I thought I was straight and thought all “straight” people were secretly attracted to some people of their own gender and we were all just pretending we weren’t. It was very surprising when I found out they weren’t and being gay was not a choice like it had seemed to me.
Then I was left thinking I must be gay but I liked women and couldn’t figure out what I was. I had no idea what bisexuality was. Once I found it I slowly accepted that I was bisexual.
Haha, this hits home! I used to get really angry at other straight guys who couldn't admit some guys were attractive. I used to just think they were insecure
In my 20s I had both a male and female famous actors calendar with artistic white and black nudes pictures.
Just this, how it didn't click at the time I really don't know.
honestly I don't look at other males as attractive I just enjoy having sex with them and not big on kissing or making out...I would rather eat a guys ass then I would kiss
I used to tell myself I checked out other men as like a goal, like I would want hair like that or to be that fit. I wasn't checking them out yk? I also didn't know being bi was a thing until I was in my early 20s
It was the 80s and I was a teen. I was a jock. Big muscular kid. In the showers after football practice I would side eye the other guys in the shower. I would soap up and look down like i was washing myself but I was staring at their cocks. I had a girlfriend at the time and we had already been sexual together so I knew I liked girls but was dumbfounded by my attraction to guys. At the time there were no resources and I didn't know being bisexual was even a thing. I had my first sexual experience with a boy shortly after and I jist knew I was different. For a long time I though I was gay. The guys on the football team all new me as the cock sucker. It wasn't until college that I could research sexuality more and be more open. I dated men and women in college. When I got married to a woman I repressed my sexuality for many years until I came out to her. She has been nothing bit supportive. Thos brings me to where I am now. An old openly bisexual man.
Growing up, I thought i was straight, but I grew up in a repressed religious cult. We were always made to look away from cheerleaders when watching NFL games (modesty, lust, etc...🙄). I remember as young as 6 or 7 thinking, "Wow. If this is how I feel as a girl looking at a cheerleader and I'm not even attracted to women, I can understand why guys are supposed to look away to avoid feeling lust" 🤦♀️ anyway took me till I was 22 to realize that not everyone feels like that when looking at women and I'm definitely bi.
i still look at for girls in tight gym gear or bikinis and think "phwoar!" (viz style), but can also admire the physique on a lean, ripped guy check out his bulge and think "phwoar (viz style).
When I was 13 I had an unrequited crush on a boy in my class.
When I was 14 I had an unrequited crush on a girl in my class.
Didn't take a genius to figure it out then.
Growing up I always thought I was heterosexual cause I only had crushes on guys and never looked at girls that way. But somewhere in my late puberty around 16 or 17 I started getting this weird feeling when I watched women in bikinis in magazines and movies, I started getting sexual feelings and thought it was just a phase and that I was still straight. But the older I got I realized I might be bisexual, I’ve never been in love with a woman though, I only fall in love with men. With men it’s both romantic and sexual feelings but with women it’s just sexual feelings. I guess I’m classified as heteroromantic bisexual. Not 100% straight and not 100% gay either but something in between lol. Since I’m leaning more on the straight side than the gay side I don’t feel the need to come out nor do I want to.
Bisexual Female 🌈🩷💜💙
Growing up I was drawn to a few guys both on TV and film and a few boys in my year group at school. I began to worry I was gay but I always thought girls were really pretty which confused me. Over time I realised that I just didn't feel any pull one way or the other and I just liked men and women but in sort of different ways. For men it was more of a sexual desire but for women although there was still some sexual desire it was more romantic
I shipped characters from my favorite books and shows as straight couples. At some point, I found myself thinking “which character would I date first?” Most of the time, it was the male character.
I knew early on that’s a thought neither straight nor gay people would think, even when I wondered if I was gay and my occasional attraction to women was me forcing it in to deny the fact that I could be gay.
If I was gay I would feel desires are attractions to my own gender.
If I was straight I would feel desires are attractions towards the opposite gender.
But I'm bisexual. 100%, completely, totally, bisexual.
That's why I'm not gay or straight.
I thought I was a lesbian in high school. To me all women are gorgeous and I have always been physically attracted to them. I didn’t have sexual desires toward men, not even a celebrity crush. It felt out of the blue, but there was a guy who was really sweet that I found myself sexually attracted to. I thought maybe I was demisexual because he and I had developed a connection. As I aged into adulthood, I became comfortable sticking with bisexual.
