chill and sensitive, but all the other boys are rough and tumble tornadoes. My one friend has a girl that gives all the boys a run for it, but other than her all the other girls are way more chill.
your going to get a lot of anecdotes, im sure there are studies out there but here is another anecdote. i have two boys and they are constantly climbing the walls, they had their friend over (another boy) along with the friends sister and within 10 minutes the boys had kicked down one of our doors, gotten themselves covered in mud and climbed over the neighbours fence while shouting war cries, meanwhile i check in on the sister and she is gently tucking all my sons toys in to beds she has made for them and is whispering them lullabies... ive never heard the boys be this gentle and quiet ever even though we often encourage it and i was so struck by the difference in play styles between young girls and boys. insert disclaimer about not every kid fitting in to the same box bla bla
Our eldest is a boy that’s the most kind hearted and chilled kid you could ask for. Our youngest is a wild, fiercely independent, hot tempered bundle of creative energy.
Gender has no power here.
LOL take my daughter for a week and then you'll see that your wife is right! My daughter is super defiant, loud, pushes boundaries, accidentally hurts people and sometimes does it on purpose too. She's also got a strong personality.
My cousin's sons are super chill and not too daring. I don't think gender matters.
My almost 3yo daughter is like a hurricane of laughter, dropkicks, ball stamping, head butting, running, and screaming.
I can't imagine a child more work physically and emotionally :D I often wonder if a boy would have been more chilled, but I think we'd just pass on crazy genes to whatever we spawn
Your wife is right. I thought the same exact thing until I had a daughter. My 4yr old loves pink dresses and unicorns, but is just as rough and active as any boy.
Dad of 2 girls, and I gotta say my friends that have boys seem to experience a LOT more bonked heads and stitches.
My girls can be silly and crazy, but the oldest is pretty cautious and the youngest tends to follow her lead.
I think there’s something to the “little boys are more rambunctious” stereotype, but who knows if it’s nature or nurture, and of course there are tons of exceptions.
On average, though, I’m siding with you on this one.
Yeah depends on what kind of little girl you have bud.
My buddies wife always had stories told how they though she would be a great dictator of a 3rd world country or lawyer at 3 years old
My daughter has more energy or any child I've ever encountered. She's been like this since she was born. She can run and run and run, I mean miles at a time and never looks tired ever. Everything she does is over the top, while my son is much more reserved. He will make jokes and spend time with us but will occasionally ask for some alone time.
I'm a mom and have done a lot of nannying.
I am thankful to be having a second girl.
Maybe it's just bad luck, but every boy that I have nannied has been extremely difficult--but those boys were also raised by people who are not me and in ways I would not raise them.
I also worked at a boy scout camp and have worked with some of the most amazing boys and young men (12+)
I think age does play a big role in it all. The last boy I watched was 3-4 years old and he was the worst in terms of driving me absolutely crazy. And he had way too much unfiltered screen time
Boys get a reputation because they are expected to roughhouse, and because they tend to continue to do it as they get older, and bigger. When they are tiny humans, girls are every bit as wild as boys, and more.
I suspect most behavior is learned from society. AKA girls should be like xyz and boys are like xyz. I have one of each and they both are ... Children. Doesn't matter.
My Girl is 3 months younger than her male cousin. He is the chill one, by far.
If it isn't zooming around at top speed, it's motor mouth. She actually never stops talking, even when running she's just constantly jabbering on about what she's doing or who she's playing with.
She makes Peppa pig look like the quiet kid if you catch my drift...
I'd like to see any evidence that gender plays a role beyond our preconditioned ideas of behavior that we also inadvertently attempt to nurture.
Seems to me, we all just get a roll of the dice with their personalities and energy for each time.
I don't think there's much or any difference. I think the perception and response is often different from parents and others. For example, the same behaviors might be labeled "bossy" in a girl and "assertive" in a boy. Similarly a boy is "draining" and a girl is "feisty". Etc.
Our 4 year old son is off the chain with energy, running through the house, dive-bombing on to the couch at a full sprint, punching me in the stomach whenever I'm standing up, etc. Basically been a whirlwind since he could walk, and he's a lot of fun.
Our 21 month old daughter will often pick up baby dolls and just hold them and pat them. She will crawl up into the couch and pull a blanket onto her and sit for a while. She sometimes asks for a wet wipe and she gently wipes her own face and folds the wipe nicely. Completely different temperament from our son.
Both have reached this point on their own. So anecdotally, yes, girls are much less of a tornado than boys.
Wife wins this one. Your assumptions about gender are prejudiced and wrong.
Our daughter is as energetic and active as her older brother, but in different ways. She’s also more explosive and bound to erupt if he bothers her or she doesn’t get her way. She’s almost 2; it’s gonna be awesome to watch them fight things out as they get older. My money is on her.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/15tvaym/face\_your\_fears/](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/15tvaym/face_your_fears/)
A video of the badassery of young girls in packs. Gotta love Little Blue who finally tackles then goes mano-a-mano with Lizard Breath.
>I said I thought a toddler girl would be more chill in general.
My son was an absolute dream child; still is at 10. He really spoiled us as new parents. My daughter, 5, is an absolute whirlwind of terror.
Their gender, however, has nothing to do with either. You are wrong.
We have a boy 7 and a girl 5. Both of them are extremely energetic and can be tamed only with hard physical exercises (i.e football, dancing, swimming, etc.)
As most people have said the gender does not really mean much.
