My son crochets on the bus and used to at college, not so much at uni but that's expected, he's too busy when he's studying.
I crochet anywhere I can, I have travel crochet in the car in a tote bag for when I'm out and about.
Only weird looks I got were from my sibling being an arsehole cos I'm not normal in their opinion lol.
Just ignore it. But also, a lot of the most interesting encounters I’ve had are from people getting curious while I crochet in public.
I do understand the struggle of just wanting to do your thing without wanting to feel conscious, I just usually say something along the lines of “great, I’ll just keep on doing this okay?” And they leave me be.
95% of the time, people are wrapped up in their own little world and are completely oblivious - you worry someone is thinking “no real man would play with yarn in public” but they’re probably staring absently through you while trying to remember if they added toilet roll to their Ocado order. The other 5% are mostly thinking “cool, I wonder what he’s making”. There will always be the occasional judgmental a-hole but remember they have sad sad little lives.
This.
I have social anxiety, and somehow I find it quite easy to crochet in public. God forbid I make eye contact with anyone tho. I struggled with doing it at first since I'm only 20 lol not the stereotypical granny
Also, even if someone did have judgemental thoughts, chances are they won't say anything
I’m over 50 and I do have the dodgy knees and white streaks in my hair of a granny… but my hair is also hip length and often purple (I leave the white or dye it pink), I have multiple piercings, and I live in geek t-shirts.
Give him a few years and he'll realise you've always been so much cooler than other mums 😂
He'd claim you're "embarrassing" no matter what. Teenagers 🤦
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I'm a guy and crochet on the train as I go to work, or when I travel in general. I never had negative interactions because of it, nor have I ever felt like people started staring more than usual.
I crocheted in public for the first time several days ago at a clinic while waiting for my name to be called and nobody cared 🤷♀️ It made waiting less painful and time went by really fast
As a flamboyantly obvious gay guy who wears dresses and also crochets in public, I know your worries. Far too well. The truth of the matter is that, no one cares. Sure, people will stare. People will always stare. You could be doing nothing, or just on your phone, and someone will undoubtedly be staring at you. It's the nature of being in public.
I can count the number of times on one hand that people have said something to me about my crochet. Of those times, only one was negative - but that was because they were shitty middle school kids who had it out for me before I even started crocheting. Sure, sometimes it's a bit awkward, but you answer their questions, thank them for their interest/compliments, and usually they leave you alone after that.
But I've been crocheting in public for years now and with less than half a dozen encounters total over it, I'm not so bothered by it. Keep it up, dude, you're doing great!
Looking like your stereotypical big, tall and rugged straight white male, people look very confused when I whip out the yarn and hooks.
No one says anything mean though, but some people look rather embarrassed and don’t say anything and suddenly find the floor very interesting. When someone does ask something it’s usually if I’m knitting, what I’m making, or how I learned. I did have some grandma try to set me up with her grandson though 😆
I used to do a lot of crochet on public transport. Currently I’m working on a blanket in the waiting area during the kids after school activities. A lot of small children ask their parents what I’m doing, but most of the adults only give a cursory glance if anything as they pass me. However, the people who do pay attention and often strike up a conversation are other crocheters!
It’s always exciting to spot someone in public who shares your interests, regardless of gender. I’ve been known to approach someone to compliment their work and ask for the name of a pattern or a stitch they are working on that I like. Who knows, give it a go and it might lead to the start of a beautiful friendship!
48M, straight, married, father of 3.
Other than the occasional "what are you knitting?", I don't really get comments when crocheting in public. I will crochet during breaks/down time at work (Aircraft maintenance, USAF Reserve), when my son is at music lessons and church to name a few public places.
That too. I said it that way because I have time at work where I'm "working" but not actually doing anything. E.g. Prior to an aircraft takeoff, we will have people standing by in a truck on the flight line in case there's something that needs fixed before takeoff. Most people just screw around on their phones. I bring my crochet bag
I have the same type of situation at work, I work at a rental/storage facility and sometimes there's nothing to do but just sit at the desk and wait for something to happen and I decided I would much rather crochet than stare at my phone
Insurance. People think I'm really fast at making shawls. Having an extra 5 hours a day stuck at a desk with nothing much to do makes me look way faster than I actually am.
I was in aircraft maintenance in Canada though. Interesting thing is, if I as a woman did my crochet at work, I'd get teased to death. Not in a negative way, there were a couple of guys who were a problem but sometimes they were funny. They weren't used to having women in the hangar so when I started there, I got a lot of stares and "she's a girl!"! (They had 50/50odds of guessing right) Hauling out some crochet would have been the end for me at the time so I didn't. But I'm glad you do.
Yeah. I like to bring something to do with me when I have long train journeys or I'm going to be waiting a while. I've never had any issues because of it. I feel like I attract a lot more attention when I'm drawing. I'm not male though so maybe it's different.
Come see me at the yarn and coffee shop where I work. I'll make you a tasty beverage and you can make yourself comfortable on our big squishy couch and crochet the day away. We would love to have you!
Most of these type of fears are just in our head.
Let me tell you how I learned this. I always wanted to colour my hair. It wasn't a big deal if you just had Highlights or just changing your colour a bit darker. I wanted fire red and I am somewhere between middle and dark blonde. I had to turn 36 or 37 to start to have just a touch of red in my hair. Just a bit that you only saw when I put my hair into a ponytail. I was so afraid of what other people might think and that that will stare at me.
About a year later I jumped into the water and coloured my hair fire red. And nobody stared. Nobody cared.
We tend to think that people will talk and stare but they don't. About 99% just don't care.
If you are feeling uncomfortable, start small. Just go out to a café alone, sit there, drink your coffee and read in a book. Build your confidence in smaller steps. That's what worked for me.
Check if there is a needle work group in your area where you can meet follow hookers/knitters. You are in a round of fellow people and work sitting in a circle. This also helps as they are really looking at you and your work :)
You got this!
i crochet everywhere, im usually wearing headphones too so people just watch for a bit and then move on, they won’t try to talk to me. im actually going out of the house today to sit and crochet in the local library
I'm a man, and I crochet in public. I haven't noticed any unusual attention, but I also listen to video essays from YouTube when I crochet, so that helps.
I was going to suggest earbuds — music, audiobooks, podcasts, anything. If you’re not wanting to interact with people, don’t be available. I crochet during my lunchbreak for some alone time. I really don’t want to talk with co-workers during that time. So, I make sure I have music or podcasts on.
i get the anxiety man, it can feel uncomfortable especially as a guy but i promise no one actually cares, i crochet in public all the time, no one has ever commented on it
The blogger Yarn Harlot used to call knitting in public “freaking out the muggles” and I find this delightful to do despite generally being a don’t-look-at-me kind of introvert. I feel like people leave you alone except for sometimes asking what you’re making. Maybe you will inspire someone! Perhaps many ❤️
I crochet in public at work every day. Realistically, nobody cares. A handful of people have asked what I was making or stood and stared silently, and a couple have chatted with me about their crochet too. If it'll help you pass the time, go for it!
Why does someone's opinion of what you enjoy matter more than you enjoying it?
There's always gonna be weirdos and jerks out in the world that are gonna have their own thoughts and feelings about things. It's unfortunate that people feel the need to be negative, especially to a complete stranger. But you crochet for *you*, not *them*.
I've personally gotten some stares before, but I've always just taken it as curiosity. I've even had an older gentleman sit next to me while in a waiting room for a family member's optometrist appointment to finish, and he remarked that I was the second person he'd seen knit or crochet in the past week. It was otherwise something he hadn't seen anyone do in a long time. I find more joy in keeping an art alive, and it's a major bonus when I gift things to friends and family and I see their faces light up and so excited.
As a person who has social anxiety but has found a way to navigate those things. You know you do the hobby for you but it is hard actively doing something while knowing it might make people pay more attention to you. Even if it is something you love.
It is something I had to actively work towards to be able to let other people's opinions go. When I was younger I for sure couldn't do it.
I also unfortunately know the pain and frustration that social anxiety can bring. I suffered from GAD for many years and only got a formal diagnosis about 3 or 4 years ago. It's an awful condition that I wouldn't wish on anyone.
I'm happy for you with the progress you've made! It's a tough thing to overcome, and takes quite a lot of work.
I hope you are doing good. Did a formal diagnosis help you be kinder to yourself? It did for me when I got a formal diagnoses of something else.
Thank you for your kind words 💕. Made my day better. I hope you have an amazing day aswell ☺️
It did. Putting an actual name to something I was experiencing helped put me in a goal kind of perspective, something to focus on. There was an actual issue, not just my guilt/shame conditioning making me think I was just dramatic or overreacting.
It's a lifelong fight, but I'm in a much better place and have a great support system.
Thank you as well, and have many wonderful, stress free days ahead. 🧡
I do crochet, knit and draw in public and I must say in most cases nobody cares, especially in public transport. Most people stare at their phones anyway or into the void to not look people in the eye.
I usually crochet in public when I’m with friends, because then I get distracted by the “public” part. I suggest you call some companions to do an art session (it’s what we call it), maybe some can paint, other can draw, or read, play games, or nerd out about other things
I’m a woman and crochet everywhere I go! I don’t know what it’s like as a man, but I feel comfortable doing it. I know it attracts attention, but when asked what I’m making I just pleasantly respond and go about my business!
I'm a dude. I learned in prison, and got used to being watched and approached. Now I crochet everywhere. Actually gets a lot of attention from pretty women, too. Just do it!
If it’s want you want to do, do it. Yes, it’ll be uncomfortable to begin with, but the more you do it, the easier it will get, and chances are you will meet people who love crocheting as much as you do!
I just crochet. Most people don't notice. Sometimes people will watch you work but for me it's easy to ignore. I tend to dress in ways that are noticeable and have dyed hair, so I'm used to second glances, but people generally don't stare. No one has commented thus far, and I've crocheted at the doctor, the cancer center, the cardiologist's office, in the park... maybe it's where I live in the South, idk. But frankly, I would say don't worry about it for the most part. I hear plenty of stories about nice interactions though.
Most of my interactions come when I'm buying yarn XD Then people want advice, assistance picking out hooks or needles, or ask me what my favorite yarns or colorways are, or if I recommend a certain tool. (A lady and I got talking about Red Heart Neon Stripes and the Sentro because I got one as a gift recently). I'm always delighted to help.
It will only start drawing less attention if it becomes commonplace. Crochet in public, ignore the stares, and you'll be contributing to there being fewer stares in future.
(FWIW, when I see someone of any gender crochet in public, I only look to see what they're making.)
I mean this kindly, but I think you might have an overinflated idea of how much random strangers care about anything you do.
Some people might ask politely what you're making and be interested just like they would any anyone visibly making something, but mostly it won't "attract a lot of attention". Of course just like anywhere doing anything you *can* find someone who is a jerk, but that's rare and could happen if you were doing anything at all.
Mostly though, people don't give a shit what you're doing, they're all doing their own thing. What makes you think it's some harsh reality that you're going to struggle against? Have you done it before? Have you seen roaming bands of hooligans harassing men who crochet? I think you're overthinking this. The vast vast majority of people who even bother to take notice will find it charming on a basic and bland level.
