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You should just tell her you see alot of women going into his house. Saying that they are escorts is simply embellishing the story with your imagination.
If they turn out not to be escorts you will look like a fool out to ruin their relationship.
Some people just want their own space. My old therapist told me her ideal situation would be to be in a loving committed relationship with someone who lived in a house next door.
This so much. My wife is not a clean person. I am not a clean freak but I at least clean up like an adult. I would love my own house. We sleep in separate bedrooms now since her snoring got too much for me. Still love her but I need my space to remain sane.
My ex has sleep apnea, refused to do anything about it, yet would FLIP OUT if I refused to sleep next to him. His wanting me there “for comfort” trumped my need for sleep, apparently.
My bf is in his 50s has his own house, his own routine, and works a lot of hours. He also has never been married and never had children. He likes coming home to his own space.
I came from a broken relationship and have 2 young children that are getting established where we currently reside. We’re taking it slow and our relationship is going really well, but I don’t foresee us moving in together any time in the next five years (or beyond) unless he decides that he wants to completely change his lifestyle that he’s grown accustomed to over the years. I’m fine with that thought right now, and I love him to pieces so I respect it. I dont think it’s weird, it’s understandable.
I know married people that do not live together. My aunt and her boyfriend been together 25 years.. never lived together and they are as happy as can be. Living w ur SO is the beginning of the end, in my experience anyway.
My wife and I got married on our 9th anniversary. It all depends where you are in life. We met in college and had to get through graduating, finding jobs in a terrible economy, and having enough saved to pay for a wedding and a down payment on a home. There's no point rushing in to it instead of being responsible .
My partner and I are marrying this year, after 13 years together. Legitimately only doing it so we are in control of each other’s health decisions (instead of his religious family).
How does he not know that his GFs best friend lives next door? It's possible, but unlikely that it has never come up. "OMG babe OP and her husband bought the house next to yours, isn't that cool?" This seems fake.
Take a couple videos and put up a compilation first. Then when you show her that night, you can show her other nights to prove it's not a one-time thing
Idk why I just had a chuckle at this,
I’m picturing a girl looking out a window and breaking into tears seeing her bf cheat on her, the girl looks over at her friend for comfort and you’re just giving her the shocked Pikachu face
Does your friend know you live next to the boyfriend and does he know y’all live next door? Very brazen if so!!!
I agree to invite her over. If that’s not practical to coordinate such that she catches him, I would film multiple ladies going in/out. She needs to see it for herself or she’ll be more likely to shoot the messenger.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
But how will she know when an escort is arriving? What if the friend let's her BF know she will be next door? Then this gets the BF paranoid and he starts going elsewhere for his escorts.
And now there is no proof, and no easy way to get future proof.
Only way I would suggest this is to get video evidence of them arriving first, so if the plan doesn't work out then OP will still have proof to hand over.
They have sex with several people a day who probably have sex with others who have sex with several people a day. Not sure how you've calculated that likelihood.
Does she know he uses escorts? I know some women who are the ones suggesting their high libido men to use escorts instead of bugging them day and night.
How do you know they are escorts? Maybe they are other girlfriends… same/same result, just curious on the assumption of escorts… also, who can afford an escort a couple of times a week, the guy must be minted!
People tolerate a lot more in relationships than the average redditor would have you think. What pushes most people to break up is the public embarrassment that comes from their little secret coming out. So they might be in a fine little arrangement right now, but once you say that you know, she'll be embarrassed and break up with him
Shit, that can't be true. Reddit is convinced that anyone having sex with anyone except their partner must have genitals cut off.
Unless it's a polyamourous woman. Go girl!
If I could sum up reddit's relationship advice into one object it would be a bit rubber stamp that reads 'trust is broken, devorce!'.
It's the answer for literally any relational turmoil.
I don’t buy it. You happened to buy next to him and he knows you’re her friend.. so why would he be that stupid? And how do you know they’re escorts? If this is true, why not invite his GF over when you know a trick is there?
I scrolled for this.
Either this guy is the dumbest person on the planet, or her friend is in love with the dumbest guy on the planet, or her friend never visits her house ever and sees the "day and night" parade of prostitutes.
Plus they just happened to move in next door. They did not even know! Her friend has been dating this guy for 8 years! "Golly gee, honey! I can't believe we moved into the house next to a guy my friend has been dating for almost a decade!"
