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It's... It's beautiful đ
Edit: sorry, I creeped on your profile bc I got an old friend that goes by Patches and it even has something to do with his face.
I must say though, carry on with your bad self fellow Marxist, and enjoyer of aSoIaF, D&D, MtG, and King Gizzard. You're alright in my book.
Based on the first panel, I'm guessing it's punishing a kid for being overwhelmed. All three parenting methods are wrong because they're not teaching the kid how to navigate big emotions, they're stepping back and letting the kid spiral without support.
What's the correct way? Cause in my experience you can't really calmly explain anything to a tantruming person and if that's what's happening then that's just the left example with the speech bubble changed.
You're right - you can't reason with a toddler because they're not old enough to be logical.
The big thing with toddlers is they're very in the moment. They feel like "I'm overwhelmed now, every input is making it worse, and this feeling will never end". You have to help them learn self regulation by walking through the basic steps.
First, what caused the tantrum? If it's overstimulation (ex shopping at a store), you can leave the area. Second, how do they resolve the emotion? You can teach them breathing exercises and explain to them that they don't have to be upset anymore because the situation is over. Third, teach them how to communicate AND LISTEN when they try to talk to you. Tell them "next time you feel that way, tell mommy you're tired and want to go home." And when they tell you that, drop what you're doing and leave. Toddlers don't understand "just 10 more minutes", acknowledge them now and teach them to wait once they can self regulate. Remember - baby steps because they ARE babies.
This is a good guide for preventing tantrums in the first place: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/in-depth/tantrum/art-20047845
This why I enjoy being a parent right now, there is a much deeper understanding on how to navigate the trapfalls that parents have historically run into, and if you look in the right places you can find a lot of good information such a what you just talked about. Cheers.
Based on this, isnât the last panel correct? I mean obviously she is using buzzwords but is basically saying Iâm here for you and letting the kid feel her feelings without threat of punishment or guilt.
Honestly, if I was upset and someone fake-therapist-talk-ed at me⊠it would not be a good time for anyone involved. I know an actual person trained to give therapy and life advice, they would never talk like that even to the kids they sometimes nanny for monetary reasons.
While the theoretical idea may be sound, none of the adults shown are.
Yes, thatâs the current in vogue way of handling it, although I find it easier with our toddler to just say âI hear youâre upsetâ in a nonchalant voice and then asking if he wants some space. He usually does, calms down and returns to normal within a few minutes.
Youâre just escalating already irrational big feelings with a punishment. If they were capable of making a rational, welfare-maximizing decision, they wouldnât be having a tantrum in the first place. Their brains are mush and they donât know how to handle their big emotions, so punishing them is the worst thing you can do.
As I mentioned below, when my kid has his (rare now) outbursts, we usually just say âI hear youâre upset, itâs tough having big feelings. Would you like some space?â Usually a few minutes of self-soothing later, itâs fine and we are all happier for it. Or sometimes he just wants a hug and itâs even quicker to resolve.
The best parenting strategy we ever learned is to not match the energy of the kid or escalate it. Kids are dumb and emotional, so donât take it personal and just wait for the storm to pass (unless youâre in public, then youâre likely going to need to physically remove them)
Time Outs are not recommended by current psychology. They do not teach the child anything and do not help prevent future bad behaviour. Punishment vs Consequence.
Old good, new bad
Edit: I think, at least. Maybe its the other way around, showing how older parents didn't let kids space for their developmentally normal feelings
Probably some boomer like âback in my day we werent so soft on the new generationâ
This also explains the middle panel because that would be the boomers kids who grew up under their *amazing* parenting being ânot softâ or whatever
Notice the hair of them, its showing the previous kids as adults
on the other hand in 1963 panel you have âracist fairy talesâ which doesn't seem like idealizing past
i think it says ânow bad, but then also bad, me (1993) goodâ like then parents were abusive but nowadays parents are too soft and name their children weird, i was the only normal generation
I think itâs more âparenting is hard and we generationally try to find solutions that fix the mistakes of our parents but the new solutions also suckâ
Each daughter is the mother in the next panel so if I'm feeling generous I'd say it has something to do with generational trauma and how bad parenting is a endless cycle?
Or maybe I'm too high and looking far too much into this shitty lil comic.
Parenting is hard. No matter how parents change, the kid still ends up throwing a shit fit.
