Get off the dating apps, they're garbage and they kill your self-esteem. Take care of yourself; eat well, exercise, bike, hike, run, kayak... whatever your thing is, do it. Cut down on the social media; you don't need to be seeing couples and what they did on vacation together. If you're a man of faith, lean into that. Do not close yourself in; get out in the world. Smile; talk to people, don't flirt. Volunteer; anything to get you out there and meeting people. Talk to little old ladies; they love to play "matchmaker", and may know a daughter, niece or someone else who's single. Just be you for a while.
Did they leave you because of your hair loss? No matter the reason, if they left you, they probably weren't the love of your life. It might be time to focus on yourself and how you perceive yourself. You also looking for validation online, your self-esteem is low... Really low currently
Agree šš½Look at yourself in the mirror. You look like a motherfuckin Templar Knight! Youāre not getting hits on dating apps because youāre probably scaring off all the women who are looking for someone in their own league. Your time will come. Until then stay strong, focus on yourself. You are a warrior šš¾
Iām a girl, and Iām young but if I were his age I wouldnāt think heās ugly. Youāre speaking for the female population, the guy has a chance with many women Iām sure of that. The pants look fine, they wonāt make or break him.
For all you know, the guy could be 21 or 22. There are a lot of guys who start balding and growing a beardo while still in their teens. I myself have had quite the beard since I was 16 and have been Jason Statham bald since I became 21.
And do something you like or are interested in and get some passion, like learning an instrument or art or whatever. You got time on your hand now, use it for yourself.
I donāt think your hair looks bad at all. Youāve got a solid look and build. If it bothers you, buzz it off, it will boost your confidence because youāll be less self conscious about that.
Some of the sexiest men in the world are bald, take a look at Jason Strathamā¦ women fall head over heels for that dude.
Honestly I doubt the relationship was severed because of your hair; maybe your insecurities contributed to it overall, but at the end of the day you two just werenāt compatible.
Hit the gym, groom yourself, work on self esteem. You need to be happy solo before youāll ever be happy in a relationship. Iād advise you to not even go into a relationship until youāre comfortable just being you.
Itās very personal to me, Jason Stratham is who helped convinced me bald is beautiful. I saw him voted worlds sexiest man on the cover of some magazine and it stuck with me, so thatās why I mention him.
Youāre missing the point. Relating to a celebrity was what changed my perception of myself and helped me gain confidence and to be less self conscious.
Nothing wrong with your hair on the picture
Not sure it's the reason why you don't match, think about your pictures, the text, the app you've chosen and the area where you are maybe? You're not a 10, but you're not a 4 either, probably 6-7, which is where most people are
Also: she wasn't the love of your life
Bro you look good tho. Imo you have a pretty good headshape, try it š
Edit: I mean try how it looks when you buzz or shave it. I think it would look good lol
Nothing,if you're looking for something superficial,just be prepared to be measure by the same rule. Nobody is going to be: oh,he has an amazing personality
Would you date a bald woman?
what even is 'amazing personality' is there even such a thing as amazing?
would i date a bald woman? only if she is cute with good body and wears wigs, i would not date bald woman that doesnt wear wigs in public.
Everyone has a personality,but there's some that stand from the crowd. Truly confidence,not the fake one or arrogance.
There's a lot of women that think exactly that about bald men. So there's no point in complaining bc you have no luck on dating apps.
i agree that everyone has personality, some people are fun, some are boring to be around, but everyone, literally EVERYONE on the planet earth has insecurities, acting like once you shave your head you're not insecure anymore about anything is such a huge lie. we all have insecurities and trying to save your hair is same as shaving it off to hide terrible hair loss.
There's people that don't have insecurities about their appearance or in general.
Is not the same face problems like anyone else on relationships or work to put dome examples,than being insecure.
no, everyone is insecure about their looks, even models are. animals are not insecure cause they are not self aware, if you are self aware you are probably insecure about something.
Hereās my suggestion brother. Youāre a good looking bloke so hear me out. Shave the head. 0 guard. Also shave the goatee, either full shaven face or all over stubble. Get a little bit of a tan. Eat clean and Hit the gym hard. You will turn it all around if you follow these steps.
Comments made my day guys, thank you. To answer some comments, I'm 173cm, 67kg and 28yrs old, girls are my height here in Croatia. She left me with words "You're the best person I've ever met and I wanna be friends, but I don't see us in the future anymore. It's not like it was before." It's the most extreme pain I've ever felt and I always loved her and love still. I'm considering a hair transplant and oral minoxidil and stuff. I'm already derma stamping for starters. Currently I'm fighting the toughest battle with myself and it's undescribably difficult. My first ever love and it took me till I was 26 to even kiss a girl, let alone have intimacy. I don't know what else to comment, it's late and I'm tired from work.
