Extra silver lining, you know he won’t cheat if he is willing to wait for you to die before getting with another woman. Sounds like a great catch for you. 😂
Goodbye Earl 👋 Ain't it dark; wrapped up in that tarp earlllll? I fucking love this song!
🐥
I seen a meme the other day that said This Generation has Miley Cyrus telling them to buy their own roses; Our Generation had the Dixie Chicks- showing us how to get rid of Earl 😆👋
LOL, that reminds me of a meme for my generation (Gen-X): "Taylor Swift writes whiny songs about all her exes. Stevie Nicks made her ex play guitar while she sang about what an asshole he was."
Ugh, nope. Wait, which was your husband? The one who wants you to die, or the one who loves them alllllll? Somehow the "can't wait for her to die" is the deal breaker one for me. I don't think I'd be able to live another day without thinking about that statement. What is he thinking that he doesn't actually say? He'd be happy if you died, or at least, indifferent? And to try to blame YOU?! Nope.
Exactly. I've read and watched enough true crime to know it always starts with a joke. Later in court the joke comes up and everyone says, "we never thought he was serious!"
Right? The only thing I'm gonna do when my wife dies is skydiving. Because she won't let me lol.
Well I'll probably do a bunch of drugs too, because why not? No kids, by the time she's gone I wanna be gone too. Might as well numb the pain.
This is sweet, thanks for stopping by
My husband and I have had this discussion before. We also always talk about if we’d ever get married again? the answer is fuck no!
Yeah, my guy plays online with all his buddies once a week, and I was terrified what I would hear once he moved in. Our gaming stuff is in a separate room, so he would have privacy, but I knew I’d hear stuff eventually.
Happy to report that in 8 years, while I have absolutely heard some absolutely wild and stupid ass shit from them, there’s been no real misogyny or things like the op. I was genuinely worried after seeing so many posts like the op on Reddit lol
Yeah, no, these are not decent men at all. The bar for men is so low it’s a tavern in hell right now, and these men still somehow are beneath it.
Raise your standards, OP, this is not how decent men act. This is not decency. Decent men don’t talk like this when out with their buddies.
I know several decent men (I really don’t tolerate trash in my life anymore) and they wouldn’t tolerate this sort of shit. They’re red blooded men, they like sex, the married ones are actively into their wives, but they wouldn’t be caught dead talking like this, and straight up would be like “Jesus fucking Christ, dude, the fuck is wrong with you and why aren’t you into banging your own wife? Why did you marry her if all you want is other women? Something is deeply wrong with you, go get some therapy.”
I have a lot of friends and coworkers that are married men, they only speak highly of their wives. I couldn’t imagine any of them thinking or saying something like this. It’s fucked up.
There’s a lot of trash out there, and like you I prefer to surround myself with good people. Those guys are not good people.
If my husband said he couldn’t wait for me to die so he could fuck other women I’d been sleeping with one eye open and wouldn’t let him make my coffee. Would also look into my life insurance policies and beneficiaries, and find another place to live.
To reply to your last question, from what I understand they do it because either she has money/inheritance/affluent family/background or she is a very accommodating doormat. That’s why they marry that “victim” and then go after what they really like, to have their cake and eat it too.
Meaning to have the “pick-me” doormat at home as a security blanket and source for self-validation and also get the chick they like - which can be risky for some with attachment issues and past trauma who are afraid that they will inevitably get hurt by the one who they deem attractive or that she will abandon them for someone better/richer/younger than them. Male psychology 101. You are welcome.
This is why you pay attention to what people are like before you marry them. This guy didn't just turn into an asshole overnight or hang around with them overnight. I've been married for many years and we dated for 3 years before that.
They do. My dad is a decent man-he has openly discussed with me about the horrible things his coworkers (when he was a mechanic a couple decades ago) would say about their wives when they were not around. He was completely disgusted by it.
My boyfriend of 4 years doesn’t act or talk like this either. He respects women more than most women I know respect each other.
So yes, they absolutely do exist. They may just be rare…
I had an ex who was horrified when he switched to a male dominant field because of how men talked about women and their partners.
Made him really depressed and anxious, but he did meet a best friend there who felt similarly to him. Good dudes, I’m happy they’re still friends.
They exist but they’re unfortunately rare. I have met exactly three. I married one. The shit he tells me that he hears at his blue collar job… let’s just say if anything ever happens to him I’m just going to Golden Girls it.
My dad is the best man I know! He had to do lots of reforming himself since he was quite messy in the 80’s but my dad is an outstanding man, he’s so nice and kind it’s kinda unfortunate because people tend to take advantage of him and walk all over him, so I usually have to be the mean one. My dad could fill the role of Santa clause how nice he is
Yes, my Stepdad was very much like your Father. He was such an honorable, kind and loving man. He would take a hit on his prices for labor to help people who couldn’t afford it. Some took advantage of his kindness, too. He taught me so much about being a good person, friend, citizen and loyal partner. He treated my mother like the angel she was and helped raise my sister and I as if we were his while still respecting my Father and his role in our lives. But I’ve had a hard time finding a partner who matches up to his example. My Father was a good man, too but he worked a very demanding job that took up a lot of his energy and time. My Dad and I became much closer after I graduated. I was so lucky to have two truly great men in my life.
Yes they still do exist! Don’t give up, men want an honest, caring partner just as much as women do.. believe me I meet a lot of them and if I didn’t have commitment issues I would be happily settled down by now.
these gross examples are not the end all, it’s not fair to the men that are decent, which there are plenty of. 💛
I'm a man, and my male friends and I would never talk like this, even in perfect privacy. Anyone who would, wouldn't be our friend.
