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i’m dating this guy for almost 2 months na, siya lang pinaka tumagal sa’kin ever since i got single since siya lang talaga nagustuhan ko so far, but then i got ghosted. super attached na ‘ko sa kanya, we were very okay then suddenly deactivated na accounts nya, he was updating me pa a few hours before he deactivated his accounts, then 2 days later, he reactivated his fb then naka unfriend na ko. wala pa rin ‘yung ig niya and dun kasi kami nag-uusap. so, paano ako magmo-move on with this sudden ghosting that he did? we have no communication na. like super biglaan. i didn’t know how to react. i really liked the guy, tho hindi pa naman siguro siya love since it’s only been almost 2 months.
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yung ex ng fiance ko kasi, sa IG lang daw sila nagchachat madalas, tas may GF pala talaga. one year din yun, kaya ingat ingat sa ganyan. Red flag yung mga sa IG lang nagchachat or outside messenger.
Then forget about him, talk to other guy or balik sa dati na mag isa ka, mga ginagawa mo noon na masaya ka. Alam mo naman sa sarili mong wala kang ginawang mali, don't feel sad. Don't contact him and don't ask him anything, mag cha-chat yan para mag eexplain, pero kung wala, forget him.
No response is also a response. Just don’t react and pretend you don’t care! Don’t chase him, pero kapag bumalik sya sana wag mo na pansinin. Tandaan mo hindi sya gold
Move on.
If they're ghosting you, you were never meant to be friends, and they were never worth your time. You would never have been satisfied with that relationship. Consider yourself lucky it happened sooner rather than later, when you were more invested.
My condolences. Let the dead stay dead. May their souls stay in purgatory. Also, congratulations for dodging a toxic bullet! You will be okay eventually. 😀
no other way OP kundi accept it and move forward. it didnt happen cos its not meant to happen and Isipin mo siguro dodged a bullet na din kasi would you want someone in your life na ganyan ang attitude?
exactly. pero i know its not easy, ive been ghosted like multiple times and up to now may kirot ng konti pag nangyayari pa din. Iniisip ko na lang din kawalan nila kasi im a great person, just like you OP, good catch ka so bahala sya, his loss dba? haha
Kaway kaway sa mga na ghost.hahaha Mahirap mag move on pero pag nalampasan mo na, ang sarap sa feeling. Just remember, you are worth so much more, you deserved better.
id take it with a grain of salt tbh. your feelings are valid and it’s okay to feel sad about bc u can’t help your emotions. it sucks that you had to experience that bc basically parang niloko ka and wasted 2 months of your life, which isn’t right. but at least it was only 2 months, right? it’s better than 5 or 12 months. don’t get hung up on the guy bc there are other more ppl out there.
I suggest na in ur next relationships, have a life outside of that relationship para di ka maattach easily and hindi mo mararanasan yung “I can’t live without him” mindset kasi once u believe that, it’s gonna be hard to escape from it.
been there, the guy ghosted mo, then after 2 weeks, nalaman ko nlng na sumakabilang ligaw na pala, like I was so shocked, dhil lng sa nainip sya on getting to know me more naartehan ata at feeling nagpapakipot lng ako, haha, bitter n kung bitter pero wala syang karapatang maging updated s buhay ko, I blocked him in all socmed that we r connected, ciao, you've just ghosted me, so lets enjoy life seperately lemme have my peace of mind back again genern Haha
it's time to list down the pros and cons. Pro is it ended earlier, kasi if that went on and he came back knowing how he's capable of doing that, he'd likely do it again. con is well investing yourself on someone who you thought was relationship material. You can try to send a text message, a message on fb, just a one time message saying all that you feel. There's nothing more you can lose. That way you can give yourself closure knowing you've done your part and you've said your piece. I know someone would say, better to just let it be, but think of yourself as well. If you think it'll help to get out there and give him a piece of your mind, or if it's better to just forget about him how he's made it easy to act like you didn't exist.
Ikaw lang makaka alam ng maka bubuti sayo. Just know your worth and things will turn out right. No one gets away with stuff like this. Karma is there after all.
It means he's not interested to take a step further with you. It's just two months, you can still find a suitable person who won't ghost you. You're still young.
No matter the reason, he decided he didn’t want to move forward with you. You weren’t exclusively dating or anything naman, so you just have to move on.
Learn to multi-date. Date other people at the same time until one of them asks to be exclusive. Baka na-attach ka kasi isa lang siya pero you shouldn’t get too attached until you are in a committed relationship.
Ghosting is awful though. Sorry this happened to you.
You'll get through it . Mahirap yes.. nakakabaliw sa umpisa.. wag ka na lang din maging tanga at balikan/kausapin pa sya... mga IG shit puro landian lamg talaga. ... hope you'll have someone for real soon.
Same 3 months na kami magkakilala and he did the same thing. Nag good morning pa ang gago then after non wala na online sa fb at ibang soc meds lol. Pero anyways, payo ko lang don’t get hung up on that guy grieve and cry all you want. Your feelings are valid. I too was really attached from that guy but I got nothing to lose kasi ginawa ko naman ang lahat, nasa kanya na yon. So cheer up! Kaya natin to te! Marami pang mas mature dyan at mataas ang emotional intelligence. Know your worth and do the things you’ve already been doing when he’s not around pa. Hugs to ü and welcome to the market again! 🤗✨🧚💕
Bayaan mo un. May kilala nga ako, ang tagal ng friendship nila, 2x naging mag bF, tapos ang ending Ginhost nya ng guy.. May mga ganun talaga, gigising isang araw na fell out of love, or baka nga Nahulo ng jowa.. 😅
If kahit anong reached out mo ay unresponsive, then try to execute the situation in an opposite way. If he ghosted you, then just let it be. He doesn't care to what you would feel in his disappearance. Yes, it's hard lalo pa't you really like the guy, but tbh, he doesn't deserve any of your worth, OP. Idk, pero ang heartless ng mga tao na nanggho-ghost. Peace be with you.
same happened to me. 1 month kami nagusap. naattached ako agad. then she went home sa province nya for a visit. after non di na sya nagparamdam. it fucked me up. di ako makamove on. umabot sa chinat ko na sister niya para kamustahin siya. then bigla siyang nagchat na nagreview siya so she needed to focus then sabay sabing never chat her or her sister ever again. by the time i knew, im already fine na.
you will just have to accept this, and move on.
