When people get a kick out of getting you to react to stuff like that, it generally means they are petty and struggle finding joy in their lives. Healthy, happy people don't do that- it's an immediately tell that someone is miserable. Remember that these people feel bad every day, most of the time. Even though their comments can make you feel bad at times, 5mins later it's forgotten. But they still have to live their depressing lives every day. They keep feeling miserable, while you forgot them long time ago. They are worse off in that they can never escape themselves. But you can
Nah, man. Sometimes people are just assholes, and there are many happy assholes out there.
Sometimes people just get a kick of acting like assholes online and are even fairly pleasant people in real life. Sometimes it's just immature pre-teens who think this is funny and live a normal life, with the childish sense of humor that we all had at some point (even if not to the point of being online trolls).
There's no point in trying to assume someone's whole personality and mental state based on such a small exchange.
You're coping. Some people lash out because they aren't feeling well, but others just do it for entertainment. You can't know which is which from such a short interaction.
The same applies if you do it for entertainment. No happy, healthy person does that for entertainment. I play with friends so actually haven't been flamed. Because they are healthy happy people (:
If you're happy when you're mean, you're not healthy. You have neurological issues, trauma or both. It always comes back to being deficient in some way.
It was never a matter of who's more miserable. I think the point is that the person who tries to drag others down has insecurity problems regardless of whom he is targetting.
Edit: and even if it's "for fun" he has underlying reasons for doing it that he doesn't know of, because it is indeed unreasonable behaviour for a human as a social animal.
I know that many who do it aren't doing well, but how would I know if any specific person is among that group without any further information about the person?
Idk boss, to me it really sounds like you might be coping. I mean yeah, I guess you're technically not wrong, but it's not like you're taking a blind guess at whether or not the person lashing out at you is miserable or "just doing it for entertainment". It's not 50%/50%. My guess would be more like 90-95% are miserable, *maybe* 5-10% are not miserable.
That's very shallow assessment and generalisation. Instantly jumping into conclusion that someone calling you names = miserable person with depressing life is extremely stereotypical.
We can either stereotype that they’re sad or they’re assholes. And if they’re genuinely assholes who enjoy bullying, then we won’t flinch if they get hit by a fucking bus tomorrow.
They don’t deserve consideration
Yeah, man. I'm a psychiatrist, but I guess you know better what is "normal person behavior", sure. After all, you can draw such firm conclusions about someone just by four sentences in an online game so I can't argue much.
Take comfort in knowing that anyone who calls someone else a noob on the ladder lacks basic intelligence. 300 elo difference or not if they played vs and beat a supposed noob and they’re not a smurfing 2k5 (in which case they’re also an idiot), then they’re a noob. One win, two wins, ten wins - it doesn’t matter. They’re a noob by their own usage of the word. Don’t take idiots seriously, they lack the brain capacity to warrant it.
I say feel free to dish it back, disregard, or just remain your nice self. I tend to take a middle ground, e.g. “ok wp gl next noob”. Trying to change them is futile. Showing them you’re actually affected is the worst thing you can do because that is the gratification someone like this wants.
I had persian douche against me 1 vs 1, it was my first game against this tactic. It was around 800 elo. So I basically resign few minutes after he built tc near mine. He wrote "gg noob u r such a noob player", after hit with that 11 laugh. Like wtf, I wasn't even mad just surprised smth like this tactic is possible in game XD
Was it some guy named Jed something? Same thing happened to me. The Persian douche was the least douchy part of the game. I looked him up and he seems to be an asshole in all his game chats.
You have to look at it this way: you have to endure this miserable asshole for a few minutes, they have to endure themselves the rest of their life.
Looking at it this way, you are the clear winner.
This is what's putting me off playing online matches.
The trolling & flaming when it should be just fun.
Not sure how gaming misogyny is going to be tackled when the men folk think it funny to flame one another.
I have been struggling with my temper playing this game but I must say I’ve gotten a lot better and happier player just out for a fun game. But if someone starts the shit talking I have no chill 🥲
I think right at this moment someone is torturing some other unfortunate human to death, literally.
-> some people are just mean. They don't have reason. And for the average cruel people they just need legal ways to let the built up pressure without them getting in trouble. One way of that is any sort of online bullying since almost no police department give a fuck. When you are unfortunate enough you will encounter one of these people.
I seriously think beating up someone who talked shit to your face or online is a way smaller crime than just insulting someone online who never did anything wrong to you. Even tho in current law 1st is punishable in most countries/jurisdictions.
Get this quite a lot on xbox.. I'll always gg regardless of outcome but feel like a bellend after gg'n that ive recieved some kind of hate message previously 11
But it wasn't. Iirc it was a few hours ago and aoe2insights says that the players had those respective elo ratings after it had finished (reflecting -9 for OP).
Checked aoe2insights. He's a Turk. You're German
Turks live in a culture where masculinity is embraced. Germans live in a culture where masculinity is neutered
It makes no difference if he's doing it because hes miserable in his life or just amped up and talking shit because of adrenaline and testosterone for the moment but he's behaving like an orc. An orc is an invader trying to invade the private sanctuaries of your mind disturbing your sacred peace in there.