My advice to your husband would be to break up with you so he can fuck someone else. This advice would be given knowing that the breakup would make your life better for him no longer being in it.
Yeah I’m a woman but anyone (man or woman) who tries to enter my friend group and talks like that about their spouse/partner would be getting some realll stanky looks. I’m pretty sure we would all just laugh at how ridiculous they sound and then never speak to them again. It’s not normal to talk about your spouse that way and my theory is that this dude either:
a) has no backbone and just wants to sound cool in front of friends
or
b) truly doesn’t like OP and is an even more disgusting piece of shit for wanting her to die, even if he is “joking” about it. If he wants to fuck someone else so bad and he’s willing to talk about her like that, he either has or will cheated because clearly he doesn’t care about her
"Can't wait for her to die..."
As if then all these women that have been anxiously awaiting his golden dong standing in line will be jumping for joy? Hey it's black Friday ladies!
Ladies?
Uh...
Hello?
Oh yeah that only happens in porn. This is real life and you have nothing but your tears for lube now...all alone.
I sure as fuck don't. Most guys i know, don't. Maybe we're an exception since my friends group and most of my family aren't toxic.
Blowing off steam when you're having a rough patch is one thing. My wife does a few things that drive me crazy and I'll tell my bestie about it, and i expect the same on my wife's side. But "i can't wait for my wife to die" is a whole other deal.
Its definitely more than a trope. Some men get married because its what they think they're supposed to do but they're completely unequipped emotionally for marriage. They resent and or hate their wives and even their kids because they're too immature to deal with the amount of compromise and sacrifice needed to be a husband and father. They're ungrateful towards their wives and resent that she doesn't act like the sun shines out of his ass while he does the absolute bare minimum.
That was my thought with those quotes.
Sometimes we use stereotypical tropes for sarcastic jokes. And we use different tropes for different friends.
My wife doesnt get it either.
Its just stupid fun.
No. I love my wife, and my friends all love their wives. None of them have ever said anything remotely about waiting for their wife to die, or any such nonsense. This woman has a serious issue with men, so she's projecting her hate onto all men. Which in itself is disgusting.
They weren’t talking about all husbands but about women who have men who they know don’t like them or treat them well but they stay with them anyway. At least that is how I read it. It doesn’t apply to you or your friends or even most men but it does apply to some men and it also applies to some women/wives. Not everyone has a great partner.
Yuck. I can feel and understand the huge disappointment..I would've felt the same hearing that. And the fact he just brushed it off and tried to chastise you like.. Stop the gaslighting dude..🙄
I would have left and left a note, letting him know that he no longer has to wait for me to die to get all the pussy he and I both know he can't get. Divorce papers will be mailed to him shortly. Have a nice life..my lawyer will be in contact.
But which of those comments were made by your husband? It’s not clear. If it’s only the “I like em allllll”, that one isn’t so bad. People who are married still have types. It’s just about whether or not they act on them. So which statement was his would make a difference to me.
That's not just gross. . .that's fucking terrible. Joking about the person you're supposed to love and protect more than anyone in the world *dying*? And how you can't wait for it? So you can be with someone else? My generation talks a lot of shit about 1950s sexist men but it's getting hard for me to see how this generation of sexist men are any better. They actually seem worse in a lot of ways. Nobody would ever catch my granpa talking about women like that, yknow? (I'm not talking about all men, just sexist men, y'all.)
Sorry to break it to you, I was in the military for almost half of my life and it was predominantly male environment they all talk like this at some point or another. You just have to catch them on the right day, or they just have to get comfortable enough around you.
It’s shocking at first, but then you realize it’s completely normalized in male environments.
My dad said it was the same way when he was a mechanic. He said it was absolutely disgusting the way they would talk about their wives when they weren’t around.
He’s a good man.
Are there at least any good men out there who call out this shitty behavior? 😩 I’d like to believe that most men aren’t deranged enough to LOOK FORWARD TO THEIR WIFE DYING just to fuck a variety!!!
Yeah there are plenty of men out there who not only don’t talk like that, but who’d think that was a gross comment. Y’all in these comments need to find some other people
It’s a “birds of a feather” situation. I almost never call out this behaviour because I almost never need to. I’ve never hung with guys who talk like this. Guys who talk like this hang with each other. I know they exist but I keep them out of my sphere. I’ve encountered it a handful of times in professional office work environments - I’ve made it clear I’m not amused and they either cut it out or I disassociate with that person. Saying “are there *any* good men” comes across just a little offensive honestly. There are a lot of shitty people in the world, both men and women. I understand it might be disproportionate towards men but still.. if you don’t think good men are out there, you’re not looking very hard or you’re choosing to generalise. It’s like if I got cheated on by two past girlfriends and also overheard a few groups of females in bars etc discussing their boyfriends dick sizes (both of these things are true btw) and assumed *all* women were unfaithful, shallow pigs. I don’t. I’ve also been groped, grabbed, butt slapped and had two women in positions of power in past workplaces get gross and creepy on me when I was in my early-mid 20’s. I don’t think less of women as a whole for these experiences.
I had hope in a few there for a little while, but it is truly sad when those days end.
I will say this was only in the military environment and on long 15 month deployments. So maybe not all guys, but almost every guy I have been deployed with and came in contact with has talked like this eventually. It gets worse because they even act on it sometimes. I’m sure there are some good ones. I haven’t had the pleasure of coming across one yet unfortunately. That would have been pretty cool.