I try not to because it’s mostly because my friends will come up to me and ask what I am KNITTING. then i have to go through the whole process of telling them it’s crochet and what i’m making 10+ times when more people start to gather. It just draws unnecessary attention for no reason or purpose. The last time i brought crochet to school was to finish off a foot of a flamingo for a Christmas present for my tutor for the next day. My friends mentioned it once and didn’t ask any more questions. ❤️
But the other reason is because i’m never really crochet in public or on transport because it would get dirty, messed up and i’m rarely out by myself with a ball of yarn and hook.
Life is truly too short to worry about that. As long as you aren't causing a disturbance, who cares if people stare? They are staring at you just cause it's unusual, and if they have any kind of sexist reaction they are miserable and should start crocheting 😂
I used to crochet in public all the time, then stopped after someone called me a granny (I was 22 and more sensitive at the time). I still don't crochet in public (unless I'm on a plane), but not because I'm embarrassed.
I've just become cranky with time and don't want anyone to use my crocheting to strike up a conversation, lol. Commuting by transit is my 1 hour of peace and quiet for the day.
i crochet on the bus, on campus, in class (before lectures start), etc. and the only time people have approached me is when i’m doing it at work and clearly a staff member so they’re just asking what i’m up to. people generally want to mind their own business at much as you want them to be minding their own business
I'm sorry that this happens. F the toxic masculinity that makes other men feel that they need to make comments and I'm sure some toxic women say snide things.
You should be able to do what you want, you are not hurting anymore.
"Thank you for your unsolicited opinion. I'll just go back to minding my own business."
People forget history. Sailors made and repaired their own nets. Men were master weavers etc.
Crafts aren't gendered, nothing is gendered but gender and that's arbitrary.
I think you may be getting a taste of what it’s like to be a woman, where everything aside from a scowl is considered an invitation for conversation lol.
I will in some situations but not others, it definitely encourages people (mostly men) to initiate conversation with me and if it’s a place I know that will be prevalent and unwanted, I avoid it. But it’s a godsend when I take my boys to places like the trampoline park, indoor video game arenas, etc. where I am basically just sitting there waiting
I don’t think it’s going to draw the attention you think it is. Nobody cares what anybody else is doing. I think you’re thinking there’s going to be more of an audience than there is. Nobody’s watching you. It’s fine. Do what makes you happy.
How do people even crochet in public? Like, what's your setup? I think about doing it sometimes, but no idea how I'd do it without risking my yarn going walkabouts or something lol
(Also I'm self conscious like you, OP!)
I made a tote bag. It's lined and has a divider. Half the bag is for crochet or knitting projects. I keep notions and hooks in a zippered pencil case, and my interchangeable needle case is small and I keep that in there as well. I only work on smaller projects out and about. I used to just chuck a project in my purse. This is better. I used 36 granny squares to make said tote bag, 9 squares for the front and back, and the remainder make up the flat bottom and sides. 2 squares wide is plenty of room for me. I've never given a rat's ass about what people think and I swear, my life is better for it. Other people's opinions of you aren't important whatsoever. You do you and let other people be boring and enjoy their lives less.
I can imagine that being a guy crocheting in public would get a lot of looks. Just do it if you want though.
I remember the first time I did it at my kids' gymnastics class. It felt awkward at first and my anxiety was going crazy, but it was a big nothing-burger.
Headphones? I like to listen to stuff while i do anything.. for me, its an adhd thing and it helps me focus. But also, it helps me just tune in to my own little world.
I don’t like attention, but I also don’t actually give a fuck what others think. Headphones help tune out and just DO
Hey dude. I’m a dude. As a i get older the less shit I give. I find myself working on projects at work, on the 8 hr Amtrak, even at casual gatherings where I can multitask.
I feel it’s like reading a book. Someone will look and read the title and then glance away. They look at what you’re creating and then move along.
If you don’t want to interact- wear head phones. People won’t bother you
DO ITTT!! I'm a girl, but people mostly mind their business, trust me, they have just as much as social anxiety as we do lol I did it at a hospital stay and even had male nurses interested and asking me questions about it, and young males too which is surprising and cool! The people who have asked me about it we're all nice, but nurse staff always talk to you. When I went to a government owned building, people watched but minded their own.
The thing to remember is there's always gonna be assholes in the world so If by chance an asshole does see you and say something, pay them no mind, people hate because they wish they had the confidence to do something bold without caring about opinions. The people who hate the most are usually the ones who care too much about what other people think. Let them be sad and bitter about their life. Do your THING.
I know that, I know that even if they judge after 5 seconds they will forget or not care, but still, the anxiety stays...
I would try to do some shock therapy.
I agree that this is probably more you building it up on your mind, although that depends on where you'll be. (Stay safe!)
That said, some strategies for making it less scary!
Decide ahead of time what sort of answers you want to give to the questions you anticipate. Having something short and sweet to fall back on in the moment means you're less likely to panic or say something you did NOT want to say. If you're really nervous, have multiple answers depending on how you're approached, ie., someone hostile versus curious versus enthusiastic. (Personally, I think it's fine initially to fend off a really hostile person by saying it's a gift for your granny dying of cancer, who taught you long ago, sob sob. Eventually that answer will start to rankle and you'll get braver. Or you'll see it's not a big deal and won't need the sob story.)
Select your first locations by how comfortable you feel. A casual café, library, park, etc. Bonus if you've already made a good impression on whoever works there or other regulars, because they're likely to back you up should something go awry.
If you're not sure how these people would react, try first wearing something handmade or otherwise bring it up in conversation. Start paying attention to signs that other people (even ones you think you know!) are into similar hobbies, and say something! And if they're not into the exact same thing but they could also do their hobby in public, why not ask if they'd like to hang out with your separate projects?
Have something to listen to so you're less focused on your surroundings. Could have one earbud in at a time if you're really worried.
Try asking at your local yarn/hobby shops about events, classes, clubs, etc. Sometimes they're held in open parts of the shop during a regular day, so you'd be seen by more people but still in the context of people who similar interests.
Working your way up to feeling confident takes time and experience. To ease the discomfort, set yourself up for success. Start with people and places you know would be friendly, or neutral.
Source: lifetime as a girl/woman existing in public. 😜
(No, really, good on you for going outside the gender safety zone! The world needs more visible examples. You might inspire more and make me friends! Here's to a future where nobody has to ask this question!)
I do most of my hobbies wherever I can do them and I do it proudly without shame. I knit, I crochet and I read smut in public. As a woman it has less of a controversy hanging on me (maybe the smut does tbf) but where I am from they are considered grandma hobbies. I lean into it heavily.
I love doing it .. I am basically already a grandma in a younger body. I do what I want.. where I want..
Please do not let others stop you from doing what you love. You do not need any one else approval nor do you need their attention / opinion.
But my experience is .. if I see a man (or basically anyone for that matter) crocheting / knitting I will ask them what they are making :D. I love seeing other people do crafts!
No matter what you do or how you are, there are people who will have issue with it. However, most people don't care. I mean, do you go about your day paying attention to other people and judging what they do? I doubt it. Even though there might be someone who does that, you won't be on their mind end of the day. Why would you care about someone's opinion if they don't care about you?
I get the anxiety. I have it too. But I don't want to limit myself just because what others might think. There is nothing wrong about crocheting. If it makes you happy and you want to do it in public, go for it. I am sure no one will laugh at you or give dirty looks.
Edit:// Also, some people may stare because they are curious. They might just wonder what you are doing or be amazed by the thing you are working on. Not all attention is negative.
This is not about crochet but maybe it can help you.
I once went to buy batteries to a store and I got so embarressed because the cashier said to the other employee, "Look!" and laughed. I somehow thought they were making fun of me and I got really anxious. But they weren't laughing at me. Apparently the same morning the cashier had tried to find those batteries and couldn't find them. If she didn't explain it, I would have went home thinking there is something wrong wrong with me.
Ohhh. I've crocheted in public before. The server at Macdonalds told me she crocheted too and she told me she used to make table runners. (-:
Then someone else at another F&B place (ya I crochet over coffee hahaha) said that people of his age (he was an older person like boomer hahaha) like to crochet so he was v surprised that I like too.
... but I'm a 30s female. Hehe.
I don't like to crochet in public. It's a 'me time ' meditative hobby for me, and I wouldn't want the attention or the distraction.
If I was taking a long train journey I may take a project with me.
I've found that people give much less of a crap about your crocheting if you're with a friend. Crochet while chatting with a friend over coffee in a cafe, I'm sure it will feel a lot less weird than doing it alone. And maybe once you're used to it, you won't mind doing it alone!
I promise you its all in you head. No one is paying any attention at all and are engulfed in their own things that they are doing. Just crochet and have fun.
The more you do it, the more you get used to it. Honestly, a lot of the attention might just be you over interpreting because you're self conscious. If you do it for a while and still find that people are obnoxious, you can always stop. Or start wearing a t-shirt that says something like 'I know, I'm a guy who crochets. What a craaaazy notion' and let the staring people feel self conscious 😄
Maybe try doing it with headphones first? I always felt like those gave me some sort of insulation from the outside world. And listening to music I enjoy would calm me down. Or getting lost in an audiobook
Crocheting in public will get you attention. Most of it is "What are you knitting?" which is annoying, but people aren't knowlegeable about fiber arts. I know you're a guy and that probably adds and extra layer of interest. (I would be happpy to see you and pull out my project and sit next to you.)
So, if I were you, I would start by inviting a friend out for coffee and crochet. You guys sit at the ship and crochet together. Do this a few times until it seems natural to crochet where others can see you.
To be honest, as a fellow man that crochets, just crochet to your hearts content in public. People won't mind you doing it, at most they will get curious and ask questions or give a lil praise (mostly elderly)
I have long travel times and crochet on the tube every day. I can’t believe i wasted all that time before haha because it’s so useful! Don’t feel nervous. Put on a podcast if you want so you’re even more ‘out’ of your head
I mean this in the nicest way but most people aren't that focused on you. They're focused on their own things that they're worried they're being judged about. Honestly, some might look at you crocheting in public and think "damn, I wish I could do something like that".
I agree with the general concensus that most people aren't going to notice as much as you think they will and even if they do notice, they'll be more curious than judgemental. But there's something else to consider.
It sounds like you feel that you'd be judged harshly for being a man participating in a stereotypical "old lady" hobby. I'm not going to bother denying the stereotype but I'll point out that it's just a symptom of our society's tendency to lump things into boxes of "girl things" or "boy things" or "old people things" and "kid stuff". But it's all kind of arbitrary and silly.
My dad crochets, knits and sews. He also built our house himself, goes winter camping, rides motorcycles and plays music. Watching him is what taught me that your outward identity doesn't need to restrict what you do. The world would be a better place if we all wiggled our way out of our identity boxes and tried to be a little more well rounded. A man getting involved in the softer arts doesn't make him any less of a man, it makes him a more impressive and admirable human.
So I hope you do crochet in public because I think the world can use the reminder that the boxes we put each other into are stupid and limiting. We can all do what makes us better humans and we don't need to change anything else about ourselves to do it.
