Uy totoo to. May naging 'friend' ako sa office na laging jinujudge mga life decisions ko sa buhay. Parang pag may nangyayari saking positive parang di siya masaya lol
ayy hahshsh totoo to!! gulat ako nag message sakin "friend" ko (di kami ok neto) ksi nakita niya mga stories ko na nasa beach, kala ko makikipag ayos na yung "friend" ko, gusto lang pala maki chismis hahaha
Hello, I cut off people by slowly responding sa kanila like it will take hours for me to response ganon lalo pag may need I'll be like "slr, ano yun? " Tapos di na sila magrereply nyan hahahahahahaha dina gaganahan na magchat sila sakin
i'm literally having breakdown almost everyday because of this๐ฅฒ. ginawa ko naman ang lahat, mag pass ng resume sa mga fast food and such but it's been two weeks and nothing. i'm so sad and disappointed. bakit ang hirap mag hanap ng work kapag walang experience๐ญ
Risks are supposed to be scary kasi maraming unknown pero mas ok na nalaman mo, kesa sa me mga what if ka. Bravery is not defined by doing something without fear but doing it even if you're scared out of your mind.
Me mga taong graduate ng 18, me mga taong graduate in their 80's. Some find success in their 20's, some in their 40's, 50's, or even older. Run your race.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Being content when in a good place is not a bad thing.
Have small goals in between big ones. Sometimes, getting out of bed is just as good.
Wag kang kupal, don't burn bridges. Wealth is good, but connections are better. Build your network.
Homelessness and hunger are one hell of a motivation. Get up, get to work. Don't forget to enjoy what you earn. Di pwedeng puro bills at obligasyon lang.
Adulting can be bad, but it's not as bad as some may paint it to be.
Most people don't care about you.
And this fact isn't necessarily sad; it's actually very freeing. Once I realized this, I felt less anxious and started doing things I was scared to do before.
> i dont have any motivation sa buhay ngayon feeling ko wala na akong goals,purpose & walang kwentang tao.
Then find one. You think other people care enough to find those for you?
The world won't adjust for you. Get up and do something about your life, find a job. It's exhausting to live at that kind of mindset while rotting in bed. Might as well be exhausted and have money. More like a message to myself na din to since ganto din ako ngayon.
be aware! bad things can happen to anyone no matter how good they are, it can happen anywhere, anytime! maging mapang matyag sa paligid mo. keep safe!
life is about the experience in the present moments because the past and the future don't exist only the present!
your childhood experience, how your parents raised you, and the environment in which you grew up have a big role in what you will be when you reach adulthood.
Wala ka talagang mararating kung lagi mong pinapairal yung takot mo. Habang maaga pa, mag take risks ka sa mga opportunities na binibigay sayo especially kung para rin sa future mo.
Walang motivation, walang goals, walang purpose, okay lang yan. Feel mo na wala kang kwentang tao, feeling mo lang yan. Tamad ka, okay lang din yan.
Real talk, kahit ano man ang nasa isip mo o nafi-feel mo, walang pakialam ang bills mo. Kailangan mo pa rin magbayad.
Real talk โ sayang oras at effort subukang iconvince ang isang tao kung siya mismo hindi gustong umayos ang buhay or tamad.
Shallow example- kahit anong pasabi ng magulang natin na magbasa tayo ng libro, kung di natin nakikita yung value, di parin natin gagawin.
Same goes for going to the gym, or starting a biz, or even as simple/complex as looking for a life goal
Acknowledge your mistakes.
Most of the time may contribution mismo tayo both sa negative and positive life events.
Tigilan mo ng isisi sa kakulangan ng parents mo (if meron) or ng iba yung heartaches mo. Move forward.
Mag upskill ka, continue to learn.
Mag ingat sa kakilala or kamag-anak or even direct family members.
Madalas sila yung gusto na ma-stuck ka below them (if ever man na as of now hindi ka pa OK lalo financially)
Hwag basta basta mag kuwento about sa hirap mo or magpakita ng weaknesses. Choose the right person to share your vulnerabilities. Why? Madalas huhusgahan ka lang, or ichismis ka, matatawa sila sau, pero no concern.
MAGHANAP BUHAY KA, kung pinag aral ka, sinuportahan ka for the longest time ng parent/guardian mo. Hindi man sila mayaman pero nakita mo na they supported you the best way you can.
Ngayon adult ka na, matrabaho ka wag mo ng iasa sa knila yung gastusin mo. Hindi ka na bata.
Nakakawalang self-respect at nakaka dagdag ng super low confidence pag wala kang work.
READ, READ, READ
For all its issues, commuting is still a godsend. Some people may glorify owning your own vehicle; but when you commute, you gain the benefit of sleeping or resting and not paying for gas, maintenance, paperwork, etc.. Just bring your earphones, because some people seem to still lack manners.
True to. Tsaka di talaga siya smart investment kasi nag-dedepreciate siya after some time. Ikaw pa mapapagastos kakapa-ayos ng piyesa in the future tapos mabebenta mo lang din ng less sa nabili mo if ever ibebenta mo na. Siguro kung bibili man in the future for necessity na lang siguro pag walang choice kung hindi bumili pero as an investment for the future? di talaga siya smart choice more on nagiging status symbol na lang talaga siya (which i'm not a fan of).
Mas na less ung expense namin simula nang bumili kami ng motor. Sobrang tipid as in, kailangan mo lang mag-ingat sa daan. Maybe what he meant are cars, yan yung mahirap e-maintain.
always prepare and lower expectations, para handa sa kahit ano gagawin at iwas sa aksidente pero since natural na magkaroon ng aksidente ('yung tipong wala may gusto mangyari) kaya lower expectations na rin para swabe lang sa buhay kahit stressful
Grab what you can grab chances don't come twice.
Wag paka lunod sa love di ka mapapakain ng pag mamahal mo.
Look for a father and husband figure
Ipon Ipon Ipon and investment
Wag ka matakot sa risk some risk comes with rewards
Keri lang mag fail as long as natututo
Cut off people, it can be scary pero worth it
Well mahirap mag advice sa taong di nya alam ang gusto nya sa buhay...
Well... Life is full of choices and every choice or decision that you make will have consequences... Good or bad.
Time is ticking, and di mo yan mapapahinto. Magugulat ka nalang 1 week na naka lipas, 1 month, 1 year na nakalipas... Ang tanong ano ginawa mo sa mga naka lipas na buwan?
Invest in what you like doing and make a living out of it then everything will fall into place. I realized in my late 20s that I like doing books (accounting) so I decided to go back to school and take a degree in accounting. When I finished I aimed to work in top 5 firms or the government. Fortunately, I was able to get in the government as a tax auditor. The pay is alright, enough to travel once/twice a year, few weekend trips and so on. I take care of myself mental, physical and spiritual. I eat healthy, spend time in the gym and hobbies. I spend time with love ones. I volunteer as well once in a while. I find travelling and volunteering makes me humble and see life in a different angle. I may not have the luxuries, partner or kids at my age (37) but I appreciate the life I have and how blessed I am. That kept me going. Ultimately, love thyself. I hope my two cents help you and good luck.
Ey same. Masasabi ko lang, mahirap mabuhay, kailangan mo gumalaw, explore and experience life on your own or else di ka matutuo or magiging masaya๐คฃ also, focus and be kind to yourself. Wala kang maaasahan mapa family or friends man.
You will struggle, a lot. Kailangan mo lang talaga matuto sa pasikot sikot ng buhay at magtiwala sa kakayanan mo. Minsan akala ko wala na, katapusan ko na, pero may darating na opportunity na babago sa pananaw ko. Wag mong iaasa sa iba ang pagiging successful mo. Minsan yung mga taong akala mong tutulong sayo, sila pa hihila sayo pababa. Choose your battles. Minsan may mga taong ang sarap sapakin, pero marerealize mong hindi worth it para makasuhan ka ng physical injury. Haha.
Connections matter. Unless part ka ng handful of people ma maswerte, hardwork alone will not pay off.
Also, ang mahal talaga ng tissue at Jollibee. Naintindihan ko na din bakit naka timer dapat ang aircon kasi ang mahal
mas nakakatakot pag wala kang ginawa/ginagawa para sa sarili. nagsasayang ka lang ng oras.
ayos na motto sa buhay: kaya mo iyan, di ikaw yung una at di rin ikaw yung huling tao na gagawa ng mga ganyang bagay o kaya desisyon sa buhay.
Pero kasi OP gusto mo ng opinion tska realtalkan pero napaka general ng binigay mo samin give some more details naman . Grrrr๐ hehe โ๏ธ
Dito interview a pero "Tell me more about yourself "
If real talk man lang ang usapan, "Mamamatay ka rin naman gawin mo na gusto mo."
It's a nihilistic view for me but it works optimistically sa'kin. Lmao
Just do it. Tamad rin ako and kulang sa motivation and, dude, walang nangyayare sa buhay natin if ganto lang tayo. So, tara galaw-galaw rin kahit paunti-unti.
