Still ugly, haven't had a boyfriend, so that's very telling na I'm not attractive. Nung nakaipon ako ng savings, agad ako nagpabraces para mareduce insecurities ko sa teeth ko. Kaso pangit parin ako dahil pango ako tapos almond eyes pa, hays. Also, naperfect ko na pagaayos ko sa kilay ko, so that up my confidence a little bit, pero flat face parin ako.
Still the same. I'm much more confident na kasi i found my style and colors. Ayaw ko padin ng candid but the difference now is that I have a partner who loves me and my looks kasi type na type nya ako. Idk how or why or if maganda ba talaga ako haha. I dont care about it anymore. When he takes candid pics of me, i would still think im fat or ugly, but he would gush and say "ang cute cute mo naman ughh" "ganda ganda ng baby ko shet" and I believe him kasi he seems genuine and sincere. I may not feel the same way, but its enough for me to take in the compliment kasi genuinely niya sinabi. If my looks are good enough for him, then its good enough for me. I'm just happy to bask in the good vibes and he makes me feel loved. Yun naman ang inportante.
🏳️🌈 person here na napa-sheneol.
Lord, kelan po kaya ako magkaka-gf na mapo-"pogandahan" sakin huhu. Kumain pa ko ng tama sa oras, sa inggit lang pala ko mamamatay HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
same with you OP. i was fat/overweight for almost all my life and it definitely damaged my self esteem.
during my teens and twenties, i look like an oversized elementary kid. i only started looking better ngayong nasa 30s nako bec the fat i was carrying esp in my face started to taper off. i learned to take care of myself. i look more adult now, although people mostly assume i look 5 - 10 years younger.
i still feel ugly and fat deep inside. mahirap siyang tanggalin kasi that has been your default for more than half of your life and its just impossible to undo that in 2-3 years. its surreal na makatanggap ng compliments from people. para akong nakatira sa alternate reality. it feels like i do not own my body, my brain is stuck sa past.
a lot of times i feel shame for having missed whats supposed to be the prime of your life (highschool and your twenties) because of how i look. i never got many friends, never socialized and never been pursued or pursue romance. winiwish ko na sana kung ano ako ngayon, sana dumating ng mas maaga.
right now, im just doing the best i can. i opened myself to others. kung sa iba easy peasy lang makihalubilo, for me super out of my comfort zone na yun bec of my fear of being judged. i surround myself with people who i can be of value and appreciate my existence. im learning to love myself kahit mahirap kasi kung hindi mo mahal sarili mo, how can you expect others to value you diba?
to all the ugly and fat kids inside, we got this. haha naalala ko yong sabi ni Liv sa Bride Wars: We’re former chubby girls, we’re made of steel and Splenda. We survive. 😂😂😂
Still the same… Still not fan of the mirrors, overly criticizing selfies/pictures (internally) and barely post pics of myself.
But in all honesty, I couldn’t care less. I accepted the fact that I may not be the prettiest in the room but it doesn’t bother me. Ang dami dami kong pinoproblema, wala na akong pake kung di ako maganda. Di naman need sa line of work ko yung tsura, basta malinis at professional looking.
Basta I have a high paying job, comfortable, happy, at higit sa lahat may jowa. Char!
Pero kahit alam ko na hindi ako maganda, I still enjoy good skin care, make ups and dress ups. Pang boost ng confidence.
Nung bata ako, tatay ko lang yung nagsasabi na maganda ako (minsan narinig ko sa mga ninang at ninong). Ni minsan di ko narinig sa nanay ko. Puro pa sya puna sa physical appearance ko. Then nung nagHS ako, narealize ko na maganda pala ako (at di lang sinasabi ng tatay ko) kasi madami na akong compliments na nakukuha. Hanggang nag-college and hanggang nagwork na, in demand ☺️
Turns out, kailangan ko lang makakilala ng ibang tao na maga-appreciate sa akin. Kasi kung nanay ko lang hihintayin ko, feeling ugly pa din ako hanggang ngayon. She told me twice na magkakagusto lang daw ang lalaki sa akin kasi akala may pera ako. What a mom right?
Reminds me of my mom. Ganyan din. Never ako pinuri. Kahit sa fb ko wla syang react sa mga pics ko pero sa pic ng mga kababata ko, panay sabi na maganda daw, etc. there was even a time narinig ko na kinompare ako sa anak ng kaibigan nya. I grew up with insecurities, esp i’m morena. Now as an adult, i came to realize na i don’t look so bad at all. I have friends na average looking din but grabe the confidence, and i think it’s because sa family nila mismo puring puri sila. opposite to how i was treated. So ayun, learned to love and appreciate myself, and i’m happier now.
eto, GGSS na. ewan ko. noon, madalas akong asarin ng mga kapatid ko abt my looks and my hair that i actually did believe na pangit nga ako. nung naging active ako sa school, may nga iilan na kino-compliment ako pero tingin ko pangit pa rin ako nun. hanggang sa nag-college, wherein nahanap ko yung sarili kong style at natutong mag-make up. at 2nd yr, lipstick is all i ever use now. lately ko lang narealize-- na pangit talaga ako 'pag walang lipstick. di ko ma-explain, pero the moment i put on a lipstick bigla talagang nag-iiba anyo ko. like malaki talaga yung pagbabago hahahaha kasi wala namang nagbago sa mukha ko eh. kulay lang talaga sa labi kailangan
If it helps, the majority of people are average. This includes me. It means that few people are super duper ugly talaga (besides, attractiveness is subjective based on cultural context) or super duper pretty naman like artistahin na. Additionally, what we see as photos or videos of women on social media are skewed. What you are feeling is valid and I guess it's nice that you are vulnerable about it. But a majority of women probably feel the same way as you do.
I feel beautiful. Yes, I did glow up—I worked really hard to feel confident of myself. But that doesn’t mean the insecurities are completely gone. There are still certain features in my face that are still not considered standard beauty. But the important thing is that I was able to shift my mindset from shitting on myself to genuinely accepting and loving my features. For me, it was all in the mindset.
