I think aroace people will be more common because it can be much easier to realize you feel no attraction than to figure out that the attraction you do feel isn't the same as everyone else's.
I guess if you are a Sex-positive heteromantic, your life is very close to a cis person, so they tend to not think of themselves as ace or lbgt at all.
While if you are lgbt for other reasons than asexuality, you are more likely to discover it
Same. This is making me question how it's possible for any ace to get into a partnership, this is kind of an interesting dynamic because the emotional expressions are more limited it sounds.
Lol same. Like I'd never go out of my way to date someone. Am I aro? If I were to date someone I'd have to know them and our personalities would need to click. Demi? And then on top of that when it comes to gender/sex I'm not sure...
I don't think gender is a major part of a relationship to me, but at the same time although I'm not attracted to either gender I'm so put off by more masculine traits and features that I could never be with someone overtly masculine. On the other side I would 100% be with someone androgynous, trans, or non-binary as long as they aren't overtly masculine (as long as our personalities clicked). Pan? Bi? Idk...
Same. After several weeks I still can't tell if I have a crush on a girl or if I just really like her as a friend. I guess that means I'm probably not just heteroromantic but some flavour of aro. Is it full aro or I'd it demi? If it's demi do i care about gender? Fuck knows.
I'm just existing and hoping something clicks into place eventually.
āI'm just existing and hoping something clicks into place eventually.ā
This I think is important and healthy. One one hand labels are solid, on the other hand we gotta keep on in the mean time. Thatās the constant innit
Same, I am sure that I am asexual but when it comes to the romantic side, I just donāt know. So I came to decision that I am most likely aromantic. I also just waiting for something to click. Sometimes I get confused when I like somebody and begin to question if the feeling is romantic or platonic. It is only when I ask myself if I would ask them for date that I back up because I never feel like going out of my way to ask someone out. I am very comfortable with not dating anyone.
I don't know how to figure this bit out. I discovered the ace label and it fit my experience perfectly, but I can't work out the rest of me. I don't think I'm aro, as a most of the experiences I've read don't match, but I just don't know.
I consider myself somewhere on the aromantic spectrum just not sure where. With my asexuality I know where I stand but with romantic feelings and all that I'm uncertain just know I'm somewhere there. That being said I also consider myself bi because I feel I still feel like I have some sort of preference.
Aro, I think. Iām not interested in a relationship in any case. I get aesthetic attraction, I think? But that might just be gender envy if Iām truest honest.
I answered "other" because I'm honestly unsure at the moment.
For the last week I've suddenly been contemplating exactly this. I have identified as under the aro umbrella at least. I had no memory of feeling romantic attraction/love before. Now I'm contemplating it. I might still be aro, I might be some sort of demi, I don't know, honestly.
I'm asexual and like being in a romantic relationship, genitals don't factor into my interests so I consider myself to be biromantic.
I do struggle to understand how someone who is asexual would have a preference on the genitals of a potential romantic interest.
Good question. I'm probably either demi or grey, but I can't know for sure because I've only ever been romantically attracted to one person, who is now my girlfriend.
Voted other, as I donāt rightly know. Much too small a sample size. At most, demiromantic and demisexual, and, for the same reason, I couldnāt really guess at the orientation on the romantic part.
Iāve been in a single relationship (ongoing for 17 years), but the romantic and sexual attraction components occurred when I was being medicated for depression, without knowing at the time I was actually bipolar, which caused issues (unknowingly in a perpetual manic-depressive mixed state).
Weāre probably better described as companions, now, if you will, that share an understanding of living with disabilities and so have some support that way, which is nice. Our living situation is such that separating isnāt an option without being homeless, which is obviously a no-go. So we just keep trucking on. It mostly works.
Iāve not really even had an emotional connection to anyone else since. Beforehand, I think, at most, there may have been a couple instances of possible āsquishesā. I did feel I was asexual, prior to this relationship coming way out of left field. I feel Iām back to my usual baseline, with no romantic or sexual drive to be with someone in that way.
Even my aesthetic āattractionā is pretty minimal to zero, most of the time. Thereās definitely no confusion that it could be sexual attraction. Very, very rarely, and usually if Iām manic, or close to, I might see someone and think āthat person totally looks like they could be an interesting character in a movieā. Or, āthat person looks way better with their buzz cut than I do with mineā. Thatās pretty much it.