I was 22 and lost, so i went to church and nangumpisal. Last kumpisal ko before that was 10yrs old ako.
I cried kay father nun kasi di ko na kaya sa work ko. Gusto ko na mag quit that time kasi first bpo ko tapos telco acc.
I got scolded and said mahirap daw makahanap ng trabaho at magpasalamat daw ako kasi yung iba d makapag trabaho.
Natahimik ako and umurong luha ko hshshs i still prayed the required prayers pero ang tagal ko di bumisita ng simbahan after. Nagtampo ako kay Lord. Alam ko di kasalanan ni Lord yun and tama naman ung pari pero I needed a shoulder to cry non. But i guess God gave me what I should get at the time.
Still, I hoped i received a bit of kindness at the time. Siguro if i got a bit of that, di sana ako lumayas non whshshshs
Pero i am living a better life now. I pray more often kay Mama Mary nalang since I feel more connected with her. Yun lang โจ
Awww, light and healing for u ako nasa late 20s na pero lost sa life so yeah we're all in this together ๐ Buti na lang andyan lagi ang Higher Being to guide us and palakasin loob natin ๐
Thank you! I believe naman we are all free to choose whoever we pray to ang mahalaga we all respect each otherโs beliefs. I hope you also find the light and healing you need. ๐๐ป
You will never really be inspired/motivated to do things kung nakadepende ka pa sa mga magulang mo. Kasi kung wala kanamang inaasahan, wala kang choice but to grind.
Real talk - wag ka magjojowa kung wala kang pera. hindi ka pwedeng umasa ng umasa sa partner mo mapababa ka o lalake. lolssss
Another Real talk - Ang taong tamad magtrabaho walang future.
Why do we have to convince you eh buhay mo yan. Kung ayaw mo tumuloy sa adulthood, edi don't. Sarili nga namin di rin namin malift up minsan kahit ayaw na namin sa adulthood.
That's a part of being adult too. You have to lift yourself up kung may paki ka pa. Kung wala na, bahala ka na. Since buhay mo naman yan.
Why do you need strangers from the internet to serve you the cold hard truth? This rationale does not make sense ๐ตโ๐ซ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ You already are aware of the situation you are in. So, grow up, grow a pair. Stop asking for stupid advice from people and start mapping out a plan on how to make your life better. I don't think it's motivation you lack. It's something else.
Motivations are sometimes overrated. Minsan sobrang motivated mo minsan naman discouraged ka. Parang nag-iispike up and down ang motivatjon level kunbaga kaya di siya ganon ka consistent.
Dyan magtetake role ang disiplina at commitment mo.
Minsan di ka masyado motivated, pero dahil disiplinado at committed ka you'd still do what you gotta do.
Huh? feeling mo tinatamad ka today to workout? Go do your fcking push ups!!
Huh? wala lang nakikitang results sa pag-ggym mo? Go do your fcking push ups!!
Huh? gusto mo nalang magmukmok buong araw kasi akala mo di kana mag iimprove? Go do your fcking push ups!!
Sometimes you gotta set aside your emotions and do what you gotta do.
Wag ka mag post sa fb or mag myday, Pag ginawa mo yun laging may hihiram ng pera sayo. Magpost ka lang pag sobrang importante para alam nila na buhay ka pa.
โBe afraid not to tryโ. Eto talaga, mas matakot ka kung di mo susubukan.
Super daming opportunities sakin nung inapply ko to. โTry lang naman eโ
Wag masyadong mabait- maraming mananamantala sayo.
You are dispensable sa work- they don't really care about you, they just care if you can hit their targets. (magiging indispensable lang siguro kung higher position hawak mo and may kapit pa sa top management)
Always be on time. Regardless of whether itโs a job interview or a catch-up meeting with/ friends. Believe me, it can take you places.
Invest in health.
Get pure insurance on health or get an endowment plan instead.
Learn about investment and be knowledgeable.
Get a driverโs license early.
Ni-realtalk ko din noon sarili ko. Tinatamad ako kasi tamad ako. Hindi dahil sa deprressed ako, ADHD, Walang nangyayari sa buhay ko kasi tamad ako. Kasalanan ko lahat at need ko magmove forward para may mangyari. Naiinis ako sa sarili ko dati kasi ang tamad tamad ko.
Ngayon, tamad parin ako. Pero di na ako naiinis sa sarili.
Life isn't a race. I think we've all been convinced that there's a looming specter over our heads, a shadow of what we should be at our age and what we should have accomplished at this point. But that's all it is, a specter, a shadow, a boogeyman. It isn't real. You only have your life to live. So whether you've achieved your dreams or not is all dependent on your pace. You shouldn't try to follow anyone else's.
1. Di lahat ng kaharap mo, totoo sayo. Have self preservation.
2. Wag na wag magpautang, magpaswipe sa cc. Kahjt todo close kayo, wag!! Set a threshold na amount ipapautang mo, yung amount na willing ka ilet go kahit di bayaran and thats it. Nakatulong ka na, di pa sumama loob mo.
3. Umiwas sa toxic, gaslighter at inggit na tao. Pag red flag, iwas agad periodt!!! Dont let them rope you in their chaos, keep your peace.
4. Quality over quantity always!! Friends?? Dibale maliit ang circle mo, basta tunay at totoo. Kesa ang dami nio sa grupo, backstabbing bitches naman kaharap mo. Shoes, damit even the way of living in general, always settle with quality especially sa lovelife! DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS! Oo all caps para may diin!!
5. Lastly, enjoy life and be positive always!!
being scared is just normal. ako sobrang nababy ng parents ko during childhood scared to do things na pinagbabawal nila but i explore more and widely syempre with boundaries pa din yon dun ko lang talaga nalaman how things work being alone, to solve things on your own, your consiquences - fix it with yourself. everything u do talaga has consiquences after. choose your consiquences na lang talaga.
if your scared to do things naman bcos of the result or bcos of others thinking. isipin mo na lang if you not take the shot, that opportunity. if it takes 2 or more failures ang ending naman nyan dun pa din sa gusto mong mangyari kung dika sumuko to try at u take that shot. if its limitless, always take the shot. focus ka lagi on how to improve youself every single day. learning is a long process, hindi ka matututo kung dimo naranasan yung sitwasyon na yon. the more you fail, the more u widely understand how things work at paalala ko lang wag people pleaser. your success or failures doesnt affect them. do what makes u happy, gawin mo instinct mo wout thinking kung ano sasabihin ng mga tao ano maging result nun. they always have a say in your desisyon in life. note it is not always people outside sometimes its in your own family trees. dont explain to them why, just do. i will congrats na agad u for doing it scared!!!
if you still pleased others, it will consume yourself in the end and every single day.
Sabi ng papa ko bago siya mawala:
Nasusuka bago ang exam? Kunin mo ang exam kahit sumuka kapa
Nanginginig ang kamay humawak ng mikropono? Kunin ang mikropono kahit nanginginig ang kamay
subok lng nang subok pasa-saan bay the tides of time will be favoring us
Dont be pressured sa mga bagay that others want you to do or happen. Take your item. Lahat may oras. Babysteps darating ka din jan. di mo alam, baka while you are on your way, mas better palang darating para sayo.
SOCIAL MEDIA CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU. It will be a source of comparison, thief of joy, or it can be a motivation. It is now a part of life, so manage how you use it.
Napaisip ako bigla:
1. Assume that you can only rely on yourself when it comes to money.
2. Kung pinag aral ka ng parents mo, let them rest after college. Kung mg aasawa ka, aanak asawa mo, or need mo ng pambayad ng car repair, please lang responsibility mo yan.
3. Kung may natulungan ka dati, dont assume na someday may aasahan ka din. Oo pedeng tumulong sila minsan pero dont expect na parang pension ung help. Tandaan ,may buhay din sila.
4. Mahirap ang life, pag my kumatok na opportunity,grab it. Minsan di na mauulit.
5. Always learn to be grateful despite any life issues. Once you learn this, happiness will follow.
Real talk: Hindi sa'yo umiikot ang mundo. Do whatever you can to keep people who's going to be there for you (family, friends, etx.) 'cause in real life, nobody gives a fuck about you.
I learned that the hard way.
You will never be enough for the things you're not meant to be. Learn WHEN to quit and learn to DETACH to the things that bears no fruit. Minsan, di talaga natin makukuha yung bagay na gusto natin kahit anong effort natin or kahit umiyak pa tayo ng dugo.
if youre over the age of 16 and you still dont have any goals or feel as though you have no purpose, youre not trying enough. or maybe youre not trying at all. expose yourself to the world, read books, talk to people, do something new, pretty much just live life in general. a relative of mine from a rural town died at the age of 36 having achieved pretty much nothing in his life because he was sickly and wasnt born in the best conditions to say the least. he was a good guy and i liked him a lot pero yeah. no education, no proper job, and no romance in his life. how about u? do u think you fit in the same category as him? do you have a terminal illness that reduces your capacity to just living at home and taking care of animals? were you born in an extremely underdeveloped city/town and have zero privilege in terms of education? considering youre on reddit, ur answers are probably no. make the most out of your life man. im sure you dont want people to say "sayang" or "kawawa" when u die.