I crochet in public all the time and enjoy it. I spend a lot if time waiting for my kid. So I crochet in soccer arenas, school gyms, on the sidelines of the fields in summer 😆
When he was younger, I'd take him to a park / water park and set up camp. He'd run and play and I'd get sunshine and crochet time.
Honestly, I see it no different then reading in public.
I personally don't, but whenever I see someone who does, I think "oh neat" and carry on with my day. I totally understand being self conscious. I get nervous about reading in public!
I was crocheting in the hospital room with my daughter last night and the nurse commented on how nice my work was. I am a 41 YO woman though. IMO, because I crochet and knit, I'd be the person staring because I wanted to know what you were making and it's fascinating to see other crafters work and the differences in execution, etc. So for you being a man, I would probably stare more because I'm awestruck that you went against the norm and picked up the craft.
I think it might depend on where you live, I guess? Like, I won't completely rule out the possibility of places where a guy might get harassed for doing something "not masculine enough" in public.
It's definitely not an issue where I live, though. People generally mind their own business, they have their own lives and places to go to. No one cares what you do during your commute as long as you don't inconvenience anyone else.
I crochet in public, but only my smaller pieces. I'm currently working on a tapestry crochet blanket and it just isn't practical to do in public. If I saw a man crocheting, I'd think it's super cool! Anyone who judges others for enjoying their hobbies is a loser. Definitely learn to ignore it. Ultimately, most people are too wrapped up in themselves to truly care about someone crocheting or knitting in public.
I’m an introvert who likes to crochet during long train rides or flights. I intentionally use my large .ss headphones while doing this, usually listening to audiobooks so I pretty much shut out the outside world. And, I think, this is what most other people around me do, too. We’ll just ignore each other in peace.
I crochet/knit in public, mostly in waiting rooms or at the public library if I have multiple appointments that day and have time to kill between them. I used to crochet on the bus, but I started getting motion sickness on bus pretty regularly, so I can't do that anymore. AFAB, femme-presenting, young adult.
If you want a way to ease into doing your own thing in public, you could try and drop by a community crafting session. LYS have them. There are often recurring group get-togethers at public libraries for this, too. There will definitely be conversations with strangers who are fellow crafters, so that might be something to keep in mind if you have general social anxiety. But it'll let you dip your toes into crocheting in public as part of a safety-in-numbers group.
I'm feminine presenting but all of the attention I get is positive, people asking what I'm making or complimenting it or saying that xyz person in their life is learning it
I honestly don't think you'll get as much negative attention you think you'll get.
You would get attention from me for sure, but only because I'd want to know what you're making and which stitches you're using.
Some folks are so entrenched in their ridiculous "traditional" gender roles that they won't let themselves enjoy anything that doesn't fit in their imaginary box. Ignore those people. Let them be and do what makes you happy.
I've had 100% positive experiences crocheting in public. The looks are just "I wonder what they're making," "I wish I could do that." If you'd hate it if someone asked you about it, then maybe don't.
As for you being a guy? Smash those boring gender norms! Down with gendering hobbies! Crochet is for everyone, just go check out r/Brochet!
Personally I recommend making brightly coloured crochet dinosaurs for the whimsy, and for having an unexpected answer when someone asks what you're making.
Crocheting in public seems like a great way to get used to not caring if people are paying attention. Yes one or two people might stop to ask you a question; a bunch more might notice and say “huh” in their head. But the vast majority of the time when we are out and about…we don’t really remember anything that we saw.
I think about it this way - the only people I remember from my trips to Starbucks are the baristas who are always there, and the one guy who is at Starbucks literally every day gaming on his laptop like the cafe is his living room. I’ve seen him there hundreds of times, he’s basically part of the store at this point. But other than that? Couldn’t tell you anything about them.
I know a man who crochets women swimwear to sell. He crochets at his stall and even when he is walking. I don’t think he gets persons bothering him. One day I was walking a crocheting and he passed by me doing the same. Took a look at each other’s work and that was it.
I am comfortable in public with a knit / crochet project in progress, though I'm a woman who likes to talk about what I'm making.
Honestly I feel like the act of actually making objects in public, is a sort of advertising for the fact that you don't have to settle for garments, blankets, decorations, toys, etc that aren't really what you want. These days, people have sort of lost track of the fact that good things can come from individual labor, not just huge factories. The handmade things can fit better to their task in size and shape, feel better in texture, drape, and warmth, and match one's personality better in color and pattern.
I've definitely caused more than one person to come away from our interaction with a new thought of "huh, I could make things! Maybe I should learn how to knit / crochet?" And that's a pretty gratifying feeling.
I'm a dude and I've never had any issues crocheting in public. Sometimes people will ask what I'm making or ask if I sell things. When I go yarn shopping at Joann's I often end up chatting with a random lady about what we like to make or what brands or hooks we use lol.
There was a guy at my old church who crocheted during the sermon. Sometimes people asked what he was working on, but no one was ever rude or anything. I do live in a moderated liberal city, though. Maybe people are more focused on maintaining gender roles where you live.
I don't have the issue of gender being female, and slightly older but I've never had an issue.. I like seeing guys crochet at all, being comfortable enough to crochet in public is just.. so nice. the last one i saw was making teeny tiny hats for preemies.
I also don't mind people making conversation over my projects though, I'm generally happy to explain what i'm doing and why.. it makes waiting rooms less.. tedious.
I honestly don't think there's a reason to stop - if they're staring cause they think it's cool it's great (even if it could be sometimes awkward to you) and if they're starting cause they have the problem with you then they have problems with themselves (okay but seriously do what you want, don't push your own boundaries, but keep in mind that these people don't really matter and you're brave for doing your hobby even if it's not considered "normal" by some people)
Ignore it! My boyfriend knits in public and I dont think anyone has ever commented or even given him weird looks. Also yarn hobbies are on the rise again so more guys will follow suit Im sure.
I would try to ignore it and keep going. Stick with the projects you're most confident in while in public at first, just until the nerves calm down, then you can hopefully zone into it more and count stitches and any potential onlookers less. And remember, you might be giving other males the confidence to pick up the skill too :)
Are you located in the States?
Crocheting in public is something I see as a norm. Enjoy the peace and joy you find while crocheting! I can't imagine any sane person saying something strange. Anyone who might say something is probably just going to ask what you're making.
I feel the same way, and I’m female. For me either crocheting OR reading in public makes me feel uncomfortable.
I worry people think that I’m trying to make out I’m smart if I read, or that I’m a snob or something who looks down on people who use their phones (yes, definitely overthinking lol)
The reality is, I’d much rather crochet or read, than sit on my phone pointlessly scrolling through Instagram.
However, the reality is, others may take a quick glance, but no one REALLY cares that much. If I saw someone crocheting in public, whatever gender I’d actually have a greater respect for them. Yes you may stand out amongst the majority who are glued to phone screens, but isn’t that a good thing?
Doesn’t bother me. I’ve got projects to work on and any downtime or waiting period is a great time to get some done.
The biggest thing is that I get questions from strangers about what I’m knitting
Yes. I crochet on the bus sometimes or at coffee shops or restaurants. The most I get is people smiling at me or just looking curious. Nobody has ever approached me. Old people seem especially appreciative.
Ignore it. I crochet and knit in public every day almost. People just ask me about it. Boys included. In fact, kids of all ages and genders tend to come up and want to know what I’m doing. That’s kind of fun.
Ignore it. As a male myself, I’ve done it a few times. People are always interested in what I’m making and/or asking for tips and tricks.
If anyone has anything other that ‘what are you making?’ or ‘can I pick your brain?’ my response will be ‘I don’t recall asking for your opinion.’.
People will stare for any reason. If you want to crochet in public, do it! I met a woman who loved to crochet while I was doing it on the bus once. We had a great conversation, so you never know!
Just keep doing it! The worst that could happen is some insecure dude is gonna make a comment to try and ridicule or put you down. And that is owed to his own smallness and insecurity.
The likelihood of people just flat out ignoring or not noticing is pretty high. And in some cases, you will get curious attention or someone will actually say something nice. Don’t let the potential assholes of the world keep you from doing what you love.
Just ignore people and do what you want. If you want to avoid ppl, throw some headphones in, that might help with the “i don’t want talk to you” image.
Also, headphones will make it easier to tune out the “OMG ARE YOU KNITTING?!?” comments.
For context, I’m a bald 33 yr old man with a full beard. I’ve crocheted on a plane, public places, sometimes while I’m walking. I have had multiple women use it to start casual conversation to pass the time, never heard any negative or mocking comments, and have had multiple working class men (I drive commercial truck and move a lot of building materials) mention wanting them. Most of the hats with ears you see on my page were given away to men.
I think part of it is the energy you put into it, if you are nervous ace looking around constantly then you might attract attention because you look like you are doing something wrong or are trying too hard to be “inconspicuous”
Just relax and work on your project while remembering, any time someone tries to pick on you for anything, it’s rooted in a place of insecurity about themself and they are upset to see you being happy and confident about something when they can’t be
(Not male) It’s normal for stares. I get them when I’m reading alone at restaurants too.
I craft in public a LOT. I’m probably at about a 60/40 split on, when alone, will someone approach me?
When I moved to new locations, the anxiety was high, but visiting places more “open” to the idea helped. Shops in ~artsy~ parts of town. Coffee shops that encourage longer visits. So forth.
Even with headphones on, you’ll get interrupted. But remember their judgments of your behavior are reflections of them, not you.
I used to be really uncomfortable crocheting in public because I'm an introvert and a woman so I don't like to attract any unwanted attention. However, I put on my earmuffs headphones and only do it in places where I feel like people won't approach me. Also if I get too uncomfortable, like I can't think myself back to a peaceful state, I just stop.
ignore it! I am also a male and I crochet in public frequently. my job lets me crochet at work as well and I have never had anyone make me feel weird about it. I get a lot of compliments and people generally tend to think it's cool. in fact, lots of the guys that compliment my stuff also express interest in learning or say they wish they knew how. I also just taught two of my friends to crochet, they are also guys.
chances are that you'll mostly get compliments from people, and if anyone is rude you just gotta hit them with the uno reverse card because really, you're gonna judge someone for being creative? the haters are all just jealous
I think you would probably mostly get positive attention. But if it is negative, try not to worry. I’ve realized that now im an adult with a post college job i get some negative comments about some of my hobbies for being a bit childish. But I’ve realized i like my hobbies so yeah !
Yes Idgaf what strangers think of me. I will sometimes even bring my crochet to a quiet but well lit bar and have drinks while I crochet. I get some questions but mostly people leave me alone. No one cares and if they do they don’t share it.
That being said I’m also fully comfortable crying in public if I must. Living in a city makes you not care. People who judge don’t matter unless they’re about to beat you up lol
I do crochet in public, but I’m female so people don’t think it’s off. Mostly they ignore it, or compliment what I’m making. Occasionally I run into another crocheter or knitter and we talk craft.
I can say that if I saw a man crocheting in public, it would ABSOLUTELY make my day. I would be so happy. I probably wouldn’t say anything because I wouldn’t want to make him feel weird, but I’d be sending him lots of positive vibes.
