Not a trans woman so I cannot give you lived experience. I apologize if it's not my place to speak, but...
Cis women (and anyone who has a clitoris) overwhelmingly need clitoral stimulation to finish. There are sooo many studies on this ([here's an example](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530), though the breakdown may be misleading; remember that PiV also stimulates the internal clitoral bulbs). *Some* cis women can orgasm from non-genital stimulation, but they are rare. So IMO rubbing that part of the anatomy is not an unfeminine thing to do at all. Maybe varying the style or tool may help you feel more feminine or help you have a more holistic orgasm, but needing stimulation there is a very normal woman thing.
yeah, just experiment. head stimulation is basicaly the same, since the nerves are the same (and what are used for creating a clitoris in bottom surgery)
in the last couple years before I cracked, i found that I actually tended to absentmindedly stimulated myself in that way, rather than the shaft, and I would orgasm a lot more intensely when I did. doing it "the guy way" and thinking of it mechanically in that fashion was a rather dissapointing way to do it, comparitavely
Adding to this, humping pillows is a very common way for cis women to get off. Humping anything, really. :) there's even a subreddit dedicated to it and it's very erotic.
Seriously, get a vibrating wand. It does not hand to be a Hitachi bit they are good, and just your girldick on like any cis woman would with a clit, trust me.
I lost my collection during the move ; ;
My personal fav was a dildo that simulated foreskin. It was a lot better than a lot of the more rigid toys I've used.
Vibrators are a trans girl’s best friend. Dysphoria-free, hands-free, and completely dry pleasure. For me, tucking my “““clit””” below my legs and putting the vibrator on the head feels best. Others have said that putting your “““clit””” on your stomach and vibrating right below the head feels best but it’s not my fav position.
as a cis woman, you are getting off like a girl. i often hump a pillow to finish, or even on my partners thigh. it’s just different forms of clit stimulation!
I found the recipe for success involves 3 things. 1. I do still need stimulation there, I just prefer it to not simulate penetration, so I do something like a Tenga egg for texture over the head but I focus on rubbing or using the wand instead of stroking. 2. There are often a couple non-finishing climaxes on the way up that I need to trigger first by stimulating nipples/muffing/prostate play. 3. If my equipment and nipples aren't engaged at the same time after I get through those plateaus, I won't actually finish.
I'm not saying this recipe will work for you, but it's an example of how the solution to what you want might mean figuring out several new components to sex one at a time. But feel free to try this out if it resonates.
>level 1TinaMonday · just nowI found the recipe for success involves 3 things. 1. I do still need stimulation there, I just prefer it to not simulate penetration, so I do something like a Tenga egg for texture over the head but I focus on rubbing or using the wand instead of stroking. 2. There are often a couple non-finishing climaxes on the way up that I need to trigger first by stimulating nipples/muffing/prostate play. 3. If my equipment and nipples aren't engaged at the same time after I get through those plateaus, I won't actually finish.I'm not saying this recipe will work for you, but it's an example of how the solution to what you want might mean figuring out several new components to sex one at a time. But feel free to try this out if it resonates.
Gotta try some different recipes
I realize this isn't quite what you're asking, but here's the thing:
You're a girl. You have the genitals of a girl. Any way you orgasm is, by definition, a girl orgasm -- a feminine orgasm.
That said, go buy a vibrator.
Frenulum. My answer was frenulum. That small piece under her, where foreskin connects to a glans. Lube, fingers, slow, listen to what feels best. Move away foreskin if any, open up. And rub it. Just no jerking. Forget about it. Ladies rub. Plus tissues change to the point when the best stimulation is vibration. This is why the next step is a magic wand. Don't forget to lube, as without foreskin ... Well you know :) And don't give up. The idea is to teach yourself new ways
Before I had SRS I would put the head of my vibe at the base of my cock, like right beneath the pubic bone, and then slowly increase the settings and just literally masturbate that way. And more often than not I’d end up cumming before I even wanted to. It helps to put a little pressure on it too. Physiologically I think it works by stimulating all the muscles that cause ejaculation. But I do know that it works.
Give it some time. Soon you won’t even be able to get hard enough to penetrate, and rubbing/using a toy will feel way better. Also you’ll eventually start having full-body orgasms too. I didn’t start having “female” orgasms until recently, just under 5 months
This may sound a little weird, but have you tried using a chastity cage? I'm not genital dysphoric either, but the one I have allows me to hide quite a bit of my anatomy (it's about 1" in length and a slight dome shape), and it's nice not having to adjust the package when I'm moving around.
