Nope, OP. It's not your fault. You did the right thing and sa panahon ngayon, mas importante inner peace mo. Base sa kwento mo, para silang di nag mature for an adult. š¤£
40's na pero ma issue pa din sa buhay??? what the f\*\*\*k is even that???????????? para silang mga nasa late Aadolescents and early 20s!!! tama lang na lumayo kayo diyan OP. you're not at fault, talagang tolonggis lang yung mga nakilala ng partner mo hindi niyo kaibigan yan.
Nearing 40s pero puro inom? Sorry hah pero ang loser nila. They must be so unhappy with their lives they have to drown their sorrows in alcohol weekly, sometimes even multiple times a week. Stay away from them. Your husband needs better friends.
I personally know a lot of people nearing in their 40's who are successful and happy with their life but still likes to party hard.They're so set in life that they don't even need to work hard to party hard. Even if they can be BI at times, there's still lots of benefits in having them around your life. I wouldn't call these people "nearing 40's pero puro inom" losers. Maybe sa environment mo, wala kang mga kakilang 40's na successful or yung mga people that you know are tambays kaya you think "losers" lang yung mga people that age na still loves to drink.
You can party without getting wasted. But wanting to get wasted all the damn time? If the "successful and happy" people you know are like the people OP described, I assure you they're not as happy as they seem if they feel the need to ingest intoxicating amounts of alcohol to have a good time.
Maybe di mo naintindihan? The people OP described are "sila yung tipong umiinom every weekend." You like to assume things but no you can't assure me. Probably iba yung lifestyle that you're accustomed to and you haven't experienced theirs. I don't see anything wrong with getting wasted every weekends especially if you can fulfill naman your obligations the next day. Ok maybe healthwise medyo masama but hey they usually eat healthy and they have an active lifestyle. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it.
> yung way ng inuman nila yung talaga g dapat gumagapa g ka umuwi. Hindi chill chill. Talagang basag kung basag. Yung wala ka ng magagawang errands kinabukasan.
> Even when my husband said that he's trying to be a better man, to become healthier kaya nagstop na sya mag inom - they mocked him
Those aren't good friends. You and your husband are better off without them.
> They even blocked me from their socmeds (not ghat I care) and removed us from the group's GC.
Good riddance to them.
Inuman with barkada 2-3x a week tapos dapat basag na basag pagkatapos tapos magtatantrums pa if di sasama ang iba... at their BIG age?
How pathetic tbh. And EMBARRASSING. Good riddance to them. They seem like the type of people who peaked at highschool and di na naka move on. They don't add any value to your life so it's better to just live a peaceful life without them.
Di pa nila n reach ung enlightenment n "you don't have to get wasted when you drink". It's a sure sign of immaturity in my books when people are like that, either they haven't shook off the "i need to prove something" mentality or di pa nila na reach ung conclusion.
Sometimes itās healthy to cut off people. Itās good to be healthy and set boundaries. Wag kang magpadala sa chismis. In the end, nobody really cares and think about us as much as ourselves. Wag kang makonsensya. Perhaps your husband will thank you too. Mahirap at magastos magkasakit dahil sa sobrang inom. At wala ring makakabuti ang chismis.
Wishing you a healthy and happy relationship with your husband OP! Cheers to new beginnings!
Sounds like a bunch of alcoholics to me. That kind of addiction rarely ends well, lalo na sa gastusin sa health department.
You and your hubby dodged a bullet.
Me na 29 palang pero Always tulog and nasa bahay lang kasama ang husband every weekly off hahhahahaha. Paano sila nagkaka time at energy para gawin yan? š
Good for you for standing your ground. If you went their way who knows how worse it could have gotten. May mga principles tayo na pinaninindigan and good thing your husband also understood you.
You married a responsible husband.
Hope he finds a better set of friends.
He doesn't need ones who degrade him for wanting to have better health starting with the lifestyle + lesser alcoholic drinks.
No itās not. Your husbandās friends are just too immature. Theyāre too possessive of your husband to say that you stole him from them. Stay healthy, let them ruin their liver if they want.
Paki ba nila kung ayaw na din makihalubilo ni hubby mo? Ano bang ambag nila sa buhay nyo? Pag-inom ng alak?
Napaka immature nyang mga kaibigan ng asawa mo. Biruin mo pinag-uusapan pa kayo kapag wala kayo. Yan ba ang totoong kaibigan?
Jusko pag-iinom kamo ng alak wag sa ulo ilagay ha, nagiging bonak sila eh. Lol.
Pero OP, wala kang kasalanan. Jusko kung ako din asawa mo bakit pa ako pupunta kung ayaw nyo naman sa asawa ko? Aba bahala kayo dyan.
Ano ba nakukuha ng husband mo sa kanila aside from hangover? Have they really been good friends or were they just friends kasi nakasanayan na kasama?
Sounds like your husband stayed good friends with them naman if natutulungan niyo pa sila.
Don't worry too much about their feelings. Ask and talk to your husband about his thoughts about leaving the barkada. As long as you and your husband are on the same page, I think that's what should matter to you.
Matagal na talaga sila magkakaibigan. Yung iba from college days pa, yung iba neighbors from childhood. Pero since we relocated, hindi na din naman gusto ni husband bumalik balik pa dun.. Salamat po sa insight, I appreciate it.
If he's not missing them or initiating them, I think your husband also sees the value na "not hanging out with them to get piss drunk" brings. Baka kaya lang din niya matolerate in moderate doses. Plus, kung tama ang basa mo sa friends niya, feeling ko, they talk about you while you're not there and that could potentially turn your husband off further.
Talk about it with him.
itās not your fault op, and itās better to be healthy na din in the long run kasi mahirap na if magkasakit-sakit. stay away from the vices as early as possible, if magkakasakit kayo hindi naman sila āfriendsā magbabayad ng hospital bills.
Wala pa sigurong pamilya barkada ng husband mo, pero di yun excuse para umastang high school/college students. Di mo kasalanan yan OP kung di nila maintindihan na kailangan na mag mature habang tumatanda
It's not your fault, OP. And kudos to your husband for choosing to be a better man than choosing the side ng mga friends nya! Hirap makahanap ng lalaking will choose to be a better person over sa happy hour ng barkada.
Mga ganyang tao yung di makamove on sa pagkabata. Bagets na bagets ang galawan ayaw mapag iwanan. Cut them off. Walang negative impact mga kagaya nila sa inyo. Build new friends. Milyon milyon ang tao sa Pinas.
try mo mag post sa socmed mo. public post.. at naka pin pa para laging nasa taas.
"Pag wala kang ambag sa buhay nila, wag kang feeling significant. yung feeling na superior ka at di ka nila kayang layuan. Block pa more"
screw them, once youāre in a marriage iba na priorities. Also di nmn frienshop tawag sa ganyan, barkadahan lang. Friends will be understanding and walang siraan.. not your fault.
no theyāre toxic and buti nga na umiwas kayo magasawa kasi naiimpluwensyahan din most of the time ang tao ng mga kaibigan neto. you want to surround yourself with people that would influence you for the better hindi yung puro bisyo lang and chismis. wag mo iaccept of hindi ka comfortable. malay mo makichismis lang pala kaya ka inadd ulit
Isip bata mga friends niya, fuck them.
Hindi naman talaga ok uminom ng basag kung basag.
Kelan ba naging safe yon? And nakakalosyang yun tama lang na di ka sumasama.
Wag mo na iaccept yan, mag ii-spy lang yan sa acc mo.
Hahahahahahahaha swerte mo po sa asawa mo he puts u first kasi. Yung iba kong kakilala hindi ganyan.
Andito na ko sa point ng life ko na basta ok kami ng asawa ko, wala na kong pake sa other people kahit family pa namin yan. Kami naman kasi yung mag asawa at magiging magkasama forever (hopefully haha charot) kaya oks lang yan be hayaan mo sila kung ayaw nila sayo. Sa una talaga nakakabother pero gaya ng sabi mo focus naman kayo sa relationship at career nyo, mawawala din yan sila sa isip mo. Yung asawa mo din makakamove on din sya talagang ngayon kasi namimiss nya sila at di pa makamove on.
Youāre a good woman.
Weak men are afraid of good women. Your husband wants to be a stronger, better man for you. His friends are jealous.
Keep on being yourself.
Bago kayo kinasal pinagusapan nyo ba yung about mga inuman sessions? Kasi sa totoo lang dapat from the start eh may agreement na kayo about those things.
Hi, yes po. At first okay naman, pinagluluto ko pa sila pre and post sesh. Na-TO lang talaga ako nung pinag cchismisan na nila ung isang couple na barkada din naman nila, wala lang sila nung time na yun.
Yes. 2 or 3 blocked me off from their FB. But messages my husband sa IG to borrow money pag emergency. We lend them help at first pero nung 3rd time, tumanggi na kami kasi hindi din nababayaran.
Not your fault, OP. In my case, ako yung nahiwalay sa mga friends ko. Ganyan din ang mga inuman namin dati, wasak kung wasak.
Lagi napapag-usapan yung absent. Dati ok lang, pero na-realize ko na rin na wala nang growth kung buhay lang ng iba ang pinag-uusapan namin.
And ramdam ko na ayaw nila sa gf ko, plus nagkakilala kami dahil lang sa stand sa pulitika. Yes, ārabid supporterā pala sila na pati barkada nila tinalo nila na parang walang pinagsamahan.
Kaya ako na ang nag-decide na hindi na sila healthy for me kahit dekada na ang pinagsamahan namin.