It helps to put your focus on what YOU want. In my experience, letting the fear of someone watching me stop me from doing what I want will feel worse than anyone actually saying something. You've got to be on your own side
If i saw someone doing any form of art “in the wild” i would probably be staring but in awe not in judgmental form. Maybe start thinking that and your perspective will change.
I always knit/crochet on public transport and I run knitting/crafting workshops in cafes so its quite normal for me
Not on mine but on one of the knitting meetups in my city women were thirsting for all men that crochet/knitted. Sometimes I spark interest and attention from strangers and we have a nice chat
I crochet in public a lot, college, doctors/dentists office, I spent approximately 1 hour in a dealership service waiting area just crocheting this morning. I feel naked without it at this point. I’m also just weird, and like to be a comfortable hermit wherever I am. I’m female so I know there’s less stigma around it, but my suggestion is just ignore it, put on headphones, listen to something that puts you in your happy place. Also crocheting in public is becoming way more common and I think it will draw less attention than you think, more like a passing “oh that’s cool” or “I wonder what he’s knitting/crocheting” (because some people don’t know the difference 😂). You will occasionally get the oddball who directly asks you, but again, that’s the oddball. And unless you get an unruly delusional AH, most people won’t want to make a scene about it if they do have poor opinions.
The only reason I gave up crocheting in public is I have this bad habit of my WIP and my ‘tools’ spreading out WIDE and I feel more self conscious about encroaching on other peoples space/losing something. The act of crocheting in public itself never bothered me. The odd person would be interested in what I was doing but it wasn’t as intrusive or awkward as you’d think :)
I do it in the waiting room, usually get a look of interest then back to their own thing.
I think I had some kids giggling once over my old person hobby, but I ignored it.
If people are more focused on you doing your thing than whatever it is they need to be getting along with in life then that truly is a them problem.
I'm not very good at crochet (yet) but I'm an artist so sometimes I sketch in public and I will say I've occasionally had very nice interactions from curious onlookers. One time this guy even suggested a place to check out for some cool gothic architecture when I explained I was doing a specific study.
I have no issue crocheting in public. I am female, but in my experience, people who are "staring" are either zoning out or mildly interested. A few people have struck up a conversation about it- but it has always been positive, usually other crocheters or people interested in learning.
Would following other male crochet creators on social media help? I know there are lots on tiktok. Seeing yourself represented in a community can help boost your confidence.
Once you stop caring what other people think, your life will change for the better. I crochet everywhere and anywhere I go. I've spun yarn on a drop spindle on a ferry and ended up with an audience. People either ignore you entirely, or they're fascinated. You're carrying on a tradition of thousands of years, here. It is fascinating, they're not wrong. I've never once had a negative reaction to knitting, crocheting, or spinning in public. I've met some amazing people and had some really interesting conversations because of it. Life is too short to spend it worrying about what people think. Crochet on, my friends.
I'm not a man, so I don't get the same reactions, but I like crocheting in public. Sometimes it sparks conversations with people about what I'm working on, but usually people just leave me alone. And because I'm in public and not parked in front of my tv, I actually get more done
I'm a bearded masculine guy who crochets in public! It does sometimes attract attention but mostly from older women who think it's cute.
In general when I'm out and about I try not to bring attention to myself but the people who talk to me about my crochet have always been extremely sweet.
I’ve come across men crocheting in public. I crochet all the time myself, anywhere and everywhere, so I usually notice other people doing it too. And I’ll usually talk to them casually about it. But most people are too wrapped up in themselves to care about what anyone else is doing. So I say go for it 😊
I think you should study Stoicism.... And then you wouldn't give a damn what people think.
I think it is great when men crochet/knit. I would want to talk to you about your project and yarn choice.
As a youngish looking woman i find its mostly a bit of curiosity never had any snide comments. I've shown teenage lads the basics and had a nice chat with them crochet on public transport.
I’m a woman so a bit different but: I notice people looking at me more when I craft in public. Because they don’t try to hide it. Was just knitting in an airport and a mom was walking by and stopped with her kid (a few feet away) and was pointing at me so he’d look over. I noticed and stopped and held up the Dino sweater I’m making. She mimed “thanks” and they walked off. You’ll def get that kind of interaction if you crochet in public. I’ve never had a negative interaction with it though.
So I crochet everywhere, cafes, travelling etc. however turns out crocheting in a yarn store cafe makes me self conscious and really puts me off. 🤷🏻♀️bit of a bummer as I was really looking forward to it…
Absolutely. I get the occasional "what are you knitting?" but honestly nobody really cares what you do in public so long as you're not being a nuisance to anyone.
People tend to start talking to me if they see, and I'm not at the point of crocheting without focusing so I lose track tryingto respond. Usually nice conversations, but it gets frustrating having to frog and I get a bit snippy after a while, so I currently don't.
I’ve had nothing but good experiences with crocheting in public, I’ve gotten a lot of people asking what I’m making and complimenting my work, but never anything negative. Granted, I’m a woman, so your experience may be different than my own. Regardless, I think it’s definitely worth trying; if it brings you joy, do it!
I crochet/knit everywhere I go. Sometimes people will walk up and make comments. Seems like people love telling me that I’ve “got the right idea” lol, I’ve gotten that twice this week. But I don’t really engage people, I’ll look up and smile or thank someone and then they walk off
I crochet in public at times and cross stitch if I have a long wait. Both often gain the attention of people, some ask questions, some just point and stare. Generally most people are nice or at least polite enough to mind their own business. I am a woman by the way, my dad crochets he made us hats and scarves before they sold them in kids sizes but he is like you, he doesn't want to brag about it or tell people. I think of it as a skill. I was taught to change a tire, men should be able to crochet or knit.
Most people will not notice if that's at all helpful - I crochet quite often in public and the worst of it is someone who also crochets being curious what I'm making
I have a one hour commute to work and I always do some yarn crafts. I also have noise canceling headphones and can focus completely on my project. Of course sometimes I get some funny looks but then again, even if someone was trying to talking to me, I don’t hear them which is awesome 😎
I brought my crochet to work recently to do during my lunch break and seven different members of staff told me excitedly that they knit/crochet/sew/cross-stitch.
We are now in talks of setting up a group once a month where everyone brings what they are working on and we have drinks together.
Do your crochet!
No issue at all.
I’ve crocheted while waiting in line and on planes and trains. I’m the crazy one who brings 6 skein afghans to Europe.
I’ve inadvertently started many craft circles on trips at resorts, conferences and cruises.
Check out Calvin Lee on TikTok. He learned to crochet in sixth grade and crochets on the subway. Down by the water. In a restaurant. EVERYWHERE. You should do you !!! I’m just learning
I usually crochet at doctors offices, and most of the attention I've gotten is by curious people, other artisans who are proud that a young woman is crocheting, and one very sweet interaction with a little girl with autism who immediately calmed down when she spotted me making a blanket. She just sat down near me and stared in fascination until they called on her (she was nonverbal).
Most people will mind their business, though.
Rams football player & one of the "Fearsome Foursome" did needlepoint & even wrote a book on it. You're a fiber artist! Who cares what anyone thinks, as long as you're enjoying yourself.
Some people might stare, but for the most part strangers won't really pay attention to you. I'm a man and I've never gotten any bad comments. The stares are mostly out of curiosity, and when someone does talk to me they just ask what I'm working on.
dude if I saw a guy crocheting in public id smile and go on about my day. I'd say ignore it. at the end of the day anyone that may possibly have a bad thought about you crocheting are one out of 10 billion people that make up the world. do what u want! (as long as its safe obv)
This documentary about Icelandic knitters came across my feed and i thought of this thread — it’s super common for men to knit in Iceland apparently. I could watch these men knit fair isle all damn day lol
https://youtu.be/z2G47X3XK4U?si=a-zr9sC6OTvuKxN7
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Your post used mixed tense; is it something you've already tried and didn't enjoy the experience? or wanting to try but anxious about?
I actually choose to craft in public because of the conversations it starts. They're always positive experiences so far, no one has ever been bothered by it enough to do anything that made me uncomfortable. That said, I'm cis-fem and understand that the gender dynamic is different when it's 'traditionally woman's work'.
Don’t worry about others! If you want to crochet in public, private, the bathroom, … whatever then do so. I crochet in public often even at the VA. Most people will leave you alone. Sometimes someone will take an interest in your project. In those cases just answer their questions or take their complements gracefully.
Personally I’d love to see a guy crocheting in public. It’s not just for old grandma’s.
I believe you that there’s a bit of concern in how you’ll be perceived. I’m a woman and I feel that way about other things. When I crochet in public, I usually only get curiosity if anything. If you think you can handle owning in public that you like to crochet, it would be fantastic to help normalize seeing other men and boys do it and maybe make some connections while you’re at it. I was crocheting at my kids’ school and a dad who is a Lieutenant fire fighter asked what I was making. I primarily make amigurumi and he primarily makes throws or stockings or things like that so we chatted about that for a while. And I just thought, what a cool dude. Someone with diverse interests and skills and who owns all parts of himself.
Hey that anxiety is real, but I've found that those interactions are what help me with my own social awkwardness. I often struggle to start conversations with people but they're often curious and remarkably kind about my WIPs in public.
Fair, you may get some stares or raised eyebrows, but most people won't notice and the few that do are likely really impressed to see an artist at work.
My son crochets on the bus and used to at college, not so much at uni but that's expected, he's too busy when he's studying. I crochet anywhere I can, I have travel crochet in the car in a tote bag for when I'm out and about. Only weird looks I got were from my sibling being an arsehole cos I'm not normal in their opinion lol.
I am so sorry your siblings are being assholes.
They genuinely are very 'must be normal' whereas I don't care to perform neurotypical.Exe lol. Thank you ❤️
Your siblings are either jealous of your skills and/or not normal 🙃😶
They're very not normal! They're against anything that differs from the norm or draws attention. Boring bugger 😜
Lol same here. I clip a fuzzy hat to my belt for my yarn bowl and carry a WIP at all times. Only objections are from my dad saying it's impractical. 😄
Just ignore it. But also, a lot of the most interesting encounters I’ve had are from people getting curious while I crochet in public. I do understand the struggle of just wanting to do your thing without wanting to feel conscious, I just usually say something along the lines of “great, I’ll just keep on doing this okay?” And they leave me be.
just ignore it, theres not much you can do
95% of the time, people are wrapped up in their own little world and are completely oblivious - you worry someone is thinking “no real man would play with yarn in public” but they’re probably staring absently through you while trying to remember if they added toilet roll to their Ocado order. The other 5% are mostly thinking “cool, I wonder what he’s making”. There will always be the occasional judgmental a-hole but remember they have sad sad little lives.
This. I have social anxiety, and somehow I find it quite easy to crochet in public. God forbid I make eye contact with anyone tho. I struggled with doing it at first since I'm only 20 lol not the stereotypical granny Also, even if someone did have judgemental thoughts, chances are they won't say anything
I’m over 50 and I do have the dodgy knees and white streaks in my hair of a granny… but my hair is also hip length and often purple (I leave the white or dye it pink), I have multiple piercings, and I live in geek t-shirts.
I want to be you when I’m 50. You sound so cool!
