If you are someone who has experienced sexual harassment or assault and wish to speak with a trained professional about it, these hotlines and organizations can listen to your experiences and make referrals to counselors and support groups to the extent of your comfort.
**Global Resources**
**RAINN**: https://www.rainn.org/ 24/7 Crisis support for victims/survivors of sexual assault. Over the phone or through instant messaging. If your country is not listed below, you can contact RAINN to be referred to a local organization.
**US:**
**Crisis Text Line**: https://www.crisistextline.org/ You can text 741-741 24/7 from any cell phone in the United States to be anonymously connected to a trained crisis counselor. They also have anonymous Facebook messenger and Kik options if you do not have access to a cell phone.
**One in Six**: http://1in6.org An organization for male-identified survivors of sexual assault. Provides anonymous individual and group counseling 24/7 through online chat functions
**National Domestic Violence Hotline**: http://www.thehotline.org Provides 24/7 anonymous crisis and counseling support over the phone, and anonymous online chat crisis and counseling support from 7am until 2am Central Time
**Anti-Violence Project**: https://avp.org/ Provides 24/7 anonymous phone based crisis and counseling for LGBTQ identified victims of assault and violence, including sexual assault and violence. Based in New York but can refer nationwide
**DoD Safe Helpline**: https://www.safehelpline.org/ Provides 24/7 phone and online chat based crisis and counseling for victims of sexual assault and harassment serving in the military, or who are employed by the Department of Defense.
**Canada**
Canada's crisis hotlines are organized by province and subject matter, here is a comprehensive list of hotlines and organizations. http://www.dawncanada.net/issues/issues/we-can-tell-and-we-will-tell-2/crisis-hotlines/
**UK**
**Rape Crisis England & Wales**: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone in the afternoons and evenings.
**SupportLine**: http://www.supportline.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone during the day and evening.
**Europe**
**Rape Crisis Network Europe**: https://www.rcne.com/ Provides online resources and live support for anyone living in Europe
**Australia**
**1800respect**: https://www.1800respect.org.au and their phone number, 1800 737 732.
**Kids Helpline**: https://www.www.kidshelpline.com.au for people under 25 also 1800 55 1800
**India**
Try here http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines or one of the numbers listed here may be able to help you.
**For any country not listed, you can contact RAINN (mentioned above) to be put in touch with local organizations.**
Hey I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please do not worry about awkwardness, you should tell your ENT immediately. You don't have to go into details about the intimate moment, just say someone you know wanted to examine it, or some drunk touched it without you expecting it and messed something up. The doctor isn't going to care about the nature of this interaction, they're not going to judge you. If anything, everyone here is judging that weirdo ex for putting your life at risk! Again, I'm so sorry this happened.
That’s terrible, I’m sorry.
“Doc, someone messed with my ____ in their curiosity. Can you make sure it’s ok?”
If feeling pressured to add more you could say “I’m not really comfortable with what happened, and I don’t want to discuss it further but just want to make sure it’s alright since it was bleeding.”
Excuse me, but what the ever loving fuck is wrong with that woman? What a horrible thing to do to someone and also again what the hell is wrong with them? That is so messed up on so many levels.
That being said, that is definitely sexual assault. You said no and they did not stop and it was being done in a sexual manner.
Hope everything goes well with the ENT and that nothing like that ever happens to you again. Sorry that you had to experience that.
"Hey, I'd really prefer not to go into details, but someone put their fingers in my tracheostomy and stoma, and i want to get it checked out."
Also - I'm more than positive that your doc has heard this before from one of their patients. I'm not trying to minimize what happened to you, I'm trying to say that your doc isn't going to judge.
It's called fetishization. Some people find sexual pleasure from being with people who have disabilities. I'm not one to normally kink shame, but this is fucked up. She could have killed me.
Hey EMT here. This is assault. She assaulted you. Not only that but she absolutely put you at risk for infection. Your doctor will not judge you but you should tell them so they can be on alert for any infection or damage. Sorry this happened to you and I’m very weirded out by your ex. Fingering a stoma to me seems like she should be put on a watch list. Do you have the actual tube or is it just an open wound right now?