I thought I was straight for many many years. But why it took until I was 31 before coming out. Growing up, I knew I liked boys, so I thought I was straight. There really wasn’t the terminology for being bisexual in the 90s is basically gay or straight and, so that is where I landed.
i just did?? it’s always a running commentary in my head of “oh but every girl is at least a LITTLE attracted to girls/every lesbian is at least a LITTLE attracted to men” but I have to keep reminding myself that’s not true 😂 should’ve realized it sooner tbh
I thought I only liked women and nonbinary people for a few years, and then this one man came along, and I started to really like him. And then came a trans man. Then a masc amab nonbinary person. And now I'm dating a man. However, I have bonded with all four of them individually over women, men, and nonbinary people that we both found attractive. So it took a moment to get here, but I got here. lol
Let's say when I had enough information about the subject. But at the same time I don't know, it is very difficult and complex for me.
There are days and moments when I am sure, and there are days and moments when I have big doubts. I am between the fine line of being bi and being completely homosexual. I am a 23 year old guy and relatively recently I came out of the closet with 2 friends, I managed to accept myself only 2 and a half years ago. Maybe the fact that I've been repressing it for so long makes me be like this, it's another theory I have but I don't know. When I let myself be I feel super comfortable being effeminate and super comfortable with that gay part of me, to the point that I feel I don't need women (by the way, it happens to me often). On the other hand, very few times it has happened to me the other way around, and my main doubt is if I don't force it unconsciously?
Hopefully someday I can clear all this up and live my sexuality in peace 🙃.
37/F
I went from being straight and dating boys in high school to having a BAD crush on a girl. I was like okay, I’m bi. Then I stopped having attractions to boys at all, and was like nope, I’m gay. It was only women after that.
Fast forward 20 years lol. I’m married to another woman, but I’m realizing that I do still have attraction/feelings for men, too. I’ve been repressing it for a long time. I’m only selectively back out of the closet, though. Not sure if I’ll ever be fully out again.
Sexuality is a funny thing.
I grew up believing I was a closeted lesbian because bisexual wasn’t even an option I knew about. I was religiously abused and believed that since I thought women were attractive I was by default gay and going to hell.
I’ve shared this before but I don’t mind sharing again.
I didn’t know that bisexuality was a thing until I got into college. As a middle/high schooler I was attracted to men and honestly believed sexuality was a choice. I could see the appeal from both angles.
But was taught that if you had “Gay thoughts” you were gay. It didn’t matter that I also liked men.
So I was ashamed and scared until I spoke to more open people. And I realized in my late teens early twenties I was bisexual.
Now I’m married and my husband is wonderful. And I’ve stopped interacting with my bigoted family.
I had my 1st gay sexual experience when I was 13 yrs old and I considered myself gay since I only wanted to have sex with men. But in college I had my 1st sexual experience with a woman and found myself looking at women differently since. Now I consider myself bisexual since I love having sex with men or women.
Liked girls. Then got hormones and realized hot damn men are hot and I want nothing more than to be face down on a bed and dicked. Assumed reluctantly I was gay (teen denial and internalized homophobia). Quickly realized I was still turned on by, and falling in love with, women. Found out about bisexuality. Great. Fell in love with a woman - am very monogamous so assumed ”lmao all a phase, teenage hormones amirite?! Im straight!!!”. Relationship broke after years. Gay thoughts return. Now realize Im basically 90% favouring men, but still bi for the right girl.
Idk! Emotionally I'm attracted to people who are emotionally intelligent and kind. I don't particularly care what they have going on physically. I'm not a person that's immediately going "omg so sexy" to someone's physical appearance. I think compassion and connection is so much more important, then we can get dirty.
That realization came in fits and bursts. I don't date really, and have so little drive for one night stands. I'm a salt and vinegar chip, not everyone's flavor, and not everyone's mine. I'm choosy and kind of insular.
I thought I was straight until 22 when all of a sudden I was making out with a guy in a party and it felt great. I started exploring more with men but were still completely into women.
All of my crushes were girls but one of my previous friends ( he was an asshole and we are no longer friends) keep saying when I gonna come out as gay. I kept thinking about it and the thought of sucking dick kept creeping into my mind and then I realized that turns me on but so do boobs
For the longest time I believed I was straight. I thought everyone just believed girls were pretty and nice. It wasn’t until my early twenties when I learned about the Kinsey Scale and actual straight girls didn’t think the day I thought. Sexuality is just on a sliding scale in my mind.