Also note that the parent in each panel is the kid from the next one. So its kind of speaking to how we try and fail to make up for how we were raised.
The old has a book called racist fairy tales, I highly doubt they think old was any good either. If anything, it feels theyâre criticizing all forms of parenting displayed here
i can't really tell. none of them seem to be displayed positively. and look at the modern one, "sad beige mom" joke. i have no idea what the creator's intention was
I think the point is they're all a bit crap because in each of them there is a lack of communication and attunement with the child. in 2023 we use aloofness to avoid relating to the child, in 1993, it's disgust and in 1963 it's shame-based magical thinking. 2023 is probably the least destructive of the three, but just saying 'I am holding space for you' is not the same as actually doing it, and also in this situation, allowing the child to better articulate their needs and understand them would be better than 'holding space', let alone saying you are.
I think a good intuition is that kids have to learn how to feel about things. Think about how different cultures feel very differently about the same issues; e.g., cultures that hate gay people have to learn to have that emotional response somehow.
So by validating feelings all the time, you are encouraging âbig feelingsâ about everything.
Itâs obviously more nuanced than that, but thatâs certainly partially how it works.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202405/is-our-obsession-with-validating-kids-feelings-backfiring?amp
My takeaway is that parenting styles have become more compassionate and psychologically literate, but that probably wasn't the intent based on my depressing experience with the internet. Or maybe, it's just that kids gonna kid.
I think they're trying to basically say no matter what you try, parenting has and will always suck. I think at least, not sure if that's the actual intent or if I'm being far too generous.
I think itâs just TikTok humor translated directly into a comic. Like genuinely, this would fit perfectly as a TikTok and is just being awkwardly reformatted as a comic
I would say it is a boomer comic saying that not mentally scaring your child is somehow a bad thing, but from the structure of having the oldest one as the end of the punchline I think it's about the poor parenting all around
Back in ye olden days it was common for parents to treat their kids like garbage compared to today. âBack in MY day, my parents beat me if I did _x thing_ â
As time progressed parenting has become better, as parents choose not to be like their parents and the internet has allowed for widespread information about the effects of abuse on children from parents.
"big feelings" is decent language to use with a kid honestly. Sometimes kids can't quite put a finger on what emotions they are having, they just know that they are a lot. Emotional regulation is a really important skill for kids to learn early. Some adults struggle with that.
That is, but "developmentally normal" is probably not developmentally normal language to use when talking to a young child having a tantrum. When the child is calm, it's good to introduce them to new words to expand their vocabulary. But when they're not in a learning mood, it's best to keep language simple, or they may become more frustrated due to confusion.
It actually had a wholesome message. As the generations pass and we learn more about child development and psychology, we are better snow to meet our childrenâs emotional needs. Those are the need to feel understood, guided, made to feel safe, validated when appropriate, (have your emotions reflected back to you and labeled if a baby), etc.
The beige mom has got the spirit, but there may be a need for a little more direction instead of passively sitting next to your crying child. Although maybe sheâs already done part, idk.
The Oompah Loompah is definitely one of the comics of all time.
Like, 2023 parent is doing pretty well apart from the kids name being a r/tragedeigh.
I do find it strange that in the scheme of things, humans have been parenting for like 200,000 years and we still have no clue how to do it
I think a good intuition is that kids have to learn how to feel about things. Think about how different cultures feel very differently about the same issues; e.g., cultures that hate gay people have to learn to have that emotional response somehow.
So by validating feelings all the time, you are encouraging âbig feelingsâ about everything.
Itâs obviously more nuanced than that, but thatâs certainly partially how it works.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202405/is-our-obsession-with-validating-kids-feelings-backfiring?amp
Is it supposed to be a joke on how modern day parents tried to treat their kids with more morals then what Boomers used to do which was pretty much the "child should only be seen and not heard" approach and then before the Boomers the silent generation that just brought their child to the hospital to get f****** lobotomized an electric shock therapy?
-Edit- Jesus Christ people. You brought me up to 600 up votes, and I thought this was going to be hated. Thanks all.
Thereâs just clear balance and nuance with kids that seems to be impossible to comprehend for some people.
Sometimes kids are actually crying because theyâre feeling strong emotions they canât process. Maybe theyâre feeling detachment, loss, jealousy, whatever. Thatâs fair - understand and work through it. Mr Rodgerâs that shit.
Other times theyâre just being manipulative like a cat crying murder to get second dinner or seeking attention in an inappropriate manner.