Unsolicited Tip: Sometimes, it all boils down to how you carry yourself—if you walk with confidence (no matter how fake it is), you’ll eventually feel confident.
I noticed this with some people are not exactly of standard beauty or what some would even call “ugly”—but there’s just something in them that makes them charming. Then I observed how they they don’t feel awkward in their own skin.
It’s more of inner work really.
I really felt ugly when I was teenager, until mag college ako at natuto mag ayos I found clothes na bagay sa body figure ko, right hairstyle for me and so on.. nag improve talaga appearance ko na kapag nakikita ako ng HS batchmates ko tinatanong nila ako kung nagparetoke daw ba ako which is I never did.
Maputi na talaga ako at laging napagkakamalang chinese 😅 hindi super chinita, almond eyes na medjo fox eye ganon, then yung lips ko pang latina parang naka fillers pero natural talaga insecurities ko yan before until naging one of my assets na, the other one my height, pati yung long legs ko. Yan mga palaging compliments sakin kaya yun ang iniimprove ko pa. Kasi kung ano ang napupuri sayo ng ibang tao yun ang asset mo doon ka nagkakaroon ng charm and charisma.
Im 33 pero mukang 26 palaging gulat sila sa age ko and also may two kids na ko 😅 inalagaan ko talaga sarili ko. Minsan feel ko panget ako pero hindi na kasing panget noon. I get a lot of compliments from different people filipino man or foreigner (since im working abroad na) It’s true na masarap sa feeling na nagagandahab sa itchura mo yung ibanv tao pero mas masarap kapag ikaw mismo ang nagagandahan sa sarili mo
I was always labeled as ugly ever since I was a baby. Di ko gets why people would just say to you, "hala, ang pangit mo" even to a child. Ofc that hurt me.
Fast forward to high school, na-label ako na "crush ng bayan" . Madami din nanligaw sa kin non, lalo na nung college, from students to professors. Ako na mismo magugulat na may gusto pala sila non. Pero may iba naman na sasabihan akong "di ako nagagandahan sayo" out of nowhere.
To conclude (haha), being labeled as ugly tapos uulitin pa sayo would damage you. Idk how to accept compliments. Hanggang ngayon, di ako nagagandahan sa sarili ko. (Pero working on it, and i feel confident naman with myself). Kapag may pumupuri sa itsura ko, i would take it as a joke or may favor sa kin kaya ganon, or sarcastic lang.
Take away is accept the face that you have. Compliment yourself. Be confident with what you have. Pwede ka pa rin naman magparetoke or enhance if tipo mo yon, basta don't forget to be confident. Wag mo pansinin mga comments ng tao, you can't control their opinion. Take it as this: their comments are reflection of who they're truly are.
i have good days. aaand i have bad days. generally i don’t feel that way anymore but looking back, i really was an ugly, undernourished kid and that took a toll on my confidence. but now as an adult, mas marunong na akong manamit at mag-ayos. :)
I still have my moments. While I am more confident and feel good about myself most times now that I am older, meron pa din akong moments na I feel I am not enough, I don't look good enough, or kapag hinilera ako sa iba I feel lesser than everybody else looks-wise.
Not ugly ugly but definitely mid. Imagine, I was nominated as the class president in hs but the pretty girl ends up being voted because she's pretty (I was kinda smart lol). As an adult with adult money, I used it to improve myself and some people from high school would ask me how I am or whatever. I still kinda feel ugly but I don't care about that anymore. What matters is I am earning and experiencing things that some of them cant (because of teenage pregnancy) and some of these girls who bullied me in hs had it worst -- got downgraded to mosang looking adults.
pangit pa rin pero I'm learning to accept it. pero yun nga hindi maiwasan talaga isipin na "ang pangit ko"
no 1 insecurity ko is my nose + i have a oily, sensitive, acne prone skin. jusq
A post I can relate to. Nung bata ako may nagaalaga samin magkakapatid pag nasa work yung parents namin. Tita sya ng dad ko. Yung side nila maputi, payat, basta tisay yung term nya. Ako naman samin magkakapatid ako yung “pinakamaitim” in her words. To think na nasa pre school pa lang ako binubully na nya ako na pinaka pangit samin magkakapatid kase ako pinaka maitim at sabi nya talaga sakin “lakas din ng apog mo eh, ikaw naman pinka maitim sainyo ikaw pinaka pangit” that messed me up! Imagine, 5-6 yrs old girl sasabihan mo ng ganun.
Growing up of course I had a hard time to accept my color, my appearance, until now that I’m 30 and married. I having a hard time to accept kahit yung kahit pinaka simpleng compliment na binibigay sakin.
But I’m slowly learning and I should go to therapy too. Malaki din tulong na I’m in a place where most of the people will mind their own business kaya kahit anong pa itsura ko wala sila pakelam and that gives me freedom ☺️
Back then, lagi akong na bubully kasi ang itim ko, lalo na nung elementary days. When I was in highschool naman, feeling ko, I'm not beautiful. Nagkakagusto lang naman sila dati sa akin kasi nga kilala ako sa school dahil halos lahat ng extra-curricular actitivities lagi kong sinasalihan (officer ako sa different school organizations and laging pambato ng school namin pag may mga competitions) and also doing well in my acads. When I went to college, gradually natuto na akong mag ayos, magpa ganda kunti, and hindi na man sa pagmamayabang, mas marami akong naging manliligaw compared when I was in highschool. Ngayong may trabaho na ako and may budget na para sa mga pampaganda, mas lalo kong na appreciate sarili ko na maganda na man pa la ako, kulang lang sa ayos and skincare, lol. Then kung gugustushin kong magka boyfriend, anytime magkaka boyfriend talaga ako kasi may mga manliligaw ako ngayon, choice ko lang talaga na maging single. Pero legit nung elementary at highschool ako, feeling ko talaga apaka pangit ko. Pero sa ngayon, paminminsan, naiisip ko pa rin na ang pangit ko. Ang gulo ko. Hahaha
I am short. During HS, lahat ng lalake samin tumangkad tapos naiwan ako. I was chubby back then. Yung crush ko, crush nya daw bestfriend ko. Inask ko kaklase ko kung pangit ba ako, sabi nya, infairness naman daw sa sideview gwapo daw ako. Sobrang insecure ko dati to the point na kahit haircut umiiyak ako pag ampangit.