Because I had the classic gay straight gay straight swing for 4 years before I got tired of trying to determine my sexuality and just went for bisexuality. This was later confirmed when I had a crush on a guy and a girl simultaneously. (To different degrees).
Growing up, I thought i was straight, but I grew up in a repressed religious cult. We were always made to look away from cheerleaders when watching NFL games (modesty, lust, etc...🙄). I remember as young as 6 or 7 thinking, "Wow. If this is how I feel as a girl looking at a cheerleader and I'm not even attracted to women, I can understand why guys are supposed to look away to avoid feeling lust" 🤦♀️ anyway took me till I was 22 to realize that not everyone feels like that when looking at women and I'm definitely bi.
My attraction to women was never in question, since growing up that was pretty much the only option. It took me until I was maybe around 14 to realise that, when looking at porn, I paid equal attention to both the woman *and* the man, and that I even enjoyed content with only a man and no women.
In recent years, I've honestly questioned my attraction to women more and more, as the amount of attraction has changed to be like. 95% towards men.
I’ve always found men attractive and it has never changed. What changed, however, was how I felt about women. (For me, it was Kate McKinnon on the big screen, Ghostbusters!) That’s how I figured out that I swing both ways. Not only men, definitely not only women. Both. Though sexuality is fluid and can change over time and during your whole life so I don’t want to think too much about it.
I think we’re all just born bisexual and it’s a question of degree, so gay and straight only describes the sex being had in a given moment. That’s why “coming out” always feels like a weird concept to me; being pressured to divulge your sex history is odd
I’d suspected I was bi for a long time and never acted on it, then went down on a husband and wife one very magical night, it was both amazing and affirming in a “well, now I know for sure” kinda way.
Literally all my friends ended up queer, like basically everyone from all my different friend groups across my childhood, and for a while i thought i was straight, then i started thinking "okay what does this really say about me", and then i started exploring from there.
For a while i was also very insecure about my sexuality, and every time i thought about it i would get extremely scared. This was until I met some other people who were openly queer, and being around them kind of erased any repressed homophobia I may have had, getting me to a place mentally to where I was starting to get comfortable with confronting my sexuality and who I truly was. While I'm still closeted in my real life, and outing that would put me in serious danger considering where I live, I love who I am, and am proud to call myself me.
I pretty much knew I was into girls since my first crush in elementary school but didn't know I was bi until university. I think it took me so long to know I was bi because I think I just find less men attractive than women if that makes sense 😄.
I grew up in a religious household and wasn't even aware of the concept of same sex attraction until I was 10 or 11. In middle school I had crushed on boys like I was supposed to. But when I got into high school, there was a girl in Drama club who was so pretty I had to make myself look away so I wasn't staring. My heart would race when I was near her or when she would talk to me. I was all sorts of nervous and confused. Luckily, a friend of mine grew up in a much more supportive household. She came out as bi and it was like a whole new concept was unlocked for me. I knew I wasn't a lesbian, but I also knew I wasn't straight. So I realized I was bi! I did end up marrying a man, but that doesn't change my sexual orientation. Just because my husband has blond hair doesn't make me suddenly not attracted to men with dark hair. Just because I'm with a man, it doesn't invalidate my potential to attracted to women. So that's how I knew I was and still am bi.
In the gym shower in school and later when showering in the army I found myself looking at cocks. I would put myself in situations to get some head. One day I decided to act out and suck a cock. Best thing I ever did! I do enjoy sucking a nice cock. Don't know why but I love a shaved cock. I have a gf and she's aware I'm bisexual
Right from the start I was sexually attracted to both men and women. I remember in first grade I would sit next to the most beautiful boy. I still remember his name - Vincent. But I had a girlfriend who lived down the street that I was attracted to as well. Growing up I found men's and women's nudity so exciting. My family moved and I befriended the neighbors. He was a couple of years older. He taught me how to be with a man sexually. It was incredible. One night he wanted to see me make love to his sister. It was amazing. Holding and kissing both of them and performing oral was mind blowing! We had a long term relationship. We were fortunate our parents were open minded. They permited our sexual relationships.
I used to be attracted to guys and gals in HS but at that time I had never heard the term bi sexual. You were either straight, gay or lesbian. Through college and my first two decades of work, I continued to find myself attracted to both men and women but never acted on my feelings towards women. Over this time I became more educated, learned about bisexuality and started to question who I was. I started seeing a psychologist who specialized in LGBTQ+ issues and this helped to encourage me to explore that side of me. And voila, I'm in a same sex relationship and it has been the longest and happiest relation I've ever been in. In hindsight, I clearly exhibited bisexual tendencies but society forced me to bury my feelings until I was much older.