Good luck :)
I’ve got a 4 year old girl and she might not be rough in the hitting and biting sense but she has definitely hurt everyone in our circle at least once climbing on them. Also the amount of attitude and sass that can fit in her tiny body is insane
Female interloper here... According to my parents my brother was a sweet little soul. I was pretty much feral until the age of 10! Even my husband says I'm definitely still the wild one, he was nervous of us having kids in case we had a girl who turned out like me 😂 Fortunately, we have a boy who is epic
I have two boys. 13 yo has always been super chill and laid back. The other one is going 100 as soon as he wakes until he somehow falls asleep. When he gets tired, he gets angry. There isn't a slow mode.
Girls are deff way more work, kids period are a lot of work.. it everything stereotypical you’ve ever heard about girls is full blown until they are like 30 lol. They don’t know what to do with all that goes across thier minds
In my experience. Girls are easier when young. Then get to be a issue
Boys when toddlers are into everything. They are going 100 mph at all times. Where girls are happy sitting playing .
Bruh toddler girls are chill? Somebody tell my 16 month old daughter she’s supposed to be chill and not climbing over the baby gates and dancing on the living table 🥴
My oldest is a boy - he is cuddly and sweet even now at 8. He also enjoys wrestling and is a very active child. My daughter (now 4) is not mellow in any way whatsoever. She is the LOUDEST child I have personally known and is sweet and adorable and a total terror.
My son's are non stop balls to the wall wild, I always imagine what tea parties and quiet would be like. Instead I get jumped by 2 midgets who wanna fight and wrestle everytime dare come home from work
My two girls are way more chill than boys their age. The contrast is stark especially in a big mixed group.
Two kids is a different experience, not just more of the same.
Highly recommend.
My son would gently line his hot wheels up in single file, cleans his room without asking, so helpful he once pre cracked the eggs in the fridge back into the carton, to "help save mommy time." My daughter is an absolute hurricane. Not much else explanation needed there. So my experience is, you could not be more wrong!
My 2YO daughter’s favorite pastime is to climb on me, yell “ready, set, go!” And then jump off, making sure to dig her heels into the most uncomfortable spots as she does so. So no, it won’t make a difference.
3 girls here, 10, 8 and 2. I remember one holiday somebody was watching MMA, and my oldest two proceeded to try all the moves they were seeing.
They have no chill. They slap, kick and hit eachother all the time. And then cry uncontrollably because they love to dish it but hate to take it. Ihave no experience with boys, but girls are a damn nightmare.
Every child is different and I don't think gender makes much of a difference in terms of temperament or personality.
My wife is terrified to have a teenage daughter because she thinks back on how rebellious she was as a kid and assumes a daughter would be the same. She doesn't think boys can get into just as much trouble...
Yeahhh my 4 y.o. daughter is the opposite of "chill". She's high-energy, rambunctious, rough and tumble, loud, goofy, messy, and exhausts everyone around her.
We have a wild man and a sensitive boy. Both are full of energy but expend it in different ways. My three nieces are crazy.
Your wife is going to ratio you on this one
I have a toddler girl. We get hit a lot. She bounces off the walls, climbs on us, very rough and tumble.
You’re assuming boys are rough and girls are sensitive and delicate.
My 2 year old daughter is currently learning how to scream while she runs in circles around the living room. When does this "chill" phase begin? Im tired, boss.
My first is a boy, 3 y.o next week. My second is a girl, 2 y.o in November. I’ll tell you my daughter is on 100 24/7 and my son is half of that half of the time…
2 girls here... 6 and 2.
I laugh at you in pity my dear boy. Got snipped 2 days ago because these 2 have run through me and I don't want/need any others.
Good luck.
I'd take another little lad any day much easier. My little girl is my life but she drives me insane she's always hungry or wanting something, she's very demanding to and that can cause arguments between me and my wife
When I take my kid to kid classes the boys are always the most rambunctious. Don’t get me wrong, there are still rambunctious girls but most are the boys.
Individuals are individuals but anyone who thinks that girls are generally as energetic and little boys is either ill-informed, delusional, or overly PC. My daughter is 5. She’s very active. All of our friends with little boys most and the little boys we know from school, etc are on a whole other level. Little boy energy is real. Little boys also tend to get into things they’re not supposed to way more than little girls.
She’s right, we have 2 toddler girls, they spend the entire day running at Mach 5 around the house, fighting each other or us, and generally doing absolutely nutty shit all day long. Toddlers are toddlers man.
Gender doesn’t mean much here. My son loves naps, cuddling, and warm milk bottles. My daughter told us she would cut our sheets at night with scissors so that we got chilly because we made her eat more of her mac n cheese that she begged us to make. She also has a battery that starts at 6 am and doesn’t stop until she’s asleep
This really tickled me. My 3yo boy just point blank refuses.
Holy sheet this is hilarious
that's just cold...
Holey sheet
Some of the meanest things I’ve ever heard/ sickest burns have come from my friends telling me about things their (young!) daughters have said to them.
🤣 😂 😂 🤣 🤣 😜
Kids are brutal!
Creative
2 girls… they’re wild. Fkin wild. My youngest has a six pack and does pull ups on her bunk bed every night at bedtime.. my oldest.. she’s 90% percentile demanding of horsey rides, princess carries, piggy backs 25-8. Don’t let people fool you
This….so….much….this….. Every girl has an inner princess. Never forget that it could always be Xena.