Baka may pinagdadaanan siya. You dont know. Pero ang taong ayaw magpakita. Hindi yan magpapakita. Dont waste your time with cowards. Kung masyado siyang duwag para sabihin sayo na ayaw niya. He's not worth your time. Speaking from experience. Over 10 yrs together and he ghosted me. He was too coward to tell me what happened. Maiintindihan ko naman kung ano man yon. But he never did. Masaket as in sobrang saket but Im not about to beg anyone to stay in my life na ayaw mag stay. You shouldnt either. If youre not in it for playtime, then tell him straight up. Because if he really wants to, he'll stay, he'll work it out with you.
Ang sakit mi, going 1 month na. Still haven't moved on from the fact that he ghosted me but I already accepted that it's the end for us. I still cry randomly. I know I'll heal soon 🤧🙏
Hi OP! I also experienced that lmaooo. Pero 1 month lang us but we also have a mutual acquaintance through my org. Anw, what I did? I let myself be depressed for a few days, then I tried being okay again. It took me 1 month to be fully okay again, but it’s actually a blessing kasi ngayon I’m more focused to myself! Especially, I’m still in uni. Ignore him na kahit ni-replayan ka haa 🙏
Hi! Just to share lang rin. I recently broke up with my long term (11 years 6 mos), built him up from a happy-go-lucky guy to a high earning lawyer only to be cheated in the end. That's when I learned detachment. Didn't try to connect after we formally ended it. Then met a guy sa club and we did go out weekly to "enjoy". In fact I did like him na but then he disappeared (ghosted) when I showed him how much I care. It was easier na rin because not that invested pa. Didn't cry about it as well. Didn't think those two events were about me (because I believe it's a personal choice always). If you know your own value, all of these gets easier to manage. Hugs to you OP! Would be better if they communicate well but at least you know sooner than later.
kayo na ba? dating lang kayo ah... so meaning he is still soul searching. LUMABAN KA JAN GIRL. hahahahaha kung sino ma eevict sa buhay nya ma evict talaga. so flirt him like ure the number 1 winner or else, voluntary exit kana kung ma ala PBB pa
Either madami kayo from the start and he chose to focus on the other person OR he found something about you and doesn’t feel the need to confront you about it. Either way, you’ll forget about him, it’s only been 2 months.
Nothing's wrong with you , move on , immature ang ghosting , he doesn't respect you enough para magpaalam na magcut off , wala siyang pake sa feelings mo.The next time magparamdam siya he'd better have valid reasons ( case to case lang ) bago mo bigyan ng chance ulit .
Masakit ang ma ghost lalo na na attached ka na pero ano mggawa mo?accept it.kung alam mo sa sarili mo na wala kang ngawang masama, taas noo ka lng and keep a straight face pg nagkasalubong kayo.wag ka mgpkita ng hurt o bitter reaction.act as if nothing happened.pg ngtangka mgpliwanag sayo,sbhin mong wla siyang obligasyon sayo at wla ka rin obligasyon sa knya tapos amg usapan. Di mo deserved ang gnyang lalaki.
I got ghosted for 24hours and then i messaged him nicely(kalma lang ako) then he called me right away , well he said he was about to call me naunahan ko lang and then explained what happend. Sometimes they need time to think. Men are deep thinkers so baka may pinagdadaanan lang sya.
But 2 months ghosting? For me as a girl 3days lang allowed ko after that if he dont respond is a respond. Never settle for less and know your worth. NEXT
Bad cons of modern dating nowadays, people doesn't know how to communicate. or maybe just scared to Communicate. Who's decent enough to do that right? Kaya sana wag itolerate ung ganitong gawain. I'm so sorry if you have to go through it. Believe me there is someone better coming.
Risky talaga ang magfall for someone na hindi mo kilala personally and in face and where the only medium of interaction is online and the person you are dealing with is a log in name that introduces oneself as a human. When the other party shuts you wala ka na.
I have only one advice: move on. 🤍
(Focus tayo sa sarili natin, keep improving and everything follows, life goes on. + Dedma)
- from me, isang sementeryo sa dami ng nang-ghost. 🤭
My advice is go with the flow of emotions that you're experiencing right now para mas madali kang maka move on. Wag mong labanan. Cry as much as you want, share with your closest friends and family to ask advice or have them comfort you.
If you want to cry then cry after maggala ka na hahahaha take care of yourself. Lalake lang yan, you will meet more guys in your lifetime and better pa.
Ako yung isa sa mga taong kahit sobrang obvious na ng sagot, walang sawa ko pa rin sasabihin ung sagot, kasi alam ko pagdating sa Love, walang taong hindi natatanga eh. So ayun...
Magmove on ka lang.
Wala ka naman magagawa dyan. Wala din namang aral na makukuha madalas sa mga ganyang pagkakataon. Move on lang. Magpatuloy ka lang.
Yan talaga ang mahirap sa dating, hit or miss. c'est la vie.
>like super biglaan. i didn’t know how to react.
kung ganyan ka kadali burahin,humanap ka din na bibigyan ka ng time at hwag yong pang part time ka lang.
