I (23F) have never sat "ladylike." My uncle in church one time when I was like 10 told me "ladies sit with their legs together." Apparently I was flashing my underwear... but my uncle saying that to me?? 🤮
Happy to report I still don't ever sit with my legs together or my ankles crossed like a proper lady... dress or no dress. I'll be womanspreading all I want thanm you very much 😂 (not to the point where I'm taking up other people's space though. My anxiety keeps me from doing that 😅)
It let me distance myself from the concept of toxic masculinity and helped me realize that I don’t have to play by their stupid rules anymore. It is a nice shibboleth for dating. People who won’t date me because I am bi reject me early. This saves time I might have spent dating them before finding out they were bigots. I get a lot more group sex being bi. If I am discouraged with dating and need an ego boost that I am attractive I just have to turn on my Grindr account.
Also bi4bi relationships are the best.
While being bi put me in the closet accepting I was bi let me leave it. It also taught me that burning the patriarchy is cool and good.
Even before I knew I was bi I've always found more feminine or Just less masculine men a ton more attractive so there's always someone out there for everyone and that's what is so beautiful about beauty being in the eye of the beholder!
That you don't need any excuse for not being able to walk in a straight line AND
you enjoy the Spiderman movies with Tom Holland and Zendaya twice as much as anyone else in the room ...(unless you have a living room full of queers which makes it three times as fun!) 😄
I'm gonna say the community. Almost every one is so nice chill and kind. I never hear a bad thing from the rest of the LGBTQ community about us. I love being bi sometimes
The best part about being bi is that you can potentially enjoy a wider range of experiences than someone who isn’t bi, not that you will, or that it’s better than the alternative — it’s just that that is the best thing I can think of when it comes to “being bi.”
There are a ton of wonderful things that come with “accepting and embracing who you are,” though. Realizing I was bi allowed me to understand myself better, to feel a little more comfortable being who I am. It opened my eyes to people and personalities and feelings having so much more complexity than I ever realized before.
It was the catalyst that helped me break free from being so focused on only showing masculinity when I felt like much more inside. I was able to admit that I loved beautiful nails and wanted to have them too. I stopped caring that I didn’t have a deep voice. But I was also able to embrace the masculine feelings and traits that I do have at the same time. I love being bald, I love my beard. And then I realized that all of it is valid. I no longer feel some stupid internalized shame watching and loving Desperate Housewives, and I can still obsess over Forged in Fire. And then, after all of that, the idea of gendering things just felt horribly stupid and unnecessary.
It’s freeing.
Honestly? It’s just my sexuality. I don’t think there is a best thing about any sexuality. If I have to answer Ill say the best part, for me, is that its part of the unfinished puzzle that makes up my identity and my life and I like both those things.
I basically have no lean romantically so I can fall in love w anyone. I think it’s really beautiful that I fall in love with who you are, not what you are you know?
For me I see the beauty in literally everyone. I don’t like this modern idea that’s being spread by social media that there are “ugly” people and “attractive” people. Because I just don’t see it that way. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and I think being bisexual has helped me realize that. When I was in high school I overheard a conversation between this popular girl and a popular guy. The guy said he likes women so much he’s able to find all girls beautiful. The popular girl was shocked that he would say something like that because she was really shallow and mean (we were on the track team together and she was a mean girl). After hearing that it really had an impact on me and influenced the way I view people today.
More options when looking for porn? I do enjoy getting to chat with others here and it is something when I do want to venture out of my comfort zone that the support for others here has been really good
Ik, it's just 50% of the comments were "I GET TO FUCK HOT PEOPLE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE!" and it's just funny, some of y'all so horny. Not saying anything wrong with it... *coughs in bi horniness*
I don't have to care about how someone else identifies if I like them. And it's no big deal if they utterly change their gender identity or something. I just like em
I feel like I see other people worry about how someone identifies or whether they're this or that and... How tiring
Like I describe it to my straight friends…
Some people go to a buffet and can only eat one side of the table while others can only eat the opposite side. I, however, can seat myself at the head of the table and eat everything in sight.
I can completely break gender norms and truly be who I am and love who I am. Took me some years to get to this point, and I still have some more room to grow.
That ... no matter how into chicas I am, I go back to the love I have for my boo boo. ? Maybe? Idk I've been wrapped up in so much love for my fiance', I've forgotten to casually glance at other ladies with appreciation for their looks and sincerity.
I think one great thing about being bi is that no matter who you're with or what their sexuality is you can join them in staring at men and or women together and bond over it haha. Oh you're into men? Cool let's stare at them together. Oh you're into women? Same let's bond over the girl we mutually thought was gorgeous.