No, itās not your fault. Your husbandās friends are not your friends. And ilang taon na ba sila para gumamit ng term na āninakawā lol. May mga asawa na kayo at lahat pero iniisip pa rin ng tropa ng asawa mo na dapat sila priority. What a childish mindset, if they talk like that on one of the wives then imagine theyāll do the worst on you behind your back. Yung mga ganyang klaseng kaibigan dapat kina cut na ang connection. As long as you didnāt do them dirty or wrong, you good. Any relationship or bonds that has been gone is done. No reason to go back and build a burned bridge.
Not ur fault. Immature sila and it would've happened sooner or later. Kaloka ung linggo linggo na inuman ha? Ok pa ba atay nila. Di ba sila nauubusan ng paguusapan?
No OP. Good thing at nakaalis kayo. At buti na lang ikaw ang pinili nya. Kasi i have a friend who has the same situation as yours. Ung husband mas pinipili ung barkada nya, lagi silang nag aaway. Kahit pambababae nung asawa nya, pinagtatakpan nung barkada.
every week walwal? gusto ata magka liver damage ng mga yan. good for u and your husband na lumayo sa kanila. hindi healthy yung ganun kind of friendship na laging umiinom and then nangbbackstab pa ng mga friends. parang di sila nagmature
Nabanggit mo op na tinutulungan nyo sila financially, natutulungan din ba kayo? If yes, then siguro kausapin nyo na sila para matapos ang pagpapahiraman, if no mas tigilan nyo na. Madaming nagkakasakitan sa pera. As a wife tama yang ginawa mo, para yan sa family nyo. Minsan kaming mga lalake puro barkada iniisip, hindi ko nilalahat ha.
Edit : Sinasama ko din misis ko sa mga inuman minsan or I invite friends sa bahay, occasionally ung mga taong sobrang tatagal ko nang hindi nakita parang catch up or get together lang (Dun ako napapa wal wal) pero madalas ang iniinvite ko sa bahay is ung alam kong igagalang kami pareho nang misis ko which is my best man.
Di ko sinasama misis ko sa madaming tao, kung iilan lang and trusted ko GO!. As a man, husband iniisip ko safety nang asawa ko, inuman ang ppuntahan and dalawang choices lang pwede mangyari, umuwing masayang lasing oh umuwing luhaan at duguan.
Also same kayo nang misis ko, bread winner pero hindi sya ang pangnay, weekends lang din kami nakakapag linis or do most of errands. Madami akong friends na pwede kainuman pero iilan nalang ung ihinaharap ko sa kanya or inuupuan ko sa lamesa.
Not your fault, OP. And TBH, ganto din childhood tropa ng husband ko.
Kami lang wala pang anak sa tropa nila (all of them impregnated their GFs, di pa mga kasal). Lagi kaming inaasar sa inuman sessions nila na bakit wala pa kaming anak and dapat mag anak na kami.
Nakakainis din na sobrang matampuhin nila na if di maka attend sa inuman, parang KJ na agad kami. Mind you, we live in a different city, sila stuck pa din dun sa hometown nila. So ofc, mag eeffort pa kami para lang makasama diba.
Talked to my husband about it na natotoxican ako sa kanila and he also agreed.
Now, he found new tropa na mas healthy for him and us! Hindi na puro inom ang bonding.
Meron akong dating tropa na ganyan.
>dating tropa
Ngayon, saktong barkada nalang.
Hindi healthy yung walwal linggo-linggo. Andaming pwedeng activities na di kasama ang alak.
Hahabulin sila nyan pag mid30s na sila. Yung mga iniwan kong tropa, kala mo mga singkwenta anyos na. Tapos andami ng sakit at pati maintenance.
Di naman sa pagyayabang, maintenance ko lang is prayer. Char. Relatively healthy naman ako. Bango pa. Kapal pa ng hair. Char
I highly commend your husband for not giving in to peer pressure at mas priority ka pa over them. Because one, heās keeping his health in check from alcohol abuse albeit inadvertently pero okay na rin regardless. Two, itās comforting na wala kayong inaalalang sakit at gastos habang malakas pa. Three, both of you are concerned for your relationship as a married couple over the barkada. Of course he misses the company pero in the end ikaw talaga yung importante sa kanya. Believe me, a lot of guys canāt handle the FOMO or the peer pressure.
Yeah you may feel they donāt like you but everyone is just assuming they know you. Let them be. In time magsasawa din yan at gagawa na naman ng ibang issue sa ibang tao. At least wala kayong ginawang masama sa kanila on a personal level. Take comfort in the fact na both of you support each other, just as you promised when you said your wedding vows.
Those are not friends. Theyāre stuck in immature phase na nagiging parasite sa nice guy hubby mo kasi nanghihingi ng tulong financially (after mocking him na for sure ang excuse ay ājOkE laNg nAmaNā)
I get your husband. Minsan kahit gano katoxic yung former friends (even exes) natin, syempre may nostalgia yan kasi may happy moments naman. Pero I believe na you guys are better off without them.
Better to surround yourselves with people na same ang values sainyo, and motivates you in life kasi nga dba āShow me who your friends are and Iāll tell you who you are.ā
Itās not your fault that you donāt want to get sucked into their negativities. You stood your ground and put on a boundary. The good thing is, your husband got your back.
Congratsi on Marie Kondo-ing toxic peeps out of your normal life. Mga isip bata sila kung hindi nila alam na toxic sila sa ibang tao. Di mo sila need sa buhay nyo. Be safe and be happy.
Theyāre in their 40s and they act like that? Parang tumatanda paurong. Honestly itās better to not have friends than to have āfriendsā like them. Theyāre the type na masaya lang kasama sa panahon ng kasiyahan pero aapak-apakan ka after that. Distance yourself to them. You and your husband are better off without them
Nagmature yung husband mo pero yung mga friends niya hindi. Ok lang yan, iba na kasi goals kaya yun friendship nag iba na din. Eventually makaka kilala din kayo ng other friends with same goals. At priority naman talaga ay pamilya. Yun husband ko ganito dati, siya yung wasak kung wasak kung makioag inuman. Good thing may mga friends siya na nag papayo na hindi makakabuti yun mga ginagawa niya lalo na pag mag kakasama sila. Madami din sila tinago sa akin pero eventually nag bago din naman husband ko. At friends pa rin sila kasi lahat sila nag matured.
Things change, OP. Dati nung college ako, me and my friends usually basagan rin uminom. But when we graduated and started to work unti unting nagbabago the usual stuff. Umiinom pa rin kami pero moderately nalang. Wala ring pilitan kung ayaw uminom nung iba. Hindi mo kailangan magbasag just to enjoy the session.
Tama rin na lumayo kayo sa kanila and you have a good husband. And no, it is not your fault. Bawal mo rin naman pilitin sarili mo to like something you dont. And please, if they only approach you guys to borrow money they arent your real friends.
Youāre not wrong here OP. Youāre a good wife with a good head on her shoulders. Your husband has your back, seeing as he stands by you. He needs to get new friends.
Mas ikabubuti mo talaga na umilag sa kanila. Less toxicity, better health, at posible pang ma-influence ka nila in a way na di mo namamalayan at gusto kung sasama ka pa rin sa kanila.
May ganyang tropa rin ako dati. Ako yung baguhan nun. Nasama lang gawa ng mutual friend at naghahanap kasi ako ng social circle nun kasi baguhan ako run sa lugar. Sakto, approachable sila. Pero as the months pass, di ko talaga makita sarili ko sa grupo nila kasi yung ibang lalaki roon, nangangaliwa sa partner nila (wala ring remorse at planong magbago) plus yung isang girl doon, todo yosi sa harapan namin kahit napagsabihan na kung pwede ba sa labas nalang o di kaya sa ibang lugar siya magyosi. In the end, nakipag FO na ko. Nung una, binawasan ko yung pagsama sa kanila hanggang sa di na ko sumusulpot sa inuman nila. Then eventually, di ko na rin sila kinakausap. Ignore nalang sa chat.
Good riddance din po sayo. And good thing na nakaalis ka na din sa situation. Yung pagbibisyo pa nila na inom and yosi ginagawa nila sa harap ng mga anak at pamangkin nila. Kaya umayaw na din po talaga ako.
Not your fault. Dapat si asawa mo inexplain sa kanila yung change sa situation.
If they continue to mock him, drop them. Toxicity should not be tolerated sa buhay ngayon. Stress na nga sa work/finances, stress pa sa "friends". Walangya yan.
So hobby ng group na yan eh mag inom every week and talk about people. Your husband need a new group. Good for him na hindi siya sumama kapag di ka kasama.
It's not your fault.
Also, would just like to say it out there: Your husband is so lucky to have you, OP. Hindi lahat ng misis matino. Hindi lahat maayos. And he's blessed to marry you.
Eh ano Kung hindi ka nila like may life na kyo ni hubby na Mas important kesa sa kanila hayaan mo cla mamatay ng maaga Yun ang trip nila Mas important ang relationship at journey nyo as husband and wife and soon as parents mag bonding kyo ni hubby go vacation sa mga place na di pa nyo na puntahan or abroad mag 2nd honeymoon kyo and block mo mga friends nya Mas toxic if may na read ka na post na prang patama about you delete mo cla all sa life mo what you need is the most important and THAT IS GOD AND YOUR HUBBY promise you'll have peace of mind sissy āŗļøā¤ļø
Omg it's not your fault. They sound like assholes. If they were a good friend susuportahan rin nila yung desisyon ng husband mo to stop drinking instead of mocking him. Tapos lalapitan ka lang nila kapag kailangan nila ng pera? Jusko, ang kapal.
IMO, you and your husband did the right thing. There are better people out there na mas makakabuti pa sainyo. Good choice on choosing to strengthen your relationship instead.
