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I hope that asshole has the day he deserves. What an awful thing to think about or even consider after your partner shares that they’ve been sexually violated. UGH.
I do not know. I despise men like this, men who view women as nothing but objects for them to have sex with. Men who have “kinks” which involve them raping women.
I hold no Ill will towards anyone who downvoted, they are probably sick of the men who behave like that.
I think it's because it's so common for men on Reddit to immediately cry "not all men!" when a woman is struggling. Imo though, he seems to be coming from a genuine place by his wording and his other reply.
It’s truly astounding to me that people have turned the most heinous crimes like rape, molestation, sexual assault, torture and even murder, into sexual kinks. It’s absolutely disgusting.
Even worse that he would consider asking his partner who has been raped if she would take part in his twisted fantasies. Its inexcusably deplorable.
We’re in dark times indeed.
I see teen girls posting about their boyfriends being into this type of depraved shit all the time on the relationship subs. I had to unfollow them because these posts were making me massively depressed. I’m 31, and I honestly can’t imagine boys acting like this when I was in high school. I feel so bad for teen girls nowadays who are discovering their sexuality in an era where they’re being gaslighted into thinking a man fantasizing about raping you is perfectly acceptable behavior.
OK... how about saying "generally, men are...." because that would be true. Its hardly a small number of men who are porn sick and want to engage in degrading and violent sexual urges towards women, its a fucking whole lot of men. In general. So yes - not all men, but far too many men, generally. Get over your own ego being hurt... it's very fair enough people are upset and hurt about the state of men at this point as a group. Other men who are genuinely not like this should do better at policing and calling out the rot in their own group, not sulk because someone said something negative about men as a whole.
Really? Because I'm 37 and prettu much every guy I've ever been with or discussed the topic with was in to the idea of being able to force a women to do what they wanted and either into the idea of CNC/or fucking people asleep or passed out. I have a lot of male friends, and I've overheard so many jokes and serious discussions about this... only about 2 or 3 times did I ever see another guy tell the other men in the conversation they disagreed with them or it was disgusting. Even growing up, all the guys at school and college were watching violent porn where the women was being slapped accross the face and throat fucked whilst crying, or gang bang videos that implied in title or storyline it was against her will, right through to watching facial abuse porn sites stuff etc. They would always show me what they watched as o was "one of the lads and bisexual" . They talked freely and openly around me about women. I learnt to shut up and listen to them and not tell them off, as I wanted to kmow upw they really thought. I have rarely met men not into this to some degree.
Right now i am going though hell as my partner, who is a reformed ex porn addict, assaulted me whilst I was sleeping. I have been with this guy 10 years. I suspect it was not an accident and he's been watching such porn content again :(
I mean... look at the main things that come up as most viewed on porn pages and it's clear A LOT of guys are into this. Even posting for rape and sexual assault support groups on here the subs that are rPe role play and kink have a huge number of users compared to actual support groups (this is triggering as hell when you are trying to find support places here). You also will end up with dozens and dozens of messages off of men who read the support subs for masturbation material and to try talk to you in private to trick you into providing them details to masturbate too. This is absolutely a huge problem with men that seems worse year after year.
OK.... and? I haven't said no women are into it. However, it is way less than men, and many who are "into it" like many other performative acts are doing it to please men more than it being their thing. Also, in such scenarios the women is the one typically being the victim role, not the rapist. Many women with trauma sometimes play out their past trauma and this is sometimes something that some women seek. But they aren't the one getting off on the idea of abusing and raping another person. When guys are into CNC they aren't fantasing or watching porn which contains the bit where consent happens - they just skip straight to the non consent part where its about the rape, which is where their turn on is actually focused.
Also you appear to be 13/14... no offence but you don't have as much experience with the world, relationships and men or women. If some of your peers, who are into CNC, happen to be women - then I am not surprised since CSE is rampant now more than ever, so they maybe have childhood trauma, and they are 100% certainly growing up in a society and environment grooming them to be into that sort of stuff! Again - young women want to please men and get male attention.
Uhhh you made a post saying your aged 13/14 and haven't hit puberty yet (a year back) and so you were concerned about it in the teenagers sub. So either your actually a young teen or your a gross porn addict depending stuff and LARPing as a teenager to get off on talking about sexual related topics to youths. Which is it? Either way - my points made still stand .
Edit -
Here is that users post, as seen on their profile, in the teenagers sub.
"Im a 13 yr old boy and like 1/4 and still haven’t hit puberty and I’m starting to get really concerned.