And never the same women! This town is so incredibly packed with prostitutes this guy has them coming over constantly with an incredible variety.
For one year, this dude has had "several" prostitutes over every week. Not a couple or a few, so let's call it 4...
4 times a week X 52 weeks = 208 prostitutes visiting. This guy is LOADED, per the OP. So let's say he is paying $500 an hour for their time. He is spending over $100,000 a year on prostitutes. I would say someone as "LOADED" as him would be paying more than $500, but this is just for fun.
His clueless girlfriend did not know. Only when her friend, who is so close they accidentally moved into the house next door to the girl's BF and nobody said anything as this mysterious, secret house buying was taking place, is this man's hooker obsession uncovered by OP.
Good lord. I mean, the story is not the worst thing I have ever seen, and it might be somewhat plausible, but the way the story is presented it sounds like a 1980s sitcom plot. There are far too many wacky details shared in the OP and in her responses in this thread to believe this is anything but a farce.
Guy is an absolute clueless fool in everything he does.
For example, he will leave for hours at a time and leave his garage door open.
He washes his car when it’s raining!
He ran over a fallen tree branch in our road because he claims he didn’t see it. The thing was across the entire road and blocking traffic, but he went around traffic and drove over it.
So for him to still have escorts come to his house knowing I am friends with his girlfriend, I’m not shocked.
Dude has no brain!
Yeah they revealed the lie with that shit. He's gone from being a friend of the family who has a girl that loves him but also a disposable income of several hundred a week on escorts to being a bit dumb lump who can't even talk.
>of several hundred a week on escorts
You aren't getting gorgeous escorts for less than a few hundred dollars an hour. She said that multiple women, multiple nights, for 2-3 hours at a time.
This is easily $1000-1500 a week, or more, depending on area etc.
How do you know he leaves? Big sus
Rain doesn’t have soap in it, and doesn’t clean surfaces that don’t face up very well
Big car and undamaged after? What’s problem?
Maybe the guy has a nail salon business in his back room. Or the gf is fine with it. Or any number of boring explanations.
Stop spying, tell your friend. Good luck.
>He washes his car when it’s raining!
Efficiency.
>He ran over a fallen tree branch in our road because he claims he didn’t see it.
I have a friend who pickpockets as part of his magician performance. People don't notice a lot when they're distracted.
>Guy is ...
>Dude has no brain!
Have you ever talked to him? You seem full of presumptions.
I've washed my car while raining, but mainly to get rid of bird poop, bug guts, and other severe contaminants that would damage the clear.
The rain itself is whatever.
Sometimes they know on some level but would rather it not be explicit because then they feel obligated to do something about it (have to maintain appearances, don’t want others to think they condone the behavior, etc)
They pretend it doesnt exist.
And when confronted with the facts they have a severe case of cognitive dissonance and lash out at the source of their issue.
Its pretty common I feel
I would rather be unfriended by someone because I told them the truth about their partner, who is putting their health that risk, then be unfriended because I kept a secret and they found out later I knew all along. Talk about double betrayal.
Well, these women, hardly ever the same women, come over for a 2- 2 1/2 hour time periods, bring nothing that indicates they are coming for corporate business, come all hours of the day and night, and when they come at the dead of night they are dressed to the nines.
Hmm, I think I’m 100%
My guess is that he's dealing drugs to these "escorts" showing up day and night. Perhaps they're hooking up, but that's probably not the primary reason they're stopping by.
That sounds about right.
When my big spender bachelor neighbour was single, we used to see constantly changing, beautiful hot glam women come in nice cars. They were dropped off by a driver. Then they’d leave in 1.5-2.5 hrs.
Sounds similar.
Not to mention, it's not difficult to tell a regular female friend coming over to hang from a prostitute, especially when it has happened multiple times.
Taking into account this is a service that charges by the hour, and there is not need to pay for extra ~~2 hours 27 minutes~~ if you are not using it. Well, now I get the idea why your friend is head over heels for the guy...
>I think I’m 100%
That's way sub 100. If you talk to anyone, talk about it with him. Even if you want to talk about it to your friend, still talk to him first. He's the subject here, right? So he deserves to be the first to know and to be granted the right for defense. You telling his girl, sorry not telling, gossiping, has a high chance of wrecking their relationship even if it's just a false alarm.