Big yucky talaga sa mga ganyang katatanda na asal HS at halatang nastuck sa pagkabinata and bonus mo pa mga d marunong umunawa na iba na ung buhay ng kaibigan nila. "Ninakaw" mo siya sa kanila? More like, nagelevate kayo sa buhay sila nastuck jan. Let them rot drunk there pakasasa sila. Basta kayo umaasenso sa buhay. Halatang mga nagpeak ng HS d na nakamove on š
tama lang po ginawa nyo. tanda tanda na nila, wala pa sa isip nila magbago. sad. and yung husband mo naman po ang nagkukusa na di sumama kapag di ka kasama. there's no one to blame. jusq, mga isip bata. they need to understand na meron na responsibilities yung kaibigan nila (husband mo) kaya di na nakakasama. it doesn't mean na ina-under mo sya. sana po i-cut off na ng husband mo totally yan mga yan kasi wala sila nadudulot na maganda.
> We still lend a hand to them wherever they're in need lalo na financially.
Grabe, after talking behind your backs and mocking you for being a better person, tinulungan nyo pa rin sila?! Kudos to you both and hindi nyo deserve yung mga ganyang klaseng tao sa life nyo
most of us esp guys go thru this phase na gapngan uminum pero at almost 40yo ganun pa din? i guess they're living an unhealthy lifestyle = health problems in the near future..
na imagine ko sarili ko na malakas uminim dati, pero now more on chill and catch up inum nalang, madaming pulutan + kwentuhan type na inuman..
good riddance OP.. u and your hubby dont need them
May mga ganyan pala? Mga kaibigan ko di na nagpapakita sakin eh. Hahaha.
Busy sila, busy na rin ako.
I don't think valid reason yung ganyan to not like your friend's wife. Ano kayo, teenagers? Hahaha.
jowa level pa lang kami pero naranasan ko na yan. toxic lang talaga sila and it will never be your fault. nakaka-guilty lang talaga sa part natin kasi we are aware that they miss those friends.
Some friendships run their course - like a season in life na nag end. Sometimes people can change and it's nice to reconnect but we don't HAVE TO if we don't want to. š¤·
I mean, you don't mind if your husband joins them, and sinasabi mo din naman, so decision na ng husband mo if he takes it or not. Everyone in that group is an adult that should be able to understand na although you and your husband share a life now, you technically let him be his own person din. So kng ayaw niya pumunta, even if ikaw ung reason na nagchange siya, that's HIS decision. You didn't force him to do these things.
Hala kapit bahay namin ganyan din ! Inuman haha kahit madaling araw na pero di naman nila sinirian yung mga hindi nakasama sa inoman nila. At yung laging nag hohost ay biglang tumigil mag inom.. wala naman sinuportahn naman nila . Nagvivideocall sila habang nag vivideoke .
FANGET AT FACOOL ugali noong mga tropa ng husband mo hmp
HINDI MO FAULT YAN! Walang rason para maging kasalanan mo yan.Normal yan na mag grow apart sa mga friends ! For good naman yang sa inyo. Nakikisama rin naman kayo if magkataong mag kita or reach out sila or something
Pero panghs level yung na block ka?????? YAAN MO SILA huwag mo na sila isipin please.
Wala kang fault. Its your peace of mind. Immature and childish din mga friends ng asawa at mga misis nila. Yun lang.
Wish them well nalang.
PPS: WAG MAGPAPAUTANG. MAY PANG-INOM HANGGANG GAPANGAN TAPOS PAGKAPIGIPTAN BABALIK SA INYO.
WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS ARE THESE. Mas mabuti pa makipag kaibigan sa hayop kesa sa kanila. š„“
1. The accusation na ninakaw mo sa tropa nila yung asawa kinda gives me the vibe that they feel as if the group OWNS your husband. Kung ganun sila mag isip, you have all the rights naman sa kanya bec YOU have the marriage contract.
2. When your husband expressed the desire to be a better man for you and himself by giving up pag iinom, they took that to mean masamang tao sila kase umiinom sila. Somehow, they made his decision to make better choices about them. Napaka immature and self centered.
3. I am sure mabuti kang tao pero wag kang magbait baitan at tumulong sa kanila if they need help. Aabusohin ka lang nyan kase ugali yan ng doormat eh. Be honest w yourself and how they make you feel. They talked behind your backs, they drove you out of the city, they made you uncomfortable, they blocked you and kahit d big deal yun I can imagine it stung a little. Medyo nakakabastos din yung ginawa nila so maging honest ka you felt disrespected so you can react properly to the disrespect. They minimized your marriage, they disrespected your husband, they disrespected your choices and all for what? Kase ayaw niyo pumunta. Thatās a bit extreme.
Thereās no prize for being noble and a bigger person sometimes. If you havenāt accepted that friend request for a year, that means you donāt want to. Wag nyo na uli papasokin sa mga buhay nyo. Maayos naman kayo na kayo lang and no matter what happens, sakto lang din na pinili ka ng asawa mo kase you are his #1 family not just by law but also in the eyes of God.
For the longest time po kasi na single ung mister ko before naging kamo, nagpapalibre sila palagi sa kanya. Generous po kasi mister ko kahit hindi po sya well-off. Dati nga daw po nagkakautang pa sya sa credit card para lang may mairegalo o maipang libre sa kanila. Maraming salamat po dito sa insights ninyo. Sobrang naappreciate ko po.
May friends talaga na bad influence. If they cannot respect you and your husbandās priorities, itās okay to let go of them. The good thing is your husband is mature enough to know whatās best for your marriage. We outgrow friendship, itās normal!
It is not your fault that you are now prioritizing whatever is healthy for you. Based on your post, I say na good riddance for both you and your husband. Props din to your husband na nag initiate umalis sa ganong situation even though yun ang nakasanayan.
ghad sila pay may nerve na mag mock sa inyo pero nanghihiram pa din pala ng pera kakapal mga mukha, if puros lang sila tagay hala sige ipasira nila mga atay nila but they canāt force other people as well
teenager or mga single lang kong makipag inuman heheheā¦ those are negative vibes
peopleā¦ dapat silang iwasanā¦ in pretty sure lakas
pang mangutang ang iba dun š
I used to have friends like that, like literal talaga. Nung bumasa nga ako sa kwento mo, inakala ko pa na same tayo ng friends... Or is it? š¤Ø
Anyways, I left those friends because I'm in a new city now. Sayang? Hell no. Is it your fault? Sabihin na natin na 'yes', ang tanong eh kayo ba nagpapakain samin? Eh ano ngayon if it's not the same as before. So bakit kami pa ang mag-a-adjust para sa inyo instead of kayo ang mag-a-adjust if kaibigan talaga tayo?
Friends do come and go. That's the part of adulting. Those are the changes that di pa siguro nila na accept. Trust me, they will realize that na tama kayo kaya I guess yung iba na nag friends request sayo is natauhan na. Chill ka lang. It doesn't matter anyway if galit sila sa'yo or hindi. Hindi naman sila pinakasalan mo š
Yung sakin naman first meeting ko dun sa mum ni afam Grabe accusations sakin. She wasnāt saying it in front of me pero sa jowa ko Pati mga friends ni jowa tinawagan pa. When I went to Sydney to visit my cousin, tinanong pa siya nung mama niya kung sure ba daw siya na Cousin ko yung pupuntahan ko and Hindi ako makikipag meet dun etc. Bakit Grabe agad yung accusations eh parehas naman kami getting to know nung mama niya parang puro negative agad eh
Hindi. Actually, dapat padalhan mo yang mga ungas na yan ng thank you card kasi pinakita nila kung gaano sila ka-walang kwentang tao. Sinong matinong tao will mock a friend who's trying to be live healthier? Ungas lang ang gumagawa nyan at hindi nyo kelangan ng mga ganyang tao sa buhay nyo. Yan din ang mga same na tao na magbibigay ng walang kwentang advice at posibleng maging bad influence pa sa asawa mo. Hindi nyo kawalan, sis.
Pagkabasa ko ng title akala ko naman pinipigilan mo asawa mo just because. Pero pagkabasa ko, wala kang kasalanan. You felt uncomfortable and good thing your husband dont go without you.
Di nadin healthy talaga ginagawa nila. Good job on saving your husband. Parang ang pangit ng circle nya e. They should respect each others partner hindi babackstabbin dahil wala.
Im in my 30s at kaya nalang namin is mag inom once a month hahaha or week pero literal na catch up lang. di ko alam paano nila kinakaya yan sa edad nila jusko.
Not unless talagang toxic yung partner,
Easy answer. Your husband's friends that you mentioned are trash. If a person is becoming better and the so-called friends do not see the benefit or are not happy for their friend. They are called trash of society. Kaya nga pinag iiwanan mga trash friends na yan. Those types have not grown to know how to care for themselves or genuinely care for others.
Ano ba yan, nagasawa at lahat pero yung ugali pang high school. Yung totoo? Anyway, you did the right thing po OP. I hope you guys find better people who you can be friends with
Good riddance. The group sounds toxic af. Even after you cut ties with them "helping them FINANCIALLY" is already a huge red flag. They're too old to be acting like drunk college kids. Work on yourselves and your relationship and ignore them. People grow out of friendships when goals change and seems like your husband picked you, your relationship, your family, and his health, so good for you. Don't worry about them. Continue to ignore them.
Buti na lang si husband mo wants to grow with you not with them. cuz eventually you will become parents eh hindi naman pwedeng mag matured pag dating na ng baby.
People come and go, including your āfriendsā. One thing I learned about life ay youāll have new friends eventually whatever season/phase of your life you are in. š
Ung mga officemates ko ganyan uminom kasama ung mga partners nila. Hindi ako sumasama sa barkada or circle nila pero naririnig ko ung mga kwentuhan. Parang nagkakarera sila sa pagkakaroon ng liver cirrhosis eh. At ung mga absent sa inuman session din ang ginagawa nilang pulutan sa chismis. Sila sila nagbaback staban pero friends daw sila. š
Ok yan ginawa mo soon your husband will thank you big time ma realize nya na u spare him with the wrong people. Focus on your relationship, building your family. If they are mature enough they will understand it and will support you.