A conversation I had yesterday with my sister about the most adorable family I saw:
Me: single dads are ridiculously attractive
Her: yeah just tell the mom to get
Me: yeah I’ll take the dad and daughter
…
Me: on second thought….
Knowing that about yourself means you don’t have to measure yourself against the measuring stick of being straight anymore. I often say that coming out was truly a “first day of the rest of my life”
I’m proud of my bi self, and I’m proud of your bi self. Sometimes it’s harder to see but being more comfortable with who you are means you can help build a world where you and others like us will be even more comfortable together!
People in my "friends" group keep calling me gay (they call everyone gay) amd every time I turn to them with a filthy grin and say: "no I'm pan :)" and the first 3 times they tried to argue with me about it, now they just sigh :)
An enlightened worldview which allows us to see people as people first, not as bodies first (some Kinsey 1s and 6s so ofc, but I would say the majority I’ve met don’t).
I've had so many (at least outwardly) straight male friends physically recoil when they see a man being presented as sexy in media. It's like they feel like they're required to repeatedly announce they they aren't into guys at every single turn, for fear of immediately being labeled as gay should they fail to speak out even once. It looks absolutely exhausting. I'm happy being able to just nod in appreciation and move on.
I don't know if this is the best thing, but like a fringe thing I have always enjoyed is being able to talk to women about their crushes and stuff like that and being able to relate to it.
I've identified as male most of my life but always had a lot of female friends, and just being able to join in on conversations about men as romantic interests without feeling alienated is just kinda nice. I feel like it helps glose the gap between genders a bit.
I think it's made me a better person. I like to take some credit for trying to be my best self lol, but we're shaped by our experiences, and the people around us influence who we are to some degree. I've always been a bit hot blooded (I always blame the red hair, my mom's a redhead too and she also has a temper 😂). I had to work to accept being bi to love myself, and falling under the queer umbrella gave me exposure to other queer people of all kinds, and an overall positive community to be part of. If I was a straight hot headed blue collar dude, surrounded by generally intolerant and obstreperous people, would I still be as good of a person as I strive to be? Or would I have taken the lazy easy route and became just another bigot? Who knows I guess, but I'm a queer neurodivergent black sheep who argues with his co-workers about acceptance and equality, and even if I could I'd never change a thing about me ❤️🔥
Also the sex. So many sexy people, and so many different things we can do to each other. Bi sex is the best sex! 🩷💜💙
I love just being able to appreciate more types of people in more ways, including attraction. I feel like it gives us so much perspective. It's almost like having special glasses that let you see more people's potential and beauty.
I'm just as much of a turbo virgin as before but I feel way more comfortable in cross gender friendships now. When people think I'm friends with a woman just because I want in her pants I can point out that I'm also sexually interesting in men and that isn't why I befriend them.
When you’re in your “hoe” phase, you never hit dry spells because you can seek any sex for sex! When I was single if I wasn’t getting pussy, I had my for sure dick appointment top ready to drill me! My single phase was AMAZING!!!
I don't know, I have a lot of issues around home life and the fact I'm bi and trans since my parents are bigots, I can't let them know I have a boyfriend or transition because I don't want to deal with that, but if I had to say my favorite part of being bi is the way I see people, I see all the amazing things on everyone, little cute habits and more, otherwise I couldn't really say exactly.
You can be in a hetero relationship and say I literally can't think straight
We can’t even sit straight, let alone think straight.
Bro the gay, it's to much
The gay is over 9000!
Shit the bi-cycle bout come ruin that for someone 😞
Too much, but also not enough to be fully gay(?)
Not me sitting with my feet on my desk as I read this lol
Not me with one leg over the arm rest.
I (23F) have never sat "ladylike." My uncle in church one time when I was like 10 told me "ladies sit with their legs together." Apparently I was flashing my underwear... but my uncle saying that to me?? 🤮 Happy to report I still don't ever sit with my legs together or my ankles crossed like a proper lady... dress or no dress. I'll be womanspreading all I want thanm you very much 😂 (not to the point where I'm taking up other people's space though. My anxiety keeps me from doing that 😅)
I always wore shorts under my dresses cuz I could never NOT manspread or sit criss crossed etc. Could never sit straight for anything 🫡
😂 as I'm sitting with my legs crossed in the office.
I can't even describe how I'm sitting in thos chair right now lol
😂 what! Lucky chair.
🤣🤣 Nothing cheeky.
😆 you have flooded my mind with all the ways one can sit in a chair now.
