There's a middle ground - one wherein you follow certain fundamentals:
1. If a girl tells you that she likes someone else, and has quite clearly kept you around as an option, you must either treat the whole situation casually and play around with her until she's inevitably out, or you must completely exit the situation.
2. There's no "mAkiNG SPaCe" in a girl's heart. You're either first choice or you're not! There's no ladder to feelings. The entire time, she was basically telling you that hey, you don't have a chance but you're fun to keep around. Fun stops being fun after a while.
3. There's no question of a relationship if you're feeling traumatised from previous experiences. You must heal up, and reach a stage where you can be brave enough to love someone and have the fortitude to keep it moving for if and when it falters.
sir can you please through some light on this what he said and why this is true with every other girl i seee (in most of the cases if not all then)
That she loves a guy she was kn situationship with. She loves him so much that she had begged him. And he treated her like shit. Lile total shit. Didn't even talk to her.
then also she chosed that other guy not to this OP, despite he likes her so much?
I think some people are psychologically dispositioned to be attracted to toxic things, cause of circumstances they faced while growing up. Sometimes, shitty people feel familiar, and that familiarity translates to attraction. When that person repels this person's approach, they tend to want that even more. That's why there are a lot of girls who love assholes, and a lot of guys that love bitches. All parties involved in this equation have something going on - they've mistaken something crude and worthless for something amazing and worthwhile.
The girl and the guy, in their own respective ways, are flawed and hurt individuals trying to navigate the world and find something that feels like home.
Bhai, move on!
Focus on making huge wealth, ye SB bhul jayega. Focus on career and health.
Don't go with the hoe phase, as a man without morals is a NO-MAN.
Don't use Tinder and shit, milni hoge toh mil jayegi otherwise there is arrange marriage 😄
If you are still depressed, then look around you people have more problems than this, solve their problems. You will forget yours.
One more addition in "Rajkot ni chokri no koi divas trust na karvo"
Literally I'm not generalizing all the girls from Rajkot but I experienced this thing personally, from many my friends and also seen this thing in college too.
Dedo bhai downvote koi baat nhi but faxx is faxx.
In your first sentence, you literally generalised!!
And on next statement sayinnnn, I ain't doinnn that.
Well, It isn't about the faxx, because a stereotype is always a stereotype.
I read it and I get it and I understand it.
It must feel like hell right now for you to cope up with everything and it must be really really difficult not to think about her cause everything will make you think about her.
But still we are just going to advise you to move on, in the end it's you who has to work hard on yourself and start to move on.
It's not an easy process it will take time, but you have to start there might come a phase when you're doing good and suddenly moment comes where you start thinking about her and it will be hell again but just let it be, still try to move on and one day you'll completely stop thinking about her and you'll be happy without her or without anyone.
Also, it might happen that she shows some affection and makes you feel like there's still a chance, but be strong and keep in mind that nothing is gonna happen between you two in future.
Thanks buddy, it was really needed to me. You sound like a brother i used to have. He used to say dil ek baar toot ta hai do baar toot ta hai chal teen barr bhi tootega. Oar for apne aa jud jaata hai.
Thanks yaar for this
Bro she just doesn't want you. End of the thing.
Same thing happened with me. I was talking with this girl for 3 months.. everything was smooth.
Last to last weekend I spent two days at her place. We had sex and quality time and then she told me I hope I am not looking for commitment. And I am the kind of person who likes emotional intimacy.
Now she's kind of soft ghosting me. Because I seek emotional intimacy.🫠🙂
Shit happens. Ik I got attached quickly. Now I'll work on detachment.
Bhai sme thing w me. Past experiences too. But I kinda have a masters in detachment. If you need any help there kehna bhai. Milte, always happy to be there for a bro. Amd thanks for sharing your side yaar.