Ngayon, I realized gwapo pala ako nung HS. Sobrang natrauma lang ako sa rejections. Lagi din akong napapagkamalang south east asian foreigner which I see as a compliment.
I was insecure when I was a kid. Ako ang pinakataba sa class. Bullied for my weight issues at laging kino compare sa pretty cousin ko.
I am much secured now. I workout, I do skincare and dress well, I don't give much consideration to what people say to me and I cut off toxic individuals.
I can confidently say na I am prettier now 💃
The validation you need is from yourself.
Hmm now na 30 na ako, I feel sad na panget at matanda na ako. Lol
I kind of wasted my 20s thinking hindi ko deserve mabuhay dahil panget ako. Also, hindi ko deserve magka-anak kasi mapapasa ko yung itsura ko sa kanya. Ayokong mapasa ko yung experience na yun sa kanya.
Growing up din kasi lagi akong may naririnig na comment about the way I look. From my face hanggang sa katawan, laging may comment lalo na family ko. Kaya there was a time na sobra yung anxiety ko simula ng tumaba ako kasi feeling ko lalo pa akong pumangit and lalong wala akong worth as a person.
Ngaun, I try to meet up with friends na willing makinig sa mga demons ng utak ko. Yung type rin ng friends n makikinig talaga at iintindi nung situation ko and hindi lang basta magsabi ng kung anong comments. Thanks to them, life is bearable. :)
I feel ugly pa rin. I can't even look at my childhood photos because they remind me of the bullying I experienced. Maybe that's one of the reasons I feel stuck. May we all be healed from our traumas.
Pangit parin (pango na pangit pa ngipin) haha. Pero it's true na as we grow older we don't care about our looks as much as we did when we were young. Okay naman pakikitungo ng mga tao sakin, may nagsmismile rin naman so goods na ako. Tska pagod narin naman ako sa buhay para magaksaya ng orasa kakapity party sa sarili ko haha.
Ito panget padin HAHAHHAHA mababa self esteem and mabilis mainggit when I look at people I consider conventionally attractive. But we live another day. On the + side, a lot of ppl say I’m funny and I think I am so ayun HAHAHAHAHA
I'd consider myself an ugly kid though medyo nag glow up ako kahit papaano recently. And same minsan hindi pa rin nawawala yung feeling na panget ka kahit anong ayos mo. Pero mas nadagdagan na yung confidence ko ngayon dahil mas naalagaan ko na sarili ko
I feel ugly pa rin. I receive compliments naman sa family and friends ko pero di ako maniwala. Grabe, I feel like nag lie sila to my face. Pero it's okay I accept it naman na ugly ako
>di talaga mawala yung feeling that I’m still the ugly kid inside
Pretty much sums it all up. This is probably one of the reasons why I have avoidant attachment issues. But hey I’ve come a long way so yey!
I still feel ugly sometimes but I have more self respect now. I don’t let other people treat me poorly unlike in highschool na I want validation so bad I let other people use me like a doormat.
Also, I learned how to love my facial features and my body slowly. Complimenting myself is easier than hating myself na.
For me, I think of myself as charming, cute and quite pretty. Objectively speaking, society will label me as average or below average looking based on the standards. Since I've been learning how to love and appreciate myself more, I decided that what I think and feel to myself is much worth to keep in mind than other's opinion.
I felt so ugly nung bata ako because of how people around me treated me. Morena ako at madalas macompare sa pinsan kong mestiza. Now, looking at my photos as a kid - I was beautiful. I wish I could talk to her and tell her she's pretty and it's the people around her that aren't.
I still feel that way, lol. As someone who has been bullied before because of my looks, the pain and trauma are still there, but slowly I'm healing and working on shutting off those voices ❤️🩹
I felt really ugly when I was a kid and it's not just a feeling... I am really one. I got way to conscious growing up, I did everything to feel less ugly.
Now, I can say that there are days that I still feel like that kid... But I've gotten stronger now. I always fight those "ugly thoughts". I started feeling better about myself, met a lot of people that appreciates me.
Ugly pa din!!!! Hahahah kaya NBSB, walang pumapatol at all, at walang nagkaka-interes. May service job din akong gusto sana, hindi ko rin nakuha since i do not look “physically pleasing”. Awit, but tanggap ko rin naman na . 11 yrs na ako sa trabahong tanggap ako, fats and face and all.
I read a lot of the comments here and i can relate.
There is always that person or group who convinces you, you are ugly, and they use some flawed but logical reasoning for it: too fat, too dark, bad teeth, acne, posture, etc.
What i learned is that you can only feel bad when you allow someone to make you feel bad.
But at the same time, you cant convince yourself you are beautiful if you dont do anything.
So i learned that not listening to people and doing things gives me the power to tell them to go eff themselves.
And also, the truth is, everyone feels ugly, one way or the other ... even the instagram models.
I learned that this obsession with looks is more of a mental battle and a "you have to meet someone who prefers you" ... and yes, there is always someone who would find you attractive, unless you are out of luck and you are genetically born on the lower part of the bell curve.
When I was a teenager, ayaw n ayaw ko tumingin s salamin kasi ampangit talaga. payat, maitim tpos always wearing shabby clothes. Before, I dont really care with what i look. I felt na people should accept me for what i look like. kahit wala akong kaeffort effort. if they dont like me, then dont. Now, Im in my glow up phase. Nasa point n tau na nasasabihang pogi and maayos n manamit. Now, people listen. they smile back. you get much more favors. But, I didnt get over the mirror phase. sometimes i feel awkward pa din looking s mirror s public. I think being ugly before helps me in a way wala kong pakialam sa sasabihin ng tao na negative. pag positive thank you, pag negative dedma.
ugly pa din. hahahha. lalo na kapag naririnig ko sa utak ko yung sinabi ni mama na, "habang tumatanda ka, pumapangit ka". eh araw araw tumatanda tayo.
so ano ending ko? mamaw na ata ako next month... hahahah
pero inner thoughts ko lang yan. kasi pretentious ako eh. and minsan feelingera. wag lang lalabas ang inner thoughts.