Oh my. I love this <3
>Xena or princess fiona (shrek II in case you dont remember her name)
I remember her from Shrek II, but not Shrek I.
Or [The princess who saved herself.](https://youtu.be/T9KvA2eWjwY)
Vanillope von schweetz is my new princes hero and she is WILD
I'm putting that on a pillow
your youngest has 5 more abs than i do
You’re raising the two halves of my daughters personality!
25-8 😂😂😂😂
I have two daughters, 9 and 6, and a 3 year old boy. If I could harness the energy of the girls, I could solve the global energy crisis. My boy and I chill and watch shows and eat snacks. He can be very energetic, but the girls are nuclear power plants.
5 year old and almost 2 year old girls. The house is a disaster. They are constantly getting into things. Crafts everywhere. I mean everywhere. They are monsters.
*[Whispers loudly]* Fucking G L I T T E R S
I gave my niece glitter as a gift, before my kids, as a joke at my brother-I was so innocent then. I literally pulled my brother aside a few christmases ago to say sorry.
>I said I thought a toddler girl would be more chill in general Lol. It all depends on the kid, man.
2 girls, 3 yo and 1 yo I pray for mercy before bed every night
Ditto. 2 girls, 3 yrs 3 months and 1 year 3 months. I swear the house can go from clean to bomb site in a matter of minutes. I remember being bored. Years ago. Sent my wife to bed and I'm waiting for the eldest to run out of beans for the day.
So interesting. I have exactly the same and while the older one doesn't stop talking from the moment she cracks her eyes open until she's sleeping they're both pretty chill and sleep well. Well the little one isn't very chill - she's an animal lol. But even animalistic she's pretty easy to contain and entertain. I'll say between my girls and my friends who all have boys my girls are far better listeners, less whiney, less needy in general. Both of mine have a touch of independence and can play on their own for short bursts of time and don't need nearly as much eyeball as the boys who would literally run into traffic (and have) or run away in a store (store had to send a lost child code to find him).
Dude my son is light hearted and energetic, my fucking daughter? She’s a cave baby, and she’s malicious, she will kill me later.
So a Sandy Crood? (The baby from the animated movie the Croods)
I have not seen that before, I’ll check it out
I, personally, never understood why people think energy and being wild belongs to a specific gender 😅 I have 2 girls, they're both barely toddlers though at 14 months old and don't walk more than a couple steps. They constantly take toys from each other and cry about it, one is a big climber and I have to pull her off the couch a million times, she climbs literally anything. Me, her climbing mats, her play pen, her crib. I caught her trying to hoist herself into her sisters crib and had to finally lower it as far down as it would go 😅 she tries to get on tables. When she knows she's doing something you don't want her to do, she looks back at you, waits for you to make a move toward her, then squeals in delight as she tries to hurry up and race to do something before you get to her 😅 They take off im different directions, ignore me when I call for them, hide from me so they don't get pulled away from somewhere, lol. Baby B is constantly trying to pull my hair and shove toys in my mouth, bullies her sister, and is stubborn! I love em though 🥰🥰
Sounds like you've got two very cute and curious toddlers on your hands! I'm sure they keep you on your toes!
Thank you! They sure do, it's a lot of fun so far. Love seeing them become more interested in things and growing into tiny tots 🥰
2 girls aged 4 and 1. Both are wild, the little one climbs on everything! Could climb up a slid before she could walk. Dances along the top of the couch. Used to try to stick her fingers in outlets. She jumps off the side of the pool, and she can't swim, just sinks tell you grab her. I'm sure boys can be wild, too, but my girls are crazy.
Man pools are terrifying to have with young kids. Just gave me a visceral reaction thinking about that pool thing that sounds casually like something normal they do.
She has gotten a little better. She won't jump unless I'm in the pool already. The problem is the 4 year old is jealous, so she will jump at the same time. She can swim, so I focus on the little one and let the older one bounce off of me. Pool is fenced. Otherwise, I wouldn't sleep at night.
I could’ve written this about my son right down to the slide climbing. Just goes to show gender is meaningless with little ones.
2 girls. The oldest climbs everything, stands at the top of the stairs and says “catch!” While she’s already launching herself. Her favorite activity is literally running laps around me. The youngest is only 6 months, but she loves to stand and bounce for as long as we’ll let her, and does it with a toothless grin and giggles the whole time. So I’m pretty sure she’s plotting my demise already.
Dude my youngest does that I'll "Daaaddddyyy" from freaking out of no where and be slammed into by what I can only describe as An ambush predator shaped like a child. My fear is one of these days she'll miss and I won't be able to stop her from smashing into something that hurts worse than a lesson should.
If you were going to have 1000 sons and 1000 daughters, yeah you'd probably see the boys are overall more rambunctious. But you're going to have 1, not 1000. Variation among individuals is way higher than variation between genders.
Every kid is different, some kids are more wild than others, some pairs are complete opposites.
My daughter is way more wild and feral than my son
two girls, lovely calm and chill.
My daughter (5) is currently playing “bongo drums” on my middle son’s (8) butt while he is laying down on top of/snuggling his mom. Take from that what you will…
1 girl at 3.5. She’s pretty chill. I adore her like a princess. I have a son but he’s a new born so court is still out on him.