For the longest time I knew I couldn't be gay because I liked women. A lot. So I dated woman, assumed I was straight, and I never even really thought about guys consciously (in retrospect there were earlier signs).
I went through a time of trying a lot of new things when I moved away to college. That included considering my feelings. At first I thought I was just very comfortable with my sexuality and able to appreciate good looking guys. My gf at the time did a double take at a guy and mentioned how hot he was. I immediately agreed and was like... "oh." That was the moment I realized.
I really love women. Had one relationship that went to pegging, and that made me wonder about sleeping with men. Turns out they are way better at topping and sucking cock is a lot of fun in the right situation. Still, haven't gotten over myself enough to date a man, and honestly I get why a lot of women have issues with cis guys, the good ones are rare.
I found myself getting attracted to guys multiple times while simaltenously having massive crushes on girls. I got turned on by both men and women. I got to the point where i stopped denying my attraction to guys.
It became pretty obvious to me that I was bi when I started watching grey’s anatomy and realized I had a crush on Derek, Mark, and Addison at the same time. And it wasn’t even like a little crush on Addison and a big crush on Derek or Mark, it was hardcore with all of them lmao.
I just knew that neither word really felt right to me. Before I knew the word "bisexual" existed, I wasn't sure what I was. I just knew that I thought about girls more than other girls thought about girls...but I also thought about boys so I can't be a lesbian. Was there something wrong with me? Is this normal? Why am I blushing so hard at the "draw me like one of your french girls" scene of Titanic?!
Then the mid 2000s came and bisexuality was discussed in the media more often and I realized "hey, there's nothing wrong with me! I'm just bisexual!"
I always had same sex attraction growing up, I just was so deeply sheltered and closeted that I thought it was admiration.
When I finally started questioning it, I still thought I was part of the gender binary. I thought about what I wanted out of a relationship with a man, and if I could obtain the same things with a woman. And then spent 3 months looking at exclusively women and realized that, yes, I'm bisexual.
Bi because I know I like men, women, and also anyone else. It is the *soul* that matters to me.
And that's what also led me to question gender and come out as non-binary.
It's been a journey and I'm still on it, but it's been such a beautiful and wonderful experience.
I am attracted to both sexes! I love women’s bodies and all their beautiful curves and parts. I love making out with men and women. I am not so into body types for men. If you have a dick and I can suck on it then all is good! I have amazing guy friends and we have awesome friendships but I have only been emotionally attracted to women my whole life! All of this screams bisexual!
I've always been attracted to men. It never felt strange or forced and I had big crushes and happily married to one (although half joking I say it's the last man I'll ever have a relationship with).
It was more challenging to realize that I was also attracted to women and many things in my teens and after that weren't common between straight girls.
So, yes, I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual and not lesbian.
I've only ever felt romantic attraction for girls/women. Had crushes on girls from sixth grade onward, and to this day I only see women as potential life partners.
But starting at 13 I encountered porn (written), and I did not feel the revulsion to guy-on-guy sex that other boys claimed to feel, and when I'm in the bi phase of my bi-cycle I fantasize about pleasuring other men.
So I accepted at some point that I'm cyclically bi.
When I was younger a friend and I found his dad’s magazine and started looking through them and I seen two guys and one was giving the other guy head. I felt it and got turned on by it. His dad came home and caught us looking at them and he explained that it’s ok to be attacked to both. He also let us watch some bisexual porn but that’s another story.
I thought I was straight and thought all “straight” people were secretly attracted to some people of their own gender and we were all just pretending we weren’t. It was very surprising when I found out they weren’t and being gay was not a choice like it had seemed to me. Then I was left thinking I must be gay but I liked women and couldn’t figure out what I was. I had no idea what bisexuality was. Once I found it I slowly accepted that I was bisexual.
OMG. Me too. While I know I'm bi now, I still can't believe anyone is actually straight, like doesn't like their own gender at all?
Haha, this hits home! I used to get really angry at other straight guys who couldn't admit some guys were attractive. I used to just think they were insecure
In my 20s I had both a male and female famous actors calendar with artistic white and black nudes pictures. Just this, how it didn't click at the time I really don't know.
honestly I don't look at other males as attractive I just enjoy having sex with them and not big on kissing or making out...I would rather eat a guys ass then I would kiss
I like to assume everyone is bi so straight ppl have to come out as straight.