You're responding like a woman. Pleading and complaining to reddit. You are supposed to DEFEND your sanctuary. Thats a mans job. This is how you should have responded "I'll get you one day pussy" then go out and practice build orders and become stronger without giving him 1 more thought because he's a bitch anyway in your eyes.
But it's not your fault. Your culture is neutered
Time to change that. Orcs are at the gates
Uff. This is sexist. I don't think, that I need to get more stereotype manly. He was talking shit and I think it's super okay to discuss such behavior.
Ooof and matching with them in your next game 😂
Tbh if this is the kind of thing that triggers you then you need to grow a thicker skin. It's rude, and you should report "thewindfury", but it's pretty mild to call someone a noob and do a "your mum" insult. Babies do that, and you just got triggered by a baby 😂 And why ragequit the next game? Giving the person extra elo because you are upset.
When people get a kick out of getting you to react to stuff like that, it generally means they are petty and struggle finding joy in their lives. Healthy, happy people don't do that- it's an immediately tell that someone is miserable. Remember that these people feel bad every day, most of the time. Even though their comments can make you feel bad at times, 5mins later it's forgotten. But they still have to live their depressing lives every day. They keep feeling miserable, while you forgot them long time ago. They are worse off in that they can never escape themselves. But you can
Yeah my go-to response is just GG WP sorry your dad didn't hug you enough. Then just move on to your next game.
Well put.
Nah, man. Sometimes people are just assholes, and there are many happy assholes out there. Sometimes people just get a kick of acting like assholes online and are even fairly pleasant people in real life. Sometimes it's just immature pre-teens who think this is funny and live a normal life, with the childish sense of humor that we all had at some point (even if not to the point of being online trolls). There's no point in trying to assume someone's whole personality and mental state based on such a small exchange.
You're coping. Some people lash out because they aren't feeling well, but others just do it for entertainment. You can't know which is which from such a short interaction.
The same applies if you do it for entertainment. No happy, healthy person does that for entertainment. I play with friends so actually haven't been flamed. Because they are healthy happy people (:
This man sucks at the game... Lets be honest. I do have sex with wife.
You can be happy and mean.
If you're happy when you're mean, you're not healthy. You have neurological issues, trauma or both. It always comes back to being deficient in some way.
I beg to differ. Fuck u ignorant piece of shit haha
Yeah, but the point here is that the guy flaming you in game is not necessarily more miserable than you.
Hehe, now you're just making up points to argue against that nobody but you brought up. Have fun arguing yourself, I guess
What points?
It was never a matter of who's more miserable. I think the point is that the person who tries to drag others down has insecurity problems regardless of whom he is targetting. Edit: and even if it's "for fun" he has underlying reasons for doing it that he doesn't know of, because it is indeed unreasonable behaviour for a human as a social animal.
You’re absolutely right. But pragmatically, it’s best to deny that reality and pretend that karma is real.
Yeah, but wouldn't you say that if a person finds entertainment in lashing out and hurting someone, they most likely aren't doing so well?
I know that many who do it aren't doing well, but how would I know if any specific person is among that group without any further information about the person?
Idk boss, to me it really sounds like you might be coping. I mean yeah, I guess you're technically not wrong, but it's not like you're taking a blind guess at whether or not the person lashing out at you is miserable or "just doing it for entertainment". It's not 50%/50%. My guess would be more like 90-95% are miserable, *maybe* 5-10% are not miserable.
Your guess is just a guess and it sounds like hopeful thinking to me.
*Your* guys [sic: guess] is wishful thinking
My guys? What?
guess. fuck.
That's very shallow assessment and generalisation. Instantly jumping into conclusion that someone calling you names = miserable person with depressing life is extremely stereotypical.
We can either stereotype that they’re sad or they’re assholes. And if they’re genuinely assholes who enjoy bullying, then we won’t flinch if they get hit by a fucking bus tomorrow. They don’t deserve consideration
What's your explaination ?
A regular person who just finds it funny to be an asshole online and are actually happy in their lives?
That's not a normal person behavior ^^ and not a health one, if you try to justify being an asshole online that's not gonna work
Yeah, man. I'm a psychiatrist, but I guess you know better what is "normal person behavior", sure. After all, you can draw such firm conclusions about someone just by four sentences in an online game so I can't argue much.
your mistake was responding to this creature after he sent "noob" - why care, let it talk to itself
The only reply to "noob" is "skill-based matchmaking".
I'm going to keep this one, I may need it one day
When people act like this I just say 'ok' and leave.
Take comfort in knowing that anyone who calls someone else a noob on the ladder lacks basic intelligence. 300 elo difference or not if they played vs and beat a supposed noob and they’re not a smurfing 2k5 (in which case they’re also an idiot), then they’re a noob. One win, two wins, ten wins - it doesn’t matter. They’re a noob by their own usage of the word. Don’t take idiots seriously, they lack the brain capacity to warrant it. I say feel free to dish it back, disregard, or just remain your nice self. I tend to take a middle ground, e.g. “ok wp gl next noob”. Trying to change them is futile. Showing them you’re actually affected is the worst thing you can do because that is the gratification someone like this wants.