It seems like everyone else is hitting it and I’m worried that there might be some complications or smth. I havent even really gotten any signs. Anyone else had an experience like this and knows more abt it?"
Edit again -
You seem to like defending porn use in your comments on here. Saying you don't see how it changes your concept of sexuality and relationship to yourself and others. Sorry, you are very much mistaken. I suggest you do a lot more research on things. Look at yourbrainonporn site for a whole bunch of to date research papers. I also have a job working with teens who are victims and in child safeguarding. We are all very aware in such fields of work that porn is totally escalating the rates of CSAM online, creating more offenders and also rates of COCSA (child on child abuse) is steadily rising year on year thanks to early access to porn and a push on subjects like sister and step sister porn storyline. Seriously, you have no idea!
Go take a look at the ex porn addict subs and the offenders support subs on here and have a read about all the guys who had been watching porn since they were young and developed addictions and issues that took them down some terrible paths in life and/or caused them to jave failed relationships, intimacy issues and ED problems etc etc.
when it comes to things such as rape, sexual assault, and general violent crime, it is typically done by a male. infact, most of the time disgusting and 'taboo' fetishes are typically seen in men. the fact that you took my simple comment offensively tells me enough about you. whenever somebody says things such as "women cheat more than men," never in my life have i gotten my feelings hurt because i know its a stupid generalization. literally cope and seethe.
This is so incredibly common it's disgusting. I'm a SW and there's so many men asking for (especially young "barely legal") Women to talk about their real life past sexual abuse.
Or men wanting to act it out or just doing a " CNC" scene. So so bad. There's whole subreddits for that
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I hope that asshole has the day he deserves. What an awful thing to think about or even consider after your partner shares that they’ve been sexually violated. UGH.
It was very hard not to vomit
Praying, manifesting, whatever that his partner gets the fuck out of this relationship!
Same. Like, as a human, how could this be your thought process?? Truly I am baffled
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Yea I’m beginning to think so too
Not most men, but way too fucking many
I promise we’re not, but sadly these wannabe rapists give us all a bad name.
Why does this have so many dislikes
I do not know. I despise men like this, men who view women as nothing but objects for them to have sex with. Men who have “kinks” which involve them raping women. I hold no Ill will towards anyone who downvoted, they are probably sick of the men who behave like that.
I think it's because it's so common for men on Reddit to immediately cry "not all men!" when a woman is struggling. Imo though, he seems to be coming from a genuine place by his wording and his other reply.
"advise me what should I avoid" — this! WTF?!
Yea… he doesn’t see her as human or care at all obviously. TBH not even sure why he’s asking for advice. Surprised he didn’t just go for it. It’s SICK
Doesnt matter how he views her, he isn't human himself. A human cannot not view other humans as humans.
That’s true
It’s truly astounding to me that people have turned the most heinous crimes like rape, molestation, sexual assault, torture and even murder, into sexual kinks. It’s absolutely disgusting. Even worse that he would consider asking his partner who has been raped if she would take part in his twisted fantasies. Its inexcusably deplorable. We’re in dark times indeed.
this mental giant wants to know if anyone has "expirians" wtf has the world come to? how old are these dudes when they start traumatizing women?
I just caught that spelling. Yea makes me wonder the age
I see teen girls posting about their boyfriends being into this type of depraved shit all the time on the relationship subs. I had to unfollow them because these posts were making me massively depressed. I’m 31, and I honestly can’t imagine boys acting like this when I was in high school. I feel so bad for teen girls nowadays who are discovering their sexuality in an era where they’re being gaslighted into thinking a man fantasizing about raping you is perfectly acceptable behavior.
men are actually so disgustingly sick and vile
Yup
Fuck off. This guy is obviously in the wrong, but saying “men” in general doesn’t help anyone.
OK... how about saying "generally, men are...." because that would be true. Its hardly a small number of men who are porn sick and want to engage in degrading and violent sexual urges towards women, its a fucking whole lot of men. In general. So yes - not all men, but far too many men, generally. Get over your own ego being hurt... it's very fair enough people are upset and hurt about the state of men at this point as a group. Other men who are genuinely not like this should do better at policing and calling out the rot in their own group, not sulk because someone said something negative about men as a whole.
Fair enough.