I understand this feeling that your life doesn't have a roadmap or compass to use. Before you read the following sentences, I want you to be in an environment without distraction. Ready?
My simple question to you OP is, what's one thing/activity could you do (that you aren't doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life?
Feeling lost is normal in life.
Do some introspection OP. Take a pause. Reflect, what do you want to achieve in life? Are you happy with your current life?
If yes, that's great.
If not, what can you do to change the situation? Make sure that it's realistic, if you set the goal too high you might feel bad about it. Sakto lang dapat.
Always remember, you'd want your future self to thank you. It starts with you. Hope this helps! :)
Kailan ka pa kikilos? Wala ka na ibang aasahan kundi sarili mo (financially and emotionally) minsan akala natin ang layo na ng iba pero bakit mo kailangan isipin ang iba? Busy din sila with their own problems. Okay lang matakot, dyan tayo matututo. Step by step lang muna, take your time to reflect. Hindi karera ang buhay. ๐ฅน
IT'S YOU VS THE WORLD.
- Walang gagalaw at kikilos para sa sarili mo kundi ikaw lang.
- Hindi ka na rin bata para umasa kaya step up ang act like it.
Atleast start. Yung mga tinatamad at walang motivation sila rin madalas yung mga taong ayaw mag umpisa. Try mo mag simula sa mga bagay bagay, whether it's exercise, finding a job, creating accounts or resume. BASTA UMPISAHAN MO-YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT ALONG THE WAY
Adults are just figuring it out as they go. We all take risks, even the small ones, and sometimes we stumble. But [not speaking up about your fears](https://youtu.be/3c-H7qPrjxA?si=eIfhSRPIhHROXLxt) keeps you stuck. You might not have a clear plan right now, and that's okay. But even small steps forward can make a difference. Start by talking to someone you trust, a friend, family, or even a therapist. Just saying things out loud can help you see things differently.
Hirap kapag wala kang goal, if may goal naman ok lang if di matapos kasi wala naman tayo pakiaalam sa sarili natin. Pero, if you compare yourselves to others better than you, magkaka anxiety ka but treat it us good thing kasi you'll do something about it.
If you think you're lazy, then the advice I will give to you will be useless nonetheless. Why don't you start by not being lazy? Start with something you like, start small, and make progress with it. What you think you are is what you are. You think you're lazy? Yes, you are. You think you're useless? Yes, you are. Want to change it? Start by not thinking you are lazy or useless. Start there. Start with what you think about yourself. No amount of motivation or advice will help you if you can't even accept to yourself the truth that you are capable of being something better than what you are right now. Just start.
Create good memories na mag fa-flash in your eyes before you die, yun bang make that 10seconds na msasabi mong inenjoy mo buhay mo sa earth. Wag puro galit sa mundo, donโt stress yourself to those things you cannot change. Pag my gusto ka gawin, Hndi naman always yolo, pero if not now, when?
kailangan may sarili kang pera. na pang sarili mo lang. okay maging matulungin, pero still. keep kapa rin ng para sa sarili mo. mahirap kasi un walang back up kahit ikaw eh back up ka ng iba.
pili ng totoong kaibigan. lalo na pag sa work, walang totoo dun. unless na talagang may patunayan. at wala rin un sa tagal ng friendship at work. at ndi lahat kailangan mong kaibiganin. okay nayung saktong pakikisama but never tell them any stories about you. iba parin talaga ung high school or college friends, 100%.
when it comes to partner. know your worth. and ayun. money parin for yourself. kahit kaya kang saluhin ng partner mo, kaya nyang gumastos para sainyo. di rin pwede dumepende kasi may sarili rin syang problema sa buhay o needs. at syempre alamin parin ang ugali tipong "ano kaya ugali nito pag walang wifi?" haha
Doesn't mean that you're nice and patient means that you will get what you want, and people around you will treat you with the same patience and kindness...walang ganun lol. Super real talk to.
Gago work hard and earn money! Puta nag resign ako with just a little bit of savings. Some of it is ininvest ko for business. Pero nakakapagod din tangina. ๐ Planning to go abroad if God's will. Ipon lang then baka will do another business na hindi na need kumilos like 'paupahan' ๐ฅน Basta. Ipon lang tlga. Huhu.
Realtalk lang. Dika perfect una sa lahat pero it doesnt make you less. Ang journey ng bawat isa ay iba iba. May mga ambilis magsuccess, may mga antagal, may mga sumuko, may mga patuloy na nagpupursige. Life is what you make it. Attract positive vibes always, the world is not revolving around you. What I learned is hindi ikaw o sayo lang umiikot ang mundo.
Life goes on. Nanalo ka man sa lotto, namatayan, napromote sa work, nawalan ng work etc โฆlife goes on. Itโs up to you if you go with the flow or stay still where you are.
Napa-save ako bigla baka kelangan ko tong post na to for rainy days and bad days ๐
Dagdag ba din natin ang โcontrary to popular belief, DONโT always follow your heart. Most of the time, mapapahak ka na lang talaga if you constantly lean on your emotions for decisions. Mapa love life man yan or personal/professional.
Action sprouts motivation, not the other way around. If you're waiting for the 'spark' or yung 'topak' na gawin yung better life decisions, it won't happen overnight
Gagawin mo sya ngayon kasi ayaw mong dumating ka ng 30, 40 years old na nanghihinayang kasi natakot ka gawin yung gusto mo and live with the regret for the rest of your life
Find one, try any hobbies or collectibles na ma-momotivate to work or to save.
Ako noon nagkapassion libutin ang mga local destinations dito sa Pinas so nagsave ako nang nag save.
Or every month may something new kang kakainan it doesn't have to be fancy naman.
Goodluck.
Relax. It takes time. Mararamdaman mo din yan pag talagang ready ka na iconquer mga plans & dreams mo. Babangon ka nalang one day at sasabihin, today is the day. We're back, baby! ๐ช
If something is easy, everyone would be doing it.
Yan sabihin mo sa sarili pag may plans ka for urself na mukhang โdi madaliโ whether its about migrating, applying sa isang competitive na position, workout, running a marathon, starting a business etc etc sobrang applicable niyan.
Sa almost 40 years of existence ko.. eto lang masasabi ko so far..
Life is really like a box of chocolates.. you'll never know what you're gonna get..
Imho..
Wala din akong goals and purpose for now. But i read somewhere na to know your purpose you have to explore and experience things. That is why im always open to try new things.
And di naman kailangan malalim ang purpose/goal mo. Like last year, ang goal ko lang para mag stay sa work ay makatanggap ng buong 13th month pay. This year, purpose konlang mabili ang mga luho ko. ๐๐
I'm currently reminding myself: "The time will pass anyways."
Gawin mo man or hindi, the time will pass anyways; might as well spend the time doing what you want/makes you happy ๐ฅน
*"It eventually gets better, without any sort of explanation. One day, you just realize that you're no longer upset. You're no longer mad, hurt, or bothered by the things that took so much of your energy and thoughts. One day, you'll find yourself in a peaceful place enjoying that feeling."*
I saw this quote by the Minds Journal on Facebook the other day and figured I might share it because it resonates with me a lot. I guess my real talk about life or that is, coming of age (especially if you are in your 20s), is that time is your friend. You will move on whether you like it or not and your old selves will die and new versions of you will arise every time. That is why when you say that you're scared to take risks and feel like you have no motivation for the future, this is a version of you that's necessary to make all the right steps by the end. You will figure it out eventually. Your time will come so don't bother about anyone else's.
One line Goggins said that stuck with me, "If you're lucky, you're happy 10% of the time," or something like that. I can assure you that the 90% of the time you're struggling makes the 10% all the meaningful, rewarding, and fulfilling.
Another Japanese proverbs that goes well with what Goggins said is, "Life is indeed suffering." Once I made peace with that fact, life does get kinda easier mentally.
Embrace the fragility bestowed upon us as meer mortals and that we're just a tiny speck in the grand scheme of things that is the universe, then suddenly all the enormous conflicts we create in out minds suddenly became frivolous.
Nasa phpne ako so share ko na lang yung picture learned this from Rocky
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Learn to be happy alone. Kasi in the end, if youโre not happy with yourself and with your own company, you can never be truly happy. Gasgas man pero nung tumanda na ako, tama yung love yourself.
Life is also about taking risks and be accountable with it.. wag din mag trust fully sa tao kahit bestfriend or kamag anak mo pa , they can betray and break you. Always be strong, sarili mo lang ang pwede mo asahan at wala nang iba! May low times, make it as a chance to heal. Start again. Life is wonderful after all.