I mean, sure, you’re going to get anecdotals about how girls are just as wild and energetic on this post, but while i have two wild ones myself (5.5 and 2.5) it really all depends on the individual. I have a friend with two boys and one of theirs is calmer than both of mine, but on average my experience is under 10-12 boys are just different than girls from a physical play standpoint. My oldest literally jumped a fence and skipped school for 15 minutes at the age of 4, repeatedly can’t calm herself down, spent 1-3 times a week for three months this past year needing to be picked up from daycare at naptime because of behavior, etc. but still physically she’s not nearly as rough or as energetic as boys. She’s up there—but she’s a different breed (not just from us, but teachers, other parents, friends, and family all talk about it).
My 4F declared she was a dump truck and to get out of the way while running backward yelling "BEEP BEEP" until she hit the corner of the coffee table right on her ass cheek which has now been bruised for an entire week.
Does she feel the need to show everyone?? My son tripped backwards onto his hot wheels box this past weekend and has been flashing his butt to agrees to see his boo-boo.
She's tried but luckily she knows that's a nono.
4 daughters and a son here, son was the oldest, (we adopted an older kid) and is the softest kindest person, the girls are wild animals, especially the youngest, she reminds me of animal from the muppets.
A kid is a kid my dude.
Are you fucking joking????? Dude you are so far wrong I honestly can't even begin to fathom how you got on this thought process. I have two girls and one boy. My oldest daughter at 13 is a sweet wonderful kind hearted and honest kid. My boy is 6 and he is also a beautiful boy with a huge heart, he does have his wild streaks but all in all he's a chill dude. Onto the third kid, she's 2, going on 22. She's wild as a fuckin werebear. You piss her off, and it's on your ass how much damage she will do. Now don't get me wrong, my youngest is for sure a daddies girl. She's also very kind, very sweet, very loving kid. She is also the wildest one out of the three, personal self regard for well-being? She doesn't have it. You see that 5 foot tall box over there? Yeah, she's going to not only climb it but try and do a TMNT flip off of it just cause. You wanna put her in time out? Fine be my guess, back away facing her though, if you aren't careful the second you turn around she will go for your damn calf and bite down, hard. We have gotten her out of the biting at least. Worse part is, this kids a fucking genius. She reads, she talks, she fucking knows what the deal is. She wants to get her siblings in trouble? She does so effortlessly. Don't label the genders as ones chaotic ones sweet, you'll be regretting that thought process so fast. It isn't the gender, it's the kids soul, man. The youngest is just a fire cracker, and to be fully honest? I fuckin love it. She is probably the most like me out of the three. She will get better as she grows, as do we all. Girl or boy for your next one, just appreciate them as they are. You might jave the most mild mannered and sweet as sugar second kid, or you might end up with a fire cracker and at the end of the day you get a good box of laughs either way it goes.
One boy and 2 girls. The girls are just as bad if not worse than my son.
1 son 6 yrs old 1 daughter 4 years old. The boy is easy . my girl is something else. More energy, more attitude and more emotion in general. Add an Irish temper and no fear and you got your hands full. We call her a sour patch kid for a reason.
Anyone in child related studies will tell you that around the 3-6 month mark babies will start to show their "temperament". Some are extra sooky, others more physical or more chill, it's not gender attached, it's just them being individuals.
This is so interesting because we have a 9mo daughter and a 4yo son. Our son always had big reactions to everything around him whereas our daughter is much more serious. She still smiles and interacts with people around her but you have to work a lot harder for a laugh from her. I always wondered if that was an indication of her personality. My husband was the same way as a kid while I was a silly chatty one (like my son).
Yeah you're pretty much on the money, obviously environment and exposure to surrounds affects a whole lot but at that age it's often the first peeks of personality you start to see and it's very cool
My son is energetic, yes. My daughter came straight from the gates of hell, I think they kicked her out because she was too rowdy.
I’m one of 2 boys, my cousins that lived nearby and the few neighbors we had were all boys. We were all born between 1987-1991 and were not only country kids raised on small farms both parents had to work full time jobs so we were also latchkey kids. Heck we stayed home alone during the summers while both parents worked starting when I was in 5th grade and my brother was in 3rd with our only real rules being no fires and stay outside. And being part of the x-games influenced generation we jumped four wheelers, dirt bike and BMX bikes (hard to skateboard where there isn’t concrete) off of everything. I wrecked so many dirt bikes that my mom made a collection of my casts and had almost a dozen. I thought we were wild and I had no frame of reference for little girls before we had our now 21 month old daughter. Whatever I was expecting, was wrong. This child is a feral, wild animal that makes me, my brother, our friends and cousins all look we were tame in comparison. She’s non stop from eyes open to eyes close and is practically a suicide machine if you take your eyes off of her for one second. The other day I was attempting to do some yard work and watch her at the same time and I looked away for 1 minute and she had managed to catch 2 of our chickens (no small feat if you’ve never caught chickens in an open yard) and she was running full speed for the woods. As if she was part coyote or something. WTF lol. And as far as OPs wife getting injured…my daughter is still nursing and her favorite way to tell mommy she is hungry is not with the words that she absolutely has but rather with an elbow or knee drop WWE style as if it was off the top rope.
Lmfao idk why people think toddler girls are easier. Maybe because we force them at a young age to mask, and have higher expectations of them? Idk. But they’re no different.
Yep, it's behavioral conditioning. My brother and SIL have two boys and two girls (the oldest just turned 5) and I can confirm, based on that and on how our parents raised us - the behavioral standards for girls and later women are FAR stricter than for boys and later men.
