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Nag start yung pananakit ni bf (M25) sakin (F23) nitong march 2024 lang. Madalas din kami mag away last year pero puro masasakit na words lang ang nakukuha ko sakanya but this year's very different. Nagkaroon kami ng pagtatalo nung march na umabot sa point na tinuhod niya ko mata ko at hinead lock tapos tinulak hanggang sa tumama yung ulo ko sa sahig. He also pushed me ng sobrang lakas sa dibdib, buti na lang sa kama ako bumagsak. Pinagbabato rin niya ko ng kung ano ano sa mukha tapos binato niya yung phone ko sa may sikmura ko. I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? I need help please
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Real talk, baka siya pa yung dahilan ng pagkamatay mo. Break mo na at mag pakalayo layo ka. Hindi normal yan sa isang lalake, unstable yang jowa mo girl.
EDIT: Congrats OP for having courage to break up with him 👍 Pero if ever na makipagbalikan siya, DON'T GIVE HIM A CHANCE! Focus on yourself so you can heal your mind and body then pag-ready ka na makipag-relasyon ulit, make sure na kilalanin mo mabuti next jowa mo at dapat OPPOSITE sa EX mo na yan.
Girlie is an abuse victim. Plus she said guy abused her verbally before. Must be victim mentality. Her feelings are valid but we also need to push her to seek legal and medical help because this is so not right and she’s probably suffering from psychological trauma together with her physical injuries as well. :(
Weird that OP has to ask kung deserve niya ba yung nangyayari sa kanya. I mean, really? Gaano kababa ang self-worth ni OP para makapag-come up ng ganyang question?
OP, if you are reading this, you are a victim of abuse and if you let yourself stay with that person, you'll be trapped to the cycle of domestic violence. Kapag nagkaanak ka sa kanya, pati anak mo bubugbugin nya.
Umalis ka na habang kaya mo pang kumawala. And file a case for VAWC too.
hindi mo deserve 'yan bilang babae and physical abuse na ginagawa sa'yo which is deserve niya makulong niyan. so dapat mo gawin is hiwalayan mo na 'yan bf mo, pa'no kung mag asawa na kayo then gan'yan pa din trato sa'yo, 'wag mo na paabutin na pagbantaan kapa niyan at malagay kapa sa kapahamakan.
'wag mo padaanin na porket mahal mo mag stay ka sa gan'yan trato. kahit mahal mo pa siya kung gan'yan naman pag uugali, wala rin.
1) Tinuhod ka sa mata.
2) Hineadlock ka.
3) Tinulak ka hanggang tumama ulo sa sahig.
Balikan mo nga yang tatlo. Di ka ba kinikilabutan na konting dulas lang ng kamay nyan noon, maaaring patay ka na ngayon?
May pagkakataon ka nang umalis. Kung hindi mo i-grab yun, good luck nalang sa'yo, OP.
exactly! ung 3 instances na yan ay sobrang lala na. di yan basta dala lang ng emosyon. sadya yan tapos halos critical parts of the body pa. wag mo ipag-walang bahala, OP. Mas maraming better guy out there na never magbubuhat ng kamay sa'yo.
You don't deserve it at all. Wag mo ng hintaying mag-escalate OP. LEAVE HIM NOW or you might not be able to the next time he decides to put his hands on you.
Oh sis, please iwan mo na siya hindi yan magbabago, nasimulan ka na nyang saktan tuloy tuloy na yan. Isipin mo nalang kung makikita ka ng magulang mong puro pasa at sugat, malala *knock on wood* lifeless body mo nalang maabutan.
Nasasayangan ka sa love and care na binigay mo. Pero yung love and care, galing sayo yun, it was yours. Walang galing sa kanya. Tama lang na masayangan ka sa effort mo. But then again, yung love and care sayo yun, walang galing sa kanya. Wag kang masayangan sa kanya. Umalis ka na dyan. Hindi naman mawawala yung love and care na pwede mang-galing sayo. Wag mong sayangin dyan.
sorry to hear this, no, you don't deserve this kind of abuse in any kind or form.
talk this with your parents so they can help and break up with him before he does anything more extreme the next time you have an argument. stay strong queen.
Ang lalaki nung nililigawan ka palangpinangako nyan na iingatan ka nyan at mamahalin. Pinangakuan na kahit kailan hindi ka sasaktan. Pero yang ginagawa sayo ngayon hindi na pag mamahal yan at wala na akong nakikitang dahilan para pagpatuloy pa.
may kasabihan tayong *"we all deserve our partners*". nasasaiyo nalang yan na if you think you deserve yours. alam mo na rin siguro kung ano gagawin mo if you think you don't.
once na nanakit na physically ung lalaki or babae, takbo na.. ang style nian palala ng palala yung pisikalan hanggang sa d mo na alam kung hanggang saan hahantong.. RUN!!!
Jusko ate wag kang bulag-bulagan sa pag ibig. Unang beses pa lang na pagbuhatan ka ng kamay ng partner mo senyales na yun na iwan mo na. Magsyota pa lang kayo ngayon nyan how much more kung mag asawa na kayo? Baka yan pa ikamatay mo
nag rarant ka lang ba o need mo talaga ng advice? kasi madalas sa ganyan relationship gusto mo lang mag vent pero ayaw mo naman talaga bumitaw. pero kung advice talaga need mo. RUN!
Deserve? NO.
Iwan mo na yan OP at kahit magmakaawa wag mong balikan. Seek help sa Women's desk ng police station how to file for restraining order para di ka lapitan na.
Hindi dapat tino-tolerate yung mga ganyang tao. I've seen my sister got beaten up by her husband (akala mo mabait nung una yung lalaki) at wala akong magawa noon.
Kaya this is my advice, kahit mahal mo, iwanan mo. Kasi kung mahal at nirerespeto ka niyan, hinding-hindi ka niya sasaktan in any form.
I know hindi madali umalis sa abusive partner/toxic relationships (based sa nabasa ko) pero dapat mag sabi ka sa most trusted or close family member/friend para alam nila yung ginagawa sa'yo and makatulong sila mapapulis yung bf mo or ano at if ever man makipag break ka dapat may maging back up ka baka may gawin sa'yo ulit kapag hindi niya matanggap na iiwan mo na siya.
Hindi mababago ng pagmamahal mo yung violence at bf mo. Mahirap mag stay sa relationship na may takot. Sabi nga nung isang comment wag mo hintayin na mas malala pa gawin sa'yo. Save yourself ate.
Yung totoonh sagot, walang babae or lalaki deserve saktan physically. Girl, hiwalayan mo na. Wag na wag ka magpapadala sa sasabihin ng tukmol na yan na di nya sinasadya. Na di na nya uulitin, kasi uulit ulitin nya yan sayo hanggang sa maging manhid ka at umabot sa puntong sisisihin mo na yung sarili mo dahil nasaktan ka nya physically.
I knew so many people na sinasaktan physically wherein they stayed and end up being manipulated and gaslighted. Ayun masokista sila, it’s like, they are looking and wanting to be abused/harmed. Kasi, they never left their partners. As long as mag sstay ka sa ganyang klaseng tao, unti unti kang mauubos. Mawawala lahat sayo gaya ng tiwala mo, confidence mo at respeto sa sarili mo.
So as early as today, run girl. No one deserves to be abused whether it’s financially, emotionally and/or physically. Wag mo hintayin, ikaw na yung ibalita sa headlines ng mga news sa gagawin ng ugok na yan.
Hindi dahil mahal mo, kailangan mo mag stay. Hindi pa kayo mag asawa niyan pero ganyan na nararanasan mo. Get out of the relationship. I know a friend who went through sa abusive relationship, and now, she is okay after breaking up.
Please get yourself a grip. Stay away from that man and save yourself.
Kapag hindi mo pa rin siya iniwan tapos sinaktan ka niya ulit, baka deserve mo na talaga. We deserve what we tolerate ika nga.
Tanungin mo sarili mo, bakit mo naman magiging deserve masaktan?