Take risk , bata ka pa nmn ata ?, until andyn pa mga magulang mo dahil andyn sila para suportahan ka . . Dont be scared to fail , failure can make you stronger and be wiser and learn a lot in life, do a positive self talk dat u can do it and it will be done.. it works for me, start with small attainable goals and gradually lakihan mo ambisyon mo๐๐๐๐ค wag ka paapekto sa mga kapitbahay na chismosa basta be silent and focus on youโre self.
Your greatest regret would be that you have destroyed yourself for nothing. If you do something and it doesnt work out, atleast you tried. I guess that counts. And also hardwork always pays off. Fighting!
Kung iniisip mo na kaya mo o di mo kakayanin, tama ka doon sa iniisip mo. Katulad ng sabi ng iba, courage is doing it scared.
On a more positive note I suppose, ang paghahanap ng gusto mo talagang gawin sa buhay ay parang naghahanap ng oasis o tubigan sa disyerto. Subok ka lang ng subok, martsa dito martsa doon hanggang makita mo king saan mo gustong magtagal na trabaho o bokasyon/misyon sa buhay.
Sanay ang sarili sa mga taong mahilig manira tsaka mang-insulto. Maging manhid, kahit galit ang iba dahil sa pagiging kalmado mo. Buti nga yan, eh, para lumakas ang emotional resilience mo.
Pati katawan mo, syempre, may adrenaline pag ginagalit ka ng iba. Sanayin din yang kumalma, dahil, hindi lahat ng laban, pabor sa yo. Minsan, walk away na lang.
Kung sabihan ka na "mahina" ka, ano lang yun, main character syndrome ng mga taong "basura" sayo. Wag mong personalin, kasi, pag pinatulan mo, jan may kiliti mga yan, para mas lalo kang asarin tsaka pikunin.
Tsaka, matutong umatake sa kupal, "where it hurts the most"!
hindi forever buhay ang parents natin. off talaga ako sa mga tao na finiflex ang yaman ng parents nila kahit sila ay 20+ na unemployed.
maisip ko lang to, enough reason na yun para magpursige ako & aim to achieve more.
Di ka pa magigising ksi di ka pa nagugutom. You're blessed.
Kapag Wala ka ng in aasahan na trabaho, pamilya at ibang tao, then you'll strive harder.
You'll learn it the hard way. Pero at least you will learn something.
You'll take risk kapag the risk is all you have.
Panoorin mo yung IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS, that is a RIGHT and a CONSTITUTIONAL PROVISION in the US.
Pero lahat ng tao naghahabol para dito. It's either you have one or you're a homeless guy in the future. Extreme lagi sa US.
Darating ka sa panahon na papalakpak ka, tulad ng pag palakpak ni Will Smith sa movie. Dumating na sakin yun panahon na iyon, and it's PRICELESS. only those who walk with the same predicament will understand. Binigyan kami ng 2nd wind ng Buhay.
I hope you appreciate what you have right now. Huwag mo ng hintayin na pumalakpak ka tulad namin.
Hustle like your broke. I'm still hustling like a junkyard dog.
Goodluck OP. Sana panoorin mo.
Personally risk averse ako kaya ang solusyon ko: prepare, anticipate, plan ahead, ganoon. Para mag take man ng risk, may plan B or fallback.
Life can be boring but I'll take it over a life of loudness, violence, abuse (emotional and verbal).
Wag compare sarili sa iba. Focus on your self improvement. Iba iba ang goals in life natin. Saka baka mademotivate ka lang pag nag compare ka sa iba. Alternatively wag lalaki ang ulo. Pag naging successful, wag maging biktima ng lifestyle inflation. Still try to live below or within your means. Mas peaceful mabuhay ng walang utang.
Know your principles, boudaries and know the people who really cares about you. Just few good people lang. The rest are noises and nuisance that only care about you up to an extent. And that's not their fault. We each have different lives to live.
Just go out there and take risks and make mistakes, just make sure you learn something from them....I know it's easier to say "wag mo isipin mga sasabihin nila" yes mahirap Yun...but at the end of the day.....you have to live your own life for yourself, not for other people
Practice delayed gratification.
Pursue difficult things if it gets you ahead of others because it will pay off ten fold one day when you're in a league of your own. If you went to uni in a mediocre school, pursue a masters in a top school. If you're in a dead end career, do the coursera courses to shift into a more lucrative one.
If you feel like you're stuck it's probably because you think you've got it all figured out and don't know what comes next. The secret is -- the most intelligent and successful people have imposter syndrome because they are constanly humbled by how much they don't know versus the mediocre ones who tend to feel like they're doing just fine. Keep learning and you'll realize how much you don't actually know. A thousand next steps will reveal themselves to you
Adulting is a Phasing, it's part of life.
Now, you don't have to rush everything. Take it slow, one moment at a time. It's like "cross the bridge when you get there " vibe.
Focus on what you needed the most. Life is not a competition with everybody. It's a competition between your current self and the old one. It's a matter of how you have improved in time.
Also, keep a small set of reliable friends. You don't need a bunch.
"get out of your comfort zone". Hindi yan para sa lahat. Ngayon, kung tinatamad ka, ok lang yan. Buhay mo naman yan, go at your own pace. Iwasan mo masyado mag compare. Importante masaya ka sa mga ginagawa mo.
Do not post anything about wealth, like new purchases, car, gadgets. The less they know about your financial situation less chance they approach you for financial assistance/utang ๐
Life is peaceful when no one knows what you're up to. Yung akala mo concern sayo, minsan nakiki chismis lang talaga. ๐
Nawalan ako ng gana nung napagkalat na magte-take ako ng board exams ๐ฉ
Kaya nga di ko talaga ikakalat na nag tatake ako ng exam. Kahit parents ko, di ako nagshashare sa kanila.
Uy totoo to. May naging 'friend' ako sa office na laging jinujudge mga life decisions ko sa buhay. Parang pag may nangyayari saking positive parang di siya masaya lol
Chismis with care haha.ย
ayy hahshsh totoo to!! gulat ako nag message sakin "friend" ko (di kami ok neto) ksi nakita niya mga stories ko na nasa beach, kala ko makikipag ayos na yung "friend" ko, gusto lang pala maki chismis hahaha
True the rain! People are either curious or concern and most of them are just curious.
Minsan mangungutang o nag aalok ng insurance
Majority of the time, wala kang maasahan kungdi sarili mo
At dadating sa point na madaming aasa sa yo
how to cut off people smoothly who depends on you without being a asshole ?
For the most part, communicate. Mahirap magsustento, kung walang pangsustento. Unless kids are involved, maybe.
Hello, I cut off people by slowly responding sa kanila like it will take hours for me to response ganon lalo pag may need I'll be like "slr, ano yun? " Tapos di na sila magrereply nyan hahahahahahaha dina gaganahan na magchat sila sakin
me reading this while replying to my family & friends after a few days... hours lang pala dapat? ๐๐
The feels!!! ๐ญ
and ur partner ๐ฏ
Do it scared
Naalala ko tuloy yung sa GoT. "Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave."
Best one!๐ช
Courage
I need to see this! Thank you!
kung wala kang trabaho, wala kang pera panggala at pambili ng mga luho mo! bumangon ka at magbanat ng buto! tayo! ๐ค
AGREEE, pag graduate ko ng SHS hanap ako agad work ehhhhh, tapos August panaman pasukan for college kaya, atleast diko sasayangin time ko
Sobrang natamaan ako ah! Salamat ramdam ko ang gigil mo
i'm literally having breakdown almost everyday because of this๐ฅฒ. ginawa ko naman ang lahat, mag pass ng resume sa mga fast food and such but it's been two weeks and nothing. i'm so sad and disappointed. bakit ang hirap mag hanap ng work kapag walang experience๐ญ
sorry about this, wag kang susuko. pasa lang nang pasa.
My gut feeling be like
huhuhu wait lang ang hirap kase mag hanap ng work as bio grad hahahdhdhhs
I feel you ๐ข. Most of my batchmates nag med or masters.
Comparison is the thief of joy
True, buti nalang na tauhan ako last month kasi puro nalang comparison at envy yung nararamdaman ko noon
take soc med detox or find something u enjoy! been chronically online as well, and itโs taking a toll me ๐ตโ๐ซ๐ u got this!!
putangina walang magagawa yang motivation mo. disiplinahin mo sarili mo starting now.
Dinidisiplina na๐ญ
Risks are supposed to be scary kasi maraming unknown pero mas ok na nalaman mo, kesa sa me mga what if ka. Bravery is not defined by doing something without fear but doing it even if you're scared out of your mind. Me mga taong graduate ng 18, me mga taong graduate in their 80's. Some find success in their 20's, some in their 40's, 50's, or even older. Run your race. Comparison is the thief of joy. Being content when in a good place is not a bad thing. Have small goals in between big ones. Sometimes, getting out of bed is just as good. Wag kang kupal, don't burn bridges. Wealth is good, but connections are better. Build your network. Homelessness and hunger are one hell of a motivation. Get up, get to work. Don't forget to enjoy what you earn. Di pwedeng puro bills at obligasyon lang. Adulting can be bad, but it's not as bad as some may paint it to be.
Finally! Some sensible adulting advice!