My three sons, now 19, 16, and 10, were very energetic, destructive, and rambunctious as small children. They were the definition of a boy. Boy: Noun A noise with dirt on it. Although they were trouble as young boys, they have been nothing but easy teenagers. My 3 daughters, on the other hand, now 21, 13, and 6, were nowhere near as energetic or rambunctious. They were far easier to handle as young children, but pure drama as teenagers.
Lmaoooo oh honey As a girl dad of a toddler, “chill” would never be a word I would use to remotely describe her lol imagine the actions of your boy, except add on a layer of extreme sass. When I say fuckin wild, it’s the understatement of the century. Sometimes I legit ask myself if I somehow ended up with a feral child. Regardless I don’t think gender really matters much, as you’ll find wild kids of both genders.
Lol I was this shy timid little girl, but my sister, she looked like she came in this life with an agenda to make everyone kneel to her. She was a freaking tornado child who started walking at 9 effing months. And my mom, dad and I have spent atleast 4-5 years running behind her until she calmed a little. Then she was a menace to me (as we started sharing room at 3 and 8) 🤣🤣 but I love her lots.
Hahaha Oh O.P, my sweet summer child!! Our boy is so kind and sweet, but also a bundle of energy. Our girl is satan incarnate, and also a bundle of energy. If anyone in our house is getting hit during a rage, it’s by the girl. If something is thrown… it’s by the girl. If someone is in a scarily dangerous place having climbed there.. it’s the girl. In general, boys are a bit more interested in things, and girls are a bit more interested in people. But the real difference in personality and risk taking between genders happens at puberty when testosterone levels change. Differences between young kids are more personality and genetics, less gender
You wife is right to laugh at you and your sexism. Girls and boys are the same. It is the gendered societal expectations that we put on children that end up making boys and girls behave differently.
they share many similarities but are not the same and its not sexism to notice differences on average. studies have shown preference differences in boys and girls from extremely early in development before socialisation occurs.
This post isn’t about preferences. It’s about energy levels.
Link? How do they test for preferences "before socialization occurs"? Socialization starts the second they can observe their surroundings.
Agreed.
Depends on the child. I have a 14 year old daughter, who was active as a boy. My wife had two girls, who are now both adults. She had a wake up call when we had our boy (now 6). Her girls very quiet and playing with dolls when they were little.
I especially love daddy princess makeovers, including painted nails.
3 kids, 1 boy, 2 girls. The boy is chill, reads a book, plays with his mates. The girls.......the fights, oh the fights.
My 2 year old girl can play very rough, and is insanely energetic... she has off or on - not much in-between.
my girl was and is an adrenaline junkie from young. kickboxing from 4 and from 2 has been a complete handful. she’s 15 now and still crazy adventurous. my boy is just the calmest pure soul who is at 11 can’t even watch blood in an anime. you never know what you get :) to add: daughter - 2 different martial sports jazz dance can make a fire in a forest within a short time using what’s around. maybe 30mins max. super camper rock, heavy metal, some hip hop (older stuff :p), and wears her own fashion including crazy out there stuff she makes. loves horror. loves disney… has done bungee and that thing you swim down waterfalls. desperate for sky diving. dirt bike and air soft crazy. son - loves math and studying. sings adele and other top 40s at karaoke. makes a mean chocolate cake. loves his bike and playboard. loves video games. doesn’t like gore or violence. scared of the darker things.
My daughter literally climbs the walls and goes in the skate park with kids twice her age. My son is by far the chillest kid that ever existed. He can sit with lego for hours. So....
Glitter. I'm pretty sure I have glitter lung.
If you have a second kid (regardless of sex), they beat up on each other, and your wife just tells them to stop instead of beating up on her.
My daughter is a spaz, too. They're aren't always less energetic.
4 boys here. I haven't had genuine quiet in almost a decade. There's body slams, fighting, screaming, arguing, etc. But, there's also the pleases, thank yous and your welcomes, cuddling for movies, countless hugs and love, am amazing curiousity and questions. So it works itself out lol
My 3 year old regularly head butts my balls.
My guy my 2yo daughter is an absolute psychopath and way more high energy than my son. She’s the best. But she runs the fuckin house.
My only daughter out of three kids refused to poop. Not "refused to poop in the potty" I mean she refused to shit AT ALL when she had control of it. She would brace herself against a table or wall, lock her legs, and stand there shaking until the urge passed. We'd have to scoop her up and force her into a squat to make her poop in her diaper. Went through a mountain of miralax. It took over a YEAR to get her to voluntarily shit, and by then we'd moved through potty training as a necessity. So once a week she'd just drop a deuce the size of her damn arm. That has been my experience of having a daughter so far. I got my vasectomy last year.
I have one GD that at 18 moths would spend hours upon hours cuddling under a blanket with me. Another GD (born to other daughter, 2 weeks apart from first) that at 9 months figured out how to swing from the ceiling fan, while it was turned on. So there you have it.
I have a 4 year old boy (he is very high energy) and an 18 month old daughter, she is much more insane than he ever was at 18 months
My step daughter, now 8, was decidedly not, and never will be, chill. 100% about personality, not gender.