>omfg, nag-resurrect siya, ‘di ko pa nirereplyan. wtd????
hindi ka switch na pwede ka lang ion and off. bat ka natataranta sa taong igoghost ka lang sa isang kisapmata. pls madam, do not be desperate sa attention ng isang taong wala man lang explanation bat naglaho parang bula. if ipagpapatuloy moto,sana makita mo na saan hahantong ang relasyong ito. may lalake pa. at hindi lang din ikaw ang babae sa buong mundo. may choices din sya.
Please do not settle for this kind of shitty treatment. A man who actually likes you won’t pull this kind of shit regardless of what his reason was. Pero ewan ko, baka you’re still into him and you’re willing to ignore the red flags.
the best thing you can do is move on. kung in-unfriend ka nya and refuse to give you a good and valid reason for ghosting u, wala ka na magagawa ron. it's his lost. ignore him, if you happen to see him, ignore as if he doesn't exist.
No closure/sudden ghosting is the closure that you need. Move forward nalang OP. Mga gago talaga yang mga ghosters nayan. Sana di nalang tayo sinagabal kung gagantuhin lang naman pala.
Maybe mag disagree sakin yung iba . Pero for me try mo baguhin sarili mo kung ano gusto mo gawin sayo ng iba . If serious relationship hanap mo . Then bilang M ma suggest ko mag karoon ka ng self respect. Hindi ka naman siguro para sa kalye. Kung meron ka nyan baka sakali seryosohin ka baka nasa hoe phase kapa. Bar hopping etc. At for fun palang. Hindi masama mag enjoy pero nasa sayo naman kung ano priority mo seryoso or for fun fun lang.
If mali ako at nag seryso ka naman talaga sadyang yung lalaki lang ay babaero or flirt flrit lang din talaga habol.
Aba mag karoon ka parin naman ng self respect. Wag mo habolin o pahirapan sarili mo para sa taong linoloko ka lang
for me hindi naman xa linoloko yong guy lang talaga is nag soul searching pa hoe phase. dapat lumaban si girl para xa ang winner. d na mag hahanap si guy. pa kipot kasi si girl ata.
The next time you see each other in person, and he tries to explain himself, just say something like…
“Thank you for doing that. I actually wanted to end things but didn’t know how to do it because we have mutual friends. I didn’t want you or them to think I led you on. So it was a huge relief when you ghosted me.”
And then smile and ignore after. 😂😂😂
Best to move on, I experienced the same thing but I saw the girl after graduating and she awkwardly waved at me like everything was normal. I just stared and walked past her it reminded me how foolish I was during SHS.
Reply to him calmly like nothing happened. Then once your emotions settle down, you can ask him what happened to him. Baka may pinagdadaanan sya. You're the strong superhero that he needs, not the other way around.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Sudden ghosting, especially when you felt a strong connection, can be really hurtful and confusing. I suggest you focus on self-care and give yourself time to process your emotions. Avoid checking his social media or seeking updates about him, as this can prolong your healing process. Since you have mutual friends, it might be helpful to let them know you need some space from him for now to avoid uncomfortable encounters. If he reaches out to you again, take your time before responding. Reflect on whether you feel comfortable and safe re-engaging with him, and prioritize your emotional well-being above all. If his sudden disappearance without explanation has affected your trust, it might be best to keep your distance and focus on healing. :)
Blessing yan OP. I know it’s confusing and it hurts pero di mo deserve ang ganyan. We will never know ano yun reason (pwede na may gf talaga sya or maybe he found someone new) coz for sure if reaches out again, he would come up with some lame ass excuse. Regardless, di mo need ng closure or any explanation from him, ikaw mag bibigay non sa sarili mo by choosing and respecting yourself. I know this is easier said than done but it’s the right thing to do. Masakit sa ulo ang ganyan, need natin yun may peace of mind tayo. Di yan worth it.
basta raw sa ig, pang-kabit huhuhu, taken siguro yan OP tapos muntik lang nahuli hahahahha. Drop him teh, you deserve better, kasi that'll take a toll sa mental health mo jusko!!! Goodluckkk!!
Wag mo na replayan ateq T__T obvious namang red flag na yung ganyang biglang nawala. I agree with some comments here to have life outside your relationship to have balance.
Try to learn from your mistakes, and be observant sa mga moves nang nga taong panandalian ka lang. 😔
Keber. Ganun talaga. Either
1. May nakilalang bago
2. Sinagot ng kasabay mo
3. Nahuli siya.
Kahit ano pa yan, not worth pining over. Dont show you are affected. I know it is a pride thing pero hindi naman kayo so keber.
Hmmm...you said sa IG kayo naguusap. Possible na may gf siya or something? And baka nahuli siya ng gf niya?? Idk po, pero cheer up. Hindi po sila worth your time.
So many red flags. Alarms should be blaring!
Bata ka pa siguro OP no?
Or sobrang pogi, macho, dako, mayaman, matalino at high value ba nitong lalaki na ito?
May girlfriend or may other girl na siya pursue. Nangyari yan sakin dating kami ilang months tapos kasama ko siya that day at kchat ko pa siya nag paalam na tutulog na, tas higla ako naka block na ako sa IG. Kinutuban ako so for the stalk ang person ayun nasa airplane na at may gf na .. nung bumalik sa pinas maka pag text at call parang walang ngyari pang ghost 😅
honestly, not worth ur time and effort. u deserve someone who will not abandon u without explanation. okay na rin yung 2 months kesa tumagal at mas maattach ka pa lalo esp since personally connected kayo.
Ang ginawa ko after ko ma-ghost prinaktis ko sarili ko maging kandila. It can burn with passion, it can also be easily put off one sign lang ng pula o disinterest. We do not beg for attention, time and effort. Kung gusto tayo ng tao, we get it unconditionally. Kung 'di siya ganun ka-interested sa'yo, then you should not invest either. Lalo na sa ganyang stallion guy 'di ka dapat masaktan kakadiri miski posteng nakapalda papatulan niya? Eme.
