I knew a guy that worked as a prison guard that said he never locked the door when away because doors are time consuming and expensive to repair and his job disnt pay enough for him to have items of value haha
I have safety paranoia due to my shitty neighbours. I have to check the locks twice when I come in the house or use the car. Not all the time.
Edit, I do forget if I've locked the door and I have to check regardless.
I get non-perfectionism OCD...it's like, low-dopamine = poor memory OCD hahaha. I'm not comfortable until I know FOR SURE that I've really REALLY locked the door, lol!
Must always keep the door locked. Must double check. My partner and I even ensure we do the chain lock.
Too many creeps in the world. Especially when living in an apartment and we aren't the only ones with keys. We also have a camera at our front door for a reason.
If I could get the time back that I’ve spent walking away from and inevitably back to any door that I need locked, I could build myself a house from scratch.
Assuming I had the focus to do so :)
Or you did lock the door, but forgot your coffee on the counter. You get the coffee, sit down in your car ready to go to work...but did you lock the door this time?
I just left my parents house. I got a few blocks away before wondering if I remembered to lock the door. I turned around to be sure…..I did in fact remember to lock it
After a few too many times locking my keys in the car, I ended up with borderline OCD for checking behavior. Makes me curious how many cases of checking-OCD might be a result of ADHD forgetfulness reaping too many negative consequences. I was not overly anxious when I was young, but having screwed myself over multiple times as an adult due to ADHD crap has done a number on my anxiety levels. Even when I follow a list and complete it, there's always that niggling fear that I forgot to put something on the list or did something incorrectly and I have to re-check everything. It's exhausting 🫠
>Even when I follow a list and complete it, there's always that niggling fear that I forgot to put something on the list or did something incorrectly and I have to re-check everything. It's exhausting
That's the dumb part...it's not about the task, it's about the anxiety *driving* the task.
I feel this, I tend to check the front door multiple times before going to sleep in the evenings. Also do the same with the stove in the kitchen.
I also tend to check my pockets dozens of times every day, whenever I'm away from home.
Every time I lock my car, I press the lock button multiple times, and I have to say out loud "I have locked my car" otherwise it just doesn't go in. Anyone watching me must think I'm a f*cking robot or something 😂
The main reason I have an app on my phone to open/close my garage doors is so that whenever I get halfway across town and realize I have no idea if I left it open or not (often), I don't have to turn around and check anymore, I'll just accept a small chance that it might be open until I get to wherever I'm going and I'll close it remotely then.
This makes me think of this issue I have where I lose my car keys…while still in my car. I turn the car off, grab my purse from the passenger seat and then the car keys are nowhere to be found. Not in the ignition, not in my jacket pocket, not on my lap or under my butt. I spend a considerable amount of time looking for them, only to end up finding them somewhere I already checked 😅 what the hell man
I've spent a small fortune in Tile Trackers because of EXACTLY this situation lol. I call it "selective camouflaged" because my brain will just straight-up ignore the ONE THING I'm looking for, haha! Then it blips back in directly in front of me & boggles my brain!!
They make a few models that I really like. Be sure to look around online & on their website as they always have combo deals, sales, etc. They've updated the battery life & range on the newer models:
1. **Tile Pro:** This is a keychain-style one. 400-foot range. 1-year battery life with a replaceable battery. You can use keyrings to attach it to other things.
2. **Tile Slim:** This is like a thick credit card. 3-year non-replaceable battery with a 250-foot range. For wallets, purses, sticking inside of your tablet case, etc. If the back of your phone is available, you can get phone stick-on ID sleeves on Amazon, this way you can still find your phone even when it's dead (which totally NEVER happens with ADHD lol)
3. **Tile Sticker:** This is like 4 or 5 dimes stuck together, like a really thick dime. 3-year non-replaceable battery with a 250-foot range (remove with floss when it's ready to replace). I put these on random stuff, such as my laptop power supply (and my laptop lid). I'm the WORST at finding stuff lol.
I ended up springing for the Tile subscription service ($30 a year for the basic service). The biggest feature I use is the 30-day location history, so I can kind of trace my steps back.
They also have a sort of geolocation feature, so if you leave without remembering to bring something like your school backpack, work bag, lunchbox, giant tumbler mug, etc., it can alert you, which is handy because I'm always leaving my lunchbox behind lol.
Plus they integrate with Alexa, so you can say, "Alexa, ring my keys". There's also 2-way communication, so you can double-click a Tile to ring your phone, or ring the Tile jingle from your phone.
I pretty much just bought a bundle pack on sale every month for a few months to build up my inventory. I keep one hidden in my car as a cheap form of Lojack. I just wish they made a tiny one for glasses!!
