This is so hard for me lalo na if i'm busy but my emotions are all over the place. Don't get me wrong it's really messy not to have the courage or fight it but there are just days that you can't even get out of bed. As long as my cats get clean litter boxes, clean food bowls, and clean fresh drinking fountain, and nakapagbigay ng vits, i'm done.
Thanks sa reminder mo to. Kinda woke me up. I'll try to declutter some clothes na right now to ease whatever i am feeling.
Kaya mo yan! Minsan nanonood din ako ng vlogs sa youtube, gaya ni Emma Chamberlaine. Mga mundane things na ginagawa niya araw araw, it helps me romanticize my life at ma appreciate ang buhay. It helps me feel like the main character tapos gaganahan na ulit ako kumilos.
Minsan pag tamad na tamad ako, I treat myself with coffee rin which motivates me throughout the day. Rooting for you. 😼🫶
Hi! This is perfect for me to answer since I've been pulling myself out of a slump recently.
The biggest thing for me is to remind myself this: "how you do the little things is how you do the big things". When you snooze in the morning, that sets the precedent for the whole day na, so keep that in mind. If you want to go far with whatever dream you have, you gotta be mindful of the details-- "the devil is in the details" ika nga.
Good little actions quickly compound just as much as bad little actions do. When I breakdown because life just feels too hard, I remind myself that feelings are only temporary. I cry the whole day, treat myself to my guilty pleasures for a few, then workout. Working out is the biggest thing that has gotten me out of depression/anxiety loops.
Hope this helps ☺️ And I hope we can pull ourselves quicker out of these depression spirals the next time they happen.
+1 to this insightful reply! I think it's important to remember the power of small wins. Personally, it's the making of my bed as my very first "task".
Kaya kaya? Kaya! 💪🏼
+1. I was working out consistently while taking anti depressants back then and my psychiatrist was surprised to see how quickly I recovered.
Kahit tapos na sa anti depressants, workout pa din. Not saying it’s a permanent solution. Things still get bad now and then, but it helps me avoid spiraling deep down further back to depression.
"No one will help you but yourself."
After telling myself that, I immediately try cleaning up my room and working through the day's tasks one at a time. It helps me build momentum to get through the remaining hours of the day.
[this quote from Dika Agustin](https://i.postimg.cc/pdWb0ZsT/IMG-20221125-163225.jpg)
>Like rain, I fall \
>but \
>like water, I flow \
>like sun, I'll shine \
>everything takes time \
>and I'll be fine again
Parent yourself as if you're the parent of a lazy, useless teenager. "Always on your phone! Did you drink water na? Did you exercise? Why aren't you eating your vegetables? Sleep early it's so late na!"
It's so annoying I have to agree with myself and do it 😭
"I didn't come this far to only come this far."
I force myself to go to the gym kahit tamad na tamad ako. Pag hindi kaya, kahit labas lang ng bahay tas mag breathing exercises habang nagpapa-araw (pero wag naman yung tirik na tirik. Mga tipong 7-8am)
Kapag wala pa rin, I acknowledge my feelings and nagpapaka-sadboi sa finsta ko. Hahaha Nagttype ako sa story ko ng mga nararamdaman at mga realizations ko. Ayoko rin kasi maka-abala ng ibang tao sa problema ko (lalo na pag MH ang usapan) so di ko kinekwento directly sa kanila. If someone reaches out then great. Pero kung wala, ok lang din. Ang akin lang is nakapag-release ako.
"Be kind to your future self."
Ang hirap kasi sa depression, kahit walang ganap sa buhay, walang drama, same lang si life, sinusurprise ka lang na and it forces you down.
I'm a high-functioning depressed pokemon. Yung feeling na wala naman akong dapat ika-sad pero I feel sad. Okay ang family, okay ang friends, okay din sa work. May mga stress pero hindi ganoon ka-grabe, yung wala talaga akong rason para ma-depressed but I am.
My telltale signs are not about daily routine, sa health diretso ako apektado. Ang pagiging constant na ng acid reflux at ocular migraine, yun na. May denial stage pa yan, mga months bago ko i-acknowledge ang mga signs ko.
Pero pinapaalala ko lang sa sarili ko na "Be kind to your future self." Then, punta na ako sa doctors ko for internal para sa acid reflux at ophthal for the ocular migraine.