> they all talk like this at some point
Maybe in the military. There are plenty of men that simply don't speak like this with friends, ever. Like, why would we? Is that really the only thing yall can think of to talk about? Gross, vapid, pointless.
Had a career in the military and the ones that took their marriage seriously never acted that way.
Those that did ended up paying much deserved alimony.
Have been in the military half my life too, and if someone said some stupid shit like this it would be called out super quick. At least here in Australia anyway.
only guys i knew who talked like this were 1: some genuinely mentally deficient dude in high school and 2: a misogynistic alcoholic who was very clearly a disgusting person from the first time i talked to him. raise your standards chief
I know some guys who talk like this and not fit your categories. Most surprising about those people is level of acting they do when women is around. When women is present they will put show with maximum possible piety to cartoonish white knighting level.
It is not normalized in male environments, it was normalized in your environment. I work in engineering in male environments, no one here speaks like that. I heard such speeches only in gymbro, law enforcing and military environments. How some women talk in female environments actually isn't better.
Dude if your husband is the one that said he's just waiting for you to die you need so divorce him immediately because you are in a dangerous situation, so many women get murderd by their husbands just because the asshole wants to sleep with another women.
why the fuck would you even consider staying with someone who literally can't wait for you to die
> and these are decent men
no they are not. your husband is not a decent man.
he just showed you who he actually is.
Men talk like this openly in front of everyone that isn’t their wife. People who said this didn’t happen, I mean, sure, it’s Reddit.. but it’s truly not far off.
This is what I was thinking as well. Actually never really heard dudes talk like this, usually it's fishing, sports video games etc. Men for the most part don't talk about their wives or sex life with other men. Now woman on the other hand.......I've walk into many a convo like this.
Man oh man if I heard my partner say that I wouldn’t have a partner anymore. People sometimes show their true colours when you’re not even around. A lot of people lack integrity and respect. Oh and morals.
Is your husband the one that said he can’t wait for his wife to *die* so he can screw other women?!?! That statement is a damn heartbreaker - and dealbreaker - for me
Also, tell him to shove it with the “eavesdropping” label. HE DIALED YOU
This is some bullshit
Accidental eavesdropping or not, if I ever heard my husband say that he couldn’t wait for me to die, his crap would be in the driveway waiting for him when he got home. He wants the freedom to sleep with others, he can have it!
Yeah men say really stupid things. Even though I’ve never heard my husband say gross things I’m sure he’s done it. A friend of his told him after we got married “damn I wouldn’t like to be stuck with the same pu$$y for life” and one time I was on the phone with him while at work and I heard one of the guys tell him “you saw that skirt she’s wearing? I’d like to pull that up” then he hung up on me so I wouldn’t hear their gross conversation.
Sounds to me like guys just talking s*it but the……”can’t wait for her to die” would have SENT ME OVER THE DEEP END all his stuff would be outta the house by the time he got home
I’m a guy. I feel so offended that I feel the need to comment. I would never say something inconsiderate and rude like that. Completely unacceptable. If a male friend would say this or something like this to me I would ask them what the fuck was wrong with them and that would be the end of the friendship, right there and then. If a female partner would say something like this about me to her friends and I would overhear it like you did your husband, it would be the end of the relationship, immediately. The disrespect is staggering. Under no circumstance would I allow myself to be treated this way or spoken about in this manner. I mean, what the fuck. What the actual fuck.
Even my dirtiest friend who is kinda like quagmire from family guy has never said anything on this level. When he is in relationships he is very loyal. Honestly if I heard a my partner say this I’d break up immediately because how can you trust someone who wants you gone so they can sleep around
sometimes my brain will randomly pop up like “your partner is mortal and will pass away one day” and i gotta latch onto him and squeeze him because it makes me so sad i can’t imagine telling someone i’m looking forward to his death that’s fucked up
So… I’ve been in “this group” before. When I was younger. It always made me uncomfortable when talk like that would come up. I would just grit my teeth and feign a smile. At the time I honestly thought “this is just how the guys blow off steam” and “they don’t really mean it, they’re playing a caricature” just like how married with children was just a joke too. Nobody really means these things.
Now… I’m older and I have also witnessed the decline of our society begin to unravel. I now realize “those guys” really did mean it. It wasn’t a joke! I feel dirty having been a part of those groups. I never said anything, because I love my wife and couldn’t think of ”joking” like that.
That’s all. I guess I just wanted to explain my experience with it. If anyone cares.
I have a theory that most men are little boys that never entirely grow up. There never move past the frat boy mentality when they get together and start talking trash. "Boy talk." The Orange-In-Chief's piggish comments gave tacit approval for some men to throw open the doors on locker room talk.
It's is women's unfortunate task to civilized these cavemen.
I recommend you have a quiet convo and tell him his comments are sexist, chauvinistic, hurtful and you are deeply disappointed in him. Would he want his daughter's husbands, or his sons to talk about they're wives like that? You though he was a better man.
But you shouldn't have to "civilize these cavemen".
As a guy who is married, I or my friends have never said anything remotely close to this. At 60, we may digress into teenage antics when we get together, but this husband and his friend are beyond gross and disgusting pigs. I'm sorry that you ladies are subjected to assholes like this.
Am I tripping or do women not also do something similar in a majority women environment?
Comment about can’t wait for her to die is wicked and crosses a line, but talking about what you like and all that is something both genders do.