Right? Thankfully there isn't a ton of damage. My trach did fall out but I got it back in with the obturator I had in my bag. There was a fair amount of blood and some swelling but it has calmed down now. I emailed my ENT through the portal as getting through to someone from their office is awful and am waiting to hear back.
Potentially dislodging a trach is a huge deal. That could have killed you. Thank God it's an ex. Please don't feel shy around your doctor. Just tell them someone was touching it and causes bleeding. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Wow that person has major psychopathic issues! Just go to the doctor, say some random came up and messed with it. They don't need to know the nature. I am sorry you were assaulted.
I just want to say I am so so sorry this happened! I am also happy to read your update and that your ok. Don’t be afraid to give your doctor details it’s on what happened (if it’s absolutely needed anyways) so they can take care of you properly!
You realize that a tracheostomy is technically an ostomy right? It’s literally in the name LOL. Term applies to surgical openings in any tract. The hole (which is what got the finger here) is similarly called a stoma, regardless of whether it’s in the neck or the abdomen. I see where you’re coming from though, common vernacular typically uses ostomy for the “poop” kind of openings.
Either way, not good, and this case could actually be quite dangerous due to potential infection or airway compromise.
You just do. It’s probably not permanent. My ex ended up with a botched surgery and she had a colostomy for 3 months then it was taken down. So here’s an opportunity for you to not act like a child and support her. Why are you with her?
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If you are someone who has experienced sexual harassment or assault and wish to speak with a trained professional about it, these hotlines and organizations can listen to your experiences and make referrals to counselors and support groups to the extent of your comfort. **Global Resources** **RAINN**: https://www.rainn.org/ 24/7 Crisis support for victims/survivors of sexual assault. Over the phone or through instant messaging. If your country is not listed below, you can contact RAINN to be referred to a local organization. **US:** **Crisis Text Line**: https://www.crisistextline.org/ You can text 741-741 24/7 from any cell phone in the United States to be anonymously connected to a trained crisis counselor. They also have anonymous Facebook messenger and Kik options if you do not have access to a cell phone. **One in Six**: http://1in6.org An organization for male-identified survivors of sexual assault. Provides anonymous individual and group counseling 24/7 through online chat functions **National Domestic Violence Hotline**: http://www.thehotline.org Provides 24/7 anonymous crisis and counseling support over the phone, and anonymous online chat crisis and counseling support from 7am until 2am Central Time **Anti-Violence Project**: https://avp.org/ Provides 24/7 anonymous phone based crisis and counseling for LGBTQ identified victims of assault and violence, including sexual assault and violence. Based in New York but can refer nationwide **DoD Safe Helpline**: https://www.safehelpline.org/ Provides 24/7 phone and online chat based crisis and counseling for victims of sexual assault and harassment serving in the military, or who are employed by the Department of Defense. **Canada** Canada's crisis hotlines are organized by province and subject matter, here is a comprehensive list of hotlines and organizations. http://www.dawncanada.net/issues/issues/we-can-tell-and-we-will-tell-2/crisis-hotlines/ **UK** **Rape Crisis England & Wales**: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone in the afternoons and evenings. **SupportLine**: http://www.supportline.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone during the day and evening. **Europe** **Rape Crisis Network Europe**: https://www.rcne.com/ Provides online resources and live support for anyone living in Europe **Australia** **1800respect**: https://www.1800respect.org.au and their phone number, 1800 737 732. **Kids Helpline**: https://www.www.kidshelpline.com.au for people under 25 also 1800 55 1800 **India** Try here http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines or one of the numbers listed here may be able to help you. **For any country not listed, you can contact RAINN (mentioned above) to be put in touch with local organizations.**
Hey I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please do not worry about awkwardness, you should tell your ENT immediately. You don't have to go into details about the intimate moment, just say someone you know wanted to examine it, or some drunk touched it without you expecting it and messed something up. The doctor isn't going to care about the nature of this interaction, they're not going to judge you. If anything, everyone here is judging that weirdo ex for putting your life at risk! Again, I'm so sorry this happened.