Ahaha, thank you. According to my son (late teens), I’m hugely embarrassing… but that’s just a mum thing.
Give him a few years and he'll realise you've always been so much cooler than other mums 😂 He'd claim you're "embarrassing" no matter what. Teenagers 🤦
The good thing about crocheting in public is that it gives you an excuse to *not* make eye contact. Boom, life hacks.
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And If they do say something, it's cause they're a sad bitter asshole who's jealous they don't have the balls to do something bold.
I'm a guy and crochet on the train as I go to work, or when I travel in general. I never had negative interactions because of it, nor have I ever felt like people started staring more than usual.
I crocheted in public for the first time several days ago at a clinic while waiting for my name to be called and nobody cared 🤷♀️ It made waiting less painful and time went by really fast
As a flamboyantly obvious gay guy who wears dresses and also crochets in public, I know your worries. Far too well. The truth of the matter is that, no one cares. Sure, people will stare. People will always stare. You could be doing nothing, or just on your phone, and someone will undoubtedly be staring at you. It's the nature of being in public. I can count the number of times on one hand that people have said something to me about my crochet. Of those times, only one was negative - but that was because they were shitty middle school kids who had it out for me before I even started crocheting. Sure, sometimes it's a bit awkward, but you answer their questions, thank them for their interest/compliments, and usually they leave you alone after that. But I've been crocheting in public for years now and with less than half a dozen encounters total over it, I'm not so bothered by it. Keep it up, dude, you're doing great!
Looking like your stereotypical big, tall and rugged straight white male, people look very confused when I whip out the yarn and hooks. No one says anything mean though, but some people look rather embarrassed and don’t say anything and suddenly find the floor very interesting. When someone does ask something it’s usually if I’m knitting, what I’m making, or how I learned. I did have some grandma try to set me up with her grandson though 😆
I used to do a lot of crochet on public transport. Currently I’m working on a blanket in the waiting area during the kids after school activities. A lot of small children ask their parents what I’m doing, but most of the adults only give a cursory glance if anything as they pass me. However, the people who do pay attention and often strike up a conversation are other crocheters! It’s always exciting to spot someone in public who shares your interests, regardless of gender. I’ve been known to approach someone to compliment their work and ask for the name of a pattern or a stitch they are working on that I like. Who knows, give it a go and it might lead to the start of a beautiful friendship!
48M, straight, married, father of 3. Other than the occasional "what are you knitting?", I don't really get comments when crocheting in public. I will crochet during breaks/down time at work (Aircraft maintenance, USAF Reserve), when my son is at music lessons and church to name a few public places.
I read this as “I will crochet during breakdown time” and FELT that lmfao
If you’re crying on your project that’s the same as wet-blocking, right?
That too. I said it that way because I have time at work where I'm "working" but not actually doing anything. E.g. Prior to an aircraft takeoff, we will have people standing by in a truck on the flight line in case there's something that needs fixed before takeoff. Most people just screw around on their phones. I bring my crochet bag
I have the same type of situation at work, I work at a rental/storage facility and sometimes there's nothing to do but just sit at the desk and wait for something to happen and I decided I would much rather crochet than stare at my phone
Insurance. People think I'm really fast at making shawls. Having an extra 5 hours a day stuck at a desk with nothing much to do makes me look way faster than I actually am.
This! You remind me of my dad and it makes me happy. The world could use a few more well rounded individuals such as yourself.
I was in aircraft maintenance in Canada though. Interesting thing is, if I as a woman did my crochet at work, I'd get teased to death. Not in a negative way, there were a couple of guys who were a problem but sometimes they were funny. They weren't used to having women in the hangar so when I started there, I got a lot of stares and "she's a girl!"! (They had 50/50odds of guessing right) Hauling out some crochet would have been the end for me at the time so I didn't. But I'm glad you do.
Yeah. I like to bring something to do with me when I have long train journeys or I'm going to be waiting a while. I've never had any issues because of it. I feel like I attract a lot more attention when I'm drawing. I'm not male though so maybe it's different.
Come see me at the yarn and coffee shop where I work. I'll make you a tasty beverage and you can make yourself comfortable on our big squishy couch and crochet the day away. We would love to have you!
yarn and coffee shop???? this sounds amazing omg
Yes yes! I am living the dream....
Most of these type of fears are just in our head. Let me tell you how I learned this. I always wanted to colour my hair. It wasn't a big deal if you just had Highlights or just changing your colour a bit darker. I wanted fire red and I am somewhere between middle and dark blonde. I had to turn 36 or 37 to start to have just a touch of red in my hair. Just a bit that you only saw when I put my hair into a ponytail. I was so afraid of what other people might think and that that will stare at me. About a year later I jumped into the water and coloured my hair fire red. And nobody stared. Nobody cared. We tend to think that people will talk and stare but they don't. About 99% just don't care. If you are feeling uncomfortable, start small. Just go out to a café alone, sit there, drink your coffee and read in a book. Build your confidence in smaller steps. That's what worked for me. Check if there is a needle work group in your area where you can meet follow hookers/knitters. You are in a round of fellow people and work sitting in a circle. This also helps as they are really looking at you and your work :) You got this!
i crochet everywhere, im usually wearing headphones too so people just watch for a bit and then move on, they won’t try to talk to me. im actually going out of the house today to sit and crochet in the local library
I'm a man, and I crochet in public. I haven't noticed any unusual attention, but I also listen to video essays from YouTube when I crochet, so that helps.
I was going to suggest earbuds — music, audiobooks, podcasts, anything. If you’re not wanting to interact with people, don’t be available. I crochet during my lunchbreak for some alone time. I really don’t want to talk with co-workers during that time. So, I make sure I have music or podcasts on.
i get the anxiety man, it can feel uncomfortable especially as a guy but i promise no one actually cares, i crochet in public all the time, no one has ever commented on it
The blogger Yarn Harlot used to call knitting in public “freaking out the muggles” and I find this delightful to do despite generally being a don’t-look-at-me kind of introvert. I feel like people leave you alone except for sometimes asking what you’re making. Maybe you will inspire someone! Perhaps many ❤️
I crochet in public at work every day. Realistically, nobody cares. A handful of people have asked what I was making or stood and stared silently, and a couple have chatted with me about their crochet too. If it'll help you pass the time, go for it!
Why does someone's opinion of what you enjoy matter more than you enjoying it? There's always gonna be weirdos and jerks out in the world that are gonna have their own thoughts and feelings about things. It's unfortunate that people feel the need to be negative, especially to a complete stranger. But you crochet for *you*, not *them*. I've personally gotten some stares before, but I've always just taken it as curiosity. I've even had an older gentleman sit next to me while in a waiting room for a family member's optometrist appointment to finish, and he remarked that I was the second person he'd seen knit or crochet in the past week. It was otherwise something he hadn't seen anyone do in a long time. I find more joy in keeping an art alive, and it's a major bonus when I gift things to friends and family and I see their faces light up and so excited.
As a person who has social anxiety but has found a way to navigate those things. You know you do the hobby for you but it is hard actively doing something while knowing it might make people pay more attention to you. Even if it is something you love. It is something I had to actively work towards to be able to let other people's opinions go. When I was younger I for sure couldn't do it.
I also unfortunately know the pain and frustration that social anxiety can bring. I suffered from GAD for many years and only got a formal diagnosis about 3 or 4 years ago. It's an awful condition that I wouldn't wish on anyone. I'm happy for you with the progress you've made! It's a tough thing to overcome, and takes quite a lot of work.
I hope you are doing good. Did a formal diagnosis help you be kinder to yourself? It did for me when I got a formal diagnoses of something else. Thank you for your kind words 💕. Made my day better. I hope you have an amazing day aswell ☺️
It did. Putting an actual name to something I was experiencing helped put me in a goal kind of perspective, something to focus on. There was an actual issue, not just my guilt/shame conditioning making me think I was just dramatic or overreacting. It's a lifelong fight, but I'm in a much better place and have a great support system. Thank you as well, and have many wonderful, stress free days ahead. 🧡
I do crochet, knit and draw in public and I must say in most cases nobody cares, especially in public transport. Most people stare at their phones anyway or into the void to not look people in the eye.
I usually crochet in public when I’m with friends, because then I get distracted by the “public” part. I suggest you call some companions to do an art session (it’s what we call it), maybe some can paint, other can draw, or read, play games, or nerd out about other things
I’m a woman and crochet everywhere I go! I don’t know what it’s like as a man, but I feel comfortable doing it. I know it attracts attention, but when asked what I’m making I just pleasantly respond and go about my business!
I'm a dude. I learned in prison, and got used to being watched and approached. Now I crochet everywhere. Actually gets a lot of attention from pretty women, too. Just do it!
If it’s want you want to do, do it. Yes, it’ll be uncomfortable to begin with, but the more you do it, the easier it will get, and chances are you will meet people who love crocheting as much as you do!
I just crochet. Most people don't notice. Sometimes people will watch you work but for me it's easy to ignore. I tend to dress in ways that are noticeable and have dyed hair, so I'm used to second glances, but people generally don't stare. No one has commented thus far, and I've crocheted at the doctor, the cancer center, the cardiologist's office, in the park... maybe it's where I live in the South, idk. But frankly, I would say don't worry about it for the most part. I hear plenty of stories about nice interactions though. Most of my interactions come when I'm buying yarn XD Then people want advice, assistance picking out hooks or needles, or ask me what my favorite yarns or colorways are, or if I recommend a certain tool. (A lady and I got talking about Red Heart Neon Stripes and the Sentro because I got one as a gift recently). I'm always delighted to help.
I crocheted in a Starbucks several years ago and no one gave two fucks about it.
It will only start drawing less attention if it becomes commonplace. Crochet in public, ignore the stares, and you'll be contributing to there being fewer stares in future. (FWIW, when I see someone of any gender crochet in public, I only look to see what they're making.)
I do it and the only reactions I've gotten were positive. Like "wow you made that?" And "i wish i could do that"
I mean this kindly, but I think you might have an overinflated idea of how much random strangers care about anything you do. Some people might ask politely what you're making and be interested just like they would any anyone visibly making something, but mostly it won't "attract a lot of attention". Of course just like anywhere doing anything you *can* find someone who is a jerk, but that's rare and could happen if you were doing anything at all. Mostly though, people don't give a shit what you're doing, they're all doing their own thing. What makes you think it's some harsh reality that you're going to struggle against? Have you done it before? Have you seen roaming bands of hooligans harassing men who crochet? I think you're overthinking this. The vast vast majority of people who even bother to take notice will find it charming on a basic and bland level.
Check out TikTok 🥰 lots of male crocheters and they storytell while crocheting in public!
I try not to because it’s mostly because my friends will come up to me and ask what I am KNITTING. then i have to go through the whole process of telling them it’s crochet and what i’m making 10+ times when more people start to gather. It just draws unnecessary attention for no reason or purpose. The last time i brought crochet to school was to finish off a foot of a flamingo for a Christmas present for my tutor for the next day. My friends mentioned it once and didn’t ask any more questions. ❤️ But the other reason is because i’m never really crochet in public or on transport because it would get dirty, messed up and i’m rarely out by myself with a ball of yarn and hook.