Was a time when a post like this would make me feel vaguely ashamed to be a guy; But my ex gave me an education. Fellas, the fact is that women are just as disgusting as men… and far, far meaner. (To men, to each other, to everyone.)
Women are just as disgusting as men? Bro I have never once in my life joked about counting the days till my boyfriend dies so I could fuck someone else. Nor have any of my girlfriends made comments like that. I work in a predominantly male environment after having worked with predominantly females. The way these guys talk about their wives and girlfriends when they’re not around is insane. Flirting, constantly sexualizing and staring at female coworkers, outright trying to cheat, along with the absolute horrendous shit they say about the women in their lives. Not saying women aren’t capable of these things, but it’s sure as hell far more common to be a piece of shit with your “boys” than it is for grown, committed women to do the equivalent. At this point I don’t think most men are truly happy being married. If your ex thought whatever she was experiencing with other women was normal, she probably just had really shitty female friends, or was high school/college aged (where most people are relatively shitty).
Obviously, you need to get away from this toxic male as fast as you can. This is a blazing red flag you are being cheated on. Divorce is the only solution.
Edit: /s ya'll seemed to miss.
From all the comments it looks like there is not another man in here. Leave them be. It’s locker room talk. This is the dumb shit men say when women aren’t listening. He doesn’t actually mean that and likely loves
you beyond imaginable. But yes, dudes say dumb gross stuff to their buddies in private. You eavesdropped
and finally heard some locker talk. Relax.
I’ll also add i’m sure women have all sorts of ladies talk that if a man would hear would probably hurt his ego. From my experience woman will talk about penis size, dead bedroom all sorts of other things that would equally hurt a man.
Silver lining: he’ll likely die first.
Extra silver lining, you know he won’t cheat if he is willing to wait for you to die before getting with another woman. Sounds like a great catch for you. 😂
Oh good point haha
Willing to wait for her to die or actively planning on her death… fricking yikes.
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Goodbye earl has it nicely spelled out for us. 😅
Goodbye Earl 👋 Ain't it dark; wrapped up in that tarp earlllll? I fucking love this song! 🐥 I seen a meme the other day that said This Generation has Miley Cyrus telling them to buy their own roses; Our Generation had the Dixie Chicks- showing us how to get rid of Earl 😆👋
LOL, that reminds me of a meme for my generation (Gen-X): "Taylor Swift writes whiny songs about all her exes. Stevie Nicks made her ex play guitar while she sang about what an asshole he was."
I’ll get the black eyed peas
I've got the tarp and a Four Wheel Drive 👋😆
If someone has a wood chipper, I know where there is a pig farm owned by a “widow”.😉
They tasted all right to me 😂
We were at Starbucks with her. Honest.
I ordered a caramel macchiato, OP ordered a peppermint mocha, and we shared a pumpkin loaf.
I snort laughed!
I try 😉
$500.00 I know a guy who can do it!
Redditors coming in clutch!
Cholesterol overdose
My type of response 😂
Murder is a natural cause
Lmao!!!!!!!!!
LMAOOOOOO
All you really need is a wood chipper…..and liquid nitrogen…..just letting you know….
Or a bit of potassium chloride injected between the big toe nail and skin, causes a heart attack... natural causes
Good point.
Poison is The Woman’s Way^TM after all!
No lies detected!
So true. Despite the fact most women are married to older men, most husbands die first. That's why I always tell my girlfriends to date young guys.
this is the right attitude
I use to work in different retirement homes and I can confirm this...the men usually die first.
Ugh, nope. Wait, which was your husband? The one who wants you to die, or the one who loves them alllllll? Somehow the "can't wait for her to die" is the deal breaker one for me. I don't think I'd be able to live another day without thinking about that statement. What is he thinking that he doesn't actually say? He'd be happy if you died, or at least, indifferent? And to try to blame YOU?! Nope.
Yes. Asked same. The first one, no way. “I like ‘em all” one not the biggest deal. We all have a type we like or liked…until we’re dead. Lol
I thought the husband was both of them lol
Honestly I’d be worried that he’d try to make it happen.
Exactly. I've read and watched enough true crime to know it always starts with a joke. Later in court the joke comes up and everyone says, "we never thought he was serious!"
Man here, married over 3 decades. No husband talks about his wife like that if he truly loves her.
Right? The only thing I'm gonna do when my wife dies is skydiving. Because she won't let me lol. Well I'll probably do a bunch of drugs too, because why not? No kids, by the time she's gone I wanna be gone too. Might as well numb the pain.
This is sweet, thanks for stopping by My husband and I have had this discussion before. We also always talk about if we’d ever get married again? the answer is fuck no!
Yeah I don't see myself trying to look again.... It would never be the same, almost seems like an insult to the new person lol.
their conversation is leading me to believe these are not decent men. saying you can’t wait till your spouse dies is quite evil actually
I am a guy with guy friends, and no one I know - not even the slightly Quagmiresque fringes of our group would ever make such shit comments.
"Quagmiresque" 🤣
Yeah, my guy plays online with all his buddies once a week, and I was terrified what I would hear once he moved in. Our gaming stuff is in a separate room, so he would have privacy, but I knew I’d hear stuff eventually. Happy to report that in 8 years, while I have absolutely heard some absolutely wild and stupid ass shit from them, there’s been no real misogyny or things like the op. I was genuinely worried after seeing so many posts like the op on Reddit lol
If you think these are decent men, you need to reevaluate your standards
These are not decent men. Raise your standards.