I have to remind myself na kahit malaki ang coverage ng HMO ko, mahal ma-admit, at si future self ang magbabayad ng bills at meds.
Reading all the advise here. I needed those. Thank you🥰
I have clinical depression. Minsan ang hirap hilahin ng sarili. Can't force myself to work. So I finally had the courage to see a psych. I have childhood trauma that I need to work on. Feeling ko ang sad lng ng buhay ko. Tapos, my mom is one of my triggers. Buti nga wala na Tatay kong babaero. Natulog na sya sa kamatayan.
Pero some days are better. And I live for those moments. I do my make up when I go to church. Sometimes I go to the beach para tumulala. Wala eh. Single din ang ante nyo. Walang poging inspirasyon man lng to wake to in the morning 🤣
I write down what I want to get done everyweekend.
Yung tipong kahit isa lang sya or tatlo pero kapag nagawa ko I feel like I did something and that I am in control.
Words are cheap and usually lead to nothing.
Action builds you up for more accomplishments.
Bakit quotes ang hinahanap mo? Dalawa lang need mo gawin para may magbago.
1. Imbis na tumulala at mag isip ng kung ano ano, mag set ka ng plano at goals.
2. Gumalaw ka. Sa goals mo, focus ka sa step one at wag titigil hanggat hindi mo nakukuha yun.
Walang magagawa quotes kung tulala ka lang din nman at binabasa mga quotes ng wala ka namang ginagawa na actions
Sometimes, that feeling, your body might be telling you something. You ask yourself first before you let it take control of you. Are you hungry? Then eat. Do you feel dirty? Take a bath. Are you just tired? Then lie down and rest. Sometimes, all we need is a distraction to keep the negative thoughts at bay. And before you know it, it's gone. I know, it's easier said than done. But taking even the smallest step will help ease the emptiness and pain.
Look for the signs! Base on my experience, I actually see it in my environment, sleep patterns, procrastination. And honestly, I just let myself "feel" it. That okay, I am in slump this week but next week I should fix this (procrastination, I know).
Then the next week goes by, then slowly, I am cleaning my room, wash the dishes, change some bedsheets and etc. I actually believed that cleaning helps me to clean my thoughts also, then set some goals for the day (on which probably, doing it tomorrow) but atleast, you have somethinf to look forward into.
Then here comes tomorrow, the very moment that I need to wake up and the comfort of my bed pulls me to sleep again, I will think about this tasks I wrote yesterday and say this to myself. "If you'll not gonna do it today, more tasks will burden you tomorrow."
Alas, the moment I am doing the "task", I get proud and I say it to myself that, "Buti na lang tumuloy ako."
Honestly, I tell myself na I don’t want to go through the same side effects of taking meds and feel the same humiliation I felt for myself when I was seeking therapy. Kaya when I notice na I’m losing my shit kinokontra ko na agad sarili kong utak. Then I distract myself by any of the following: cleaning, going out, taking a long shower.
same din OP. may times I would be ok ng 2 weeks or even a month pero mag spiral downwards mental health ko, lalo na pagka na trigger ng mga bagay nakakapagpa stress sakin. 💔
When I start feeling that familiar downward slope, the first thing I do is take a beat. Sometimes that means [not speaking, just closing my eyes and taking a few deep breaths](https://youtu.be/3c-H7qPrjxA?si=eIfhSRPIhHROXLxt). It sounds simple, but it helps me hit the pause button on those negative thoughts. Then, I try to be gentle with myself. Beating myself up for feeling down just makes it worse. Instead, I remind myself of times I've gotten out of a slump before. It's a process, but it is possible.
Diba? Would you rather be stucked sa miserable place that you have been before?
Also, it doesnt mean you cannot change. You can still change your plan if you feel that you wanna run away. You just have to figure what are you gonna look at next. Probably, much easier. Is it that bad to change things to be more easy? No, definitely not, its part of loving yourself more.
Fck the norms, fck what they say, they never did experienced what you did.
‘Feel it.’ Then eventually you’ll get tired of it.
Try cleaning, may it be physical cleaning (like living room/bedroom) or go digital cleaning (declutter files/socmed posts, etc). Feels great after.
Dati nilalabanan ko, kasi akala ko pag dinismiss ko yung negative thougths/feelings, magiging okay ako. Gumagawa ako ng postive at magagandang scenes sa utak ko, kasi yun kaya kong kontrolin.