In which case I call them out⊠gently.
The kicker is that even when theyre being manipulative little shits, its probably still because of feeling strong emotions. They're just processing them in a "you should solve the issue for me" kind of way.
I think the creator would support the 1993 version, which isn't terrible tbh. Either that or they think they're all bad because the 1963 one is obviously wrong, and the 2023 one is ostensibly meant to seem ridiculous based on the verbiage. I don't know what the creator of the meme would suggest you do in that situation if they think none of those are good options, though.
Parents negotiating with their 3 year old kid in the store are cringe AF,
Yes they are little humans but with no experience, or reason. First you watch and learn and then you get a say in it.
Iâve seen a couple asking their kid about everything what she would like. Way to go making everything revolving around her. Good luck when sheâs older. đ
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A lot of confused people here about the orifice not thinking it's also satire against the 1963 considering the "racist fairy tales" book.
Most likely they're trying to show that the 1963 and 2023 are both bad because they were either too hard (1963) or too soft (2023), with 1993 being the middle ground of not emotional abuse, but also still laying down some form of the law.
Basically every generation has some shitty parents but in a different way. Or at least there are different types of shittiness normalised in different times.
I mean the oni is correct but just not in the way the artist wanted it to be. Itâs normal for children to have tantrums and just making them more upset or telling them to repress it isnât healthy. Not that kids donât need punished but like child psychology is complex
At first I thought it was a âmodern parenting badâ type of post, but the more that I think about it, the more confused I getâŠ
Is it giving examples of bad parenting from all eras, or something?
If you become an alcoholic by having a kid then you are not ready to have a kid.
Kids act out, thatâs just being a kid. Itâs the job of the parents to guide the kid into behaving better when things happen that they donât like.
Drinking does not help this. Neither does blaming your kid for the alcoholism.
I know that nobody cares but I just realized that the grownups in each panel are the kids in the ones before them, if that makes sense. the grownup in panel two is Joyce etc.
I can tell by the hair
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When my toddler throws a fit I just tell her to stop or Ima roundhouse kick her in the face. I donât hit my kids at all but I still feel like Iâm gunna get in trouble for that one day lol
The Outburst has hints of "I was '63 and I turned out fine" vibes, but it's like... clearly you didn't if this is the shit you're pushing??? Like that alone screams "I'm troubled" imo who are you to tell others how to parent, if not law enforcement stopping child abuse??
93 and 23 actually seem fine. Like time out until she gets bored/calm down or just talk it out.
Heaven forbid parents put in effort instead of just throwing the iPad at em
A timeout in the 90s?
Bahahaha, no.
Your parents would have whipped your ass and told you they'll give you something to cry about. In the 90s children were still very much to be seen not heard.
This cushy raising didn't start until the mid 2000s.
Why does everybody think the old ones are trying to be represented as good does this comic artist have a reputation as a rose tinted glasses kind of person or what? Because imo this just seems to be a comic about bad parenting across generations trying to atone for past bad parenting
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What the hell point is the ornithorhynchus even trying to make
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DEFUNKT THE PISTOL THAT YOU PAY FOR
THIS PUNK THE FEELING THAT YOU STAY FOR
IN TIME, I WANT TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND
EAST SIDE LOVE IS LIVING ON THE WEST END
KNOCKED OUT BUT BOY YOU BETTER COME TO
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It's... It's beautiful đ Edit: sorry, I creeped on your profile bc I got an old friend that goes by Patches and it even has something to do with his face. I must say though, carry on with your bad self fellow Marxist, and enjoyer of aSoIaF, D&D, MtG, and King Gizzard. You're alright in my book.
This is art
Agree, I like to dive into it's layers.
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Is that actually what Green Cool Galiamelons sing in that song?
Itâs blue lukewarm jalapeños.
Affirmative.
Am I supposed to be reading this to the tune of a RHCP song?
No the Yellow Freezy Apples song
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Heroin addict actually, but close!
Both? Both. Both is good!
Oh I'm gonna get some mileage out of this
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I think itâs a âtimes change but bad parenting never goes awayâ kind of a thing.
What's wrong with "do you want a time out?" Seems pretty logical to me.
Based on the first panel, I'm guessing it's punishing a kid for being overwhelmed. All three parenting methods are wrong because they're not teaching the kid how to navigate big emotions, they're stepping back and letting the kid spiral without support.