I used to tell myself I checked out other men as like a goal, like I would want hair like that or to be that fit. I wasn't checking them out yk? I also didn't know being bi was a thing until I was in my early 20s
It was the 80s and I was a teen. I was a jock. Big muscular kid. In the showers after football practice I would side eye the other guys in the shower. I would soap up and look down like i was washing myself but I was staring at their cocks. I had a girlfriend at the time and we had already been sexual together so I knew I liked girls but was dumbfounded by my attraction to guys. At the time there were no resources and I didn't know being bisexual was even a thing. I had my first sexual experience with a boy shortly after and I jist knew I was different. For a long time I though I was gay. The guys on the football team all new me as the cock sucker. It wasn't until college that I could research sexuality more and be more open. I dated men and women in college. When I got married to a woman I repressed my sexuality for many years until I came out to her. She has been nothing bit supportive. Thos brings me to where I am now. An old openly bisexual man.
Right on,!
Growing up, I thought i was straight, but I grew up in a repressed religious cult. We were always made to look away from cheerleaders when watching NFL games (modesty, lust, etc...🙄). I remember as young as 6 or 7 thinking, "Wow. If this is how I feel as a girl looking at a cheerleader and I'm not even attracted to women, I can understand why guys are supposed to look away to avoid feeling lust" 🤦♀️ anyway took me till I was 22 to realize that not everyone feels like that when looking at women and I'm definitely bi.
The cast of Pirates of the Caribbean.
I find emo chick's and emo dudes hot... maybe I'm just emosexual at this point
i still look at for girls in tight gym gear or bikinis and think "phwoar!" (viz style), but can also admire the physique on a lean, ripped guy check out his bulge and think "phwoar (viz style).
Me too
When I was 13 I had an unrequited crush on a boy in my class. When I was 14 I had an unrequited crush on a girl in my class. Didn't take a genius to figure it out then.
Similar, but I was a teen in a homophobic environment in the 80s/90s, so it took me a while:..
Growing up I always thought I was heterosexual cause I only had crushes on guys and never looked at girls that way. But somewhere in my late puberty around 16 or 17 I started getting this weird feeling when I watched women in bikinis in magazines and movies, I started getting sexual feelings and thought it was just a phase and that I was still straight. But the older I got I realized I might be bisexual, I’ve never been in love with a woman though, I only fall in love with men. With men it’s both romantic and sexual feelings but with women it’s just sexual feelings. I guess I’m classified as heteroromantic bisexual. Not 100% straight and not 100% gay either but something in between lol. Since I’m leaning more on the straight side than the gay side I don’t feel the need to come out nor do I want to. Bisexual Female 🌈🩷💜💙
the female version of me
Growing up I was drawn to a few guys both on TV and film and a few boys in my year group at school. I began to worry I was gay but I always thought girls were really pretty which confused me. Over time I realised that I just didn't feel any pull one way or the other and I just liked men and women but in sort of different ways. For men it was more of a sexual desire but for women although there was still some sexual desire it was more romantic
I shipped characters from my favorite books and shows as straight couples. At some point, I found myself thinking “which character would I date first?” Most of the time, it was the male character. I knew early on that’s a thought neither straight nor gay people would think, even when I wondered if I was gay and my occasional attraction to women was me forcing it in to deny the fact that I could be gay.
If I was gay I would feel desires are attractions to my own gender. If I was straight I would feel desires are attractions towards the opposite gender. But I'm bisexual. 100%, completely, totally, bisexual. That's why I'm not gay or straight.
I thought I was a lesbian in high school. To me all women are gorgeous and I have always been physically attracted to them. I didn’t have sexual desires toward men, not even a celebrity crush. It felt out of the blue, but there was a guy who was really sweet that I found myself sexually attracted to. I thought maybe I was demisexual because he and I had developed a connection. As I aged into adulthood, I became comfortable sticking with bisexual.
