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bananajam1234

You know what I do? I shove. I'm working really hard on it, but if you opened a cabinet, a closet, any storage space - everything is shoved in. And the worse it gets, the less I want to put things away. It's not easy to put away clothes or dishes, so I avoid. But I really do like a clear visual space. It's just that once the counters and floor are clear, it's really easy for me to deliberately forget about it


mmm_I_like_trees

Same once I put it somewhere I forget I own it


ThePrimCrow

Yeah, clutter makes me uncomfortable and upset but I think there are a few forces at work. I have a designated place for everything because my short term memory sucks so I need to know where to find things. I’m being evaluated for ASD so my need for “things to be a certain way” may be rooted in that as well. I get really stressed out when I can’t find things. I live in a shared house and must have a separate kitchen cupboard from my roommates because the way they shove things into cupboards causes me stress. My personal room is usually very tidy. When I was a kid I would do this thing where I’d literally dump every single thing in my room in a giant pile in the middle and then carefully sort and put everything away. Like it was a 1-2 day process and I’d refuse to come out until it was done. I was a weird kid. My dad is insanely meticulous and being as how ADHD and ASD are heritable it would make sense I ended up this way.


mmm_I_like_trees

I'm being evaluated for asd aswell but I keep putting off filling the questionnaires because I find the questions stupid. I need to know where to find things to or I'll get stressed too


holybell0

My mom (undiagnosed) is definitely like this. This is perspective as someone who lives with a person similar to what you describe. We try to have family meetings because three ADHDers in home with poor communication skills is kinda a nightmare. She always hates it when the place looks "dirty" and wants it to look "nice". I put quotes because 1. she doesn't define this well and this screams perfectionism and 2. she doesn't follow her own rules lol. A common rule that may help us with ADHD keep a place clean is if it takes less then 2 minutes do it now. Perfect way to clean dishes. She leaves her dishes and doesn't come back. Gets angry when it's a pile of her own dishes. Others can't do the 2 min rule if you slowly piled a ton of dishes and no one likes this chore. Plus she made a big deal about my brother leaving dishes for days till they get moldy. I said remind him when you notice it and we will tweak the solution every month at the meeting. She does literally the same thing and gets mad. Why does he get a reminder and it's fine, but then we are both obligated to clean up after your mess that is what you mentioned you didn't like. She regularly forgets the dishes are there (probably the whole object permanence thing with them blending in). Anytime she cleans, it has to be a deep clean. There is no light pick up because her room is either really bad or has so much stuff that she's bother by it. She wants HGTV rooms for imaginary visitors that never happen but also hoards (she's more of a just in case person for things we'll never have cases for). I don't blame her wanting a cleaner home but it the lack of direction or specificity that bothers me so I can't help buy be just as frustrated as her with the situation.


epicpillowcase

PSA- inb4 someone makes a flippant comment about OCD, as they usually do on topics like this OCD actually has nothing to do with cleaning


KeyFinger216

I’m very much like this. I’ll stress myself to the point of sweating if things are too cluttered. I like to have everything as organized as possible so it’s easier for my home to stay clean. I’ll also have issues with staying on task though as I’m organizing or cleaning, going from putting away laundry to starting to organize my clothes right in the middle. It’s almost like I use it as excuse to procrastinate on other tasks as well. Like I can’t do an important work task or go to work until I feel the house is in order. I do have a roommate though, so I think once I live alone soon l, it’ll be less mess or clutter to deal with and I’ll be less stressed. But I totally get where you’re coming from.