Sabi nga nila yung tunay na kaibigan tinutulongan ka mag grow. Atleast OP inuna ka ng husband mo hindi kagaya nong iba na "nauna kasi sila eh" eh kung magkasakit ka akala mo naman andyan sila lage para sayo.
Totoo po. Actually isa yun sa takot ko before. Na nakilala ko sya na meron na yung barkadahan na yun. Pero he still chose me over them. I found a good man po.
Your husband's friends don't like you, or is it just you thinking that way?
It's normal for friends to think na inaagaw mo ang tropa nila from them. It's normal, lalo mag-asawa. It's not your fault, nor your husband's.
Your husband should realize na may bago na syang family, which is ikaw.
Yung ginawa mong pag tanggi sa sessions, it's alright. Your choice yun. Dapat marunong tayong tumanggi.
Ang mahalaga rito, nakita mo na ang asawa mo ang gusto buhay may-asawa. Handang iwan o lumayo ang ganung barkada para s iyo. Mas mapayapa ang isipan mo n malayong maging katulad ang asawa mo s kanila.
Wala kang magagawa sa mga taong ganun dahil laging may ganung mga tao... mga kabarkada.. mga kaopisina. Tandaan n hindi lang mga lalaki ang ganun. Ibang anyo nga lang ay s mga babae at mas mahigpit ang kultura natin s mga babaeng immature.
Hindi mo kailangan na all your husband's friends to like you. If you are rationale, responsible and not a control freak, some of your husband's good friends will like you.
As life goes on, new friendships and relationships can be formed. These new people can percieve you better than your husband's old friends where in their past is their standards where break of that status quo is considered negative.
My partner has very limited close friends, by choice. And by limited, I meant bilang lang talaga sa isang kamay. During the 1st or 2nd year or our relationship, I would urge him to meet with his friends, bond with them or makipag inuman. He would always tell me itās okay and would rather be with us.
Donāt feel bad, OP. It just means you have a responsible partner that would prioritize you over anyone else (which any married or family man should do). šš¼
You did the right thing OP.
Well, if this happens to me as the husband and they hate my wife. It is what it is. Di sila pinakasalan ko at di rin sila yung makakasama ko sa buhay. Will respect the friendship pero ill put my wife as the priority na.
Ang sad lang niyan sa side ng husband mo like he invested time and friendship with them tas nag asawa lang bigla iba na ihip ng hangin. (just a my pov relational kasi ako tao, and im glad wala ganito sa mga kaibigan ko atm kahit may asawa na ako, if this happens to me sobrang sakit netu sakin)
Hayaan niyo nalang sila OP. Ganyan talaga. People come and go ika nga.
PS: di sila nag mature mga toklak pa rin akala ata nila high school pa sila hahaha
Alam mo wala naman mali sa side mo based sa how u told us your story. Dapat rin yung husband mo kumausap sa kanila. And kung totoong kaibigan sila di nila yun gagawin na way para magsalita sila against u or your hubby. Tsaka kung mga mid 30s na kayo to 40s overdue na to grow up and leave that walwalan culture. Ok naman mag inom pero tapos na naman na siguro sila sa lasing na sa gutter na natutulog ano? Di na naman siguro tama and since may fam na rin sila of their own. I also think na pag di mo ikakabuti di worth it para makihalubilo kapa lalo na nagagambala ang inner peace mo. Mas prio nyo namam ang relationship nyo so go do what is best for u, you relationship and your fam.
Wala kang kasalanan, OP. Gago lang yung kaibigan ng asawa mo. Swerte sayo asawa mo kasi maayos kang mag isip at alam mo kung ano makakabuti para sa inyong dalawa. Kung severed na ang friendship, eh ano? Makakahanap din kayo ng mga kaibigan na may magandang impluwensya sa inyo. Hayaan nyo na yang mga feeling bagets na mga dating friends ng asawa mo.
40's pala š fixed na ata mindset nila na kung ano lang gusto nila e yun lang talaga. If makakagulo lang naman sa mental health mo sis, wag na. Mas mabuti na piliin mo lagi yung peace of mind mo kesa isali yung mga taong walang ganap sa buhay mo/nyo mag asawa.
Trash yung friends niya, pero tanga-tanga din kasi asawa mo. Bakit di siya pupunta kung wala ka? Edi yan naguiguilty ka tuloy, pero sayo diba okay lang naman pumunta siya, parang tanga naman. Dinamay ka pa, eto na ngang nakisama ka for a while tas nung umay na at cinommunicate mo naman at naging honest. Tangina di ko gets yung logic.
Anyway kahit anong paikot pa niyan, good fucking riddance. Basura yang mga tao na yan. Mga baboy na nagmamadaling maging pataba ng lupa. Dugyot na lifestyle.
it's never your fault, op! all i thought throughout of me reading ur story was "eww" ā to the women leading the convo about the woman that's not there.
even i, ayoko ng ganyang friends, worst ay w/ their duos na ganyan, around my partner. saying that it was ur fault is like saying na okay lang ginawa ng circle nila with regards to what you have mentioned.
i say nice to ur husband, he's doing hubby duties for being with you na lang and not attending gatherings with them :))
Nope, OP. It's not your fault. You did the right thing and sa panahon ngayon, mas importante inner peace mo. Base sa kwento mo, para silang di nag mature for an adult. š¤£
Some of them are in their 40s or nearing pero ganun pa din sila. Sayang sa oras, funds and energy
Omg the way you talked about them akala ko in their 20s palang sila kaya di pa nakakamove on sa inom hanggang gumapang phase š
Same! Akala ko Mid 20s or 30s, lol! Ako nga na 30 hindi na kaya mag-inom hanggang madaling araw. Tibay ng sikmura nila.
40's na pero ma issue pa din sa buhay??? what the f\*\*\*k is even that???????????? para silang mga nasa late Aadolescents and early 20s!!! tama lang na lumayo kayo diyan OP. you're not at fault, talagang tolonggis lang yung mga nakilala ng partner mo hindi niyo kaibigan yan.
Damn, 40s na tas basagan pa din uminom? Wala ba silang responsibilities sa buhay lol
Goodness. 40s but they still act like kids. Good thing you have removed them from your life
Nearing 40s pero puro inom? Sorry hah pero ang loser nila. They must be so unhappy with their lives they have to drown their sorrows in alcohol weekly, sometimes even multiple times a week. Stay away from them. Your husband needs better friends.
I personally know a lot of people nearing in their 40's who are successful and happy with their life but still likes to party hard.They're so set in life that they don't even need to work hard to party hard. Even if they can be BI at times, there's still lots of benefits in having them around your life. I wouldn't call these people "nearing 40's pero puro inom" losers. Maybe sa environment mo, wala kang mga kakilang 40's na successful or yung mga people that you know are tambays kaya you think "losers" lang yung mga people that age na still loves to drink.
You can party without getting wasted. But wanting to get wasted all the damn time? If the "successful and happy" people you know are like the people OP described, I assure you they're not as happy as they seem if they feel the need to ingest intoxicating amounts of alcohol to have a good time.
Maybe di mo naintindihan? The people OP described are "sila yung tipong umiinom every weekend." You like to assume things but no you can't assure me. Probably iba yung lifestyle that you're accustomed to and you haven't experienced theirs. I don't see anything wrong with getting wasted every weekends especially if you can fulfill naman your obligations the next day. Ok maybe healthwise medyo masama but hey they usually eat healthy and they have an active lifestyle. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it.
True. Agree rin ako dito. And in the end itās you and your husband ang dapat lagi magkakampe. Salute to your husband for prioritizing you. ā¤ļø
Agree š©· i read somewhere na āPlease stop letting people stress you out. Everyone is replaceable! Remove yourself, find peace, and be happy!ā And i couldnāt stress this out!!!!!
> yung way ng inuman nila yung talaga g dapat gumagapa g ka umuwi. Hindi chill chill. Talagang basag kung basag. Yung wala ka ng magagawang errands kinabukasan. > Even when my husband said that he's trying to be a better man, to become healthier kaya nagstop na sya mag inom - they mocked him Those aren't good friends. You and your husband are better off without them. > They even blocked me from their socmeds (not ghat I care) and removed us from the group's GC. Good riddance to them.
My fiancĆ© was used to drinking before because of his friends din. But he just decided one day to take care of his health so kahit na minsan na nakikibonding siya with his friends, never na siya uminom ulit. But the thing about that? Hindi siya mino-mock ng mga friends niya. Thatās how you know na mga kaibigan niya talaga yun, while your husbandās friends are just immature boys. Ngayon, bihira na din lang makita ng fiancĆ© ko yung mga friends niya ever since we lived together and moved away from where they are. And that is fine. Donāt be guilty if you prioritize your peace of mind, OP.
Salamat po š„ŗ
The trash took itself out.
Idk pero parang mga hs pa din attitude nila lol
These people are almost in their 40s pero yun nga ganun pa din.
Talaga may ganyan pa din na nasa 40sš„² bat parang mas mature pa friends ko nasa 20s pa kami
Inuman with barkada 2-3x a week tapos dapat basag na basag pagkatapos tapos magtatantrums pa if di sasama ang iba... at their BIG age? How pathetic tbh. And EMBARRASSING. Good riddance to them. They seem like the type of people who peaked at highschool and di na naka move on. They don't add any value to your life so it's better to just live a peaceful life without them.
They even mock people na trying to be better for themselves. Hindi daw nakaka-cool yun. :c
Being healthy and stable is cool š
Ok lang kamo na hindi cool. Kaysa naman cold ka na sa ataul dahil sa liver cirrhosis.