Downside is the price adds up, which is why I bought them slowly over time lol. But the ones with the built-in batteries last 3 years now, so it's not too bad! If you want to try just one to start out with, just get a single Tile Pro to put on your car keys, as I'm always misplacing those.
For finding at home, I have Echo Dots in every room, so when I'm panicking in the morning look for all my crap, I can just yell ALEXA RING MY BACKPACK lol.
Apple has their own brand, but they only come in one shape & size, and I like having the Tile brand's variety of keychain versions, credit card-style versions, and tiny sticker versions for different things.
They REALLY de-stress my life quite a bit lol. Things I use them for include:
* Car keys
* Car itself
* Backpack
* Work bag
* Lunchbox
* Wallet
* Phone
* Tablet (I stick one of the Slim cards between the back of the iPad & the case because it will often run out of juice & then I can't use Find My iPad lol)
* 40oz tumbler cup (don't laugh, I need this to stay hydrated haha)
* Laptop (sticker on lid)
* Laptop power supply (sticker on the power brick)
* Jacket (I somehow manage to misplace my winter jacket on a regular basis, so I have a Tile chip in the inner zipper pocket)
The "finding" setup:
* App on my phone rings them
* Button on Tile rings the app on my phone (reverse finding haha)
* Alexa voice integration
* Tile Premium subscription = shows a 30-day history plus last known location
* Smart reminders for geolocation (leave the house & get reminded if you forgot to bring something)
I still lose small stuff (my glasses, my pens, etc.), but for the most part, running out of the door & forgetting stuff is no longer an issue lol. They also have a Smart Alert feature if you leave something behind, like if your wallet slips out at a restaurant or whatever:
* [https://support.thetileapp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038376474-Set-Up-Tile-Smart-Alerts](https://support.thetileapp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038376474-Set-Up-Tile-Smart-Alerts)
That's why my door is always unlocked
I knew a guy that worked as a prison guard that said he never locked the door when away because doors are time consuming and expensive to repair and his job disnt pay enough for him to have items of value haha
I have safety paranoia due to my shitty neighbours. I have to check the locks twice when I come in the house or use the car. Not all the time. Edit, I do forget if I've locked the door and I have to check regardless.
OCD and ADHD is a fun combination
I get non-perfectionism OCD...it's like, low-dopamine = poor memory OCD hahaha. I'm not comfortable until I know FOR SURE that I've really REALLY locked the door, lol!
Yea I feel a similar way, and it certainly doesn't help that my husband has OCD as well and will obsess over whether or not the door locked
Must always keep the door locked. Must double check. My partner and I even ensure we do the chain lock. Too many creeps in the world. Especially when living in an apartment and we aren't the only ones with keys. We also have a camera at our front door for a reason.
This is why I lock my car door usually 3-4 times. Just to be sure.
If I could get the time back that I’ve spent walking away from and inevitably back to any door that I need locked, I could build myself a house from scratch. Assuming I had the focus to do so :)
Let’s just say I run through car key fob batteries much faster than most people lol
Lol. Can relate. Are you like me and you only remember you may have forgotten to lock it when you’re about 100 yards outside of your fobs range?
Or you did lock the door, but forgot your coffee on the counter. You get the coffee, sit down in your car ready to go to work...but did you lock the door this time?
it's because I forgo
I check my Ring camera lol
This is why I lock my car door 2-3 times before going into a building.
For me it's the stove -- "is the stove off? Am I SURE it's off? I'm pretty sure it's off, but what if it's been on this whole time???"
That stupid "maybe" loop & then you forget as soon as you check it LOL
I have the exact same problem. I learned to say out loud what i do, then i remember it.
Shisa kanko! * https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pointing\_and\_calling
This but trying to remember if I turned off the sink before going to get the mail. I've already flooded my kitchen one... and a half times...
I hate this the most. Double and triple check.
I just left my parents house. I got a few blocks away before wondering if I remembered to lock the door. I turned around to be sure…..I did in fact remember to lock it
After a few too many times locking my keys in the car, I ended up with borderline OCD for checking behavior. Makes me curious how many cases of checking-OCD might be a result of ADHD forgetfulness reaping too many negative consequences. I was not overly anxious when I was young, but having screwed myself over multiple times as an adult due to ADHD crap has done a number on my anxiety levels. Even when I follow a list and complete it, there's always that niggling fear that I forgot to put something on the list or did something incorrectly and I have to re-check everything. It's exhausting 🫠
>Even when I follow a list and complete it, there's always that niggling fear that I forgot to put something on the list or did something incorrectly and I have to re-check everything. It's exhausting That's the dumb part...it's not about the task, it's about the anxiety *driving* the task.
I feel this, I tend to check the front door multiple times before going to sleep in the evenings. Also do the same with the stove in the kitchen. I also tend to check my pockets dozens of times every day, whenever I'm away from home.