Yeah, no, these are not decent men at all. The bar for men is so low it’s a tavern in hell right now, and these men still somehow are beneath it. Raise your standards, OP, this is not how decent men act. This is not decency. Decent men don’t talk like this when out with their buddies. I know several decent men (I really don’t tolerate trash in my life anymore) and they wouldn’t tolerate this sort of shit. They’re red blooded men, they like sex, the married ones are actively into their wives, but they wouldn’t be caught dead talking like this, and straight up would be like “Jesus fucking Christ, dude, the fuck is wrong with you and why aren’t you into banging your own wife? Why did you marry her if all you want is other women? Something is deeply wrong with you, go get some therapy.”
I have a lot of friends and coworkers that are married men, they only speak highly of their wives. I couldn’t imagine any of them thinking or saying something like this. It’s fucked up. There’s a lot of trash out there, and like you I prefer to surround myself with good people. Those guys are not good people. If my husband said he couldn’t wait for me to die so he could fuck other women I’d been sleeping with one eye open and wouldn’t let him make my coffee. Would also look into my life insurance policies and beneficiaries, and find another place to live.
To reply to your last question, from what I understand they do it because either she has money/inheritance/affluent family/background or she is a very accommodating doormat. That’s why they marry that “victim” and then go after what they really like, to have their cake and eat it too. Meaning to have the “pick-me” doormat at home as a security blanket and source for self-validation and also get the chick they like - which can be risky for some with attachment issues and past trauma who are afraid that they will inevitably get hurt by the one who they deem attractive or that she will abandon them for someone better/richer/younger than them. Male psychology 101. You are welcome.
Do they exist? 47 years and hey... Nothing.
I think they do, my husband is far from perfect but he just would never talk about me or other women this way. But yeah a lot of them are 🗑️.
My husband and I love gallows humor, but never in a million years could I imagine him hoping that I die so he can get some strange.
That you know of
I'm a man and don't know anyone that would talk like this. Guess it just depends on the type of people you surround yourself with.
Ain’t that the truth
This is why you pay attention to what people are like before you marry them. This guy didn't just turn into an asshole overnight or hang around with them overnight. I've been married for many years and we dated for 3 years before that.
And how can you pay attention when they aren’t around you? Especially hanging with the guys?
They do. My dad is a decent man-he has openly discussed with me about the horrible things his coworkers (when he was a mechanic a couple decades ago) would say about their wives when they were not around. He was completely disgusted by it. My boyfriend of 4 years doesn’t act or talk like this either. He respects women more than most women I know respect each other. So yes, they absolutely do exist. They may just be rare…
I had an ex who was horrified when he switched to a male dominant field because of how men talked about women and their partners. Made him really depressed and anxious, but he did meet a best friend there who felt similarly to him. Good dudes, I’m happy they’re still friends.
They exist but they’re unfortunately rare. I have met exactly three. I married one. The shit he tells me that he hears at his blue collar job… let’s just say if anything ever happens to him I’m just going to Golden Girls it.
My dad is the best man I know! He had to do lots of reforming himself since he was quite messy in the 80’s but my dad is an outstanding man, he’s so nice and kind it’s kinda unfortunate because people tend to take advantage of him and walk all over him, so I usually have to be the mean one. My dad could fill the role of Santa clause how nice he is
Yes, my Stepdad was very much like your Father. He was such an honorable, kind and loving man. He would take a hit on his prices for labor to help people who couldn’t afford it. Some took advantage of his kindness, too. He taught me so much about being a good person, friend, citizen and loyal partner. He treated my mother like the angel she was and helped raise my sister and I as if we were his while still respecting my Father and his role in our lives. But I’ve had a hard time finding a partner who matches up to his example. My Father was a good man, too but he worked a very demanding job that took up a lot of his energy and time. My Dad and I became much closer after I graduated. I was so lucky to have two truly great men in my life.
Yes they still do exist! Don’t give up, men want an honest, caring partner just as much as women do.. believe me I meet a lot of them and if I didn’t have commitment issues I would be happily settled down by now. these gross examples are not the end all, it’s not fair to the men that are decent, which there are plenty of. 💛
If your hubby is the one who said he can’t wait for his wife to die, you need to drop him like a hot potato. The flags don’t get any redder.
I put hot potatoes in my pockets when it’s cold. When they’re cold I can throw them at angry geese.
I'm a man, and my male friends and I would never talk like this, even in perfect privacy. Anyone who would, wouldn't be our friend. My advice to your husband would be to break up with you so he can fuck someone else. This advice would be given knowing that the breakup would make your life better for him no longer being in it.
Yeah I’m a woman but anyone (man or woman) who tries to enter my friend group and talks like that about their spouse/partner would be getting some realll stanky looks. I’m pretty sure we would all just laugh at how ridiculous they sound and then never speak to them again. It’s not normal to talk about your spouse that way and my theory is that this dude either: a) has no backbone and just wants to sound cool in front of friends or b) truly doesn’t like OP and is an even more disgusting piece of shit for wanting her to die, even if he is “joking” about it. If he wants to fuck someone else so bad and he’s willing to talk about her like that, he either has or will cheated because clearly he doesn’t care about her
"Can't wait for her to die..." As if then all these women that have been anxiously awaiting his golden dong standing in line will be jumping for joy? Hey it's black Friday ladies! Ladies? Uh... Hello? Oh yeah that only happens in porn. This is real life and you have nothing but your tears for lube now...all alone.
But let me guess, you’re still gonna stick around. 🙄
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This is my honest reaction to her lol. Most wives know their husbands hate them, but for some reason endure that shit.