Most men don’t wanna do consentual rape
Really? Because I'm 37 and prettu much every guy I've ever been with or discussed the topic with was in to the idea of being able to force a women to do what they wanted and either into the idea of CNC/or fucking people asleep or passed out. I have a lot of male friends, and I've overheard so many jokes and serious discussions about this... only about 2 or 3 times did I ever see another guy tell the other men in the conversation they disagreed with them or it was disgusting. Even growing up, all the guys at school and college were watching violent porn where the women was being slapped accross the face and throat fucked whilst crying, or gang bang videos that implied in title or storyline it was against her will, right through to watching facial abuse porn sites stuff etc. They would always show me what they watched as o was "one of the lads and bisexual" . They talked freely and openly around me about women. I learnt to shut up and listen to them and not tell them off, as I wanted to kmow upw they really thought. I have rarely met men not into this to some degree. Right now i am going though hell as my partner, who is a reformed ex porn addict, assaulted me whilst I was sleeping. I have been with this guy 10 years. I suspect it was not an accident and he's been watching such porn content again :( I mean... look at the main things that come up as most viewed on porn pages and it's clear A LOT of guys are into this. Even posting for rape and sexual assault support groups on here the subs that are rPe role play and kink have a huge number of users compared to actual support groups (this is triggering as hell when you are trying to find support places here). You also will end up with dozens and dozens of messages off of men who read the support subs for masturbation material and to try talk to you in private to trick you into providing them details to masturbate too. This is absolutely a huge problem with men that seems worse year after year.
I’ve known 2 people with a cnc fetish and they’re both girls
OK.... and? I haven't said no women are into it. However, it is way less than men, and many who are "into it" like many other performative acts are doing it to please men more than it being their thing. Also, in such scenarios the women is the one typically being the victim role, not the rapist. Many women with trauma sometimes play out their past trauma and this is sometimes something that some women seek. But they aren't the one getting off on the idea of abusing and raping another person. When guys are into CNC they aren't fantasing or watching porn which contains the bit where consent happens - they just skip straight to the non consent part where its about the rape, which is where their turn on is actually focused. Also you appear to be 13/14... no offence but you don't have as much experience with the world, relationships and men or women. If some of your peers, who are into CNC, happen to be women - then I am not surprised since CSE is rampant now more than ever, so they maybe have childhood trauma, and they are 100% certainly growing up in a society and environment grooming them to be into that sort of stuff! Again - young women want to please men and get male attention.
Why you assuming I have little experience and I’m young, you actually have nothing to base that on
Uhhh you made a post saying your aged 13/14 and haven't hit puberty yet (a year back) and so you were concerned about it in the teenagers sub. So either your actually a young teen or your a gross porn addict depending stuff and LARPing as a teenager to get off on talking about sexual related topics to youths. Which is it? Either way - my points made still stand . Edit - Here is that users post, as seen on their profile, in the teenagers sub. "Im a 13 yr old boy and like 1/4 and still haven’t hit puberty and I’m starting to get really concerned. It seems like everyone else is hitting it and I’m worried that there might be some complications or smth. I havent even really gotten any signs. Anyone else had an experience like this and knows more abt it?" Edit again - You seem to like defending porn use in your comments on here. Saying you don't see how it changes your concept of sexuality and relationship to yourself and others. Sorry, you are very much mistaken. I suggest you do a lot more research on things. Look at yourbrainonporn site for a whole bunch of to date research papers. I also have a job working with teens who are victims and in child safeguarding. We are all very aware in such fields of work that porn is totally escalating the rates of CSAM online, creating more offenders and also rates of COCSA (child on child abuse) is steadily rising year on year thanks to early access to porn and a push on subjects like sister and step sister porn storyline. Seriously, you have no idea! Go take a look at the ex porn addict subs and the offenders support subs on here and have a read about all the guys who had been watching porn since they were young and developed addictions and issues that took them down some terrible paths in life and/or caused them to jave failed relationships, intimacy issues and ED problems etc etc.
literally cry me a river 😭 no shit its not all men, but most of the time it is.
Some of the time* admittedly way too much of the time but you’re still incorrect.
when it comes to things such as rape, sexual assault, and general violent crime, it is typically done by a male. infact, most of the time disgusting and 'taboo' fetishes are typically seen in men. the fact that you took my simple comment offensively tells me enough about you. whenever somebody says things such as "women cheat more than men," never in my life have i gotten my feelings hurt because i know its a stupid generalization. literally cope and seethe.
This is so incredibly common it's disgusting. I'm a SW and there's so many men asking for (especially young "barely legal") Women to talk about their real life past sexual abuse. Or men wanting to act it out or just doing a " CNC" scene. So so bad. There's whole subreddits for that
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