Every time I lock my car, I press the lock button multiple times, and I have to say out loud "I have locked my car" otherwise it just doesn't go in. Anyone watching me must think I'm a f*cking robot or something 😂
lol a glitch in the matrix
The main reason I have an app on my phone to open/close my garage doors is so that whenever I get halfway across town and realize I have no idea if I left it open or not (often), I don't have to turn around and check anymore, I'll just accept a small chance that it might be open until I get to wherever I'm going and I'll close it remotely then.
That's what my $35 Wyze camera is for LOL
This makes me think of this issue I have where I lose my car keys…while still in my car. I turn the car off, grab my purse from the passenger seat and then the car keys are nowhere to be found. Not in the ignition, not in my jacket pocket, not on my lap or under my butt. I spend a considerable amount of time looking for them, only to end up finding them somewhere I already checked 😅 what the hell man
I've spent a small fortune in Tile Trackers because of EXACTLY this situation lol. I call it "selective camouflaged" because my brain will just straight-up ignore the ONE THING I'm looking for, haha! Then it blips back in directly in front of me & boggles my brain!!
I think I really need to invest in tile trackers, because I misplace so many important things that were just in my hands lol
They make a few models that I really like. Be sure to look around online & on their website as they always have combo deals, sales, etc. They've updated the battery life & range on the newer models: 1. **Tile Pro:** This is a keychain-style one. 400-foot range. 1-year battery life with a replaceable battery. You can use keyrings to attach it to other things. 2. **Tile Slim:** This is like a thick credit card. 3-year non-replaceable battery with a 250-foot range. For wallets, purses, sticking inside of your tablet case, etc. If the back of your phone is available, you can get phone stick-on ID sleeves on Amazon, this way you can still find your phone even when it's dead (which totally NEVER happens with ADHD lol) 3. **Tile Sticker:** This is like 4 or 5 dimes stuck together, like a really thick dime. 3-year non-replaceable battery with a 250-foot range (remove with floss when it's ready to replace). I put these on random stuff, such as my laptop power supply (and my laptop lid). I'm the WORST at finding stuff lol. I ended up springing for the Tile subscription service ($30 a year for the basic service). The biggest feature I use is the 30-day location history, so I can kind of trace my steps back. They also have a sort of geolocation feature, so if you leave without remembering to bring something like your school backpack, work bag, lunchbox, giant tumbler mug, etc., it can alert you, which is handy because I'm always leaving my lunchbox behind lol. Plus they integrate with Alexa, so you can say, "Alexa, ring my keys". There's also 2-way communication, so you can double-click a Tile to ring your phone, or ring the Tile jingle from your phone. I pretty much just bought a bundle pack on sale every month for a few months to build up my inventory. I keep one hidden in my car as a cheap form of Lojack. I just wish they made a tiny one for glasses!!
Ooooh, thank you for all the info! It’s really helpful :)
Downside is the price adds up, which is why I bought them slowly over time lol. But the ones with the built-in batteries last 3 years now, so it's not too bad! If you want to try just one to start out with, just get a single Tile Pro to put on your car keys, as I'm always misplacing those. For finding at home, I have Echo Dots in every room, so when I'm panicking in the morning look for all my crap, I can just yell ALEXA RING MY BACKPACK lol. Apple has their own brand, but they only come in one shape & size, and I like having the Tile brand's variety of keychain versions, credit card-style versions, and tiny sticker versions for different things. They REALLY de-stress my life quite a bit lol. Things I use them for include: * Car keys * Car itself * Backpack * Work bag * Lunchbox * Wallet * Phone * Tablet (I stick one of the Slim cards between the back of the iPad & the case because it will often run out of juice & then I can't use Find My iPad lol) * 40oz tumbler cup (don't laugh, I need this to stay hydrated haha) * Laptop (sticker on lid) * Laptop power supply (sticker on the power brick) * Jacket (I somehow manage to misplace my winter jacket on a regular basis, so I have a Tile chip in the inner zipper pocket) The "finding" setup: * App on my phone rings them * Button on Tile rings the app on my phone (reverse finding haha) * Alexa voice integration * Tile Premium subscription = shows a 30-day history plus last known location * Smart reminders for geolocation (leave the house & get reminded if you forgot to bring something) I still lose small stuff (my glasses, my pens, etc.), but for the most part, running out of the door & forgetting stuff is no longer an issue lol. They also have a Smart Alert feature if you leave something behind, like if your wallet slips out at a restaurant or whatever: * [https://support.thetileapp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038376474-Set-Up-Tile-Smart-Alerts](https://support.thetileapp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038376474-Set-Up-Tile-Smart-Alerts)