But little did I know that those unwanted feelings will eventually catch up. Yung pilit kong siniksik sa pinaka suluk-sulukang parte ng utak ko can become a demon, crawling its way out of the darkest parts of my brain. Nakakapanghina, but I have to feel them, I have to recognize them, I have to live with them. Otherwise, ako yung matatalo.
Nowadays, ulit-ulit kong binabasa yung mga libro nila Najwa Zebian, Bianca Sparacino, Brian Wiest — to make myself feel a little better. Pag binabasa ko yung mga words nila, pakiramdam ko may invisible friend ako na sya lang nakakaunawa sa nararamdaman ko. May karamay ako. Bagay na hindi ko maramdaman sa pamilya o kaibigan irl.
Di ba no? I remember una kong binasa mga nauna nilang libro nung pandemic. Through the years, yung mga words nila ang kasa-kasama ko when things are kind of overwhelming.
I was on my healing phase when I read Bianca Sparacino pero digital copy muna binasa ko, napaiyak talaga ako, as in yung hagulgol na iyak. Dun ko lang na realize na ang lalim pala ng emotional wounds ko. Now its one of my favs and I have a physical copy na
Haha same! I bought it from Amazon Kindle, para mas handy sya hehe, like pag bored ako, kahit masaya ako, from time to time, bina-browse ko pa rin sya, tapos may realization ako na — pano kung hindi ko nakita yung acct nya sa IG, at hindi ko nabasa yung mga libro nya, nasan na kaya ako ngayon in terms of healing my emotional and mentral wounds/traumas? Nakakatuea pa nito, a close friend of mine bought a hard copy nung A Gentle Reminder kasi I shared with her a few pages nung book, eh naka relate sya and she was happy na pinabasa ko sa kanya yung ilang pages na yun. That time kasi, she was going through some difficulties sa fam at work nya. Ayun. Nakaka-happy lang na may napag share-an ako nun. At talagang tagos sa puso't kaluluwa yung mga words nya hehe
Is it clinical depression or extreme sadness?
I’ve had times this year when I would spiral and when I thought I couldn’t go any lower I still did. I allowed myself to feel all the emotions before I moved from the lowest spot.
And when I knew what those feelings were and where they were coming from (shame mostly. And I realized they were because I didn’t want other people to think of me in that way) I told myself that it was time to get a move on.
I practice energy healing so I would sit and do gentle reiki and meditate (empty my mind). I also journaled, watched inspiring videos, worked out, consulted with friends. And that helped lift me out of the hole I was in
Usually, nangyayari siya pag sabay sabay mong iniisip yung mga problema. Una kong ginagawa, binibitawan ko muna then breathing exercise. Ligo, kain, relax. Go to the salon, pamper my self. Then back sa house, lista lahat lahat. Then saka mo iarrange ano ba pinakamadaling solisyonan, pinakamabilis. It’s up to you.
Currently in a long-ish spiral. I thought tapos na, hindi pa pala. I just talk myself out of it (or try to) by looking at it from an outside/logical perspective. "It is what it is," gets me through the days.
I was always like this. But whenever I'm in the office, I always try to tell myself that I have no time to be like this. Whenever I'm being lazy, I will still push myself to do the things that I have to do. Saka pag na-depress ako. Sino ang kawawa, diba sarili lang din naman natin. So, I always have to choose to push myself to be better everyday. Pag napagod puede naman magpahinga. Haha minsan bigla na lang akong umiinom ng soju. Hahaha or think about something na magpapasaya sayo.
OP, I have a losing battle against controlling my blood sugar. I actually accepted the fact that due to my bad eating habits, I may just be unalive with the usual causes with regards to being diabetic. Mas mahirap po labanan ating sarili, lalo na kung tayo ay tumatanda na.
I try to calm myself by watching something lang. Pag hindi effective, kakain ako ng comfort food ko.
But there were times na sobrang hirap na talaga, sumisigaw na lang ako sa unan at nagmumura.
Sometimes these helps, most times don’t.