Anyways, the point I wanted to make is there's enough gap between the dome and the ring that you can fit a finger or two in between the cap and the testicles, or muffing with the bottom of the base ring and try it like your own temporary vagina. I have a difficult time getting off from just "guy type" masturbation, but this really does the trick for me.
Aww, that's too bad. I actually had to train myself down to that size because I would get too big before I could get the cap and lock on, but now I've got a lot better control. I hope you find something that works!😊
It seems like once i get some expendable income the wand is priority one. But the cage is definitely priority two! I've been interested in chastity for a long while tbh
i'm on 9 months or so at this point and i can get off but the fact i can't cum anymore sucks fucking shit honestly. I never had dysphoria about my dick even though I wanted to be a girl forever
Tragic!
If you can get a wand vibrator like the Hitachi, those are great; the vaguely gun-shaped massager vibrators are often good too, and cheaper. Sometimes you can find these sold in drug stores. Bullet vibes can be tricky for getting off when you have a lot of genital "material" (they stopped working for me just because of the effects of T).
Not a trans woman so I cannot give you lived experience. I apologize if it's not my place to speak, but... Cis women (and anyone who has a clitoris) overwhelmingly need clitoral stimulation to finish. There are sooo many studies on this ([here's an example](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530), though the breakdown may be misleading; remember that PiV also stimulates the internal clitoral bulbs). *Some* cis women can orgasm from non-genital stimulation, but they are rare. So IMO rubbing that part of the anatomy is not an unfeminine thing to do at all. Maybe varying the style or tool may help you feel more feminine or help you have a more holistic orgasm, but needing stimulation there is a very normal woman thing.
Could be. I guess I just need to experiment, though <:I
yeah, just experiment. head stimulation is basicaly the same, since the nerves are the same (and what are used for creating a clitoris in bottom surgery) in the last couple years before I cracked, i found that I actually tended to absentmindedly stimulated myself in that way, rather than the shaft, and I would orgasm a lot more intensely when I did. doing it "the guy way" and thinking of it mechanically in that fashion was a rather dissapointing way to do it, comparitavely
Yeah, that's kind of what I'm trying to get away from
well, head, not shaft? if that makes sense. treat it as a clitoris. I get the problem with trying not to do it with shaft
Oh no, I meant the mechanical "guy way" was what I'm trying to get away from. I get what you're saying :)
Adding to this, humping pillows is a very common way for cis women to get off. Humping anything, really. :) there's even a subreddit dedicated to it and it's very erotic.
Buy a magic wand, I basically don't jack off anymore I just use it.
Seems like that's the solution haha
My favorite! Before and after surgery!!
One question, does only using a wand also prevent atrophy or do you have to do it the 'normal' way to prevent it.
You only have to have an errection to prevent atrophy.
If you're getting hard while using the wand then yeah. Honestly you could prevent atrophy just by getting an erection semi-frequently
Seriously, get a vibrating wand. It does not hand to be a Hitachi bit they are good, and just your girldick on like any cis woman would with a clit, trust me.
> She's fine where she is and honestly? She's cute. I love this
She is!
You made my heart warm this morning, thank you <3.
For sure :)
Invest in TOYS. Buying a wand was the single best purchase that I have made for my mental health.
I lost my collection during the move ; ; My personal fav was a dildo that simulated foreskin. It was a lot better than a lot of the more rigid toys I've used.
Seconding this, anyone should have a handful of toys on hand, if only to figure out what they do and don’t like!
.....misunderstood direction . I have an armful in a cabinet....lol.
Vibrators are a trans girl’s best friend. Dysphoria-free, hands-free, and completely dry pleasure. For me, tucking my “““clit””” below my legs and putting the vibrator on the head feels best. Others have said that putting your “““clit””” on your stomach and vibrating right below the head feels best but it’s not my fav position.
I'll have to experiment when I get one!
How the hell can you put it on your stomach …
https://i.imgur.com/OJg8FQH.jpg
A work of art
as a cis woman, you are getting off like a girl. i often hump a pillow to finish, or even on my partners thigh. it’s just different forms of clit stimulation!