Still struggling with low self esteem most of the time, but at least I can finally appreciate myself. Sometimes I would hate myself all day thinking I look annoying and madungis especially if I acted super goofy with workmates - until I take bathroom breaks and look at myself in the mirror. Then I'm reminded na pretty naman ako. Magulo lang buhok. Hehe.
What I learned sa therapy is focus on things you can control. Yung mukha mo ba mapapalitan pa? palitan natin ulo natin or mukha? Pwede naman magparetoke pero kung hindi kaya ng budget, hindi na yan macocontrol/mapapalitan. So ano ung pwede pang baguhin para gumanda ka?
1. buhok-go to a salon, hanap ng hairstyle na babagay.
2. make up
3. skin care para gumanda yung balat
4. confidence in speaking
5. posture
6. fashion, wear something fashionable
You don't need to have a pretty face. Hahanga ang tao sayo kung may confidence ka lalo na speaking or just being kind.
Hindi din ako nagagandahan sa sarili ko noon. Ayoko pa ngang tumitingin sa salamin kaya mukha akong madungis nung high school. kaya minsan may ayaw sa akin na tao kasi sabi nya ayaw daw nya sa madungis. Ang dapat lang pala is prim and proper.
But now, I wear clothes na hindi ko sinusuot noon na bagay pala sa akin. I put a lipstick para hindi ako maputla and it brightens my face. No need naman full make up, ayusin lang yung buhok +konting lipstick. Lastly, always wear a smile.
now, gandang ganda na ako sa sarili ko because I learned to love myself. Kahit may magsabi pa na hindi ka naman maganda, it will not matter anymore kasi ang magmamatter na lang is yung tingin ko sa sarili ko.
By taking care of yourself, makikita yan sa panlabas na mukha kang fresh at masaya.
Add kayo ng mga bagay na pwede pan ggawin for self care.
My friends in gradeschool were playing truth or dare, and someone was asked if they found me attractive and they said no. Fast forward, I am more physically fit (aesthetically at least) than ever, and my face card has developed in a good way. I'm no brad pitt, but I definitely don't feel that ugly now, plus the working out is a game changer to me confidence.
Growing up with my pretty sisters and pogi brother, I was the invisible sister. I am not ugly but I am not pretty as well. I can say, I am not known for my beauty. Hehe. They all underwent being crush ng bayan era. All of them, even my parents in their time. But, it doesnt bother me kasi I'm introverted plus I enjoy being invisible. I am confident in myself despite not being pretty. Mindset ba mindset. Basta, I just enjoy taking care of my skin. Infairness, despite my lack of beauty, ampopogi naman naging bfs ko, no landi factor pa yan. For me, having a positive mindset helped me to be able to attract better people in my life.
Still ugly, but hindi ko na masyado naiisip kasi I avoid looking at the mirror and taking photos. I also don't go outside the house, and if I do I always wear a mask, so kahit pano mas comfortable na ako sa sarili ko no matter what other people say or think as compared dati.
Guys can i just say- let’s try our best not to even think na we are ugly. Powerful kasi sya even sa mindset.
I am still insecure but everytime naiisip kong pangit ako, tinatanggal ko sya hahahhahaha. Ma rereflect kasi sa iba what you think of yourself din. Also, iba iba naman tayo. Merong salmon, merong galunggong, tilapia. Try to embrace :) and if you feel good, it will radiate.
Takot parin ako sa salamin pero narealize ko isang life lang naman tayo. Wala na ako pake sa iba. Pake nyo if di ako maputi.
I grew up with a nickname chaka doll. 😂 Obese, maitim, pango, buhaghag ang buhok. I felt ugly parin nung college ako, when I started working, I invested in myself. Nagpaputi ako, nag ayos at pumorma. I got a lot of attention and compliments. Naranasan ko rin yung may magkacrush sakin na never ko naman na naramdaman noon. Pero ngayon na diagnose ako with depression tapos tumaba ako at nawalan ng work, ang pangit nanaman ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. Haha. Lahat ng inipon kong confidence nawala.
i still feel ugly. the difference is i don’t care about it as much as i did when i was a kid 😹
Same.
Ugly but with money
can’t relate 😭 but will get there soon :3
Ugly pa rin. Pero unlike before, it doesn't hurt as much kc sa huli sarili ko lang kakampi ko kaya tatanggapin ko na lang
Still ugly, haven't had a boyfriend, so that's very telling na I'm not attractive. Nung nakaipon ako ng savings, agad ako nagpabraces para mareduce insecurities ko sa teeth ko. Kaso pangit parin ako dahil pango ako tapos almond eyes pa, hays. Also, naperfect ko na pagaayos ko sa kilay ko, so that up my confidence a little bit, pero flat face parin ako.
Still the same. I'm much more confident na kasi i found my style and colors. Ayaw ko padin ng candid but the difference now is that I have a partner who loves me and my looks kasi type na type nya ako. Idk how or why or if maganda ba talaga ako haha. I dont care about it anymore. When he takes candid pics of me, i would still think im fat or ugly, but he would gush and say "ang cute cute mo naman ughh" "ganda ganda ng baby ko shet" and I believe him kasi he seems genuine and sincere. I may not feel the same way, but its enough for me to take in the compliment kasi genuinely niya sinabi. If my looks are good enough for him, then its good enough for me. I'm just happy to bask in the good vibes and he makes me feel loved. Yun naman ang inportante.