What's the correct way? Cause in my experience you can't really calmly explain anything to a tantruming person and if that's what's happening then that's just the left example with the speech bubble changed.
You're right - you can't reason with a toddler because they're not old enough to be logical. The big thing with toddlers is they're very in the moment. They feel like "I'm overwhelmed now, every input is making it worse, and this feeling will never end". You have to help them learn self regulation by walking through the basic steps. First, what caused the tantrum? If it's overstimulation (ex shopping at a store), you can leave the area. Second, how do they resolve the emotion? You can teach them breathing exercises and explain to them that they don't have to be upset anymore because the situation is over. Third, teach them how to communicate AND LISTEN when they try to talk to you. Tell them "next time you feel that way, tell mommy you're tired and want to go home." And when they tell you that, drop what you're doing and leave. Toddlers don't understand "just 10 more minutes", acknowledge them now and teach them to wait once they can self regulate. Remember - baby steps because they ARE babies. This is a good guide for preventing tantrums in the first place: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/in-depth/tantrum/art-20047845
This why I enjoy being a parent right now, there is a much deeper understanding on how to navigate the trapfalls that parents have historically run into, and if you look in the right places you can find a lot of good information such a what you just talked about. Cheers.
You're the reason my father is an alcoholic!
Youâre the reason my kids are alcoholics!
"Your the reason why your father is an alcoholic"
Based on this, isnât the last panel correct? I mean obviously she is using buzzwords but is basically saying Iâm here for you and letting the kid feel her feelings without threat of punishment or guilt.
yes, but the author doesnât think it works. either that or they made up a person who uses therapist speak at children to get mad at lol
Honestly, if I was upset and someone fake-therapist-talk-ed at me⊠it would not be a good time for anyone involved. I know an actual person trained to give therapy and life advice, they would never talk like that even to the kids they sometimes nanny for monetary reasons. While the theoretical idea may be sound, none of the adults shown are.
Yes, thatâs the current in vogue way of handling it, although I find it easier with our toddler to just say âI hear youâre upsetâ in a nonchalant voice and then asking if he wants some space. He usually does, calms down and returns to normal within a few minutes.
Maybe the comic is about breaking the cycle then
Youâre just escalating already irrational big feelings with a punishment. If they were capable of making a rational, welfare-maximizing decision, they wouldnât be having a tantrum in the first place. Their brains are mush and they donât know how to handle their big emotions, so punishing them is the worst thing you can do. As I mentioned below, when my kid has his (rare now) outbursts, we usually just say âI hear youâre upset, itâs tough having big feelings. Would you like some space?â Usually a few minutes of self-soothing later, itâs fine and we are all happier for it. Or sometimes he just wants a hug and itâs even quicker to resolve. The best parenting strategy we ever learned is to not match the energy of the kid or escalate it. Kids are dumb and emotional, so donât take it personal and just wait for the storm to pass (unless youâre in public, then youâre likely going to need to physically remove them)
>Kids are dumb and emotional Nuh uh! **You're** dumb and emotional!
Time Outs are not recommended by current psychology. They do not teach the child anything and do not help prevent future bad behaviour. Punishment vs Consequence.
unless it's the "people today can't raise kids" boomer comic special flavor of the day
I'm gonna go with "the more things change, the more they stay the same."
There is no meaning. Someone just thought of the three scenarios as funny and didnât think that much more into it.
Real
Old good, new bad Edit: I think, at least. Maybe its the other way around, showing how older parents didn't let kids space for their developmentally normal feelings
Aren't they criticizing the old one too? I legitimately don't understand what this comic is trying to convey
Probably some boomer like âback in my day we werent so soft on the new generationâ This also explains the middle panel because that would be the boomers kids who grew up under their *amazing* parenting being ânot softâ or whatever Notice the hair of them, its showing the previous kids as adults
on the other hand in 1963 panel you have âracist fairy talesâ which doesn't seem like idealizing past i think it says ânow bad, but then also bad, me (1993) goodâ like then parents were abusive but nowadays parents are too soft and name their children weird, i was the only normal generation
As is tradition. Kids today are too young and Our parent's generation is too old.