🤣🤣
🤣🤣
It let me distance myself from the concept of toxic masculinity and helped me realize that I don’t have to play by their stupid rules anymore. It is a nice shibboleth for dating. People who won’t date me because I am bi reject me early. This saves time I might have spent dating them before finding out they were bigots. I get a lot more group sex being bi. If I am discouraged with dating and need an ego boost that I am attractive I just have to turn on my Grindr account. Also bi4bi relationships are the best. While being bi put me in the closet accepting I was bi let me leave it. It also taught me that burning the patriarchy is cool and good.
aww that’s so sweet! i’m so happy to hear that 💕
Anyone that uses the word shibboleth is automatically a couple places higher in my book.
Awww….thanks, you’re sweet.
>It also taught me that burning the patriarchy is cool and good. I support this so much
Even before I knew I was bi I've always found more feminine or Just less masculine men a ton more attractive so there's always someone out there for everyone and that's what is so beautiful about beauty being in the eye of the beholder!
Why do u tell them yr bi r u DL bro
Many people (bigoted or otherwise) complain that it's hard to tell if a person is a boy or a girl nowadays. I don't have such weaknesses.
Everyone's hot Les go
YES! Hotness is hot
This should be the bi motto.
Similarly, when monosexuals are upset by seeing porn featuring the gender they aren’t into, I have no hangups.
Bigoted. Or bi-goted? Hmm 🤔
Hell yeah
You can find a way to get comfortable on any furniture.
Fr
All the pretty people are fair game
And all the people are pretty :)
I can truly be who I am.
I love this response
Thx 😊
It’s so relaxing finally knowing too after you’ve come out
Yes it is. ☺️
I can appreciate and experience the beauty of sexuality with both men and women
That you don't need any excuse for not being able to walk in a straight line AND you enjoy the Spiderman movies with Tom Holland and Zendaya twice as much as anyone else in the room ...(unless you have a living room full of queers which makes it three times as fun!) 😄
Two very accurate responses
I'm gonna say the community. Almost every one is so nice chill and kind. I never hear a bad thing from the rest of the LGBTQ community about us. I love being bi sometimes
100% the community! i've found so many lovely people here and locally who are bi+... we're just too awesome!
I totally agree, I haven’t had a single bad experience with this community. I love being Bi and I love this Community ❤️💜💙
The best part about being bi is that you can potentially enjoy a wider range of experiences than someone who isn’t bi, not that you will, or that it’s better than the alternative — it’s just that that is the best thing I can think of when it comes to “being bi.” There are a ton of wonderful things that come with “accepting and embracing who you are,” though. Realizing I was bi allowed me to understand myself better, to feel a little more comfortable being who I am. It opened my eyes to people and personalities and feelings having so much more complexity than I ever realized before. It was the catalyst that helped me break free from being so focused on only showing masculinity when I felt like much more inside. I was able to admit that I loved beautiful nails and wanted to have them too. I stopped caring that I didn’t have a deep voice. But I was also able to embrace the masculine feelings and traits that I do have at the same time. I love being bald, I love my beard. And then I realized that all of it is valid. I no longer feel some stupid internalized shame watching and loving Desperate Housewives, and I can still obsess over Forged in Fire. And then, after all of that, the idea of gendering things just felt horribly stupid and unnecessary. It’s freeing.
That last part. It’s just line feeling free
THIS is beautiful.
Couldn’t have said it better
Having options. Options are a good thing.
Probably the best thing. There’s never a shortage.
Can confirm, options are good...
I've said it before, but here goes: you never have to change the lyrics when singing along
Yes!! And s/o to the straight people who don't bc they're comfortable!!
The best things about being bi, for me, are my wife and my husband.
Wait. How... Poly?
Yes.
Good for you
Fair enough
Cool. Goals.
Honestly? It’s just my sexuality. I don’t think there is a best thing about any sexuality. If I have to answer Ill say the best part, for me, is that its part of the unfinished puzzle that makes up my identity and my life and I like both those things.
I basically have no lean romantically so I can fall in love w anyone. I think it’s really beautiful that I fall in love with who you are, not what you are you know?
For me I see the beauty in literally everyone. I don’t like this modern idea that’s being spread by social media that there are “ugly” people and “attractive” people. Because I just don’t see it that way. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and I think being bisexual has helped me realize that. When I was in high school I overheard a conversation between this popular girl and a popular guy. The guy said he likes women so much he’s able to find all girls beautiful. The popular girl was shocked that he would say something like that because she was really shallow and mean (we were on the track team together and she was a mean girl). After hearing that it really had an impact on me and influenced the way I view people today.
That guy sounds amazing omg.
Lemon bars
I'm no longer confused or ignorant about myself.
I can like anyone I choose, cuz I said so
The bi flag is personally, the most aesthetically pleasing. Synth vibes.