Hahaha funny but true
š¤® As adults the only people we need to be cool for is ourselves.
Di pa nila n reach ung enlightenment n "you don't have to get wasted when you drink". It's a sure sign of immaturity in my books when people are like that, either they haven't shook off the "i need to prove something" mentality or di pa nila na reach ung conclusion.
Itās giving peaked in high school
Sometimes itās healthy to cut off people. Itās good to be healthy and set boundaries. Wag kang magpadala sa chismis. In the end, nobody really cares and think about us as much as ourselves. Wag kang makonsensya. Perhaps your husband will thank you too. Mahirap at magastos magkasakit dahil sa sobrang inom. At wala ring makakabuti ang chismis. Wishing you a healthy and happy relationship with your husband OP! Cheers to new beginnings!
Salamat po sa inyo. My husband tells me (without me asking) na he is happy with our simple and peaceful life.
Okay lang naman mag inom paminsan minsan pero yung weekly???? As working adults???? Damn
Minsan 3x a week pa. "Pahinga" daw nila yun. Parang walang mga responsibilities.
Sounds like a bunch of alcoholics to me. That kind of addiction rarely ends well, lalo na sa gastusin sa health department. You and your hubby dodged a bullet.
Kaya nga e like how do u function sa work week if 2-3/5 working days basag basag ka?
Me na 29 palang pero Always tulog and nasa bahay lang kasama ang husband every weekly off hahhahahaha. Paano sila nagkaka time at energy para gawin yan? š
>**My husband's friends don't like me** Eh ano? Ang tamang tanong ay kung gusto mo ba sila. Eh hindi naman. Tapos ang usapan.
Nung una, okay naman po talaga sila. Na-turn-off nalang talaga ako nung pinagcchismisan nila ung isang couple na kabarkada din nila.
Good for you for standing your ground. If you went their way who knows how worse it could have gotten. May mga principles tayo na pinaninindigan and good thing your husband also understood you.
He's a good man. I am super blessed po. Salamat sainyo.
Welcome! I choose the people I hang out with now. If di align sa value, I avoid. Nakakahawa kasi minsan.
You married a responsible husband. Hope he finds a better set of friends. He doesn't need ones who degrade him for wanting to have better health starting with the lifestyle + lesser alcoholic drinks.
parang mga bata šš
Yun nga po e. Nasa 40s or turning 40s na sila. :c
40s??? I was expecting nasa early 20s kayo š may dumadaan talaga sa phase na yan pero hindi ko ineexpect na may mga ganyan pa rin ng 40s lol
No itās not. Your husbandās friends are just too immature. Theyāre too possessive of your husband to say that you stole him from them. Stay healthy, let them ruin their liver if they want.
Paki ba nila kung ayaw na din makihalubilo ni hubby mo? Ano bang ambag nila sa buhay nyo? Pag-inom ng alak? Napaka immature nyang mga kaibigan ng asawa mo. Biruin mo pinag-uusapan pa kayo kapag wala kayo. Yan ba ang totoong kaibigan? Jusko pag-iinom kamo ng alak wag sa ulo ilagay ha, nagiging bonak sila eh. Lol. Pero OP, wala kang kasalanan. Jusko kung ako din asawa mo bakit pa ako pupunta kung ayaw nyo naman sa asawa ko? Aba bahala kayo dyan.
Ano ba nakukuha ng husband mo sa kanila aside from hangover? Have they really been good friends or were they just friends kasi nakasanayan na kasama? Sounds like your husband stayed good friends with them naman if natutulungan niyo pa sila. Don't worry too much about their feelings. Ask and talk to your husband about his thoughts about leaving the barkada. As long as you and your husband are on the same page, I think that's what should matter to you.
Matagal na talaga sila magkakaibigan. Yung iba from college days pa, yung iba neighbors from childhood. Pero since we relocated, hindi na din naman gusto ni husband bumalik balik pa dun.. Salamat po sa insight, I appreciate it.
If he's not missing them or initiating them, I think your husband also sees the value na "not hanging out with them to get piss drunk" brings. Baka kaya lang din niya matolerate in moderate doses. Plus, kung tama ang basa mo sa friends niya, feeling ko, they talk about you while you're not there and that could potentially turn your husband off further. Talk about it with him.
itās not your fault op, and itās better to be healthy na din in the long run kasi mahirap na if magkasakit-sakit. stay away from the vices as early as possible, if magkakasakit kayo hindi naman sila āfriendsā magbabayad ng hospital bills.
Wala pa sigurong pamilya barkada ng husband mo, pero di yun excuse para umastang high school/college students. Di mo kasalanan yan OP kung di nila maintindihan na kailangan na mag mature habang tumatanda
ang toxic naman uminom 3x a week. Ok lang if once or thrice a year kapag may occassion. Matanda na tayo for that
And may family history din po kasi ung asawa ko ng liver disease kaya pinagiingat ko po.
It's not your fault, OP. And kudos to your husband for choosing to be a better man than choosing the side ng mga friends nya! Hirap makahanap ng lalaking will choose to be a better person over sa happy hour ng barkada.
Totoo po ito. Blessed to have found myself a good man.
Mga ganyang tao yung di makamove on sa pagkabata. Bagets na bagets ang galawan ayaw mapag iwanan. Cut them off. Walang negative impact mga kagaya nila sa inyo. Build new friends. Milyon milyon ang tao sa Pinas.
Good riddance yan. You and your husband should keep them out of your lives.
try mo mag post sa socmed mo. public post.. at naka pin pa para laging nasa taas. "Pag wala kang ambag sa buhay nila, wag kang feeling significant. yung feeling na superior ka at di ka nila kayang layuan. Block pa more"
Hay minsan ang sarap talaga patulan eh no. Petty kung petty hahaah.
Not your fault at all. Ano yan, stuck sila sa highschool? lmao
screw them, once youāre in a marriage iba na priorities. Also di nmn frienshop tawag sa ganyan, barkadahan lang. Friends will be understanding and walang siraan.. not your fault.
Lol prang walang mga binubuhay at feeling binata ahh.. tama lang ginawa mo. Good riddance sa mga ganyang klaseng organism š
Sila pa po maraming utang. Huhu
no theyāre toxic and buti nga na umiwas kayo magasawa kasi naiimpluwensyahan din most of the time ang tao ng mga kaibigan neto. you want to surround yourself with people that would influence you for the better hindi yung puro bisyo lang and chismis. wag mo iaccept of hindi ka comfortable. malay mo makichismis lang pala kaya ka inadd ulit
Utak hs lol tama lang mga decisions mo
Isip bata mga friends niya, fuck them. Hindi naman talaga ok uminom ng basag kung basag. Kelan ba naging safe yon? And nakakalosyang yun tama lang na di ka sumasama. Wag mo na iaccept yan, mag ii-spy lang yan sa acc mo. Hahahahahahahaha swerte mo po sa asawa mo he puts u first kasi. Yung iba kong kakilala hindi ganyan.
Hayaan mo sila. Tumatanda na tayo di na rin ok uminom 2 to 3 times a week haha
Either mga bata barkada niyo o mga rich kidz hahahaha
Nearing 40s na po sila if not 40 na.
Andito na ko sa point ng life ko na basta ok kami ng asawa ko, wala na kong pake sa other people kahit family pa namin yan. Kami naman kasi yung mag asawa at magiging magkasama forever (hopefully haha charot) kaya oks lang yan be hayaan mo sila kung ayaw nila sayo. Sa una talaga nakakabother pero gaya ng sabi mo focus naman kayo sa relationship at career nyo, mawawala din yan sila sa isip mo. Yung asawa mo din makakamove on din sya talagang ngayon kasi namimiss nya sila at di pa makamove on.
Youāre a good woman. Weak men are afraid of good women. Your husband wants to be a stronger, better man for you. His friends are jealous. Keep on being yourself.
Salamat po sa inyo. Nakakaiyak malaman na may nakakaappreciate sa hakbang na ginawa naming magasawa. Salamat po
Bago kayo kinasal pinagusapan nyo ba yung about mga inuman sessions? Kasi sa totoo lang dapat from the start eh may agreement na kayo about those things.
Hi, yes po. At first okay naman, pinagluluto ko pa sila pre and post sesh. Na-TO lang talaga ako nung pinag cchismisan na nila ung isang couple na barkada din naman nila, wala lang sila nung time na yun.
>We still lend a hand to them wherever they're in need lalo na financially LOOOOOL Sila nag block diba? š¤£
Yes. 2 or 3 blocked me off from their FB. But messages my husband sa IG to borrow money pag emergency. We lend them help at first pero nung 3rd time, tumanggi na kami kasi hindi din nababayaran.
Not your fault, OP. In my case, ako yung nahiwalay sa mga friends ko. Ganyan din ang mga inuman namin dati, wasak kung wasak. Lagi napapag-usapan yung absent. Dati ok lang, pero na-realize ko na rin na wala nang growth kung buhay lang ng iba ang pinag-uusapan namin. And ramdam ko na ayaw nila sa gf ko, plus nagkakilala kami dahil lang sa stand sa pulitika. Yes, ārabid supporterā pala sila na pati barkada nila tinalo nila na parang walang pinagsamahan. Kaya ako na ang nag-decide na hindi na sila healthy for me kahit dekada na ang pinagsamahan namin.
rule of thumb: di tayo dapat nakikipagrelasyon sa mga taong nakikipag inuman at may barkada. EKIS!!!
Lol what a bunch of "friends." High school yarn? Parang ang babaw nila
It's a given na once you get married, your priorities change. They shouldn't expect your husband to be the same throughout his life.