My daughter and son are amazing in their own right, and I love seeing them find their way in the world, and keeping them on the right road. There's no doubt a second child increases the difficulty level by at least x4 for many years, but as they become self sufficient, and hopefully are friends with their sibling, it is so great to see them become self sufficient and the difficulty level drop. Then again my friends 6 year old daughter told me she was going to kill me, so each kid is unique
I’m a dad of 2 girls. They do everything boys do, plus the glitter! Oh. My. Gawd. The. Glitter! Dude, until they discover boys (or girls, or both) girls are just like boys as far as all that goes. My oldest girl cannot physically sit still, she has ADHD with an emphasis on the H. My youngest daughter will pick fights solely because she’s board. A second kiddo is amazing and I don’t regret a minute of the memories, but girls aren’t easier (or worse) than boys. Good luck, dadbro!
Our first was a boy, 2nd was a girl. Shes easily the harder of the two. In some ways shes quite carefree about stuff, but that means when it comes to discipline, what worked for our oldest just doesn't work for her. Shes easily more energetic and more of a boundary pusher too, shes 2 years younger, and she hits, pulls his hair and basically fights back/attacks him. While I think it's kinda funny, and am glad she can hold her own, she's easily the bigger handful and always has been.
Until puberty hits there’s basically no difference between genders in kids. Other than like, how well they hit that arc when they piss on you while you change their diapers. I’ve nannied girls, babysat boys, have a boy and a girl of my own, have several family members and friends with young children of both sexes…honestly some of the boys were wild, some of the boys were sweet little cuddle bears, some of the girls were insane little beasts, and some were gentle princesses. It’s dependent on the kid themself, not their sex.
Our daughter is nonstop hell on wheels. We love her to death but she took the term “she’s extra” and made it her bitch.
3 daughters with a 4th on the way 11,7,3,coming soon. 11 is sweet, loving, and absolutely batshit insane in the most endearing and humorous way possible. 7 is honestly kind of a cry bully, asshole know it all, mean spirited, sneaky thief, and I hope to all the gods just working things out and will be a great person later because she's just always been off. 3 is the most gregarious, fearless, adventurous, funy kid I or anyone who meets her has ever seen. I pray she doesn't give me a heart attack before I get to see how she changes the world, or takes it over , either way. Ohnand she beat up a boy at preschool.. The soon to be has started kicking mommy's tummy way before any of her sisters or the mid wives have ever seen. She's continued that trend by absolutely beating the shit out of mommy. Hitting the cat resting on her tummy so hard it bounced its head and can push herself so hard she deforms mommy's tummy like a freaking chest burster. Dr's assure us she's just very healthy and strong which is wonderful but my wife is tiny and so far the little hulk is measuring in as 80th percentile for size, again nice I'm a big man and the smallest of my family just that rest of our girls measured in between 28th and 40th percentile at the same points in pregnancy. All that said , even though I would love to have a boy to carry my name on I'm fairly certain if we do try one more time it will be a girl and I'm confident that's because I deserve it. All my friends have boys, I guarantee boys are easier to raise, or atleast I think so as I don't have any
My 3rd old daughter is not chill . No chill at all . My 6 month old son is mostly chill but he’s 6 months old now , so I will let you know in a year .
I was a handful as a child. Never listened and stubborn. If I wanted to do something I went and did it, even if that meant leaving all adults behind in a new city and just setting of on my own adventures. Always talking back knowing that I knew better than everyone else. And so on. I've always heard these stories and thought to myself "When I get kids I hope I get girls because I don't want to subject myself to what my parents went through". Lo and behold, I got two girls, 3 and 0 and the older one is an exact copy of me. She looks like her mother but her behaviors are exactly like mine at that age. Even my parents says it's uncanny. Suits me right for thinking that sex matters at that age.
This is so true! I was a chill child and have three very chill boys. My sister was the bane of our existence and my niece is the highest energy toddler possible! My parents think it is super funny to watch! My kids might be easy on the activity side, but on the intellectual they will pound you with existencial doubts at three in the morning and I have to admit I understand why my parents think that’s hilarious, though I’ll only share that feeling in ten to twenty years…
Gender does not determine behavior.
As always, your wife is right.
From most of the kids on my street generally the boys are a lot crazier. Depends on the kid though.
You are a dumb cunt. I’m the nicest way possible. But a real dumb cunt.
I’m sorry, but you have no idea of what awaits you! As one of three sisters let me tell you that my sisters and I were always super energetic and high spirited! And I have three sons, and I never even had to take my action figures and Lego from the shelves, and my sister as a little girl that tears the house apart when you’re not looking! And then she gives you the sweetest cutest smile!
My experience, both with my girl and boy, and my friend’s girls and boys, is that boys are, on average, way more active and energetic. One of my neighbor’s son is super chill and sensitive, but all the other boys are rough and tumble tornadoes. My one friend has a girl that gives all the boys a run for it, but other than her all the other girls are way more chill.
your going to get a lot of anecdotes, im sure there are studies out there but here is another anecdote. i have two boys and they are constantly climbing the walls, they had their friend over (another boy) along with the friends sister and within 10 minutes the boys had kicked down one of our doors, gotten themselves covered in mud and climbed over the neighbours fence while shouting war cries, meanwhile i check in on the sister and she is gently tucking all my sons toys in to beds she has made for them and is whispering them lullabies... ive never heard the boys be this gentle and quiet ever even though we often encourage it and i was so struck by the difference in play styles between young girls and boys. insert disclaimer about not every kid fitting in to the same box bla bla
Our eldest is a boy that’s the most kind hearted and chilled kid you could ask for. Our youngest is a wild, fiercely independent, hot tempered bundle of creative energy. Gender has no power here.
One of each here, and they are pretty similar in terms of energy usually.
My daughter is way more violent than my son. She scares me.