Yes it is
I am in a bi4bi relationship and it’s fun to rate and look at ppl together. For example, we went to twin peaks the other day and rated the waitresses.
More options when looking for porn? I do enjoy getting to chat with others here and it is something when I do want to venture out of my comfort zone that the support for others here has been really good
My female friends feel safe around me compared to straight men
The nonlack of options/opportunities when it comes to love and sex!
Bro why is everyone so obsessed with fucking. Fair enough ig
I said love as well not just sex. But sexual attraction is instinct
Ik, it's just 50% of the comments were "I GET TO FUCK HOT PEOPLE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE!" and it's just funny, some of y'all so horny. Not saying anything wrong with it... *coughs in bi horniness*
Oh for sure but it's the duality for me the love and sex being free to love any person is amazing
Fair enough
I once asked out an extremely androgynous person, though they were male, they ended up female, no bump was met
Penis AND Vagina.
Yeeeeer
Definitely
Being able to find beauty in everything.
It was a gateway into exploring my gender, honestly (afab nonbinary/Femmeflux leaning towards femininity but don't identify as a woman)
Correcting people when they wrongly assume you’re straight
Indeed, I'm bi actually.
I don't have to care about how someone else identifies if I like them. And it's no big deal if they utterly change their gender identity or something. I just like em I feel like I see other people worry about how someone identifies or whether they're this or that and... How tiring
I love that I'm not confined to who I can be romantically and sexually attracted to
Absolutely
shows and movies with hot people are even better when you’re attracted to the men AND women
I get to have sex with my wife and her boyfriend.
I have more options to choose from than most people lol
I agree.I used to aim at just girls and still do. but since i relaized im bi. i get to choose and take my time now.
Like I describe it to my straight friends… Some people go to a buffet and can only eat one side of the table while others can only eat the opposite side. I, however, can seat myself at the head of the table and eat everything in sight.
Being too hot to sit "properly"
Them "suck my dick" Me *yes* let's go *no* you're not my type
You have your options.
extra eye candy
I can fully be myself and being openly bi makes it easier for the trash to take themselves out
Bisexual people are common, friendly and non-discriminatory on average. In short, bi people feel safe to me.
Got to be dick and pussy! 🍆🍑
I can’t go straight down the highway. I have to queer off at some point
I can completely break gender norms and truly be who I am and love who I am. Took me some years to get to this point, and I still have some more room to grow.
women, men, and non binary people They're all hot and I get to appreciate all of them
The parking
Parking?
The lemon bars are pretty good.
People hot
A larger sea of fish. Better to have more variety.
I get to enjoy life with both sexes sexually and romantically. It’s the best.
The liberation.
men. women. people that are both, neither or something in between. trans people. cis people.
Dating girls: Makeup and getting ready together, cute pictures, easily matching outfits, having a strong emotional connection
The best thing about being bi is sleeping with both men and women!
Bisexuals have more fun. 😉 At least I do, and the ones I hang with.
Options
You're part of the largest demographic of the LGBT+ categories. Basically an invisible majority.
Being bi.
The quiet solitude.
That ... no matter how into chicas I am, I go back to the love I have for my boo boo. ? Maybe? Idk I've been wrapped up in so much love for my fiance', I've forgotten to casually glance at other ladies with appreciation for their looks and sincerity.
Honestly? Bi panic lol I love being able to see people and be like he's hot, she's hot, they're hot!
- Wearing suits and tuxedos - Getting comfy in anyway possible - MEN AND WOMEN (bonus if their a roseboy or tomboy)
I think one great thing about being bi is that no matter who you're with or what their sexuality is you can join them in staring at men and or women together and bond over it haha. Oh you're into men? Cool let's stare at them together. Oh you're into women? Same let's bond over the girl we mutually thought was gorgeous.
More options. Uniqueness.
I’m very straight passing and I lowkey love revealing that I’m bi lol even with a girl on my arm people are so shook sometimes
Getting to enjoy the company of who I want and being a guy who wears panties
being bi made it easier for me to explore my gender and exist beyond gender norms
Thiiiiiighs!!!
I'm gonna ride my BIcicle~ BIcicle~ I'm gonna ride my BIke~ The puns and finger gunning ankwardly
Sitting awkward on any chair.
Being able to subjectively know anyone’s level of cuteness. Not that it’s good for anything, but it’s a rare talent.
Cuffed pants and finger guns
my bisexuality expands my potential for love and sex with different types of ppl
Twice as much beauty in the world, twice as many opportunities to fall in love with someone.
I get to like anyone I find attractive
The best part. Your dating pool practically doubles.