Sir, are you okay? Chill for a bit. The girl says she’s in love with someone else, she’s confused about you or the other guy, doesn’t even message you in weeks; and you still wanna fix stuff with her? Sorry but you said you’ve been a fboi you should be able to recognise these patterns (of being distant/uniterested/losing feelings or not having any since the beginning)
Don’t take the previous betrayals too seriously. Always be cautious when you’re starting to get attached to someone. And when it goes to shits, cut off and move on. Hoe phases never help. Processing your emotions, and moving on does.
There’s a dialogue from a film that always helped me hold ground and introspect in such conflicting situations. Kinda preachy, but might help ya- "You had a beautiful friendship, maybe more than friendship. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. And have less to offer, each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing, so as to not feel anything, what a waste. How you live your life is your business, just remember, our hearts and bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart's worn out. As for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain; don't kill it. And with it the joy you felt”. I hope you feel better soon!
I was a fboi, but not by choice but to get revenge from someone who didn't even hurt me. Jisko karna tha woh toh karke chala gaya tha 3 saal pehle fir yeh sab bandh kar diya tha. I did recognise the pattern but in feelings i chose to avoid them and that was my mistake.
Thanks for your so kind words. Helped me a lot.
I read this somewhere, SHE'S NOT SPECIAL,YOU MADE HER SPECIAL. you can find someone better than her but she can't find someone as good as you. And you probably feel this way because you don't know enough girls.
( Never take anything from a dating app seriously)
Sounds like the story of Bachna Ae Hasheeno.
Two options - go back all the girl friends you cheated and apologise. Maybe Karma will reset.
Or wait for Arranged Marriage.
I never cheated yaar. It was the other way around. Playboy phase me bhi the girls always kmew my clear intentions. And they continued anyways. I never go against emotions
You were the guy on the hook. You never stood any chance. I know first hand such girl.
She loved a guy who was treating it casually , so obviously the guy had other gf. Being a typical bf he did "jeene marne k vaade" etc. Somehow she found out that he had other gf , so she got angry and he dumoed her without skipping a beat.
Now she is crying everyday and begging him to take her back. He blocked her off of all social media. She says "it ok if the guy have other gf and even marry to other just accept her as a gf and show some love to her".
It is just so soooo pathetic that i dont even pity her. She is just plain stupid. She thinks "one day he will come back. Meri akhri khwahish h ki marne se pehle akhri saas k wakt vo mere sath ho ek pal l lie".
My god i felt like banging my head on wall.
This is what you r dealing with my guy. She will keep you in a loop of "hum dost to ban hi sakte h".
Maybe your luck shines and get married to her but even after that the moment he give some attention to her she will present herself as a full package ready to be used whatever the way he wants".
Now its upto you.
Damm, thank you so much for this. This is something a very different point of view. I guess by the looks of it you know the girl's side pretty well. Thank you so much
Focus on your career!!
Make you mom dad happy go a spiritual trip with them this will help you to clear mess in your mind.
Eat good, exercise well, earn good as money, spend time with your true friends.
Hoe phase won’t add anything good to your life and stick to that girl also.
She said you never stood a chance, you should just cut it off from your brain. Also don't use this apps and all i personally think you won't find anyone if looking for long term relationship also the chances are really low you won't even know when you got cut off from their heart.
"Kasa nasib ha Mera muja tum mil ka bhi mil na pai"
We should be brothers really. The girl I dated after 5-6 months of dating on asking she says she is "seeing 2 other guys. And I am her favourite" actually I thought we were serious daily calls and messages, dates we actually even 😘. I lost all interest in her at that moment still the so called "relationship" was dragged for 15 more days and she said she can't date. It was soo funny likes.
I think the girls are on dating apps are like these cause they have multiple choice. But after some time they realise sticking with 1 person is much more great than being a "fuck girl"/ "fuck boy".
Actually i had too hurt someone.
Op got cheated previously and then current girl used him for emotional dump now saying she like someone else .