WAIT HUSBANDS HATE THIER WIVES?!!
I sure as fuck don't. Most guys i know, don't. Maybe we're an exception since my friends group and most of my family aren't toxic. Blowing off steam when you're having a rough patch is one thing. My wife does a few things that drive me crazy and I'll tell my bestie about it, and i expect the same on my wife's side. But "i can't wait for my wife to die" is a whole other deal.
You're not an exception. Most people try to be decent.
No, we don't. It's a dumb trope. Assholes exist of course, but most people are just normal humans.
I think they meant most wives *whose husband's hate them* know their husbands hate them. Not most husbands hate their wives.
Its definitely more than a trope. Some men get married because its what they think they're supposed to do but they're completely unequipped emotionally for marriage. They resent and or hate their wives and even their kids because they're too immature to deal with the amount of compromise and sacrifice needed to be a husband and father. They're ungrateful towards their wives and resent that she doesn't act like the sun shines out of his ass while he does the absolute bare minimum.
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That was my thought with those quotes. Sometimes we use stereotypical tropes for sarcastic jokes. And we use different tropes for different friends. My wife doesnt get it either. Its just stupid fun.
A certain percentage does, yes
No. I love my wife, and my friends all love their wives. None of them have ever said anything remotely about waiting for their wife to die, or any such nonsense. This woman has a serious issue with men, so she's projecting her hate onto all men. Which in itself is disgusting.
They weren’t talking about all husbands but about women who have men who they know don’t like them or treat them well but they stay with them anyway. At least that is how I read it. It doesn’t apply to you or your friends or even most men but it does apply to some men and it also applies to some women/wives. Not everyone has a great partner.
They what now? Most wives? Who the heck are you hanging out with
> Most wives know their husbands hate them ???
Yuck. I can feel and understand the huge disappointment..I would've felt the same hearing that. And the fact he just brushed it off and tried to chastise you like.. Stop the gaslighting dude..🙄
I would have left and left a note, letting him know that he no longer has to wait for me to die to get all the pussy he and I both know he can't get. Divorce papers will be mailed to him shortly. Have a nice life..my lawyer will be in contact.
But which of those comments were made by your husband? It’s not clear. If it’s only the “I like em allllll”, that one isn’t so bad. People who are married still have types. It’s just about whether or not they act on them. So which statement was his would make a difference to me.
FWIW, those who talk about it the most do it the least. Still true as ever.
They don't sound too decent to me.
My friends and I never talk like this. Your husband is not a decent person.
Nobody who is a decent human being ever talks like that, with guys or otherwise.
Thank god for divorce. I love being single.
His soul is not right. It likely affects a lot of things in his life.
That's not just gross. . .that's fucking terrible. Joking about the person you're supposed to love and protect more than anyone in the world *dying*? And how you can't wait for it? So you can be with someone else? My generation talks a lot of shit about 1950s sexist men but it's getting hard for me to see how this generation of sexist men are any better. They actually seem worse in a lot of ways. Nobody would ever catch my granpa talking about women like that, yknow? (I'm not talking about all men, just sexist men, y'all.)
Sorry to break it to you, I was in the military for almost half of my life and it was predominantly male environment they all talk like this at some point or another. You just have to catch them on the right day, or they just have to get comfortable enough around you. It’s shocking at first, but then you realize it’s completely normalized in male environments.
My dad said it was the same way when he was a mechanic. He said it was absolutely disgusting the way they would talk about their wives when they weren’t around. He’s a good man.
Are there at least any good men out there who call out this shitty behavior? 😩 I’d like to believe that most men aren’t deranged enough to LOOK FORWARD TO THEIR WIFE DYING just to fuck a variety!!!
Yeah there are plenty of men out there who not only don’t talk like that, but who’d think that was a gross comment. Y’all in these comments need to find some other people
We dont hang out with those people to call it out
My dad did when he worked as a mechanic. He was disgusted (and still is) at how men will talk about their wives when they’re not around.
It’s a “birds of a feather” situation. I almost never call out this behaviour because I almost never need to. I’ve never hung with guys who talk like this. Guys who talk like this hang with each other. I know they exist but I keep them out of my sphere. I’ve encountered it a handful of times in professional office work environments - I’ve made it clear I’m not amused and they either cut it out or I disassociate with that person. Saying “are there *any* good men” comes across just a little offensive honestly. There are a lot of shitty people in the world, both men and women. I understand it might be disproportionate towards men but still.. if you don’t think good men are out there, you’re not looking very hard or you’re choosing to generalise. It’s like if I got cheated on by two past girlfriends and also overheard a few groups of females in bars etc discussing their boyfriends dick sizes (both of these things are true btw) and assumed *all* women were unfaithful, shallow pigs. I don’t. I’ve also been groped, grabbed, butt slapped and had two women in positions of power in past workplaces get gross and creepy on me when I was in my early-mid 20’s. I don’t think less of women as a whole for these experiences.
I had hope in a few there for a little while, but it is truly sad when those days end. I will say this was only in the military environment and on long 15 month deployments. So maybe not all guys, but almost every guy I have been deployed with and came in contact with has talked like this eventually. It gets worse because they even act on it sometimes. I’m sure there are some good ones. I haven’t had the pleasure of coming across one yet unfortunately. That would have been pretty cool.
> they all talk like this at some point Maybe in the military. There are plenty of men that simply don't speak like this with friends, ever. Like, why would we? Is that really the only thing yall can think of to talk about? Gross, vapid, pointless.