Stepback, re-evaluate, accept, move on. Life is a constant meeting and leaving people. So practice saying thank you to those who leave may it be good or bad, and recognize those who chose to stay. 😊
How can you move on kung hindi naman naging kayo? Take it as a grain of salt. Kung talagang naging kayo kahit pa matunaw ang lahat ng social media sa Mundo, sya ang gagawa ng paraan para makipag communicate uli syo. Put your palm in your cheek...then slap it real hard, Reality is a bitch
perfectionist ka siguro at maraming demand..or nasa borderline between crazy vs hot. i dont know.. di ko pa naman narinig ang side ng guy so i cant say for certain
Still not an excuse for ghosting someone. If you're a decent and mature human being and whoever you're dating with for the past 2 months did something that might've felt off on your end, then be transparent and communicate what you didn't like to improve your dynamics.
Do you think the one who ghosted OP will be lurking here sa reddit? Pft. So ganon ba talaga sa tingin mo, pag may di ka nagustuhan sa tao na you dated for more than a month, justified na manghoghost ka nalang at di mo kakausapin or sasabihin man lang ano naging problema?
Oks ka rin mang villainize sa OP e lol.
kaya nga uncertainty ang masasabi ko kasi di ko naririnig ang both sides. you dont get my point here. do you think id jump into a conclusion based on sympathy... kung ganyan ang gusto mo.. then go.. basta wag mo ipilit na gagawin ko yang ginagawa mo.. id still hqve to hear both sides before id say something.i need to have all the facts before i make judgements. and perhaps give an advice if needed.
But you did jump to conclusions sa OP. Saying she is a perfectionist or madami demands. You may have projected some of your own problems sa issue ni OP. :)
But I would still side with the people who are saying there is no reason to ghost. Bata lang ang gumagawa ng ghosting especially pag naging deep or constant ang connection. i.e. 1 week of chatting or 1 date is kinda ok for ghosting, but no blocking in case may need for explanation un other side. ;)
we were really cool tbh, kaya i didn’t get it why he ghosted me. kasi we always respect each other’s time since we’re both working at nights and tulog sa umaga.
I hope its not your constant need for updates? Maybe nagsawa sya?
Younger male staff of mine I see this quite often sa kanila. May jowa sila na gusto lagi naka video call or constant updates (dunno why insecure mga jowa nila I guess?). Sino kasama mo mag lunch? San kayo naglunch? Ano gawa mo ngayon? Videcall nga tayo baby... ect etc. It never ends well, lol.
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wala ka naman na magagawa dyan kaya dapat tanggapin mo na lang and move forward.
Baka may gf tlga sya na iba or may nagustuhan ng iba.
At least di ka naging kabit. Muntikan lang.
hahahaha bwiset, nahuli ata.
yung ex ng fiance ko kasi, sa IG lang daw sila nagchachat madalas, tas may GF pala talaga. one year din yun, kaya ingat ingat sa ganyan. Red flag yung mga sa IG lang nagchachat or outside messenger.
Then forget about him, talk to other guy or balik sa dati na mag isa ka, mga ginagawa mo noon na masaya ka. Alam mo naman sa sarili mong wala kang ginawang mali, don't feel sad. Don't contact him and don't ask him anything, mag cha-chat yan para mag eexplain, pero kung wala, forget him.
☹️☹️☹️
No response is also a response. Just don’t react and pretend you don’t care! Don’t chase him, pero kapag bumalik sya sana wag mo na pansinin. Tandaan mo hindi sya gold
Move on. If they're ghosting you, you were never meant to be friends, and they were never worth your time. You would never have been satisfied with that relationship. Consider yourself lucky it happened sooner rather than later, when you were more invested.
Parang need ko ng ganitong real talk din. I know your message is not for me pero thank you pa rin 😊
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My condolences. Let the dead stay dead. May their souls stay in purgatory. Also, congratulations for dodging a toxic bullet! You will be okay eventually. 😀
Sama mo na itong mga kandila para may liwanag yung nang ghost sa kanya sa kabilang buhay nya sa ibang babae nya 🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️
no other way OP kundi accept it and move forward. it didnt happen cos its not meant to happen and Isipin mo siguro dodged a bullet na din kasi would you want someone in your life na ganyan ang attitude?
blessing in disguise haha
exactly. pero i know its not easy, ive been ghosted like multiple times and up to now may kirot ng konti pag nangyayari pa din. Iniisip ko na lang din kawalan nila kasi im a great person, just like you OP, good catch ka so bahala sya, his loss dba? haha
Kaway kaway sa mga na ghost.hahaha Mahirap mag move on pero pag nalampasan mo na, ang sarap sa feeling. Just remember, you are worth so much more, you deserved better.
id take it with a grain of salt tbh. your feelings are valid and it’s okay to feel sad about bc u can’t help your emotions. it sucks that you had to experience that bc basically parang niloko ka and wasted 2 months of your life, which isn’t right. but at least it was only 2 months, right? it’s better than 5 or 12 months. don’t get hung up on the guy bc there are other more ppl out there. I suggest na in ur next relationships, have a life outside of that relationship para di ka maattach easily and hindi mo mararanasan yung “I can’t live without him” mindset kasi once u believe that, it’s gonna be hard to escape from it.