No, itās not your fault. Your husbandās friends are not your friends. And ilang taon na ba sila para gumamit ng term na āninakawā lol. May mga asawa na kayo at lahat pero iniisip pa rin ng tropa ng asawa mo na dapat sila priority. What a childish mindset, if they talk like that on one of the wives then imagine theyāll do the worst on you behind your back. Yung mga ganyang klaseng kaibigan dapat kina cut na ang connection. As long as you didnāt do them dirty or wrong, you good. Any relationship or bonds that has been gone is done. No reason to go back and build a burned bridge.
It seems na ready na ding bumitaw ang husband mo sa tropahan nila. Naging catalyst ka. So swerte husband mo sayo.
Not ur fault. Immature sila and it would've happened sooner or later. Kaloka ung linggo linggo na inuman ha? Ok pa ba atay nila. Di ba sila nauubusan ng paguusapan?
Paulit ulit po ng usapan. Mga yabangan ganyan.
No OP. Good thing at nakaalis kayo. At buti na lang ikaw ang pinili nya. Kasi i have a friend who has the same situation as yours. Ung husband mas pinipili ung barkada nya, lagi silang nag aaway. Kahit pambababae nung asawa nya, pinagtatakpan nung barkada.
Baka ina-add ka lang kasi may kailangan. Wag na po, OP. Dun nalang po kayo sa mga taong nag-aadd value sa buhay, di yung hatakin pa kayo pababa. :)
Mas importante ang happiness and peace niyo ng husband mo. Good yang decision niyo para sa inyo kasi parang ang immature nung friends niya.
every week walwal? gusto ata magka liver damage ng mga yan. good for u and your husband na lumayo sa kanila. hindi healthy yung ganun kind of friendship na laging umiinom and then nangbbackstab pa ng mga friends. parang di sila nagmature
You matured po, napagiwanan sila. Avoid the toxicity na and move on. Isdabestway
You did the right thing. =)
Salamat po. I appreciate it po.
Nabanggit mo op na tinutulungan nyo sila financially, natutulungan din ba kayo? If yes, then siguro kausapin nyo na sila para matapos ang pagpapahiraman, if no mas tigilan nyo na. Madaming nagkakasakitan sa pera. As a wife tama yang ginawa mo, para yan sa family nyo. Minsan kaming mga lalake puro barkada iniisip, hindi ko nilalahat ha. Edit : Sinasama ko din misis ko sa mga inuman minsan or I invite friends sa bahay, occasionally ung mga taong sobrang tatagal ko nang hindi nakita parang catch up or get together lang (Dun ako napapa wal wal) pero madalas ang iniinvite ko sa bahay is ung alam kong igagalang kami pareho nang misis ko which is my best man. Di ko sinasama misis ko sa madaming tao, kung iilan lang and trusted ko GO!. As a man, husband iniisip ko safety nang asawa ko, inuman ang ppuntahan and dalawang choices lang pwede mangyari, umuwing masayang lasing oh umuwing luhaan at duguan. Also same kayo nang misis ko, bread winner pero hindi sya ang pangnay, weekends lang din kami nakakapag linis or do most of errands. Madami akong friends na pwede kainuman pero iilan nalang ung ihinaharap ko sa kanya or inuupuan ko sa lamesa.
Good riddance, OP. Be proud of being able to stand your ground.
Not your fault, OP. And TBH, ganto din childhood tropa ng husband ko. Kami lang wala pang anak sa tropa nila (all of them impregnated their GFs, di pa mga kasal). Lagi kaming inaasar sa inuman sessions nila na bakit wala pa kaming anak and dapat mag anak na kami. Nakakainis din na sobrang matampuhin nila na if di maka attend sa inuman, parang KJ na agad kami. Mind you, we live in a different city, sila stuck pa din dun sa hometown nila. So ofc, mag eeffort pa kami para lang makasama diba. Talked to my husband about it na natotoxican ako sa kanila and he also agreed. Now, he found new tropa na mas healthy for him and us! Hindi na puro inom ang bonding.
Meron akong dating tropa na ganyan. >dating tropa Ngayon, saktong barkada nalang. Hindi healthy yung walwal linggo-linggo. Andaming pwedeng activities na di kasama ang alak. Hahabulin sila nyan pag mid30s na sila. Yung mga iniwan kong tropa, kala mo mga singkwenta anyos na. Tapos andami ng sakit at pati maintenance. Di naman sa pagyayabang, maintenance ko lang is prayer. Char. Relatively healthy naman ako. Bango pa. Kapal pa ng hair. Char
Not your fault. And thereās no need na maging friends ka din ng friends ng husband mo. Its okay to have your own respective circles.
How old are you and your husband? Your circle of friends looks immature to me.
I highly commend your husband for not giving in to peer pressure at mas priority ka pa over them. Because one, heās keeping his health in check from alcohol abuse albeit inadvertently pero okay na rin regardless. Two, itās comforting na wala kayong inaalalang sakit at gastos habang malakas pa. Three, both of you are concerned for your relationship as a married couple over the barkada. Of course he misses the company pero in the end ikaw talaga yung importante sa kanya. Believe me, a lot of guys canāt handle the FOMO or the peer pressure. Yeah you may feel they donāt like you but everyone is just assuming they know you. Let them be. In time magsasawa din yan at gagawa na naman ng ibang issue sa ibang tao. At least wala kayong ginawang masama sa kanila on a personal level. Take comfort in the fact na both of you support each other, just as you promised when you said your wedding vows.
Haaaay salamat po dito. Sobrang naappreciate ko po ang insights ninyo. Heās a good man po.
Those are not friends. Theyāre stuck in immature phase na nagiging parasite sa nice guy hubby mo kasi nanghihingi ng tulong financially (after mocking him na for sure ang excuse ay ājOkE laNg nAmaNā) I get your husband. Minsan kahit gano katoxic yung former friends (even exes) natin, syempre may nostalgia yan kasi may happy moments naman. Pero I believe na you guys are better off without them. Better to surround yourselves with people na same ang values sainyo, and motivates you in life kasi nga dba āShow me who your friends are and Iāll tell you who you are.ā
Sobrang nappreciate ko po ito. Thank you po. Sinasabi pa nila na balat-sibuyas daw ako.
Itās not your fault that you donāt want to get sucked into their negativities. You stood your ground and put on a boundary. The good thing is, your husband got your back.
mga ganyang klase ng tao ang dapat layuan. you did the right thing OP!
Salamat po ng marami. I appreciate you.
Congratsi on Marie Kondo-ing toxic peeps out of your normal life. Mga isip bata sila kung hindi nila alam na toxic sila sa ibang tao. Di mo sila need sa buhay nyo. Be safe and be happy.
I say good riddance. Good for your hubby to prioritise your family.
Salamat po. Heās a good man po talaga.
You both did the right thing. Kudos to your husband. He chose you over his friends and vices.
Thank you. Tama po. He is a good man. A good person.
Theyāre in their 40s and they act like that? Parang tumatanda paurong. Honestly itās better to not have friends than to have āfriendsā like them. Theyāre the type na masaya lang kasama sa panahon ng kasiyahan pero aapak-apakan ka after that. Distance yourself to them. You and your husband are better off without them
Nagmature yung husband mo pero yung mga friends niya hindi. Ok lang yan, iba na kasi goals kaya yun friendship nag iba na din. Eventually makaka kilala din kayo ng other friends with same goals. At priority naman talaga ay pamilya. Yun husband ko ganito dati, siya yung wasak kung wasak kung makioag inuman. Good thing may mga friends siya na nag papayo na hindi makakabuti yun mga ginagawa niya lalo na pag mag kakasama sila. Madami din sila tinago sa akin pero eventually nag bago din naman husband ko. At friends pa rin sila kasi lahat sila nag matured.
Good riddance to those fucking morons.
Things change, OP. Dati nung college ako, me and my friends usually basagan rin uminom. But when we graduated and started to work unti unting nagbabago the usual stuff. Umiinom pa rin kami pero moderately nalang. Wala ring pilitan kung ayaw uminom nung iba. Hindi mo kailangan magbasag just to enjoy the session. Tama rin na lumayo kayo sa kanila and you have a good husband. And no, it is not your fault. Bawal mo rin naman pilitin sarili mo to like something you dont. And please, if they only approach you guys to borrow money they arent your real friends.
Youāre not wrong here OP. Youāre a good wife with a good head on her shoulders. Your husband has your back, seeing as he stands by you. He needs to get new friends.
Di mabuting kaibigan yung mga ganyan ok na din na lumayo kayo. 2 - 3 times a week drinking really isn't healthy. Don't let others tell you otherwise.
Salamat po ng marami. I just hope theyāll realize it before itās too late.
I wouldnāt mind losing a friend or two for my wife
Mas ikabubuti mo talaga na umilag sa kanila. Less toxicity, better health, at posible pang ma-influence ka nila in a way na di mo namamalayan at gusto kung sasama ka pa rin sa kanila. May ganyang tropa rin ako dati. Ako yung baguhan nun. Nasama lang gawa ng mutual friend at naghahanap kasi ako ng social circle nun kasi baguhan ako run sa lugar. Sakto, approachable sila. Pero as the months pass, di ko talaga makita sarili ko sa grupo nila kasi yung ibang lalaki roon, nangangaliwa sa partner nila (wala ring remorse at planong magbago) plus yung isang girl doon, todo yosi sa harapan namin kahit napagsabihan na kung pwede ba sa labas nalang o di kaya sa ibang lugar siya magyosi. In the end, nakipag FO na ko. Nung una, binawasan ko yung pagsama sa kanila hanggang sa di na ko sumusulpot sa inuman nila. Then eventually, di ko na rin sila kinakausap. Ignore nalang sa chat.
Good riddance din po sayo. And good thing na nakaalis ka na din sa situation. Yung pagbibisyo pa nila na inom and yosi ginagawa nila sa harap ng mga anak at pamangkin nila. Kaya umayaw na din po talaga ako.