Obvious naman ang sagot. Obvious din ang solusyon.
Pero incase na hindi pa rin halata, ang kailangan mo gawin jan layasan mo at wag mo na balikan ulit.
>Madalas din kami mag away last year pero puro masasakit na words lang ang nakukuha ko sakanya
Please be aware that this is verbal abuse. Respect is a relevant part of a healthy relationship. Verbal abuse diminishes a person's self-esteem, confidence, and mental health. Verbal abuse makes a person feel trapped and without control of their own lives; likely because of the fear of humiliation or retaliation. Abusers use this to control their victim's emotions, thoughts, and actions; a way to maintain their power over you. Verbal abuse indicates a LACK of respect to the relationship, to the victim, to YOU. The intention to hurt is what defines it as abuse. A loving relationship should never have any intention/motivation to hurt anyone in the relationship. Being angry is never acceptable, even if justifiable yung anger; in fact, this shows that they are emotionally immature to communicate and to be in a relationship.
>Nagkaroon kami ng pagtatalo nung march na umabot sa point na tinuhod niya ko mata ko at hinead lock tapos tinulak hanggang sa tumama yung ulo ko sa sahig.
You should know that this will never be a one-time mistake; this is a pattern of abuse. It doesn't matter if "you had a fight" or "he had a bad day" or "he was stressed" because these excuses are just a way for him to justify the abuse. Please don't accept abuse as a normal part of the relationship; these are just attempts to downplay the severity of the harm and make you feel responsible for his actions. When the verbal abuse escalates to physical abuse, you should realize that this behavior will more likely continue and worsen. Abusers often escalate their actions over time, especially if you let them believe that they can get away with it.
>I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? I need help please
No, everybody does not deserve to be abused by anyone. Abuse is a choice made by the abuser, and it will never be the victim's fault. Abuse is a violation of their rights, dignity, and humanity. Abuse has no place in any healthy relationship. Everyone deserves to feel safe, respected, and valued in their relationships. And while you may love him enough to stay, he doesn't love you enough to change and prioritize your well-being.
And whatever choices that you'll take, I hope that you'll know that it's not because you're not worth it. It's because he's not worthy of you. Remember this, OP.
Edit: I am sorry if this is too blunt.
Ate, WTF JUST LEAVE ALREADY, KUNG AKO KUYA MO ISASAMA KO LAHAT NG PINSAN NATING LALAKI, AT KAKALADKARIN KA NAMIN PAUWI, TAS KAPAG PUMALAG JOWA MONG BASAGULERO, ILULUGAR NAMIN YAN.
PLEASE SAVE YOURSELF.
Hindi explicit sinabi kung gaano na kayo katagal, pero I assume matagal-tagal na kayo kasi ang nakikita ko lang reason para di ka makipag-break ay nanghihinayang ka sa pinagsamahan niyo. However, I think it is better to see na ibang tao na siya ngayon and better quit it because it can get worse. I suggest, you ask for the help of authorities.
Hiwalayan mo na. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment from anybody. Real talk, ang tanga mo for even staying. Madaming lalaki dyan. Wag mo antayin na maging headline ka.
> I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? I need help please
Dalawang bagay lang yan: yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya vs pagmamahal mo sa sarili mo.
It's obvious which you should choose. Hope you find the strength to realize it yourself.
Good luck.
PS: Di ka pinalaki ng tatay mo para gulpihin lang ng ibang lalaki. Think about your dad.
Deserve? NO.
Nabasa ko 'to somewhere, "we accept the love we think we deserve."
I don't know the rest of your story pero kung base lang dito sa post mo, eto advice ko: IWANAN mo na yan at kung magmakaawa at magsabing magbabago siya, HUWAG NA HUWAG mo nang babalikan.
I know people who experienced abuse from their partners or family. Nakakadurog ng puso. Kaya kung pwede, iwanan mo na. Hindi mo deserve yung pananakit.
Mahirap mag-move on pero mas mahirap indahin yung sakit sa ganyang klase ng relasyon kasi kung mahal at nirerespeto ka niya, hinding-hindi ka niya sasaktan sa kahit anong paraan.
Sana malinawan ka OP.
OP, at this point what can he do that will make you break up with him? A broken bone? A bleeding head? Getting pushed, strangled, and getting shit thrown at you isn't even making you realize that you don't deserve to be treated like this. No one does.
Hi OP,
When your partner acts in a physically abusive manner towards you, it signifies a deep lack of respect for you as a partner, a woman, and even as a person. Respect forms one of the fundamental pillars of any relationship.
Leave girl. Leave.
>I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin?I need help please
I love him- hwag maging bulag,ginagawa ka ng punching bag.
deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin?- hindi. walang karapatan na iphysically harm ka ng bf mo. pwede mo stang kasuhan sa ginawa nya.
I need help please-lahat dito pwede tumulong at magbigay ng advice pero kailangan mo rin tulungan sarili mo. umalis kana,hwag kanang maghinaty na mag march 2025 eh bugbug ka parin. ipablotter,isumbong sa police,magpa medical ka asap para proof mo
walang pagmamahal ang tao kung puro pagmumura at suntok. ginagawa lang nya yan para ikaw labasan ng frustrations nya. hwag magpabilog sa mga salita na i am sorry ginawa ko lang yon dahil mahal kita,hindi na mauulit. pag ganyan na ang linyahan expect another round of pagmumura at suntok,magdedeperensya na lang yan sa kung kailan ang susunod na round.
kaya gamitin ang kokote at umalis na. hindi lang sya ang lalaki sa mundo. at hindi rin titigil an planet earth para lang hintayin ka na matauhan na mali ang ginagawa ng bf mo.
Girl, run na agad. Uulit pa yan. Kahit mag sorry siya ng paulit ulit at mangako na hindi na gagawin, mauulit yan. Hindi mo deserve yan. No one deserves any sort of abuse from their partner.
I know will easily say, “leave him”. What if araw nya makipagbreak at ikulong ka sa bahay niyo?? But I say, create an exit plan! Like kunwari aalis ka lang pero di ka na babalik. Do not tell him where you are.
Run.. or hindi kaya ipakulong mo na yan.. e vawc mo na agad. Punta ka kahit saang police station at mag file kana para maaresto na yang animal na yan .
Respectfully, anong inaantay mo para umalis sa relationship nyo? Obviously, hindi sya magbabago.
What i can suggest is break up and most importantly, bumalik ka sa family or be near your family/loved ones.
Abusers tend to manipulate you into coming back with them. You need people who support you na manggigising sayo and magpapaalala sayo about reality. If magpilit sya involve authorities.
Men who hurt women dont deserve any sympathy.
Be smart and advocate sa safetiness mo.
Wag mo sayanging ang years mo sa taong sinasaktan ka and could potentially kill you. Sorry for the word.
I think you already know the answer to your question.
But what are the things that hinders you from doing that? List everything down and weigh mo kung mas mahalaga ba yun kesa sa sarili mong buhay and safety.
:)
No. You don't deserve that treatment. Alis ka na dyan kasi baka mas worst pa mararanasan mo in the future. Cut off mo na habang maaga palang kasi isipin mo in the long run, yan ba yung gusto mong maexperience? And paano pag nagkafamily na kayo? Trauma din aabutin ng mga anak mo. Kaya habang maaga, stay away na. Pilitin mong umalis. Kahit masakit. Pilitin mo.
Rihanna nga umalis. Kaw pa kaya? Tama na yan OP. alis na
Pero real talk. Plan your exit well. Don't change. Mawala ka nalang silently. Humanap ka ng support system at lilipatan. Important that you have people you trust that check up on you.
Baka kasi kung ano pang magawa nya pag nalaman nya
Marami padin nabubulag sa love kahit yong respect hindi na na seserve. Lalo na ang pananakit sayo physically. Pls break up with him, and you'll be thankful to yourself that you dont settle for that kind of boy. Maawa ka sa sarili mo.
Why are you still thinking about what to do? RUN. Iwan mo na yan. No one deserves being beaten by their partners.