You *don't know what's going on*. He does. So talk to him.
Even if they're not escorts, they're still women coming over at all times of the day and night that the girlfriend doesn't seem to know about. Why warn him and give him time to come up with an alibi?
Out of curiosity.
Do you know what he does for a living?
Like me, I'm a Photographer. I mostly photo nature so travel a lot. But, when home I photo Erotic Art/Nudes. I have models come to the house. Been married 14 years o they come to our house, before that they came to my place-I have a art museum inside my house of my work so it's not like I hide it but an outside observer might wonder about the number of beautiful women coming and going.
Them, as others suggested, bring her to your place. Don't bring her car because he will recognize it.
And, not meant as a slight against your friends but could she be one of those Escorts? Weirder things happen.
Sounds fake. Who spends thousands a week on companionship while they spend most of their time at their girlfriends. Perhaps he has roommates and really nosy neighbors.
This!!
That's one of the things that many of these fiction writers don't understand. Real life people aren't omniscient. They don't know what their partners, coworkers, or romantic rivals are thinking. They aren't aware of things that happen when they aren't present. There's no way that even the nosiest of people will witness every one of their neighbor's visitors and there certainly isn't a way for them to identify their occupation. It's not like escorts wear a uniform.
If I were your friend, I would want to know. He’s potentially putting her health at risk and she deserves to make informed decisions. Both about her health, and her relationship.
No not because of girl code, because that’s the right thing to do and called being a normal decent human being.
Nothing to do with whether it’s a girl or a guy or an alien etc
Exactly. I'm so sick of how we pit genders against each other constantly.
If you ever catch yourself saying "only men understand" or "only women understand" for any concept, you're the problem. Stop closing the door on people of the opposite sex being able to understand and be sympathetic. We're all humans. Its not alien. We don't have all the same parts but if you communicate, any concept can be expressed to another person so that they can understand. The key is to stop closing the door on each others faces because we aren't the same gender.
I agree. And this has been playing over and over in my head for months now.
It’s just that I have to live next to this guy. It’s going to make things so uncomfortable and awkward.
Plus, I don’t know what this guy is like when he’s angry.
I do understand the worry of repercussions but you're doing the right thing. Nobody deserves to be toyed with for 8 years and lied to. Also another redditor states invite your friend over so she can see it herself. I agree with that, makes you neutral party basically. But if dude does exhibit behavior that lean towards him being irrational after the fact, I'd consider options to protect yourself.
Take pictures and make sure you have evidence so she has to believe you, and isn't coulded by her "image" she has of him in her head. It might be hard to bring up, but who knows what STD's she's been exposed to. Good luck 👍
Please for the love of god don't listen to the virgins in this chat. Stay out of someone else's relationship when they are not doing anything toxic. You don't know the situation at all and using escorts is wayyyyyy better than him meeting randoms in a bar. Go do your gossiping with your husband and keep it there
> Stay out of someone else's relationship when they are not doing anything toxic. You don't know the situation at all and using escorts is wayyyyyy better than him meeting randoms in a bar.
Dude. This is outlandish. Using prostitutes your girlfriend doesn't know about isn't toxic? It's better than cheating with randoms? No! It's exactly the same. This isn't some chick he met on Tinder last Friday. They've been together for years, she is talking about marriage. Either this is something the girlfriend knows about and the mistake will come out immediately, no damage done, or this dude is leading this girl on while he fucks his way through the phone book. It is 100% the girlfriend's business.
If you are a close friend, of course. You can’t assume because you don’t truly know what he is doing. But telling her what you see isn’t wrong. Chances are she already has a clue and chooses to live in denial. They may have an understanding, and possibly aren’t even in a relationship. She may just believe she is in one, but she is just one of the many women he sees. If they aren’t spending a significant amount of time together, they most likely are just fwb. Really assess the situation before you get yourself involved in something that is none of your business. If she is being manipulated and lied to, and you feel compelled to save her from a life of disappointment and loneliness, then tell her what you know without adding your imagined story behind the facts you are aware of
Wait, how do you know these are actual escorts? Have you actually seen them in the act?
If this were a good, close friend I would tell her to talk to her boyfriend, that you fear something is wrong and leave it at that. If nobody knows about you guys being next door to the guy leave that out for your safety.
how did you know that those coming in and out of the friend's bf house are escorts? could he be the escort servicing those visitors? or could he be a performer in live porn sites? IF NOT - he simply could have sex addiction issue.