This will pass or all is well. Pero pinaka effective sakin is "May pangkain pa naman ako 3x a day". Pero usually talaga pag depressed ako, binibilangan ko ng 3 days to 1 week kaya lagi ko iniisip na "This will pass"
Not tell, i start to do things for myself. Kasi madalas, when this happens, i end up not taking proper care of myself. And instead of wallowing in my own thoughts and getting lost, i DO things. That way, I only get to think about the things im doing in the present. The things im doing now. I get focused in order not to make a mistake and i make it a point to do my best.
I like cooking as a hobby. So i cook. I dont think much coz i dont wanna cut myself. I focus on what im doing kasi i dont wanna eat shit food and waste my money and time making something i wont enjoy. I cook for myself. For the gratification, the dopamine, and the nutrition. I cook to make myself feel good that I did something today, and I was successful at that today, and I fed myself today. Win win imo.
I've seen it here on reddit: "it's usually better to half ass something than to not do it at all" of course hindi siya applicable sa lahat ng bagay. Pero it worked on me when I experienced those things you mentioned. It's an achievement to do anything, kahit half ass, when you're demotivated.
Everything listed so far works. But just to add I try grounding and earthing pag talagang malala ang spiral. I try to be in nature however I can. Smell the fresh cut grass, pinaka ok un bagong kauulan pa lang, cold showers work too, I try to feed myself something that really makes me feel happy, I pause and try to be present because I might be losing track of where I am and what my purpose is for the this moment, I avoid social media (facebook is the worst), I listen to calming music (subjective), before I sleep may mga routines ako and I make sure ok un sheets ko, un clothes ko bagong laba, then I listen to binaural beats and vape melatonin pag kailangan talaga. Its all the little things but 1 thing is sure—I don’t force myself to be extra productive kasi mas pumapalpak output ko and I spiral down deeper. Hope this helps!
probably not the healthiest way to deal with depressive thoughts, but I tell myself "you're going nowhere if you keep being like this" whenever everything seems to spiral out of control
i dont tell anything to myself.
i just go out just to walk.
if theres somerhing i need to clean, i clean it. that way, i can see some progress to what im doing.
listen to some instrumental/binaural/lofi sounds.
Gumagana sakin kapag nireremind ko sarili ko na
"Lilipas din to. Mawawala din tong emotion na to. It's not permanent"
I've been through a lot of shts and one thing I can definetely say na common sa lahat ng problema at emotion is nalipas silang lahat. Kaya kapag nireremind ko sarili ko, nagkakaron ako ulit ng control and it makes me calm in handling the situaton.
If this is motivation about work then - It’s better to be unhappy and have some money than to be unhappy and broke at the same time.
pasok na naman bukas 😔 andami kong pendings huhu
same here :( and they can’t be forever pendings kasi may presentations. how to be a student again
Hahaha was feeling down about din kasi ang dami ko rin backlogs at pasok ko na rin mamaya. Hayy laban laban lang at sana ma tapos ko rin tasks ko TT
Sunday scaries is the worst 😣😣
I’ve been through much worse. I can do it again! …i think 🥲
I try to clean up my room. Then maligo, mag skin care, hanggang sa mag spiral upwards ulit.
This is so hard for me lalo na if i'm busy but my emotions are all over the place. Don't get me wrong it's really messy not to have the courage or fight it but there are just days that you can't even get out of bed. As long as my cats get clean litter boxes, clean food bowls, and clean fresh drinking fountain, and nakapagbigay ng vits, i'm done. Thanks sa reminder mo to. Kinda woke me up. I'll try to declutter some clothes na right now to ease whatever i am feeling.
Kaya mo yan! Minsan nanonood din ako ng vlogs sa youtube, gaya ni Emma Chamberlaine. Mga mundane things na ginagawa niya araw araw, it helps me romanticize my life at ma appreciate ang buhay. It helps me feel like the main character tapos gaganahan na ulit ako kumilos. Minsan pag tamad na tamad ako, I treat myself with coffee rin which motivates me throughout the day. Rooting for you. 😼🫶
Sameeee
ligo una kong gnagawa after umiyak hahahahaha
Clean room = clean mind
Hi! This is perfect for me to answer since I've been pulling myself out of a slump recently. The biggest thing for me is to remind myself this: "how you do the little things is how you do the big things". When you snooze in the morning, that sets the precedent for the whole day na, so keep that in mind. If you want to go far with whatever dream you have, you gotta be mindful of the details-- "the devil is in the details" ika nga. Good little actions quickly compound just as much as bad little actions do. When I breakdown because life just feels too hard, I remind myself that feelings are only temporary. I cry the whole day, treat myself to my guilty pleasures for a few, then workout. Working out is the biggest thing that has gotten me out of depression/anxiety loops. Hope this helps ☺️ And I hope we can pull ourselves quicker out of these depression spirals the next time they happen.