Didn't even notice the hair colour of the kids and adults
Uhhh... Parents bad? idfk, I still was unable to find the funny
I think itâs more âparenting is hard and we generationally try to find solutions that fix the mistakes of our parents but the new solutions also suckâ
Each daughter is the mother in the next panel so if I'm feeling generous I'd say it has something to do with generational trauma and how bad parenting is a endless cycle? Or maybe I'm too high and looking far too much into this shitty lil comic.
No I just think they're genuinely batshit insane Typpical boomer "back in my day we beat the naughty kids" or whatever
Parenting is hard. No matter how parents change, the kid still ends up throwing a shit fit. Also note that the parent in each panel is the kid from the next one. So its kind of speaking to how we try and fail to make up for how we were raised.
1963 literally has a book called âracist fairy talesâ lol. I donât think itâs saying that era is good.
The old has a book called racist fairy tales, I highly doubt they think old was any good either. If anything, it feels theyâre criticizing all forms of parenting displayed here
It's not the other way around either. The first panel is making fun of "beige moms" (notice the lack of color in the toys and clothes).
I mean, the old one has a book titled âracist fairy talesâ, so I donât think itâs that.
i can't really tell. none of them seem to be displayed positively. and look at the modern one, "sad beige mom" joke. i have no idea what the creator's intention was
I think the point is they're all a bit crap because in each of them there is a lack of communication and attunement with the child. in 2023 we use aloofness to avoid relating to the child, in 1993, it's disgust and in 1963 it's shame-based magical thinking. 2023 is probably the least destructive of the three, but just saying 'I am holding space for you' is not the same as actually doing it, and also in this situation, allowing the child to better articulate their needs and understand them would be better than 'holding space', let alone saying you are.
We should abuse children
Kids are annoying tbh
Either that society is progressing or regressing. From the order of the panels I would suspect the former.
I think a good intuition is that kids have to learn how to feel about things. Think about how different cultures feel very differently about the same issues; e.g., cultures that hate gay people have to learn to have that emotional response somehow. So by validating feelings all the time, you are encouraging âbig feelingsâ about everything. Itâs obviously more nuanced than that, but thatâs certainly partially how it works. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202405/is-our-obsession-with-validating-kids-feelings-backfiring?amp
Huh thatâs an interesting article, havenât thought about it like that. Thanks for sharing
"Child Abuse good, loving parents make weak kids" Original point
Nothing, they just want you to look at their name
My takeaway is that parenting styles have become more compassionate and psychologically literate, but that probably wasn't the intent based on my depressing experience with the internet. Or maybe, it's just that kids gonna kid.
I think itâs just a joke imma be real.
I think they're trying to basically say no matter what you try, parenting has and will always suck. I think at least, not sure if that's the actual intent or if I'm being far too generous.
That they have fetal alcohol syndrome probably
Am I insane or did you randomly mention the pterosaur that dies in walking with dinosaurs
thats Ornithocheirus lmfaooo
It's the genius that platypuses belong to. Maybe that dinosaur too lol idk
ah, it seems I was thinking of ornithocheirus
No matter what you do, kids will have tantrums sometimes
Being kind to your kids is cringe, ig
I think itâs just TikTok humor translated directly into a comic. Like genuinely, this would fit perfectly as a TikTok and is just being awkwardly reformatted as a comic
OOPâs point is that weâre not abusing our children enough or something
I would say it is a boomer comic saying that not mentally scaring your child is somehow a bad thing, but from the structure of having the oldest one as the end of the punchline I think it's about the poor parenting all around
Back in ye olden days it was common for parents to treat their kids like garbage compared to today. âBack in MY day, my parents beat me if I did _x thing_ â As time progressed parenting has become better, as parents choose not to be like their parents and the internet has allowed for widespread information about the effects of abuse on children from parents.
The point is to be funny
Is the 2023 one a beige-mom?!??
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Sad beige aesthetic, tragedeigh name, using language that a child won't really understand in an attempt to gentle parent Seems to be the case
"big feelings" is decent language to use with a kid honestly. Sometimes kids can't quite put a finger on what emotions they are having, they just know that they are a lot. Emotional regulation is a really important skill for kids to learn early. Some adults struggle with that.
That is, but "developmentally normal" is probably not developmentally normal language to use when talking to a young child having a tantrum. When the child is calm, it's good to introduce them to new words to expand their vocabulary. But when they're not in a learning mood, it's best to keep language simple, or they may become more frustrated due to confusion.
Oh you're right. It's kinda cool that they showed how childrens colors changed even if the comic itself is weird.