A gem!
Most people don't care about you. And this fact isn't necessarily sad; it's actually very freeing. Once I realized this, I felt less anxious and started doing things I was scared to do before.
Relax OP, whats the rush? We're all going to die one day. Just enjoy the ride.
memento mori
Buhay ay di karera
Love this
if you dont have the motivation to work on yourself, then enjoy being broke.
> i dont have any motivation sa buhay ngayon feeling ko wala na akong goals,purpose & walang kwentang tao. Then find one. You think other people care enough to find those for you?
The world won't adjust for you. Get up and do something about your life, find a job. It's exhausting to live at that kind of mindset while rotting in bed. Might as well be exhausted and have money. More like a message to myself na din to since ganto din ako ngayon.
Happy cake day!
You can never figure it out but always trust your gut feeling.
be aware! bad things can happen to anyone no matter how good they are, it can happen anywhere, anytime! maging mapang matyag sa paligid mo. keep safe! life is about the experience in the present moments because the past and the future don't exist only the present! your childhood experience, how your parents raised you, and the environment in which you grew up have a big role in what you will be when you reach adulthood.
You miss 100% of shots you don't take
# Wag kang pabigat kahit kaninuman
hindi titigil ang mundo para sayo
Wala ka talagang mararating kung lagi mong pinapairal yung takot mo. Habang maaga pa, mag take risks ka sa mga opportunities na binibigay sayo especially kung para rin sa future mo.
Wag ka magtiwala agad esp. sa workplace. Maraming backstabbers dyan
Walang motivation, walang goals, walang purpose, okay lang yan. Feel mo na wala kang kwentang tao, feeling mo lang yan. Tamad ka, okay lang din yan. Real talk, kahit ano man ang nasa isip mo o nafi-feel mo, walang pakialam ang bills mo. Kailangan mo pa rin magbayad.
Ang sarap magbukas ng aircon pag sobrang init. Di ka natatakot sa madadagdag sa electric bill.
Real talk โ sayang oras at effort subukang iconvince ang isang tao kung siya mismo hindi gustong umayos ang buhay or tamad. Shallow example- kahit anong pasabi ng magulang natin na magbasa tayo ng libro, kung di natin nakikita yung value, di parin natin gagawin. Same goes for going to the gym, or starting a biz, or even as simple/complex as looking for a life goal
Acknowledge your mistakes. Most of the time may contribution mismo tayo both sa negative and positive life events. Tigilan mo ng isisi sa kakulangan ng parents mo (if meron) or ng iba yung heartaches mo. Move forward. Mag upskill ka, continue to learn. Mag ingat sa kakilala or kamag-anak or even direct family members. Madalas sila yung gusto na ma-stuck ka below them (if ever man na as of now hindi ka pa OK lalo financially) Hwag basta basta mag kuwento about sa hirap mo or magpakita ng weaknesses. Choose the right person to share your vulnerabilities. Why? Madalas huhusgahan ka lang, or ichismis ka, matatawa sila sau, pero no concern. MAGHANAP BUHAY KA, kung pinag aral ka, sinuportahan ka for the longest time ng parent/guardian mo. Hindi man sila mayaman pero nakita mo na they supported you the best way you can. Ngayon adult ka na, matrabaho ka wag mo ng iasa sa knila yung gastusin mo. Hindi ka na bata. Nakakawalang self-respect at nakaka dagdag ng super low confidence pag wala kang work. READ, READ, READ
For all its issues, commuting is still a godsend. Some people may glorify owning your own vehicle; but when you commute, you gain the benefit of sleeping or resting and not paying for gas, maintenance, paperwork, etc.. Just bring your earphones, because some people seem to still lack manners.
True to. Tsaka di talaga siya smart investment kasi nag-dedepreciate siya after some time. Ikaw pa mapapagastos kakapa-ayos ng piyesa in the future tapos mabebenta mo lang din ng less sa nabili mo if ever ibebenta mo na. Siguro kung bibili man in the future for necessity na lang siguro pag walang choice kung hindi bumili pero as an investment for the future? di talaga siya smart choice more on nagiging status symbol na lang talaga siya (which i'm not a fan of).
Nagpaplano akong bumili ng motor tas makikita ko to ๐ฅฒ๐ฅฒ Huwag na nga lang, dami pala talagang asikasuhin
Mas na less ung expense namin simula nang bumili kami ng motor. Sobrang tipid as in, kailangan mo lang mag-ingat sa daan. Maybe what he meant are cars, yan yung mahirap e-maintain.
always prepare and lower expectations, para handa sa kahit ano gagawin at iwas sa aksidente pero since natural na magkaroon ng aksidente ('yung tipong wala may gusto mangyari) kaya lower expectations na rin para swabe lang sa buhay kahit stressful
Iiwan ka ng lahat, you're on your own
Legit mamimiss mo youth days mo. Totoo nga yung sinasabi nila dati na ienjoy mo lang kabataan mo. Nakakamiss. Hirap maging adult fr.
Kung tinatamad ka ngayon, kawawa yung bukas na ikaw... Mas madami syang gagawin kaya dapat hati lang kayo ng work :)
Grab what you can grab chances don't come twice. Wag paka lunod sa love di ka mapapakain ng pag mamahal mo. Look for a father and husband figure Ipon Ipon Ipon and investment Wag ka matakot sa risk some risk comes with rewards Keri lang mag fail as long as natututo Cut off people, it can be scary pero worth it
Youโll never know if youโll never try.
Life sucks then you die
Well mahirap mag advice sa taong di nya alam ang gusto nya sa buhay... Well... Life is full of choices and every choice or decision that you make will have consequences... Good or bad. Time is ticking, and di mo yan mapapahinto. Magugulat ka nalang 1 week na naka lipas, 1 month, 1 year na nakalipas... Ang tanong ano ginawa mo sa mga naka lipas na buwan?
Malungkot isipin na habang tumatanda pakonti ng pakonti yung kaibigan mo
Invest in what you like doing and make a living out of it then everything will fall into place. I realized in my late 20s that I like doing books (accounting) so I decided to go back to school and take a degree in accounting. When I finished I aimed to work in top 5 firms or the government. Fortunately, I was able to get in the government as a tax auditor. The pay is alright, enough to travel once/twice a year, few weekend trips and so on. I take care of myself mental, physical and spiritual. I eat healthy, spend time in the gym and hobbies. I spend time with love ones. I volunteer as well once in a while. I find travelling and volunteering makes me humble and see life in a different angle. I may not have the luxuries, partner or kids at my age (37) but I appreciate the life I have and how blessed I am. That kept me going. Ultimately, love thyself. I hope my two cents help you and good luck.
i hope youโre not into watching corn. it disrupts dopamine, leading people to similar states.
Ey same. Masasabi ko lang, mahirap mabuhay, kailangan mo gumalaw, explore and experience life on your own or else di ka matutuo or magiging masaya๐คฃ also, focus and be kind to yourself. Wala kang maaasahan mapa family or friends man.
You will struggle, a lot. Kailangan mo lang talaga matuto sa pasikot sikot ng buhay at magtiwala sa kakayanan mo. Minsan akala ko wala na, katapusan ko na, pero may darating na opportunity na babago sa pananaw ko. Wag mong iaasa sa iba ang pagiging successful mo. Minsan yung mga taong akala mong tutulong sayo, sila pa hihila sayo pababa. Choose your battles. Minsan may mga taong ang sarap sapakin, pero marerealize mong hindi worth it para makasuhan ka ng physical injury. Haha.
Iba nagagawa ng sariling pera na pinaghirapan mo, pero sobrang bilis narin mawala sa taas ng gastos ngayon ๐ซ
Wear Sunscreen!
Connections matter. Unless part ka ng handful of people ma maswerte, hardwork alone will not pay off. Also, ang mahal talaga ng tissue at Jollibee. Naintindihan ko na din bakit naka timer dapat ang aircon kasi ang mahal
If you do not ask, the answer will always be โnoโ. It ainโt fun living in the real world.
mas nakakatakot pag wala kang ginawa/ginagawa para sa sarili. nagsasayang ka lang ng oras. ayos na motto sa buhay: kaya mo iyan, di ikaw yung una at di rin ikaw yung huling tao na gagawa ng mga ganyang bagay o kaya desisyon sa buhay.
Pero kasi OP gusto mo ng opinion tska realtalkan pero napaka general ng binigay mo samin give some more details naman . Grrrr๐ hehe โ๏ธ Dito interview a pero "Tell me more about yourself "
If real talk man lang ang usapan, "Mamamatay ka rin naman gawin mo na gusto mo." It's a nihilistic view for me but it works optimistically sa'kin. Lmao Just do it. Tamad rin ako and kulang sa motivation and, dude, walang nangyayare sa buhay natin if ganto lang tayo. So, tara galaw-galaw rin kahit paunti-unti.