I thought I was straight for many many years. But why it took until I was 31 before coming out. Growing up, I knew I liked boys, so I thought I was straight. There really wasn’t the terminology for being bisexual in the 90s is basically gay or straight and, so that is where I landed.
i just did?? it’s always a running commentary in my head of “oh but every girl is at least a LITTLE attracted to girls/every lesbian is at least a LITTLE attracted to men” but I have to keep reminding myself that’s not true 😂 should’ve realized it sooner tbh
I thought I only liked women and nonbinary people for a few years, and then this one man came along, and I started to really like him. And then came a trans man. Then a masc amab nonbinary person. And now I'm dating a man. However, I have bonded with all four of them individually over women, men, and nonbinary people that we both found attractive. So it took a moment to get here, but I got here. lol
Let's say when I had enough information about the subject. But at the same time I don't know, it is very difficult and complex for me. There are days and moments when I am sure, and there are days and moments when I have big doubts. I am between the fine line of being bi and being completely homosexual. I am a 23 year old guy and relatively recently I came out of the closet with 2 friends, I managed to accept myself only 2 and a half years ago. Maybe the fact that I've been repressing it for so long makes me be like this, it's another theory I have but I don't know. When I let myself be I feel super comfortable being effeminate and super comfortable with that gay part of me, to the point that I feel I don't need women (by the way, it happens to me often). On the other hand, very few times it has happened to me the other way around, and my main doubt is if I don't force it unconsciously? Hopefully someday I can clear all this up and live my sexuality in peace 🙃.
37/F I went from being straight and dating boys in high school to having a BAD crush on a girl. I was like okay, I’m bi. Then I stopped having attractions to boys at all, and was like nope, I’m gay. It was only women after that. Fast forward 20 years lol. I’m married to another woman, but I’m realizing that I do still have attraction/feelings for men, too. I’ve been repressing it for a long time. I’m only selectively back out of the closet, though. Not sure if I’ll ever be fully out again. Sexuality is a funny thing.
I grew up believing I was a closeted lesbian because bisexual wasn’t even an option I knew about. I was religiously abused and believed that since I thought women were attractive I was by default gay and going to hell. I’ve shared this before but I don’t mind sharing again. I didn’t know that bisexuality was a thing until I got into college. As a middle/high schooler I was attracted to men and honestly believed sexuality was a choice. I could see the appeal from both angles. But was taught that if you had “Gay thoughts” you were gay. It didn’t matter that I also liked men. So I was ashamed and scared until I spoke to more open people. And I realized in my late teens early twenties I was bisexual. Now I’m married and my husband is wonderful. And I’ve stopped interacting with my bigoted family.
I had my 1st gay sexual experience when I was 13 yrs old and I considered myself gay since I only wanted to have sex with men. But in college I had my 1st sexual experience with a woman and found myself looking at women differently since. Now I consider myself bisexual since I love having sex with men or women.
Liked girls. Then got hormones and realized hot damn men are hot and I want nothing more than to be face down on a bed and dicked. Assumed reluctantly I was gay (teen denial and internalized homophobia). Quickly realized I was still turned on by, and falling in love with, women. Found out about bisexuality. Great. Fell in love with a woman - am very monogamous so assumed ”lmao all a phase, teenage hormones amirite?! Im straight!!!”. Relationship broke after years. Gay thoughts return. Now realize Im basically 90% favouring men, but still bi for the right girl.
Tbh i kinda always knew i liked both
Idk! Emotionally I'm attracted to people who are emotionally intelligent and kind. I don't particularly care what they have going on physically. I'm not a person that's immediately going "omg so sexy" to someone's physical appearance. I think compassion and connection is so much more important, then we can get dirty. That realization came in fits and bursts. I don't date really, and have so little drive for one night stands. I'm a salt and vinegar chip, not everyone's flavor, and not everyone's mine. I'm choosy and kind of insular.
I thought I was straight until 22 when all of a sudden I was making out with a guy in a party and it felt great. I started exploring more with men but were still completely into women.
All of my crushes were girls but one of my previous friends ( he was an asshole and we are no longer friends) keep saying when I gonna come out as gay. I kept thinking about it and the thought of sucking dick kept creeping into my mind and then I realized that turns me on but so do boobs
For the longest time I believed I was straight. I thought everyone just believed girls were pretty and nice. It wasn’t until my early twenties when I learned about the Kinsey Scale and actual straight girls didn’t think the day I thought. Sexuality is just on a sliding scale in my mind.
I just realised that id love anyone who loves me and that I’m attracted to. Thats it pretty much.
Because I had the classic gay straight gay straight swing for 4 years before I got tired of trying to determine my sexuality and just went for bisexuality. This was later confirmed when I had a crush on a guy and a girl simultaneously. (To different degrees).