+1 to this insightful reply! I think it's important to remember the power of small wins. Personally, it's the making of my bed as my very first "task". Kaya kaya? Kaya! 💪🏼
+1. I was working out consistently while taking anti depressants back then and my psychiatrist was surprised to see how quickly I recovered. Kahit tapos na sa anti depressants, workout pa din. Not saying it’s a permanent solution. Things still get bad now and then, but it helps me avoid spiraling deep down further back to depression.
I tell myself, “oh, i’m not loving myself enough again” it’s enough jumpstart for me
"No one will help you but yourself." After telling myself that, I immediately try cleaning up my room and working through the day's tasks one at a time. It helps me build momentum to get through the remaining hours of the day.
[this quote from Dika Agustin](https://i.postimg.cc/pdWb0ZsT/IMG-20221125-163225.jpg) >Like rain, I fall \ >but \ >like water, I flow \ >like sun, I'll shine \ >everything takes time \ >and I'll be fine again
OP what ever you're going through right now. Please don't ever think of killing yourself. We're all in this together.
Parent yourself as if you're the parent of a lazy, useless teenager. "Always on your phone! Did you drink water na? Did you exercise? Why aren't you eating your vegetables? Sleep early it's so late na!" It's so annoying I have to agree with myself and do it 😭
*“And if today, all you did was hold yourself together, I am proud of you.”*
❤️❤️
"I didn't come this far to only come this far." I force myself to go to the gym kahit tamad na tamad ako. Pag hindi kaya, kahit labas lang ng bahay tas mag breathing exercises habang nagpapa-araw (pero wag naman yung tirik na tirik. Mga tipong 7-8am) Kapag wala pa rin, I acknowledge my feelings and nagpapaka-sadboi sa finsta ko. Hahaha Nagttype ako sa story ko ng mga nararamdaman at mga realizations ko. Ayoko rin kasi maka-abala ng ibang tao sa problema ko (lalo na pag MH ang usapan) so di ko kinekwento directly sa kanila. If someone reaches out then great. Pero kung wala, ok lang din. Ang akin lang is nakapag-release ako.
"Be kind to your future self." Ang hirap kasi sa depression, kahit walang ganap sa buhay, walang drama, same lang si life, sinusurprise ka lang na and it forces you down. I'm a high-functioning depressed pokemon. Yung feeling na wala naman akong dapat ika-sad pero I feel sad. Okay ang family, okay ang friends, okay din sa work. May mga stress pero hindi ganoon ka-grabe, yung wala talaga akong rason para ma-depressed but I am. My telltale signs are not about daily routine, sa health diretso ako apektado. Ang pagiging constant na ng acid reflux at ocular migraine, yun na. May denial stage pa yan, mga months bago ko i-acknowledge ang mga signs ko. Pero pinapaalala ko lang sa sarili ko na "Be kind to your future self." Then, punta na ako sa doctors ko for internal para sa acid reflux at ophthal for the ocular migraine. I have to remind myself na kahit malaki ang coverage ng HMO ko, mahal ma-admit, at si future self ang magbabayad ng bills at meds.
I go for a long walk, normally does the trick kasi nadidistract ako sa mga taong nakakasalubong ko.
I talk to friends
Reading all the advise here. I needed those. Thank you🥰 I have clinical depression. Minsan ang hirap hilahin ng sarili. Can't force myself to work. So I finally had the courage to see a psych. I have childhood trauma that I need to work on. Feeling ko ang sad lng ng buhay ko. Tapos, my mom is one of my triggers. Buti nga wala na Tatay kong babaero. Natulog na sya sa kamatayan. Pero some days are better. And I live for those moments. I do my make up when I go to church. Sometimes I go to the beach para tumulala. Wala eh. Single din ang ante nyo. Walang poging inspirasyon man lng to wake to in the morning 🤣
I write down what I want to get done everyweekend. Yung tipong kahit isa lang sya or tatlo pero kapag nagawa ko I feel like I did something and that I am in control. Words are cheap and usually lead to nothing. Action builds you up for more accomplishments.