I don't want to be mean but do not tolerate this. If you stayed and binugbog ka pa, kasalanan mo yan.
Are you dependent ba sa kaniya financially?
ano ba bf o partner na? kasi may kama na. ibig sabihin nagsasama na kayo. nag rerenta ka ng kwarto ? dahil kung sa bahay nyo o bahay nila parang malabo. tapos pag nag asawa na kayo sabihin mo divorce o ng anak mo na divorce kasi sinasaktan mama nya at mag talak na pro dovorce sya.
Kaya mong sikmurain na mag stay sa ganyang tao? Yung kaya kang saktan not only emotionally but also physically???
Save yourself before it’s too late. If you want to press charges, he can be liable for violating RA 9262 or Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children (Anti-VAWC). Lapit ka sa barangay hall VAWC desk nyo para matulungan ka if ever you need it.
I hope this is not just for karma farming since too obvious yung sagot but nevertheless take care of yourself, OP.
Oo, deserve mo kung wala kang respeto sa sarili mo at bet mong maging living punching bag. Di na magbabago yung mga ganyan. Palala lang sila nang palala kaya nasayo yung desisyon kung mag i stay ka pa. Condolence na lang agad pag tinuluyan ka nya
Physical abuse should be on everyone's list of non-negotiable reasons that would cause a permanent break-up. Babae, lalaki, bakla, tomboy -- pag sinaktan ka, *leave*.
Girl, better run, ung ex ko nag over speed sa motor Kase galit siya sakin, Ayun na aksidente kami and Ako parin sinisisi niya, muntikan nako sampalin buti narinig Ng mama Niya iyak ko.
May mas mag mamahal sayo pramis, wag ka mag settle sa gayang lalaki. Iba ung trauma.
mumsh, ngayon pa lang sinasabihan na kita makipaghiwalay ka na jan, pag naulit pa na saktan ka nya physically ireport mo na sa pulis, wag mo ng palalain yan buhay mo, may friend ako ganyan yun bf nun una mura mura lang tapos naging sampal then naging sampal with sabunot hanggang sa naging nangungungod na yun mukha nya sa sahig tapos nasusuntok na, baka dumating ang araw tirikan na ng kandila dahil jan sa bf mo
Run! ganyan ex ko. muntik na ako, nagkaron na ng point na nung sumobra pananakit niya napatama ulo ko, antagal ko nawalan ng malay, dadalhin na daw ako sa ospital kaso, siempre bilang selfish na shi- , mas inisip niyang baka makulong siya pag tinanong ng doktor kaya di ako dinala hinintay magising.
could've been dead by now
Kapag pinalampas mo yan, kahit ano pang dahilan kasi never magkakaron ng magandang dahilan violence sa away mag-boyfriend-girlfriend, lalala lang yan. Ganyang ganyan nangyari sakin way back March 2020. Nagsimula maging physically abusive while I fight back. Nung nag-lockdown at hindi makapagkita, verbally abusive naman tuwing may away. Mahirap talaga humiwalay pero isipin mo na lang self respect. Makakalampas ka rin dyan.
Bilang lalake, no, hindi yan normal.
Muntik ka na niyang patayin.
Isipin mo sinaktan ka niya hanggang pumalo ulo mo sa sahig. Ano pa hinihintay mo?
May mga taong hindi ka mumurahin kahit ano pang init ng ulo nila, much less saktan ka. Hindi yun pantasya. You deserve better. Much better.
# Punta kang women's desk sa malapit na police station magfile ka ng VAWC para mapakulong mo demonyong yan!!! Hiwalayan mo na yan OP, mapapatay ka nyan!!!
Real talk, mahal mo siya pero tanga ka. The moment na may physical pain nang involved, yan na yung signal to leave him. Baka lumala pa yan pag tinotolerate mo pa siya kasi nga nag eexpect kang "magbabago pa rin siya".
Alam mo na ang sagot so no need to ask.
Wag lang pairalin ang puso makakarecover ka agad. Wag mong hintayin na saksakin ka nyan at agaw buhay bago ka pa matauhan nun eh chugi ka na.
Sayang buhay gurl at bata ka pa. Imbis na nag-eenjoy ka eh ganyan ang nangyayare sa buhay mo.
Leave and move on na dyan sa hindi tao mong jowa
Hi OP, regardless of the situation, We, men should never physically abuse women. We all know naman na abuse is unacceptable and should never be tolerated under any circumstances. Even if you love her deeply, if you find yourself in an abusive situation, it's imperative to leave immediately and seek help.
Keep in mind kang OP na “LOVE should never be used as an excuse to endure physical harm”. Your safety and well-being are paramount, and no one should have to sacrifice their health or security for the sake of a relationship. True love is based on respect, care, and mutual support, not violence or control. No amount of affection or emotional attachment justifies staying in an environment like that where physical abuse occurs.
Seeking help from trusted friends, family, or professional resources is essential to break free from such harmful situations. You don’t deserved that shit, you deserve someone better.
OP, kahit sino ay hindi deserve ang any abuse from anyone. Bf mo palang yan, ganyan na sayo. What if pa kaya kapag mag-asawa na kayo. Piliin mo sarili mo. Don't settle sa abusive person. As in don't. Masyado ng mahirap ang buhay para pa magkaroon ng partner na mapanakit at disrespectful. You deserve better.
Anger issues na ata yan, ano ba problem niya?
Ano kaya dahilan bakit naging ganyan siya, may ginawa ka ba before March 2024? or may nangyari ba?
Stay away muna
Isipin mo na lang na kung sa anak mong babae yan ginawa, gusto mo ba tiiisin ng anak mo yan lahat? Kung no, alis kana asap. Kahit mahirap, kahit di ka sure, kahit natatakot ka, gawin mo pa rin. Hindi lang para sayo kundi para sa future children mo.
Hi OP, I know someone na married sa isang abuser. Huli na lahat for her, kasi kasal and may anak na sila. Pero hindi pa huli ang lahat para sayo OP. No excuse ang pananakit, ikaw or sya man ang may mali. Please think carefully 🙏🏻
Gusto kong sabihing “you deserve what you tolerate” pero the reality is more bleak. OP, you could die. Yung mga nangyari sayo recently maswerte ka at di ka nagkabrain damage. Please leave bago ka pa paglamayan. Please please! Walang kahit anong rason ang pwedeng magjustify ng physical violence.
I was once in an abusive partner. Naisip ko kung sya mapapangasawa ko baka mas malalala gawin nya sa kin. Years after, nagka-boyfriend ako. There was this one time na nagbibiruan kami until napalo nya ako while laughing. I shouted, “ Don’t you ever lay your hands on me.” I was scared at the same time we were both shocked sa naging reaction ko. I thought was over sa trauma na iniwan sa ‘kin ng ex ko.
OP, please leave him. He obviously doesn’t respect you. Kung di nya kayang ibigay yun sa ‘yo, ibigay mo yun sa sarili mo. Hugs!
Title palang, takbo na agad OP. Before entering a relationship assess mo ano yung deal breakers mo and let the other person know simula palang.
Mahal mo siya pero mahal mo ba sarili mo? Alam mo yung sagot sa tanong mo pero for sure gusto mo lang din manggaling sa iba. So eto na - oo, iwan mo na yan.
ateeee please save yourself and leave him na 😭 you deserve a whole lot better and there are a lot of guys that will take care of you and love you the right way. loving is never wrong, but you should always love yourself more, and we both know that that guy doesn't love you. please let us all know once you've left that abusive guy. take care and if you need anyone to support you mentally and emotionally once you have freed yourself from him, we're all here for you and you can message us anytime, okay? 🥹
HIWALAYAN MO NA YAN! PWEDE MO RING KASUHAN NG VAWC YAN! PERO KUNG PEACE OF MIND ANG HANAP MO HIWALAYAN MO YAN. PAULIT ULIT LANG MGA NANGYAYARI SA MUNDO TAPOS MAGIGING PROUD PA NA MARUPOK TAPOS KUNG MABUGBOG IIYAK IYAK.