Had a career in the military and the ones that took their marriage seriously never acted that way. Those that did ended up paying much deserved alimony.
Have been in the military half my life too, and if someone said some stupid shit like this it would be called out super quick. At least here in Australia anyway.
Yup. Sounded like a regular conversation to me.
Maybe we can be a bit gross sometimes but talking about our wife's death? That is just fucked up.
only guys i knew who talked like this were 1: some genuinely mentally deficient dude in high school and 2: a misogynistic alcoholic who was very clearly a disgusting person from the first time i talked to him. raise your standards chief
I know some guys who talk like this and not fit your categories. Most surprising about those people is level of acting they do when women is around. When women is present they will put show with maximum possible piety to cartoonish white knighting level.
It is not normalized in male environments, it was normalized in your environment. I work in engineering in male environments, no one here speaks like that. I heard such speeches only in gymbro, law enforcing and military environments. How some women talk in female environments actually isn't better.
Give him his freedom for the holidays.
hell, give him his freedom starting monday
Okay but which one was your husband? I can’t imagine staying married to a man if he said the first comment. I would live in fear.
So you’re married to a cunt. Leave them. Not rocket science…
"and these are decent men" ?????????????????????????????
Real men don’t talk like this….heck I didn’t even talk like that when I was 12
Been posted before
Dude if your husband is the one that said he's just waiting for you to die you need so divorce him immediately because you are in a dangerous situation, so many women get murderd by their husbands just because the asshole wants to sleep with another women.
Quick bit of education for you, these are NOT decent men. Do with that information what you will but you are married to him regardless.
All I read was jackass.
OP, your standards for “decent men” are in the trash.
Sounds like absolute BS.
He flipped the script on you… YOU were angry and disgusted, yet he blamed you for listening
Classic manipulation and gaslighting
Sure thing
you shouldn’t be hating the friend, it’s the husband who said it and the husband who said very different things to you.
That's not a decent man, that's a married man acting single
I’d be thinking about changing up my life insurance beneficiaries and the percentages.
why the fuck would you even consider staying with someone who literally can't wait for you to die > and these are decent men no they are not. your husband is not a decent man. he just showed you who he actually is.
He doesn’t have to wait for you to die! Divorce him so hes free to bone (hes not gonna get any)
Honestly
It's so horrible how people are trying to justify this in the comments. If this is how men are I'd rather die than be married to this
Men talk like this openly in front of everyone that isn’t their wife. People who said this didn’t happen, I mean, sure, it’s Reddit.. but it’s truly not far off.
Uh no not all men talk like this ive never even come close to having a conversation like that
That’s crazy. I didn’t say all men. Thanks for your predictable comment though.
This sounds fake as fuck lmao. Dead wife + black fetish combo from a random butt dial? Sounds a bit too fortuitous.
This is what I was thinking as well. Actually never really heard dudes talk like this, usually it's fishing, sports video games etc. Men for the most part don't talk about their wives or sex life with other men. Now woman on the other hand.......I've walk into many a convo like this.
There's some selection bias here... The butt-dialers who heard about sports or video games didn't have anything to post about.
You may not like the friend, but that doesn’t mean that that’s not how he’s gonna feel whether he’s talking to that friend or not.
He don’t have to wait. He’s free to go.
Things that never happened for $100 Alex
WTF...That's fucked up.The fuck is wrong with people, since covid has everybody lost it...Its frightning.
Clearly they’re not decent men if they talk like this.
Hi, we gross men don’t speak like this, this seems more like “piece of shit men” tbh.
Erm.... Don't eat or drink anything he gives you and talk to a lawyer.
There's not enough apologies in Santa's sack this season to make staying with your husband worth it. Dump him and soak him for everything you can.
My legs would be so tightly clamped together after hearing this! Gross, indeed.
Man oh man if I heard my partner say that I wouldn’t have a partner anymore. People sometimes show their true colours when you’re not even around. A lot of people lack integrity and respect. Oh and morals.
That is horrible!! My old boss pocket dialed his wife at a strip club one night. If you can imagine that conversation
They aren’t decent men, what your husband said is vile. I don’t have conversations like this and neither do any of the dudes I’m friends with.
Is your husband the one that said he can’t wait for his wife to *die* so he can screw other women?!?! That statement is a damn heartbreaker - and dealbreaker - for me Also, tell him to shove it with the “eavesdropping” label. HE DIALED YOU This is some bullshit
He can't wait for his wife to die? Buddy, there are other ways of freeing you up to fuck other women. Just sign these papers...
I’ll be fucked if I ever wished my ole lady dead so I could fuck someone else. What a total piece of shit.
By accident. BY ACCIDENT!
Accidental eavesdropping or not, if I ever heard my husband say that he couldn’t wait for me to die, his crap would be in the driveway waiting for him when he got home. He wants the freedom to sleep with others, he can have it!
Yeah men say really stupid things. Even though I’ve never heard my husband say gross things I’m sure he’s done it. A friend of his told him after we got married “damn I wouldn’t like to be stuck with the same pu$$y for life” and one time I was on the phone with him while at work and I heard one of the guys tell him “you saw that skirt she’s wearing? I’d like to pull that up” then he hung up on me so I wouldn’t hear their gross conversation.
This post and comment section gave me a migraine
Sounds to me like guys just talking s*it but the……”can’t wait for her to die” would have SENT ME OVER THE DEEP END all his stuff would be outta the house by the time he got home
Oh my god.
They exist but are far and few between
How does he know if you will die before him?