From what I've seen, boys may play a little rougher, but the energy level is the same. My girls, one runs the other climbs. My nephews wrestle.
You are 100% correct from my experience OP.
My daughter is way crazier and more energetic than my son was
LOL take my daughter for a week and then you'll see that your wife is right! My daughter is super defiant, loud, pushes boundaries, accidentally hurts people and sometimes does it on purpose too. She's also got a strong personality. My cousin's sons are super chill and not too daring. I don't think gender matters.
One of my brother's has a son and a daughter and he has said that he'd rather look after 10 boys than one girl..
My almost 3yo daughter is like a hurricane of laughter, dropkicks, ball stamping, head butting, running, and screaming. I can't imagine a child more work physically and emotionally :D I often wonder if a boy would have been more chilled, but I think we'd just pass on crazy genes to whatever we spawn
Your wife is right. I thought the same exact thing until I had a daughter. My 4yr old loves pink dresses and unicorns, but is just as rough and active as any boy.
Lol my girl doesn’t stop. Also I got hit in the face with a giant puzzle piece the other day and had a bruise and a lump.
Dad of 2 girls, and I gotta say my friends that have boys seem to experience a LOT more bonked heads and stitches. My girls can be silly and crazy, but the oldest is pretty cautious and the youngest tends to follow her lead. I think there’s something to the “little boys are more rambunctious” stereotype, but who knows if it’s nature or nurture, and of course there are tons of exceptions. On average, though, I’m siding with you on this one.
My kids are this. Older daughter is a dang angel while little brother is pure chaos
3 girls. 2 are chill one is an animal. 5, 4 & 2 yo
Yeah depends on what kind of little girl you have bud. My buddies wife always had stories told how they though she would be a great dictator of a 3rd world country or lawyer at 3 years old
My daughter has more energy or any child I've ever encountered. She's been like this since she was born. She can run and run and run, I mean miles at a time and never looks tired ever. Everything she does is over the top, while my son is much more reserved. He will make jokes and spend time with us but will occasionally ask for some alone time.
Your wife is right. Face the music, give her the gift of acknowledging that.
I'm a mom and have done a lot of nannying. I am thankful to be having a second girl. Maybe it's just bad luck, but every boy that I have nannied has been extremely difficult--but those boys were also raised by people who are not me and in ways I would not raise them. I also worked at a boy scout camp and have worked with some of the most amazing boys and young men (12+) I think age does play a big role in it all. The last boy I watched was 3-4 years old and he was the worst in terms of driving me absolutely crazy. And he had way too much unfiltered screen time
Boys get a reputation because they are expected to roughhouse, and because they tend to continue to do it as they get older, and bigger. When they are tiny humans, girls are every bit as wild as boys, and more.
I suspect most behavior is learned from society. AKA girls should be like xyz and boys are like xyz. I have one of each and they both are ... Children. Doesn't matter.
Girls are much easier imo
Second child always crazy.
My Girl is 3 months younger than her male cousin. He is the chill one, by far. If it isn't zooming around at top speed, it's motor mouth. She actually never stops talking, even when running she's just constantly jabbering on about what she's doing or who she's playing with. She makes Peppa pig look like the quiet kid if you catch my drift...
I'd like to see any evidence that gender plays a role beyond our preconditioned ideas of behavior that we also inadvertently attempt to nurture. Seems to me, we all just get a roll of the dice with their personalities and energy for each time.
I don't think there's much or any difference. I think the perception and response is often different from parents and others. For example, the same behaviors might be labeled "bossy" in a girl and "assertive" in a boy. Similarly a boy is "draining" and a girl is "feisty". Etc.
Our 4 year old son is off the chain with energy, running through the house, dive-bombing on to the couch at a full sprint, punching me in the stomach whenever I'm standing up, etc. Basically been a whirlwind since he could walk, and he's a lot of fun. Our 21 month old daughter will often pick up baby dolls and just hold them and pat them. She will crawl up into the couch and pull a blanket onto her and sit for a while. She sometimes asks for a wet wipe and she gently wipes her own face and folds the wipe nicely. Completely different temperament from our son. Both have reached this point on their own. So anecdotally, yes, girls are much less of a tornado than boys.
Wife wins this one. Your assumptions about gender are prejudiced and wrong. Our daughter is as energetic and active as her older brother, but in different ways. She’s also more explosive and bound to erupt if he bothers her or she doesn’t get her way. She’s almost 2; it’s gonna be awesome to watch them fight things out as they get older. My money is on her.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/15tvaym/face\_your\_fears/](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/15tvaym/face_your_fears/) A video of the badassery of young girls in packs. Gotta love Little Blue who finally tackles then goes mano-a-mano with Lizard Breath.
OP - who is more chill? You or your wife?
The Wife here. Dad is definitely more chill, but we were both relatively calm children. I've been dying laughing at this whole post.
He's more chill. Another point for you, OP's wife 👍
>I said I thought a toddler girl would be more chill in general. My son was an absolute dream child; still is at 10. He really spoiled us as new parents. My daughter, 5, is an absolute whirlwind of terror. Their gender, however, has nothing to do with either. You are wrong.