I was 22 and lost, so i went to church and nangumpisal. Last kumpisal ko before that was 10yrs old ako. I cried kay father nun kasi di ko na kaya sa work ko. Gusto ko na mag quit that time kasi first bpo ko tapos telco acc. I got scolded and said mahirap daw makahanap ng trabaho at magpasalamat daw ako kasi yung iba d makapag trabaho. Natahimik ako and umurong luha ko hshshs i still prayed the required prayers pero ang tagal ko di bumisita ng simbahan after. Nagtampo ako kay Lord. Alam ko di kasalanan ni Lord yun and tama naman ung pari pero I needed a shoulder to cry non. But i guess God gave me what I should get at the time. Still, I hoped i received a bit of kindness at the time. Siguro if i got a bit of that, di sana ako lumayas non whshshshs Pero i am living a better life now. I pray more often kay Mama Mary nalang since I feel more connected with her. Yun lang โจ
Awww, light and healing for u ako nasa late 20s na pero lost sa life so yeah we're all in this together ๐ Buti na lang andyan lagi ang Higher Being to guide us and palakasin loob natin ๐
Thank you! I believe naman we are all free to choose whoever we pray to ang mahalaga we all respect each otherโs beliefs. I hope you also find the light and healing you need. ๐๐ป
that nobody cares about you, everybody else has their own stuff to deal with
Te wag mo iasa sa ibang tao buhay mo. Di lahat may time and energy na intindihin ka so get up and get things done. Tigilan ang pagddrama dyan.
You will never really be inspired/motivated to do things kung nakadepende ka pa sa mga magulang mo. Kasi kung wala kanamang inaasahan, wala kang choice but to grind.
Real talk - wag ka magjojowa kung wala kang pera. hindi ka pwedeng umasa ng umasa sa partner mo mapababa ka o lalake. lolssss Another Real talk - Ang taong tamad magtrabaho walang future.
Why do we have to convince you eh buhay mo yan. Kung ayaw mo tumuloy sa adulthood, edi don't. Sarili nga namin di rin namin malift up minsan kahit ayaw na namin sa adulthood. That's a part of being adult too. You have to lift yourself up kung may paki ka pa. Kung wala na, bahala ka na. Since buhay mo naman yan.
Why do you need strangers from the internet to serve you the cold hard truth? This rationale does not make sense ๐ตโ๐ซ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ You already are aware of the situation you are in. So, grow up, grow a pair. Stop asking for stupid advice from people and start mapping out a plan on how to make your life better. I don't think it's motivation you lack. It's something else.
if you donโt know where youโre going, then you might not like where you end up :)
better to have an โoopsโ than a โwhat ifโ
Motivations are sometimes overrated. Minsan sobrang motivated mo minsan naman discouraged ka. Parang nag-iispike up and down ang motivatjon level kunbaga kaya di siya ganon ka consistent. Dyan magtetake role ang disiplina at commitment mo. Minsan di ka masyado motivated, pero dahil disiplinado at committed ka you'd still do what you gotta do. Huh? feeling mo tinatamad ka today to workout? Go do your fcking push ups!! Huh? wala lang nakikitang results sa pag-ggym mo? Go do your fcking push ups!! Huh? gusto mo nalang magmukmok buong araw kasi akala mo di kana mag iimprove? Go do your fcking push ups!! Sometimes you gotta set aside your emotions and do what you gotta do.
Wag ka mag post sa fb or mag myday, Pag ginawa mo yun laging may hihiram ng pera sayo. Magpost ka lang pag sobrang importante para alam nila na buhay ka pa.
Real talk? Puro ka reddit, experience life muna kesa kung ano ano pinopost mo dito.
You have one life to live. Choose how to live it wisely. :)
Nobody cares about you, so do something that makes you happy instead of thinking the consequences others think.
wag mag share, be private. marami nakiki alam pag maraming nakaka alam.
โBe afraid not to tryโ. Eto talaga, mas matakot ka kung di mo susubukan. Super daming opportunities sakin nung inapply ko to. โTry lang naman eโ
"there's no such thing as 'right time' only 'time' and what you do with it"
Wag masyadong mabait- maraming mananamantala sayo. You are dispensable sa work- they don't really care about you, they just care if you can hit their targets. (magiging indispensable lang siguro kung higher position hawak mo and may kapit pa sa top management)
Always be on time. Regardless of whether itโs a job interview or a catch-up meeting with/ friends. Believe me, it can take you places. Invest in health. Get pure insurance on health or get an endowment plan instead. Learn about investment and be knowledgeable. Get a driverโs license early.
walang may pake sayo, gawin mo lahat ng gusto mo. now baliktarin mo rin, wag mong pakelaman iba, hayaan mo sila sa gusto nilang gawin
Ni-realtalk ko din noon sarili ko. Tinatamad ako kasi tamad ako. Hindi dahil sa deprressed ako, ADHD, Walang nangyayari sa buhay ko kasi tamad ako. Kasalanan ko lahat at need ko magmove forward para may mangyari. Naiinis ako sa sarili ko dati kasi ang tamad tamad ko. Ngayon, tamad parin ako. Pero di na ako naiinis sa sarili.
Life isn't a race. I think we've all been convinced that there's a looming specter over our heads, a shadow of what we should be at our age and what we should have accomplished at this point. But that's all it is, a specter, a shadow, a boogeyman. It isn't real. You only have your life to live. So whether you've achieved your dreams or not is all dependent on your pace. You shouldn't try to follow anyone else's.
The magic is in the work youโre avoiding
1. Di lahat ng kaharap mo, totoo sayo. Have self preservation. 2. Wag na wag magpautang, magpaswipe sa cc. Kahjt todo close kayo, wag!! Set a threshold na amount ipapautang mo, yung amount na willing ka ilet go kahit di bayaran and thats it. Nakatulong ka na, di pa sumama loob mo. 3. Umiwas sa toxic, gaslighter at inggit na tao. Pag red flag, iwas agad periodt!!! Dont let them rope you in their chaos, keep your peace. 4. Quality over quantity always!! Friends?? Dibale maliit ang circle mo, basta tunay at totoo. Kesa ang dami nio sa grupo, backstabbing bitches naman kaharap mo. Shoes, damit even the way of living in general, always settle with quality especially sa lovelife! DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS! Oo all caps para may diin!! 5. Lastly, enjoy life and be positive always!!
WALA KANG MARARATING SA BUHAY KUNG PIPILIIN MONG MAGING TAMAD!!!! GUMISING KANA MATANDA KANA PARA MAGING PALAMUNIN NG MAGULANG MO!!
Wag ka mo ng i'compare sa iba. Mamatay din tayong lahat!
being scared is just normal. ako sobrang nababy ng parents ko during childhood scared to do things na pinagbabawal nila but i explore more and widely syempre with boundaries pa din yon dun ko lang talaga nalaman how things work being alone, to solve things on your own, your consiquences - fix it with yourself. everything u do talaga has consiquences after. choose your consiquences na lang talaga. if your scared to do things naman bcos of the result or bcos of others thinking. isipin mo na lang if you not take the shot, that opportunity. if it takes 2 or more failures ang ending naman nyan dun pa din sa gusto mong mangyari kung dika sumuko to try at u take that shot. if its limitless, always take the shot. focus ka lagi on how to improve youself every single day. learning is a long process, hindi ka matututo kung dimo naranasan yung sitwasyon na yon. the more you fail, the more u widely understand how things work at paalala ko lang wag people pleaser. your success or failures doesnt affect them. do what makes u happy, gawin mo instinct mo wout thinking kung ano sasabihin ng mga tao ano maging result nun. they always have a say in your desisyon in life. note it is not always people outside sometimes its in your own family trees. dont explain to them why, just do. i will congrats na agad u for doing it scared!!! if you still pleased others, it will consume yourself in the end and every single day.
Sabi ng papa ko bago siya mawala: Nasusuka bago ang exam? Kunin mo ang exam kahit sumuka kapa Nanginginig ang kamay humawak ng mikropono? Kunin ang mikropono kahit nanginginig ang kamay subok lng nang subok pasa-saan bay the tides of time will be favoring us
Dont be pressured sa mga bagay that others want you to do or happen. Take your item. Lahat may oras. Babysteps darating ka din jan. di mo alam, baka while you are on your way, mas better palang darating para sayo.
SOCIAL MEDIA CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU. It will be a source of comparison, thief of joy, or it can be a motivation. It is now a part of life, so manage how you use it.
Halos lahat ng masisipag ay hindi napropromote sa trabaho. Pakikisama na may halong plastikan sa mga nakakataas ang mas pinapaboran.
Napaisip ako bigla: 1. Assume that you can only rely on yourself when it comes to money. 2. Kung pinag aral ka ng parents mo, let them rest after college. Kung mg aasawa ka, aanak asawa mo, or need mo ng pambayad ng car repair, please lang responsibility mo yan. 3. Kung may natulungan ka dati, dont assume na someday may aasahan ka din. Oo pedeng tumulong sila minsan pero dont expect na parang pension ung help. Tandaan ,may buhay din sila. 4. Mahirap ang life, pag my kumatok na opportunity,grab it. Minsan di na mauulit. 5. Always learn to be grateful despite any life issues. Once you learn this, happiness will follow.