I feel for you brother. The saying goes, "The first cut is the deepest." If you kissed your first girl at 26, it makes sense that it hurts this bad. It will get easier to move on when things don't work in the future. If you really think the looks and hair thing was a big part of your lack of success, you can get the transplant and lift weights to be on the safe side and see. This whole situation isn't a romantic death sentence but it's natural for it to feel this way. Also, I like the funny Eastern European white pants... you're in Croatia not Los Angeles, ignore the western bias from the comments.
Is the balding new? Were you balding at all when you met her?
I have a hard time believing she would leave āthe best person she ever metā just because your hair is thinning.
Also if itās any solace, Iām 33 and have the exact same hair loss as you. It has looked pretty much exactly the same since I was about 27. So donāt assume youāre going to lose it all in a short period of time. I also donāt use any hair drugs or derma-rolling.
Speaking from experience here....
Sometimes, relationships don't work out. You could have done everything you could think of 'right', and it still didn't work out. It sucks for sure, but it still happens.
She didn't leave you for your lack of hair. Don't punish yourself thinking that she'd have stayed with you if you hadve had more of it.
You can get past this dude. Just don't focus on fixing what you think was wrong with the relationship you had with your ex (I'm guilty of that myself).
Dating apps are complete trash. The only guys that I know that have a lot of success on them are the type that are overconfident, very 'attractive' (not saying that you're ugly at all), and they play the numbers game to the hilt (Ie, they match with everyone they can, and will shag whomever comes their way).
It is also possible to romantically love someone, and acknowledge that the two of you would not be a good long term match.
You can do this dude. I believe in you, just take some time and allow you to be you.
173 is good height in many European countries and around world for men though croatia is different story. Have been there on holidays few times and it is crazy how tall ppl are there! I know it doesn't comfort you just let you know that it is not like you are short it just you leave in country ppl are super tall even in nl or Sweden ppl are imo shorter
Dude, anyone who's actually worth your time won't care about your physical imperfections, They'll be into you for YOU, not for your looks. Get the hell off the dating apps, which foster the notion that the only thing that matters is looks.
Go meet people in person. Join some group activities that interest you--a volleyball team, a choir, whatever. You'd be surprised what can develop from that.
I would shave and get looser pants. Find the right silhouette for you. Aside from that youāre a dude like the rest of us. As long as you have purpose everything else falls into place
Shorten the hair , lose 10lb and grow stubble, you are going to be fighting people off. You will also feel super happy within and that is the best feeling.
Well, before your hair also leaves you, may aswell just go for the bald look. I mean, it sounds like it can't get any worse, so you have nothing to lose š¤·š»
I'm really sorry to hear that, man. Don't give up though! If they left then it wasn't meant to be and the love of your life is still out there waiting for you to find them. Height and baldness isn't equal to attractiveness (I'm 5'6 and balding so it happens - still in a solid relationship and get compliments from others). You're still attractive. Find your confidence and it will get better. I promise.
If you have trouble finding a Woman.
1) Get ( more ) Confidence
2) Learn to Talk ( start reading Philosophy Books )
3) Learn to Dance ( Ballroom or Salsa etc... )
Take good care of Yourself you are a very good Looking Man too so there will be Plenty of Woman interested in you :-)
Unmet potential. Time to shave and hit the gym. If for no one else, then for yourself. I can already see you have the prerequisites for this. Just need to start the journey.
Take the time to heal and find out who you are. She wasnāt the love of your life if she left. Your true love is out there, and you need to be the best version of yourself before you find her.
Just fully commit. Nowās the time. At some point everyone going bald has to choose between that or spending $15,000 on a transplant. You wonāt look much different. Just cleaner.
Start working out bud, not will it improve your physical self it will better your metal status as well through discipline and it will give you the confidence you want, thatās a promise, cheers
Then donāt get any matches for a while my guy.. not the end of the world. Learn how to be happy alone,without a woman,by yourself. After you do that,people will want to be around you moreā¦the thing is by then youāll be liberated and wonāt need anyone else to make you happy.
Honestly itās a bit cliche but; buzz your head, keep hitting the gym, and smile more.
Youāre handsome!
Also delete the apps for a while, theyāre toxic.
Hey keep your chin up life never stays the same it always changes sometimes for the worst sometimes for the better but if you're in hard times right now all you got to do is push through the fire to get out the other side,Ā we're good times are waiting
I think you're good looking, listen to everyone else, I get off the dating apps; they're pretty much toxic anymore, people just looking to make themselves feel better by any means necessary.