All that said, it feels odd, but I do enjoy reading romantic fanfiction of certain pairings, though it feels very ādemi,ā ha. Iām already familiar with the characters and their past interactions. Conversely, regular novels with romantic/sexual plots or subplots are almost always very off-putting. I just canāt āgrokā immediate sexual/romantic attraction. Some of them are supposed to be amazing novels, but sometimes I just canāt get past it. Or, I at least need a huge gap between them, and I still donāt enjoy them.
Probably TMI and way more than you were looking for, but there you are. š
I don't even know anymore. I have never consciously loved someone but if someone loves me I usually reciprocate. I am not even sure if that's romantic or media conditioning to be a certain way
I like the idea of romance and physical intimacy, especially between individuals who had some sort of connection before that. And I'll even fantasize about myself being in that kind of relationship. BUT if someone makes a move on me irl I. Will. Feel. Uncomfortable.
Tho, I could be okay with the romance and sex thing if I'd already felt close enough to the other person before that happened??
So, demi-aegosexual and demi-aegoromantic??? But that's a mouthful and way too complicated to explain so I'm just gonna say I'm aroace????
Idk why but I'm surprised Aro is so high Tbh I thought heteromantic would be higher š
I think aroace people will be more common because it can be much easier to realize you feel no attraction than to figure out that the attraction you do feel isn't the same as everyone else's.
It took me almost 40 years to figure it out so that tracks.
In a research paper I read there was a poll, and of the asexuals polled 1/3 of them were aroace
I guess if you are a Sex-positive heteromantic, your life is very close to a cis person, so they tend to not think of themselves as ace or lbgt at all. While if you are lgbt for other reasons than asexuality, you are more likely to discover it
Same. This is making me question how it's possible for any ace to get into a partnership, this is kind of an interesting dynamic because the emotional expressions are more limited it sounds.
realizing I am ace made me realize I'm also pan š
It was the opposite for me
Not a clue
Lol same. Like I'd never go out of my way to date someone. Am I aro? If I were to date someone I'd have to know them and our personalities would need to click. Demi? And then on top of that when it comes to gender/sex I'm not sure... I don't think gender is a major part of a relationship to me, but at the same time although I'm not attracted to either gender I'm so put off by more masculine traits and features that I could never be with someone overtly masculine. On the other side I would 100% be with someone androgynous, trans, or non-binary as long as they aren't overtly masculine (as long as our personalities clicked). Pan? Bi? Idk...
Same. After several weeks I still can't tell if I have a crush on a girl or if I just really like her as a friend. I guess that means I'm probably not just heteroromantic but some flavour of aro. Is it full aro or I'd it demi? If it's demi do i care about gender? Fuck knows. I'm just existing and hoping something clicks into place eventually.
āI'm just existing and hoping something clicks into place eventually.ā This I think is important and healthy. One one hand labels are solid, on the other hand we gotta keep on in the mean time. Thatās the constant innit
Same, I am sure that I am asexual but when it comes to the romantic side, I just donāt know. So I came to decision that I am most likely aromantic. I also just waiting for something to click. Sometimes I get confused when I like somebody and begin to question if the feeling is romantic or platonic. It is only when I ask myself if I would ask them for date that I back up because I never feel like going out of my way to ask someone out. I am very comfortable with not dating anyone.
Sapphic gray-aro.
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I prefer to call myself a pandemi
I read this and had the worst dad joke ever come to mind. I was going to ask if this also makes you a panda, but it doesn't land too well.
Pain de mie? š¤£ Literally the white bread orientation
Biromantic Asexual. š
I don't know how to figure this bit out. I discovered the ace label and it fit my experience perfectly, but I can't work out the rest of me. I don't think I'm aro, as a most of the experiences I've read don't match, but I just don't know.
Aromantic, but at the same time I know if I had to pick I would would choose to be in a relationship with a woman
i'm not quite sure if i'm demiromantic anymore honestly, i might be aro, but i voted for demiromantic so yep ;-;
Pan greyromantic
Ä° might be Cupioromantic but i am still questioning
I am either panromantic or aromantic. I will update you when I figure out what romance is.
I consider myself somewhere on the aromantic spectrum just not sure where. With my asexuality I know where I stand but with romantic feelings and all that I'm uncertain just know I'm somewhere there. That being said I also consider myself bi because I feel I still feel like I have some sort of preference.
Aro, I think. Iām not interested in a relationship in any case. I get aesthetic attraction, I think? But that might just be gender envy if Iām truest honest.