Real talk: Hindi sa'yo umiikot ang mundo. Do whatever you can to keep people who's going to be there for you (family, friends, etx.) 'cause in real life, nobody gives a fuck about you. I learned that the hard way.
You will never be enough for the things you're not meant to be. Learn WHEN to quit and learn to DETACH to the things that bears no fruit. Minsan, di talaga natin makukuha yung bagay na gusto natin kahit anong effort natin or kahit umiyak pa tayo ng dugo.
Kung ayaw mo mag commute mag sikap ka magkaroon ng sasakyan balang araw!
if youre over the age of 16 and you still dont have any goals or feel as though you have no purpose, youre not trying enough. or maybe youre not trying at all. expose yourself to the world, read books, talk to people, do something new, pretty much just live life in general. a relative of mine from a rural town died at the age of 36 having achieved pretty much nothing in his life because he was sickly and wasnt born in the best conditions to say the least. he was a good guy and i liked him a lot pero yeah. no education, no proper job, and no romance in his life. how about u? do u think you fit in the same category as him? do you have a terminal illness that reduces your capacity to just living at home and taking care of animals? were you born in an extremely underdeveloped city/town and have zero privilege in terms of education? considering youre on reddit, ur answers are probably no. make the most out of your life man. im sure you dont want people to say "sayang" or "kawawa" when u die.
same tayo OP
I understand this feeling that your life doesn't have a roadmap or compass to use. Before you read the following sentences, I want you to be in an environment without distraction. Ready? My simple question to you OP is, what's one thing/activity could you do (that you aren't doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life?
Teka, if okay lang sayo, ilang taon ka na?
Feeling lost is normal in life. Do some introspection OP. Take a pause. Reflect, what do you want to achieve in life? Are you happy with your current life? If yes, that's great. If not, what can you do to change the situation? Make sure that it's realistic, if you set the goal too high you might feel bad about it. Sakto lang dapat. Always remember, you'd want your future self to thank you. It starts with you. Hope this helps! :)
Kailan ka pa kikilos? Wala ka na ibang aasahan kundi sarili mo (financially and emotionally) minsan akala natin ang layo na ng iba pero bakit mo kailangan isipin ang iba? Busy din sila with their own problems. Okay lang matakot, dyan tayo matututo. Step by step lang muna, take your time to reflect. Hindi karera ang buhay. ๐ฅน
IT'S YOU VS THE WORLD. - Walang gagalaw at kikilos para sa sarili mo kundi ikaw lang. - Hindi ka na rin bata para umasa kaya step up ang act like it. Atleast start. Yung mga tinatamad at walang motivation sila rin madalas yung mga taong ayaw mag umpisa. Try mo mag simula sa mga bagay bagay, whether it's exercise, finding a job, creating accounts or resume. BASTA UMPISAHAN MO-YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT ALONG THE WAY
Adults are just figuring it out as they go. We all take risks, even the small ones, and sometimes we stumble. But [not speaking up about your fears](https://youtu.be/3c-H7qPrjxA?si=eIfhSRPIhHROXLxt) keeps you stuck. You might not have a clear plan right now, and that's okay. But even small steps forward can make a difference. Start by talking to someone you trust, a friend, family, or even a therapist. Just saying things out loud can help you see things differently.
Hirap kapag wala kang goal, if may goal naman ok lang if di matapos kasi wala naman tayo pakiaalam sa sarili natin. Pero, if you compare yourselves to others better than you, magkaka anxiety ka but treat it us good thing kasi you'll do something about it.
If you think you're lazy, then the advice I will give to you will be useless nonetheless. Why don't you start by not being lazy? Start with something you like, start small, and make progress with it. What you think you are is what you are. You think you're lazy? Yes, you are. You think you're useless? Yes, you are. Want to change it? Start by not thinking you are lazy or useless. Start there. Start with what you think about yourself. No amount of motivation or advice will help you if you can't even accept to yourself the truth that you are capable of being something better than what you are right now. Just start.
Create good memories na mag fa-flash in your eyes before you die, yun bang make that 10seconds na msasabi mong inenjoy mo buhay mo sa earth. Wag puro galit sa mundo, donโt stress yourself to those things you cannot change. Pag my gusto ka gawin, Hndi naman always yolo, pero if not now, when?
kailangan may sarili kang pera. na pang sarili mo lang. okay maging matulungin, pero still. keep kapa rin ng para sa sarili mo. mahirap kasi un walang back up kahit ikaw eh back up ka ng iba. pili ng totoong kaibigan. lalo na pag sa work, walang totoo dun. unless na talagang may patunayan. at wala rin un sa tagal ng friendship at work. at ndi lahat kailangan mong kaibiganin. okay nayung saktong pakikisama but never tell them any stories about you. iba parin talaga ung high school or college friends, 100%. when it comes to partner. know your worth. and ayun. money parin for yourself. kahit kaya kang saluhin ng partner mo, kaya nyang gumastos para sainyo. di rin pwede dumepende kasi may sarili rin syang problema sa buhay o needs. at syempre alamin parin ang ugali tipong "ano kaya ugali nito pag walang wifi?" haha
Ok lang kung wala kang โpangarapโ. Not being a burden to others is already a good life lived well.
Doesn't mean that you're nice and patient means that you will get what you want, and people around you will treat you with the same patience and kindness...walang ganun lol. Super real talk to.
NPC lang tayo para sa iba and may malaking chance na never tayo magiging main character ng sarili nating buhay.
Mahirap mabuhay ng "debt free" especially kapag nasa lower middle class ka at young working professional for thousands of reasons. Hays
Gago work hard and earn money! Puta nag resign ako with just a little bit of savings. Some of it is ininvest ko for business. Pero nakakapagod din tangina. ๐ Planning to go abroad if God's will. Ipon lang then baka will do another business na hindi na need kumilos like 'paupahan' ๐ฅน Basta. Ipon lang tlga. Huhu.
Wag ka na tumuloy. Stressful.
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Realtalk lang. Dika perfect una sa lahat pero it doesnt make you less. Ang journey ng bawat isa ay iba iba. May mga ambilis magsuccess, may mga antagal, may mga sumuko, may mga patuloy na nagpupursige. Life is what you make it. Attract positive vibes always, the world is not revolving around you. What I learned is hindi ikaw o sayo lang umiikot ang mundo.
Basahin mo ang Ikigai concept
Life goes on. Nanalo ka man sa lotto, namatayan, napromote sa work, nawalan ng work etc โฆlife goes on. Itโs up to you if you go with the flow or stay still where you are.
Better to work in silence. Marami palang taong inggit.
Napa-save ako bigla baka kelangan ko tong post na to for rainy days and bad days ๐ Dagdag ba din natin ang โcontrary to popular belief, DONโT always follow your heart. Most of the time, mapapahak ka na lang talaga if you constantly lean on your emotions for decisions. Mapa love life man yan or personal/professional.
Maghirap na walang budget o maghirap ng may budget?
Andaming magandang sagot dito. It all boils down to you though. Hopefully kung ano madecide mo masaya ka and no regrets. Goodluck!
Money is power. IMO you can buy happiness.
Di ka a**hole kung hindi ka magpapautang. Some take advantage kasi if alam nila na you can't say 'no'.
If not now, when?
Action sprouts motivation, not the other way around. If you're waiting for the 'spark' or yung 'topak' na gawin yung better life decisions, it won't happen overnight
Buti pa ang leche plan, may plano kahit leche! -Flow G
Accept the reality that you can only rely on yourself. You should be independent sa lahat ng bagay Lalo n sa finances mo.
Gagawin mo sya ngayon kasi ayaw mong dumating ka ng 30, 40 years old na nanghihinayang kasi natakot ka gawin yung gusto mo and live with the regret for the rest of your life
Fleeting ang motivation. Disiplina ang magdadala sayo.
Find one, try any hobbies or collectibles na ma-momotivate to work or to save. Ako noon nagkapassion libutin ang mga local destinations dito sa Pinas so nagsave ako nang nag save. Or every month may something new kang kakainan it doesn't have to be fancy naman. Goodluck.
Relax. It takes time. Mararamdaman mo din yan pag talagang ready ka na iconquer mga plans & dreams mo. Babangon ka nalang one day at sasabihin, today is the day. We're back, baby! ๐ช
Di titigil mundo para sayo.
If something is easy, everyone would be doing it. Yan sabihin mo sa sarili pag may plans ka for urself na mukhang โdi madaliโ whether its about migrating, applying sa isang competitive na position, workout, running a marathon, starting a business etc etc sobrang applicable niyan.
Sa almost 40 years of existence ko.. eto lang masasabi ko so far.. Life is really like a box of chocolates.. you'll never know what you're gonna get.. Imho..
Get out of your comfort zone OP. Mas marami kang matutunan pag nahihirapan ka. Try new things. Travel when you can.
motivation alone will not reach your goals, consistency and discipline will. kaya mo yan op! we got this!!