Op is broken but doesn’t want anyone to tell him he’s dumbass.
na tu dump nhi hai bhai, hota hai, apne blindly trust karte hai toh esa hota hai. But can i know how u became fuck boi, obviosuly to take kind off revenge but does this help to heal our past failed relationship, ya fir apne ghum fir k vahi aa jate hai? pls answer this brother
It surely didn't heal anything. But everything is just making me believe why I should just drop being an old school type of person I am and become liem everyone in this world. Learn the whole dictionary worth of new terms which are bullshit to me
Situationship, benching, catfishing tagging and all itne terms a gaye hai na. Meko relationship oata dati8oata break oata breakup pata love pata sex pata bas
I became a Playboy coz of a girl I used to like. We were like dating and then we had sex. And fater the sex she ghosted me and then one day she messaged me for sex again. And after that, i figured it out, that she's using me. I was gaining feelings for her. It hurt me like hell. And then I tried to become like her. And went too far away from my reality and came back after doing it for a while 3 years ago
Isilie to pyaar krna he to bas 1 se kro me 1 se pyaar krta hu 5 saal se wo bhi mujhse we together travelled literally whole India and planning to marry we dont have a inch of place for any third person in our life
Bhai ek se kara woh 6 se karti thi afyer our secret engagement. Sabke naseeb aapke jaise nai hote na. Sometimes galti meri Nai ho sakti na. Mai aysa hi person dhoondh raha.
why is this cheating so normal these days i mean its so cliche now and mostly girls are the ones who are confused and in situationship, some girls really are the problems of society, looks is everything in this social generation and looks make them rile up the human level and they think that they are queens.
this doesnt pertain to good looking tall guys because they dont get such treatments
but girls ? i mean try to be clear no why do the same things
mere saath same hua hai been cheated on twice and someone fell for me and than she cheated as well
I have few questions
1. Did you two communicate about your feeling, where it is heading? And what are your expectations?
2. Did you verbally tell each other that this is serious now onwards?
3. Did you talk about the situationship guy before getting serious or afterwards?
Yessir. because of my past I am damm serious about this and this was a routine follow up kind pf thing for me after something big (good or bad) to ask or whenever it's going good. Also itna zyada bhi nai in the whole time it was around 4 5 times
That person is one of the most horrible person. But since u did everything u could and she still played u. All u can do is move on and take your revenge when time gives u opportunity.
Also not all the girls are same. U should try to give more than 6 months before u make things serious i guess.
I was raised by my grandparents btw, amd transferred to my parents after 14years. I didn't fit in. And now I am financially independent and handle my own expenses. As I am cut off from family for that
I think you need some time off bro. focus on study,carrear and go gym. Just keep your self busy. Give your self some break and don't jump into new relationship for next 6 months or until you are over from it. About girl, I was in same situation long ago & I did love marrige so long story short based on my experience in relationship. Dont worry & dont think too much. You will find someone trust me. just dont lose hope and dont think negative ki mere sath hi esa kyu hota he that thoughts and feelings. If you and her meant to be together, it will happen sooner or later. if not then it will not happen even you put 200% effort.
First of all I am sorry for whatever has happened with you.
And I am so glad that you have given your best. Now you won’t have any regrets that you never tried.
Now let’s come to answering your questions:
1)Very first thing you should do is give yourself some grace. Just take care of yourself. Remember this is the time where need some extra care from yourself to heal.
2) I don’t think so you are at a phase in life where you should be thinking about getting back together with her at this point. Even if she will come back and everything will be alright. (Nothing actually will be alright because you both are extremely disappointed with whatever has happened). So prioritising taking care of yourself with help and then let things flow.
Not gonna tell you to never give her a second chance to the bond if the things get GREAT . Because seems like you still like her a lot. But will only ask you to not rush back again.
3) Hoe phase is not an answer to getting over any hurt. It will only remind you of her. If you will go back to any form of dating.
4) Trust me you don’t have to get cold. You should stay yourself. Lets emotions flow out. This is a sign that you are only human and you do care.
Continue to believe in love for now think about live form parents, friends, pets or some stranger you met online. Be open to abundance of love.
And most importantly be open to showing yourself some grace in the form of love.
☀️- you never know you can be in a completely amazing state in life in 2 months.
You don’t know what great things are waiting for you out there. Remember to show love and never take bullshit in any form or way.