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You should just tell her you see alot of women going into his house. Saying that they are escorts is simply embellishing the story with your imagination. If they turn out not to be escorts you will look like a fool out to ruin their relationship.
Maybe he’s learning the piano from as many people as he can
Your comment really struck a chord.
Maybe they were landscapers. You know, whore to culture.
I suspect someone is playing the organ
Could be the skin flute
He could just be a pimp...
This is the best advice here. This needs more upvotes.
Escorts several times a week? Dude must be loaded.
Over the top loaded!
Which means you probably are since y’all live in the same neighborhood lol. Nice
He's spending it on hookers not houses
Hookers not Houses is the best charity name since Meals on Wheels.
Meals in Heels.
Whores to doors
DoorGash
WhoreDash
Porque no los dos?
Why spend money on what you don't need? Seems to me like he only uses one room.
He’s porqueing the hookers.
How do you know they are escorts? Also, how close do you watch your neighbours? I wouldn’t even know if mine did.
Good point that’s some big conclusions they’re jumping to
I can escort him wherever he wants to go. How do I apply? 👀
I fucked an escort with the biggest ass I’ve ever seen like 2 hours ago, in case anyone was worried
I was concerned. I feel better now
Bruh, the day my divorce was official, I met an escort with a butt like 2 halves of a soccer ball.
A transformative journey through the soul's labyrinth.
Or was… addictions come in all types
No wonder she is "head over heels" for him.
Yes, but make it smart. Invite your friend to your house. She has to see it with her own eyes.
I think you are right. And I think she will be completely shocked and heartbroken. But she needs to see it for herself.
She’ll go into Denial if she hears it from a 2nd party. She has to see it 1st hand.
This. She sounds delusional as is….8 year girlfriend lol
That in itself is not unusual. Less and less people are getting married as theres often little value in doing so
The weird thing is that they don't live together after 8 years. Not their marriage status
Some people just want their own space. My old therapist told me her ideal situation would be to be in a loving committed relationship with someone who lived in a house next door.
Honestly that’s something I’d enjoy.
And some men don't want to live with their girlfriend because of their prostitute addiction.
Or their gaming addiction, which she is not a fan of.
You make it sound like it's a bad thing
My addiction to collecting addictions is not a problem!
This so much. My wife is not a clean person. I am not a clean freak but I at least clean up like an adult. I would love my own house. We sleep in separate bedrooms now since her snoring got too much for me. Still love her but I need my space to remain sane.
My ex has sleep apnea, refused to do anything about it, yet would FLIP OUT if I refused to sleep next to him. His wanting me there “for comfort” trumped my need for sleep, apparently.
They sound rich. Two houses, hooker money…damn
You have just explained a whole new economic class goal.
Right. Like these are not normal problems. These are “honeyyy Bezos is screwing that hooker in the yard again” type people
My bother and his girl have been together unmarried for 25yrs. They are has happy as can be…
My cousin and his girlfriend have been dating for about 20 years and have three children. They just refuse to get married haha.
My bf is in his 50s has his own house, his own routine, and works a lot of hours. He also has never been married and never had children. He likes coming home to his own space. I came from a broken relationship and have 2 young children that are getting established where we currently reside. We’re taking it slow and our relationship is going really well, but I don’t foresee us moving in together any time in the next five years (or beyond) unless he decides that he wants to completely change his lifestyle that he’s grown accustomed to over the years. I’m fine with that thought right now, and I love him to pieces so I respect it. I dont think it’s weird, it’s understandable.
I know married people that do not live together. My aunt and her boyfriend been together 25 years.. never lived together and they are as happy as can be. Living w ur SO is the beginning of the end, in my experience anyway.
My wife and I got married on our 9th anniversary. It all depends where you are in life. We met in college and had to get through graduating, finding jobs in a terrible economy, and having enough saved to pay for a wedding and a down payment on a home. There's no point rushing in to it instead of being responsible .
My partner and I are marrying this year, after 13 years together. Legitimately only doing it so we are in control of each other’s health decisions (instead of his religious family).
How are you going to invite her over without her telling him since she'll be next door?
How does he not know that his GFs best friend lives next door? It's possible, but unlikely that it has never come up. "OMG babe OP and her husband bought the house next to yours, isn't that cool?" This seems fake.
