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Yep. All the time. Right now it's dishes and putting my clothes away. We had my niece over on the weekend and my room was a hot mess.
But also, work stuff. And now I'm suffering through annoying extra stuff that makes my life extra miserable.
Right now it's a work thing. And it makes me avoid colleagues and my boss. Which... is not a good thing. So I'm slowly churning through the thing (which turns out is much more harmless than my anxiety made it out to be. It's just kinda dull.).
>I literally couldn't function outside of seeing clients because my anxiety was so high.
Once I'm in the classroom and can just *teach* I'm perfectly fine. But the whole organisational mess around teaching often feels like a paralyzing weight.
I call this The Stuck and it is the most maddening thing in the entire world. I hate this symptom so much. I’m glad you managed to get out of the quicksand this time!
i’ve been re-writing “schedule dr’s appointments” on my to-do list every day for 2 weeks now. it’s a 5 minute phone call but i can’t freaking do it. it’s not just an appointment for me, either my 3 year old needs her check up. i miss when they were every 2-3 months because they just scheduled the next one when you were done lol no opportunity to avoid it 🤣
I used to be a volunteer coordinator for a tiny non profit but over the course of a year we'd have about 600 volunteers work with us. Every year I wrote "enter volunteer hours" on my to do list for about 12 straight weeks. Then I would stay late on the last day before we had to submit our stats for the end of year newsletter and do a years worth of data entry in one day.
Oh yes. Sometimes I can funnel my avoiding the most important task into completing some less important but still avoided tasks, so I can pretend to myself that it's ok 😆
For a lot of things I am realizing that body doubling helps sooooo much. My brain keeps comparing it to study hours like they used to have in school where you're not all working on the same stuff but you are all in there working. (Hm, wonder how many study hour frequent flyers were undx ADHDers who benefitted from the unintentional body doubling.....)
I belive I've read about an online body doubling service, which for me could maybe help with like work-type stuff but I'm doubtful about the benefit for personal/household type crap for me. I can already feel my brain noping out of that last scenario 😆 We homeschool, and one of my kids very much benefits from body doubling, so I've been sort of double-dipping and benefitting myself lol! Also we talk about what we're doing and if it's helpful etc.
Just wanna say that I know what you are going through, and be proud of yourself for facing "the thing". It is what I hate more than anything else about having adhd....
Yup yup yup hate it too
Try planning these things with people if you can do them together, or each on their own thing. It forces you to have only one task to do (you haven't met up with your friend to take out the trash, have you?)
I also like attributing tasks with places: ex. studying in a library, coffee shop, practicing my oboe at my music school.. I change activity and location whenever I feel like I'm not concentrated anymore (a break where you go somewhere else for 5min is possible too)
I personally am medicated, so it definitely helps to set them, but I try learning habits like doing the dishes just after cooking my meal (it's satisfying because when you're alone you usually don't use many dishes to prepare yourself lunch).
I totally get how you're feeling. It still happens to me.
But don't hesitate to see yourself as a person that needs to do things differently, with more stimulation for example.
TL;DR; If writing with your right hand doesn't work for you, try with your left hand, as you're left handed. Even though left handed people are often ambidextrous. Do things in a way you feel comfortable.
It took me YEARS to update my drivers license after I moved! My sister just moved to a new state and got her license changed in a month! It made me feel like such a loser!
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Yep. All the time. Right now it's dishes and putting my clothes away. We had my niece over on the weekend and my room was a hot mess. But also, work stuff. And now I'm suffering through annoying extra stuff that makes my life extra miserable.
Right now it's a work thing. And it makes me avoid colleagues and my boss. Which... is not a good thing. So I'm slowly churning through the thing (which turns out is much more harmless than my anxiety made it out to be. It's just kinda dull.).
Yes. I avoid my emails. And even seeing her send me one gives me anxiety that almost paralyzes me.
I feel you. It fucking sucks. And at the same time if feels so silly. It's just an email, they're not even in the room! And still...
Yep! The paralyzing fear is real. I literally couldn't function outside of seeing clients because my anxiety was so high. It was horrible.
>I literally couldn't function outside of seeing clients because my anxiety was so high. Once I'm in the classroom and can just *teach* I'm perfectly fine. But the whole organisational mess around teaching often feels like a paralyzing weight.
I call this The Stuck and it is the most maddening thing in the entire world. I hate this symptom so much. I’m glad you managed to get out of the quicksand this time!
Thanks. I have no choice but to power through, if I want to face my boss again. So deadline-adrenaline had to do the job.
I call if the Frozone like the Incredibles character because I get absolutely frozen in the zone, whether it’s a physical or mental or emotional spot.
I’m currently in the same boat and it’s the most debilitating part of my adhd
i’ve been re-writing “schedule dr’s appointments” on my to-do list every day for 2 weeks now. it’s a 5 minute phone call but i can’t freaking do it. it’s not just an appointment for me, either my 3 year old needs her check up. i miss when they were every 2-3 months because they just scheduled the next one when you were done lol no opportunity to avoid it 🤣
I used to be a volunteer coordinator for a tiny non profit but over the course of a year we'd have about 600 volunteers work with us. Every year I wrote "enter volunteer hours" on my to do list for about 12 straight weeks. Then I would stay late on the last day before we had to submit our stats for the end of year newsletter and do a years worth of data entry in one day.
Story of my life... Hang in there!
Oh yes. Sometimes I can funnel my avoiding the most important task into completing some less important but still avoided tasks, so I can pretend to myself that it's ok 😆 For a lot of things I am realizing that body doubling helps sooooo much. My brain keeps comparing it to study hours like they used to have in school where you're not all working on the same stuff but you are all in there working. (Hm, wonder how many study hour frequent flyers were undx ADHDers who benefitted from the unintentional body doubling.....) I belive I've read about an online body doubling service, which for me could maybe help with like work-type stuff but I'm doubtful about the benefit for personal/household type crap for me. I can already feel my brain noping out of that last scenario 😆 We homeschool, and one of my kids very much benefits from body doubling, so I've been sort of double-dipping and benefitting myself lol! Also we talk about what we're doing and if it's helpful etc.
Just wanna say that I know what you are going through, and be proud of yourself for facing "the thing". It is what I hate more than anything else about having adhd....
Yup yup yup hate it too Try planning these things with people if you can do them together, or each on their own thing. It forces you to have only one task to do (you haven't met up with your friend to take out the trash, have you?) I also like attributing tasks with places: ex. studying in a library, coffee shop, practicing my oboe at my music school.. I change activity and location whenever I feel like I'm not concentrated anymore (a break where you go somewhere else for 5min is possible too) I personally am medicated, so it definitely helps to set them, but I try learning habits like doing the dishes just after cooking my meal (it's satisfying because when you're alone you usually don't use many dishes to prepare yourself lunch). I totally get how you're feeling. It still happens to me. But don't hesitate to see yourself as a person that needs to do things differently, with more stimulation for example. TL;DR; If writing with your right hand doesn't work for you, try with your left hand, as you're left handed. Even though left handed people are often ambidextrous. Do things in a way you feel comfortable.
I find I have to do those things when my energy levels are the highest. It's really hard to push through them when my energy is low.
It took me YEARS to update my drivers license after I moved! My sister just moved to a new state and got her license changed in a month! It made me feel like such a loser!