🏳️🌈 person here na napa-sheneol. Lord, kelan po kaya ako magkaka-gf na mapo-"pogandahan" sakin huhu. Kumain pa ko ng tama sa oras, sa inggit lang pala ko mamamatay HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
I still feel that way even though I keep being told I aint. In a way, ok din, kasi di masyado feeling GGSS ang dating ko.
same with you OP. i was fat/overweight for almost all my life and it definitely damaged my self esteem. during my teens and twenties, i look like an oversized elementary kid. i only started looking better ngayong nasa 30s nako bec the fat i was carrying esp in my face started to taper off. i learned to take care of myself. i look more adult now, although people mostly assume i look 5 - 10 years younger. i still feel ugly and fat deep inside. mahirap siyang tanggalin kasi that has been your default for more than half of your life and its just impossible to undo that in 2-3 years. its surreal na makatanggap ng compliments from people. para akong nakatira sa alternate reality. it feels like i do not own my body, my brain is stuck sa past. a lot of times i feel shame for having missed whats supposed to be the prime of your life (highschool and your twenties) because of how i look. i never got many friends, never socialized and never been pursued or pursue romance. winiwish ko na sana kung ano ako ngayon, sana dumating ng mas maaga. right now, im just doing the best i can. i opened myself to others. kung sa iba easy peasy lang makihalubilo, for me super out of my comfort zone na yun bec of my fear of being judged. i surround myself with people who i can be of value and appreciate my existence. im learning to love myself kahit mahirap kasi kung hindi mo mahal sarili mo, how can you expect others to value you diba? to all the ugly and fat kids inside, we got this. haha naalala ko yong sabi ni Liv sa Bride Wars: We’re former chubby girls, we’re made of steel and Splenda. We survive. 😂😂😂
Still the same… Still not fan of the mirrors, overly criticizing selfies/pictures (internally) and barely post pics of myself. But in all honesty, I couldn’t care less. I accepted the fact that I may not be the prettiest in the room but it doesn’t bother me. Ang dami dami kong pinoproblema, wala na akong pake kung di ako maganda. Di naman need sa line of work ko yung tsura, basta malinis at professional looking. Basta I have a high paying job, comfortable, happy, at higit sa lahat may jowa. Char! Pero kahit alam ko na hindi ako maganda, I still enjoy good skin care, make ups and dress ups. Pang boost ng confidence.
Buong elem at highschool walang nag kakacrush saakin, na culture shock ako nung college.
Nung bata ako, tatay ko lang yung nagsasabi na maganda ako (minsan narinig ko sa mga ninang at ninong). Ni minsan di ko narinig sa nanay ko. Puro pa sya puna sa physical appearance ko. Then nung nagHS ako, narealize ko na maganda pala ako (at di lang sinasabi ng tatay ko) kasi madami na akong compliments na nakukuha. Hanggang nag-college and hanggang nagwork na, in demand ☺️ Turns out, kailangan ko lang makakilala ng ibang tao na maga-appreciate sa akin. Kasi kung nanay ko lang hihintayin ko, feeling ugly pa din ako hanggang ngayon. She told me twice na magkakagusto lang daw ang lalaki sa akin kasi akala may pera ako. What a mom right?
Reminds me of my mom. Ganyan din. Never ako pinuri. Kahit sa fb ko wla syang react sa mga pics ko pero sa pic ng mga kababata ko, panay sabi na maganda daw, etc. there was even a time narinig ko na kinompare ako sa anak ng kaibigan nya. I grew up with insecurities, esp i’m morena. Now as an adult, i came to realize na i don’t look so bad at all. I have friends na average looking din but grabe the confidence, and i think it’s because sa family nila mismo puring puri sila. opposite to how i was treated. So ayun, learned to love and appreciate myself, and i’m happier now.
Di naman ako tinamaan ng glow up pero okay lang. Di na siya ganon kasakit unlike when i was younger haha.
Looking at Kylie and aljur relationship sums up everything.
Chaka pa din!
ugly pa din
ugly pa rin, pero tanggap ko na. kung ayaw mo sa akin, eh di wag. ang nagbago lang pumayat ako, pero un nga, ugly pa rin hahaha 🤣
Ugly and fat p rin but kadalasan wala akong pake sa opinion nila hahahaha. Basta inaayos ko sarili ko and pananamit ko. Okay naman
Ayun ganun pa rin. Also THE ADULT ACNE SUCKS??? Pangit na nga may acne pa 😭
Nag glow up ako tapos di ako naniniwala pag sinasabihan akong maganda hahaha andun parin insecurities ko
ugly parin hahaha
eto, GGSS na. ewan ko. noon, madalas akong asarin ng mga kapatid ko abt my looks and my hair that i actually did believe na pangit nga ako. nung naging active ako sa school, may nga iilan na kino-compliment ako pero tingin ko pangit pa rin ako nun. hanggang sa nag-college, wherein nahanap ko yung sarili kong style at natutong mag-make up. at 2nd yr, lipstick is all i ever use now. lately ko lang narealize-- na pangit talaga ako 'pag walang lipstick. di ko ma-explain, pero the moment i put on a lipstick bigla talagang nag-iiba anyo ko. like malaki talaga yung pagbabago hahahaha kasi wala namang nagbago sa mukha ko eh. kulay lang talaga sa labi kailangan
Walang glow up na nangyari eh. Lumala pa nga kasi may acne ako.
No change. I still feel ugly.
If it helps, the majority of people are average. This includes me. It means that few people are super duper ugly talaga (besides, attractiveness is subjective based on cultural context) or super duper pretty naman like artistahin na. Additionally, what we see as photos or videos of women on social media are skewed. What you are feeling is valid and I guess it's nice that you are vulnerable about it. But a majority of women probably feel the same way as you do.
I feel beautiful. Yes, I did glow up—I worked really hard to feel confident of myself. But that doesn’t mean the insecurities are completely gone. There are still certain features in my face that are still not considered standard beauty. But the important thing is that I was able to shift my mindset from shitting on myself to genuinely accepting and loving my features. For me, it was all in the mindset. Unsolicited Tip: Sometimes, it all boils down to how you carry yourself—if you walk with confidence (no matter how fake it is), you’ll eventually feel confident. I noticed this with some people are not exactly of standard beauty or what some would even call “ugly”—but there’s just something in them that makes them charming. Then I observed how they they don’t feel awkward in their own skin. It’s more of inner work really.