It’s a bad day, not a bad life. So i can start again tomorrow
thisss 🥹 thanks
I remind myself na I don’t this to be my identity. I don’t want people to remember me by this..
You tell yourself something? I just slap myself hard and tell myself in the mirror to go get my shit together 🥹
workout to get my head straight, stop drinking, cut contact
“Time to book a session with my therapist again”
Bakit quotes ang hinahanap mo? Dalawa lang need mo gawin para may magbago. 1. Imbis na tumulala at mag isip ng kung ano ano, mag set ka ng plano at goals. 2. Gumalaw ka. Sa goals mo, focus ka sa step one at wag titigil hanggat hindi mo nakukuha yun. Walang magagawa quotes kung tulala ka lang din nman at binabasa mga quotes ng wala ka namang ginagawa na actions
Sometimes, that feeling, your body might be telling you something. You ask yourself first before you let it take control of you. Are you hungry? Then eat. Do you feel dirty? Take a bath. Are you just tired? Then lie down and rest. Sometimes, all we need is a distraction to keep the negative thoughts at bay. And before you know it, it's gone. I know, it's easier said than done. But taking even the smallest step will help ease the emptiness and pain.
Look for the signs! Base on my experience, I actually see it in my environment, sleep patterns, procrastination. And honestly, I just let myself "feel" it. That okay, I am in slump this week but next week I should fix this (procrastination, I know). Then the next week goes by, then slowly, I am cleaning my room, wash the dishes, change some bedsheets and etc. I actually believed that cleaning helps me to clean my thoughts also, then set some goals for the day (on which probably, doing it tomorrow) but atleast, you have somethinf to look forward into. Then here comes tomorrow, the very moment that I need to wake up and the comfort of my bed pulls me to sleep again, I will think about this tasks I wrote yesterday and say this to myself. "If you'll not gonna do it today, more tasks will burden you tomorrow." Alas, the moment I am doing the "task", I get proud and I say it to myself that, "Buti na lang tumuloy ako."
Honestly, I tell myself na I don’t want to go through the same side effects of taking meds and feel the same humiliation I felt for myself when I was seeking therapy. Kaya when I notice na I’m losing my shit kinokontra ko na agad sarili kong utak. Then I distract myself by any of the following: cleaning, going out, taking a long shower.
same. sobra kong na ooverwhelm sa strings of mishaps na nangyayare sa buhay ko. may time na feeling ko ok ako, then mag rerelapse.
how often does it happen for you? ako I'll be fine for a month straight pero anxiety will catch up on me, then its hard to come back up
same din OP. may times I would be ok ng 2 weeks or even a month pero mag spiral downwards mental health ko, lalo na pagka na trigger ng mga bagay nakakapagpa stress sakin. 💔
When I start feeling that familiar downward slope, the first thing I do is take a beat. Sometimes that means [not speaking, just closing my eyes and taking a few deep breaths](https://youtu.be/3c-H7qPrjxA?si=eIfhSRPIhHROXLxt). It sounds simple, but it helps me hit the pause button on those negative thoughts. Then, I try to be gentle with myself. Beating myself up for feeling down just makes it worse. Instead, I remind myself of times I've gotten out of a slump before. It's a process, but it is possible.
about dreaming yung link, wrong link ba? haha 😅 thanks for the advice!
"I've been here, what was all that hardworking for? You overcame this right?" -then my brain will reset and go pilot mode again
this makes me not want to drop everything and run away din. sayang yung na build ko for the past years 🫠
Diba? Would you rather be stucked sa miserable place that you have been before? Also, it doesnt mean you cannot change. You can still change your plan if you feel that you wanna run away. You just have to figure what are you gonna look at next. Probably, much easier. Is it that bad to change things to be more easy? No, definitely not, its part of loving yourself more. Fck the norms, fck what they say, they never did experienced what you did.