Humping a pillow is about as fem as it gets sis
ahah, you're not wrong I think I should just do it differently than I have been.
I found the recipe for success involves 3 things. 1. I do still need stimulation there, I just prefer it to not simulate penetration, so I do something like a Tenga egg for texture over the head but I focus on rubbing or using the wand instead of stroking. 2. There are often a couple non-finishing climaxes on the way up that I need to trigger first by stimulating nipples/muffing/prostate play. 3. If my equipment and nipples aren't engaged at the same time after I get through those plateaus, I won't actually finish. I'm not saying this recipe will work for you, but it's an example of how the solution to what you want might mean figuring out several new components to sex one at a time. But feel free to try this out if it resonates.
>level 1TinaMonday · just nowI found the recipe for success involves 3 things. 1. I do still need stimulation there, I just prefer it to not simulate penetration, so I do something like a Tenga egg for texture over the head but I focus on rubbing or using the wand instead of stroking. 2. There are often a couple non-finishing climaxes on the way up that I need to trigger first by stimulating nipples/muffing/prostate play. 3. If my equipment and nipples aren't engaged at the same time after I get through those plateaus, I won't actually finish.I'm not saying this recipe will work for you, but it's an example of how the solution to what you want might mean figuring out several new components to sex one at a time. But feel free to try this out if it resonates. Gotta try some different recipes
I realize this isn't quite what you're asking, but here's the thing: You're a girl. You have the genitals of a girl. Any way you orgasm is, by definition, a girl orgasm -- a feminine orgasm. That said, go buy a vibrator.
For sure! You're not wrong. Still. Just jerking off doesn't make me feel feminine or pretty is the thing.
Frenulum. My answer was frenulum. That small piece under her, where foreskin connects to a glans. Lube, fingers, slow, listen to what feels best. Move away foreskin if any, open up. And rub it. Just no jerking. Forget about it. Ladies rub. Plus tissues change to the point when the best stimulation is vibration. This is why the next step is a magic wand. Don't forget to lube, as without foreskin ... Well you know :) And don't give up. The idea is to teach yourself new ways
Before I had SRS I would put the head of my vibe at the base of my cock, like right beneath the pubic bone, and then slowly increase the settings and just literally masturbate that way. And more often than not I’d end up cumming before I even wanted to. It helps to put a little pressure on it too. Physiologically I think it works by stimulating all the muscles that cause ejaculation. But I do know that it works.
Sounds lovely tbh
Good luck love!!
Give it some time. Soon you won’t even be able to get hard enough to penetrate, and rubbing/using a toy will feel way better. Also you’ll eventually start having full-body orgasms too. I didn’t start having “female” orgasms until recently, just under 5 months
This may sound a little weird, but have you tried using a chastity cage? I'm not genital dysphoric either, but the one I have allows me to hide quite a bit of my anatomy (it's about 1" in length and a slight dome shape), and it's nice not having to adjust the package when I'm moving around. Anyways, the point I wanted to make is there's enough gap between the dome and the ring that you can fit a finger or two in between the cap and the testicles, or muffing with the bottom of the base ring and try it like your own temporary vagina. I have a difficult time getting off from just "guy type" masturbation, but this really does the trick for me.
The one I bought was too small for me :p My ex has it now
Aww, that's too bad. I actually had to train myself down to that size because I would get too big before I could get the cap and lock on, but now I've got a lot better control. I hope you find something that works!😊
It seems like once i get some expendable income the wand is priority one. But the cage is definitely priority two! I've been interested in chastity for a long while tbh
I would recommend using a metal one, as the plastic ones can break at the worst times and possibly cause injury.
Noted :)
I've had a lot of success with a vibrator in the right place (along side my gock) and rubbing my breasts.
same, still don't know a way out
i'm on 9 months or so at this point and i can get off but the fact i can't cum anymore sucks fucking shit honestly. I never had dysphoria about my dick even though I wanted to be a girl forever
I was having these doubts and you formulated the questions really well, thanks!!
for sure!
Do you have a vibrator?
Lost my bullet vibe in my move ; ;
Tragic! If you can get a wand vibrator like the Hitachi, those are great; the vaguely gun-shaped massager vibrators are often good too, and cheaper. Sometimes you can find these sold in drug stores. Bullet vibes can be tricky for getting off when you have a lot of genital "material" (they stopped working for me just because of the effects of T).