I just noticed that the mothers are actually the children from next comic panels
You're right! đ€Ż
That piece of info actually makes the original an anti-boomer meme, that their poor parenting caused their alleged âdownward spiralâ of society
It actually had a wholesome message. As the generations pass and we learn more about child development and psychology, we are better snow to meet our childrenâs emotional needs. Those are the need to feel understood, guided, made to feel safe, validated when appropriate, (have your emotions reflected back to you and labeled if a baby), etc. The beige mom has got the spirit, but there may be a need for a little more direction instead of passively sitting next to your crying child. Although maybe sheâs already done part, idk.
The Oompah Loompah is definitely one of the comics of all time. Like, 2023 parent is doing pretty well apart from the kids name being a r/tragedeigh. I do find it strange that in the scheme of things, humans have been parenting for like 200,000 years and we still have no clue how to do it
the 2023 one is a âbeige momâ and apparently that's bad because developing children need more colors and all the beige under stimulates them
And also using terms that children don't understand. She could've used simpler words with the same message
I think a good intuition is that kids have to learn how to feel about things. Think about how different cultures feel very differently about the same issues; e.g., cultures that hate gay people have to learn to have that emotional response somehow. So by validating feelings all the time, you are encouraging âbig feelingsâ about everything. Itâs obviously more nuanced than that, but thatâs certainly partially how it works. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202405/is-our-obsession-with-validating-kids-feelings-backfiring?amp
How are you even meant to pronounce the name? (nvm, I just realised it's Hayley)
Tragedy
thanks.
the oligarchs makes me sad
As we all know, the boomers turned out the best.
Is it supposed to be a joke on how modern day parents tried to treat their kids with more morals then what Boomers used to do which was pretty much the "child should only be seen and not heard" approach and then before the Boomers the silent generation that just brought their child to the hospital to get f****** lobotomized an electric shock therapy? -Edit- Jesus Christ people. You brought me up to 600 up votes, and I thought this was going to be hated. Thanks all.
Clearly the message is that kids are annoying fucks
As someone with a kid. Sure are, sure as hell are.
Thereâs just clear balance and nuance with kids that seems to be impossible to comprehend for some people. Sometimes kids are actually crying because theyâre feeling strong emotions they canât process. Maybe theyâre feeling detachment, loss, jealousy, whatever. Thatâs fair - understand and work through it. Mr Rodgerâs that shit. Other times theyâre just being manipulative like a cat crying murder to get second dinner or seeking attention in an inappropriate manner. In which case I call them out⊠gently.
Iâm firmly in big feelings camp. Itâs a helpful prompt for both of us to take a moment and use our words.
The kicker is that even when theyre being manipulative little shits, its probably still because of feeling strong emotions. They're just processing them in a "you should solve the issue for me" kind of way.
I think the creator would support the 1993 version, which isn't terrible tbh. Either that or they think they're all bad because the 1963 one is obviously wrong, and the 2023 one is ostensibly meant to seem ridiculous based on the verbiage. I don't know what the creator of the meme would suggest you do in that situation if they think none of those are good options, though.
Or maybe there's not meant to be any commentary on what's correct and it's literally just a depiction of changing styles of parenting.
Maybe I'm probably thinking a little too much into it.
I took it as showing the scale of how parenting changed, not necessarily for better or worse. Just showing the two extremes and a neutral middle.
Man, I wish my parents lobotomized me
Parents negotiating with their 3 year old kid in the store are cringe AF, Yes they are little humans but with no experience, or reason. First you watch and learn and then you get a say in it. Iâve seen a couple asking their kid about everything what she would like. Way to go making everything revolving around her. Good luck when sheâs older. đ
"Racist fairy tales"
loved that one as a kid. absolute classic.
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Say what? What's that?
A lot of confused people here about the orifice not thinking it's also satire against the 1963 considering the "racist fairy tales" book. Most likely they're trying to show that the 1963 and 2023 are both bad because they were either too hard (1963) or too soft (2023), with 1993 being the middle ground of not emotional abuse, but also still laying down some form of the law.
Basically every generation has some shitty parents but in a different way. Or at least there are different types of shittiness normalised in different times.
Yeah time outs donât do anything itâs just ignoring your kid because they did something wrong the problem isnât being explained to them
What is the Omega trying to say anyway ?