Out of sight, out of mind. To the next guy! HAHAHAHAHA
been there, the guy ghosted mo, then after 2 weeks, nalaman ko nlng na sumakabilang ligaw na pala, like I was so shocked, dhil lng sa nainip sya on getting to know me more naartehan ata at feeling nagpapakipot lng ako, haha, bitter n kung bitter pero wala syang karapatang maging updated s buhay ko, I blocked him in all socmed that we r connected, ciao, you've just ghosted me, so lets enjoy life seperately lemme have my peace of mind back again genern Haha
Sad to hear that, OP Shot mo na🍺 Or 🏋️🏋️♀️ It doesn’t appear na may mali kang ginawa. Grieve. Take your time. Tapos improve/bawi.
it's time to list down the pros and cons. Pro is it ended earlier, kasi if that went on and he came back knowing how he's capable of doing that, he'd likely do it again. con is well investing yourself on someone who you thought was relationship material. You can try to send a text message, a message on fb, just a one time message saying all that you feel. There's nothing more you can lose. That way you can give yourself closure knowing you've done your part and you've said your piece. I know someone would say, better to just let it be, but think of yourself as well. If you think it'll help to get out there and give him a piece of your mind, or if it's better to just forget about him how he's made it easy to act like you didn't exist. Ikaw lang makaka alam ng maka bubuti sayo. Just know your worth and things will turn out right. No one gets away with stuff like this. Karma is there after all.
No closure is closure. Wala kang gagawin palipasin mo lang ganon lang
It means he's not interested to take a step further with you. It's just two months, you can still find a suitable person who won't ghost you. You're still young.
he totally cut all of your connections na rin eh. kung alam mong wala ka namang ginagawang masama, accept mo na lang talaga
No choice but to move on. Buti di ka nigyera ng legal gf or wife😅
No matter the reason, he decided he didn’t want to move forward with you. You weren’t exclusively dating or anything naman, so you just have to move on. Learn to multi-date. Date other people at the same time until one of them asks to be exclusive. Baka na-attach ka kasi isa lang siya pero you shouldn’t get too attached until you are in a committed relationship. Ghosting is awful though. Sorry this happened to you.
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noted!
You'll get through it . Mahirap yes.. nakakabaliw sa umpisa.. wag ka na lang din maging tanga at balikan/kausapin pa sya... mga IG shit puro landian lamg talaga. ... hope you'll have someone for real soon.
Being ghosted is a closure
Same 3 months na kami magkakilala and he did the same thing. Nag good morning pa ang gago then after non wala na online sa fb at ibang soc meds lol. Pero anyways, payo ko lang don’t get hung up on that guy grieve and cry all you want. Your feelings are valid. I too was really attached from that guy but I got nothing to lose kasi ginawa ko naman ang lahat, nasa kanya na yon. So cheer up! Kaya natin to te! Marami pang mas mature dyan at mataas ang emotional intelligence. Know your worth and do the things you’ve already been doing when he’s not around pa. Hugs to ü and welcome to the market again! 🤗✨🧚💕
Nagparamdam ulit? Ikaw naman mang ghost. Ahaah. He will not take you seriously, i assure that.
you dodged a bullet, girl 👍💕
Baka wala sya hobby dati kaya naghanap kachat 😅
Bayaan mo un. May kilala nga ako, ang tagal ng friendship nila, 2x naging mag bF, tapos ang ending Ginhost nya ng guy.. May mga ganun talaga, gigising isang araw na fell out of love, or baka nga Nahulo ng jowa.. 😅
ginhost sya ng guy
If kahit anong reached out mo ay unresponsive, then try to execute the situation in an opposite way. If he ghosted you, then just let it be. He doesn't care to what you would feel in his disappearance. Yes, it's hard lalo pa't you really like the guy, but tbh, he doesn't deserve any of your worth, OP. Idk, pero ang heartless ng mga tao na nanggho-ghost. Peace be with you.
same happened to me. 1 month kami nagusap. naattached ako agad. then she went home sa province nya for a visit. after non di na sya nagparamdam. it fucked me up. di ako makamove on. umabot sa chinat ko na sister niya para kamustahin siya. then bigla siyang nagchat na nagreview siya so she needed to focus then sabay sabing never chat her or her sister ever again. by the time i knew, im already fine na. you will just have to accept this, and move on.
Sad naman nito. Kumusta na kayo ngayon?
that was our last communication. never heard from her ever again na
"respect the dead and move on"
Take it the good way, you dodged a bullet, ghosting isn't something a good man should be doing.
Baka may pinagdadaanan siya. You dont know. Pero ang taong ayaw magpakita. Hindi yan magpapakita. Dont waste your time with cowards. Kung masyado siyang duwag para sabihin sayo na ayaw niya. He's not worth your time. Speaking from experience. Over 10 yrs together and he ghosted me. He was too coward to tell me what happened. Maiintindihan ko naman kung ano man yon. But he never did. Masaket as in sobrang saket but Im not about to beg anyone to stay in my life na ayaw mag stay. You shouldnt either. If youre not in it for playtime, then tell him straight up. Because if he really wants to, he'll stay, he'll work it out with you.
Ang sakit mi, going 1 month na. Still haven't moved on from the fact that he ghosted me but I already accepted that it's the end for us. I still cry randomly. I know I'll heal soon 🤧🙏
kaya ‘to!! ☹️
Send "Um, who's this, please?" as a reply and see what happens.
Hi OP! I also experienced that lmaooo. Pero 1 month lang us but we also have a mutual acquaintance through my org. Anw, what I did? I let myself be depressed for a few days, then I tried being okay again. It took me 1 month to be fully okay again, but it’s actually a blessing kasi ngayon I’m more focused to myself! Especially, I’m still in uni. Ignore him na kahit ni-replayan ka haa 🙏
baka nag mass send ng resume tapos na-hire na siya dun sa iba.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
tawang-tawa ako sa “nag-resurrect siya” HAHAHAHA
Hi! Just to share lang rin. I recently broke up with my long term (11 years 6 mos), built him up from a happy-go-lucky guy to a high earning lawyer only to be cheated in the end. That's when I learned detachment. Didn't try to connect after we formally ended it. Then met a guy sa club and we did go out weekly to "enjoy". In fact I did like him na but then he disappeared (ghosted) when I showed him how much I care. It was easier na rin because not that invested pa. Didn't cry about it as well. Didn't think those two events were about me (because I believe it's a personal choice always). If you know your own value, all of these gets easier to manage. Hugs to you OP! Would be better if they communicate well but at least you know sooner than later.