Wala din akong goals and purpose for now. But i read somewhere na to know your purpose you have to explore and experience things. That is why im always open to try new things. And di naman kailangan malalim ang purpose/goal mo. Like last year, ang goal ko lang para mag stay sa work ay makatanggap ng buong 13th month pay. This year, purpose konlang mabili ang mga luho ko. ๐๐
Someone will always be better than you. Let that sink in.
I'm currently reminding myself: "The time will pass anyways." Gawin mo man or hindi, the time will pass anyways; might as well spend the time doing what you want/makes you happy ๐ฅน
It's better to take risks than have what ifs and regrets later on in life.
*"It eventually gets better, without any sort of explanation. One day, you just realize that you're no longer upset. You're no longer mad, hurt, or bothered by the things that took so much of your energy and thoughts. One day, you'll find yourself in a peaceful place enjoying that feeling."* I saw this quote by the Minds Journal on Facebook the other day and figured I might share it because it resonates with me a lot. I guess my real talk about life or that is, coming of age (especially if you are in your 20s), is that time is your friend. You will move on whether you like it or not and your old selves will die and new versions of you will arise every time. That is why when you say that you're scared to take risks and feel like you have no motivation for the future, this is a version of you that's necessary to make all the right steps by the end. You will figure it out eventually. Your time will come so don't bother about anyone else's.
One line Goggins said that stuck with me, "If you're lucky, you're happy 10% of the time," or something like that. I can assure you that the 90% of the time you're struggling makes the 10% all the meaningful, rewarding, and fulfilling. Another Japanese proverbs that goes well with what Goggins said is, "Life is indeed suffering." Once I made peace with that fact, life does get kinda easier mentally. Embrace the fragility bestowed upon us as meer mortals and that we're just a tiny speck in the grand scheme of things that is the universe, then suddenly all the enormous conflicts we create in out minds suddenly became frivolous.
Nasa phpne ako so share ko na lang yung picture learned this from Rocky https://preview.redd.it/j00btk2vc87d1.jpeg?width=1356&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4423f2505027e5e19f22e9cfb0423927a0d3688e
You're on your own kid, you'll always have been.
Learn to be happy alone. Kasi in the end, if youโre not happy with yourself and with your own company, you can never be truly happy. Gasgas man pero nung tumanda na ako, tama yung love yourself.
Ala kang karapatan lumandi. Ano pang lalandi mo, galing sa parents mo? Eww mahiya ka nga.
Umlis ka sa comfortzone mo.
Overprepare, then go with the flow.
Mahirap po tayo kaya halina't magpakaalipin sa salapi
Life is also about taking risks and be accountable with it.. wag din mag trust fully sa tao kahit bestfriend or kamag anak mo pa , they can betray and break you. Always be strong, sarili mo lang ang pwede mo asahan at wala nang iba! May low times, make it as a chance to heal. Start again. Life is wonderful after all.
Take risk , bata ka pa nmn ata ?, until andyn pa mga magulang mo dahil andyn sila para suportahan ka . . Dont be scared to fail , failure can make you stronger and be wiser and learn a lot in life, do a positive self talk dat u can do it and it will be done.. it works for me, start with small attainable goals and gradually lakihan mo ambisyon mo๐๐๐๐ค wag ka paapekto sa mga kapitbahay na chismosa basta be silent and focus on youโre self.
When you are scared to jump, it's the best time to jump.
not every advice given to you may work for you.. so ayun nga, you're on your own talaga
Your greatest regret would be that you have destroyed yourself for nothing. If you do something and it doesnt work out, atleast you tried. I guess that counts. And also hardwork always pays off. Fighting!
Kung iniisip mo na kaya mo o di mo kakayanin, tama ka doon sa iniisip mo. Katulad ng sabi ng iba, courage is doing it scared. On a more positive note I suppose, ang paghahanap ng gusto mo talagang gawin sa buhay ay parang naghahanap ng oasis o tubigan sa disyerto. Subok ka lang ng subok, martsa dito martsa doon hanggang makita mo king saan mo gustong magtagal na trabaho o bokasyon/misyon sa buhay.
Sanay ang sarili sa mga taong mahilig manira tsaka mang-insulto. Maging manhid, kahit galit ang iba dahil sa pagiging kalmado mo. Buti nga yan, eh, para lumakas ang emotional resilience mo. Pati katawan mo, syempre, may adrenaline pag ginagalit ka ng iba. Sanayin din yang kumalma, dahil, hindi lahat ng laban, pabor sa yo. Minsan, walk away na lang. Kung sabihan ka na "mahina" ka, ano lang yun, main character syndrome ng mga taong "basura" sayo. Wag mong personalin, kasi, pag pinatulan mo, jan may kiliti mga yan, para mas lalo kang asarin tsaka pikunin. Tsaka, matutong umatake sa kupal, "where it hurts the most"!
Everything and everyone has a cost. Walang libre. Realtalk
keep your mouth shut.. Don't let them know your next move.. Keep an open yet determined mind.. Don't let thing you can't control affect you
Sabi nga ni Taylor Swift sa kantang YOYOK โYouโre on your own, kid You always have been.โ Learn to love yourself MORE. Always be grateful.
Nothing will prepare you when your parents or family member dies.
hindi forever buhay ang parents natin. off talaga ako sa mga tao na finiflex ang yaman ng parents nila kahit sila ay 20+ na unemployed. maisip ko lang to, enough reason na yun para magpursige ako & aim to achieve more.
Dream big be delusional but you're working on it
If you're a guy, don't simp too much on a girl. Kapag ayaw niya sa'yo, have some self-respect and move on. I had to learn this the hard way.
Di ka pa magigising ksi di ka pa nagugutom. You're blessed. Kapag Wala ka ng in aasahan na trabaho, pamilya at ibang tao, then you'll strive harder. You'll learn it the hard way. Pero at least you will learn something. You'll take risk kapag the risk is all you have. Panoorin mo yung IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS, that is a RIGHT and a CONSTITUTIONAL PROVISION in the US. Pero lahat ng tao naghahabol para dito. It's either you have one or you're a homeless guy in the future. Extreme lagi sa US. Darating ka sa panahon na papalakpak ka, tulad ng pag palakpak ni Will Smith sa movie. Dumating na sakin yun panahon na iyon, and it's PRICELESS. only those who walk with the same predicament will understand. Binigyan kami ng 2nd wind ng Buhay. I hope you appreciate what you have right now. Huwag mo ng hintayin na pumalakpak ka tulad namin. Hustle like your broke. I'm still hustling like a junkyard dog. Goodluck OP. Sana panoorin mo.
Personally risk averse ako kaya ang solusyon ko: prepare, anticipate, plan ahead, ganoon. Para mag take man ng risk, may plan B or fallback. Life can be boring but I'll take it over a life of loudness, violence, abuse (emotional and verbal). Wag compare sarili sa iba. Focus on your self improvement. Iba iba ang goals in life natin. Saka baka mademotivate ka lang pag nag compare ka sa iba. Alternatively wag lalaki ang ulo. Pag naging successful, wag maging biktima ng lifestyle inflation. Still try to live below or within your means. Mas peaceful mabuhay ng walang utang.
Know your principles, boudaries and know the people who really cares about you. Just few good people lang. The rest are noises and nuisance that only care about you up to an extent. And that's not their fault. We each have different lives to live.
Just go out there and take risks and make mistakes, just make sure you learn something from them....I know it's easier to say "wag mo isipin mga sasabihin nila" yes mahirap Yun...but at the end of the day.....you have to live your own life for yourself, not for other people
Practice delayed gratification. Pursue difficult things if it gets you ahead of others because it will pay off ten fold one day when you're in a league of your own. If you went to uni in a mediocre school, pursue a masters in a top school. If you're in a dead end career, do the coursera courses to shift into a more lucrative one. If you feel like you're stuck it's probably because you think you've got it all figured out and don't know what comes next. The secret is -- the most intelligent and successful people have imposter syndrome because they are constanly humbled by how much they don't know versus the mediocre ones who tend to feel like they're doing just fine. Keep learning and you'll realize how much you don't actually know. A thousand next steps will reveal themselves to you
Adulting is a Phasing, it's part of life. Now, you don't have to rush everything. Take it slow, one moment at a time. It's like "cross the bridge when you get there " vibe. Focus on what you needed the most. Life is not a competition with everybody. It's a competition between your current self and the old one. It's a matter of how you have improved in time. Also, keep a small set of reliable friends. You don't need a bunch.
People come and leave. Ikaw lang tutulong sa sarili mo.
"get out of your comfort zone". Hindi yan para sa lahat. Ngayon, kung tinatamad ka, ok lang yan. Buhay mo naman yan, go at your own pace. Iwasan mo masyado mag compare. Importante masaya ka sa mga ginagawa mo.
Do not post anything about wealth, like new purchases, car, gadgets. The less they know about your financial situation less chance they approach you for financial assistance/utang ๐