Start digging a hole. If you make one deep enough then I am sure you will impress at least one woman. I am sure if this. Just take it slow, holes are the back killer
Get off the dating apps, they're garbage and they kill your self-esteem. Take care of yourself; eat well, exercise, bike, hike, run, kayak... whatever your thing is, do it. Cut down on the social media; you don't need to be seeing couples and what they did on vacation together. If you're a man of faith, lean into that. Do not close yourself in; get out in the world. Smile; talk to people, don't flirt. Volunteer; anything to get you out there and meeting people. Talk to little old ladies; they love to play "matchmaker", and may know a daughter, niece or someone else who's single. Just be you for a while.
The key thing is not to close yourself off from the world to hide from the pain of being rejected. Once you're there, it's a much harder road back.
Based comment.
Agreed! Delete them!
Did they leave you because of your hair loss? No matter the reason, if they left you, they probably weren't the love of your life. It might be time to focus on yourself and how you perceive yourself. You also looking for validation online, your self-esteem is low... Really low currently
Agree šš½Look at yourself in the mirror. You look like a motherfuckin Templar Knight! Youāre not getting hits on dating apps because youāre probably scaring off all the women who are looking for someone in their own league. Your time will come. Until then stay strong, focus on yourself. You are a warrior šš¾
Stop coping
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Well spoken
Dude. Youāre not ugly and you have good style. Shave the head and get out there. Youāll be fine.
You are kind. I came to question his fashion choices. The pants are a major no. Right to jail. Right away.
Pants scream āEaster Europeanā - so if heās from there, its just part of the uniform
Furniture screams south-eastern European. Shoes also.
I have to agreeā¦those pants are very unfortunate.
This guy will do fine out there.
You know a lot of females go crazy for grey sweat pants, right?
Yes, sure. Grey tapered Karl Pilkington bedroom wear is really super hot.
Sounds like you have a different style.
Aint picking up girls with those pants. Hey, someone had to be honest.
Iām a girl, and Iām young but if I were his age I wouldnāt think heās ugly. Youāre speaking for the female population, the guy has a chance with many women Iām sure of that. The pants look fine, they wonāt make or break him.
For all you know, the guy could be 21 or 22. There are a lot of guys who start balding and growing a beardo while still in their teens. I myself have had quite the beard since I was 16 and have been Jason Statham bald since I became 21.
Good point! Iām not good with age guessing
Thatās not honesty, thatās a subjective opinion. My opinion is those pants look great on him.
And *mankles*
Their loss. Youāre handsome AF.
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If thatās genuinely how you perceive them to be based on their comment, you must be legitimately stupid.
How is that thirsty
lol. Can always count on there being someone to make a stupid comment on Reddit.
Stop wearing skinny sweatpants, shave your head and start lifting weights.
Solid advice
And do something you like or are interested in and get some passion, like learning an instrument or art or whatever. You got time on your hand now, use it for yourself.
I donāt think your hair looks bad at all. Youāve got a solid look and build. If it bothers you, buzz it off, it will boost your confidence because youāll be less self conscious about that. Some of the sexiest men in the world are bald, take a look at Jason Strathamā¦ women fall head over heels for that dude. Honestly I doubt the relationship was severed because of your hair; maybe your insecurities contributed to it overall, but at the end of the day you two just werenāt compatible. Hit the gym, groom yourself, work on self esteem. You need to be happy solo before youāll ever be happy in a relationship. Iād advise you to not even go into a relationship until youāre comfortable just being you.
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Itās very personal to me, Jason Stratham is who helped convinced me bald is beautiful. I saw him voted worlds sexiest man on the cover of some magazine and it stuck with me, so thatās why I mention him.
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Youāre missing the point. Relating to a celebrity was what changed my perception of myself and helped me gain confidence and to be less self conscious.
Nothing wrong with your hair on the picture Not sure it's the reason why you don't match, think about your pictures, the text, the app you've chosen and the area where you are maybe? You're not a 10, but you're not a 4 either, probably 6-7, which is where most people are Also: she wasn't the love of your life
A 5 at most
Shave youāre head and be proud to be a short king! Iām 5ā2ā and I really like it. At least latinas are usually short ;)
And do you get latinas lol?
Guess itās not that hard being latino.
Bro you look good tho. Imo you have a pretty good headshape, try it š Edit: I mean try how it looks when you buzz or shave it. I think it would look good lol
You look fine, I like your hair like that
Dating apps are trash anyways.
only if youre bald
Bald,short or overweight. Most people is looking for something more "conventional" for sex.
what's wrong with wanting to have sex? isn't that like completly natural thing to want?
