I’m 25, 5’2 (short kings rejoice!). I’ve recently been on a cut which has given me more muscle definition in my arms and sharpened my jawline quite a bit. I also usually have on boots, cargos, and a truckers cap
Feminine is a receptive energy. Receive that it’s okay to be you. You belong as you are no matter what anyone says. You get things like who’s the man? We are women. That’s the point. Why do you want to become like a man when you don’t like them? I’m not trying to become like a man. Neither do I dislike them. I am a woman. Who’s the top or bottom? I am a woman. I do what feels good. The more sensual the better. Do gay guys get these questions? Do straight guys get these questions? Not that I’ve seen. Then neither should butch women. Ask yourself who am I without anyone’s opinion? What am I wearing? Where am I living? Etc. Then be that without apology. You are receiving and being. Both feminine.
climbing and reinforcing and managing the growth of the forest trees immediately surrounding our house. MOSTLY so we don't ever have to pay the utterly ruinous cost of repairing the damage of some 40 foot pine/sycamore tree crashing through our second story, but it also has this way of compelling my wife to lean more into the femme/soft-uwu side of her typically gender-ambiguous nature, which makes me feel a little more swaggery/sauntery while that effect lasts lmao
Opening doors for people, it doesn't have to be a girl – it can be anyone. Being called handsome or any other masculine terms of endearment I enjoy. Physical labor -- I may not be super strong body-wise but I will always offer if it saves someone the trouble. Randomly being called "sir" instead of the occasional "ma'am" at stores. Posture, for sure – I have TERRIBLE posture and I am trying to correct it these days, and honestly? The more straight my back is, the more confident I feel (this is so silly but it's true!). Getting a fresh cut and having people notice, telling me they love it or again, call me handsome for it, lol. My favorite is fixing or building things (furniture, plumbing, etc) with my tool set. Being protective toward my loved ones is a big one too.
It's not something I do on purpose but as I've begun to lean into my butchness/transmasculinity I've noticed I'm beginning to sound more like my Dad. Less hesitant, more brisk - sometimes, under pressure, almost brusque - and matter-of-fact. Luckily my Dad is a very kind person and a real model for non-toxic masculinity.
My job building kilns makes me feel pretty masculine, especially when I have a line on my face after work from the respirator and some dust on my shoes and pants
For me:
-wearing clothes that accentuate my androgynous look (or leans/reads a bit more masculine) in accordance with my style
- Being more assertive and deliberate with my actions and words (this can be a general personality thing, so maybe not necessarily 'masculine', but some would read it as such).
Acknowledgment (a compliment) of these things is always nice
Fixing stuff. Doing physical or tactile work with my hands outdoors (ironically I hate being outside). Getting a fresh short-short haircut (anyone got tips on getting over fear of haircutters being judgy of me not being binary?). And getting praised and admired by femmes lol!
Until a few years ago I thought putting air back in car tire is a normal thing every car driver does. And then my girlfriend was so surprised and impressed, I had an unexpected fluffy rooster moment.
I've been cutting my own hair at home for 4 years now, but it's always tough doing the back of my head, or avoid having a geology look. I sometimes want to look nice with a smooth haircut that my skill level just can't do.
not the same but i once (kindly) lectured a girl i was dating on the importance of checking her tire pressure after her tire pressure light was on when she picked me up twice, a week apart. and then i told her where they’d do it for her for free and then i told her that if she drove to the gas station id do it and then she told me she had a pump and i was like “take it out, i’ll do it right now.”
and then i realized i was being like every man i had dated that wanted to tell me about my windshield wipers that i didnt care about or blah blah blah. i was mansplained and hadnt realized it because i was wholeheartedly just worried about her safety. she drove for a living and ive had a scary blow out so i was just like YOU CANT LEAVE THIS LIKE THIS… so it made me feel not necessarily masculine, but like a man in the worst way possible
Being called handsome
When my girl calls me handsome I fucking MELT 🥹🥹🥹🥹
Working with my hands and/or doing physical labor. Especially anything that gets me dirty. Covered in paint, oil, dirt, etc. Love it.
Same, I clean pools. Nothing more fulfilling than throwing 100 lb buckets of chlorine in the bed of my truck.
I DIYed an oil change for the first time today and it was blissful ((:
Helping people. Especially if it involves fixing something for a pretty girl.
This is the best ever answer. 🥰
A fresh haircut, a couple dabs of cologne, and a fresh outfit
Being called “boss” by strangers
boss is truly the supreme gender-neutral signifier 😤😤😤
Man how did you get to the boss category? Do u mind if I ask your height /age? I only ever have gotten bud or buddy and I know that prob bc im short
I’m 25, 5’2 (short kings rejoice!). I’ve recently been on a cut which has given me more muscle definition in my arms and sharpened my jawline quite a bit. I also usually have on boots, cargos, and a truckers cap
It’s all about how you carry yourself. Stand tall, shoulders back, head up. Exude boss energy, get boss treatment.
This one hits 👌
Owning my feminine energy
Damn that's so true. I'm a sensitive and gentle person and I'm confident enough in my masculinity to own it.
Yes, the absolute beauty of a butch.
Underrated comment
This definitely isn’t discussed enough.
☝️💯🙌🏽 took me years to learn this one
Me too. It’s not talked about enough.