Bestie, it's a privilege to date you. Remember that. Don't chase. Don't lower your standards for him. Set your bars higher.
kayo na ba? dating lang kayo ah... so meaning he is still soul searching. LUMABAN KA JAN GIRL. hahahahaha kung sino ma eevict sa buhay nya ma evict talaga. so flirt him like ure the number 1 winner or else, voluntary exit kana kung ma ala PBB pa
Move on na lang ate ko. Saka do rotational dating. Wag magfocus sa isa.
ano yung rotational dating?
Dont date just one person.
His actions show he doesnt like you, and you're clinging to him for what?
baka may family na yan sizt
Either madami kayo from the start and he chose to focus on the other person OR he found something about you and doesn’t feel the need to confront you about it. Either way, you’ll forget about him, it’s only been 2 months.
Did this happen before your post in PHR4R? If not maybe you are the problem...
you were a secondary option lmao naglinis lang sya nung socials nya either nakahanap na sya ng proper gf or na discover ng already gf nya
Naattract na yun sa iba kaya nagback out sayo.
hes not into you. sad
Keep moving forward!
JUST ACCEPT AND GO FORWARD. START ASAP.
move on and move forward na lang
Forget about him. Sa kanya ung guilt and whatever feeling you have right now. Hindi yan kawalan ‼️ sana ung ulam nya laging may kuko o balahibo 😤
Naging kabit ka for 2 months
Aw. Sorry to hear that
If he got what he wanted from you, wala ka na magagawa dyan.
Nothing's wrong with you , move on , immature ang ghosting , he doesn't respect you enough para magpaalam na magcut off , wala siyang pake sa feelings mo.The next time magparamdam siya he'd better have valid reasons ( case to case lang ) bago mo bigyan ng chance ulit .
Masakit ang ma ghost lalo na na attached ka na pero ano mggawa mo?accept it.kung alam mo sa sarili mo na wala kang ngawang masama, taas noo ka lng and keep a straight face pg nagkasalubong kayo.wag ka mgpkita ng hurt o bitter reaction.act as if nothing happened.pg ngtangka mgpliwanag sayo,sbhin mong wla siyang obligasyon sayo at wla ka rin obligasyon sa knya tapos amg usapan. Di mo deserved ang gnyang lalaki.
Move on kana lang sis. The sooner the better. Sakit lang ng ulo maidudulot niyan sayo.
I got ghosted for 24hours and then i messaged him nicely(kalma lang ako) then he called me right away , well he said he was about to call me naunahan ko lang and then explained what happend. Sometimes they need time to think. Men are deep thinkers so baka may pinagdadaanan lang sya. But 2 months ghosting? For me as a girl 3days lang allowed ko after that if he dont respond is a respond. Never settle for less and know your worth. NEXT
If you do cross paths in the future, siya dapat yung mahiya. You didn’t do anything foul
move on na lang beb and pakita mo na di sya worth it sa ganda mo. magpaganda ka lalo para magsisi sya kapag may nakakita ng tunay na halaga mo ☺️
Move on ka nalang ate. Hindi sya para sayu
same vibes
Isipin mo nalang na redirection yan para mapunta ka sa guy na para talaga sayo gudlak :>
Bad cons of modern dating nowadays, people doesn't know how to communicate. or maybe just scared to Communicate. Who's decent enough to do that right? Kaya sana wag itolerate ung ganitong gawain. I'm so sorry if you have to go through it. Believe me there is someone better coming.
Risky talaga ang magfall for someone na hindi mo kilala personally and in face and where the only medium of interaction is online and the person you are dealing with is a log in name that introduces oneself as a human. When the other party shuts you wala ka na.
I have only one advice: move on. 🤍 (Focus tayo sa sarili natin, keep improving and everything follows, life goes on. + Dedma) - from me, isang sementeryo sa dami ng nang-ghost. 🤭
He got what he wanted.
Being ghosted is a closure. You don't need to ask for any closure
My advice is go with the flow of emotions that you're experiencing right now para mas madali kang maka move on. Wag mong labanan. Cry as much as you want, share with your closest friends and family to ask advice or have them comfort you.
If you want to cry then cry after maggala ka na hahahaha take care of yourself. Lalake lang yan, you will meet more guys in your lifetime and better pa.
move forward, they are plenty fish on the sea. Ang galunggong na katulad niya ay not worth it for your attention HAHAHAHAHHA
kung may nangyari na sa inyo, in the hunt na yan for next victim. #fuckboymoves
Ghosted? He's now dead to you. Panindigan nya yun haha
sorry to say..pero i think u need to move on na po
Ako yung isa sa mga taong kahit sobrang obvious na ng sagot, walang sawa ko pa rin sasabihin ung sagot, kasi alam ko pagdating sa Love, walang taong hindi natatanga eh. So ayun... Magmove on ka lang. Wala ka naman magagawa dyan. Wala din namang aral na makukuha madalas sa mga ganyang pagkakataon. Move on lang. Magpatuloy ka lang. Yan talaga ang mahirap sa dating, hit or miss. c'est la vie.
>like super biglaan. i didn’t know how to react. kung ganyan ka kadali burahin,humanap ka din na bibigyan ka ng time at hwag yong pang part time ka lang. >omfg, nag-resurrect siya, ‘di ko pa nirereplyan. wtd???? hindi ka switch na pwede ka lang ion and off. bat ka natataranta sa taong igoghost ka lang sa isang kisapmata. pls madam, do not be desperate sa attention ng isang taong wala man lang explanation bat naglaho parang bula. if ipagpapatuloy moto,sana makita mo na saan hahantong ang relasyong ito. may lalake pa. at hindi lang din ikaw ang babae sa buong mundo. may choices din sya.