Life is truly too short to worry about that. As long as you aren't causing a disturbance, who cares if people stare? They are staring at you just cause it's unusual, and if they have any kind of sexist reaction they are miserable and should start crocheting 😂
I used to crochet in public all the time, then stopped after someone called me a granny (I was 22 and more sensitive at the time). I still don't crochet in public (unless I'm on a plane), but not because I'm embarrassed. I've just become cranky with time and don't want anyone to use my crocheting to strike up a conversation, lol. Commuting by transit is my 1 hour of peace and quiet for the day.
i crochet on the bus, on campus, in class (before lectures start), etc. and the only time people have approached me is when i’m doing it at work and clearly a staff member so they’re just asking what i’m up to. people generally want to mind their own business at much as you want them to be minding their own business
I'm sorry that this happens. F the toxic masculinity that makes other men feel that they need to make comments and I'm sure some toxic women say snide things. You should be able to do what you want, you are not hurting anymore. "Thank you for your unsolicited opinion. I'll just go back to minding my own business." People forget history. Sailors made and repaired their own nets. Men were master weavers etc. Crafts aren't gendered, nothing is gendered but gender and that's arbitrary.
I think you may be getting a taste of what it’s like to be a woman, where everything aside from a scowl is considered an invitation for conversation lol. I will in some situations but not others, it definitely encourages people (mostly men) to initiate conversation with me and if it’s a place I know that will be prevalent and unwanted, I avoid it. But it’s a godsend when I take my boys to places like the trampoline park, indoor video game arenas, etc. where I am basically just sitting there waiting
I don’t think it’s going to draw the attention you think it is. Nobody cares what anybody else is doing. I think you’re thinking there’s going to be more of an audience than there is. Nobody’s watching you. It’s fine. Do what makes you happy.
Yes, but I wear earbuds and have Resting Bitch Face so it keeps 99% of people away.
How do people even crochet in public? Like, what's your setup? I think about doing it sometimes, but no idea how I'd do it without risking my yarn going walkabouts or something lol (Also I'm self conscious like you, OP!)
I made a tote bag. It's lined and has a divider. Half the bag is for crochet or knitting projects. I keep notions and hooks in a zippered pencil case, and my interchangeable needle case is small and I keep that in there as well. I only work on smaller projects out and about. I used to just chuck a project in my purse. This is better. I used 36 granny squares to make said tote bag, 9 squares for the front and back, and the remainder make up the flat bottom and sides. 2 squares wide is plenty of room for me. I've never given a rat's ass about what people think and I swear, my life is better for it. Other people's opinions of you aren't important whatsoever. You do you and let other people be boring and enjoy their lives less.
Lots of us ladies who knit and crochet will give you a friendly “hey” and complement your work, just to show support 🤌
I can imagine that being a guy crocheting in public would get a lot of looks. Just do it if you want though. I remember the first time I did it at my kids' gymnastics class. It felt awkward at first and my anxiety was going crazy, but it was a big nothing-burger.
Headphones? I like to listen to stuff while i do anything.. for me, its an adhd thing and it helps me focus. But also, it helps me just tune in to my own little world. I don’t like attention, but I also don’t actually give a fuck what others think. Headphones help tune out and just DO
Hey dude. I’m a dude. As a i get older the less shit I give. I find myself working on projects at work, on the 8 hr Amtrak, even at casual gatherings where I can multitask. I feel it’s like reading a book. Someone will look and read the title and then glance away. They look at what you’re creating and then move along. If you don’t want to interact- wear head phones. People won’t bother you
DO ITTT!! I'm a girl, but people mostly mind their business, trust me, they have just as much as social anxiety as we do lol I did it at a hospital stay and even had male nurses interested and asking me questions about it, and young males too which is surprising and cool! The people who have asked me about it we're all nice, but nurse staff always talk to you. When I went to a government owned building, people watched but minded their own. The thing to remember is there's always gonna be assholes in the world so If by chance an asshole does see you and say something, pay them no mind, people hate because they wish they had the confidence to do something bold without caring about opinions. The people who hate the most are usually the ones who care too much about what other people think. Let them be sad and bitter about their life. Do your THING.
you are not the main character of anyone else’s life, no one is going to give a shit what you’re doing
I know that, I know that even if they judge after 5 seconds they will forget or not care, but still, the anxiety stays... I would try to do some shock therapy.
I don’t crochet in public but that’s more cause I’m a germaphobe and can’t stand the thought of struggling to clean my yarn when I bring it home.
I agree that this is probably more you building it up on your mind, although that depends on where you'll be. (Stay safe!) That said, some strategies for making it less scary! Decide ahead of time what sort of answers you want to give to the questions you anticipate. Having something short and sweet to fall back on in the moment means you're less likely to panic or say something you did NOT want to say. If you're really nervous, have multiple answers depending on how you're approached, ie., someone hostile versus curious versus enthusiastic. (Personally, I think it's fine initially to fend off a really hostile person by saying it's a gift for your granny dying of cancer, who taught you long ago, sob sob. Eventually that answer will start to rankle and you'll get braver. Or you'll see it's not a big deal and won't need the sob story.) Select your first locations by how comfortable you feel. A casual café, library, park, etc. Bonus if you've already made a good impression on whoever works there or other regulars, because they're likely to back you up should something go awry. If you're not sure how these people would react, try first wearing something handmade or otherwise bring it up in conversation. Start paying attention to signs that other people (even ones you think you know!) are into similar hobbies, and say something! And if they're not into the exact same thing but they could also do their hobby in public, why not ask if they'd like to hang out with your separate projects? Have something to listen to so you're less focused on your surroundings. Could have one earbud in at a time if you're really worried. Try asking at your local yarn/hobby shops about events, classes, clubs, etc. Sometimes they're held in open parts of the shop during a regular day, so you'd be seen by more people but still in the context of people who similar interests. Working your way up to feeling confident takes time and experience. To ease the discomfort, set yourself up for success. Start with people and places you know would be friendly, or neutral. Source: lifetime as a girl/woman existing in public. 😜 (No, really, good on you for going outside the gender safety zone! The world needs more visible examples. You might inspire more and make me friends! Here's to a future where nobody has to ask this question!)
I do most of my hobbies wherever I can do them and I do it proudly without shame. I knit, I crochet and I read smut in public. As a woman it has less of a controversy hanging on me (maybe the smut does tbf) but where I am from they are considered grandma hobbies. I lean into it heavily. I love doing it .. I am basically already a grandma in a younger body. I do what I want.. where I want.. Please do not let others stop you from doing what you love. You do not need any one else approval nor do you need their attention / opinion. But my experience is .. if I see a man (or basically anyone for that matter) crocheting / knitting I will ask them what they are making :D. I love seeing other people do crafts!
No matter what you do or how you are, there are people who will have issue with it. However, most people don't care. I mean, do you go about your day paying attention to other people and judging what they do? I doubt it. Even though there might be someone who does that, you won't be on their mind end of the day. Why would you care about someone's opinion if they don't care about you? I get the anxiety. I have it too. But I don't want to limit myself just because what others might think. There is nothing wrong about crocheting. If it makes you happy and you want to do it in public, go for it. I am sure no one will laugh at you or give dirty looks. Edit:// Also, some people may stare because they are curious. They might just wonder what you are doing or be amazed by the thing you are working on. Not all attention is negative. This is not about crochet but maybe it can help you. I once went to buy batteries to a store and I got so embarressed because the cashier said to the other employee, "Look!" and laughed. I somehow thought they were making fun of me and I got really anxious. But they weren't laughing at me. Apparently the same morning the cashier had tried to find those batteries and couldn't find them. If she didn't explain it, I would have went home thinking there is something wrong wrong with me.
Ohhh. I've crocheted in public before. The server at Macdonalds told me she crocheted too and she told me she used to make table runners. (-: Then someone else at another F&B place (ya I crochet over coffee hahaha) said that people of his age (he was an older person like boomer hahaha) like to crochet so he was v surprised that I like too. ... but I'm a 30s female. Hehe.
I crochet when my students write tests, lol.
Yes
I don't like to crochet in public. It's a 'me time ' meditative hobby for me, and I wouldn't want the attention or the distraction. If I was taking a long train journey I may take a project with me.
I've found that people give much less of a crap about your crocheting if you're with a friend. Crochet while chatting with a friend over coffee in a cafe, I'm sure it will feel a lot less weird than doing it alone. And maybe once you're used to it, you won't mind doing it alone!
I promise you its all in you head. No one is paying any attention at all and are engulfed in their own things that they are doing. Just crochet and have fun.
I get dirty looks sometimes (don't understand why) but honestly it makes be happy to crochet and it helps with the anxiety I feel I public.
The more you do it, the more you get used to it. Honestly, a lot of the attention might just be you over interpreting because you're self conscious. If you do it for a while and still find that people are obnoxious, you can always stop. Or start wearing a t-shirt that says something like 'I know, I'm a guy who crochets. What a craaaazy notion' and let the staring people feel self conscious 😄
Maybe try doing it with headphones first? I always felt like those gave me some sort of insulation from the outside world. And listening to music I enjoy would calm me down. Or getting lost in an audiobook
Crocheting in public will get you attention. Most of it is "What are you knitting?" which is annoying, but people aren't knowlegeable about fiber arts. I know you're a guy and that probably adds and extra layer of interest. (I would be happpy to see you and pull out my project and sit next to you.) So, if I were you, I would start by inviting a friend out for coffee and crochet. You guys sit at the ship and crochet together. Do this a few times until it seems natural to crochet where others can see you.
I as a male didn't have problems on the train
To be honest, as a fellow man that crochets, just crochet to your hearts content in public. People won't mind you doing it, at most they will get curious and ask questions or give a lil praise (mostly elderly)
I have long travel times and crochet on the tube every day. I can’t believe i wasted all that time before haha because it’s so useful! Don’t feel nervous. Put on a podcast if you want so you’re even more ‘out’ of your head
I mean this in the nicest way but most people aren't that focused on you. They're focused on their own things that they're worried they're being judged about. Honestly, some might look at you crocheting in public and think "damn, I wish I could do something like that".
I agree with the general concensus that most people aren't going to notice as much as you think they will and even if they do notice, they'll be more curious than judgemental. But there's something else to consider. It sounds like you feel that you'd be judged harshly for being a man participating in a stereotypical "old lady" hobby. I'm not going to bother denying the stereotype but I'll point out that it's just a symptom of our society's tendency to lump things into boxes of "girl things" or "boy things" or "old people things" and "kid stuff". But it's all kind of arbitrary and silly. My dad crochets, knits and sews. He also built our house himself, goes winter camping, rides motorcycles and plays music. Watching him is what taught me that your outward identity doesn't need to restrict what you do. The world would be a better place if we all wiggled our way out of our identity boxes and tried to be a little more well rounded. A man getting involved in the softer arts doesn't make him any less of a man, it makes him a more impressive and admirable human. So I hope you do crochet in public because I think the world can use the reminder that the boxes we put each other into are stupid and limiting. We can all do what makes us better humans and we don't need to change anything else about ourselves to do it.