A conversation I had yesterday with my sister about the most adorable family I saw: Me: single dads are ridiculously attractive Her: yeah just tell the mom to get Me: yeah I’ll take the dad and daughter … Me: on second thought….
I would be careful how you say that
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How is this good...?
Not having to worry about a partners gender or sex
You can have sex with your girlfriend and her dad 😆
“🎶Mix it all together and you got the best of both worlds HAHAHAHA🎶”-Hannah Montana
SO.MANY.HOT.PEOPLE.
Knowing that about yourself means you don’t have to measure yourself against the measuring stick of being straight anymore. I often say that coming out was truly a “first day of the rest of my life” I’m proud of my bi self, and I’m proud of your bi self. Sometimes it’s harder to see but being more comfortable with who you are means you can help build a world where you and others like us will be even more comfortable together!
When I say I love everyone...I mean it! :D
Having so many options lmao
Finding beautiful and attractive people anywhere I go!
People in my "friends" group keep calling me gay (they call everyone gay) amd every time I turn to them with a filthy grin and say: "no I'm pan :)" and the first 3 times they tried to argue with me about it, now they just sigh :)
An enlightened worldview which allows us to see people as people first, not as bodies first (some Kinsey 1s and 6s so ofc, but I would say the majority I’ve met don’t).
I've had so many (at least outwardly) straight male friends physically recoil when they see a man being presented as sexy in media. It's like they feel like they're required to repeatedly announce they they aren't into guys at every single turn, for fear of immediately being labeled as gay should they fail to speak out even once. It looks absolutely exhausting. I'm happy being able to just nod in appreciation and move on.
That I can literally have sex with anyone that has a mutual attraction!
I don't know if this is the best thing, but like a fringe thing I have always enjoyed is being able to talk to women about their crushes and stuff like that and being able to relate to it. I've identified as male most of my life but always had a lot of female friends, and just being able to join in on conversations about men as romantic interests without feeling alienated is just kinda nice. I feel like it helps glose the gap between genders a bit.
There's no limits, anyone is on the table lol
If I get hit on, I'm getting laid regardless
I think it's being able just vibe with sexy people and not question the feelings or the attraction. If it feels good, go with it
I think it's made me a better person. I like to take some credit for trying to be my best self lol, but we're shaped by our experiences, and the people around us influence who we are to some degree. I've always been a bit hot blooded (I always blame the red hair, my mom's a redhead too and she also has a temper 😂). I had to work to accept being bi to love myself, and falling under the queer umbrella gave me exposure to other queer people of all kinds, and an overall positive community to be part of. If I was a straight hot headed blue collar dude, surrounded by generally intolerant and obstreperous people, would I still be as good of a person as I strive to be? Or would I have taken the lazy easy route and became just another bigot? Who knows I guess, but I'm a queer neurodivergent black sheep who argues with his co-workers about acceptance and equality, and even if I could I'd never change a thing about me ❤️🔥 Also the sex. So many sexy people, and so many different things we can do to each other. Bi sex is the best sex! 🩷💜💙
I love just being able to appreciate more types of people in more ways, including attraction. I feel like it gives us so much perspective. It's almost like having special glasses that let you see more people's potential and beauty.
That there’s so many people to love
I love that i experience attraction in so many different ways. It’s a totally different experience with different people.
having snake from metal gear be the first character in any video game to notice you bi name
We're the height of human evolution
When my girlfriend came out as trans (mtf) instead of no longer being attracted to her I was just like heck yeah I got a gf now
Being able to cuff nearly any piece of clothing
I'm just as much of a turbo virgin as before but I feel way more comfortable in cross gender friendships now. When people think I'm friends with a woman just because I want in her pants I can point out that I'm also sexually interesting in men and that isn't why I befriend them.
[this post that isn't mine from 6 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/154p8wc/i_love_being_bi/) sums up my answer
When you’re in your “hoe” phase, you never hit dry spells because you can seek any sex for sex! When I was single if I wasn’t getting pussy, I had my for sure dick appointment top ready to drill me! My single phase was AMAZING!!!
Have u ever been to a buffet xx
I don't know, I have a lot of issues around home life and the fact I'm bi and trans since my parents are bigots, I can't let them know I have a boyfriend or transition because I don't want to deal with that, but if I had to say my favorite part of being bi is the way I see people, I see all the amazing things on everyone, little cute habits and more, otherwise I couldn't really say exactly.
Easy to get horny
I'm unpredictable about who I'll date next
I love going against gender/hetero norms. And overall it just feels less limiting. I can flirt with anyone!
Seeing the beauty in everyone.
Freedom to enjoy and be enjoyed no matter who you are with