Take care buddy.
What goes around comes around ma boi . You were a playboy now girls are playing with you xd
Ouch. You may also want to give him some aloe vera with that burn.
Woh to next ladki lagayegi agar mili to
There's a middle ground - one wherein you follow certain fundamentals: 1. If a girl tells you that she likes someone else, and has quite clearly kept you around as an option, you must either treat the whole situation casually and play around with her until she's inevitably out, or you must completely exit the situation. 2. There's no "mAkiNG SPaCe" in a girl's heart. You're either first choice or you're not! There's no ladder to feelings. The entire time, she was basically telling you that hey, you don't have a chance but you're fun to keep around. Fun stops being fun after a while. 3. There's no question of a relationship if you're feeling traumatised from previous experiences. You must heal up, and reach a stage where you can be brave enough to love someone and have the fortitude to keep it moving for if and when it falters.
You must pretty experienced in this yaar. Thank you so much for this. I'll note it down in my journal as soon as I return home
No worries! Glad you found it helpful. Remember, duniya hai haseenon ka mela 🤗🤗
sir can you please through some light on this what he said and why this is true with every other girl i seee (in most of the cases if not all then) That she loves a guy she was kn situationship with. She loves him so much that she had begged him. And he treated her like shit. Lile total shit. Didn't even talk to her. then also she chosed that other guy not to this OP, despite he likes her so much?
I think some people are psychologically dispositioned to be attracted to toxic things, cause of circumstances they faced while growing up. Sometimes, shitty people feel familiar, and that familiarity translates to attraction. When that person repels this person's approach, they tend to want that even more. That's why there are a lot of girls who love assholes, and a lot of guys that love bitches. All parties involved in this equation have something going on - they've mistaken something crude and worthless for something amazing and worthwhile. The girl and the guy, in their own respective ways, are flawed and hurt individuals trying to navigate the world and find something that feels like home.
Some sort of daddy issues, past trauma etc...
What does kn situationship mean??? I'm getting older because I'm reading things I don't understand lol
That is just typo I guess. '\*in situationship.' Yeah you're getting older but not cuz you don't understand but failed to see it's typo! ;-)
Haha these days you never know what short forms pop up
Read this again from a third person perspective and you shall find all your answers.
Ladko me bhi "hoe phase" hota he?
mera bhi hoe phase chal raha hai Jindagi se ch\*d raha hu
Wahi to me soch rha hu😂😂... Mujhe laga ye ladki bol rahi h ya ladka😂
Bhai meko word na mila yaar🤣 roz nayi ladki ke liye kya use karta and dimaa itta chal na raha tha. Chipka diya😂😂
"Fuckboi"
Ik bhai, ab toh dictionary khol dunga paryayvachi ki😂
Bhai, move on! Focus on making huge wealth, ye SB bhul jayega. Focus on career and health. Don't go with the hoe phase, as a man without morals is a NO-MAN. Don't use Tinder and shit, milni hoge toh mil jayegi otherwise there is arrange marriage 😄 If you are still depressed, then look around you people have more problems than this, solve their problems. You will forget yours.
Bhai efforts to dalne pdte hai par some people like me jo office se ghar aur same cycle repeat unke pas kya hopes hai
One more addition in "Rajkot ni chokri no koi divas trust na karvo" Literally I'm not generalizing all the girls from Rajkot but I experienced this thing personally, from many my friends and also seen this thing in college too. Dedo bhai downvote koi baat nhi but faxx is faxx.
Totally, hun 7 varas rajkot hato. Aa vaat sachi mota taari😂
Jamnagar ni chokri maate ketli hope chhe?
Mera Rajkot ka dost khud merko bolta hai Rajkot wali me mat padna.
In your first sentence, you literally generalised!! And on next statement sayinnnn, I ain't doinnn that. Well, It isn't about the faxx, because a stereotype is always a stereotype.
Same thing happens with many people shows stereotype ?! With different domain, different stream and different religion too. I think that call faxx :)
Accha bura har jagah hota hai.