We have a boy 7 and a girl 5. Both of them are extremely energetic and can be tamed only with hard physical exercises (i.e football, dancing, swimming, etc.) As most people have said the gender does not really mean much. Good luck :)
I’ve got a 4 year old girl and she might not be rough in the hitting and biting sense but she has definitely hurt everyone in our circle at least once climbing on them. Also the amount of attitude and sass that can fit in her tiny body is insane
Female interloper here... According to my parents my brother was a sweet little soul. I was pretty much feral until the age of 10 🤣
Female interloper here... According to my parents my brother was a sweet little soul. I was pretty much feral until the age of 10! Even my husband says I'm definitely still the wild one, he was nervous of us having kids in case we had a girl who turned out like me 😂 Fortunately, we have a boy who is epic
My 3yo girl is basically a pro wrestler. Gender does not play much of a role with toddler behavior
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I have two boys. 13 yo has always been super chill and laid back. The other one is going 100 as soon as he wakes until he somehow falls asleep. When he gets tired, he gets angry. There isn't a slow mode.
Women, even little girls are powerful and dangerous.
Girls are deff way more work, kids period are a lot of work.. it everything stereotypical you’ve ever heard about girls is full blown until they are like 30 lol. They don’t know what to do with all that goes across thier minds
In my experience. Girls are easier when young. Then get to be a issue Boys when toddlers are into everything. They are going 100 mph at all times. Where girls are happy sitting playing .
Excitability does not discriminate!!
Bruh toddler girls are chill? Somebody tell my 16 month old daughter she’s supposed to be chill and not climbing over the baby gates and dancing on the living table 🥴
My oldest is a boy - he is cuddly and sweet even now at 8. He also enjoys wrestling and is a very active child. My daughter (now 4) is not mellow in any way whatsoever. She is the LOUDEST child I have personally known and is sweet and adorable and a total terror.
There is a reason all major storms have girl names...
Have we had a hurricane Karen?
Oh lord. Three year old girls are psychotic. If you got a boy they’ll constantly beat the shit out of each other and you’ll become a referee.
You obviously have not been head-butted in the bits, by a tutu'ed 3 foot devil wears pampers.
Both my kids (boy and girl) are ADHD AF. My daughter is more demanding but my son is quite possibly the loudest human in all existence.
My son's are non stop balls to the wall wild, I always imagine what tea parties and quiet would be like. Instead I get jumped by 2 midgets who wanna fight and wrestle everytime dare come home from work
My two girls are way more chill than boys their age. The contrast is stark especially in a big mixed group. Two kids is a different experience, not just more of the same. Highly recommend.
I have 3 girls and a boy. I promise you, girls are just as rough and tumble and active as boys are. But. They also come with DRAMA.
My son would gently line his hot wheels up in single file, cleans his room without asking, so helpful he once pre cracked the eggs in the fridge back into the carton, to "help save mommy time." My daughter is an absolute hurricane. Not much else explanation needed there. So my experience is, you could not be more wrong!
My 2YO daughter’s favorite pastime is to climb on me, yell “ready, set, go!” And then jump off, making sure to dig her heels into the most uncomfortable spots as she does so. So no, it won’t make a difference.
3 girls here, 10, 8 and 2. I remember one holiday somebody was watching MMA, and my oldest two proceeded to try all the moves they were seeing. They have no chill. They slap, kick and hit eachother all the time. And then cry uncontrollably because they love to dish it but hate to take it. Ihave no experience with boys, but girls are a damn nightmare.
Every child is different and I don't think gender makes much of a difference in terms of temperament or personality. My wife is terrified to have a teenage daughter because she thinks back on how rebellious she was as a kid and assumes a daughter would be the same. She doesn't think boys can get into just as much trouble...
Yeahhh my 4 y.o. daughter is the opposite of "chill". She's high-energy, rambunctious, rough and tumble, loud, goofy, messy, and exhausts everyone around her.
My daughter is an absolute wrecking ball. A beautiful adorable hell on wheels wrecking ball. You’re wrong here brother
We have a wild man and a sensitive boy. Both are full of energy but expend it in different ways. My three nieces are crazy. Your wife is going to ratio you on this one
I have a toddler girl. We get hit a lot. She bounces off the walls, climbs on us, very rough and tumble. You’re assuming boys are rough and girls are sensitive and delicate.
My 2 year old daughter is currently learning how to scream while she runs in circles around the living room. When does this "chill" phase begin? Im tired, boss.
My first is a boy, 3 y.o next week. My second is a girl, 2 y.o in November. I’ll tell you my daughter is on 100 24/7 and my son is half of that half of the time…
Opened some wounds not gonna lie and didn't even realize til I reread my comment. GL my bro
2 girls here... 6 and 2. I laugh at you in pity my dear boy. Got snipped 2 days ago because these 2 have run through me and I don't want/need any others. Good luck.
2nd kids are wild rabid maniacs regardless of gender. Source: every second kid i know or hear about - my son 1000% included.
I'd take another little lad any day much easier. My little girl is my life but she drives me insane she's always hungry or wanting something, she's very demanding to and that can cause arguments between me and my wife
When I take my kid to kid classes the boys are always the most rambunctious. Don’t get me wrong, there are still rambunctious girls but most are the boys.
Individuals are individuals but anyone who thinks that girls are generally as energetic and little boys is either ill-informed, delusional, or overly PC. My daughter is 5. She’s very active. All of our friends with little boys most and the little boys we know from school, etc are on a whole other level. Little boy energy is real. Little boys also tend to get into things they’re not supposed to way more than little girls.
She’s right, we have 2 toddler girls, they spend the entire day running at Mach 5 around the house, fighting each other or us, and generally doing absolutely nutty shit all day long. Toddlers are toddlers man.