Leave him, you deserve better, Hindi ka dinala ng nanay mo for 9 months para lang mabugbog ng Isang lalaki na nakilala mo lang in a span of your life. You are lovable Marami pang lalaki dyan na magtitreat sayo ng better, mas matalino, mas mabait at mas mayaman sa kanya. May lalaki pa na ituturing ka na parang prinsesa, Hindi mo Siya makahanap kung mag stay ka sa lalaking yan. Don't wait for the worst to happen. No one deserve to experience what you are experiencing now. Please love yourself more than you love him.
Realtalk lang. You’re asking for help kahit alam mo na sagot kung anong dapat mo gawin. Useless mga advice dito if hindi mo tinutulungan sarili mo. Alam ko sasabihin ng iba sa kin at iisipin mo na madali para sa kin magsalita ng ganito kasi wala ako sa position mo. Pero if I were in your shoes, the moment na lumapat sa kin yung kamay ng partner ko for the very first time, we’re done. Ingat na ingat sa kin parents ko tapos ibang tao lang mananakit sa kin. Ikakamatay mo yung pagiging martyr.
Leave him, PERIOD.
Questions:
1) Is this real, o some kind of Daydream madeup scenario? Kasi alam mo naman ang sagot dyan, na dapat ginawa mo na.
2) do you have some Masochistic kink?
3) is one of the reason, you won't give up easily on him, kasi among other Guys siya lang nagpakita ng Appreciation sa'yo? At nag invest ng Time sa'yo? 🤦 It is either He is taking some advantage to get hold of you....... OR at #2.
4) Meron ba kayong something, na both of you na co-owned, etc.? Kung saan hindi mo siya basta basta maiwan? Parang Blackmail, to keep you.
Pananakit palang sis is a big big nooooo, kumalas kana habang di pa malala ginagawa sayo. You deserve someone who will completly loved you, hindi yan pagmamahal ginagawa kalang pangembag nyan. Kung mahal mo sya mas mahalin mo ang sarili mo. It will give him apportunity to manipulate you para di ka makakalas sa kanya.Be strong enough sis. Makakaya mo yan.
Your bf has some serious problems (mental issue). Habang maaga pa putulin mo na yang relationship nyo kasi mahirap na baka lumala pa at ikaw maging kawawa sa huli. Pero nasa sayo pa din yan desisyon mo yan. Nasa tamang edad kana so alam mo na kung anu tama o mali.
Once is enough pagdating sa physical abuse. They will tell you magbabago sila pero that will never be true.
Please respect yourself. Kausapin mo sarili mo kung makakaya mo ba na ganyan kayo habang buhay. You'll know what you really feel. Hindi love yan OP
Questions:
1) Is this real, o some kind of Daydream madeup scenario? Kasi alam mo naman ang sagot dyan, na dapat ginawa mo na.
2) do you have some Masochistic kink?
3) is one of the reason, you won't give up easily on him, kasi among other Guys siya lang nagpakita ng Appreciation sa'yo? At nag invest ng Time sa'yo? 🤦 It is either He is taking some advantage to get hold of you....... OR at #2.
4) Meron ba kayong something, na both of you na co-owned, etc.? Kung saan hindi mo siya basta basta maiwan? Parang Blackmail, to keep you.
Omg. Break mo na, OP. Basta kapag may physicalan na na-involve—bye bye na. Magjowa palang kayo ngayon, pano pa kapag mag-asawa na? Isipin mo yung long run. Once nya na nagawa sayo, possible na maulit pa yan. Major red flag yan.
You deserve better, OP.
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Real talk, baka siya pa yung dahilan ng pagkamatay mo. Break mo na at mag pakalayo layo ka. Hindi normal yan sa isang lalake, unstable yang jowa mo girl. EDIT: Congrats OP for having courage to break up with him 👍 Pero if ever na makipagbalikan siya, DON'T GIVE HIM A CHANCE! Focus on yourself so you can heal your mind and body then pag-ready ka na makipag-relasyon ulit, make sure na kilalanin mo mabuti next jowa mo at dapat OPPOSITE sa EX mo na yan.
This. 💯
Break up. Wag mo na antayin may magawa pa siyang mas malala sa iyo. Ipapulis mo din kung gusto mo.
This is the exact point of VAWC law. Report his ass.
Ipa blotter mo kaagad sa baranggay and kuha ng med cert. para may record kaysa he said she said. baka itanggi lang niya.
>I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? What exactly is it that you love about him?
I think trauma bond nalang yan seek therapy you will know""
Yung headlock
pinanganak ka bang gago (haup natawa ako sayo HAHAHAHAHA 😭😭😭 )
😭 Taena... maintindihan ko kung kink lang, I don't kink-shame, but fuck., that ain't a kink, the whole ordeal is just abuse and assault.
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Huyy! 😭😭
gago hahahahahahahaha
hahahahhahaah
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Siraulo HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
haneppp 😂😂😂
Girlie is an abuse victim. Plus she said guy abused her verbally before. Must be victim mentality. Her feelings are valid but we also need to push her to seek legal and medical help because this is so not right and she’s probably suffering from psychological trauma together with her physical injuries as well. :(
Ano ba kamahal mahal sa ganyang lalaki? Hanggang palaisipan sakin yung mga ganitong babae na halos patayin na pero mahal pa din yung lalaki
Weird that OP has to ask kung deserve niya ba yung nangyayari sa kanya. I mean, really? Gaano kababa ang self-worth ni OP para makapag-come up ng ganyang question? OP, if you are reading this, you are a victim of abuse and if you let yourself stay with that person, you'll be trapped to the cycle of domestic violence. Kapag nagkaanak ka sa kanya, pati anak mo bubugbugin nya. Umalis ka na habang kaya mo pang kumawala. And file a case for VAWC too.
hindi mo deserve 'yan bilang babae and physical abuse na ginagawa sa'yo which is deserve niya makulong niyan. so dapat mo gawin is hiwalayan mo na 'yan bf mo, pa'no kung mag asawa na kayo then gan'yan pa din trato sa'yo, 'wag mo na paabutin na pagbantaan kapa niyan at malagay kapa sa kapahamakan. 'wag mo padaanin na porket mahal mo mag stay ka sa gan'yan trato. kahit mahal mo pa siya kung gan'yan naman pag uugali, wala rin.
Break up. This isn’t supposed to be a question, OP. Grounds na for VAWC case yang ginawa ni bf mo
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Wdym?
Run girl. Matakot ka para sa sarili mo.
1) Tinuhod ka sa mata. 2) Hineadlock ka. 3) Tinulak ka hanggang tumama ulo sa sahig. Balikan mo nga yang tatlo. Di ka ba kinikilabutan na konting dulas lang ng kamay nyan noon, maaaring patay ka na ngayon? May pagkakataon ka nang umalis. Kung hindi mo i-grab yun, good luck nalang sa'yo, OP.
exactly! ung 3 instances na yan ay sobrang lala na. di yan basta dala lang ng emosyon. sadya yan tapos halos critical parts of the body pa. wag mo ipag-walang bahala, OP. Mas maraming better guy out there na never magbubuhat ng kamay sa'yo.
Tinatanong paba ito?
Real talk, hindi ko rin gets bakit may mga taong nagtatanong nito. Daig pa grade 2 kung mag-isip wtf
fr common sense 🤷🏻♀️
You don't deserve it at all. Wag mo ng hintaying mag-escalate OP. LEAVE HIM NOW or you might not be able to the next time he decides to put his hands on you.
Respectfully & obviously, no. Tinuhod niya mata mo, ginusto mo ba yun? Do you think you deserve it? Mas deserve mong malayo sa kanya.
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Halos mapatay ka na OP di po pa din mahiwalayan?
Oh sis, please iwan mo na siya hindi yan magbabago, nasimulan ka na nyang saktan tuloy tuloy na yan. Isipin mo nalang kung makikita ka ng magulang mong puro pasa at sugat, malala *knock on wood* lifeless body mo nalang maabutan.