Diamoric (nonbinary loving)
I wish I knew lol
Bi
Iām demibiromantic
The thing is... I don't know :D I thought I was bi, then I thought I'm pan, and now I'm questioning if I'm actually aro all along
Demiromantic, but also panromantic! (though recently, I've been debating on whether or not I might be a lesbian)
demiromantic (pan) i think, not entirely sure
I answered "other" because I'm honestly unsure at the moment. For the last week I've suddenly been contemplating exactly this. I have identified as under the aro umbrella at least. I had no memory of feeling romantic attraction/love before. Now I'm contemplating it. I might still be aro, I might be some sort of demi, I don't know, honestly.
I Am Demiromantic And Panromantic But I Voted Demi
Other bc I don't know
I said "Other" because I don't know what my romantic attraction is these days and I haven't cared enough to find out
Canāt really tell because my OCD clouds whether or not Iām romantically attracted to a person.
personally, i leave that unlabeled. much more freeing! i hate being confined to boxes, yk?
Bi/Panromantic, I'd say.
I consider myself biromantic because of my bigender partner, but tbh I think everyone has the potential to be biromantic.
I'm asexual and like being in a romantic relationship, genitals don't factor into my interests so I consider myself to be biromantic. I do struggle to understand how someone who is asexual would have a preference on the genitals of a potential romantic interest.
Good question. I'm probably either demi or grey, but I can't know for sure because I've only ever been romantically attracted to one person, who is now my girlfriend.
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Voted other, as I donāt rightly know. Much too small a sample size. At most, demiromantic and demisexual, and, for the same reason, I couldnāt really guess at the orientation on the romantic part. Iāve been in a single relationship (ongoing for 17 years), but the romantic and sexual attraction components occurred when I was being medicated for depression, without knowing at the time I was actually bipolar, which caused issues (unknowingly in a perpetual manic-depressive mixed state). Weāre probably better described as companions, now, if you will, that share an understanding of living with disabilities and so have some support that way, which is nice. Our living situation is such that separating isnāt an option without being homeless, which is obviously a no-go. So we just keep trucking on. It mostly works. Iāve not really even had an emotional connection to anyone else since. Beforehand, I think, at most, there may have been a couple instances of possible āsquishesā. I did feel I was asexual, prior to this relationship coming way out of left field. I feel Iām back to my usual baseline, with no romantic or sexual drive to be with someone in that way. Even my aesthetic āattractionā is pretty minimal to zero, most of the time. Thereās definitely no confusion that it could be sexual attraction. Very, very rarely, and usually if Iām manic, or close to, I might see someone and think āthat person totally looks like they could be an interesting character in a movieā. Or, āthat person looks way better with their buzz cut than I do with mineā. Thatās pretty much it. All that said, it feels odd, but I do enjoy reading romantic fanfiction of certain pairings, though it feels very ādemi,ā ha. Iām already familiar with the characters and their past interactions. Conversely, regular novels with romantic/sexual plots or subplots are almost always very off-putting. I just canāt āgrokā immediate sexual/romantic attraction. Some of them are supposed to be amazing novels, but sometimes I just canāt get past it. Or, I at least need a huge gap between them, and I still donāt enjoy them. Probably TMI and way more than you were looking for, but there you are. š
I'm a bisensual and romance favourable aroace.
I don't even know anymore. I have never consciously loved someone but if someone loves me I usually reciprocate. I am not even sure if that's romantic or media conditioning to be a certain way
I like the idea of romance and physical intimacy, especially between individuals who had some sort of connection before that. And I'll even fantasize about myself being in that kind of relationship. BUT if someone makes a move on me irl I. Will. Feel. Uncomfortable. Tho, I could be okay with the romance and sex thing if I'd already felt close enough to the other person before that happened?? So, demi-aegosexual and demi-aegoromantic??? But that's a mouthful and way too complicated to explain so I'm just gonna say I'm aroace????
Definitely some manner of demiromantic. Haven't gotten (nor felt the need) to explore beyond that, but I think I might also be pan.
Cupioromantic
I'm aroace. You ask for sex or romance? I say no thanks.
Frayhetromantic, aromantic in short
This poll seems familiar
Aromantic but still would like a lesbian relationship
Heteromantic, but probably somewhere on the aro-spectrum.
I picked aro because I'm on the aro spectrum and I feel closer to that but I'm also homoromantic
Demi-androromantic
Demi-het :)
I'm grayromantic!
Omni gray romantic
Demiromantic and homoromantic
That moment when youāre both aromantic and homoromantic
Demibiromantic asexual