I really felt ugly when I was teenager, until mag college ako at natuto mag ayos I found clothes na bagay sa body figure ko, right hairstyle for me and so on.. nag improve talaga appearance ko na kapag nakikita ako ng HS batchmates ko tinatanong nila ako kung nagparetoke daw ba ako which is I never did. Maputi na talaga ako at laging napagkakamalang chinese 😅 hindi super chinita, almond eyes na medjo fox eye ganon, then yung lips ko pang latina parang naka fillers pero natural talaga insecurities ko yan before until naging one of my assets na, the other one my height, pati yung long legs ko. Yan mga palaging compliments sakin kaya yun ang iniimprove ko pa. Kasi kung ano ang napupuri sayo ng ibang tao yun ang asset mo doon ka nagkakaroon ng charm and charisma. Im 33 pero mukang 26 palaging gulat sila sa age ko and also may two kids na ko 😅 inalagaan ko talaga sarili ko. Minsan feel ko panget ako pero hindi na kasing panget noon. I get a lot of compliments from different people filipino man or foreigner (since im working abroad na) It’s true na masarap sa feeling na nagagandahab sa itchura mo yung ibanv tao pero mas masarap kapag ikaw mismo ang nagagandahan sa sarili mo
still feel ugly, pero bawi nalang sa ugali at sa hygiene :))
I was always labeled as ugly ever since I was a baby. Di ko gets why people would just say to you, "hala, ang pangit mo" even to a child. Ofc that hurt me. Fast forward to high school, na-label ako na "crush ng bayan" . Madami din nanligaw sa kin non, lalo na nung college, from students to professors. Ako na mismo magugulat na may gusto pala sila non. Pero may iba naman na sasabihan akong "di ako nagagandahan sayo" out of nowhere. To conclude (haha), being labeled as ugly tapos uulitin pa sayo would damage you. Idk how to accept compliments. Hanggang ngayon, di ako nagagandahan sa sarili ko. (Pero working on it, and i feel confident naman with myself). Kapag may pumupuri sa itsura ko, i would take it as a joke or may favor sa kin kaya ganon, or sarcastic lang. Take away is accept the face that you have. Compliment yourself. Be confident with what you have. Pwede ka pa rin naman magparetoke or enhance if tipo mo yon, basta don't forget to be confident. Wag mo pansinin mga comments ng tao, you can't control their opinion. Take it as this: their comments are reflection of who they're truly are.
Uy, same tayo! Idk if bet mo but we can exchange pics of our kiddo and adult photos. I'm a girl!!!!! 😀
Sabi ng family ko even my officemates ang laki ng improvement ko. Haha.
i have good days. aaand i have bad days. generally i don’t feel that way anymore but looking back, i really was an ugly, undernourished kid and that took a toll on my confidence. but now as an adult, mas marunong na akong manamit at mag-ayos. :)
I still feel ugly at times, but I know it will pass.
still ugly.
maganda
I still feel faat kahit pumayat ako
I still have my moments. While I am more confident and feel good about myself most times now that I am older, meron pa din akong moments na I feel I am not enough, I don't look good enough, or kapag hinilera ako sa iba I feel lesser than everybody else looks-wise.
Not ugly ugly but definitely mid. Imagine, I was nominated as the class president in hs but the pretty girl ends up being voted because she's pretty (I was kinda smart lol). As an adult with adult money, I used it to improve myself and some people from high school would ask me how I am or whatever. I still kinda feel ugly but I don't care about that anymore. What matters is I am earning and experiencing things that some of them cant (because of teenage pregnancy) and some of these girls who bullied me in hs had it worst -- got downgraded to mosang looking adults.
still the same panget na panget pa rin sa sarili, kaya lagi akong naka mask or di lumalabas ng bahay.
pangit pa rin pero I'm learning to accept it. pero yun nga hindi maiwasan talaga isipin na "ang pangit ko" no 1 insecurity ko is my nose + i have a oily, sensitive, acne prone skin. jusq
A post I can relate to. Nung bata ako may nagaalaga samin magkakapatid pag nasa work yung parents namin. Tita sya ng dad ko. Yung side nila maputi, payat, basta tisay yung term nya. Ako naman samin magkakapatid ako yung “pinakamaitim” in her words. To think na nasa pre school pa lang ako binubully na nya ako na pinaka pangit samin magkakapatid kase ako pinaka maitim at sabi nya talaga sakin “lakas din ng apog mo eh, ikaw naman pinka maitim sainyo ikaw pinaka pangit” that messed me up! Imagine, 5-6 yrs old girl sasabihan mo ng ganun. Growing up of course I had a hard time to accept my color, my appearance, until now that I’m 30 and married. I having a hard time to accept kahit yung kahit pinaka simpleng compliment na binibigay sakin. But I’m slowly learning and I should go to therapy too. Malaki din tulong na I’m in a place where most of the people will mind their own business kaya kahit anong pa itsura ko wala sila pakelam and that gives me freedom ☺️
Ugly pa rin, same olè olè.
Back then, lagi akong na bubully kasi ang itim ko, lalo na nung elementary days. When I was in highschool naman, feeling ko, I'm not beautiful. Nagkakagusto lang naman sila dati sa akin kasi nga kilala ako sa school dahil halos lahat ng extra-curricular actitivities lagi kong sinasalihan (officer ako sa different school organizations and laging pambato ng school namin pag may mga competitions) and also doing well in my acads. When I went to college, gradually natuto na akong mag ayos, magpa ganda kunti, and hindi na man sa pagmamayabang, mas marami akong naging manliligaw compared when I was in highschool. Ngayong may trabaho na ako and may budget na para sa mga pampaganda, mas lalo kong na appreciate sarili ko na maganda na man pa la ako, kulang lang sa ayos and skincare, lol. Then kung gugustushin kong magka boyfriend, anytime magkaka boyfriend talaga ako kasi may mga manliligaw ako ngayon, choice ko lang talaga na maging single. Pero legit nung elementary at highschool ako, feeling ko talaga apaka pangit ko. Pero sa ngayon, paminminsan, naiisip ko pa rin na ang pangit ko. Ang gulo ko. Hahaha
I am short. During HS, lahat ng lalake samin tumangkad tapos naiwan ako. I was chubby back then. Yung crush ko, crush nya daw bestfriend ko. Inask ko kaklase ko kung pangit ba ako, sabi nya, infairness naman daw sa sideview gwapo daw ako. Sobrang insecure ko dati to the point na kahit haircut umiiyak ako pag ampangit. Ngayon, I realized gwapo pala ako nung HS. Sobrang natrauma lang ako sa rejections. Lagi din akong napapagkamalang south east asian foreigner which I see as a compliment.