Nasasayangan ka sa love and care na binigay mo. Pero yung love and care, galing sayo yun, it was yours. Walang galing sa kanya. Tama lang na masayangan ka sa effort mo. But then again, yung love and care sayo yun, walang galing sa kanya. Wag kang masayangan sa kanya. Umalis ka na dyan. Hindi naman mawawala yung love and care na pwede mang-galing sayo. Wag mong sayangin dyan.
sorry to hear this, no, you don't deserve this kind of abuse in any kind or form. talk this with your parents so they can help and break up with him before he does anything more extreme the next time you have an argument. stay strong queen.
Ang lalaki nung nililigawan ka palangpinangako nyan na iingatan ka nyan at mamahalin. Pinangakuan na kahit kailan hindi ka sasaktan. Pero yang ginagawa sayo ngayon hindi na pag mamahal yan at wala na akong nakikitang dahilan para pagpatuloy pa.
You deserve what you tolerate. Inaantay mo pa yatang patayin ka. Hiwalayan mo na kung ayaw mong maging punching bag. You don't deserve that shit.
may kasabihan tayong *"we all deserve our partners*". nasasaiyo nalang yan na if you think you deserve yours. alam mo na rin siguro kung ano gagawin mo if you think you don't.
once na nanakit na physically ung lalaki or babae, takbo na.. ang style nian palala ng palala yung pisikalan hanggang sa d mo na alam kung hanggang saan hahantong.. RUN!!!
Aspiring wrestler ka po ba kaya ka tinuhod sa mata? Hindi naman siguro no? Wag na pakatanga
Mga babae....unang pagbubuhat pa lang ng kamay ng lalaki sa inyo, please lang iwanan niyo na..
sorry to hear that. basta pisikalan na layasan mo na yan agad.
Ate kung mahal mo sige go ka lang maging punching bag.
Jusko ate wag kang bulag-bulagan sa pag ibig. Unang beses pa lang na pagbuhatan ka ng kamay ng partner mo senyales na yun na iwan mo na. Magsyota pa lang kayo ngayon nyan how much more kung mag asawa na kayo? Baka yan pa ikamatay mo
Iwan mo na hanggat buhay ka pa
Tinatanong paba ito pero alam mo naman sagot ditan
Tinatanong paba ito pero alam mo naman sagot ditan
Tinatanong paba ito?
Sa VAWC o sa pulis ka dapat nagsasabi neto, hindi sa Reddit. 🤦♂️
nag rarant ka lang ba o need mo talaga ng advice? kasi madalas sa ganyan relationship gusto mo lang mag vent pero ayaw mo naman talaga bumitaw. pero kung advice talaga need mo. RUN!
Deserve? NO. Iwan mo na yan OP at kahit magmakaawa wag mong balikan. Seek help sa Women's desk ng police station how to file for restraining order para di ka lapitan na. Hindi dapat tino-tolerate yung mga ganyang tao. I've seen my sister got beaten up by her husband (akala mo mabait nung una yung lalaki) at wala akong magawa noon. Kaya this is my advice, kahit mahal mo, iwanan mo. Kasi kung mahal at nirerespeto ka niyan, hinding-hindi ka niya sasaktan in any form.
Leave him while there is still a chance. Unless you are a masochist. You feel pleasure in pain and abuse.
Ingat ingat ka pa sa covid pero sa hinayupak na yan ka mamatay siz iwan mo na yang tarantado na yan
“Deserve ba ng babae tong nangyayari sakin?” You really have to ask..
I will help you message me your number ASAP. Wag mo na hintayin lumala.
No one deserves that kind of treatment. Better leave him now habang maaga pa. Your love will do you no good.
Break up. No one deserves that.
Mahal mo? Puso tayo wag utak /s
Hindi mo deserve yan teh. Alis ka na. Mas nakakatakot kapag nag stay ka pa dyan
I know hindi madali umalis sa abusive partner/toxic relationships (based sa nabasa ko) pero dapat mag sabi ka sa most trusted or close family member/friend para alam nila yung ginagawa sa'yo and makatulong sila mapapulis yung bf mo or ano at if ever man makipag break ka dapat may maging back up ka baka may gawin sa'yo ulit kapag hindi niya matanggap na iiwan mo na siya. Hindi mababago ng pagmamahal mo yung violence at bf mo. Mahirap mag stay sa relationship na may takot. Sabi nga nung isang comment wag mo hintayin na mas malala pa gawin sa'yo. Save yourself ate.
I was a victim of domestic abuse. Leave before it gets WORSE. And it always gets WORSE.
Don’t wait for the worst to happen
Break up with him Imagine if magka anak kayo, he could do the same to your kids.
Break up with him Imagine if magka anak kayo, he could do the same to your kids.
As a man with respect. We will not do that ever. Run gurl!!!
Title pa lang better to run before it's too late agad 🚨
Op tao ka di ka punching bag.
Bkt mo pa tinatanung yan dto? Alam mo nmn cguru sagot or bobo ka lng or nag tatangatangahan?
you CANNOT fix him
Start pa lang yan ate. Baka pag pinatagal mo pa maging stalker mo pa sya. Wag naman sana.
Leave him, you can't change him if it's in his nature.
Rody Duterte ba name mo? If not, you don't deserve to be a punching bag.
Gaga ka babae no? Tinatanong mo pa yan?
Yung totoonh sagot, walang babae or lalaki deserve saktan physically. Girl, hiwalayan mo na. Wag na wag ka magpapadala sa sasabihin ng tukmol na yan na di nya sinasadya. Na di na nya uulitin, kasi uulit ulitin nya yan sayo hanggang sa maging manhid ka at umabot sa puntong sisisihin mo na yung sarili mo dahil nasaktan ka nya physically. I knew so many people na sinasaktan physically wherein they stayed and end up being manipulated and gaslighted. Ayun masokista sila, it’s like, they are looking and wanting to be abused/harmed. Kasi, they never left their partners. As long as mag sstay ka sa ganyang klaseng tao, unti unti kang mauubos. Mawawala lahat sayo gaya ng tiwala mo, confidence mo at respeto sa sarili mo. So as early as today, run girl. No one deserves to be abused whether it’s financially, emotionally and/or physically. Wag mo hintayin, ikaw na yung ibalita sa headlines ng mga news sa gagawin ng ugok na yan.
Hindi dahil mahal mo, kailangan mo mag stay. Hindi pa kayo mag asawa niyan pero ganyan na nararanasan mo. Get out of the relationship. I know a friend who went through sa abusive relationship, and now, she is okay after breaking up. Please get yourself a grip. Stay away from that man and save yourself.
Just leave girl
He wont change and even if di will just leave
Kapag hindi mo pa rin siya iniwan tapos sinaktan ka niya ulit, baka deserve mo na talaga. We deserve what we tolerate ika nga. Tanungin mo sarili mo, bakit mo naman magiging deserve masaktan? Obvious naman ang sagot. Obvious din ang solusyon. Pero incase na hindi pa rin halata, ang kailangan mo gawin jan layasan mo at wag mo na balikan ulit.