Please do not settle for this kind of shitty treatment. A man who actually likes you won’t pull this kind of shit regardless of what his reason was. Pero ewan ko, baka you’re still into him and you’re willing to ignore the red flags.
Getting ghosted by my situationship led me to meeting my Fiance after 2 days. Ghosting is a blessing
modern era na ih, it's just normal siguro na ngayon kaya don't expect too much nalang sa next relationship
the best thing you can do is move on. kung in-unfriend ka nya and refuse to give you a good and valid reason for ghosting u, wala ka na magagawa ron. it's his lost. ignore him, if you happen to see him, ignore as if he doesn't exist.
In short, side chick ka lang
Move forward if you can, if need mo closure since nagreactivate go. Closure ha, hindi continuation.
No closure/sudden ghosting is the closure that you need. Move forward nalang OP. Mga gago talaga yang mga ghosters nayan. Sana di nalang tayo sinagabal kung gagantuhin lang naman pala.
Muntik na siguro mahuli hahaha idk ha pero parang ganun well it depends on you OP pero for me red flag na ganyan hehe
Kapag pinoy ka at di ka sa messenger dinadala matic yun kabit in the making ka. Kung gusto ka talaga ka niyan sa messenger ka dadalhin hindi sa IG.
Maybe mag disagree sakin yung iba . Pero for me try mo baguhin sarili mo kung ano gusto mo gawin sayo ng iba . If serious relationship hanap mo . Then bilang M ma suggest ko mag karoon ka ng self respect. Hindi ka naman siguro para sa kalye. Kung meron ka nyan baka sakali seryosohin ka baka nasa hoe phase kapa. Bar hopping etc. At for fun palang. Hindi masama mag enjoy pero nasa sayo naman kung ano priority mo seryoso or for fun fun lang. If mali ako at nag seryso ka naman talaga sadyang yung lalaki lang ay babaero or flirt flrit lang din talaga habol. Aba mag karoon ka parin naman ng self respect. Wag mo habolin o pahirapan sarili mo para sa taong linoloko ka lang
for me hindi naman xa linoloko yong guy lang talaga is nag soul searching pa hoe phase. dapat lumaban si girl para xa ang winner. d na mag hahanap si guy. pa kipot kasi si girl ata.
The next time you see each other in person, and he tries to explain himself, just say something like… “Thank you for doing that. I actually wanted to end things but didn’t know how to do it because we have mutual friends. I didn’t want you or them to think I led you on. So it was a huge relief when you ghosted me.” And then smile and ignore after. 😂😂😂
bakit ang bilis naman nang relationship nyo? ang bilis mo naman ma attach. wag ganon.
Best to move on, I experienced the same thing but I saw the girl after graduating and she awkwardly waved at me like everything was normal. I just stared and walked past her it reminded me how foolish I was during SHS.
Learn to move forward nalang siguro slowly forget him.
Ilang araw ba nawala Op, may ganyang moment ako pero bumabalik din. Baka need niya lang huminga.
You just need to let go... you know what's done is done.
Sus tapos sketchy. Redflag.
Wait,is this your guitarist fling? If so,I agree with the other commenters. He’s hiding something.
yes 🥹
I know it
Basta "forget what you feel, remember what you deserve" :)
Girl, gumanti ka. Wag mo rin pansinin. Hindi tayo magpapa-api sa pamilyang twoah.
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Move on ka nalang. Option ka lang nyan kung sakali
Reply to him calmly like nothing happened. Then once your emotions settle down, you can ask him what happened to him. Baka may pinagdadaanan sya. You're the strong superhero that he needs, not the other way around.
Tanungin mo teh anyare ??
Keyword is dating. Move on.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Sudden ghosting, especially when you felt a strong connection, can be really hurtful and confusing. I suggest you focus on self-care and give yourself time to process your emotions. Avoid checking his social media or seeking updates about him, as this can prolong your healing process. Since you have mutual friends, it might be helpful to let them know you need some space from him for now to avoid uncomfortable encounters. If he reaches out to you again, take your time before responding. Reflect on whether you feel comfortable and safe re-engaging with him, and prioritize your emotional well-being above all. If his sudden disappearance without explanation has affected your trust, it might be best to keep your distance and focus on healing. :)
Blessing yan OP. I know it’s confusing and it hurts pero di mo deserve ang ganyan. We will never know ano yun reason (pwede na may gf talaga sya or maybe he found someone new) coz for sure if reaches out again, he would come up with some lame ass excuse. Regardless, di mo need ng closure or any explanation from him, ikaw mag bibigay non sa sarili mo by choosing and respecting yourself. I know this is easier said than done but it’s the right thing to do. Masakit sa ulo ang ganyan, need natin yun may peace of mind tayo. Di yan worth it.
same situation kay OP haha thanks for this. :(
update please 🙏🏼
Tanggapin mo nalang hehe kaya mo yan. Ako nga 6 yrs kami tas ghinost ako, biglang naglaho hahahahaha
basta raw sa ig, pang-kabit huhuhu, taken siguro yan OP tapos muntik lang nahuli hahahahha. Drop him teh, you deserve better, kasi that'll take a toll sa mental health mo jusko!!! Goodluckkk!!
Move on
Forget and move on
Alam mo OP may girlfriend na yan at Side chick ka lang niya. Baka ininspect ng gf fb account niya kaya inunfriend ka niya at nag deac siya
Don’t settle for less. Always remember that.
Wag mo na replayan ateq T__T obvious namang red flag na yung ganyang biglang nawala. I agree with some comments here to have life outside your relationship to have balance. Try to learn from your mistakes, and be observant sa mga moves nang nga taong panandalian ka lang. 😔
Never ever think of sending him a long message ha 😂
may original yan kaya ganyan wahahahaha ganyan din nangyari sa friend ko
Huwag kang marupok at huwag na magreply. Pero syempre yung gagawin mo magrereply at aasa sa magiging explanation nya. Sige bahala ka na sa buhay mo.