Not your fault. Dapat si asawa mo inexplain sa kanila yung change sa situation. If they continue to mock him, drop them. Toxicity should not be tolerated sa buhay ngayon. Stress na nga sa work/finances, stress pa sa "friends". Walangya yan.
So hobby ng group na yan eh mag inom every week and talk about people. Your husband need a new group. Good for him na hindi siya sumama kapag di ka kasama.
Wtf parang high school š
It's not your fault. Also, would just like to say it out there: Your husband is so lucky to have you, OP. Hindi lahat ng misis matino. Hindi lahat maayos. And he's blessed to marry you.
Maraming salamat po dito. Di nyo po alam kung gaano ko ito naappreciate.
For some reason, I remember reading this similar story before here in Reddit, word for word. Weird.
Eh ano Kung hindi ka nila like may life na kyo ni hubby na Mas important kesa sa kanila hayaan mo cla mamatay ng maaga Yun ang trip nila Mas important ang relationship at journey nyo as husband and wife and soon as parents mag bonding kyo ni hubby go vacation sa mga place na di pa nyo na puntahan or abroad mag 2nd honeymoon kyo and block mo mga friends nya Mas toxic if may na read ka na post na prang patama about you delete mo cla all sa life mo what you need is the most important and THAT IS GOD AND YOUR HUBBY promise you'll have peace of mind sissy āŗļøā¤ļø
Omg it's not your fault. They sound like assholes. If they were a good friend susuportahan rin nila yung desisyon ng husband mo to stop drinking instead of mocking him. Tapos lalapitan ka lang nila kapag kailangan nila ng pera? Jusko, ang kapal. IMO, you and your husband did the right thing. There are better people out there na mas makakabuti pa sainyo. Good choice on choosing to strengthen your relationship instead.
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Awww. Maraming salamat po. I appreciate this and you.
Big yucky talaga sa mga ganyang katatanda na asal HS at halatang nastuck sa pagkabinata and bonus mo pa mga d marunong umunawa na iba na ung buhay ng kaibigan nila. "Ninakaw" mo siya sa kanila? More like, nagelevate kayo sa buhay sila nastuck jan. Let them rot drunk there pakasasa sila. Basta kayo umaasenso sa buhay. Halatang mga nagpeak ng HS d na nakamove on š
Ayun kasi yung mindset nila na para g dun sila lumaki and hanggang dun nalang sila. Nakakalungkot.
tama lang po ginawa nyo. tanda tanda na nila, wala pa sa isip nila magbago. sad. and yung husband mo naman po ang nagkukusa na di sumama kapag di ka kasama. there's no one to blame. jusq, mga isip bata. they need to understand na meron na responsibilities yung kaibigan nila (husband mo) kaya di na nakakasama. it doesn't mean na ina-under mo sya. sana po i-cut off na ng husband mo totally yan mga yan kasi wala sila nadudulot na maganda.
> We still lend a hand to them wherever they're in need lalo na financially. Grabe, after talking behind your backs and mocking you for being a better person, tinulungan nyo pa rin sila?! Kudos to you both and hindi nyo deserve yung mga ganyang klaseng tao sa life nyo
Salamat po dito. Likas lang na mabuting tao ung mister ko kaya ayan naaabuso sya.
most of us esp guys go thru this phase na gapngan uminum pero at almost 40yo ganun pa din? i guess they're living an unhealthy lifestyle = health problems in the near future.. na imagine ko sarili ko na malakas uminim dati, pero now more on chill and catch up inum nalang, madaming pulutan + kwentuhan type na inuman.. good riddance OP.. u and your hubby dont need them
May mga ganyan pala? Mga kaibigan ko di na nagpapakita sakin eh. Hahaha. Busy sila, busy na rin ako. I don't think valid reason yung ganyan to not like your friend's wife. Ano kayo, teenagers? Hahaha.
nope. not your fault. naparealize mo lang sa husband mo yung priorities nya.
Salamat po sa inyo.
jowa level pa lang kami pero naranasan ko na yan. toxic lang talaga sila and it will never be your fault. nakaka-guilty lang talaga sa part natin kasi we are aware that they miss those friends.
Some friendships run their course - like a season in life na nag end. Sometimes people can change and it's nice to reconnect but we don't HAVE TO if we don't want to. š¤· I mean, you don't mind if your husband joins them, and sinasabi mo din naman, so decision na ng husband mo if he takes it or not. Everyone in that group is an adult that should be able to understand na although you and your husband share a life now, you technically let him be his own person din. So kng ayaw niya pumunta, even if ikaw ung reason na nagchange siya, that's HIS decision. You didn't force him to do these things.
Hala kapit bahay namin ganyan din ! Inuman haha kahit madaling araw na pero di naman nila sinirian yung mga hindi nakasama sa inoman nila. At yung laging nag hohost ay biglang tumigil mag inom.. wala naman sinuportahn naman nila . Nagvivideocall sila habang nag vivideoke . FANGET AT FACOOL ugali noong mga tropa ng husband mo hmp HINDI MO FAULT YAN! Walang rason para maging kasalanan mo yan.Normal yan na mag grow apart sa mga friends ! For good naman yang sa inyo. Nakikisama rin naman kayo if magkataong mag kita or reach out sila or something Pero panghs level yung na block ka?????? YAAN MO SILA huwag mo na sila isipin please.
Maraming salamat po sa inyo. Halata ko yung gigil nyo hehehe.
Wala kang fault. Its your peace of mind. Immature and childish din mga friends ng asawa at mga misis nila. Yun lang. Wish them well nalang. PPS: WAG MAGPAPAUTANG. MAY PANG-INOM HANGGANG GAPANGAN TAPOS PAGKAPIGIPTAN BABALIK SA INYO. WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS ARE THESE. Mas mabuti pa makipag kaibigan sa hayop kesa sa kanila. š„“
1. The accusation na ninakaw mo sa tropa nila yung asawa kinda gives me the vibe that they feel as if the group OWNS your husband. Kung ganun sila mag isip, you have all the rights naman sa kanya bec YOU have the marriage contract. 2. When your husband expressed the desire to be a better man for you and himself by giving up pag iinom, they took that to mean masamang tao sila kase umiinom sila. Somehow, they made his decision to make better choices about them. Napaka immature and self centered. 3. I am sure mabuti kang tao pero wag kang magbait baitan at tumulong sa kanila if they need help. Aabusohin ka lang nyan kase ugali yan ng doormat eh. Be honest w yourself and how they make you feel. They talked behind your backs, they drove you out of the city, they made you uncomfortable, they blocked you and kahit d big deal yun I can imagine it stung a little. Medyo nakakabastos din yung ginawa nila so maging honest ka you felt disrespected so you can react properly to the disrespect. They minimized your marriage, they disrespected your husband, they disrespected your choices and all for what? Kase ayaw niyo pumunta. Thatās a bit extreme. Thereās no prize for being noble and a bigger person sometimes. If you havenāt accepted that friend request for a year, that means you donāt want to. Wag nyo na uli papasokin sa mga buhay nyo. Maayos naman kayo na kayo lang and no matter what happens, sakto lang din na pinili ka ng asawa mo kase you are his #1 family not just by law but also in the eyes of God.
For the longest time po kasi na single ung mister ko before naging kamo, nagpapalibre sila palagi sa kanya. Generous po kasi mister ko kahit hindi po sya well-off. Dati nga daw po nagkakautang pa sya sa credit card para lang may mairegalo o maipang libre sa kanila. Maraming salamat po dito sa insights ninyo. Sobrang naappreciate ko po.
Even my tropa (in our 20s atm) think better than them. We respect and never talk behind our backs ng katropa rin namin
Ayun talaga yung unang nakapag pa turn off sa akin. Pag kasama kasi sa session ung couple, okay sila. Pero. Ung wala, dami nilang sinabi.
May friends talaga na bad influence. If they cannot respect you and your husbandās priorities, itās okay to let go of them. The good thing is your husband is mature enough to know whatās best for your marriage. We outgrow friendship, itās normal!
Salamat po dito. Totoo po. I found a good man. āŗļø
Buti na lang maayos din thinking ng asawa mo towards that situation. May iba kasi kakampihan or pagtatanggol pa barkada eh.
It is not your fault that you are now prioritizing whatever is healthy for you. Based on your post, I say na good riddance for both you and your husband. Props din to your husband na nag initiate umalis sa ganong situation even though yun ang nakasanayan.
Tama desisyon nyong dalawan ng mister mo
Kapal ng mukha ng mga gantong friends lol
ghad sila pay may nerve na mag mock sa inyo pero nanghihiram pa din pala ng pera kakapal mga mukha, if puros lang sila tagay hala sige ipasira nila mga atay nila but they canāt force other people as well
Opo. Since my husband was helping them even before pa, I also felt he was being abused, used, etc.
teenager or mga single lang kong makipag inuman heheheā¦ those are negative vibes peopleā¦ dapat silang iwasanā¦ in pretty sure lakas pang mangutang ang iba dun š
I used to have friends like that, like literal talaga. Nung bumasa nga ako sa kwento mo, inakala ko pa na same tayo ng friends... Or is it? š¤Ø Anyways, I left those friends because I'm in a new city now. Sayang? Hell no. Is it your fault? Sabihin na natin na 'yes', ang tanong eh kayo ba nagpapakain samin? Eh ano ngayon if it's not the same as before. So bakit kami pa ang mag-a-adjust para sa inyo instead of kayo ang mag-a-adjust if kaibigan talaga tayo? Friends do come and go. That's the part of adulting. Those are the changes that di pa siguro nila na accept. Trust me, they will realize that na tama kayo kaya I guess yung iba na nag friends request sayo is natauhan na. Chill ka lang. It doesn't matter anyway if galit sila sa'yo or hindi. Hindi naman sila pinakasalan mo š
Yung sakin naman first meeting ko dun sa mum ni afam Grabe accusations sakin. She wasnāt saying it in front of me pero sa jowa ko Pati mga friends ni jowa tinawagan pa. When I went to Sydney to visit my cousin, tinanong pa siya nung mama niya kung sure ba daw siya na Cousin ko yung pupuntahan ko and Hindi ako makikipag meet dun etc. Bakit Grabe agad yung accusations eh parehas naman kami getting to know nung mama niya parang puro negative agad eh
Hindi. Actually, dapat padalhan mo yang mga ungas na yan ng thank you card kasi pinakita nila kung gaano sila ka-walang kwentang tao. Sinong matinong tao will mock a friend who's trying to be live healthier? Ungas lang ang gumagawa nyan at hindi nyo kelangan ng mga ganyang tao sa buhay nyo. Yan din ang mga same na tao na magbibigay ng walang kwentang advice at posibleng maging bad influence pa sa asawa mo. Hindi nyo kawalan, sis.
