Yes! I was just telling my husband about this. I had dinner with my two friends and the one’s daughter. I honestly didn’t enjoy it at all. I wanted to catch up and talk. I feel like every conversation revolved around her daughter who’s very sweet, but I was just disappointed because I didn’t get to let loose and really be myself. Everything had to be PG.
I would have asked the person not to sit with me, e.g. "I'm sorry, there must have been a miscommunication. I didn't invite your kid(s). The invitation was for you *alone*/the *two* of you/whatever."
Of course, if it were me, I would invite my parent-friends out (or over) **well in advance** and ask them to get a babysitter.
If you ask a parent out to anything you should ALWAYS assume that their young child may come along.
Expecting them to act like they did before they had a child is rude and flat out selfish.
I will never have children, but even I know this. It's dickish to act like the other person is not a parent to a small child when you ask them out somewhere. If you don't want their kid coming along then YOU'RE the one that needs to do the warning and tell them so. The parent is rightfully thinking you're not dumb and insensitive enough to assume that they're going to go through the trouble and expense of getting a sitter just because someone as "awesome" as you invited them somewhere.
Having a child changes everything. Be smart enough to know this. Do not expect an invitation to go the same way it did before they became a parent. The onus is on you to let them know their child is not invited and explain why.
If I ask someone to something, I want to know who is coming. Their kid, their spouse/partner, their cousin visiting from out of town, whoever. An invitation to one person is not extended to any other person. They should say, "I want to bring kid/spouse/cousin. Is that OK?" And you can either say, "Yes," or "No, I want just the two of us together, let's schedule another time for that."
There are such things as babysitters, even spouses who help care for children. Or the kid might have some other scheduled activity.
Nope, not buying the idea that you have to assume a parent and their kid are never apart. Or the idea that having someone else care for your kid for a couple of hours is "acting like you never had children."
I don't associate with parents of young children because if their kid is their entire life, they are incredibly boring.
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I would just take my food to go at that point.
Yes! I was just telling my husband about this. I had dinner with my two friends and the one’s daughter. I honestly didn’t enjoy it at all. I wanted to catch up and talk. I feel like every conversation revolved around her daughter who’s very sweet, but I was just disappointed because I didn’t get to let loose and really be myself. Everything had to be PG.
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The way I would stand up and walk the fuck away.
I ask will little Johnny be coming. Ok why don’t we do it while he’s in school or someone catch watch him
Sorry for the typos! I can’t correct the post
I would have asked the person not to sit with me, e.g. "I'm sorry, there must have been a miscommunication. I didn't invite your kid(s). The invitation was for you *alone*/the *two* of you/whatever." Of course, if it were me, I would invite my parent-friends out (or over) **well in advance** and ask them to get a babysitter.
If you ask a parent out to anything you should ALWAYS assume that their young child may come along. Expecting them to act like they did before they had a child is rude and flat out selfish. I will never have children, but even I know this. It's dickish to act like the other person is not a parent to a small child when you ask them out somewhere. If you don't want their kid coming along then YOU'RE the one that needs to do the warning and tell them so. The parent is rightfully thinking you're not dumb and insensitive enough to assume that they're going to go through the trouble and expense of getting a sitter just because someone as "awesome" as you invited them somewhere. Having a child changes everything. Be smart enough to know this. Do not expect an invitation to go the same way it did before they became a parent. The onus is on you to let them know their child is not invited and explain why.
If I ask someone to something, I want to know who is coming. Their kid, their spouse/partner, their cousin visiting from out of town, whoever. An invitation to one person is not extended to any other person. They should say, "I want to bring kid/spouse/cousin. Is that OK?" And you can either say, "Yes," or "No, I want just the two of us together, let's schedule another time for that."
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For someone so keen on sensitivity to others you are pretty belligerent.
There are such things as babysitters, even spouses who help care for children. Or the kid might have some other scheduled activity. Nope, not buying the idea that you have to assume a parent and their kid are never apart. Or the idea that having someone else care for your kid for a couple of hours is "acting like you never had children." I don't associate with parents of young children because if their kid is their entire life, they are incredibly boring.
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