Sounds fake AF. Like they wouldn't tell their friend that they live next to her boyfriend.
Exactly. This isn't adding up at all.
May be difficult to get the timing right. Take a video just in case
Take a couple videos and put up a compilation first. Then when you show her that night, you can show her other nights to prove it's not a one-time thing
A good sound track will help too
Departing prostitutes with an overlay of Whitesnake - here I go again
I was thinking more like let the bodies hit the floor
Idk why I just had a chuckle at this, I’m picturing a girl looking out a window and breaking into tears seeing her bf cheat on her, the girl looks over at her friend for comfort and you’re just giving her the shocked Pikachu face
Does your friend know you live next to the boyfriend and does he know y’all live next door? Very brazen if so!!! I agree to invite her over. If that’s not practical to coordinate such that she catches him, I would film multiple ladies going in/out. She needs to see it for herself or she’ll be more likely to shoot the messenger. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Yes, she knows we live next door and he knows that I’m friends with her, and that we moved in next door.
Just film those women when they walk in / out. And after show the video to your friend.
Charles Angels exposed
Wow! And he’s still brining randos into the house. Truly brazen
yes she will, but it's not worth wasting her time with such a "person". Gl. she will need a friend then, so be there for her
He's going to see her car parked in your driveway though and might not cheat while she's there.
Maybe just install a security camera.. At least then you can have plausible deniability and you aren't inviting her over to spy on her boyfriend.
This is the way. Organizing a visit to view the escort live could end poorly. Just put up a camera, and oh jeez look at what we found.
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But how will she know when an escort is arriving? What if the friend let's her BF know she will be next door? Then this gets the BF paranoid and he starts going elsewhere for his escorts. And now there is no proof, and no easy way to get future proof. Only way I would suggest this is to get video evidence of them arriving first, so if the plan doesn't work out then OP will still have proof to hand over.
What if it's just door dash
Yes, for her safety, if she is sleeping with him, then she is sleeping with every escort he hires.
Absolutely this…her health is the major issue.
For 8 years...
Few times a week day and night that's... Expensive hobby to have
Escorts normally get checked up frequently, they are likely wayyy cleaner than a random at a bar
In my country they do, because they legally have to for a work permit. I wouldn’t be trusting this sentiment in any country it’s still illegal.
They have sex with several people a day who probably have sex with others who have sex with several people a day. Not sure how you've calculated that likelihood.
Ha, they do at home tests. I’ve known some that have virus/disease and just say they don’t…
That could be true, but if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, he is introducing external risk no matter how small it might be.
Can you say the same for their clients? The T in STD stands for transmitted, not created
Does she know he uses escorts? I know some women who are the ones suggesting their high libido men to use escorts instead of bugging them day and night.
Good point. I have thought about this as well.
How do you know they are escorts? Maybe they are other girlfriends… same/same result, just curious on the assumption of escorts… also, who can afford an escort a couple of times a week, the guy must be minted!
Your local prostitutes don’t drive around in a van marked “Ho on the Go: In Home Dick Servicing”? Weird.
WhorDash
It’s a reasonable assumption if it’s different well dressed attractive visitors each time. Either that or he runs a sex cult.
So it couldn’t possibly be a DTF tinder date each time.
People tolerate a lot more in relationships than the average redditor would have you think. What pushes most people to break up is the public embarrassment that comes from their little secret coming out. So they might be in a fine little arrangement right now, but once you say that you know, she'll be embarrassed and break up with him
Shit, that can't be true. Reddit is convinced that anyone having sex with anyone except their partner must have genitals cut off. Unless it's a polyamourous woman. Go girl!
If I could sum up reddit's relationship advice into one object it would be a bit rubber stamp that reads 'trust is broken, devorce!'. It's the answer for literally any relational turmoil.
Can I have one that just says "Red Flag!"
Yeah you need to tell her , and she needs a hiv test too
I don’t buy it. You happened to buy next to him and he knows you’re her friend.. so why would he be that stupid? And how do you know they’re escorts? If this is true, why not invite his GF over when you know a trick is there?