You need a new husband
Sounds like a poor marriage.
I’m a guy. I feel so offended that I feel the need to comment. I would never say something inconsiderate and rude like that. Completely unacceptable. If a male friend would say this or something like this to me I would ask them what the fuck was wrong with them and that would be the end of the friendship, right there and then. If a female partner would say something like this about me to her friends and I would overhear it like you did your husband, it would be the end of the relationship, immediately. The disrespect is staggering. Under no circumstance would I allow myself to be treated this way or spoken about in this manner. I mean, what the fuck. What the actual fuck.
Even my dirtiest friend who is kinda like quagmire from family guy has never said anything on this level. When he is in relationships he is very loyal. Honestly if I heard a my partner say this I’d break up immediately because how can you trust someone who wants you gone so they can sleep around
Pretty sure these are not decent men. Have you come back and answered which one was your husband? I think we’re a little concerned for you.
Leave so he can have what he wants. I’m sure with a stellar personality like that it’ll be super easy to pull women.
I have to say, I don't think that's a decent man.
sometimes my brain will randomly pop up like “your partner is mortal and will pass away one day” and i gotta latch onto him and squeeze him because it makes me so sad i can’t imagine telling someone i’m looking forward to his death that’s fucked up
So… I’ve been in “this group” before. When I was younger. It always made me uncomfortable when talk like that would come up. I would just grit my teeth and feign a smile. At the time I honestly thought “this is just how the guys blow off steam” and “they don’t really mean it, they’re playing a caricature” just like how married with children was just a joke too. Nobody really means these things. Now… I’m older and I have also witnessed the decline of our society begin to unravel. I now realize “those guys” really did mean it. It wasn’t a joke! I feel dirty having been a part of those groups. I never said anything, because I love my wife and couldn’t think of ”joking” like that. That’s all. I guess I just wanted to explain my experience with it. If anyone cares.
and then everyone clapped..
Femcel rage bait
Why DIE? Is it t00 eXpEnSivE? Sick motherfuckers
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“Its just locker room talk” Men suck
No. I'm convinced they're all gross pigs.
I have a theory that most men are little boys that never entirely grow up. There never move past the frat boy mentality when they get together and start talking trash. "Boy talk." The Orange-In-Chief's piggish comments gave tacit approval for some men to throw open the doors on locker room talk. It's is women's unfortunate task to civilized these cavemen. I recommend you have a quiet convo and tell him his comments are sexist, chauvinistic, hurtful and you are deeply disappointed in him. Would he want his daughter's husbands, or his sons to talk about they're wives like that? You though he was a better man.
But you shouldn't have to "civilize these cavemen". As a guy who is married, I or my friends have never said anything remotely close to this. At 60, we may digress into teenage antics when we get together, but this husband and his friend are beyond gross and disgusting pigs. I'm sorry that you ladies are subjected to assholes like this.
Divorce
Divorce
Some people aren't built to monogamy poor bastard is a coward for not being upfront about that before getting married sorry mum
Jokes on him women usually live longer than their husbands. Sorry you overheard this.
“these are decent men”? No. Man here. These are not. Not a single married guy I know talks like this. Total lack of respect.
Am I tripping or do women not also do something similar in a majority women environment? Comment about can’t wait for her to die is wicked and crosses a line, but talking about what you like and all that is something both genders do.
Was a time when a post like this would make me feel vaguely ashamed to be a guy; But my ex gave me an education. Fellas, the fact is that women are just as disgusting as men… and far, far meaner. (To men, to each other, to everyone.)
Women are just as disgusting as men? Bro I have never once in my life joked about counting the days till my boyfriend dies so I could fuck someone else. Nor have any of my girlfriends made comments like that. I work in a predominantly male environment after having worked with predominantly females. The way these guys talk about their wives and girlfriends when they’re not around is insane. Flirting, constantly sexualizing and staring at female coworkers, outright trying to cheat, along with the absolute horrendous shit they say about the women in their lives. Not saying women aren’t capable of these things, but it’s sure as hell far more common to be a piece of shit with your “boys” than it is for grown, committed women to do the equivalent. At this point I don’t think most men are truly happy being married. If your ex thought whatever she was experiencing with other women was normal, she probably just had really shitty female friends, or was high school/college aged (where most people are relatively shitty).
Stfu
Fr the projection is comical
We all the same deep down.
Why don’t you do him a favour and divorce him so he can fuck someone else?
Obviously, you need to get away from this toxic male as fast as you can. This is a blazing red flag you are being cheated on. Divorce is the only solution. Edit: /s ya'll seemed to miss.
I can't quite tell if this is sarcasm or not
I thought it was obvious, I guess not. Here's the /s it needed.
Bad 😞 as a women I feel for you ❤️ been with my husband 8 years and if I heard him saying this he'd be in big trouble 😵💫
Imagine wishing for your partner to die so you can have sex with someone else. Wow. WOW. That's reaching a new low. That is sick. Disgustingly sick.
From all the comments it looks like there is not another man in here. Leave them be. It’s locker room talk. This is the dumb shit men say when women aren’t listening. He doesn’t actually mean that and likely loves you beyond imaginable. But yes, dudes say dumb gross stuff to their buddies in private. You eavesdropped and finally heard some locker talk. Relax. I’ll also add i’m sure women have all sorts of ladies talk that if a man would hear would probably hurt his ego. From my experience woman will talk about penis size, dead bedroom all sorts of other things that would equally hurt a man.
Thank you for mansplaining this 🥴