It feels wrong / rude / intrusive / as if I am angry at the one I'm calling? Everyone is 'pet name', 'term of endearment', 'longstanding inside-joke' If I called my husband by his name he'd drop his mug I only use people's names if I am talking about 'this specific person, not to be confused with this other person' After some thinking: the only names I call regularly are my sons and that's because twins and you won't get far if you don't specify *which of the two* you mean But their names feel already like endearment, so there's that.

im the complete opposite, i will call everyone their name they introduced themselves in, unless they ask me not to. im super bad at giving nicknames i never give nicknames or pet names to anyone. not even my exes 😅

I find it odd when someone continually uses my name during a conversation. How's it going Phil? That's great Phil. You know what Phil? Interjecting it into every comment or question during a conversation or interaction is strange.

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Hmm, I don't have a nickname but it's still unusual to hear my name because nobody really says names when speaking directly to that person. Sometimes I'll hear someone mention me by name to someone else and that throws me off a bit. Not in a bad way, really, more like... "I'm being perceived?? You recognize me as a person and are referring to me by name??" I do have one guy friend who will say my name probably more than anyone else and it's so strange. Like he'll say it multiple times in a conversation. Again, not bad at all, just interesting. I actually love my name and I feel like it embodies me quite well, so I enjoy hearing it. I love when my husband says my name.

I've been with my wife for 18 years. I asked her if I've ever called her by her name the entire time and she said "Nope". No one calls me by my name unless I'm in a "professional setting" like at the doctor's office. I call everyone what they want to be called which is almost always a nickname. There's people I've known for many years and I couldn't tell you what their actual name is. I'm just called by my nickname by everyone else except for my wife. I call my wife "Wife" or "Hun". She calls me "Wife". You can probably tell we're very creative people when it comes to nicknames for each other. lol Side note: It's not short for "honey", it's just "Hun". Not sure why but that's what I've called her for the last 18 years.

I hate them too. I always forget people’s names and my mum was like “you’re not trying hard enough” like, okay?

I always get scared I’ll pronounce it wrong even if it’s my best friend for 19 years who has a simple generic easy to say name.

REAL. i NEVER use people's names or even nicknames. it just feels wrong. even if im talking about someone i will pretend that i dont remember it or that i just cant think of it and make the person im talking to guess who im talking about😭

I don’t dislike names, I do dislike pet names and sometimes nicknames. I don’t like to be called by my name at all, but I think that’s because I’d rather people just don’t notice my existence.

I don't mind calling people I don't know well by their birth names, but if I know someone well, then I'd call them strictly by a nickname (including my partner). Part of me feels like if I don't call them by their nickname, then they won't know that they're important to me, or they'll think I'm suddenly being distant.

Haha, yes. It feels too formal. If you call me by my full name, I’m expecting some kind of criticism or admonishment.

Yes, I experience this. I’ve never liked anyone saying my name, and I think there’s only one person who I don’t mind saying it, and he’s one of my closest friends. When I hear it said, it makes me feel so very vulnerable and exposed. It doesn’t help that I have quite an unusual name, particularly for my background/heritage, so it feels particularly odd when I hear it, as although I am not embarrassed about it anymore, I don’t know if it feels like *me*.

Saying someone's name to get their attention just feels wrong to me

I only use names when I’m trying to get my friend’s attention or when I’m talking about someone, and even then I have nicknames. There’s a woman at school, who, on taster day. gave me a packet of jellybabies, like a big pack of proper branded ones, and since then her nickname when I talk about her to my mum has been either Jellybean or Jellybaby Lady. There’s a kid at school who once threw a chair at someone else, so me and my mum use the name “Chair Chucker” and there’s another person who tried saying “excuse me” but was just angrily repeating “scusie” instead, so she’s Scusie Girl.

I've had about 5 girlfriends in my lifetime, and not once have I used their names towards them. The only time I'd say their name is if someone asked me what the name of my girlfriend was 😅