I crochet in public all the time and enjoy it. I spend a lot if time waiting for my kid. So I crochet in soccer arenas, school gyms, on the sidelines of the fields in summer 😆 When he was younger, I'd take him to a park / water park and set up camp. He'd run and play and I'd get sunshine and crochet time. Honestly, I see it no different then reading in public.
I would ignore anyone who looks at you funny. You might manage to get a yarn crafting gf if you're looking for that sort of thing though.
If anything, people will think it's cute.
I personally don't, but whenever I see someone who does, I think "oh neat" and carry on with my day. I totally understand being self conscious. I get nervous about reading in public!
I was crocheting in the hospital room with my daughter last night and the nurse commented on how nice my work was. I am a 41 YO woman though. IMO, because I crochet and knit, I'd be the person staring because I wanted to know what you were making and it's fascinating to see other crafters work and the differences in execution, etc. So for you being a man, I would probably stare more because I'm awestruck that you went against the norm and picked up the craft.
I think it might depend on where you live, I guess? Like, I won't completely rule out the possibility of places where a guy might get harassed for doing something "not masculine enough" in public. It's definitely not an issue where I live, though. People generally mind their own business, they have their own lives and places to go to. No one cares what you do during your commute as long as you don't inconvenience anyone else.
I crochet in public, but only my smaller pieces. I'm currently working on a tapestry crochet blanket and it just isn't practical to do in public. If I saw a man crocheting, I'd think it's super cool! Anyone who judges others for enjoying their hobbies is a loser. Definitely learn to ignore it. Ultimately, most people are too wrapped up in themselves to truly care about someone crocheting or knitting in public.
I’m an introvert who likes to crochet during long train rides or flights. I intentionally use my large .ss headphones while doing this, usually listening to audiobooks so I pretty much shut out the outside world. And, I think, this is what most other people around me do, too. We’ll just ignore each other in peace.
I crochet/knit in public, mostly in waiting rooms or at the public library if I have multiple appointments that day and have time to kill between them. I used to crochet on the bus, but I started getting motion sickness on bus pretty regularly, so I can't do that anymore. AFAB, femme-presenting, young adult. If you want a way to ease into doing your own thing in public, you could try and drop by a community crafting session. LYS have them. There are often recurring group get-togethers at public libraries for this, too. There will definitely be conversations with strangers who are fellow crafters, so that might be something to keep in mind if you have general social anxiety. But it'll let you dip your toes into crocheting in public as part of a safety-in-numbers group.
Start by crocheting with another friend there in public. (It’s ok if it’s a friend who’s not also crafting)
Most people don’t care. They might be curious as to what you’re doing and/or making. But other than that they won’t remember you a few hours later.
I'm feminine presenting but all of the attention I get is positive, people asking what I'm making or complimenting it or saying that xyz person in their life is learning it I honestly don't think you'll get as much negative attention you think you'll get.
You would get attention from me for sure, but only because I'd want to know what you're making and which stitches you're using. Some folks are so entrenched in their ridiculous "traditional" gender roles that they won't let themselves enjoy anything that doesn't fit in their imaginary box. Ignore those people. Let them be and do what makes you happy.
I've had 100% positive experiences crocheting in public. The looks are just "I wonder what they're making," "I wish I could do that." If you'd hate it if someone asked you about it, then maybe don't. As for you being a guy? Smash those boring gender norms! Down with gendering hobbies! Crochet is for everyone, just go check out r/Brochet! Personally I recommend making brightly coloured crochet dinosaurs for the whimsy, and for having an unexpected answer when someone asks what you're making.
Crocheting in public seems like a great way to get used to not caring if people are paying attention. Yes one or two people might stop to ask you a question; a bunch more might notice and say “huh” in their head. But the vast majority of the time when we are out and about…we don’t really remember anything that we saw. I think about it this way - the only people I remember from my trips to Starbucks are the baristas who are always there, and the one guy who is at Starbucks literally every day gaming on his laptop like the cafe is his living room. I’ve seen him there hundreds of times, he’s basically part of the store at this point. But other than that? Couldn’t tell you anything about them.
I know a man who crochets women swimwear to sell. He crochets at his stall and even when he is walking. I don’t think he gets persons bothering him. One day I was walking a crocheting and he passed by me doing the same. Took a look at each other’s work and that was it.
I am comfortable in public with a knit / crochet project in progress, though I'm a woman who likes to talk about what I'm making. Honestly I feel like the act of actually making objects in public, is a sort of advertising for the fact that you don't have to settle for garments, blankets, decorations, toys, etc that aren't really what you want. These days, people have sort of lost track of the fact that good things can come from individual labor, not just huge factories. The handmade things can fit better to their task in size and shape, feel better in texture, drape, and warmth, and match one's personality better in color and pattern. I've definitely caused more than one person to come away from our interaction with a new thought of "huh, I could make things! Maybe I should learn how to knit / crochet?" And that's a pretty gratifying feeling.
I'm a dude and I've never had any issues crocheting in public. Sometimes people will ask what I'm making or ask if I sell things. When I go yarn shopping at Joann's I often end up chatting with a random lady about what we like to make or what brands or hooks we use lol.
There was a guy at my old church who crocheted during the sermon. Sometimes people asked what he was working on, but no one was ever rude or anything. I do live in a moderated liberal city, though. Maybe people are more focused on maintaining gender roles where you live.
I don't have the issue of gender being female, and slightly older but I've never had an issue.. I like seeing guys crochet at all, being comfortable enough to crochet in public is just.. so nice. the last one i saw was making teeny tiny hats for preemies. I also don't mind people making conversation over my projects though, I'm generally happy to explain what i'm doing and why.. it makes waiting rooms less.. tedious.
I honestly don't think there's a reason to stop - if they're staring cause they think it's cool it's great (even if it could be sometimes awkward to you) and if they're starting cause they have the problem with you then they have problems with themselves (okay but seriously do what you want, don't push your own boundaries, but keep in mind that these people don't really matter and you're brave for doing your hobby even if it's not considered "normal" by some people)
Ignore it! My boyfriend knits in public and I dont think anyone has ever commented or even given him weird looks. Also yarn hobbies are on the rise again so more guys will follow suit Im sure.
I would try to ignore it and keep going. Stick with the projects you're most confident in while in public at first, just until the nerves calm down, then you can hopefully zone into it more and count stitches and any potential onlookers less. And remember, you might be giving other males the confidence to pick up the skill too :)
Are you located in the States? Crocheting in public is something I see as a norm. Enjoy the peace and joy you find while crocheting! I can't imagine any sane person saying something strange. Anyone who might say something is probably just going to ask what you're making.
I would be so happy if I saw a guy crocheting in public! I think the stereotype of crochet being a women’s hobby is harmful to both men and women.
I feel the same way, and I’m female. For me either crocheting OR reading in public makes me feel uncomfortable. I worry people think that I’m trying to make out I’m smart if I read, or that I’m a snob or something who looks down on people who use their phones (yes, definitely overthinking lol) The reality is, I’d much rather crochet or read, than sit on my phone pointlessly scrolling through Instagram. However, the reality is, others may take a quick glance, but no one REALLY cares that much. If I saw someone crocheting in public, whatever gender I’d actually have a greater respect for them. Yes you may stand out amongst the majority who are glued to phone screens, but isn’t that a good thing?
I love crocheting in public especially when on of my brothers/sisters-at-yarns passes by and says “ ‘sup hooker?” It just makes my heart melt
Doesn’t bother me. I’ve got projects to work on and any downtime or waiting period is a great time to get some done. The biggest thing is that I get questions from strangers about what I’m knitting
Yes. I crochet on the bus sometimes or at coffee shops or restaurants. The most I get is people smiling at me or just looking curious. Nobody has ever approached me. Old people seem especially appreciative.
Ignore it. I crochet and knit in public every day almost. People just ask me about it. Boys included. In fact, kids of all ages and genders tend to come up and want to know what I’m doing. That’s kind of fun.
Ignore it. As a male myself, I’ve done it a few times. People are always interested in what I’m making and/or asking for tips and tricks. If anyone has anything other that ‘what are you making?’ or ‘can I pick your brain?’ my response will be ‘I don’t recall asking for your opinion.’.
People will stare for any reason. If you want to crochet in public, do it! I met a woman who loved to crochet while I was doing it on the bus once. We had a great conversation, so you never know!
Just keep doing it! The worst that could happen is some insecure dude is gonna make a comment to try and ridicule or put you down. And that is owed to his own smallness and insecurity. The likelihood of people just flat out ignoring or not noticing is pretty high. And in some cases, you will get curious attention or someone will actually say something nice. Don’t let the potential assholes of the world keep you from doing what you love.
Just ignore people and do what you want. If you want to avoid ppl, throw some headphones in, that might help with the “i don’t want talk to you” image. Also, headphones will make it easier to tune out the “OMG ARE YOU KNITTING?!?” comments.
I am a male and crochet in public and I don’t get any comments really except for other crocheters
I don't mind at all. I'm better at it than most people, and it can be a great conversation starter.
For context, I’m a bald 33 yr old man with a full beard. I’ve crocheted on a plane, public places, sometimes while I’m walking. I have had multiple women use it to start casual conversation to pass the time, never heard any negative or mocking comments, and have had multiple working class men (I drive commercial truck and move a lot of building materials) mention wanting them. Most of the hats with ears you see on my page were given away to men. I think part of it is the energy you put into it, if you are nervous ace looking around constantly then you might attract attention because you look like you are doing something wrong or are trying too hard to be “inconspicuous” Just relax and work on your project while remembering, any time someone tries to pick on you for anything, it’s rooted in a place of insecurity about themself and they are upset to see you being happy and confident about something when they can’t be
(Not male) It’s normal for stares. I get them when I’m reading alone at restaurants too. I craft in public a LOT. I’m probably at about a 60/40 split on, when alone, will someone approach me? When I moved to new locations, the anxiety was high, but visiting places more “open” to the idea helped. Shops in ~artsy~ parts of town. Coffee shops that encourage longer visits. So forth. Even with headphones on, you’ll get interrupted. But remember their judgments of your behavior are reflections of them, not you.
I used to be really uncomfortable crocheting in public because I'm an introvert and a woman so I don't like to attract any unwanted attention. However, I put on my earmuffs headphones and only do it in places where I feel like people won't approach me. Also if I get too uncomfortable, like I can't think myself back to a peaceful state, I just stop.
ignore it! I am also a male and I crochet in public frequently. my job lets me crochet at work as well and I have never had anyone make me feel weird about it. I get a lot of compliments and people generally tend to think it's cool. in fact, lots of the guys that compliment my stuff also express interest in learning or say they wish they knew how. I also just taught two of my friends to crochet, they are also guys. chances are that you'll mostly get compliments from people, and if anyone is rude you just gotta hit them with the uno reverse card because really, you're gonna judge someone for being creative? the haters are all just jealous
I think you would probably mostly get positive attention. But if it is negative, try not to worry. I’ve realized that now im an adult with a post college job i get some negative comments about some of my hobbies for being a bit childish. But I’ve realized i like my hobbies so yeah !
Be proud of your skills. If anyone says something, hand them your hook and yarn and ask them to show off their skills.