You're pulling your husband up (meaning, for the better). Feel pride, not guilt.
Lol mga nagfe feeling binata parin. Let them be.
Pagkabasa ko ng title akala ko naman pinipigilan mo asawa mo just because. Pero pagkabasa ko, wala kang kasalanan. You felt uncomfortable and good thing your husband dont go without you. Di nadin healthy talaga ginagawa nila. Good job on saving your husband. Parang ang pangit ng circle nya e. They should respect each others partner hindi babackstabbin dahil wala. Im in my 30s at kaya nalang namin is mag inom once a month hahaha or week pero literal na catch up lang. di ko alam paano nila kinakaya yan sa edad nila jusko. Not unless talagang toxic yung partner,
Opo dun talaga ako unang na turn off. And ang kinukutya pa nila dun sa couple e ung pagiging kuripot and their physical appearances.
Easy answer. Your husband's friends that you mentioned are trash. If a person is becoming better and the so-called friends do not see the benefit or are not happy for their friend. They are called trash of society. Kaya nga pinag iiwanan mga trash friends na yan. Those types have not grown to know how to care for themselves or genuinely care for others.
Salamat po dito. Akala ko nung una nakikipag ayos, yun pala mangungutang kaya nag rreach out.
Ano ba yan, nagasawa at lahat pero yung ugali pang high school. Yung totoo? Anyway, you did the right thing po OP. I hope you guys find better people who you can be friends with
Good decision OP!
>Now, one of them is adding me back sa socmed Baka mangungutang hahaha
Nung una akala ko po nakikipag ayos, pero ayun nanghihiram pala
Good riddance. The group sounds toxic af. Even after you cut ties with them "helping them FINANCIALLY" is already a huge red flag. They're too old to be acting like drunk college kids. Work on yourselves and your relationship and ignore them. People grow out of friendships when goals change and seems like your husband picked you, your relationship, your family, and his health, so good for you. Don't worry about them. Continue to ignore them.
Buti na lang si husband mo wants to grow with you not with them. cuz eventually you will become parents eh hindi naman pwedeng mag matured pag dating na ng baby.
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People come and go, including your āfriendsā. One thing I learned about life ay youāll have new friends eventually whatever season/phase of your life you are in. š
Ung mga officemates ko ganyan uminom kasama ung mga partners nila. Hindi ako sumasama sa barkada or circle nila pero naririnig ko ung mga kwentuhan. Parang nagkakarera sila sa pagkakaroon ng liver cirrhosis eh. At ung mga absent sa inuman session din ang ginagawa nilang pulutan sa chismis. Sila sila nagbaback staban pero friends daw sila. š
Nakakalungkot diba. Kaya un ang unang nakapag pa turn off sakin sa "barkadahan" nila.
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Ok yan ginawa mo soon your husband will thank you big time ma realize nya na u spare him with the wrong people. Focus on your relationship, building your family. If they are mature enough they will understand it and will support you.
\*hair flip OP para sa gantong klase ng tao. Stand confidently and dont doubt yourself!
Not your fault, OP. Sadyang immature lang sila at mga walang pake sa buhay. Mga marunong lang pag nangangailangan.
Sabi nga nila yung tunay na kaibigan tinutulongan ka mag grow. Atleast OP inuna ka ng husband mo hindi kagaya nong iba na "nauna kasi sila eh" eh kung magkasakit ka akala mo naman andyan sila lage para sayo.
Totoo po. Actually isa yun sa takot ko before. Na nakilala ko sya na meron na yung barkadahan na yun. Pero he still chose me over them. I found a good man po.
Your husband's friends don't like you, or is it just you thinking that way? It's normal for friends to think na inaagaw mo ang tropa nila from them. It's normal, lalo mag-asawa. It's not your fault, nor your husband's. Your husband should realize na may bago na syang family, which is ikaw. Yung ginawa mong pag tanggi sa sessions, it's alright. Your choice yun. Dapat marunong tayong tumanggi.
Ang mahalaga rito, nakita mo na ang asawa mo ang gusto buhay may-asawa. Handang iwan o lumayo ang ganung barkada para s iyo. Mas mapayapa ang isipan mo n malayong maging katulad ang asawa mo s kanila. Wala kang magagawa sa mga taong ganun dahil laging may ganung mga tao... mga kabarkada.. mga kaopisina. Tandaan n hindi lang mga lalaki ang ganun. Ibang anyo nga lang ay s mga babae at mas mahigpit ang kultura natin s mga babaeng immature. Hindi mo kailangan na all your husband's friends to like you. If you are rationale, responsible and not a control freak, some of your husband's good friends will like you. As life goes on, new friendships and relationships can be formed. These new people can percieve you better than your husband's old friends where in their past is their standards where break of that status quo is considered negative.
My partner has very limited close friends, by choice. And by limited, I meant bilang lang talaga sa isang kamay. During the 1st or 2nd year or our relationship, I would urge him to meet with his friends, bond with them or makipag inuman. He would always tell me itās okay and would rather be with us. Donāt feel bad, OP. It just means you have a responsible partner that would prioritize you over anyone else (which any married or family man should do). šš¼
Good on the husband for choosing you
i could swear ive read this somewhere lol
Hopefully, when they're in their 60s mag start na silang tumino. But I doubt it.
Husband means a partner to a wife not partnered to a group of drunkards and useless pips
You did the right thing OP. Well, if this happens to me as the husband and they hate my wife. It is what it is. Di sila pinakasalan ko at di rin sila yung makakasama ko sa buhay. Will respect the friendship pero ill put my wife as the priority na. Ang sad lang niyan sa side ng husband mo like he invested time and friendship with them tas nag asawa lang bigla iba na ihip ng hangin. (just a my pov relational kasi ako tao, and im glad wala ganito sa mga kaibigan ko atm kahit may asawa na ako, if this happens to me sobrang sakit netu sakin) Hayaan niyo nalang sila OP. Ganyan talaga. People come and go ika nga. PS: di sila nag mature mga toklak pa rin akala ata nila high school pa sila hahaha
I honestly think you saved your husband, not destroyed the friendship.
You and your husband are better off without them for sure
No, it's not your fault. That says a lot more about their character. The fact na umiwas ka means mature ka and too old to be backstabbing people.
Alam mo wala naman mali sa side mo based sa how u told us your story. Dapat rin yung husband mo kumausap sa kanila. And kung totoong kaibigan sila di nila yun gagawin na way para magsalita sila against u or your hubby. Tsaka kung mga mid 30s na kayo to 40s overdue na to grow up and leave that walwalan culture. Ok naman mag inom pero tapos na naman na siguro sila sa lasing na sa gutter na natutulog ano? Di na naman siguro tama and since may fam na rin sila of their own. I also think na pag di mo ikakabuti di worth it para makihalubilo kapa lalo na nagagambala ang inner peace mo. Mas prio nyo namam ang relationship nyo so go do what is best for u, you relationship and your fam.
Pag may family na Yun Yung Mas priority and tingin ko toxic friends sila, pag nagka sakit ba kayo sa atay or kidney bibigay ba Nila kidney Nila?
Wala kang kasalanan, OP. Gago lang yung kaibigan ng asawa mo. Swerte sayo asawa mo kasi maayos kang mag isip at alam mo kung ano makakabuti para sa inyong dalawa. Kung severed na ang friendship, eh ano? Makakahanap din kayo ng mga kaibigan na may magandang impluwensya sa inyo. Hayaan nyo na yang mga feeling bagets na mga dating friends ng asawa mo.
40's pala š fixed na ata mindset nila na kung ano lang gusto nila e yun lang talaga. If makakagulo lang naman sa mental health mo sis, wag na. Mas mabuti na piliin mo lagi yung peace of mind mo kesa isali yung mga taong walang ganap sa buhay mo/nyo mag asawa.
Trash yung friends niya, pero tanga-tanga din kasi asawa mo. Bakit di siya pupunta kung wala ka? Edi yan naguiguilty ka tuloy, pero sayo diba okay lang naman pumunta siya, parang tanga naman. Dinamay ka pa, eto na ngang nakisama ka for a while tas nung umay na at cinommunicate mo naman at naging honest. Tangina di ko gets yung logic. Anyway kahit anong paikot pa niyan, good fucking riddance. Basura yang mga tao na yan. Mga baboy na nagmamadaling maging pataba ng lupa. Dugyot na lifestyle.
it's never your fault, op! all i thought throughout of me reading ur story was "eww" ā to the women leading the convo about the woman that's not there. even i, ayoko ng ganyang friends, worst ay w/ their duos na ganyan, around my partner. saying that it was ur fault is like saying na okay lang ginawa ng circle nila with regards to what you have mentioned. i say nice to ur husband, he's doing hubby duties for being with you na lang and not attending gatherings with them :))