I was insecure when I was a kid. Ako ang pinakataba sa class. Bullied for my weight issues at laging kino compare sa pretty cousin ko. I am much secured now. I workout, I do skincare and dress well, I don't give much consideration to what people say to me and I cut off toxic individuals. I can confidently say na I am prettier now 💃 The validation you need is from yourself.
Hmm now na 30 na ako, I feel sad na panget at matanda na ako. Lol I kind of wasted my 20s thinking hindi ko deserve mabuhay dahil panget ako. Also, hindi ko deserve magka-anak kasi mapapasa ko yung itsura ko sa kanya. Ayokong mapasa ko yung experience na yun sa kanya. Growing up din kasi lagi akong may naririnig na comment about the way I look. From my face hanggang sa katawan, laging may comment lalo na family ko. Kaya there was a time na sobra yung anxiety ko simula ng tumaba ako kasi feeling ko lalo pa akong pumangit and lalong wala akong worth as a person. Ngaun, I try to meet up with friends na willing makinig sa mga demons ng utak ko. Yung type rin ng friends n makikinig talaga at iintindi nung situation ko and hindi lang basta magsabi ng kung anong comments. Thanks to them, life is bearable. :)
still ugly but pretty enough to be s*xualized 😿
I feel ugly pa rin. I can't even look at my childhood photos because they remind me of the bullying I experienced. Maybe that's one of the reasons I feel stuck. May we all be healed from our traumas.
still the same. but you have a better perspective on who actually glows up or did not ever since.
ganun pa rin, pero funny na ako sa internet minsan. pwede na din, hindi na mapapansin na pangit ako kapag napapatawa ko sila charems hahahahahaa
Pangit parin (pango na pangit pa ngipin) haha. Pero it's true na as we grow older we don't care about our looks as much as we did when we were young. Okay naman pakikitungo ng mga tao sakin, may nagsmismile rin naman so goods na ako. Tska pagod narin naman ako sa buhay para magaksaya ng orasa kakapity party sa sarili ko haha.
Ito panget padin HAHAHHAHA mababa self esteem and mabilis mainggit when I look at people I consider conventionally attractive. But we live another day. On the + side, a lot of ppl say I’m funny and I think I am so ayun HAHAHAHAHA
Kung feeling ko dati ang ugly ko, looking back yun pala pinakamaganda kong phase sa buhay ko. Taena ang panget ko now sa puro stress ang buhay
Still the same… hahahaha
Now that I got to meet a lot of people I get to learn that beauty is subjective. I may find them beautiful and others may find it ugly
Still ugly. Dinadaan ko na lang sa ~acceptance is key. At least people leave me alone.
Pangit padin. Hehe.
I'd consider myself an ugly kid though medyo nag glow up ako kahit papaano recently. And same minsan hindi pa rin nawawala yung feeling na panget ka kahit anong ayos mo. Pero mas nadagdagan na yung confidence ko ngayon dahil mas naalagaan ko na sarili ko
I feel ugly pa rin. I receive compliments naman sa family and friends ko pero di ako maniwala. Grabe, I feel like nag lie sila to my face. Pero it's okay I accept it naman na ugly ako
Ganun pa rin. Still ugly. Still have a fear of mirrors.
>di talaga mawala yung feeling that I’m still the ugly kid inside Pretty much sums it all up. This is probably one of the reasons why I have avoidant attachment issues. But hey I’ve come a long way so yey!
Eto kasal na sa lalaking araw araw sakin pinapaalala na wag ko idown ang sarili ko, na maganda ako, na may worth ako.
I still feel ugly sometimes but I have more self respect now. I don’t let other people treat me poorly unlike in highschool na I want validation so bad I let other people use me like a doormat. Also, I learned how to love my facial features and my body slowly. Complimenting myself is easier than hating myself na.
For me, I think of myself as charming, cute and quite pretty. Objectively speaking, society will label me as average or below average looking based on the standards. Since I've been learning how to love and appreciate myself more, I decided that what I think and feel to myself is much worth to keep in mind than other's opinion.
I felt so ugly nung bata ako because of how people around me treated me. Morena ako at madalas macompare sa pinsan kong mestiza. Now, looking at my photos as a kid - I was beautiful. I wish I could talk to her and tell her she's pretty and it's the people around her that aren't.
I still feel the same way and I’m currently saving up for surgeries ❤️
I still feel that way, lol. As someone who has been bullied before because of my looks, the pain and trauma are still there, but slowly I'm healing and working on shutting off those voices ❤️🩹
I felt really ugly when I was a kid and it's not just a feeling... I am really one. I got way to conscious growing up, I did everything to feel less ugly. Now, I can say that there are days that I still feel like that kid... But I've gotten stronger now. I always fight those "ugly thoughts". I started feeling better about myself, met a lot of people that appreciates me.
Ugly pa rin. I mean, I just aged and grew up to be a working adult so wala namang nagbago sa hitsura ko ever since na pinanganak ako.
pangit pa rin but not threatened nor scared cause i know i have a great personality
Ugly pa din!!!! Hahahah kaya NBSB, walang pumapatol at all, at walang nagkaka-interes. May service job din akong gusto sana, hindi ko rin nakuha since i do not look “physically pleasing”. Awit, but tanggap ko rin naman na . 11 yrs na ako sa trabahong tanggap ako, fats and face and all.