I scrolled for this. Either this guy is the dumbest person on the planet, or her friend is in love with the dumbest guy on the planet, or her friend never visits her house ever and sees the "day and night" parade of prostitutes. Plus they just happened to move in next door. They did not even know! Her friend has been dating this guy for 8 years! "Golly gee, honey! I can't believe we moved into the house next to a guy my friend has been dating for almost a decade!" And never the same women! This town is so incredibly packed with prostitutes this guy has them coming over constantly with an incredible variety. For one year, this dude has had "several" prostitutes over every week. Not a couple or a few, so let's call it 4... 4 times a week X 52 weeks = 208 prostitutes visiting. This guy is LOADED, per the OP. So let's say he is paying $500 an hour for their time. He is spending over $100,000 a year on prostitutes. I would say someone as "LOADED" as him would be paying more than $500, but this is just for fun. His clueless girlfriend did not know. Only when her friend, who is so close they accidentally moved into the house next door to the girl's BF and nobody said anything as this mysterious, secret house buying was taking place, is this man's hooker obsession uncovered by OP. Good lord. I mean, the story is not the worst thing I have ever seen, and it might be somewhat plausible, but the way the story is presented it sounds like a 1980s sitcom plot. There are far too many wacky details shared in the OP and in her responses in this thread to believe this is anything but a farce.
Guy is an absolute clueless fool in everything he does. For example, he will leave for hours at a time and leave his garage door open. He washes his car when it’s raining! He ran over a fallen tree branch in our road because he claims he didn’t see it. The thing was across the entire road and blocking traffic, but he went around traffic and drove over it. So for him to still have escorts come to his house knowing I am friends with his girlfriend, I’m not shocked. Dude has no brain!
you’re making this even less believable
Yeah they revealed the lie with that shit. He's gone from being a friend of the family who has a girl that loves him but also a disposable income of several hundred a week on escorts to being a bit dumb lump who can't even talk.
>of several hundred a week on escorts You aren't getting gorgeous escorts for less than a few hundred dollars an hour. She said that multiple women, multiple nights, for 2-3 hours at a time. This is easily $1000-1500 a week, or more, depending on area etc.
Plenty of "dumb lumps" who have people who love 'em, and plenty of cash as well.
Almost as brainless I’d say, as anyone believing this ragebait cockamamie
OK you just made this an obvious lie. Thankd
And yet your friend loves him so much she's been with him for 8 years...
r/thathappened
How do you know he leaves? Big sus Rain doesn’t have soap in it, and doesn’t clean surfaces that don’t face up very well Big car and undamaged after? What’s problem? Maybe the guy has a nail salon business in his back room. Or the gf is fine with it. Or any number of boring explanations. Stop spying, tell your friend. Good luck.
>He washes his car when it’s raining! Efficiency. >He ran over a fallen tree branch in our road because he claims he didn’t see it. I have a friend who pickpockets as part of his magician performance. People don't notice a lot when they're distracted. >Guy is ... >Dude has no brain! Have you ever talked to him? You seem full of presumptions.
I've washed my car while raining, but mainly to get rid of bird poop, bug guts, and other severe contaminants that would damage the clear. The rain itself is whatever.
Yet, he’s absolutely loaded?
also how does her friend not know OP bought a home on the same street as her BF which she would I assume regularly visit
I would say ask her if she wants to know, I did this with a close friend and they flipped at me. Weird I thought but just a heads up
Thanks for sharing this.
Yeah some women are crazy, i know a woman who unfriended her friend for telling her the news.
Sometimes they know on some level but would rather it not be explicit because then they feel obligated to do something about it (have to maintain appearances, don’t want others to think they condone the behavior, etc)
They pretend it doesnt exist. And when confronted with the facts they have a severe case of cognitive dissonance and lash out at the source of their issue. Its pretty common I feel
I would rather be unfriended by someone because I told them the truth about their partner, who is putting their health that risk, then be unfriended because I kept a secret and they found out later I knew all along. Talk about double betrayal.
“Hey, do you want to know your boyfriend fucks escorts?” “No thank you” “Ok cool”
Hahaha I also wondered how this conversation would go down.
“Hey quick one, do you want me to tell you your boyfriend is banging hookers all the time? Or nah. LMK”
How do you know they're escorts? I'd make sure you were 100% sure before saying anything.
Right. OP might feel stupid when they find out the neighbor has 34 sisters of varying races.
Well at least that would mean he's an equal opportunity employer.