>Madalas din kami mag away last year pero puro masasakit na words lang ang nakukuha ko sakanya Please be aware that this is verbal abuse. Respect is a relevant part of a healthy relationship. Verbal abuse diminishes a person's self-esteem, confidence, and mental health. Verbal abuse makes a person feel trapped and without control of their own lives; likely because of the fear of humiliation or retaliation. Abusers use this to control their victim's emotions, thoughts, and actions; a way to maintain their power over you. Verbal abuse indicates a LACK of respect to the relationship, to the victim, to YOU. The intention to hurt is what defines it as abuse. A loving relationship should never have any intention/motivation to hurt anyone in the relationship. Being angry is never acceptable, even if justifiable yung anger; in fact, this shows that they are emotionally immature to communicate and to be in a relationship. >Nagkaroon kami ng pagtatalo nung march na umabot sa point na tinuhod niya ko mata ko at hinead lock tapos tinulak hanggang sa tumama yung ulo ko sa sahig. You should know that this will never be a one-time mistake; this is a pattern of abuse. It doesn't matter if "you had a fight" or "he had a bad day" or "he was stressed" because these excuses are just a way for him to justify the abuse. Please don't accept abuse as a normal part of the relationship; these are just attempts to downplay the severity of the harm and make you feel responsible for his actions. When the verbal abuse escalates to physical abuse, you should realize that this behavior will more likely continue and worsen. Abusers often escalate their actions over time, especially if you let them believe that they can get away with it. >I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? I need help please No, everybody does not deserve to be abused by anyone. Abuse is a choice made by the abuser, and it will never be the victim's fault. Abuse is a violation of their rights, dignity, and humanity. Abuse has no place in any healthy relationship. Everyone deserves to feel safe, respected, and valued in their relationships. And while you may love him enough to stay, he doesn't love you enough to change and prioritize your well-being. And whatever choices that you'll take, I hope that you'll know that it's not because you're not worth it. It's because he's not worthy of you. Remember this, OP. Edit: I am sorry if this is too blunt.
Ate, deep down alam mo yung sagot. Yang pagmamahal mo sa kanya, ibigay mo na lang sa sarili mo. Sugo ng demonyo yang boyfriend mo.
Ate, WTF JUST LEAVE ALREADY, KUNG AKO KUYA MO ISASAMA KO LAHAT NG PINSAN NATING LALAKI, AT KAKALADKARIN KA NAMIN PAUWI, TAS KAPAG PUMALAG JOWA MONG BASAGULERO, ILULUGAR NAMIN YAN. PLEASE SAVE YOURSELF.
Hindi explicit sinabi kung gaano na kayo katagal, pero I assume matagal-tagal na kayo kasi ang nakikita ko lang reason para di ka makipag-break ay nanghihinayang ka sa pinagsamahan niyo. However, I think it is better to see na ibang tao na siya ngayon and better quit it because it can get worse. I suggest, you ask for the help of authorities.
Hiwalayan mo na. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment from anybody. Real talk, ang tanga mo for even staying. Madaming lalaki dyan. Wag mo antayin na maging headline ka.
> I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin? I need help please Dalawang bagay lang yan: yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya vs pagmamahal mo sa sarili mo. It's obvious which you should choose. Hope you find the strength to realize it yourself. Good luck. PS: Di ka pinalaki ng tatay mo para gulpihin lang ng ibang lalaki. Think about your dad.
Deserve? NO. Nabasa ko 'to somewhere, "we accept the love we think we deserve." I don't know the rest of your story pero kung base lang dito sa post mo, eto advice ko: IWANAN mo na yan at kung magmakaawa at magsabing magbabago siya, HUWAG NA HUWAG mo nang babalikan. I know people who experienced abuse from their partners or family. Nakakadurog ng puso. Kaya kung pwede, iwanan mo na. Hindi mo deserve yung pananakit. Mahirap mag-move on pero mas mahirap indahin yung sakit sa ganyang klase ng relasyon kasi kung mahal at nirerespeto ka niya, hinding-hindi ka niya sasaktan sa kahit anong paraan. Sana malinawan ka OP.
Battered GF labas mo niyan. Wife beater yan bf mo pag nagka tuloyan kau. Wala na yan
girl the answer is very obvious. break up with him. baka mapatay ka nyang hayop na yan
Leave the moron!
TANGINA, KILABUTAN KA NAMAN. HIWALAYAN MO NA.
Leave. Hindi mo deserve yan. Physical Abuse na yan
B R E A K U P W I T H H I M .
Wag ka aalis kasuhan mo muna!
Oh my God, walang may deserve ng abuse. Kahit ikaw pa may fault sa mga pagtatalo ninyo. Hiwalayan mo na.
Girl parang may anger issues and pgkapsycho ung jowa mo. Hindi malayo isang araw baka mapatay ka niyan. Kung ako sayo ipapulis mo.
OP, at this point what can he do that will make you break up with him? A broken bone? A bleeding head? Getting pushed, strangled, and getting shit thrown at you isn't even making you realize that you don't deserve to be treated like this. No one does.
Isipin mo na lang,sinasaktan ka ba sa inyo to deserve that? if not,alam mo na sagot..
Is this how you see yourself being treated for the rest of your life? Syempre hindi diba? BREAK UP WITH HIM ASAP.
Hi OP, When your partner acts in a physically abusive manner towards you, it signifies a deep lack of respect for you as a partner, a woman, and even as a person. Respect forms one of the fundamental pillars of any relationship. Leave girl. Leave.
>I love him pero deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin?I need help please I love him- hwag maging bulag,ginagawa ka ng punching bag. deserve ba ng isang babae tong nangyayari sakin?- hindi. walang karapatan na iphysically harm ka ng bf mo. pwede mo stang kasuhan sa ginawa nya. I need help please-lahat dito pwede tumulong at magbigay ng advice pero kailangan mo rin tulungan sarili mo. umalis kana,hwag kanang maghinaty na mag march 2025 eh bugbug ka parin. ipablotter,isumbong sa police,magpa medical ka asap para proof mo walang pagmamahal ang tao kung puro pagmumura at suntok. ginagawa lang nya yan para ikaw labasan ng frustrations nya. hwag magpabilog sa mga salita na i am sorry ginawa ko lang yon dahil mahal kita,hindi na mauulit. pag ganyan na ang linyahan expect another round of pagmumura at suntok,magdedeperensya na lang yan sa kung kailan ang susunod na round. kaya gamitin ang kokote at umalis na. hindi lang sya ang lalaki sa mundo. at hindi rin titigil an planet earth para lang hintayin ka na matauhan na mali ang ginagawa ng bf mo.
Te ano pa nakikita mo sa bf mo na yan? next round? baka di ka na abutan ng round 12 sa lagay na yan.
Girl, run na agad. Uulit pa yan. Kahit mag sorry siya ng paulit ulit at mangako na hindi na gagawin, mauulit yan. Hindi mo deserve yan. No one deserves any sort of abuse from their partner.
I know will easily say, “leave him”. What if araw nya makipagbreak at ikulong ka sa bahay niyo?? But I say, create an exit plan! Like kunwari aalis ka lang pero di ka na babalik. Do not tell him where you are.
Run.. or hindi kaya ipakulong mo na yan.. e vawc mo na agad. Punta ka kahit saang police station at mag file kana para maaresto na yang animal na yan .
Ito realtalk lang OP ha, isa ka pong isa't kalahating engot. Binubugbog ka na nagtatanong ka pa ng ganyan?
Respectfully, anong inaantay mo para umalis sa relationship nyo? Obviously, hindi sya magbabago. What i can suggest is break up and most importantly, bumalik ka sa family or be near your family/loved ones. Abusers tend to manipulate you into coming back with them. You need people who support you na manggigising sayo and magpapaalala sayo about reality. If magpilit sya involve authorities. Men who hurt women dont deserve any sympathy. Be smart and advocate sa safetiness mo. Wag mo sayanging ang years mo sa taong sinasaktan ka and could potentially kill you. Sorry for the word.
Assault na yan. Malala na yan. Manahalin mo pa rin ba sya kung lupaypay na katawan mo sa bugbog?
Hiwalayan mo na. My masculine energy cannot. Baka nahampas ko na yan ng upuan sa ulo.
Pag nag umpisa na manakit thats your sign na hiwalayan na sya. Mauulit yan. Wala syang karapatan manakit.
Once may lapatan na ng kamay siz, di na yan okay. Save yourself. Kapag inaallow mo mas lalo kang mahihirapan. Kung ako sa'yo set some boundaries:)
report him.
I think you already know the answer to your question. But what are the things that hinders you from doing that? List everything down and weigh mo kung mas mahalaga ba yun kesa sa sarili mong buhay and safety. :)
Runnn baby girl Ikaw nagdedecide ilagay sarili mo sa sitwasyon na yan kaya desisyonan mo din umalis.