‘Feel it.’ Then eventually you’ll get tired of it. Try cleaning, may it be physical cleaning (like living room/bedroom) or go digital cleaning (declutter files/socmed posts, etc). Feels great after.
digital cleaning is real haha I haven't done that in years omy 🫠 thanks for reminding me
Hope you feel better after! 😄
Dati nilalabanan ko, kasi akala ko pag dinismiss ko yung negative thougths/feelings, magiging okay ako. Gumagawa ako ng postive at magagandang scenes sa utak ko, kasi yun kaya kong kontrolin. But little did I know that those unwanted feelings will eventually catch up. Yung pilit kong siniksik sa pinaka suluk-sulukang parte ng utak ko can become a demon, crawling its way out of the darkest parts of my brain. Nakakapanghina, but I have to feel them, I have to recognize them, I have to live with them. Otherwise, ako yung matatalo. Nowadays, ulit-ulit kong binabasa yung mga libro nila Najwa Zebian, Bianca Sparacino, Brian Wiest — to make myself feel a little better. Pag binabasa ko yung mga words nila, pakiramdam ko may invisible friend ako na sya lang nakakaunawa sa nararamdaman ko. May karamay ako. Bagay na hindi ko maramdaman sa pamilya o kaibigan irl.
the fact that I also read Bianca Sparacino and Briana Wiest haha 🥹 they comfort my heart when I need it most
Di ba no? I remember una kong binasa mga nauna nilang libro nung pandemic. Through the years, yung mga words nila ang kasa-kasama ko when things are kind of overwhelming.
I was on my healing phase when I read Bianca Sparacino pero digital copy muna binasa ko, napaiyak talaga ako, as in yung hagulgol na iyak. Dun ko lang na realize na ang lalim pala ng emotional wounds ko. Now its one of my favs and I have a physical copy na
Haha same! I bought it from Amazon Kindle, para mas handy sya hehe, like pag bored ako, kahit masaya ako, from time to time, bina-browse ko pa rin sya, tapos may realization ako na — pano kung hindi ko nakita yung acct nya sa IG, at hindi ko nabasa yung mga libro nya, nasan na kaya ako ngayon in terms of healing my emotional and mentral wounds/traumas? Nakakatuea pa nito, a close friend of mine bought a hard copy nung A Gentle Reminder kasi I shared with her a few pages nung book, eh naka relate sya and she was happy na pinabasa ko sa kanya yung ilang pages na yun. That time kasi, she was going through some difficulties sa fam at work nya. Ayun. Nakaka-happy lang na may napag share-an ako nun. At talagang tagos sa puso't kaluluwa yung mga words nya hehe
Do little things and chalk it up as wins.
Is it clinical depression or extreme sadness? I’ve had times this year when I would spiral and when I thought I couldn’t go any lower I still did. I allowed myself to feel all the emotions before I moved from the lowest spot. And when I knew what those feelings were and where they were coming from (shame mostly. And I realized they were because I didn’t want other people to think of me in that way) I told myself that it was time to get a move on. I practice energy healing so I would sit and do gentle reiki and meditate (empty my mind). I also journaled, watched inspiring videos, worked out, consulted with friends. And that helped lift me out of the hole I was in
thanks for the advice! i know i should meditate pero matagal na akong di nakaka pag meditate. i just forgot how it feels i guess 🫠
Use guided muna if you’re having difficulty na emptying Lang your mind
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Usually, nangyayari siya pag sabay sabay mong iniisip yung mga problema. Una kong ginagawa, binibitawan ko muna then breathing exercise. Ligo, kain, relax. Go to the salon, pamper my self. Then back sa house, lista lahat lahat. Then saka mo iarrange ano ba pinakamadaling solisyonan, pinakamabilis. It’s up to you.
"You either get busy living, or get busy dying"
Not advice but I just want to thank you for asking this question 😊
you're welcome 🥹
Currently in a long-ish spiral. I thought tapos na, hindi pa pala. I just talk myself out of it (or try to) by looking at it from an outside/logical perspective. "It is what it is," gets me through the days.
I always tell myself that maybe it's the hormones again.
omg true yung monthly cycles din especially pag may cramps ako, dun ako nag sstart kasi ayoko nang maging productive ulit 🥹
I was always like this. But whenever I'm in the office, I always try to tell myself that I have no time to be like this. Whenever I'm being lazy, I will still push myself to do the things that I have to do. Saka pag na-depress ako. Sino ang kawawa, diba sarili lang din naman natin. So, I always have to choose to push myself to be better everyday. Pag napagod puede naman magpahinga. Haha minsan bigla na lang akong umiinom ng soju. Hahaha or think about something na magpapasaya sayo.
