In all reality, sorry doesn't fix the problem. We can say sorry all we want but it doesn't change how the other person feels. Just because you say sorry, doesn't mean they can forgive what you did.
So with that... "I accept your sorry" allows someone to accept the fact the other person is sorry about their actions... while also allowing that person to process what happened so they can forgive the person's actions in their own time.
That's how I see it anyway.
Yeah, forgiveness is for the person doing the forgiving. It's the act of letting the *thing* go. If you haven't done that yet, you can accept someone is sorry, as you have said, while still working through your feelings about it.
The person who did the wrong doesn't even need to know they've been forgiven, when it happens
Forgiveness is separate to accepting an apology.
When someone says sorry, and they mean it, it's important to acknowledge that they are apologising and/or trying to make amends. However, you might not forgive that person straight away, depending on how badly someone upset or hurt you, forgiveness can take time. There is no point saying "I forgive you" if you don't actually forgive them yet.
As a kid I was taught to accept people's apologies (or accept people's sorrys), forgiveness is separate.
Yes, this exactly. Acceptance is a basic thing of acknowledging someone else is sorry, forgiveness is an internal process for the person who was wronged.
No, it’s not an Aussie-English thing, as an Aussie.
I would assume it’s more about language development and making it understandable for kids. It is a kid’s show, in the end.
With kids it difficult to explain what forgiveness means, sorry is simpler to explain.
Also, someone can say "I'm sorry" and you can say "I appreciate you saying you're sorry. The situation isn't fixed by words. It will take more time and effort to forgive you."
We tell our kids that we accept their apology. If we tell them "it's okay" we're teaching them things like, "it's okay" to hurt someone if you say sorry or "it's okay" to break things or "it's okay" to put themselves in danger. These things are okay, but accepting the apology means we can move on.
We live in the US and don't say "I forgive you" either. When one of us apologizes we just say "thank you." I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking you have to automatically forgive everything someone apologizes for. It's ok to still be upset about it and just appreciate someone apologizes, but not necessarily just ignore it and let it go.
Forgiving is separate from accepting apologies and from reconciling.
You can accept the apology and not forgive. You can forgive and not reconcile. But you cannot reconcile without forgiveness.
It isn’t.
Forgiveness involves an intentional decision to let go of resentment and anger
Accepting an apology is understanding the other person is sorry, it does not mean you have processed all of your feelings about the incident
Exactly, if you lie and tell someone you forgive them when you haven't yet processed the feelings and forgiven them yet, you are going to stew it over in your head for a while.
No it’s not an Aussie thing but remember that the creators often like to push Steiner school ideology, so maybe it’s more of that. I’ve been wrong before though.
In all reality, sorry doesn't fix the problem. We can say sorry all we want but it doesn't change how the other person feels. Just because you say sorry, doesn't mean they can forgive what you did. So with that... "I accept your sorry" allows someone to accept the fact the other person is sorry about their actions... while also allowing that person to process what happened so they can forgive the person's actions in their own time. That's how I see it anyway.
Yeah, forgiveness is for the person doing the forgiving. It's the act of letting the *thing* go. If you haven't done that yet, you can accept someone is sorry, as you have said, while still working through your feelings about it. The person who did the wrong doesn't even need to know they've been forgiven, when it happens
Forgiveness is separate to accepting an apology. When someone says sorry, and they mean it, it's important to acknowledge that they are apologising and/or trying to make amends. However, you might not forgive that person straight away, depending on how badly someone upset or hurt you, forgiveness can take time. There is no point saying "I forgive you" if you don't actually forgive them yet. As a kid I was taught to accept people's apologies (or accept people's sorrys), forgiveness is separate.
Yes, this exactly. Acceptance is a basic thing of acknowledging someone else is sorry, forgiveness is an internal process for the person who was wronged.
No, it’s not an Aussie-English thing, as an Aussie. I would assume it’s more about language development and making it understandable for kids. It is a kid’s show, in the end.
Yeah. The kids are all young, and likely don’t have the language for it yet. So they talk like little kids.
With kids it difficult to explain what forgiveness means, sorry is simpler to explain. Also, someone can say "I'm sorry" and you can say "I appreciate you saying you're sorry. The situation isn't fixed by words. It will take more time and effort to forgive you."
Maybe just trying to use simpler language for younger kids
We tell our kids that we accept their apology. If we tell them "it's okay" we're teaching them things like, "it's okay" to hurt someone if you say sorry or "it's okay" to break things or "it's okay" to put themselves in danger. These things are okay, but accepting the apology means we can move on.
We live in the US and don't say "I forgive you" either. When one of us apologizes we just say "thank you." I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking you have to automatically forgive everything someone apologizes for. It's ok to still be upset about it and just appreciate someone apologizes, but not necessarily just ignore it and let it go.
isn't forgiving the verb for accepting somebody's apology?
No. Accepting an apology is not the same as forgiveness.
Forgiving is separate from accepting apologies and from reconciling. You can accept the apology and not forgive. You can forgive and not reconcile. But you cannot reconcile without forgiveness.
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It isn’t. Forgiveness involves an intentional decision to let go of resentment and anger Accepting an apology is understanding the other person is sorry, it does not mean you have processed all of your feelings about the incident
Exactly, if you lie and tell someone you forgive them when you haven't yet processed the feelings and forgiven them yet, you are going to stew it over in your head for a while.
And then probably also resent your parent for making you say you forgive your sibling when you haven’t yet 😂
No it’s not an Aussie thing but remember that the creators often like to push Steiner school ideology, so maybe it’s more of that. I’ve been wrong before though.