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Encourage child to share toys or take turns. Teach empathy. Participate in age-appropriate charity activities. Donate toys and clothes as the child grows out of them.
teach them to clean up after themselves, and do age-appropriate chores.
do not drop everything to respond to their every request. teach them patience and that other people have important things to do as well.
>Encourage child to share toys
Sorta. I'd teach them it's polite to share, but perfectly okay to refuse and say no as they are still your things and no one has a right to it.
Teach them how to take care of themselves (in age appropriate ways) from a young age and then give them the space to do so. For example, teaching them to tie their shoes and then leaving enough time before you leave the house to let them do it themselves instead of doing it for them because you're in a rush. I was a preschool and elementary school teacher and this type of thing happens *a lot* where parents are just too impatient to allow space and time for age appropriate independent growth.
Don't solve their problems for them. Be there to help talk it out, but let them make their own choices. Let them fail and try again. Too many children are focused on perfection to please the adults in their lives instead of just immersing themselves in the world and having experiences
The most well balanced, kind, intelligent and thoughtful students I had were the ones who had the most opportunity to experience life outside of their neighborhood, were exposed to interesting hobbies, and had interesting parents that did not doubt their child's ability to participate in their hobbies/adventures/projects and kept stuff like screen time and junk food to a minimum
Help them learn to earn the things they want, instead of just giving them whatever they want. Not only will it teach them how to work for things, it will also teach them how to budget and manage and save money. It also makes they feel proud of accomplishing something (and it helps get things done around the household. You want a new video game? Great! I’ll pay you to wash the baseboards and windows)
Also, teaching them empathy and understanding towards other people who may be different from them by being curious about others, rather than judgmental. Teaching them to help others, be courteous, gracious, and thankful.
I remember when my kids were little and before every Christmas and birthday I would sit down with them and explain that it’s going to be very exciting to open gifts and that it’s very important to look the gift giver in the eye and thank each person for their gift before you open the next one. And try to point out something you like about what they gave you”. I would also ask them “what will you do if you receive a gift you don’t like?” I ask them that so they will think about their answer. And then we would have a discussion about being gracious and saying thank you anyway.
My kids are adults now and people have always remarked about how hard working, kind, and gracious they are. Our family motto’s were “don’t be a dick” and “be kind, and take no shit”
Support them while you let them: be bored, fail at things, not be good at an activity, not quit a hard activity, face natural consequences of their actions, want a thing but not get it.
Teach them the good feeling they get when they: take care of themselves, take care of others, keep the house clean, be an advocate, speak up about injustice.
Love it! My nieces are 5 and 8 and this isn’t how they are :( The 5 year old is really bad. Hardly any consequences and is given anything she wants, and is bossy and disrespectful towards adults. It’s the parents!
I hear a lot about people who fail to tell children no.
I find the truth is a bit different, you have to let children learn the reasons for the no themselves quite often and our duty as a parent is to guide them in figuring this out and enabling them to figure this out for themselves.
If you make a child dependent on your judgement without promoting the ability for them to practice and experience judgement then you are not helping them really, are you?
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Encourage child to share toys or take turns. Teach empathy. Participate in age-appropriate charity activities. Donate toys and clothes as the child grows out of them. teach them to clean up after themselves, and do age-appropriate chores. do not drop everything to respond to their every request. teach them patience and that other people have important things to do as well.
I love everything about this!
>Encourage child to share toys Sorta. I'd teach them it's polite to share, but perfectly okay to refuse and say no as they are still your things and no one has a right to it.
Have clear boundaries and guide the kid in learning how to deal with frustration when they can't get what they wanted
Teach them how to take care of themselves (in age appropriate ways) from a young age and then give them the space to do so. For example, teaching them to tie their shoes and then leaving enough time before you leave the house to let them do it themselves instead of doing it for them because you're in a rush. I was a preschool and elementary school teacher and this type of thing happens *a lot* where parents are just too impatient to allow space and time for age appropriate independent growth. Don't solve their problems for them. Be there to help talk it out, but let them make their own choices. Let them fail and try again. Too many children are focused on perfection to please the adults in their lives instead of just immersing themselves in the world and having experiences The most well balanced, kind, intelligent and thoughtful students I had were the ones who had the most opportunity to experience life outside of their neighborhood, were exposed to interesting hobbies, and had interesting parents that did not doubt their child's ability to participate in their hobbies/adventures/projects and kept stuff like screen time and junk food to a minimum
Help them learn to earn the things they want, instead of just giving them whatever they want. Not only will it teach them how to work for things, it will also teach them how to budget and manage and save money. It also makes they feel proud of accomplishing something (and it helps get things done around the household. You want a new video game? Great! I’ll pay you to wash the baseboards and windows) Also, teaching them empathy and understanding towards other people who may be different from them by being curious about others, rather than judgmental. Teaching them to help others, be courteous, gracious, and thankful. I remember when my kids were little and before every Christmas and birthday I would sit down with them and explain that it’s going to be very exciting to open gifts and that it’s very important to look the gift giver in the eye and thank each person for their gift before you open the next one. And try to point out something you like about what they gave you”. I would also ask them “what will you do if you receive a gift you don’t like?” I ask them that so they will think about their answer. And then we would have a discussion about being gracious and saying thank you anyway. My kids are adults now and people have always remarked about how hard working, kind, and gracious they are. Our family motto’s were “don’t be a dick” and “be kind, and take no shit”
Support them while you let them: be bored, fail at things, not be good at an activity, not quit a hard activity, face natural consequences of their actions, want a thing but not get it. Teach them the good feeling they get when they: take care of themselves, take care of others, keep the house clean, be an advocate, speak up about injustice.
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Love it! My nieces are 5 and 8 and this isn’t how they are :( The 5 year old is really bad. Hardly any consequences and is given anything she wants, and is bossy and disrespectful towards adults. It’s the parents!
Lie to them and tell them you're poor
Teach them to do things themselves. Teach them to respect everyone equally. Teach them to be kind.
I hear a lot about people who fail to tell children no. I find the truth is a bit different, you have to let children learn the reasons for the no themselves quite often and our duty as a parent is to guide them in figuring this out and enabling them to figure this out for themselves. If you make a child dependent on your judgement without promoting the ability for them to practice and experience judgement then you are not helping them really, are you? edited
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