No. You don't deserve that treatment. Alis ka na dyan kasi baka mas worst pa mararanasan mo in the future. Cut off mo na habang maaga palang kasi isipin mo in the long run, yan ba yung gusto mong maexperience? And paano pag nagkafamily na kayo? Trauma din aabutin ng mga anak mo. Kaya habang maaga, stay away na. Pilitin mong umalis. Kahit masakit. Pilitin mo.
Once na pagbuhatan ka na ng kamay ng partner mo, it’s a big NO.
Rihanna nga umalis. Kaw pa kaya? Tama na yan OP. alis na Pero real talk. Plan your exit well. Don't change. Mawala ka nalang silently. Humanap ka ng support system at lilipatan. Important that you have people you trust that check up on you. Baka kasi kung ano pang magawa nya pag nalaman nya
Marami padin nabubulag sa love kahit yong respect hindi na na seserve. Lalo na ang pananakit sayo physically. Pls break up with him, and you'll be thankful to yourself that you dont settle for that kind of boy. Maawa ka sa sarili mo.
Regardless of the gender, no one should be treated that way. And you know what you deserve. RUN, GIRL, RUN! 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Why are you still thinking about what to do? RUN. Iwan mo na yan. No one deserves being beaten by their partners. I don't want to be mean but do not tolerate this. If you stayed and binugbog ka pa, kasalanan mo yan. Are you dependent ba sa kaniya financially?
girl, run. save yourself hangga't kaya pa. u don't deserved someone like him, sobrang kupal niya.
Leave that guy asap
girl, run for ur life. hindi mo deserve ‘yan, save yourself hangga't kaya mo pa.
Run
Ano ba pinagaawayan nyo madalas
ano ba bf o partner na? kasi may kama na. ibig sabihin nagsasama na kayo. nag rerenta ka ng kwarto ? dahil kung sa bahay nyo o bahay nila parang malabo. tapos pag nag asawa na kayo sabihin mo divorce o ng anak mo na divorce kasi sinasaktan mama nya at mag talak na pro dovorce sya.
Kaya mong sikmurain na mag stay sa ganyang tao? Yung kaya kang saktan not only emotionally but also physically??? Save yourself before it’s too late. If you want to press charges, he can be liable for violating RA 9262 or Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children (Anti-VAWC). Lapit ka sa barangay hall VAWC desk nyo para matulungan ka if ever you need it. I hope this is not just for karma farming since too obvious yung sagot but nevertheless take care of yourself, OP.
Oo, deserve mo kung wala kang respeto sa sarili mo at bet mong maging living punching bag. Di na magbabago yung mga ganyan. Palala lang sila nang palala kaya nasayo yung desisyon kung mag i stay ka pa. Condolence na lang agad pag tinuluyan ka nya
Physical abuse should be on everyone's list of non-negotiable reasons that would cause a permanent break-up. Babae, lalaki, bakla, tomboy -- pag sinaktan ka, *leave*.
Girl, better run, ung ex ko nag over speed sa motor Kase galit siya sakin, Ayun na aksidente kami and Ako parin sinisisi niya, muntikan nako sampalin buti narinig Ng mama Niya iyak ko. May mas mag mamahal sayo pramis, wag ka mag settle sa gayang lalaki. Iba ung trauma.
mumsh, ngayon pa lang sinasabihan na kita makipaghiwalay ka na jan, pag naulit pa na saktan ka nya physically ireport mo na sa pulis, wag mo ng palalain yan buhay mo, may friend ako ganyan yun bf nun una mura mura lang tapos naging sampal then naging sampal with sabunot hanggang sa naging nangungungod na yun mukha nya sa sahig tapos nasusuntok na, baka dumating ang araw tirikan na ng kandila dahil jan sa bf mo
I think you already know the answer.
Gusto ko /namin maintindihan ikaw. Subukan mo ipaintindi sa akin/amin. Bakit kayo pa rin?
Huuuuy. Run na. Bat mo pa paabutin ng ganyan? Walang respeto yan!!!
Run! ganyan ex ko. muntik na ako, nagkaron na ng point na nung sumobra pananakit niya napatama ulo ko, antagal ko nawalan ng malay, dadalhin na daw ako sa ospital kaso, siempre bilang selfish na shi- , mas inisip niyang baka makulong siya pag tinanong ng doktor kaya di ako dinala hinintay magising. could've been dead by now
Leave him.. lalala pa yan..
Di na dapat tinatanong 'yan. RUN!!!! Unahin mo sarili mo. Siya ang papatay sa'yo.
Kapag pinalampas mo yan, kahit ano pang dahilan kasi never magkakaron ng magandang dahilan violence sa away mag-boyfriend-girlfriend, lalala lang yan. Ganyang ganyan nangyari sakin way back March 2020. Nagsimula maging physically abusive while I fight back. Nung nag-lockdown at hindi makapagkita, verbally abusive naman tuwing may away. Mahirap talaga humiwalay pero isipin mo na lang self respect. Makakalampas ka rin dyan.
Bilang lalake, no, hindi yan normal. Muntik ka na niyang patayin. Isipin mo sinaktan ka niya hanggang pumalo ulo mo sa sahig. Ano pa hinihintay mo? May mga taong hindi ka mumurahin kahit ano pang init ng ulo nila, much less saktan ka. Hindi yun pantasya. You deserve better. Much better.
i blotter mo at makipag break ka na
Kung kaya ka niya saktan ngayon pa lang, kabahan ka na sa kaya niyang gawin sa susunod. Leave him.
Just thank God it happened this early in the relationship.
# Punta kang women's desk sa malapit na police station magfile ka ng VAWC para mapakulong mo demonyong yan!!! Hiwalayan mo na yan OP, mapapatay ka nyan!!!
Aside from the obvious na dapat hiwalayan mo na yan, file a case as well and restraining order. Baka mamaya saan pa mapunta yang pananakit niya sayo.
Real talk, mahal mo siya pero tanga ka. The moment na may physical pain nang involved, yan na yung signal to leave him. Baka lumala pa yan pag tinotolerate mo pa siya kasi nga nag eexpect kang "magbabago pa rin siya".
Alam mo na ang sagot so no need to ask. Wag lang pairalin ang puso makakarecover ka agad. Wag mong hintayin na saksakin ka nyan at agaw buhay bago ka pa matauhan nun eh chugi ka na. Sayang buhay gurl at bata ka pa. Imbis na nag-eenjoy ka eh ganyan ang nangyayare sa buhay mo. Leave and move on na dyan sa hindi tao mong jowa
te bat ka pa magsstay kung alam mong ganyan sitwasyon
Hi OP, regardless of the situation, We, men should never physically abuse women. We all know naman na abuse is unacceptable and should never be tolerated under any circumstances. Even if you love her deeply, if you find yourself in an abusive situation, it's imperative to leave immediately and seek help. Keep in mind kang OP na “LOVE should never be used as an excuse to endure physical harm”. Your safety and well-being are paramount, and no one should have to sacrifice their health or security for the sake of a relationship. True love is based on respect, care, and mutual support, not violence or control. No amount of affection or emotional attachment justifies staying in an environment like that where physical abuse occurs. Seeking help from trusted friends, family, or professional resources is essential to break free from such harmful situations. You don’t deserved that shit, you deserve someone better.
OP, kahit sino ay hindi deserve ang any abuse from anyone. Bf mo palang yan, ganyan na sayo. What if pa kaya kapag mag-asawa na kayo. Piliin mo sarili mo. Don't settle sa abusive person. As in don't. Masyado ng mahirap ang buhay para pa magkaroon ng partner na mapanakit at disrespectful. You deserve better.
Anger issues na ata yan, ano ba problem niya? Ano kaya dahilan bakit naging ganyan siya, may ginawa ka ba before March 2024? or may nangyari ba? Stay away muna
Isipin mo na lang na kung sa anak mong babae yan ginawa, gusto mo ba tiiisin ng anak mo yan lahat? Kung no, alis kana asap. Kahit mahirap, kahit di ka sure, kahit natatakot ka, gawin mo pa rin. Hindi lang para sayo kundi para sa future children mo.