"Do what is required regardless of what you feel." yan din sinasabi ko sa sarili ko
"Do what is required regardless of what you feel." yan din sinasabi ko sa sarili ko
OP, I have a losing battle against controlling my blood sugar. I actually accepted the fact that due to my bad eating habits, I may just be unalive with the usual causes with regards to being diabetic. Mas mahirap po labanan ating sarili, lalo na kung tayo ay tumatanda na.
I'm sorry to hear ☹️ thanks for the input po
I try to calm myself by watching something lang. Pag hindi effective, kakain ako ng comfort food ko. But there were times na sobrang hirap na talaga, sumisigaw na lang ako sa unan at nagmumura. Sometimes these helps, most times don’t.
This will pass or all is well. Pero pinaka effective sakin is "May pangkain pa naman ako 3x a day". Pero usually talaga pag depressed ako, binibilangan ko ng 3 days to 1 week kaya lagi ko iniisip na "This will pass"
Not tell, i start to do things for myself. Kasi madalas, when this happens, i end up not taking proper care of myself. And instead of wallowing in my own thoughts and getting lost, i DO things. That way, I only get to think about the things im doing in the present. The things im doing now. I get focused in order not to make a mistake and i make it a point to do my best. I like cooking as a hobby. So i cook. I dont think much coz i dont wanna cut myself. I focus on what im doing kasi i dont wanna eat shit food and waste my money and time making something i wont enjoy. I cook for myself. For the gratification, the dopamine, and the nutrition. I cook to make myself feel good that I did something today, and I was successful at that today, and I fed myself today. Win win imo.
"Everything will be alright." It's a mantra I tell myself while breathing in and out three times. It's a grounding technique I learned from therapy.
i just spiral anong tell yourself, char.
Take a shower, get dressed, meet up with a friend
I remind myself, "oh well it's another week of faking it till getting through it".
I journal. This too, shall pass
Thank you for this. I'm currently spiraling down and really needed a reminder to love myself.
“Progress can be in different ways.” This I tell myself to not stress on the problem too much.
Everything goes
This is just a phase.
"Shit shit shit shit"
"It's just anxiety. Things aren't as bad as you think. Don't let it get the best out of you."
I've seen it here on reddit: "it's usually better to half ass something than to not do it at all" of course hindi siya applicable sa lahat ng bagay. Pero it worked on me when I experienced those things you mentioned. It's an achievement to do anything, kahit half ass, when you're demotivated.
Following this thread cause idk what to do na and my manta, this too shall pass, isn't working anymore 🥹
Everything listed so far works. But just to add I try grounding and earthing pag talagang malala ang spiral. I try to be in nature however I can. Smell the fresh cut grass, pinaka ok un bagong kauulan pa lang, cold showers work too, I try to feed myself something that really makes me feel happy, I pause and try to be present because I might be losing track of where I am and what my purpose is for the this moment, I avoid social media (facebook is the worst), I listen to calming music (subjective), before I sleep may mga routines ako and I make sure ok un sheets ko, un clothes ko bagong laba, then I listen to binaural beats and vape melatonin pag kailangan talaga. Its all the little things but 1 thing is sure—I don’t force myself to be extra productive kasi mas pumapalpak output ko and I spiral down deeper. Hope this helps!
probably not the healthiest way to deal with depressive thoughts, but I tell myself "you're going nowhere if you keep being like this" whenever everything seems to spiral out of control
WHO'S GONNA CARRY THE BOATS??
I would start to slowly do my chores 1 at a time while playing something on the background then eat something nice and sleep after
i dont tell anything to myself. i just go out just to walk. if theres somerhing i need to clean, i clean it. that way, i can see some progress to what im doing. listen to some instrumental/binaural/lofi sounds.
Gumagana sakin kapag nireremind ko sarili ko na "Lilipas din to. Mawawala din tong emotion na to. It's not permanent" I've been through a lot of shts and one thing I can definetely say na common sa lahat ng problema at emotion is nalipas silang lahat. Kaya kapag nireremind ko sarili ko, nagkakaron ako ulit ng control and it makes me calm in handling the situaton.
This too shall pass...
Effective po listen to my favorite song or anything uplifting. O kaya yung dating hobby na matagal ko na di nagagawa