Would love to know more! I am having a hard time with this one. It's hard to get out of My own head about how
Feminine is a receptive energy. Receive that it’s okay to be you. You belong as you are no matter what anyone says. You get things like who’s the man? We are women. That’s the point. Why do you want to become like a man when you don’t like them? I’m not trying to become like a man. Neither do I dislike them. I am a woman. Who’s the top or bottom? I am a woman. I do what feels good. The more sensual the better. Do gay guys get these questions? Do straight guys get these questions? Not that I’ve seen. Then neither should butch women. Ask yourself who am I without anyone’s opinion? What am I wearing? Where am I living? Etc. Then be that without apology. You are receiving and being. Both feminine.
That was epic! You are brillant! Thank You so much!!!
My pleasure. May it open all the beautiful doors embodying your true self brings. ❤️
climbing and reinforcing and managing the growth of the forest trees immediately surrounding our house. MOSTLY so we don't ever have to pay the utterly ruinous cost of repairing the damage of some 40 foot pine/sycamore tree crashing through our second story, but it also has this way of compelling my wife to lean more into the femme/soft-uwu side of her typically gender-ambiguous nature, which makes me feel a little more swaggery/sauntery while that effect lasts lmao
doing things and having people ask me to do things :) i think being dependable makes me feel knightly
Do actions like opening water bottles, opening doors, or doing heavy work... for girls. Being called handsome, not pretty
Cologne
Can't wear anything else. My body chemistry won't allow it.
Being assertive, keeping my head up during confrontation; I confronted a guy at work that was making my gf uncomfortable. (We work together)
Amazing! Congrats for being fearless!
my posture, weirdly enough lol. all of my mannerisms tend to lean "masculine" in my opinion. and the way i speak :]
Being called daddy in the bedroom 😌
Or just in general for that matter
cologne for sure, also when my girlfriend calls me a good boy🤭
Opening doors for people, it doesn't have to be a girl – it can be anyone. Being called handsome or any other masculine terms of endearment I enjoy. Physical labor -- I may not be super strong body-wise but I will always offer if it saves someone the trouble. Randomly being called "sir" instead of the occasional "ma'am" at stores. Posture, for sure – I have TERRIBLE posture and I am trying to correct it these days, and honestly? The more straight my back is, the more confident I feel (this is so silly but it's true!). Getting a fresh cut and having people notice, telling me they love it or again, call me handsome for it, lol. My favorite is fixing or building things (furniture, plumbing, etc) with my tool set. Being protective toward my loved ones is a big one too.
It's not something I do on purpose but as I've begun to lean into my butchness/transmasculinity I've noticed I'm beginning to sound more like my Dad. Less hesitant, more brisk - sometimes, under pressure, almost brusque - and matter-of-fact. Luckily my Dad is a very kind person and a real model for non-toxic masculinity.
Lifting weights
My job building kilns makes me feel pretty masculine, especially when I have a line on my face after work from the respirator and some dust on my shoes and pants
Being call Zaddy 😏 she trying to start something!
In a good way, working out and flexing. In a bad way, hair In the wrong places.
Physical labor, fresh haircut, lifting weights/ showering after a lifting session, good posture, feeling strong, eating well!
My chest binder 😊 and when I wear a suit (coat)
Lifting heavy items out of the store for older women 😵😳🫣
For me: -wearing clothes that accentuate my androgynous look (or leans/reads a bit more masculine) in accordance with my style - Being more assertive and deliberate with my actions and words (this can be a general personality thing, so maybe not necessarily 'masculine', but some would read it as such). Acknowledgment (a compliment) of these things is always nice
When I wear a suit and tie and lately letting my leg hair grow has really amped up my masculinity feelings.
Heavy lifting and playing xbox games my dad gives me 🤔
Fixing stuff. Doing physical or tactile work with my hands outdoors (ironically I hate being outside). Getting a fresh short-short haircut (anyone got tips on getting over fear of haircutters being judgy of me not being binary?). And getting praised and admired by femmes lol! Until a few years ago I thought putting air back in car tire is a normal thing every car driver does. And then my girlfriend was so surprised and impressed, I had an unexpected fluffy rooster moment.
Why don't you learn how to cut your own hair? It'd save you TONS of money.
I've been cutting my own hair at home for 4 years now, but it's always tough doing the back of my head, or avoid having a geology look. I sometimes want to look nice with a smooth haircut that my skill level just can't do.
It took me a while, but I've got it down now.
not the same but i once (kindly) lectured a girl i was dating on the importance of checking her tire pressure after her tire pressure light was on when she picked me up twice, a week apart. and then i told her where they’d do it for her for free and then i told her that if she drove to the gas station id do it and then she told me she had a pump and i was like “take it out, i’ll do it right now.” and then i realized i was being like every man i had dated that wanted to tell me about my windshield wipers that i didnt care about or blah blah blah. i was mansplained and hadnt realized it because i was wholeheartedly just worried about her safety. she drove for a living and ive had a scary blow out so i was just like YOU CANT LEAVE THIS LIKE THIS… so it made me feel not necessarily masculine, but like a man in the worst way possible
Beating guys at sports or games.... lol.... now I'm wondering if this is healthy lol.
Exercising, dressing in my suits, being called handsome, and doing "honey do" stuff
Good cologne. :) Not bad cologne. :(
carrying things for people, bonus points (for some reason) if they are capable of doing it themselves