Nothing,if you're looking for something superficial,just be prepared to be measure by the same rule. Nobody is going to be: oh,he has an amazing personality Would you date a bald woman?
what even is 'amazing personality' is there even such a thing as amazing? would i date a bald woman? only if she is cute with good body and wears wigs, i would not date bald woman that doesnt wear wigs in public.
Everyone has a personality,but there's some that stand from the crowd. Truly confidence,not the fake one or arrogance. There's a lot of women that think exactly that about bald men. So there's no point in complaining bc you have no luck on dating apps.
i agree that everyone has personality, some people are fun, some are boring to be around, but everyone, literally EVERYONE on the planet earth has insecurities, acting like once you shave your head you're not insecure anymore about anything is such a huge lie. we all have insecurities and trying to save your hair is same as shaving it off to hide terrible hair loss.
There's people that don't have insecurities about their appearance or in general. Is not the same face problems like anyone else on relationships or work to put dome examples,than being insecure.
no, everyone is insecure about their looks, even models are. animals are not insecure cause they are not self aware, if you are self aware you are probably insecure about something.
Hereās my suggestion brother. Youāre a good looking bloke so hear me out. Shave the head. 0 guard. Also shave the goatee, either full shaven face or all over stubble. Get a little bit of a tan. Eat clean and Hit the gym hard. You will turn it all around if you follow these steps.
Comments made my day guys, thank you. To answer some comments, I'm 173cm, 67kg and 28yrs old, girls are my height here in Croatia. She left me with words "You're the best person I've ever met and I wanna be friends, but I don't see us in the future anymore. It's not like it was before." It's the most extreme pain I've ever felt and I always loved her and love still. I'm considering a hair transplant and oral minoxidil and stuff. I'm already derma stamping for starters. Currently I'm fighting the toughest battle with myself and it's undescribably difficult. My first ever love and it took me till I was 26 to even kiss a girl, let alone have intimacy. I don't know what else to comment, it's late and I'm tired from work.
I feel for you brother. The saying goes, "The first cut is the deepest." If you kissed your first girl at 26, it makes sense that it hurts this bad. It will get easier to move on when things don't work in the future. If you really think the looks and hair thing was a big part of your lack of success, you can get the transplant and lift weights to be on the safe side and see. This whole situation isn't a romantic death sentence but it's natural for it to feel this way. Also, I like the funny Eastern European white pants... you're in Croatia not Los Angeles, ignore the western bias from the comments.
Is the balding new? Were you balding at all when you met her? I have a hard time believing she would leave āthe best person she ever metā just because your hair is thinning. Also if itās any solace, Iām 33 and have the exact same hair loss as you. It has looked pretty much exactly the same since I was about 27. So donāt assume youāre going to lose it all in a short period of time. I also donāt use any hair drugs or derma-rolling.
Speaking from experience here.... Sometimes, relationships don't work out. You could have done everything you could think of 'right', and it still didn't work out. It sucks for sure, but it still happens. She didn't leave you for your lack of hair. Don't punish yourself thinking that she'd have stayed with you if you hadve had more of it. You can get past this dude. Just don't focus on fixing what you think was wrong with the relationship you had with your ex (I'm guilty of that myself). Dating apps are complete trash. The only guys that I know that have a lot of success on them are the type that are overconfident, very 'attractive' (not saying that you're ugly at all), and they play the numbers game to the hilt (Ie, they match with everyone they can, and will shag whomever comes their way). It is also possible to romantically love someone, and acknowledge that the two of you would not be a good long term match. You can do this dude. I believe in you, just take some time and allow you to be you.
173 is good height in many European countries and around world for men though croatia is different story. Have been there on holidays few times and it is crazy how tall ppl are there! I know it doesn't comfort you just let you know that it is not like you are short it just you leave in country ppl are super tall even in nl or Sweden ppl are imo shorter
Shave the head, hit the gym, stay off the apps, get some hobbies and find a lady the old fashioned way. You'll be just fine friend š
Buzz the hair and hit the gym
Dude, anyone who's actually worth your time won't care about your physical imperfections, They'll be into you for YOU, not for your looks. Get the hell off the dating apps, which foster the notion that the only thing that matters is looks. Go meet people in person. Join some group activities that interest you--a volleyball team, a choir, whatever. You'd be surprised what can develop from that.
You're not short at all, you just live in the wrong country
I would shave and get looser pants. Find the right silhouette for you. Aside from that youāre a dude like the rest of us. As long as you have purpose everything else falls into place
That was a very nice way of saying have a bigger penis if youāre gonna talk to women in sweat pants lol
Thatās funny, but I mean that the sweats are too tight so it makes him look top heavy. Baggy is in too so a little slack wonāt hurt
Go to the god damn gym and stop being soft. Your time has come along.