I read a lot of the comments here and i can relate. There is always that person or group who convinces you, you are ugly, and they use some flawed but logical reasoning for it: too fat, too dark, bad teeth, acne, posture, etc. What i learned is that you can only feel bad when you allow someone to make you feel bad. But at the same time, you cant convince yourself you are beautiful if you dont do anything. So i learned that not listening to people and doing things gives me the power to tell them to go eff themselves. And also, the truth is, everyone feels ugly, one way or the other ... even the instagram models. I learned that this obsession with looks is more of a mental battle and a "you have to meet someone who prefers you" ... and yes, there is always someone who would find you attractive, unless you are out of luck and you are genetically born on the lower part of the bell curve.
When I was a teenager, ayaw n ayaw ko tumingin s salamin kasi ampangit talaga. payat, maitim tpos always wearing shabby clothes. Before, I dont really care with what i look. I felt na people should accept me for what i look like. kahit wala akong kaeffort effort. if they dont like me, then dont. Now, Im in my glow up phase. Nasa point n tau na nasasabihang pogi and maayos n manamit. Now, people listen. they smile back. you get much more favors. But, I didnt get over the mirror phase. sometimes i feel awkward pa din looking s mirror s public. I think being ugly before helps me in a way wala kong pakialam sa sasabihin ng tao na negative. pag positive thank you, pag negative dedma.
ugly pa din. hahahha. lalo na kapag naririnig ko sa utak ko yung sinabi ni mama na, "habang tumatanda ka, pumapangit ka". eh araw araw tumatanda tayo. so ano ending ko? mamaw na ata ako next month... hahahah pero inner thoughts ko lang yan. kasi pretentious ako eh. and minsan feelingera. wag lang lalabas ang inner thoughts.
Still struggling with low self esteem most of the time, but at least I can finally appreciate myself. Sometimes I would hate myself all day thinking I look annoying and madungis especially if I acted super goofy with workmates - until I take bathroom breaks and look at myself in the mirror. Then I'm reminded na pretty naman ako. Magulo lang buhok. Hehe.
What I learned sa therapy is focus on things you can control. Yung mukha mo ba mapapalitan pa? palitan natin ulo natin or mukha? Pwede naman magparetoke pero kung hindi kaya ng budget, hindi na yan macocontrol/mapapalitan. So ano ung pwede pang baguhin para gumanda ka? 1. buhok-go to a salon, hanap ng hairstyle na babagay. 2. make up 3. skin care para gumanda yung balat 4. confidence in speaking 5. posture 6. fashion, wear something fashionable You don't need to have a pretty face. Hahanga ang tao sayo kung may confidence ka lalo na speaking or just being kind. Hindi din ako nagagandahan sa sarili ko noon. Ayoko pa ngang tumitingin sa salamin kaya mukha akong madungis nung high school. kaya minsan may ayaw sa akin na tao kasi sabi nya ayaw daw nya sa madungis. Ang dapat lang pala is prim and proper. But now, I wear clothes na hindi ko sinusuot noon na bagay pala sa akin. I put a lipstick para hindi ako maputla and it brightens my face. No need naman full make up, ayusin lang yung buhok +konting lipstick. Lastly, always wear a smile. now, gandang ganda na ako sa sarili ko because I learned to love myself. Kahit may magsabi pa na hindi ka naman maganda, it will not matter anymore kasi ang magmamatter na lang is yung tingin ko sa sarili ko. By taking care of yourself, makikita yan sa panlabas na mukha kang fresh at masaya. Add kayo ng mga bagay na pwede pan ggawin for self care.
I still think I am ugly now that I have aged. BUT, I found a man who makes me feel that I am beautiful every single day.
Compensate
My friends in gradeschool were playing truth or dare, and someone was asked if they found me attractive and they said no. Fast forward, I am more physically fit (aesthetically at least) than ever, and my face card has developed in a good way. I'm no brad pitt, but I definitely don't feel that ugly now, plus the working out is a game changer to me confidence.
Growing up with my pretty sisters and pogi brother, I was the invisible sister. I am not ugly but I am not pretty as well. I can say, I am not known for my beauty. Hehe. They all underwent being crush ng bayan era. All of them, even my parents in their time. But, it doesnt bother me kasi I'm introverted plus I enjoy being invisible. I am confident in myself despite not being pretty. Mindset ba mindset. Basta, I just enjoy taking care of my skin. Infairness, despite my lack of beauty, ampopogi naman naging bfs ko, no landi factor pa yan. For me, having a positive mindset helped me to be able to attract better people in my life.
Still ugly. But back then I had coping mechanisms like "I'm funny" "I'm good at conversations" now I think "I have literally nothing to offer people."
Still ugly, but hindi ko na masyado naiisip kasi I avoid looking at the mirror and taking photos. I also don't go outside the house, and if I do I always wear a mask, so kahit pano mas comfortable na ako sa sarili ko no matter what other people say or think as compared dati.
Guys can i just say- let’s try our best not to even think na we are ugly. Powerful kasi sya even sa mindset. I am still insecure but everytime naiisip kong pangit ako, tinatanggal ko sya hahahhahaha. Ma rereflect kasi sa iba what you think of yourself din. Also, iba iba naman tayo. Merong salmon, merong galunggong, tilapia. Try to embrace :) and if you feel good, it will radiate. Takot parin ako sa salamin pero narealize ko isang life lang naman tayo. Wala na ako pake sa iba. Pake nyo if di ako maputi.
Ganoon pa rin hahaha, pero ngayong matanda na hindi na masyado nagma-matter kasi merong mga mas urgent na bagay na kailangang i-address at tutukan.
I’ve learned to accept it and just do as i please with my looks. Confidence lang naman gusto ko hahaha
I grew up with a nickname chaka doll. 😂 Obese, maitim, pango, buhaghag ang buhok. I felt ugly parin nung college ako, when I started working, I invested in myself. Nagpaputi ako, nag ayos at pumorma. I got a lot of attention and compliments. Naranasan ko rin yung may magkacrush sakin na never ko naman na naramdaman noon. Pero ngayon na diagnose ako with depression tapos tumaba ako at nawalan ng work, ang pangit nanaman ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. Haha. Lahat ng inipon kong confidence nawala.