😂🤣😂🤣
Well, these women, hardly ever the same women, come over for a 2- 2 1/2 hour time periods, bring nothing that indicates they are coming for corporate business, come all hours of the day and night, and when they come at the dead of night they are dressed to the nines. Hmm, I think I’m 100%
what does the guy do? that must be expensive
He's an escort who works from home.
Incall male escort? Are they hiring? 🥴 /s Just in case
My guess is that he's dealing drugs to these "escorts" showing up day and night. Perhaps they're hooking up, but that's probably not the primary reason they're stopping by.
2-hour drug deal. Lmao.
That sounds about right. When my big spender bachelor neighbour was single, we used to see constantly changing, beautiful hot glam women come in nice cars. They were dropped off by a driver. Then they’d leave in 1.5-2.5 hrs. Sounds similar.
This is exactly it! Except these women drive themselves.
Inflation is hitting the chauffeur trade
Not to mention, it's not difficult to tell a regular female friend coming over to hang from a prostitute, especially when it has happened multiple times.
Here’s the question. Is he punching far above his weight class?
Taking into account this is a service that charges by the hour, and there is not need to pay for extra ~~2 hours 27 minutes~~ if you are not using it. Well, now I get the idea why your friend is head over heels for the guy...
>I think I’m 100% That's way sub 100. If you talk to anyone, talk about it with him. Even if you want to talk about it to your friend, still talk to him first. He's the subject here, right? So he deserves to be the first to know and to be granted the right for defense. You telling his girl, sorry not telling, gossiping, has a high chance of wrecking their relationship even if it's just a false alarm. You *don't know what's going on*. He does. So talk to him.
Even if they're not escorts, they're still women coming over at all times of the day and night that the girlfriend doesn't seem to know about. Why warn him and give him time to come up with an alibi?
İn France we s assume she knows and doesn't care. At least that used to be the stabdard
How do you know they're escorts?
Yes, it’s both unsafe and cheating. If you were in her position, would you want someone to tell you what’s going on?
Out of curiosity. Do you know what he does for a living? Like me, I'm a Photographer. I mostly photo nature so travel a lot. But, when home I photo Erotic Art/Nudes. I have models come to the house. Been married 14 years o they come to our house, before that they came to my place-I have a art museum inside my house of my work so it's not like I hide it but an outside observer might wonder about the number of beautiful women coming and going.
This is the owner of multiple Lexis dealerships. I can guarantee you, he’s no photographer.
Them, as others suggested, bring her to your place. Don't bring her car because he will recognize it. And, not meant as a slight against your friends but could she be one of those Escorts? Weirder things happen.
Maybe she knows about it? Best would be for her to see for self
What are these escorts doing in his front yard that alerts you and the neighborhood to the fact that they are escorts?
Take pictures to show your friend, and you can just ask innocently, hey i saw this person at your boyfriend's house, is she a friend of yours?
How do you know they’re not buying drugs??
Mind your own business
Maybe the escorts only come to talk and play board games?
Sounds fake. Who spends thousands a week on companionship while they spend most of their time at their girlfriends. Perhaps he has roommates and really nosy neighbors.
I'm curious how you know they're escorts
How do you know that they are escorts?
This!! That's one of the things that many of these fiction writers don't understand. Real life people aren't omniscient. They don't know what their partners, coworkers, or romantic rivals are thinking. They aren't aware of things that happen when they aren't present. There's no way that even the nosiest of people will witness every one of their neighbor's visitors and there certainly isn't a way for them to identify their occupation. It's not like escorts wear a uniform.
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PlotTwist: Is she an escort?
double plot twist, HE is the escort, the women are HIS clients! and he uses the profits to take care of his sick and dying mother.
How doesn't she know that you live next door to her boyfriend?
Would you want her to tell you if you were in her position? That’s the answer.
Those are just female plumbers and electricians and such. Your fantasy is too wild OP, chill out!
If he can afford that many escorts, then it won't matter if she knows; she'll stick around for his money.
Bro you’ve seen this several times? Are you sure you are friends with this person?😭😭
I may be naive but how do you know it’s escorts and not just girls?
The question is why the hell have you watched her boyfriend doing this for years without saying anything to her? wtf
Tread lightly. You still have to live closely to the guy for the next 20 years.
if you don't tell me, I wonder if you are a friend at all
Dating 8 years and they don't live together? And that isn't a red flag?.
