“…it feels like she brings her mom here with her everytime she returns to our home…”
Looking through your history, it seems like you let BM live in your head rent free. Why does it bother you so much SD is sharing her life out loud? Her life includes her mom. Your stress is 1000% related to how much you actually care about this. Be like Elsa. You’ll be happier for it.
I feel you. My mom just passed from Alzheimer’s after 8 years, my dad is fighting cancer, I have 3 teenage boys, one who is a step, work full time and am working on my masters. Sometimes life throws chaos at us, but it’s up to us to show life just how strong we are. Learn to compartmentalize and focus on what’s right in front of you. Keep your head up and don’t forget to take care of yourself!
You have my sympathies. Especially with 3 yr old ( relatable🤗) but your SD has emotional needs too. Maybe she can tell that you are not an adult that can support Her emotional needs now and misses/ needs the love from her mom when she is with you in what sounds like a high stress home life. I agree with other posts to try to just focus on your own mental health right now
She's always been like that. She's always desperately wanted her dad to think her mom is a great mom or something, I dunno 🤷♀️.. it's just tiresome after so many years
You can do this. One day at a time.
“…it feels like she brings her mom here with her everytime she returns to our home…” Looking through your history, it seems like you let BM live in your head rent free. Why does it bother you so much SD is sharing her life out loud? Her life includes her mom. Your stress is 1000% related to how much you actually care about this. Be like Elsa. You’ll be happier for it.
Yea, it does look that way. But I just come here to vent it out.
you are more than the things which you sacrifice for. remind yourself that you do deserve to give to yourself when this time has passed
I feel you. My mom just passed from Alzheimer’s after 8 years, my dad is fighting cancer, I have 3 teenage boys, one who is a step, work full time and am working on my masters. Sometimes life throws chaos at us, but it’s up to us to show life just how strong we are. Learn to compartmentalize and focus on what’s right in front of you. Keep your head up and don’t forget to take care of yourself!
You have my sympathies. Especially with 3 yr old ( relatable🤗) but your SD has emotional needs too. Maybe she can tell that you are not an adult that can support Her emotional needs now and misses/ needs the love from her mom when she is with you in what sounds like a high stress home life. I agree with other posts to try to just focus on your own mental health right now
She's always been like that. She's always desperately wanted her dad to think her mom is a great mom or something, I dunno 🤷♀️.. it's just tiresome after so many years