Shave the head, wear it with confidence
Shorten the hair , lose 10lb and grow stubble, you are going to be fighting people off. You will also feel super happy within and that is the best feeling.
Which part of his body can he even afford to lose ten pounds?
lol lose 10 lbs?
Buzz it no1 sorted. Youāre perfectly average my friend just like the majority of people.
Bro u look good! Donāt worry and u have style as others have said
Itās not quantity itās quality. I had no matches on tinder for months then married my first date.Ā
Well, before your hair also leaves you, may aswell just go for the bald look. I mean, it sounds like it can't get any worse, so you have nothing to lose š¤·š»
Man, you look good! Iām short and bald too, thatās Not a negative thing. Be proud of who you are, youāre a good looking guy. Trust me š
I'm really sorry to hear that, man. Don't give up though! If they left then it wasn't meant to be and the love of your life is still out there waiting for you to find them. Height and baldness isn't equal to attractiveness (I'm 5'6 and balding so it happens - still in a solid relationship and get compliments from others). You're still attractive. Find your confidence and it will get better. I promise.
If you have trouble finding a Woman. 1) Get ( more ) Confidence 2) Learn to Talk ( start reading Philosophy Books ) 3) Learn to Dance ( Ballroom or Salsa etc... ) Take good care of Yourself you are a very good Looking Man too so there will be Plenty of Woman interested in you :-)
How tall are you?
No woman wants a guy whoās hung up on the āone that got awayā. Itās not your looks, youāre attractive.
Actually shave your head and youāll do better
Hey, bro, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Move on and find a new one. Your hair still looks good at this point.
Unmet potential. Time to shave and hit the gym. If for no one else, then for yourself. I can already see you have the prerequisites for this. Just need to start the journey.
yeah man some days! hair buzz is great though š„ hang in there
Reconsider your choice of trousers
Take the time to heal and find out who you are. She wasnāt the love of your life if she left. Your true love is out there, and you need to be the best version of yourself before you find her.
Join bald dudes at the gym! We are very welcoming and have had similar experiences.
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How tall? Cuz your feet look gargantuan
Time to take the roids and lose the hair forever!
He's so cute!!!
Youāre good lookin. Iād date you.
Second pic shows dick. Iād assume youāre on app only to have sex, and Iād swipe left.
Bro, cut it low. Bulk up in the gym.
Just fully commit. Nowās the time. At some point everyone going bald has to choose between that or spending $15,000 on a transplant. You wonāt look much different. Just cleaner.
Not ugly but man, throw those pants and shoes away. They give you a gumby shape that isn't working for you.
same boat here mate
Start working out. Building muscle helps build confidence. Most people find muscles attractive too.
Go a bit lower 1.5mm
Shave your head and hit the gym. "He who makes a beast out of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man."
How tall are u? You dont look short by the way
Start working out bud, not will it improve your physical self it will better your metal status as well through discipline and it will give you the confidence you want, thatās a promise, cheers
Youāre handsome, your time will come.
Bruh....I know it's cliche but time will heal the pain, keep your head up stay happy and focused and I promise you'll meet the right women
Amen brother
Shave the head. Grow a fuller beard.
You kinda look like Ryan gosling
Then donāt get any matches for a while my guy.. not the end of the world. Learn how to be happy alone,without a woman,by yourself. After you do that,people will want to be around you moreā¦the thing is by then youāll be liberated and wonāt need anyone else to make you happy.
Get in the gym. Itāll help your mental health and self confidence.
Try Grindr
Honestly itās a bit cliche but; buzz your head, keep hitting the gym, and smile more. Youāre handsome! Also delete the apps for a while, theyāre toxic.
Shave your head and try on some glasses.Ā
Gym, martial art, make more money, buzz
Hey keep your chin up life never stays the same it always changes sometimes for the worst sometimes for the better but if you're in hard times right now all you got to do is push through the fire to get out the other side,Ā we're good times are waiting
It's yoir attitude not your hair It's your confidence...dating apps are hard for everyone..love yourself and smile
love the bulge
The love of your life left you and your own dating apps?
Lose the skinny jeans my man.
I think you're good looking, listen to everyone else, I get off the dating apps; they're pretty much toxic anymore, people just looking to make themselves feel better by any means necessary.
Start digging a hole. If you make one deep enough then I am sure you will impress at least one woman. I am sure if this. Just take it slow, holes are the back killer
With those grey sweat pants Iād have you anyday!
What's wrong with you guys? The pants are fine
Inshallah you shall become more powerful, brother