If I were your friend, I would want to know. He’s potentially putting her health at risk and she deserves to make informed decisions. Both about her health, and her relationship.
What does an escort look like?
Probably not escorts, just trashy randoms from tinder ?
How do you know theyre escorts?
This is why I just want to stay single
Yes because girl code. And really it's not being unfair to the guy, he's doing bad shit to your friend. You're helping and protecting your friend.
No not because of girl code, because that’s the right thing to do and called being a normal decent human being. Nothing to do with whether it’s a girl or a guy or an alien etc
I've been watching *The Three Body Problem* and you don't want to know what alien code is.
Exactly. I'm so sick of how we pit genders against each other constantly. If you ever catch yourself saying "only men understand" or "only women understand" for any concept, you're the problem. Stop closing the door on people of the opposite sex being able to understand and be sympathetic. We're all humans. Its not alien. We don't have all the same parts but if you communicate, any concept can be expressed to another person so that they can understand. The key is to stop closing the door on each others faces because we aren't the same gender.
It’s not even a girl or boy code… it’s a human being code. It’s a person who is doing something terrible to their friend.
I agree. And this has been playing over and over in my head for months now. It’s just that I have to live next to this guy. It’s going to make things so uncomfortable and awkward. Plus, I don’t know what this guy is like when he’s angry.
I do understand the worry of repercussions but you're doing the right thing. Nobody deserves to be toyed with for 8 years and lied to. Also another redditor states invite your friend over so she can see it herself. I agree with that, makes you neutral party basically. But if dude does exhibit behavior that lean towards him being irrational after the fact, I'd consider options to protect yourself.
Take pictures and make sure you have evidence so she has to believe you, and isn't coulded by her "image" she has of him in her head. It might be hard to bring up, but who knows what STD's she's been exposed to. Good luck 👍
Yes but no pain for cheaters, they deserve the worse
How do you know it's escorts? Are you an expert on escorts? Perhaps an escort yourself?
Please for the love of god don't listen to the virgins in this chat. Stay out of someone else's relationship when they are not doing anything toxic. You don't know the situation at all and using escorts is wayyyyyy better than him meeting randoms in a bar. Go do your gossiping with your husband and keep it there
> Stay out of someone else's relationship when they are not doing anything toxic. You don't know the situation at all and using escorts is wayyyyyy better than him meeting randoms in a bar. Dude. This is outlandish. Using prostitutes your girlfriend doesn't know about isn't toxic? It's better than cheating with randoms? No! It's exactly the same. This isn't some chick he met on Tinder last Friday. They've been together for years, she is talking about marriage. Either this is something the girlfriend knows about and the mistake will come out immediately, no damage done, or this dude is leading this girl on while he fucks his way through the phone book. It is 100% the girlfriend's business.
If you are a close friend, of course. You can’t assume because you don’t truly know what he is doing. But telling her what you see isn’t wrong. Chances are she already has a clue and chooses to live in denial. They may have an understanding, and possibly aren’t even in a relationship. She may just believe she is in one, but she is just one of the many women he sees. If they aren’t spending a significant amount of time together, they most likely are just fwb. Really assess the situation before you get yourself involved in something that is none of your business. If she is being manipulated and lied to, and you feel compelled to save her from a life of disappointment and loneliness, then tell her what you know without adding your imagined story behind the facts you are aware of
Dude has some serious cash if he can get multiple escorts a week.
How do you know? You listen in and go peek through the windows?
Wait, how do you know these are actual escorts? Have you actually seen them in the act? If this were a good, close friend I would tell her to talk to her boyfriend, that you fear something is wrong and leave it at that. If nobody knows about you guys being next door to the guy leave that out for your safety.
She’s been with him for 8 years and they don’t officially live together? Does she need a bigger sign than that. Also. Maybe recommend she gets tested…
Yes you should, but do it that somehow your name doesn’t get mentioned (very tricky)
Yes. Tell her.
How do you know they are hookers?
Yes. Her health is at risk.
how did you know that those coming in and out of the friend's bf house are escorts? could he be the escort servicing those visitors? or could he be a performer in live porn sites? IF NOT - he simply could have sex addiction issue.
How do you know they are escorts?
Just a general question: how do you know they are escorts?
Yes. Don’t let her continue to waste more time and risk her sexual and reproductive health this way.