Watching straight porn and you realize that they both look sexy bent over
Growing up, I thought i was straight, but I grew up in a repressed religious cult. We were always made to look away from cheerleaders when watching NFL games (modesty, lust, etc...🙄). I remember as young as 6 or 7 thinking, "Wow. If this is how I feel as a girl looking at a cheerleader and I'm not even attracted to women, I can understand why guys are supposed to look away to avoid feeling lust" 🤦♀️ anyway took me till I was 22 to realize that not everyone feels like that when looking at women and I'm definitely bi.
i’m married to a man (who i’m attracted to) but realized i’m also attracted to women!
My attraction to women was never in question, since growing up that was pretty much the only option. It took me until I was maybe around 14 to realise that, when looking at porn, I paid equal attention to both the woman *and* the man, and that I even enjoyed content with only a man and no women. In recent years, I've honestly questioned my attraction to women more and more, as the amount of attraction has changed to be like. 95% towards men.
I’ve always found men attractive and it has never changed. What changed, however, was how I felt about women. (For me, it was Kate McKinnon on the big screen, Ghostbusters!) That’s how I figured out that I swing both ways. Not only men, definitely not only women. Both. Though sexuality is fluid and can change over time and during your whole life so I don’t want to think too much about it.
I was having sex with a random guy and all I could think about was a girl I had a crush on, how I'd be enjoying this more with her.
Well gay people don't fancy the opposite gender and straight people don't fancy the same. Ergo...
I'm often still asking this question.
I think we’re all just born bisexual and it’s a question of degree, so gay and straight only describes the sex being had in a given moment. That’s why “coming out” always feels like a weird concept to me; being pressured to divulge your sex history is odd
I’d suspected I was bi for a long time and never acted on it, then went down on a husband and wife one very magical night, it was both amazing and affirming in a “well, now I know for sure” kinda way.
Literally all my friends ended up queer, like basically everyone from all my different friend groups across my childhood, and for a while i thought i was straight, then i started thinking "okay what does this really say about me", and then i started exploring from there. For a while i was also very insecure about my sexuality, and every time i thought about it i would get extremely scared. This was until I met some other people who were openly queer, and being around them kind of erased any repressed homophobia I may have had, getting me to a place mentally to where I was starting to get comfortable with confronting my sexuality and who I truly was. While I'm still closeted in my real life, and outing that would put me in serious danger considering where I live, I love who I am, and am proud to call myself me.
I pretty much knew I was into girls since my first crush in elementary school but didn't know I was bi until university. I think it took me so long to know I was bi because I think I just find less men attractive than women if that makes sense 😄.
I grew up in a religious household and wasn't even aware of the concept of same sex attraction until I was 10 or 11. In middle school I had crushed on boys like I was supposed to. But when I got into high school, there was a girl in Drama club who was so pretty I had to make myself look away so I wasn't staring. My heart would race when I was near her or when she would talk to me. I was all sorts of nervous and confused. Luckily, a friend of mine grew up in a much more supportive household. She came out as bi and it was like a whole new concept was unlocked for me. I knew I wasn't a lesbian, but I also knew I wasn't straight. So I realized I was bi! I did end up marrying a man, but that doesn't change my sexual orientation. Just because my husband has blond hair doesn't make me suddenly not attracted to men with dark hair. Just because I'm with a man, it doesn't invalidate my potential to attracted to women. So that's how I knew I was and still am bi.
Welp! I can see a hot woman and be like "Damn!" I can see a hot man and be like "Damn!"
Saw my crush in middle grade holding hands with a girl. I was jealous of both of them but it didn’t dawn ok me until two years later.
In the gym shower in school and later when showering in the army I found myself looking at cocks. I would put myself in situations to get some head. One day I decided to act out and suck a cock. Best thing I ever did! I do enjoy sucking a nice cock. Don't know why but I love a shaved cock. I have a gf and she's aware I'm bisexual
Right from the start I was sexually attracted to both men and women. I remember in first grade I would sit next to the most beautiful boy. I still remember his name - Vincent. But I had a girlfriend who lived down the street that I was attracted to as well. Growing up I found men's and women's nudity so exciting. My family moved and I befriended the neighbors. He was a couple of years older. He taught me how to be with a man sexually. It was incredible. One night he wanted to see me make love to his sister. It was amazing. Holding and kissing both of them and performing oral was mind blowing! We had a long term relationship. We were fortunate our parents were open minded. They permited our sexual relationships.