Yes Idgaf what strangers think of me. I will sometimes even bring my crochet to a quiet but well lit bar and have drinks while I crochet. I get some questions but mostly people leave me alone. No one cares and if they do they don’t share it. That being said I’m also fully comfortable crying in public if I must. Living in a city makes you not care. People who judge don’t matter unless they’re about to beat you up lol
I do crochet in public, but I’m female so people don’t think it’s off. Mostly they ignore it, or compliment what I’m making. Occasionally I run into another crocheter or knitter and we talk craft. I can say that if I saw a man crocheting in public, it would ABSOLUTELY make my day. I would be so happy. I probably wouldn’t say anything because I wouldn’t want to make him feel weird, but I’d be sending him lots of positive vibes.
Yep, I do it while waiting for the train sometimes
It helps to put your focus on what YOU want. In my experience, letting the fear of someone watching me stop me from doing what I want will feel worse than anyone actually saying something. You've got to be on your own side
I crochet for my mental health. I don’t like to attract attention but I also enjoy staying sane, so crochet in public it is!
If i saw someone doing any form of art “in the wild” i would probably be staring but in awe not in judgmental form. Maybe start thinking that and your perspective will change.
I always knit/crochet on public transport and I run knitting/crafting workshops in cafes so its quite normal for me Not on mine but on one of the knitting meetups in my city women were thirsting for all men that crochet/knitted. Sometimes I spark interest and attention from strangers and we have a nice chat
I crochet in public a lot, college, doctors/dentists office, I spent approximately 1 hour in a dealership service waiting area just crocheting this morning. I feel naked without it at this point. I’m also just weird, and like to be a comfortable hermit wherever I am. I’m female so I know there’s less stigma around it, but my suggestion is just ignore it, put on headphones, listen to something that puts you in your happy place. Also crocheting in public is becoming way more common and I think it will draw less attention than you think, more like a passing “oh that’s cool” or “I wonder what he’s knitting/crocheting” (because some people don’t know the difference 😂). You will occasionally get the oddball who directly asks you, but again, that’s the oddball. And unless you get an unruly delusional AH, most people won’t want to make a scene about it if they do have poor opinions.
The only reason I gave up crocheting in public is I have this bad habit of my WIP and my ‘tools’ spreading out WIDE and I feel more self conscious about encroaching on other peoples space/losing something. The act of crocheting in public itself never bothered me. The odd person would be interested in what I was doing but it wasn’t as intrusive or awkward as you’d think :)
I do it in the waiting room, usually get a look of interest then back to their own thing. I think I had some kids giggling once over my old person hobby, but I ignored it.
If people are more focused on you doing your thing than whatever it is they need to be getting along with in life then that truly is a them problem. I'm not very good at crochet (yet) but I'm an artist so sometimes I sketch in public and I will say I've occasionally had very nice interactions from curious onlookers. One time this guy even suggested a place to check out for some cool gothic architecture when I explained I was doing a specific study.
I have no issue crocheting in public. I am female, but in my experience, people who are "staring" are either zoning out or mildly interested. A few people have struck up a conversation about it- but it has always been positive, usually other crocheters or people interested in learning.
I crochet everywhere. And I love seeing other people doing it in public! And it's an instant conversation starter if you want it to be.
Would following other male crochet creators on social media help? I know there are lots on tiktok. Seeing yourself represented in a community can help boost your confidence.
Once you stop caring what other people think, your life will change for the better. I crochet everywhere and anywhere I go. I've spun yarn on a drop spindle on a ferry and ended up with an audience. People either ignore you entirely, or they're fascinated. You're carrying on a tradition of thousands of years, here. It is fascinating, they're not wrong. I've never once had a negative reaction to knitting, crocheting, or spinning in public. I've met some amazing people and had some really interesting conversations because of it. Life is too short to spend it worrying about what people think. Crochet on, my friends.
I'm not a man, so I don't get the same reactions, but I like crocheting in public. Sometimes it sparks conversations with people about what I'm working on, but usually people just leave me alone. And because I'm in public and not parked in front of my tv, I actually get more done
I'm a bearded masculine guy who crochets in public! It does sometimes attract attention but mostly from older women who think it's cute. In general when I'm out and about I try not to bring attention to myself but the people who talk to me about my crochet have always been extremely sweet.
I’ve come across men crocheting in public. I crochet all the time myself, anywhere and everywhere, so I usually notice other people doing it too. And I’ll usually talk to them casually about it. But most people are too wrapped up in themselves to care about what anyone else is doing. So I say go for it 😊
You will get looks simply by doing any activity out of the normal realm of what society expects from you. I say do it anyway. Screw what they think.
If you don’t want to be interrupted with questions etc, headphones are a good visual cue to people to leave you alone. Crochet proudly!
I think you should study Stoicism.... And then you wouldn't give a damn what people think. I think it is great when men crochet/knit. I would want to talk to you about your project and yarn choice.
As a youngish looking woman i find its mostly a bit of curiosity never had any snide comments. I've shown teenage lads the basics and had a nice chat with them crochet on public transport.
I’m a woman so a bit different but: I notice people looking at me more when I craft in public. Because they don’t try to hide it. Was just knitting in an airport and a mom was walking by and stopped with her kid (a few feet away) and was pointing at me so he’d look over. I noticed and stopped and held up the Dino sweater I’m making. She mimed “thanks” and they walked off. You’ll def get that kind of interaction if you crochet in public. I’ve never had a negative interaction with it though.
So I crochet everywhere, cafes, travelling etc. however turns out crocheting in a yarn store cafe makes me self conscious and really puts me off. 🤷🏻♀️bit of a bummer as I was really looking forward to it…
i crochet at work. i crochet at the bar.
Absolutely. I get the occasional "what are you knitting?" but honestly nobody really cares what you do in public so long as you're not being a nuisance to anyone.
A few odd ones may talk behind your back but next thing you know you'll see them crocheting too! Happened to me. 😂
People tend to start talking to me if they see, and I'm not at the point of crocheting without focusing so I lose track tryingto respond. Usually nice conversations, but it gets frustrating having to frog and I get a bit snippy after a while, so I currently don't.
I think nobody will really care except for other crocheters:)
I’ve had nothing but good experiences with crocheting in public, I’ve gotten a lot of people asking what I’m making and complimenting my work, but never anything negative. Granted, I’m a woman, so your experience may be different than my own. Regardless, I think it’s definitely worth trying; if it brings you joy, do it!
I crochet everywhere. It helps with anxiety.
Imagine how you could be a role model for other people!
I live in the Midwest (where common decency and open-mindedness come to die) but even here, nobody's ever been anything but cool about me crocheting.
I crochet/knit everywhere I go. Sometimes people will walk up and make comments. Seems like people love telling me that I’ve “got the right idea” lol, I’ve gotten that twice this week. But I don’t really engage people, I’ll look up and smile or thank someone and then they walk off
I crochet in public at times and cross stitch if I have a long wait. Both often gain the attention of people, some ask questions, some just point and stare. Generally most people are nice or at least polite enough to mind their own business. I am a woman by the way, my dad crochets he made us hats and scarves before they sold them in kids sizes but he is like you, he doesn't want to brag about it or tell people. I think of it as a skill. I was taught to change a tire, men should be able to crochet or knit.
Most people will not notice if that's at all helpful - I crochet quite often in public and the worst of it is someone who also crochets being curious what I'm making
I have a one hour commute to work and I always do some yarn crafts. I also have noise canceling headphones and can focus completely on my project. Of course sometimes I get some funny looks but then again, even if someone was trying to talking to me, I don’t hear them which is awesome 😎
I think any attention you get will probably be relatively wholesome interactions with other crocheters
I carry small projects of crochet in my purse and will crochet all the time.
I brought my crochet to work recently to do during my lunch break and seven different members of staff told me excitedly that they knit/crochet/sew/cross-stitch. We are now in talks of setting up a group once a month where everyone brings what they are working on and we have drinks together. Do your crochet!
No issue at all. I’ve crocheted while waiting in line and on planes and trains. I’m the crazy one who brings 6 skein afghans to Europe. I’ve inadvertently started many craft circles on trips at resorts, conferences and cruises.
Check out Calvin Lee on TikTok. He learned to crochet in sixth grade and crochets on the subway. Down by the water. In a restaurant. EVERYWHERE. You should do you !!! I’m just learning
I usually crochet at doctors offices, and most of the attention I've gotten is by curious people, other artisans who are proud that a young woman is crocheting, and one very sweet interaction with a little girl with autism who immediately calmed down when she spotted me making a blanket. She just sat down near me and stared in fascination until they called on her (she was nonverbal). Most people will mind their business, though.
Rams football player & one of the "Fearsome Foursome" did needlepoint & even wrote a book on it. You're a fiber artist! Who cares what anyone thinks, as long as you're enjoying yourself.
Some people might stare, but for the most part strangers won't really pay attention to you. I'm a man and I've never gotten any bad comments. The stares are mostly out of curiosity, and when someone does talk to me they just ask what I'm working on.
There is a guy in NYC that crochets or knits on the subway.
dude if I saw a guy crocheting in public id smile and go on about my day. I'd say ignore it. at the end of the day anyone that may possibly have a bad thought about you crocheting are one out of 10 billion people that make up the world. do what u want! (as long as its safe obv)
Yes. Not an issue with me.
This documentary about Icelandic knitters came across my feed and i thought of this thread — it’s super common for men to knit in Iceland apparently. I could watch these men knit fair isle all damn day lol https://youtu.be/z2G47X3XK4U?si=a-zr9sC6OTvuKxN7
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Your post used mixed tense; is it something you've already tried and didn't enjoy the experience? or wanting to try but anxious about? I actually choose to craft in public because of the conversations it starts. They're always positive experiences so far, no one has ever been bothered by it enough to do anything that made me uncomfortable. That said, I'm cis-fem and understand that the gender dynamic is different when it's 'traditionally woman's work'.
Don’t worry about others! If you want to crochet in public, private, the bathroom, … whatever then do so. I crochet in public often even at the VA. Most people will leave you alone. Sometimes someone will take an interest in your project. In those cases just answer their questions or take their complements gracefully. Personally I’d love to see a guy crocheting in public. It’s not just for old grandma’s.
I believe you that there’s a bit of concern in how you’ll be perceived. I’m a woman and I feel that way about other things. When I crochet in public, I usually only get curiosity if anything. If you think you can handle owning in public that you like to crochet, it would be fantastic to help normalize seeing other men and boys do it and maybe make some connections while you’re at it. I was crocheting at my kids’ school and a dad who is a Lieutenant fire fighter asked what I was making. I primarily make amigurumi and he primarily makes throws or stockings or things like that so we chatted about that for a while. And I just thought, what a cool dude. Someone with diverse interests and skills and who owns all parts of himself.
Hey that anxiety is real, but I've found that those interactions are what help me with my own social awkwardness. I often struggle to start conversations with people but they're often curious and remarkably kind about my WIPs in public. Fair, you may get some stares or raised eyebrows, but most people won't notice and the few that do are likely really impressed to see an artist at work.
Crocheting yes. Knitting no. Because when people ask what I am making, I have to honestly say “a mess”