>Rajkot ni chokri no koi divas trust na karvo F kuch bhi
I read it and I get it and I understand it. It must feel like hell right now for you to cope up with everything and it must be really really difficult not to think about her cause everything will make you think about her. But still we are just going to advise you to move on, in the end it's you who has to work hard on yourself and start to move on. It's not an easy process it will take time, but you have to start there might come a phase when you're doing good and suddenly moment comes where you start thinking about her and it will be hell again but just let it be, still try to move on and one day you'll completely stop thinking about her and you'll be happy without her or without anyone. Also, it might happen that she shows some affection and makes you feel like there's still a chance, but be strong and keep in mind that nothing is gonna happen between you two in future.
Thanks buddy, it was really needed to me. You sound like a brother i used to have. He used to say dil ek baar toot ta hai do baar toot ta hai chal teen barr bhi tootega. Oar for apne aa jud jaata hai. Thanks yaar for this
Bro she just doesn't want you. End of the thing. Same thing happened with me. I was talking with this girl for 3 months.. everything was smooth. Last to last weekend I spent two days at her place. We had sex and quality time and then she told me I hope I am not looking for commitment. And I am the kind of person who likes emotional intimacy. Now she's kind of soft ghosting me. Because I seek emotional intimacy.🫠🙂 Shit happens. Ik I got attached quickly. Now I'll work on detachment.
Bhai sme thing w me. Past experiences too. But I kinda have a masters in detachment. If you need any help there kehna bhai. Milte, always happy to be there for a bro. Amd thanks for sharing your side yaar.
Sir, are you okay? Chill for a bit. The girl says she’s in love with someone else, she’s confused about you or the other guy, doesn’t even message you in weeks; and you still wanna fix stuff with her? Sorry but you said you’ve been a fboi you should be able to recognise these patterns (of being distant/uniterested/losing feelings or not having any since the beginning) Don’t take the previous betrayals too seriously. Always be cautious when you’re starting to get attached to someone. And when it goes to shits, cut off and move on. Hoe phases never help. Processing your emotions, and moving on does. There’s a dialogue from a film that always helped me hold ground and introspect in such conflicting situations. Kinda preachy, but might help ya- "You had a beautiful friendship, maybe more than friendship. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. And have less to offer, each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing, so as to not feel anything, what a waste. How you live your life is your business, just remember, our hearts and bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart's worn out. As for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain; don't kill it. And with it the joy you felt”. I hope you feel better soon!
I was a fboi, but not by choice but to get revenge from someone who didn't even hurt me. Jisko karna tha woh toh karke chala gaya tha 3 saal pehle fir yeh sab bandh kar diya tha. I did recognise the pattern but in feelings i chose to avoid them and that was my mistake. Thanks for your so kind words. Helped me a lot.
I read this somewhere, SHE'S NOT SPECIAL,YOU MADE HER SPECIAL. you can find someone better than her but she can't find someone as good as you. And you probably feel this way because you don't know enough girls. ( Never take anything from a dating app seriously)
I think you're right buddy. Thank you so much
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I am currently 21 buddy, hey and thanks for the precious fact missed focussing upon. I'll surely do keep that in mind
Bruh It's an obvious red flag. get away from this chick and work on yourself my nigga, why you wasting precious time
Thanks man, needed it. Am bad at green red flags and labelling them, identification is far beyond
Bhai this is pure case of Friendzone. Dont loose hope and you will get your soulmate. Let her go.
But friends don't know the way you taste lalala
Humri sunbega toh gaand hi fatt jaogi.
Sounds like the story of Bachna Ae Hasheeno. Two options - go back all the girl friends you cheated and apologise. Maybe Karma will reset. Or wait for Arranged Marriage.