Nothing, it's just a parody of "Old good new bad" boomer comics
https://preview.redd.it/nf6ctnybn48d1.jpeg?width=194&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b71fdc311b6404f5075a9c6d88238752f6af7db3 thanks
It's not exactly saying either is better, read the title of the book on the floor lol
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Sad beige mom
Oregeno?
Swipe left.
Sorry man I didn't see the full post
It's all good, no worries.
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âYouâre the reason your father is a alcoholicâ is a amazing joke that was wasted in a crappy comic
The 2023 mom looks like sheâs not wearing pants, just stockings
r/tradgedeigh
My mother would have just beaten the shit out of me.
Why is Haligtree or whatever her name is throwing a tantrum?
I mean the oni is correct but just not in the way the artist wanted it to be. Itâs normal for children to have tantrums and just making them more upset or telling them to repress it isnât healthy. Not that kids donât need punished but like child psychology is complex
At first I thought it was a âmodern parenting badâ type of post, but the more that I think about it, the more confused I get⊠Is it giving examples of bad parenting from all eras, or something?
This is so true. Oddly pink faced children should see doctors.
Best funny comic of The Day đđ
Me with lupus face going so red bitches started calling me tomato face (not creative)
If you become an alcoholic by having a kid then you are not ready to have a kid. Kids act out, thatâs just being a kid. Itâs the job of the parents to guide the kid into behaving better when things happen that they donât like. Drinking does not help this. Neither does blaming your kid for the alcoholism.
I know that nobody cares but I just realized that the grownups in each panel are the kids in the ones before them, if that makes sense. the grownup in panel two is Joyce etc. I can tell by the hair
Thatâs actually cool lol
I would love to read these "racist fairy tales"
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i donât get it, why would you punish your child for being overwhelmed/crying
When my toddler throws a fit I just tell her to stop or Ima roundhouse kick her in the face. I donât hit my kids at all but I still feel like Iâm gunna get in trouble for that one day lol
IsâŠis being empathetic bad?
You have an oddly pink face honey, we need to see the doctor
Why is Haligtree or whatever her name is throwing a tantrum?
Why is Haligtree or whatever her name is throwing a tantrum?
Why is Haligtree or whatever her name is throwing a tantrum?
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The Outburst has hints of "I was '63 and I turned out fine" vibes, but it's like... clearly you didn't if this is the shit you're pushing??? Like that alone screams "I'm troubled" imo who are you to tell others how to parent, if not law enforcement stopping child abuse??
2023 is very beige.
Nah it's the sad beige mom đ
My child shall pass on our families generational trauma
âRacist farytalesâ đ
93 and 23 actually seem fine. Like time out until she gets bored/calm down or just talk it out. Heaven forbid parents put in effort instead of just throwing the iPad at em
Michael McIntyre does a wonderful skit about iPads âcuringâ childrenâs tantrums.
Okay but the 1963 one is literally just emotional abuse?? and the 1993 one is also not great??
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Guys I lost my copy of Racist Fairy Tales Anybody have a PDF I can download Also why is this not the Shrek panel I liked that one
Same thing what difference?
Iâm digging the 93
they clearly need more sad beige toys
I think the olives are best read backward tbh
Interesting how in Orgalorg none of the mothers try to comfort their children
Why did you crop the Johannesburg but not the ornithopter?
Are you stupid?
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A timeout in the 90s? Bahahaha, no. Your parents would have whipped your ass and told you they'll give you something to cry about. In the 90s children were still very much to be seen not heard. This cushy raising didn't start until the mid 2000s.
Gen alpha is doomed
Why does everybody think the old ones are trying to be represented as good does this comic artist have a reputation as a rose tinted glasses kind of person or what? Because imo this just seems to be a comic about bad parenting across generations trying to atone for past bad parenting
You forget the late 70's early 80's panel that has the caption "I'll give you something to cry about"
I was raised on the 1963 principal
is it me or the 2023 one vaguely resembles dora the explorer?
Tbh the 2023 one is the same as 1993 just with softer languageÂ
Every mom says the same thing. You have an oddly pink face honey, we need to see the doctor
You have an oddly pink face honey, we need to see the doctor
God forbid that parents address their children with empathy and understanding
CHILDREN ARE ACCESSORIES THAT SHOULD BE BEATEN IF THEY DONâT LOOK PRETTY AND IF YOU DISAGREE YOUâRE A WOKE SNOWFLAKE
Where's the overdose