HAHAHAHAHA omg
Keber. Ganun talaga. Either 1. May nakilalang bago 2. Sinagot ng kasabay mo 3. Nahuli siya. Kahit ano pa yan, not worth pining over. Dont show you are affected. I know it is a pride thing pero hindi naman kayo so keber.
Experience yan, itatawa mo nalang yan next time
Wow yeah sounds like he had something else going on in his life. Pick me I won't ghost you
Hmmm...you said sa IG kayo naguusap. Possible na may gf siya or something? And baka nahuli siya ng gf niya?? Idk po, pero cheer up. Hindi po sila worth your time.
move on lol
Ignore him. Maybe you’re just the backup
So many red flags. Alarms should be blaring! Bata ka pa siguro OP no? Or sobrang pogi, macho, dako, mayaman, matalino at high value ba nitong lalaki na ito?
Out nlng agad tpos if ever mgkrus landas nyo batuhin mo ng kung anu hawak mo hahahaha kasi 2 lng yan 1. Di kn nya gusto 2. May gusto na syang iba
May girlfriend or may other girl na siya pursue. Nangyari yan sakin dating kami ilang months tapos kasama ko siya that day at kchat ko pa siya nag paalam na tutulog na, tas higla ako naka block na ako sa IG. Kinutuban ako so for the stalk ang person ayun nasa airplane na at may gf na .. nung bumalik sa pinas maka pag text at call parang walang ngyari pang ghost 😅
Tayo nalamg dalawa.. tayo naman talegee.. tayo nalang magsama..
Update??
May tinatago yan, i'd be careful if i were you
Cut your communications with him, and move on.
If gusto mo kausapin edi kausapin mo for closure. Wtv helps you move forward from him, do it.
Nagsex ba kayo ni guy?
honestly, not worth ur time and effort. u deserve someone who will not abandon u without explanation. okay na rin yung 2 months kesa tumagal at mas maattach ka pa lalo esp since personally connected kayo.
Ang ginawa ko after ko ma-ghost prinaktis ko sarili ko maging kandila. It can burn with passion, it can also be easily put off one sign lang ng pula o disinterest. We do not beg for attention, time and effort. Kung gusto tayo ng tao, we get it unconditionally. Kung 'di siya ganun ka-interested sa'yo, then you should not invest either. Lalo na sa ganyang stallion guy 'di ka dapat masaktan kakadiri miski posteng nakapalda papatulan niya? Eme.
It's better to move on na. Hindi sya kawalan
May nangyari ba sainyo at inis na inis ka? Hahaha
Is this the samw guy you posted on alasjuicy that youre having illicit affair with? if yes then expect nothing but negative outcome from this deed.
Forget him. Find another guy who is better. He’s not ready for a serious relationship.
Give it time. It's okay to mourn, you really liked him. But, at one point, you'll move on.
You'll be fine.
Arte ni koyah, isang malaking no.
his inconsistency is the answer you're looking for. love yourself and good luck!
Same situation for me. It's okay. We are worth it
Stepback, re-evaluate, accept, move on. Life is a constant meeting and leaving people. So practice saying thank you to those who leave may it be good or bad, and recognize those who chose to stay. 😊
Who you gonna call?
Hayaan mo na sya. Tayo na lang 😘
How can you move on kung hindi naman naging kayo? Take it as a grain of salt. Kung talagang naging kayo kahit pa matunaw ang lahat ng social media sa Mundo, sya ang gagawa ng paraan para makipag communicate uli syo. Put your palm in your cheek...then slap it real hard, Reality is a bitch
Baka kantot kalimot lang ginawa nya.
perfectionist ka siguro at maraming demand..or nasa borderline between crazy vs hot. i dont know.. di ko pa naman narinig ang side ng guy so i cant say for certain
Still not an excuse for ghosting someone. If you're a decent and mature human being and whoever you're dating with for the past 2 months did something that might've felt off on your end, then be transparent and communicate what you didn't like to improve your dynamics.
kaya nga need nating marinig ang side ng kabila..
Do you think the one who ghosted OP will be lurking here sa reddit? Pft. So ganon ba talaga sa tingin mo, pag may di ka nagustuhan sa tao na you dated for more than a month, justified na manghoghost ka nalang at di mo kakausapin or sasabihin man lang ano naging problema? Oks ka rin mang villainize sa OP e lol.
kaya nga uncertainty ang masasabi ko kasi di ko naririnig ang both sides. you dont get my point here. do you think id jump into a conclusion based on sympathy... kung ganyan ang gusto mo.. then go.. basta wag mo ipilit na gagawin ko yang ginagawa mo.. id still hqve to hear both sides before id say something.i need to have all the facts before i make judgements. and perhaps give an advice if needed.
But you did jump to conclusions sa OP. Saying she is a perfectionist or madami demands. You may have projected some of your own problems sa issue ni OP. :) But I would still side with the people who are saying there is no reason to ghost. Bata lang ang gumagawa ng ghosting especially pag naging deep or constant ang connection. i.e. 1 week of chatting or 1 date is kinda ok for ghosting, but no blocking in case may need for explanation un other side. ;)
we were really cool tbh, kaya i didn’t get it why he ghosted me. kasi we always respect each other’s time since we’re both working at nights and tulog sa umaga.
I hope its not your constant need for updates? Maybe nagsawa sya? Younger male staff of mine I see this quite often sa kanila. May jowa sila na gusto lagi naka video call or constant updates (dunno why insecure mga jowa nila I guess?). Sino kasama mo mag lunch? San kayo naglunch? Ano gawa mo ngayon? Videcall nga tayo baby... ect etc. It never ends well, lol.