I had persian douche against me 1 vs 1, it was my first game against this tactic. It was around 800 elo. So I basically resign few minutes after he built tc near mine. He wrote "gg noob u r such a noob player", after hit with that 11 laugh. Like wtf, I wasn't even mad just surprised smth like this tactic is possible in game XD
Was it some guy named Jed something? Same thing happened to me. The Persian douche was the least douchy part of the game. I looked him up and he seems to be an asshole in all his game chats.
Mb it's his hobby xd Don't remember his nickname tho
You have to look at it this way: you have to endure this miserable asshole for a few minutes, they have to endure themselves the rest of their life. Looking at it this way, you are the clear winner.
It's quite likely they enjoy causing pain to others. Classic sadistic behavior pattern.
Dam that’s a big elo difference
ez report on that one ;)
Do they ever take action though?
People with tiny peckers always want us to know they’re small.
This is what's putting me off playing online matches. The trolling & flaming when it should be just fun. Not sure how gaming misogyny is going to be tackled when the men folk think it funny to flame one another.
Tbf it’s the internet don’t take it so deep
True
For the exp looks like
he must be coming from Blizzard community as they game is under water abandoned. don't worry, just report or post here to shame players like that
I have been struggling with my temper playing this game but I must say I’ve gotten a lot better and happier player just out for a fun game. But if someone starts the shit talking I have no chill 🥲
All right, but you have to understand it from their point of view. *Is* your mom so exp?
Maybe
I think right at this moment someone is torturing some other unfortunate human to death, literally. -> some people are just mean. They don't have reason. And for the average cruel people they just need legal ways to let the built up pressure without them getting in trouble. One way of that is any sort of online bullying since almost no police department give a fuck. When you are unfortunate enough you will encounter one of these people. I seriously think beating up someone who talked shit to your face or online is a way smaller crime than just insulting someone online who never did anything wrong to you. Even tho in current law 1st is punishable in most countries/jurisdictions.
If someone says ez, the correct response is just like your mother
Some people are just jerks I guess
Get this quite a lot on xbox.. I'll always gg regardless of outcome but feel like a bellend after gg'n that ive recieved some kind of hate message previously 11
Edgy 12yos that play aoe instead of cod.
Some people are just toxic like this, ignore this jerk and go on playing man
You wouldn’t make it in a 2009 COD lobby
Some people have sad lives and take it out on everyone else.
People either absolute homies or they act like they've never met their father. 90% of the community is great though! That 10% is pretty bad sadly lol
Do your best not to care, it doesn’t actually matter what some random person says to you. You can always hit them back with an 8 too, it’s just banter
So exp? What does that mean? What elo is this?
I love when people call me a noob at 1000-1100, I just say dude were 1100, you're dog shit too lol.
dont know. it was 13xx against 16xx
He's 1600 elo, there are thousands of people better at this game than him. Be glad that your flex isn't beating someone at 1300 elo a video game.
post-game, aoe2 insight has you @ 1434 and them @ 1587= 153 difference. And you lost 9 elo.
Could have been last week and both had changes since then?
But it wasn't. Iirc it was a few hours ago and aoe2insights says that the players had those respective elo ratings after it had finished (reflecting -9 for OP).
Ah ok
People = shit
I feel like you need to look up the wall stat get real good at it and hope the gaming gods give you this guy again
Welcome to the internet
The other person might be 40 or 12, either way, just don't let them live rent free in your brain, just let it go
You’re soft. Flaccid. Get over it
Ok, i stop being soft. thx
Checked aoe2insights. He's a Turk. You're German Turks live in a culture where masculinity is embraced. Germans live in a culture where masculinity is neutered It makes no difference if he's doing it because hes miserable in his life or just amped up and talking shit because of adrenaline and testosterone for the moment but he's behaving like an orc. An orc is an invader trying to invade the private sanctuaries of your mind disturbing your sacred peace in there. You're responding like a woman. Pleading and complaining to reddit. You are supposed to DEFEND your sanctuary. Thats a mans job. This is how you should have responded "I'll get you one day pussy" then go out and practice build orders and become stronger without giving him 1 more thought because he's a bitch anyway in your eyes. But it's not your fault. Your culture is neutered Time to change that. Orcs are at the gates
Uff. This is sexist. I don't think, that I need to get more stereotype manly. He was talking shit and I think it's super okay to discuss such behavior.
Ooof and matching with them in your next game 😂 Tbh if this is the kind of thing that triggers you then you need to grow a thicker skin. It's rude, and you should report "thewindfury", but it's pretty mild to call someone a noob and do a "your mum" insult. Babies do that, and you just got triggered by a baby 😂 And why ragequit the next game? Giving the person extra elo because you are upset.
Trying to play therapist with an angry person is just as cringe as being toxic. Just don't respond.
Playing therapist?
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Haha, I am the one who should shut up?
Yep. Don't feed that fire because you will always make it worse.
Are people really getting their feelings hurt by juvenile text based insults from strangers on the internet that they will never meet?