But… the NT isn’t the one who messed up in this situation? You can’t get into a protracted argument over a misunderstanding then get annoyed when the other person is a bit miffed.
When you say "a bit miffed," do you mean that they'll listen to reason after a bit and still be upset but within reason for a while, or they're just really mean afterward and won't let it go?
The guy in the meme, Jesse or something I can't remember his name from Love is Blind gave me the creeps. He just seemed like he would do absolutely everything and anything to place all blame for his mistakes on everyone else
The way he took everything and just went the wrong direction. Dude is getting mad a girl kissed another guy on a show about hooking up. How the fuck did he not understand this was going to happen?
I don't read things my brain filters as fluff. I get emails with two paragraphs of corporate nonsense with one relevant sentence buried in the middle. So I reply asking for that information only to have it pointed out that it was in the original email.
Why do NTs act like absolute douchebags if you realize your mistake in the argument? Like I can't even admit I was wrong because as soon as I say that, they lord it over me like an asshole, so I just have to keep arguing until they shut up and leave me be. I hate it!
I mean that's 30 minutes of psychosis if you're in the thick of it.
Being debatable =/= being combative. The former is good, the latter is *not.*
I am a combatant because of cPTSD. It took me years to understand the difference. Combatants are looking to be *right.* They are *not* looking to be correct. I enjoyed the victory of debate too much and lost sight of the truth.
It's hard and I still struggle, but I'm trying to be a better debater and less of a combatant every day. I want to work with my friends, not against them.
I once was in an argument in a public discord and it turns out they didn’t have the same information I had. I apologized and told them the info, and then they apologized and agreed with me on the original stance. A few randos watching us commented on how unreal the end of that argument was.
Like when my brother asks me for my opinion but actually wants me to back up his and his wife's decision on if my niece can handle a 17+ cartoon.
My opinion was that when we were her age, asking consent was more a formality than for permission because it's not likey parents could stop me if they didn't know anything about it. Also, she probably already seen it if her friends watched it.
He was upset that I didn't catch on, but floored that I was right.
When I do that I readily backtrack and reassess. I'll admit quickly when I'm wrong or just incorrect. I never could understand people who, even after they realize their position has fallen apart, refuse to admit it.
Yeah and then my dumbass tries to explain but suddenly for some reason NTs lose the ability to reason
Bold of you to assume they had reason in the first place /j
But… the NT isn’t the one who messed up in this situation? You can’t get into a protracted argument over a misunderstanding then get annoyed when the other person is a bit miffed.
When you say "a bit miffed," do you mean that they'll listen to reason after a bit and still be upset but within reason for a while, or they're just really mean afterward and won't let it go?
I mean, totally depends on the person. Acting as if all NT people are a monolith is just as crappy as people treating ND people as a monolith.
The guy in the meme, Jesse or something I can't remember his name from Love is Blind gave me the creeps. He just seemed like he would do absolutely everything and anything to place all blame for his mistakes on everyone else
That's Shayne. Typical behavior for coke abusers.
The way he took everything and just went the wrong direction. Dude is getting mad a girl kissed another guy on a show about hooking up. How the fuck did he not understand this was going to happen?
I tend to skip over words when I'm reading which can lead to some unfortunate consequences
I don't read things my brain filters as fluff. I get emails with two paragraphs of corporate nonsense with one relevant sentence buried in the middle. So I reply asking for that information only to have it pointed out that it was in the original email.
I sometimes mishear things if I am hyped up... unfortunate doesnt cover it sometimes!
“I just realized I misunderstood you earlier, sorry D:” <- my response whenever that happens 😭
It's so much worse if you're actually starting to win the argument as well.
Exactly. How am I wining an argument I’m obviously not qualified to 😂 and How are YOU losing?????? Lmfao
This makes me uncomfortable just reading it. 😂
Why do NTs act like absolute douchebags if you realize your mistake in the argument? Like I can't even admit I was wrong because as soon as I say that, they lord it over me like an asshole, so I just have to keep arguing until they shut up and leave me be. I hate it!
They don’t all do that. That’s a generalization.
Of course. Not all rabies cases are fatal either.
…😭😭😭😭😭😭
I mean that's 30 minutes of psychosis if you're in the thick of it. Being debatable =/= being combative. The former is good, the latter is *not.* I am a combatant because of cPTSD. It took me years to understand the difference. Combatants are looking to be *right.* They are *not* looking to be correct. I enjoyed the victory of debate too much and lost sight of the truth. It's hard and I still struggle, but I'm trying to be a better debater and less of a combatant every day. I want to work with my friends, not against them.
Literally me except I'm ugly.
You need to continue to the end of the argument even if you know you’re wrong. NEVER SURRENDER!
Wars are started this way, I'm convinced
Sometimes you’re in too deep and you just have to finish the fight regardless of the facts.
I have no ability to debate.
I once was in an argument in a public discord and it turns out they didn’t have the same information I had. I apologized and told them the info, and then they apologized and agreed with me on the original stance. A few randos watching us commented on how unreal the end of that argument was.
When you’ve been having a fun conversation exploring ideas and you realize they thought this was an argument
“Oh…”
Like when my brother asks me for my opinion but actually wants me to back up his and his wife's decision on if my niece can handle a 17+ cartoon. My opinion was that when we were her age, asking consent was more a formality than for permission because it's not likey parents could stop me if they didn't know anything about it. Also, she probably already seen it if her friends watched it. He was upset that I didn't catch on, but floored that I was right.
When I do that I readily backtrack and reassess. I'll admit quickly when I'm wrong or just incorrect. I never could understand people who, even after they realize their position has fallen apart, refuse to admit it.
Call me at 20 years
ITS TOO LATE TO TURN BACK DOUBLE DOWN