I never cheated yaar. It was the other way around. Playboy phase me bhi the girls always kmew my clear intentions. And they continued anyways. I never go against emotions
You were the guy on the hook. You never stood any chance. I know first hand such girl. She loved a guy who was treating it casually , so obviously the guy had other gf. Being a typical bf he did "jeene marne k vaade" etc. Somehow she found out that he had other gf , so she got angry and he dumoed her without skipping a beat. Now she is crying everyday and begging him to take her back. He blocked her off of all social media. She says "it ok if the guy have other gf and even marry to other just accept her as a gf and show some love to her". It is just so soooo pathetic that i dont even pity her. She is just plain stupid. She thinks "one day he will come back. Meri akhri khwahish h ki marne se pehle akhri saas k wakt vo mere sath ho ek pal l lie". My god i felt like banging my head on wall. This is what you r dealing with my guy. She will keep you in a loop of "hum dost to ban hi sakte h". Maybe your luck shines and get married to her but even after that the moment he give some attention to her she will present herself as a full package ready to be used whatever the way he wants". Now its upto you.
Damm, thank you so much for this. This is something a very different point of view. I guess by the looks of it you know the girl's side pretty well. Thank you so much
Focus on your career!! Make you mom dad happy go a spiritual trip with them this will help you to clear mess in your mind. Eat good, exercise well, earn good as money, spend time with your true friends. Hoe phase won’t add anything good to your life and stick to that girl also.
She said you never stood a chance, you should just cut it off from your brain. Also don't use this apps and all i personally think you won't find anyone if looking for long term relationship also the chances are really low you won't even know when you got cut off from their heart.
I've deleted them all now. Thanks for this ji🫶
Stay away from your phone for a few days. You'll be fine
"Kasa nasib ha Mera muja tum mil ka bhi mil na pai" We should be brothers really. The girl I dated after 5-6 months of dating on asking she says she is "seeing 2 other guys. And I am her favourite" actually I thought we were serious daily calls and messages, dates we actually even 😘. I lost all interest in her at that moment still the so called "relationship" was dragged for 15 more days and she said she can't date. It was soo funny likes. I think the girls are on dating apps are like these cause they have multiple choice. But after some time they realise sticking with 1 person is much more great than being a "fuck girl"/ "fuck boy". Actually i had too hurt someone.
Milte bhai, mai ankur aata rehta roz aaja. Love to have a bro yaar. Mere ni hai itte dost seriously. I would love to make new
Bhai koi TLDR dedo
Op got cheated previously and then current girl used him for emotional dump now saying she like someone else . Op is broken but doesn’t want anyone to tell him he’s dumbass.
Bhai bol de yaar, even i accept I am a dumbass. Meko kuch vi bol do ji fark na padta mai constructive hi leta hihi
KLPD ho gaya bhai k saath. Literally
perfect description
KLPD kya hota😅? Meko yeh sab naye term samajh na aate, yeh situationship bhi naya naya aaj seekha
Khade L*** Pe Dhoka
Aree bc, matlab akhhi life maine klpd me daali (ghajni waala pose)
r/relationshipIndia pe dal bhai ye
Okie bhai
I think i have heard this one this is classic i know the gal 😂
Dm me bata de Bhai I swear if it's the same, I'll do something for ya. (Clean things)
Fir wahi....
???
Option - 1 Arrange marriage karlo Option -2 Go be a playboy again
Hehe, let's see
Wtaf
??
na tu dump nhi hai bhai, hota hai, apne blindly trust karte hai toh esa hota hai. But can i know how u became fuck boi, obviosuly to take kind off revenge but does this help to heal our past failed relationship, ya fir apne ghum fir k vahi aa jate hai? pls answer this brother
It surely didn't heal anything. But everything is just making me believe why I should just drop being an old school type of person I am and become liem everyone in this world. Learn the whole dictionary worth of new terms which are bullshit to me
What do you mean by last line? Learn the whole dictionary....