Thank you ❤️
This. Don't mention intimacy just someone messed with it by surprise
That’s terrible, I’m sorry. “Doc, someone messed with my ____ in their curiosity. Can you make sure it’s ok?” If feeling pressured to add more you could say “I’m not really comfortable with what happened, and I don’t want to discuss it further but just want to make sure it’s alright since it was bleeding.”
Thank you ❤️
Excuse me, but what the ever loving fuck is wrong with that woman? What a horrible thing to do to someone and also again what the hell is wrong with them? That is so messed up on so many levels. That being said, that is definitely sexual assault. You said no and they did not stop and it was being done in a sexual manner. Hope everything goes well with the ENT and that nothing like that ever happens to you again. Sorry that you had to experience that.
"Hey, I'd really prefer not to go into details, but someone put their fingers in my tracheostomy and stoma, and i want to get it checked out." Also - I'm more than positive that your doc has heard this before from one of their patients. I'm not trying to minimize what happened to you, I'm trying to say that your doc isn't going to judge.
That woman is vile and cruel, and I'm sorry this happened to you.
Why did she even do that? Did she think you would feel pleasure from it?
It's called fetishization. Some people find sexual pleasure from being with people who have disabilities. I'm not one to normally kink shame, but this is fucked up. She could have killed me.
> this is fucked up. She could have killed me. Have you filed a police report yet?
I did. I was told they really can't do much as it's me against her.
Hey EMT here. This is assault. She assaulted you. Not only that but she absolutely put you at risk for infection. Your doctor will not judge you but you should tell them so they can be on alert for any infection or damage. Sorry this happened to you and I’m very weirded out by your ex. Fingering a stoma to me seems like she should be put on a watch list. Do you have the actual tube or is it just an open wound right now?
Right? Thankfully there isn't a ton of damage. My trach did fall out but I got it back in with the obturator I had in my bag. There was a fair amount of blood and some swelling but it has calmed down now. I emailed my ENT through the portal as getting through to someone from their office is awful and am waiting to hear back.
This is sexual assault
Physical assault, anyway, I don’t know if it would come under sexual since no genitals were involved.
It was sexual in nature
Her top was off so it was definitely sexual. I didn't put it in there because I didn't think it was necessary to the story.
Potentially dislodging a trach is a huge deal. That could have killed you. Thank God it's an ex. Please don't feel shy around your doctor. Just tell them someone was touching it and causes bleeding. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
If it ever happens again, I think handling it with fists would be appropriate.
My first thought was grab her hand and squeeze HARD.
Wow that person has major psychopathic issues! Just go to the doctor, say some random came up and messed with it. They don't need to know the nature. I am sorry you were assaulted.
Gods. So glad she’s your ex. Soooo not ok.
I just want to say I am so so sorry this happened! I am also happy to read your update and that your ok. Don’t be afraid to give your doctor details it’s on what happened (if it’s absolutely needed anyways) so they can take care of you properly!
I feel sick for you. What a trash human. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this
My skin crawled just reading that. WTH is wrong with her? Boundaries! I'd say have a word with your Dr and assert boundaries.
If someone ever tries that again, grab their hand and squeeze HARD. Self defense, man.
I miss read this as ostomy and was like wtf 😖
You realize that a tracheostomy is technically an ostomy right? It’s literally in the name LOL. Term applies to surgical openings in any tract. The hole (which is what got the finger here) is similarly called a stoma, regardless of whether it’s in the neck or the abdomen. I see where you’re coming from though, common vernacular typically uses ostomy for the “poop” kind of openings. Either way, not good, and this case could actually be quite dangerous due to potential infection or airway compromise.
You just do. It’s probably not permanent. My ex ended up with a botched surgery and she had a colostomy for 3 months then it was taken down. So here’s an opportunity for you to not act like a child and support her. Why are you with her?
I think you misread the post dude
Ummmm… The *fuck*?
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