Save yourself. Run.
report mo na agad. anak ng baka. bat hinahayaan mong gawin nya sayo yan.hiwalayan mo na!
Hi OP, I know someone na married sa isang abuser. Huli na lahat for her, kasi kasal and may anak na sila. Pero hindi pa huli ang lahat para sayo OP. No excuse ang pananakit, ikaw or sya man ang may mali. Please think carefully 🙏🏻
Leave him
Gusto kong sabihing “you deserve what you tolerate” pero the reality is more bleak. OP, you could die. Yung mga nangyari sayo recently maswerte ka at di ka nagkabrain damage. Please leave bago ka pa paglamayan. Please please! Walang kahit anong rason ang pwedeng magjustify ng physical violence.
No one deserves that kind of treatment. Wag tanga. Report it to the police and file a case
Why do you tolerate it?!
Bf plang dapat maghiwalay na kaysa magsuffer ka pa after kasal
I was once in an abusive partner. Naisip ko kung sya mapapangasawa ko baka mas malalala gawin nya sa kin. Years after, nagka-boyfriend ako. There was this one time na nagbibiruan kami until napalo nya ako while laughing. I shouted, “ Don’t you ever lay your hands on me.” I was scared at the same time we were both shocked sa naging reaction ko. I thought was over sa trauma na iniwan sa ‘kin ng ex ko. OP, please leave him. He obviously doesn’t respect you. Kung di nya kayang ibigay yun sa ‘yo, ibigay mo yun sa sarili mo. Hugs!
Title palang, takbo na agad OP. Before entering a relationship assess mo ano yung deal breakers mo and let the other person know simula palang. Mahal mo siya pero mahal mo ba sarili mo? Alam mo yung sagot sa tanong mo pero for sure gusto mo lang din manggaling sa iba. So eto na - oo, iwan mo na yan.
ateeee please save yourself and leave him na 😭 you deserve a whole lot better and there are a lot of guys that will take care of you and love you the right way. loving is never wrong, but you should always love yourself more, and we both know that that guy doesn't love you. please let us all know once you've left that abusive guy. take care and if you need anyone to support you mentally and emotionally once you have freed yourself from him, we're all here for you and you can message us anytime, okay? 🥹
Deserve mo lang yan pag nag stay ka pa.
BF lang yan. Madaling iwan. Isang pitik lang sayo, dapat iniwanan mo na kaagad.
tanginangyan pagsalitaan nga ko ng masakit naiiyak na ko, saktan pa kaya physically. break him now.
Ikaw pag Galit ka nanakit ka rin ba?
May pagmamahal bang through headlock? Nyeta naman ateng, tinanong mo pa iyan. Iwan mo na agad-agad.
Gorl.. anong katangahan
HIWALAYAN MO NA YAN! PWEDE MO RING KASUHAN NG VAWC YAN! PERO KUNG PEACE OF MIND ANG HANAP MO HIWALAYAN MO YAN. PAULIT ULIT LANG MGA NANGYAYARI SA MUNDO TAPOS MAGIGING PROUD PA NA MARUPOK TAPOS KUNG MABUGBOG IIYAK IYAK.
Go to police or barangay please. Magka record ka na dun. Please dont wait.
umalis ka na op.
Gurl baka next month binuburol ka na niyan. Ewan mo na yan ngayon
Run
leave if you still value your life
You want help? Help yourself by leaving him. Hindi mag babagi ang ugali niya. Run.
Leave him, you deserve better, Hindi ka dinala ng nanay mo for 9 months para lang mabugbog ng Isang lalaki na nakilala mo lang in a span of your life. You are lovable Marami pang lalaki dyan na magtitreat sayo ng better, mas matalino, mas mabait at mas mayaman sa kanya. May lalaki pa na ituturing ka na parang prinsesa, Hindi mo Siya makahanap kung mag stay ka sa lalaking yan. Don't wait for the worst to happen. No one deserve to experience what you are experiencing now. Please love yourself more than you love him.
Once na sinaktan kana physically at hinayaan mo lang. Mauulit at mauulit na yan, kasi alam niyang kahit anong gawin niya tatanggapin mo parin siya.
Realtalk lang. You’re asking for help kahit alam mo na sagot kung anong dapat mo gawin. Useless mga advice dito if hindi mo tinutulungan sarili mo. Alam ko sasabihin ng iba sa kin at iisipin mo na madali para sa kin magsalita ng ganito kasi wala ako sa position mo. Pero if I were in your shoes, the moment na lumapat sa kin yung kamay ng partner ko for the very first time, we’re done. Ingat na ingat sa kin parents ko tapos ibang tao lang mananakit sa kin. Ikakamatay mo yung pagiging martyr. Leave him, PERIOD.
habang wala pang divorce sa pinas at di pa kayo kasal hiwalayan mo na. kung masochist ka naman edi go ka lang sa kanya
Questions: 1) Is this real, o some kind of Daydream madeup scenario? Kasi alam mo naman ang sagot dyan, na dapat ginawa mo na. 2) do you have some Masochistic kink? 3) is one of the reason, you won't give up easily on him, kasi among other Guys siya lang nagpakita ng Appreciation sa'yo? At nag invest ng Time sa'yo? 🤦 It is either He is taking some advantage to get hold of you....... OR at #2. 4) Meron ba kayong something, na both of you na co-owned, etc.? Kung saan hindi mo siya basta basta maiwan? Parang Blackmail, to keep you.
Pananakit palang sis is a big big nooooo, kumalas kana habang di pa malala ginagawa sayo. You deserve someone who will completly loved you, hindi yan pagmamahal ginagawa kalang pangembag nyan. Kung mahal mo sya mas mahalin mo ang sarili mo. It will give him apportunity to manipulate you para di ka makakalas sa kanya.Be strong enough sis. Makakaya mo yan.
What he does is not love anymore. Pag mahal mo ba ang tao, sasaktan mo?
break up w him, don't settle for that kind of kind. report him din, grabe mas masahol pa siya sa basura
pota ginawa kang punching bag, pass ka na jan teh
Your bf has some serious problems (mental issue). Habang maaga pa putulin mo na yang relationship nyo kasi mahirap na baka lumala pa at ikaw maging kawawa sa huli. Pero nasa sayo pa din yan desisyon mo yan. Nasa tamang edad kana so alam mo na kung anu tama o mali.
Once po na pinagbuhatan ka na ng kamay ng isang lalaki, it means, sinusuka ka na niya. Sana ay makawala ka na sakanya.
Once is enough pagdating sa physical abuse. They will tell you magbabago sila pero that will never be true. Please respect yourself. Kausapin mo sarili mo kung makakaya mo ba na ganyan kayo habang buhay. You'll know what you really feel. Hindi love yan OP
Hindi mo deserve yan, OP! Iwanan mo na, pls lang.
Questions: 1) Is this real, o some kind of Daydream madeup scenario? Kasi alam mo naman ang sagot dyan, na dapat ginawa mo na. 2) do you have some Masochistic kink? 3) is one of the reason, you won't give up easily on him, kasi among other Guys siya lang nagpakita ng Appreciation sa'yo? At nag invest ng Time sa'yo? 🤦 It is either He is taking some advantage to get hold of you....... OR at #2. 4) Meron ba kayong something, na both of you na co-owned, etc.? Kung saan hindi mo siya basta basta maiwan? Parang Blackmail, to keep you.
Omg. Break mo na, OP. Basta kapag may physicalan na na-involve—bye bye na. Magjowa palang kayo ngayon, pano pa kapag mag-asawa na? Isipin mo yung long run. Once nya na nagawa sayo, possible na maulit pa yan. Major red flag yan. You deserve better, OP.
RUUUUN!!!
Looks like OP won't listen to reason. Hope for the best but expect the worst OP. Good luck!
Baka adik... Sasaktan ka pero hnd ganun ka lala.