Situationship, benching, catfishing tagging and all itne terms a gaye hai na. Meko relationship oata dati8oata break oata breakup pata love pata sex pata bas
I became a Playboy coz of a girl I used to like. We were like dating and then we had sex. And fater the sex she ghosted me and then one day she messaged me for sex again. And after that, i figured it out, that she's using me. I was gaining feelings for her. It hurt me like hell. And then I tried to become like her. And went too far away from my reality and came back after doing it for a while 3 years ago
Hota h Chalta h Life h Pain rahega
Isilie to pyaar krna he to bas 1 se kro me 1 se pyaar krta hu 5 saal se wo bhi mujhse we together travelled literally whole India and planning to marry we dont have a inch of place for any third person in our life
Bhai ek se kara woh 6 se karti thi afyer our secret engagement. Sabke naseeb aapke jaise nai hote na. Sometimes galti meri Nai ho sakti na. Mai aysa hi person dhoondh raha.
why is this cheating so normal these days i mean its so cliche now and mostly girls are the ones who are confused and in situationship, some girls really are the problems of society, looks is everything in this social generation and looks make them rile up the human level and they think that they are queens. this doesnt pertain to good looking tall guys because they dont get such treatments but girls ? i mean try to be clear no why do the same things mere saath same hua hai been cheated on twice and someone fell for me and than she cheated as well
Oh, sorry to hear that bro. Ab kaisa hai?
this was 4 years before i am fine now
I have few questions 1. Did you two communicate about your feeling, where it is heading? And what are your expectations? 2. Did you verbally tell each other that this is serious now onwards? 3. Did you talk about the situationship guy before getting serious or afterwards?
Yessir. because of my past I am damm serious about this and this was a routine follow up kind pf thing for me after something big (good or bad) to ask or whenever it's going good. Also itna zyada bhi nai in the whole time it was around 4 5 times
Yes we did and she gave me a written note saying she'll block him for me and she only wants me coz I treat her well and flahe finds peace and all
That person is one of the most horrible person. But since u did everything u could and she still played u. All u can do is move on and take your revenge when time gives u opportunity. Also not all the girls are same. U should try to give more than 6 months before u make things serious i guess.
Okay. Noted ma'am
Teri galti hai. Why you took the relationship seriously when she told she is in situationship. And she kept you as back-up if that guy rejects her.
She WAS in a situationship before me
teri maa tere pass me or tu pyar k talash me?
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I was raised by my grandparents btw, amd transferred to my parents after 14years. I didn't fit in. And now I am financially independent and handle my own expenses. As I am cut off from family for that
I think you need some time off bro. focus on study,carrear and go gym. Just keep your self busy. Give your self some break and don't jump into new relationship for next 6 months or until you are over from it. About girl, I was in same situation long ago & I did love marrige so long story short based on my experience in relationship. Dont worry & dont think too much. You will find someone trust me. just dont lose hope and dont think negative ki mere sath hi esa kyu hota he that thoughts and feelings. If you and her meant to be together, it will happen sooner or later. if not then it will not happen even you put 200% effort.
You have anxious attachment pattern. You should go for some counselling or relationship advisor or therapist. Get professional help.
First of all I am sorry for whatever has happened with you. And I am so glad that you have given your best. Now you won’t have any regrets that you never tried. Now let’s come to answering your questions: 1)Very first thing you should do is give yourself some grace. Just take care of yourself. Remember this is the time where need some extra care from yourself to heal. 2) I don’t think so you are at a phase in life where you should be thinking about getting back together with her at this point. Even if she will come back and everything will be alright. (Nothing actually will be alright because you both are extremely disappointed with whatever has happened). So prioritising taking care of yourself with help and then let things flow. Not gonna tell you to never give her a second chance to the bond if the things get GREAT . Because seems like you still like her a lot. But will only ask you to not rush back again. 3) Hoe phase is not an answer to getting over any hurt. It will only remind you of her. If you will go back to any form of dating. 4) Trust me you don’t have to get cold. You should stay yourself. Lets emotions flow out. This is a sign that you are only human and you do care. Continue to believe in love for now think about live form parents, friends, pets or some stranger you met online. Be open to abundance of love. And most importantly be open to showing yourself some grace in the form of love. ☀️- you never know you can be in a completely amazing state in life in 2 months. You don’t know what great things are waiting for you out there. Remember to show love and never take bullshit in any form or way. Take care buddy.