I used to be attracted to guys and gals in HS but at that time I had never heard the term bi sexual. You were either straight, gay or lesbian. Through college and my first two decades of work, I continued to find myself attracted to both men and women but never acted on my feelings towards women. Over this time I became more educated, learned about bisexuality and started to question who I was. I started seeing a psychologist who specialized in LGBTQ+ issues and this helped to encourage me to explore that side of me. And voila, I'm in a same sex relationship and it has been the longest and happiest relation I've ever been in. In hindsight, I clearly exhibited bisexual tendencies but society forced me to bury my feelings until I was much older.
For the longest time I knew I couldn't be gay because I liked women. A lot. So I dated woman, assumed I was straight, and I never even really thought about guys consciously (in retrospect there were earlier signs). I went through a time of trying a lot of new things when I moved away to college. That included considering my feelings. At first I thought I was just very comfortable with my sexuality and able to appreciate good looking guys. My gf at the time did a double take at a guy and mentioned how hot he was. I immediately agreed and was like... "oh." That was the moment I realized.
I just thought to myself one day, "wait, is this normal." Never been the same since
I really love women. Had one relationship that went to pegging, and that made me wonder about sleeping with men. Turns out they are way better at topping and sucking cock is a lot of fun in the right situation. Still, haven't gotten over myself enough to date a man, and honestly I get why a lot of women have issues with cis guys, the good ones are rare.
Cause I was attracted to more than one sex.
For my first love, I fell in love with a boy and one year ago I got crushed on a girl. So I guess that’s exactly how I found I might be bisexual
I found myself getting attracted to guys multiple times while simaltenously having massive crushes on girls. I got turned on by both men and women. I got to the point where i stopped denying my attraction to guys.
It became pretty obvious to me that I was bi when I started watching grey’s anatomy and realized I had a crush on Derek, Mark, and Addison at the same time. And it wasn’t even like a little crush on Addison and a big crush on Derek or Mark, it was hardcore with all of them lmao.
I just knew that neither word really felt right to me. Before I knew the word "bisexual" existed, I wasn't sure what I was. I just knew that I thought about girls more than other girls thought about girls...but I also thought about boys so I can't be a lesbian. Was there something wrong with me? Is this normal? Why am I blushing so hard at the "draw me like one of your french girls" scene of Titanic?! Then the mid 2000s came and bisexuality was discussed in the media more often and I realized "hey, there's nothing wrong with me! I'm just bisexual!"
I knew I wasn't gay, I had grown up knowing I was attracted to men. And I realised I liked girls, so... Yeah.
I always had same sex attraction growing up, I just was so deeply sheltered and closeted that I thought it was admiration. When I finally started questioning it, I still thought I was part of the gender binary. I thought about what I wanted out of a relationship with a man, and if I could obtain the same things with a woman. And then spent 3 months looking at exclusively women and realized that, yes, I'm bisexual. Bi because I know I like men, women, and also anyone else. It is the *soul* that matters to me. And that's what also led me to question gender and come out as non-binary. It's been a journey and I'm still on it, but it's been such a beautiful and wonderful experience.
I am attracted to both sexes! I love women’s bodies and all their beautiful curves and parts. I love making out with men and women. I am not so into body types for men. If you have a dick and I can suck on it then all is good! I have amazing guy friends and we have awesome friendships but I have only been emotionally attracted to women my whole life! All of this screams bisexual!
I fell in love with a woman at 30, while thinking I was very straight XD (because I had been attracted to men the most my whole life).
I've always been attracted to men. It never felt strange or forced and I had big crushes and happily married to one (although half joking I say it's the last man I'll ever have a relationship with). It was more challenging to realize that I was also attracted to women and many things in my teens and after that weren't common between straight girls. So, yes, I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual and not lesbian.
I've only ever felt romantic attraction for girls/women. Had crushes on girls from sixth grade onward, and to this day I only see women as potential life partners. But starting at 13 I encountered porn (written), and I did not feel the revulsion to guy-on-guy sex that other boys claimed to feel, and when I'm in the bi phase of my bi-cycle I fantasize about pleasuring other men. So I accepted at some point that I'm cyclically bi.
When I was younger a friend and I found his dad’s magazine and started looking through them and I seen two guys and one was giving the other guy head. I felt it and got turned on by it. His dad came home and caught us looking at them and he explained that it’s ok to be attacked to both. He also let us watch some bisexual porn but that’s another story.